My wife was sexually assaulted and it has changed a lot of things between us. She's on edge all the time, she has nightmares and ptsd, and she just has these scary dead eyes all the time. She flinches when I try to touch her and she has become very cold. It has began to affect our relationship a lot. It's not the same anymore. She doesn't want to sit in front of me or change when I'm in the room. We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore but I don't want to leave the room in case she has a nightmare and wakes up screaming. I guess what I am asking is how can I be there for her in a way that does not make her feel uncomfortable? I get that it's not her fault but I feel like it has made her detach from me completely. How can I make her feel better? She's gone to counseling but we haven't seen much change yet. She cries a lot in the closet corner and it just hurts a lot to see her curled up there like that. One more thing, before it happened, she used to like when I made love to her softly. Now it doesn't even make her moan but I was accidentally rough and I saw her body perk up. Is this normal? Does it mean she likes it like that now? I just want my wife back.

my male friend is also in a relationship. He's not married though they are just boyfriend and girlfriend. I just recently reconnected with him and feel like we are more compatible. I also feel happier when I'm talking to him. It's just so easy and lighthearted with him. It's ALWAYS been a laid back situation with him. I think we've only argued once so we've been friends. We don't really have anything to argue about because we've always been on the same page about everything. We have a lot in common and share the same views about nearly everything. Where me and my husband are very opposite of each other. Me and my husband broke up a couple of times while we were dating and before we got married. When I say right my husband says left. We have different opinions on so much and it causes us to argue a lot. We have been friends for over a decade so it's not me getting excited for someone new either. I know all of his faults and imperfections. We came from the same background and we both had troubled childhoods He's not perfect but I believe he's a better match for me. My husband isn't affectionate and he never does romantic things. my guy friend is the romantic type, he planned an entire evening for his girlfriend from morning until night and I was blown away at how much thought and detail he put it into the date. I'm also very attracted to him physically so it's the best of both worlds. Problem is, he is in a relationship and I'm married. u I asked my husband if he wanted to watch euphoria with me- my new favorite show and he said he wasn't into that type of movie. My male friend loves it so I texted my male friend about it and he said he could get into that type of movie so now we are talking about good the movie is.

I'm seeing this guy for about 5 years, we're really on and off. On our off day I don't really talk to any guys I don't really do much, but he always talks to other girls. And I confronted him about it and asked him if he was ever going to marry me. He told me marriage isn't for him and what we have now is fine for us. Idk if I ever want to get married, but if I did I would want to with him. Is marriage really not for every one?

He thinks he dosnt have to do anything because he work, he thinks the kids should do his laundry and dishes or he yells they are lazy... the kids do their own chores after. long days at school and honework, they wash their dishes, clean their room, sweep, bathroom, laundry and w.e. he can throw at them. doing their own mess is never enough. He wants them to do his stuff because as he said "he works he shouldn t have to do anything else". just fyi, I work as well.... I think this is wrong. the kids even call their gramps house a slave camp bc the way he treats the kids there. I find this ridiculous and pathetic.

It's like he has a split personality or something. Yesterday he was talking about how much he loved me and now today he's acting cold. Last night I was on the phone with one of my male friends for about an hour. I have been friends with him for about 8 years but we don't talk on the phone too often because we have our own things going on. He called me because he had some big news to tell me. Turns out his girlfriend is preganant which shocked me because they were only dating for a few months. So we were talking about that situation for a while and he was telling me about how she's like a completely different person now and she's started to treat him bad and ignore him. and how she stopped wanting to bring him around her family as much. my friend even told me how he is not even compatible with his gf at he realized. they have nothing in common. my friend was like " its crazy me and you have more in common". I told my hsuband the news about my friend and he was like " it's hot out here." And I was like " so you just going to ignore everything I just said." ok thats good. what are you doing." and I was like " I'm trying to talk to you about this" and he was like " my back hurt." Just making up all kinds of excuses as to why he couldn't be responsive. I'm highly irritated now and I was like " Don't expect me to listen to anything you have to say."

It's like he has a split personality or something. Yesterday he was talking about how much he loved me and now today he's acting cold. Last night I was on the phone with one of my male friends for about an hour. I have been friends with him for about 8 years but we don't talk on the phone too often because we have our own things going on. He called me because he had some big news to tell me. Turns out his girlfriend is preganant which shocked me because they were only dating for a few months. So we were talking about that situation for a while and he was telling me about how she's like a completely different person now and she's started to treat him bad and ignore him. and how she stopped wanting to bring him around her family as much. my friend even told me how he is not even compatible with his gf at he realized. they have nothing in common. my friend was like " its crazy me and you have more in common". I told my hsuband the news about my friend and he was like " it's hot out here." And I was like " so you just going to ignore everything I just said." ok thats good. what are you doing." and I was like " I'm trying to talk to you about this" and he was like " my back hurt." Just making up all kinds of excuses as to why he couldn't be responsive. I'm highly irritated now and I was like " Don't expect me to listen to anything you have to say."

I have a relative getting divorced and I cannot figure out what either spouse is thinking. Twelve years together in union with a vow to God and now they have changed their minds.

My wife and I are having a marital spat. We are both happy, but life isn t going as planned, so my wife sought council to help her through rough times. I have never met the therapist. My wife came home the other day convinced I am depressed because her therapist told her I was. The question is not whether or not I am depressed. But rather, did the therapist cross a line convincing my wife I am depressed without ever speaking to me? Every conversation now is about how I am depressed and it is starting to become depressing. I am frustrated with the therapist and would even like to report her if she did cross a line. Any advice, info, links are appreciated.

There are many ladies out there that don't care about money according to him.

We have three kids. 8, 5, and almost 2 year old. No one will watch them and we never get any time alone. We have not been alone since I was pregnant with our toddler. They are great kids we just travel for his work and when we are home the only family we have are too busy with their own life. I feel like it's tearing my marriage apart. Any advice?

The one year anniversary of my husbands death is coming up next week. This entire year has been simply excruciating. Hell on earth. We had gotten married when I was 19 and he was 21, we had dated for 5 years before we got married. we had just bought a house (which I lost because I could no longer afford it). We even had our future children's rooms picked out. Ahhh my entire life has completely crumbled around me. I have been so depressed, I cry everyday. Most days I'm too sad to even eat food. It's like my entire soul just aches. It just sucks because this isn't a life. Many days I contemplate suicide because for me it's just too painful to move on. Thinking about me one day being happy with another man just makes me sick. I still text his phone, call him, and talk to him as if he is there. Even taking about him in past tense stings my heart. I find that it's hard to find anything worth living for. I have never thought about suicide but To me suicide is the only logical answer now...because I can't live a life like this. It's agony everyday, with no relief. I drink almost everyday and have been hooking up with random guys which is disgusting and embarrassing but honestly I just like having someone to sleep next too. What makes it even worse is all of it just makes me feel worse. My husband would be ashamed.

My mom never met my girlfriend, but knows all about her. I plan to propose in the next week. My girlfriend already knows it will happen soon and even picked the ring out. Should I tell my mom right after it happens or should I wait until Labor Day when I plan to visit my mom and introduce my girlfriend to her?

His wife left him. Family is all excited with opinions. It is all everyone is talking about. "The Big Divorce". All side with uncle just as I assume aunts relatives side with her. Twice before she has left for a few months and then taken him back. If he says no this time does it make him the one to leave the marriage even though she left first before offering to come back? Who will be the guilty party?

There are many ladies out there that don't care about money according to him.

So basically I wouldn't mind spending time with my partner cause we don't live together, and it's hard cause my mom acts like she doesn't want to watch the kids for one night,I always think about putting my two small kids in daycare just to have time for myself and I plan on going back to work soon, it's hard and I don't spend alone time with my partner, we go out as a family but not just me and him without the kids, I feel sad at times, cause I wouldn't mind spending time with my partner without our children, but it's hard cause my mom acts like she doesn't want to watch the kids, she says she will do it but then she switches up so I never know

My husband purposely starts arguments with me. He disagrees with everything I say no matter how small it is. I can say that's a nice shirt and he'll go out of his way to tell me why he hates the shirt. It makes me so angry. I told him this makes me angry and he doesn't care.

Me and my husband have been together for 5 years so obviously the honeymoon phrase has worn off. He's a great man, he's very supportive, he provides for us. he's very loyal and I trust him with my whole heart. He said he would leave before he ever cheated. He's not that affectionate but I've learned to accept it.I missed that giddy feeling of not being able to take your hands off each other. I missed the excitement. I miss getting butterflies whenever I would get a text back. I missed that high. With our crazy and conflicting work schedules we'll be lucky if we even spend a weekend together. We both work crazy long hours so we only see each other when we meet up for bed time. I recently reconnected with a long time friend that I met when I was 21. I'm 30 now. I'm ashamed to say to say that I'm sort of mesmerized by him. He cleaned himself up nicely and so he's insanely attractive. We caught up on each other's lives and texted for hours and so I started to feel this crazy connection that I never felt for him before. I felt the HIGH that I was longing for. I haven't had butterflies in so long. I know this might seem shallow but my friend is more attractive than my husband. It's crazy because when me and my husband will go out to the store women will go crazy over him ( he's very buff) but i don't know why I find my friend so much more intoxicating. I always had a type I just grew to love my husband so I ignored the fact that physically he was never my type.