Family: Question: Should i move out when im 16?

Question: Should i move out when im 16?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:59 PM PDT

m 14 right now, and my parents stress me out so much, they have 3 other kids 1 9, 1 4, and the last is 1. they are constatnlty going outside to the garage together, and making me watch all the kids, they also work together a lot so i have to babysit so mich, and they go on dates alot. they also make me do so much and then tell me i dont do anything for them. im also doing online school, and my mom just nevr shuts up about what i have to do and it stresses me out and i cant get anything done. i wanna go back to oublic school but my mom wants me to keep trying this and i wouldnt be allowed to got o the school my best friend goes to because my mom doesnt wanna have to drive me every day. i also found out that what they do outside in the garage is smoke weed and have sex. theyre 34 and 35, youd think theyd know to watch their kids instead of doing drugs. im so sick of supporting what theyre doing, but i cant let them know that i do know. should i move out when im 16, and what should i do till then

Question: Am I a bad parent?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:54 PM PDT

It has come to my attention that my son is a homosexual- not only has he gone on a "date" with another boy, but he has been kissed by him. In anger, I punished my son somewhat severely and he was left with some bruising, but nothing that won't heal. I have not kicked him out, but I will be sending him to a conversion program once I have a better grip on the situation. I know I could have handled the situation better, but I have certainly not raised him to be a sodomite, and I was shocked to hear that he has chosen that route- especially since I did not hear it from him but from somebody else. He is currently sleeping in the basement as punishment. He will not look at me, and he has been crying constantly (another thing I most definitely have not raised him to do). Have I dealt with the situation appropriately, or am I a "bad parent" for my reaction?

Question: My dad is homeless and i feel bad?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:28 PM PDT

Ok long story short my dad is abusive. He is a alcoholic and a drug addict and I have lived with him on and off when I was little. I won't let him come to my place. I am scared he will get into one of his fits and possibly try to hurt me or my boyfriend. He's never really hit me but he has hit my brother. Tried to kill my animals when I was little and once when I was little he held me against the wall by my neck. So that's why I won't let him in my house. He has no one. And nothing. He sits out by McDonald's holding a sign up. It makes me sad of course but me and him don't talk anymore and there are plenty of homeless shelters around so should I just not worry about it? I really don't have much money or anything to give him . I could buy him a coat but he was wearing one earlier so I don't know what to do

Question: Will my dad find out if I’m married?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:17 PM PDT

My fiancé and I are currently living together in my dads house (he's only home once a week and doesn't mind us staying here at all since we pay the mortgage ourselves) we've been planning on going to Florida and getting married in January, however something came up and we're going to get married next week in a local courthouse. I don't want my dad or anyone else to know we're married now, I would like to still go to Florida and come back and pretend like we got married there. I was wondering if my dad will figure out somehow through the insurance company or something. I'm going to talk with him about going on my own plan with my fiancé to try and avoid all this. But i was just wondering if there is any other way he'd be able to find out if we get married other than that?

Question: Am I wrong to cut off 11 year old sister in law?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:02 PM PDT

I am 20 and am adopting my 6 and 8 year old little brother and sister from my mother (abusive and neglectful). I am honestly hesitant to let her around my two birds so I couldn't imagine her being around my kiddos... She is disrespectful towards everybody in her family but the only difference is that I don't let her walk all over me and yell at me like everyone else does. I have already given up as much interaction with her as I can. She doesn't know when to drop a subject. She is absolutely insufferable when you try to tell her to apologise. I was messing with her phone one day because I was bored in the call and when she realized it, she flipped her **** tbh. She immediately began screaming at me to give her phone back. I said that I wouldn't give it to her until she asked politely I.e. 'please give me my phone back.' at that time she began screaming and crying, hitting the back window saying she would break it and throwing stuff and pulling on the back of my seat. She still refused and cried and said it was my fault. She stormed into the house and I put her phone on top of my safe and took care of the birds. Eventually, I went to go outside with my fiance but never made it past the kitchen where her grandfather met me demanding I get Amber's phone. I began to explain that all I needed was an apology but I couldn't get a word out before he raised his voice. I just turned and got her phone, pushed past him, gave Amber her phone and sat on the back of the truck.

Question: Is it OK never to speak to your mother again if she divorced your father and made you grow up fatherless?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 12:51 PM PDT

Question: Should I do something I don’t like so I don’t argue with my parents?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 12:17 PM PDT

I do this swimming club outside of school I have done this club for 2 years now. It is extremely boring and I do not enjoy it anymore, so I decided that I was going to quit. I told my parents that I was quitting and they told me that they we're disappointed in me and I got my all my devices taking away from me ( which is fine as long as I don't have to do something I don't want to). On the day I was meant to be swimming my dad starting yelling at me saying that he had no respect for me he dragged me to the car and told me I was going whether i liked it or not. I was forced to swim even though I didn't want to. Should I do something I don't like just so I don't fall out with my parents?

Question: Why are my parents so irritating and terrible?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 11:59 AM PDT

My parents literally suck, don't comment "aTleAst yOu hAve pareNts" because that doesn't take away from the fact that the house is absolutely dirty, none of the dishes are thoroughly washed ( I picked up a cup the other day that was "washed" and there was mold at the bottom), my dad has no job and does nothing all day, doesn't cook dinner, calls my moms demeaning names and doesn't even talk to me, my mom leaves out tampons and papers and old candy EVERYWHERE yet they expect ME to be normal, I'm so sick of these dirty people and I want OUT before I kill myself over their own mistakes!

Question: Should I tell my mom about this? Would she want to know?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 11:32 AM PDT

I got a part time job as an intern at a computer software company. I am very lucky that I am getting paid as most of my friends that got intern jobs are not getting paid. My boss is a 27 year old single guy that is the hottest and sexiest guy I have ever seen. His is also the greatest boss ever. He spends a lot of time training me. I brought a picture to work and put it on my desk. My boss ask me who it was. I told him it was my mother. He said "I see where you get your good looks". "Your mother is gorgeous". " She does not look old enough to have a daughter your age". Should I tell my mother what my boss said. Moms, would you be interested in what a great looking guy that was 10 years younger said about you? Also, was my boss hitting on me (oh how I wish)?

Question: Guys, I need your advice.?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 11:29 AM PDT

I am a high school guy with a 26 year old step mom. She is the best mom any guy can have. I just love and adore her. Beside being my mom, she is my best friend. I can share stuff with her that I would not tell any other person in the world. She always is there helping me when I need help. We are very close. Most school days she will come into my room in her shorty nightgown and wake me up to get ready for school. She is so beautiful and has a figure to die for that it takes effort on my part NOT TO GET A B0NER. If I got a b0ner, that would be the MOST EMBARRASSING thing that could ever happen to me and would be SO WRONG. Guys, any tips on how I can keep from getting a b0ner for my step mom in this situation?

Question: Why won't my mum let me buy my own car with my own money?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 10:25 AM PDT

I am 20 yeras old and i have a part time job at a supermarket in wihc i have been working for about a year. I have saved up plenty of money over the past year and I need a car now to go to Univeristy for study, late night dance practise as well as to and from work. I finish work at midnight, where public transport is unreliable, long and not very safe due to the area in which I live. I want a car so I can come home quickly and safely, but my mother and sister simply refuse to let me buy one, even though I got the money for it. I saved up to obtain my Drivers Licence, and as soon as I passed my driving test they said i'm not allowed to drive! Should I just go ahead and buy a little run around car or not? I am aware of the costs of maintennace and fuel fo owning a car and I have accounted for that. My familty already has a car but I cant drive it as it has a big engine and hence my insurane would be too high, hence I want to buy my own small engine car. But my mum simply wont budge, and she persists that I'll be able to buy one next year, even though I have told her I need one now! I've been saving for over a year !!

Question: I love my cousin's husband.what should i do?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 10:23 AM PDT

I have had a crush on him since i was about 6.now im 21 and i still like him and he does not even know that.i want to ask him to get divorced and marry me.why shouldn't he accept?im much more beautiful and younger and better than his wife.but i feel guilty.im confused i dont know what to do.what do you think?what should i do? This is a very serious question.

Question: Is this okay for a big family?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 10:22 AM PDT

Is it okay that my mom mean my younger brothers who are 12 and 15 share a room

Question: I’m 17, pregnant, and my dad is saying I am no longer aloud to see my baby’s father?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 10:12 AM PDT

I'm a seventeen year old senior in high school. I get good grades, go to school, have a job, clean my house etc. my dad is accusing me of skipping school even though I have proven that I have not skipped and he is saying I am now no longer aloud to contact my boyfriend. Also, he has taken my vehicle that I pay insurance and gas for. Is he allowed to take away my rights to see the baby's father I turn 18 in 7 months, after the baby is due, so not speaking is not an option. Can I move in with my boyfriend who has a stable job and an apartment? All of my life my dad has been incredibly mean to my siblings and I. This includes abuse, letting our stepmom say very mean things to us, controlling, etc. he had sex with my 16 year old stepsister when I was ten years old and honestly I don't feel comfortable living in his house he just uses me as a house maid.

Question: How soon before Don Jr. Is arrested?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 09:32 AM PDT

Question: Why don't people appreciate what they have?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 09:31 AM PDT

Question: My family does not want to stand up to say hello, but wants to kiss and hug to say goodbye?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 09:09 AM PDT

My family does not want to stand up to say hello, but wants to kiss and hug to say goodbye? And if we missed saying good bye they would be offended.

Question: How come I feel kind of bad that I am spoiled?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 09:06 AM PDT

I've been fortunate to have a mom who bought me everything from a condo, two new cars and given me over 90 grand in cash. When my dad was alive, he did not buy me anything. I know many people would wish to have a life like mine, and I just don't see it as that amazing.

Question: What should I do for Christmas?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 08:56 AM PDT

This year all our traditions are changing like for Thanksgiving we are going to one cousin's house instead of the others and now for Christmas, we are going to Lake Tahoe instead of my cousin's house. My dad, brother, and I are going, but my mom isn't because she couldn't get time off work, oh and she also won't be coming to Thanksgiving because she got her shift before we found out where it is going to be. I really want to go to Tahoe and be with my cousins, be in the snow, and be in freezing cold weather which I like because I live in southern California. At the same time I love my mom and want to be with her, and I feel bad that she is going to be alone for both of the holidays. I am making up random reasons as to reasons why I Should and shouldn't go to both because although I want to go I don't. I'm saying how I have to take my drivers test on the first week of January so I can't go, then again how am I supposed to do the pajamas with the cousins that I do every year. I don't know I am so stuck on what to do I know I'll have more Christmases with my mom, but then again I feel awful about leaving her. No matter what I end up doing I will feel happy and sad about the choice, but I really need help choosing before my dad gets a hotel. Yeah, we aren't getting a cabin we would end up getting hotels so I don't know how much of each other we will see. Plz, Help Me.

Question: My aunt came to town and my Dad banned me from seeing her cause he resents her. Yet I am 31. How do I override him next time?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 08:37 AM PDT

I am 31 and live on my own but I fear him finding out. He resents my Mom's sister for being bitter and so to get her back my Dad is bitter at her. He resents her banning her kids from family time so my Dad bans me from family time she is at. It makes no sense as he is doing just what he hates her for except my Dad likes his kids more then this aunt who resents her own son. So my Dad uses me as a pawn to get my Mom's sister back. Next time he plays this game how do I override him? He lives two blocks from my maternal grandmother where the aunt is staying when she comes to town so he will know if I go over there. He and my mother have a long history of using me and my siblings as weapons against people they are not speaking to. Forgiveness was not taught when I was growing up.

Question: My maternal grandmother is very rude at restaurants to waitors. Her mother was this way. Will my Mom become this way?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 08:37 AM PDT

Question: How do I explain to my parents the old wounds that open at Thanksgiving and Christmas?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 08:37 AM PDT

When I was growing up my grandpa on my Mom's side was an alcoholic. We were not allowed to see his side of the family. They would all gather as one big happy family though we had to be the one group boycotting. One uncle was sometimes absent also but due to in-law obligations, not boycotting. There are many family photos from those years of everyone but my immediate family. Then when I got older we started having a relationship again with the grandfather and thus the rest of the family. My and siblings were older and the grandfather's drinking wasn't as public. I felt such joy. However, on holidays my mother usually still preferred to go to her in-laws. I would visit my maternal grandparents individually and sometimes the other families. So long story short fast forward 21 years later and my grandparents have all died on both sides of the family. My Mom does not get along well with her siblings but is tolerant of them. She refuses to do any holiday with them. As a result I am not invited as the assumption is I go where my folks go. My Dad has one sibling (a brother) and we go to that siblings' in-laws who know our family well. They are fun but I feel sad unable to do holidays with my Mom's family. I am still being punished by the alcoholism issues my grandfather had. So this year I want to explain that to my parents. Last two years were very hard. The last grandparent, my Mom's mother, died in 2014. My Mom's family still all gathers for Thanksgiving except us. At Christmas they do there own thing. How do I explain this in a way that won't anger them as my Dad is fed up with me caring about extended family. I have been this way since high school.

Question: When we arrive at a restaurant or a relatives house nobody stands up to give us a hug and a kiss hello. I kind of feel that rude?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 08:15 AM PDT

When we arrive at a restaurant or a relatives house nobody stands up to give us a hug and a kiss hello. I used go around to everyone to kiss them hello and wish them happy 4th of july or merry x-mas, but kind of tired going around and nobody making an attempt to come to us. We don t see them all the time, so I would think they would be a little excited to see us. I really don t want to walk around anymore and feel uncomfortable walking in when everyone is seating down. I made a comment a few times about getting up, but to no avail. What should I or my family do?

Question: So I told my mom how I felt through a text message and we got into an little argument about it and now she won t talk to me. What to do?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 08:04 AM PDT

Question: Is this a symptom of his control issues or something else?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 07:51 AM PDT

I'm living at home as a young adult since it didn't make any sense to move out until this summer when I transfer colleges. (My area doesn't have less than year leases anyways). My father does not let me sleep. At all. I'm not complaining about curfews or chores like a lot of 20 year olds do at home. I'm complaining about his mania episodes that hit about 10 pm every night. He does not go to bed until 1 to 2 which is fine (he sleeps till ten, goes to eat breakfast, then comes back home to sleep some more until dinner). Around ten, he gets HYPER. Starts cleaning the house loudly, vacuuming, blasting music. Added with our rituals. Our rituals are: "DOES THE MUSIC BOTHER YOU" To which I always respond, "what bothers me is yelling across the house". So then I'm up. Having conversations with me THROUGH my closed door when I always tell him I can't hear over my fan so I have to get up. Once i get mad he goes, "How am I supposed to know now to talk to you. Put a sign up. Why are you so hateful" EVERY TIME I EXPLAIN WHAT A CLOSED DOOR IN SOCIETY MEANS. Then giving the dogs their pills to put them outside he narrates everything as loud as **** to be "cute". He'll purposely be annoyig to piss me off too and then laugh like a kid, then once I get to the yelling point he goes "god, I didn't do anything". Then he can roll over to go to sleep while it takes me 2 hours to calm down so around 3 am. He does this via phone if I sleep somewhere else. Is there a reason it's the same? He defends this by saying that I don't go to bed until 3 am anyways no matter how many times I explain it's because he doesn't let me. He would call three times after school when I lived with my mom. If I fell asleep he would drive over to cuss me out for "worrying" him. But I couldn't sleep at night because my dad would start arguments with me or my mom was singing kareoke. As a kid he'd wake me up around 4am to "check I was still breathing" Is this a control issue? Or is he just an idiot? Is this a control issue? All I want to do is go the **** to sleep

Question: Secret fantasy to tickle your kids feet?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 07:15 AM PDT

Be honest. Have you wanted to tickle your kids feet really hard?

Question: I feel so lonely and unsuccessful, I think everything is over and I can not stand it anymore !!?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 06:58 AM PDT

I have many problems, I live with my cousin and her husband since a year ago since then I bought a new car at 6 months ago I live my brother and his wife, but I felt that we had no chemistry and despite everything I tried to get along with her (sometimes people are not as they imagine) she like I was envious and little she destroyed my life was gossiping my cousin with whom I lived behind my back and I did not know, until it was little they were discovered their gossip and because of that they ran from the house and my car I'm losing, I have to go also from my cousin's house because I can not be there after everything that happened and I have nowhere to go I feel alone my family gave me back to explain everything, but they do not want to know more about me or about them and I do not know what to do because I found out that my family was also intrigued about me and I do not know what to do, I want to leave forward, I want to show you that with or without your help I can

Question: I wasn't trying to be controlling but I had a right to feel offended disrespected?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 05:37 AM PDT

Recently one of my best friends started hanging out with a woman that my ex cheated on me with. I didn't have a problem with him befriending her because I thought he was interested in dating her. Turns out my best friend had a get together that I wasn't invited to but he invited her. I guess when she mentioned that she was still having sex with my ex he decided to invite my ex over to his house as well so that him and her could hook up. I was deeply hurt and felt betrayed by friend. My friend didn't understand because he said well the two of you aren't together anymore so what's the big deal. I introduced my friend to my ex and he'd only hung out with him when I was around. He knew how I felt about him cheating on me with with woman. It's one of the reasons him and I broke up and that was only 2 months ago. Me and my friend had a big falling out about it because he told me I was being stupid for being upset. So now, we aren't speaking. All of my friend tell me that I had a right to feel the way that I did and he was being insensitive and selfish. Was I wrong to be offended by this?

Question: Ideas for revenge?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 05:35 AM PDT

Some relatives are coming to my house in a week and i wan t to have some revenge for abusing me through out the years. one of my plan is to spit on their soup and dip their spoons on the toilet. Any other ideas?

Question: Why do my parents always get angry at me?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 05:22 AM PDT

I m 16, never been in any relationships. Never drank or smoke or done drugs. Always had good grades and I've always been there for my friends. I'm obedient and a good student in school. I never start fights unless I m provoked and even then I never resort to violence. I'm not perfect and I may seem arrogant at times I used to be a lot more carefree when I was younger but I never disobeyed my parents. My question is why do they always get angry at me when I ask them for some freedom? I'm 16 and I've never worn makeup. Whenever I ask them if I can dress the way I like they deny it even though it's not revealing or anything. I'm not allowed to go for sleepovers and I barely do anything outside of school. I used to do sports but I quit because of continuous studies. They are always overprotective of me. I like that they really love me and take care of me but I just want to be able to become more independent. It's like they don't trust me at all. I can't do anything without their permission. Whenever I do sports they get upset because I'm a girl and I shouldn't be lifting weights. They are constantly forcing their opinion on me and when I give them my own they tell me that I'm back talking and that my opinion means nothing in our household. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. All I want is just to be accepted for who I am. I'm a human being too and I have my thoughts and opinions on different things too. I just want to be understood. I'm sick of them treating me like a child when I'm already a teenager. They always seem to find flaws in me but I've never found any flaws in them because I love my parents and I don't care what flaws they may have. I just want to become independent. There's a lot of things I've been hiding about myself because I'm afraid that they won't accept me. They're finding flaws in the simplest things that I do so I can't come out of the closet.

Question: My Mom Likes My Sister Better!?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 04:40 AM PDT

Ok so before my sister was allways getting better treatment she is about 1 year older then me (Im 15) and she can do anything she wants. She wants to go to a sleepover my mom sais ok, she doesent want to go to school my mom sais its fine and she basically treats her like a goddess. But for me its the total opposite if i want to go to a sleepover she doesent let me and she sais no to everything i say and before her excuse was that i get bad grades (A's B's) vs her all A's but now i have all A's

Question: How do I come out of the closet to my mom and dad?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 03:20 AM PDT

Without vaping. I know if I vape that will be a dead give away without having the whole awkward conversation but I'm trying to let them know I'm gay without doing it in a disrespectful way. Might as well get douche bag tattooed on my forehead while I'm at it if I'm gonna vape. Don't wanna kick them while they're down.

Question: GOING TO BE GROUNDED FOR 1 MONTH HELP?!?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 03:10 AM PDT

I'M GOING TO BE GROUNDING it's my first year in highschool and I'm getting a 3.0 here where I live the count the minus I have 3 bs 1 c 2 as my teacher did not bump up my grade the B it was an 89.4 percent. HELP me what should I say or do My mom gets mad over an A minus or even a B plus this is not my first time last year I got a 2.7 because something unfortunate happened I'm a 14 year old girl please I'm scared she's go8jg to see my report card after school

Question: Seniors can you help me with this problem. My siblings has/still is causing me heartache...?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 02:19 AM PDT

If you were having a problem with a brother that just won't go away, he is not an alcoholic, not a drug addict....he reminds me of an old woman...that seems to be living a soap opera life, causing problem after problem....he once again has caused such sibling problems, he finally cracked the camels back...he got married a year ago, calls his wife a whore, married her just because she is going to inherit a lot of money, he had my uncle re sign a will, while this uncle was dying in the hospital, willing everything to him...I said...ok, if that is what you think of me...just please go away leave me alone, but he will NOT. He lives out of state, comes into Ca. maybe once every 3 years or so, DROPS in on what ever family members are at home, starts his crap....leaves...causing everyone to be upset, he has really done it this time...it does not bother him...but...is making me sick, what to do? I can call his new wife up, inform her of his cheating, some things he has/is doing....just to get him back, is it worth it...I can't drop this...thank you for you help.

Question: My parents named me Xena and I abhor it?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:43 AM PDT

What were they even thinking. I don't like this name. I wish I could change it. Am I making a big deal or is my name not that bad? What can I do, guys?

Question: Should I leave or stay? (Read details below)?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:33 AM PDT

I'm applying to colleges but I've run into a bit of a situation you see, I applied to New York and California ( I live in California and I know the area well enough to apply to the UC's and CSU's) but I'm extremely in love with New York. In California, I have one part of my family here that I've had um bad memories with but learned the most important lessons (like how to handle a hard situation), and in New York, I have the other half that are so full of positivity and whenever I visited (and lived for 4 months) I've had nothing but good experiences with and also learned important lessons ( like how to be independent). I've applied to the SUNY schools and am just waiting patiently at the moment to hear back. I really want to go back to New York and actually live there for college but I would be leaving my parents behind. I have been dreaming of going back to New York and I love it without a doubt because they are so positive , but would I be sacrificing something I already know for something that may or may not be beneficial to me. This is about more than college if you get what I mean. Sorry it's long, it's been bothering me for awhile I just am really stuck.

Question: I feel bad about my dad, how can I stop feeling terrible?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:27 AM PDT

My dad has always been close to me and my brother. My mom divorced my dad when I was eight years old. Since then, my mom had met someone new and her boyfriend didn't like us. My dad was very upset when he couldn't see us for a while (just for weekends). I feel I was lucky because my dad never remarried. He always raised us and focused on us entirely. I think he met one woman but it was very much secret. I really appreciate him sacrificing for us. My dad never left us. My mom and dad have been divorced for years but my mom had to move in with my dad, brother, and I (due to financial problems). I became slightly estranged (which my dad doesn't understand) because he ignores my mother only and talks to us (his kids). My mom felt bad about being ignored so I don't really talk to my dad as much as I used to. I still love my dad though and talk to him occasionally, small talk in the same place. Now, he had surgery done recently and I know he still loves me but I feel bad about being estranged in the first place. How to stop feeling terrible?

Question: How do you prove ur a Siamese twin?

Posted: 01 Nov 2017 01:14 AM PDT

My mom told me I'm a Siamese and I do have a scar on my knee where could've possibly had a siames twin but my friend won't believe me but my mom said it so how do i prove it

Question: Should I just give up on my family?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 10:15 PM PDT

I have some cousins (they're all sisters) who have been competitive with me since birth. We've had our ups and downs, but I finally realized that if I don't suck up to them constantly they get mad at me. The problem is they never return the favor. For years I have went to every grad/wedding/baby party, emotionally supported them, given them gifts and money, etc while they only bully me. They never congratulated me on anything in any way. And yet they say I'm the bad person. I truly think they're narcissists. We are all in our 20's now and I'm finding their behavior very immature. Should I just give up on them? My uncle is so sweet, but I don't understand how he raised his daughters to be so horrid. Talking to them about this is impossible because they take any slight criticism as a world-ending insult. What would you do?

Question: In laws bring up past bad things I have done and wont allow me to visit, what can we do?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 09:15 PM PDT

My in laws cant stand me and the feeling is mutual. They are hung up on things that we fought about from nearly a decade ago. They cant move on, they always have to have something negative to harp on. My mom also does not like my husband (mainly because of his evil parents). Recently, my in laws got mad about a question I asked and started up about decades old arguments they have had with me or my mother. They told my husband that they "do not want Tina at their house because she does nothing but cause trouble and bring negative energy into our home, she is not welcome here anymore". I am the mother of their grandkids. My husband did not say a word to them about this. My mom said that if I am not welcome @ their house, they shouldnt be welcome @ our house and that my husband shouldnt tolerate this immaturity and negative energy from THEM. She said he should tell them "if Tina is not allowed, I am not coming, end of!" What is right? We can never get along, because they take everything to the extreme and bring up past mistakes. My FIL is a man who believes "people are incapable of change", "God helps those who help themselves" I was adopted and my mom was never married, her 2 careers came first.

Question: Im getting annoyed by my mom's paranoid concern?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:58 PM PDT

I'm 17 now, almost an adult and i regularly talk to people online both by messaging and talking in a call on skype, discord, etc. and i tend to joke around a lot since im usually on a game with someone while in a call with the same guy/girl. sometimes she comes up and tells me to not say any personal information which is understandable if not shoved down my throat every damn week which is exactly what she does. tonight she was assuming the person i was talking to is a pedo...but heres the thing.. I've seen their face before in a video call a few times they dont use a voice changer and even if they did it'd be obvious.. it's not just that she thinks im talking to a pedo but that just about everyone i talk to online is associated with my dad + most if not all of the family problems im dealing with right now.. I can understand the pedo part since i CANT trust my mom enough to not use my earbuds so she can hear the whole conversation and i hide things from her due to lack of trust but having to do with my dad???? Bltch how would that even work. She also thinks people can track where i live..I dont have too much knowledge about tracking but im assuming it has to do with an IP? I dont go on suspicious sites either that could get my IP but idk, i often shake that part off as if that is completely avoidable if im not THAT gullible

Question: What should I do if I know a child who refuses to take showers?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:53 PM PDT

This 12 year old girl is autistic. She claims that she does not believe in personal hygiene and she "hates" showers. I don't know what her parents are doing about this. The child makes her peers feel uncomfortable by not taking care of herself that way. She doesn't really care, but it may be affecting her body and health.

Question: What would you do if your adult children were mentally ill so they don't end up homeless?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:44 PM PDT

They have chronic fatigue & mental illness. They have 4 first cousins around the same age & some second cousins. There isn't enough money for a trust fund. What's a good plan of action for them?

Question: How do I like my sister when she has absolutely no good qualities what so ever? any ideas?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:40 PM PDT

She is 21 and I am 16. She does not have a single good quality.

Question: How do I get adopted?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 08:14 PM PDT

I don't want to be with my family anymore, ever since I was a little girl, I have had many problems with my family. I feel like nobody in my family likes me. I always feel lonely and I need attention. SInce I'm the girl they always make me do all the cleaning and everything. I'm not allow to do anything. I can't have social medias, I can't watch tv and I cannot listen to music. I feel like a prisoner. I need help, I want my mom to give me up for adoption, but how?

Question: Did I overreact? - Baby daddy?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:21 PM PDT

So my ex and I aren't together but we are going to counseling. Well we agreed for Halloween he can have our 14 month old at 3 but that we would meet at 5:45 to go trick or treating. (Our custody agreement is for him to normally have 4-7. However he had our son on part of the weekend when it wasn't his time and I let him see early today.) So at 5:40 he goes we need to move to 6pm. I was like ok but I was almost at his house and I'm not allowed there bc he lives with his mom and his mom is crazy. So I had to wait by ihop. At 6 I call and text. No answer. At 6:15 I decide to drive to his neighborhood and see my son, the dad, and cousins trick or treating. I'm like wtf bc he said we were going to go trick or treating with them and then go separately. So I drove by them and asked for my son. He claims he was and that they barely started trick Or treating. And got so mad. But I don't believe bc he didn't tell me anything! So I waited for 30 minutes for no reason. But I took my son and I trick or treated without the dad. Do you think I overreacted? If so, what would you have done? Him and I have a lot of communication problems. That's why we're going to counseling. But we have a long ways to go

Question: Do Mom's have the right to ban their kids from family members they don't get along with?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:17 PM PDT

My Mom did this. Like we were banned from Christmas with my Mom's family growing up cause she didn't get along with her brother and when he was alive her father drank too much. I always felt like my Mom was just using us to get her brother back and her Dad when he was alive.

Question: My Mom's sister is estranged from the family. Do I need to count her and her kids as family when we don't know them?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 07:11 PM PDT

I met her kids once and they were pretty nice but they are her kids so I can't have a relationship with them.

Question: Grandma watches everything I do. How do I tell her to back off?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:46 PM PDT

Every time I fix myself a sandwich or anything in the kitchen, my grandma stands up, goes to the kitchen to pretend like she's cleaning g something, and watches me as I make my food. She seems as if she is judging me, and this makes me feel really uncomfortable, because she remembets every thing I eat. She is an argumentative woman, and has a habit of assuming the role of the victim when confronted, so I am not sure how to let her know that this is bothering me. Sometimes I will go the whole day without eating, and only then she will not say anything at all about it to anyone. But when I eat a bowl of cereal for breakfast, she feels the need to inform my family. What should I tell her or do to let her know I don't like when she does that?

Question: Disrespectful sister-in-law how to handle?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:25 PM PDT

I told her what she had done was rude and that she had been rude the whole time she's known me while I have tried my hardest to do everything I can for her, breaking my back for her. I told her that apologising isn't acceptable when all she does is just turns back around and does it again. I told her that I would no longer have anything to do with her and would not take her to school or anywhere for that matter. I will also be distancing my children from them too when they arrive. (I am trying to gain custody from my mentally I'll and abusive and neglectful mother. They call me mommy already because I am more their mother than their own mother.) I do not want her bad attitude to be aimed at or impressed on them. They shouldn't have to be around such volitile behavior when they are just coming from where they are.

Question: How to I respond to my fat shaming mother?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:22 PM PDT

sorry this is so long but please read. I am 18 and 152 pounds. I am already so insecure about my body and her yelling at me about it almost every single day is not helping. I have tried so many times to lose weight but I can't. she herself is probably almost at least 300 hundred pounds and doing nothing about it. I understand that she doesn't want me to grow up and be like her but that doesn't mean she should be saying such hurtful things, especially when I'm not THAT fat. she doesn't let me wear certain clothes and literally screams so many insults at me to the point that I start crying. she embarrasses me in front of the family. I get so embarrassed and guilty just eating in front of her, even if its something healthy. that's how bad it is. at family reunions she tells me to sit "somewhere where I'm not too seen". I admit that I get so angry that I backtalk and call her fat and tell her to shut up. I'm not proud of it but I can't help myself. what can I do to make her stop? please don't say to sit down and explain that what she's saying is hurtful because I am way past trying to be nice and even if I tried, I already know she's not gonna stay calm and listen. she'll just start yelling again. I am in no way overexaggerating anything. she does all this and so much more. I have actually had suicidal thoughts because of her. I have never planned to actually go through with them. its more like "if I die, she will probably regret everything she's ever said"

Question: My half brother on my mom's side and my half sister on my dad's side are expecting?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:12 PM PDT

They are not related to each other, but I'm related to them.. But isn't it still disgusting?

Question: My brother and sister in law are taking me to court after all they done to me saying i took all moms money and put her in debt?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:09 PM PDT

What can I do about this they though me out of moms house after we been together for over 10 years splitting all the bills everything we did every thing together now they have dropped her in nursing home what can I do

Question: Why do my brother and sister throw legos all over my room?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:01 PM PDT

Question: My aunt came to town and my Dad banned me from seeing her cause he resents her. Yet I am 31. How do I override him next time?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 06:01 PM PDT

I am 31 and live on my own but I fear him finding out. He resents my Mom's sister for being bitter and so to get her back my Dad is bitter at her. He resents her banning her kids from family time so my Dad bans me from family time she is at. It makes no sense as he is doing just what he hates her for except my Dad likes his kids more then this aunt who resents her own son. So my Dad uses me as a pawn to get my Mom's sister back. Next time he plays this game how do I override him? He lives two blocks from my maternal grandmother where the aunt is staying when she comes to town so he will know if I go over there. He and my mother have a long history of using me and my siblings as weapons against people they are not speaking to. Forgiveness was not taught when I was growing up.

Question: Is it overkill for a mom to not post pics of her newborn baby on Facebook because she has issues with posting pics of minors on the internet?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 05:54 PM PDT

I can understand if she doesn't have a Facebook page, but if she posts everything from "I'm pregnant" to pics of her belly to just one pic of baby's tiny hand holding her finger, what's the point? As for her fear of pedophiles, I don't think one pic of her newborn from head to toe would result in any danger. Hell, I'm all for parents posting just 18 pics of their children (one pic on every birthday from ages 0 to 17), as I do think that posting excessive pics of your kids is not safe.

Question: Why are my Arab parents violent?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 05:40 PM PDT

My dad hitted my mom and he tried to take money and leave me and my mom. My mom hid the money and he curses us and talks bad about us, we have plenty of money but why does my dad resort to hitting my mom and cursing me and my sister?

Question: What website can I use for a completely free backround check on someone?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 05:32 PM PDT

Question: What should I do now?

Posted: 31 Oct 2017 04:21 PM PDT

I'm 19 years old sadly still living at my mother's house. I want to leave but I don't have enough money for a house or anything. I have about $170 in total because no jobs will hire me because of my high school "failing". When I was in highschool my mother failed me on purpose because she hates me for some reason IDK why this was back when I was 17. So every job I apply for says they can't hire me because of it. Also my mother is really emotional and rude for no reason to me, whenever I do something nice she always acts disgusted or gives me an evil look out the corner of her eye when she thinks I'm not looking. She has very bad hygiene and leaves urine on the toilet seat always... I talked to her before about it and she claims she didn't do anything. She even leaves dirty dishes and water in the kitchen sink overnight until it starts to smell and I pour it out and explain to her that it is filthy. She leaves the front door open everyday all night and day and I tell her it's unsafe to leave just the screen door closed where everything is visible to the outside. She always tells me this is my house if you don't like it get a job and leave. She's renting the house to. But I'm really tired of all of this. She talks to me rudely when I haven't done anything wrong. She acts very lazy and thinks I owe her everything like she says 'cary my bags' doesn't even say please. She even acts worse when her friends are around she gets bossy. What should I do?