Family: Question: Guys is he confused?

Question: Guys is he confused?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:51 PM PDT

He and I broke up 2 months ago and I started going to church and found him staring at me 2 weeks in a row so I texted him but he said he was offended which is why it wouldn't work and why he wouldn't allow himself to have feelings for me again. I didn't respond. I've been going to church since then it's been almost a month, i don't look at him and have given him a dirty look couple times. He literally doesn't take his eyes off me my family says...confused

Question: How do I handle the shock and pain of my brother coming out as gay?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:50 PM PDT

I can't believe he is doing this to our mother. Do I allow my kids near him or could he be a pedophile? Are gay people also pedophiles or are the two different choices? He is biologically a half-sibling as he had a different father and the father abandoned him so my Dad adopted him when he married our Mom (I am 12 years younger). Sodoes this mean he got gayness from his birthfather whom he has never met? What do I do? I am in disbelief. I used to think our family was perfect.

Question: How do I avoid falling victim to my parents' feuds with my Mom's siblings?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:48 PM PDT

I had to self-mutilate two weeks ago cause my aunt was in town and my Dad flipped on me for speaking to her. She boasted on Facebook about how kind I was to come see her at my grandmothers and this infuriated my Dad that I'd speak to my Mom's enemy. This aunt has not been the nicest to my Mom but is nice to me and she had her son with her. MY parents have a long history of using me and my siblings like this. As a kid it was my maternal grandfather. They used me as a bargaining chip to get him to stop drinking (he was an alcoholic) and yet it just was punishing me as I missed all family events for 7 years. There was also tension when I was nice to a cousin of my Dad's who divorced his wife for the wrong reasons. Now with Christmas and Thanksgiving coming I feel embarrassed and ashamed because we are doing a boycott of Thanksgiving and going out of town (my parents, siblings, and I) to protest this aunt who is sometimes not nice to my Mom. She will be away at Christmas so we will be able to see the rest of the family then. How do I avoid falling victim to my parents' feuds with my Mom's siblings? There are other ones over the years I've been used as a weapon in. My parents deny doing this just as my grandfather denied being an alcoholic or I denied stealing cookies as a little kid. They are just as guilty of it as I was of taking cookies or my grandfather of drinking (at least his was a mental illness and so not really his fault).

Question: How do I avoid being ruthlessly and savagely attacked by my Mom if I am late for Thanksgiving?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:40 PM PDT

I am 41 and my husband wants to stop by his mother's but my Mom gets furious when we do that since she is the A+ grandmother and his mother is the 2nd rate one. I am scared my mother will go postal like last time my husband pulled this. We can see his mother the weekend before but he says that's not the same. How do I avoid being ruthlessly and savagely attacked verbally by my Mom? I am scared of her. Should I give my husband an ultimatum of my mother or his? I don't want to divorce but if it will make my Mom happy I am open to it. I just want her to be happy with me., His mother travels at Christmas to her other son's so this won't be an issue there. Like I say my Mom is crowned the 1st rate grandmother and my mother-in-law is just so-so at 2nd rate. This way my Mom is happy. I should add that I would like to host so we can have both grandmothers as my husband's mother is going to be alone but my mother says it is a family holiday and children's in-laws are not family.

Question: Is it normal for a 17 year old daughter to be jealous of her father?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:38 PM PDT

To hold resentment to the male figure, as he takes some of the mother's (his wife's) attention (and love, in her eyes) away from her. Because the mother and child are so very close.

Question: At what age in America would most parents expect their kids to go to work?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:34 PM PDT

I wanna find out if my brother is actually lazy. My dad says something along the lines of "19 still no go to work" My dad was in Vietnam when he grew up,and now we live in america. Maybe my dad went to work much sooner than my brother? I was thinking that you go to college when your 18, and doesn't it take a few years to get a degree in something? Maybe that means you'll be like 22 when you get a job that requires a degree? I don't really know how college works so please help me lol.

Question: My father in law is very dominant and my mother in law always favours him whether he is right or wrong.?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:08 PM PDT

We all live together. My father in law think himself as if he is every thing. My mother in law always keep on talking about him. I am fed up. In almost all conversation she relates it with her husband. I told my husband but he tells me to ignore. But how long I can. I am pregnant. Also my husband gets angry when I mention about his parents.i hate my father in law very much and want to teach him a lesson. Plz suggest

Question: I miss my family and it's making me feel depressed?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:01 PM PDT

Basically I moved over a year ago over 24 hours away from my family because of my dad and step mom. And I can't see them for another year. It's making me feel depressed, they don't talk to me much. I try calling, massaging, and texting them but rarely get a reply. I miss my siblings and biological mom, and my aunts and uncles and cousins! I just wanna go back, but I can't. Because it cost too much. My birthday is on the 29th and I don't want another year's birthday without them. My dad and step mom work often so I'm normally just with my cat. My friends' parents are sorta homophobic butts who think I'm evil I think because I'm not religious. So I only see them once in awhile at school. What can I do to stop feeling depressed about not being able to see them? I really miss them. I don't have any classes with my friends on my birthday so it'll be sorta lonely, what can I do about this?

Question: Did I give good advice in this situation? What would you have advised?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 12:48 PM PDT

My ex mother in law who I really liked when I was married to her daughter Ann sent me a text message asking if I could meet her for lunch. I said sure and we had lunch. At lunch she told me her other daughter Lisa's husband had ask to borrow money from her 4 times and each time she had lent him some money. He had never paid her back any of the money she had loaned him. He has now ask her for a 5th loan. She asked what I thought she should do. I told her this is a very hard situation. She should probably consider the first 4 loans a gift as there is a very low probability she will get repaid for these loans. I told her I think she should tell Lisa's husband that you will consider a new loan when he pays back the previous loans. I warned her she should expect a bad reaction from Lisa's husband and possibly from Lisa. I hope I gave her good advice. Do you think I did?

Question: If I report my dad, what will happen to my siblings?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 12:27 PM PDT

I am 16 and I want to stop visiting my dad's house, if I report him for not giving me a bed...what will happen to my siblings? My brother wants to stay with him and he's 10. But my dad often verbally abuses him. I don't know what is best for him. My sister wants to live with my mom only.

Question: Want MY ADULT KIDS TO PAY ME BACK FOR MONEY GIVEN TO THEM!!!?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 12:20 PM PDT

My daughter 42 was given $300,000 from her husbands family over 15yrs,,,during those years I her mom that had really no money took her and her kids on vacations every year for 10yrs,spent $1000 each year on clothes for her kids,my son now 28 I paid loans of his so he could get on with his life,always wanting to make their lives easier because I had a terrible childhood.Well I am 64 and can't do anything because of all the help I gave them.My daughter and her husband just sold 2 apartment buildings they redid and made $100,000 so I told her how about $10,000 for your mom so I can enjoy what I thought I would be able to.Her answer I need help!!

Question: Is it weird to call your sister cute?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 12:05 PM PDT

Question: How can I stop going to my dads house?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 11:59 AM PDT

I'm 16 and I hate my dad. I have to go there every Wednesday and every other weekend. I feel that everything he does is for his own personal gain, I don't know what I can do to stay home with my mom. I mean I don't even have a bed at his house

Question: How do I get my Dad to understand my anxiety is not my fault and to have compassion when I am anxious and not annoyance?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 11:07 AM PDT

I don't think he is mad but he gets annoyed and has a very agitated tone of voice. It causes me to cut myself. My Mom is too sick with her Bipolar for me to go to her for help (not that she can help that). I always fear extended family rejecting me cause growing up my parents used me as a pawn in a dispute over my maternal grandfather's alcoholism. Now as an adult I feel like I have to make it up to my Mom's family that I wasn't around as a kid and that I allowed my Mom to poison me against them as a kid. This hurts the most at family gatherings we miss or family holidays we miss. I am expected to go where my folks go and they always do my Dad's side of the family. So I fear being thought of on my Mom's side as a 2nd rate relative. How do I get over this hurt? How do I get my Dad to understand my anxiety. I am dreading the holidays and feeling the shame already. I can't go to him cause he will get mad.

Question: My brother is a druggy and my Mom keeps it a secret though privately confronts him. Is this okay or enabling?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 11:07 AM PDT

He is in jail right now but we are telling people he is living in Charlotte, NC with his father's family.

Question: My parents took away my computer. Are they being unreasonable?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 11:05 AM PDT

Well technically my dad took it away. And yes I did buy it with my own money (took me like a year to save up). Long story short, they took it because my grades weren't good enough I'm 15 almost 16 btw. I have never refused to do my homework, but I am in a private school with bad homework habits, so you sorta have more responsibility over what homework you do. Well nevertheless, I am not addicted to my computer in any way, I almost don't even play video games on it anymore, I basically just watch YouTube and work on a small business I am trying to start. He said the reason for him taking it away was because I have to focuse more on school etc... but I think it was because we argued and he didn't like me having a very insignificant difference of opinion then him, even though I told him I already know I have to get better grades etc. But it doesn't make any sense because the less I am at my computer, the more I am on my phone and he hasn't even said anything about me being to much on my phone, even though that's a lot of what I do in my spare time, except going to the gym and some other sport.

Question: Am I living with emotional abuse?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 10:57 AM PDT

My dad is a very stressed person. His life revolves around focusing on how people have wronged him. On top of this, he takes offense to everything. He's beyond sensitive. My mom works long days and comes home worried and stressed. He gets so offended by her being in a sad or stressed mood, he takes it personally. While at the same time when he's stressed you can't even talk to him. I'll say"hi dad" and he won't even look in my direction. Hes detached himself from my mom saying it wouldn't matter to him if she just dissapeared. If he wasn't married he'd have left her a long time ago, and she should be greatful he married her because no one else would want her. Now for years I've been the one he confesses all his emotions to. He tells me how my mom "hates him" how so and so ripped him off, or how his sister is a selfish brat. He throws all this pressure on me. I want to help him, but he takes advice from no one, and gets furious if you suggest anything. He always puts himself up saying "you can tell me anything, I'm accepting of everyone" but then whenever you attempt to help him out of this rut, he blows up. He's the biggest hypocrite I've ever known. A while back I attempted to stand up for my mom while he was lecturing her on how "evil" she is, and he screamed at me and damned me and told me I'm evil. The other day I came home after a horrible day, I was sick and just wanted to go to bed..... The next day he looked my straight in the face and randomly told me I will become a train wreck because I'm "just like my mother". I put all this effort into trying to help him and he just turns around and calls me names, tells me because of my "sad evil selfish behavior" I'm going to most definitely grow up to be like my mom and "become a train wreck". He doesn't realize the weight he puts on my when he rants and then after all my efforts to try and talk to him he says that I'll become this evil failure of a person. I don't know what to do. It hurts so much. I've lived like this for years, trying tobean ok person and keep my head above water, but I can't do it any more. I don't know if this is a form of emotional abuse or not but I'd rather he beat me, because it would hurt less. Please help.

Question: How to deal with family members that mooch?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 10:45 AM PDT

so this has been going on for a while...to make a long story short. I have cousins that show up out of the blue for "Sunday dinner" sometimes it's every Sunday or random throughout the month... to be honest I'm tired of pretending that I am ok with it. From day one they have been rude (not calling to come over) and have bad attitudes... they treat my mom meanly and don't appreciate all she has done for them ( she has paid for the boys careless tickets, jail fees, taking care of their mother before she died the list goes on...) they never Bring anything even for her bday or mine... and show up randomly expecting the red carpet treatment. I tired telling my mom that we need boundaries... but she says we are "family". I think they are users and don't even care about us... they are the most selfish... I can't even have a conversation with my girl cousin because all she talks about is herself and her stupid boyfriend...gah!

Question: My fiancée has leukemia and I want to know how I can be more supportive during this trying time?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 10:43 AM PDT

My fiancé and I live in Provo Utah, my fiancé moved here to get away from him s abusive amd toxic family. His saint of a mother moved to Utah to be near her only sane son after she was bought out from her home by his father. My fiancé and I love each other but his dad said that if he and I move back to Nashville he'll lease us a place to stay and he can get treated at several cancer treatment centers, I could get a job working in either Nashville or a surrounding town but his dad is abusive and his brother is mentally ill, so much to the point to where he had a double amputation for no reason. My fiancé has Chronic leukemia and I'm terrified about his health right now. His mother amd I are trying to convince my fiancé to stay in Utah because it might not be perfect but he'll be in a loving environment opposed to being with his dad and brother? How should I go about this. I want to provide more information in Utah we have the Huntsman cancer research institute, while in Nashville there is St. Thomas and Vanderbilt. I don't know what to do. His Dad said he will help with bills and insurance if we stay in Utah. His one brother is mentally unstable. How can I convince my fiancé that it's less stressful for him to stay in Utah and get treatment than to move to Nashville get stressed and that will affect his health.

Question: It's complicated. My family and boyfriends family?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 10:42 AM PDT

Hi everyone I needed some advice on a situation. My boyfriend wants meet up with his family and my family all together for his birthday coming up. My family and his family are completely different due to the main facts that mine aren't religious and his family is. My father is completely not a nice person, he works and that's it. He's not a family guy...and my brother works too, but he's also a homosexual. I guess I'm embarassed for my having such a mess of a family. My mother isn't a Christian either, and I'm trying to back on track on my life and go attend church. I have lost my faith for a long time. I'm worried that his family will think bad of me and not want me with their son. We have been together for a year and half now, and I never really thought of including my family since it's not picture perfect and his family is usually all together and go to church every Sunday. My boyfriend knows all this already since he's over at the house everyday and works with my mother.

Question: Is there any way to help my boyfriend?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 09:29 AM PDT

He lives in Arizona and I live in utah.(Yes we're gay.) I'm 17 and he's 18 bit his mom wants to take him back to Kyoto in Japan. He can't drive because he has tic attacks that cause involuntary movement, and no one will teach me to drive. He wants to stay here but he has no way to afford living alone. I don't have the support of my mom and I don't know what to do. My birthday is in July and his is in October. I can't let him go. I've won his heart completely and he has mine.

Question: I have to see my parents at Thanksgiving and it opens up so much old wounds but I'm doing it for my son. How do I cope?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 09:26 AM PDT

I grew up in a narcissistic family system and I was the ignored child. I was not mistreated but I was not loved I was just in the other child category with two siblings that were adored and one sibling that was needed. My son wants to meet my parents though and I do want to allow him to as my father has terminal cancer.

Question: Was I wrong here?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 09:25 AM PDT

Recently one of my best friends started hanging out with a woman that my ex cheated on me with. I didn't have a problem with him befriending her because I thought he was interested in dating her. Turns out my best friend had a get together that I wasn't invited to but he invited her. I guess when she mentioned that she was still having sex with my ex he decided to invite my ex over to his house as well so that him and her could hook up. I was deeply hurt and felt betrayed by friend. My friend didn't understand because he said well the two of you aren't together anymore so what's the big deal. I introduced my friend to my ex and he'd only hung out with him when I was around. He knew how I felt about him cheating on me with with woman. It's one of the reasons him and I broke up and that was only 2 months ago. Me and my friend had a big falling out about it because he told me I was being stupid for being upset. So now, we aren't speaking. All of my friend tell me that I had a right to feel the way that I did and he was being insensitive and selfish. Was I wrong to be offended by this?

Question: Do I deserve this?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 09:05 AM PDT

I'm 18 and I have a sister who is 15 and I've always pick on her and I only do it because she's so annoying. My aunt always gets mad at me for picking on her but I can't stand her. I was at my aunts house with my sister and we were swimming in the pool and my aunt was sitting there watching over us. My brother started doing flips into the pool which I thought were terrible. I told her to get out of the pool for I can do a flip and my aunt looked angry. I did the flip and I got out of the pool and said that's how you do a flip. My aunt was laughing so hard and my sister was giggling. I was kinda of confused. My aunt takes her phone and takes a picture of me and says "looks like you're not such a big man after all". I looked down only to see my penis shrunk it looked baby sized. I ran inside to change while my sister said that's karma *****. Do I deserve this. I just want to yell at my aunt and sister so badly and call them out

Question: Is it immature or weird that I don't want to have my parents or other older people I know or family added on social media?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 07:30 AM PDT

I dont want them to see any pics or updates I post lol. Ive always been this way and my other friends arent this way so I'm wobdering if I'm wejrd or immature or what? I'm 22

Question: My mom is a cheater. What's your opinion?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 05:42 AM PDT

My mom cheats on every guy she meets after she gets bored of them. She cheated on my dad, then her boyfriend, and now her 2nd husband. Her and her recent husband split up because he found out so my mom is now with the guy she was cheating with. They're living together now. I know after a few years she will do the same to him. She says they were horrible, they never did anything with her, never gave her attention, did nothing a couple did and were just bad people. But I know that's false because my dad was always a nice guy. he has a girlfriend now and he never did anything bad to her, or to anyone I know. I feel bad for the people she gets into a relationship with. Whats your opinion on this? Should I do something.

Question: Can kids be taken away for this? (I just want to be sure)?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 05:37 AM PDT

Don't ask me why I'm asking this, and no I'm not the mother I'm talking about. But my question is, if a mother has two children and is in a relationship with a new man, because she divorced the father, and the stepfather sexually abuses the eldest child once, without the mother knowing anything about it, but when she found out the next day but just ran away from him to never see him again without reporting it, would the kids be taken away from her? It was happening at first in a car where the child was alone with him and continued when they arrived at his house in the bedroom where the kids were sleeping, and the mom was in their own bedroom at the other side of the hall. The mother and the younger child drove there in another car. He told the mother when they arrived at his home that he would be heading back to the show of their village where they were at. But she didn't knew he actually did not go back there but got into the other room. So if the kid (who's now 18 already instead of 11) wanted to report this to the police, would she and her sister be taken away from her?

Question: Should I let my sons decide whether I allow his father to see him anymore or not?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 04:49 AM PDT

I am divorcing my two sons' father. I don't think it is right for my sons to have affection for someone who I don't like. I have told them if their father really loved them then he'd have agreed to marriage counseling and changed his ways. So they are currently banned from any association with their father. However, when they get to be adults should I let them choose if they want to reconnect with their father? My anger might have subsided by then as they are only 9 and 11 right now. Or should I make it clear that them reconnecting with their father will be an insult to me? I have no plans to allow them to reach out while they are kids. My father has taken over the fatherly duties.

Question: My Dad and his brother had a fight when I was nine. It has been 30 years. What would I say if I reached out to my cousins (his kids)?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 04:39 AM PDT

My Dad cost me cousins as my Mom was an only child and my Dad's sister had no kids. My uncle had 6 kids and 5 of them are still alive. My Dad didn't even reach out when my uncle's son died 7 years after their fight though my mother sent a letter. What would I say if I reached out to my cousins? Do I apologize for my Dad's behavior? Will they resent me for loving my Dad? Their father is still alive I am told, my Dad died in March.

Question: Can kids be taken away for this?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 04:01 AM PDT

Don't ask me why I'm asking this, and no I'm not the mother I'm talking about. But my question is, if a mother has two children and is in a relationship with a new man, because she divorced the father, and the stepfather sexually abuses the eldest child once, without the mother knowing anything about it, but when she found out the next day but just ran away from him to never see him again without reporting it, would the kids be taken away from her? It was happening at first in a car where the child was alone with him and continued when they arrived at his house in the bedroom where the kids were sleeping, and the mom was in their own bedroom at the other side of the hall. The mother and the younger child drove there in another car. He told the mother when they arrived at his home that he would be heading back to the show of their village where they were at. But she didn't knew he actually did not go back there but got into the other room. So if the kid (who's now 18 already instead of 11) wanted to report this to the police, would she and her sister be taken away from her? The eldest might be 18, but her sister's only 15

Question: Why can you not pull two cpp pensions?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 03:49 AM PDT

My father recently passed away, and my mother has recently retired on a meagre pension from her employer. She is destitute, and needs money. Her financial advisor has pretty much maxed out on everything he can do, and he has told her she cannot apply for her cpp without losing that of my fathers. Why can she not receive benefits from both my fathers cpp and hers?

Question: Is an ex sister-in-law still the kids' aunt?

Posted: 03 Nov 2017 01:55 AM PDT

My husband has 3 siblings that are divorced, all had kids with their exes. So while they are now his ex siblings-in-law, they are still the parents of said nieces and nephews. So are they still called my kid's aunt/uncle? Someone told me that they are an ex-aunt, which doesn't make much sense to me. Just wondering is all...

Question: Is it appropriate for a teenager to be informed about the details of an adult's sex life?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 10:37 PM PDT

I found out my 15 year old girl knows the aspects of her 21 year old friend's boyfriend problems and what they did during sex, etc. Friends should be able to trust each other, but with this age gap... a mid-teen generally can't understand sexual relationships like these. This isn't teenage girl stuff we're talking about, it's problems that a college woman would have. In Canada, schools are required to educate about sex. As a parent, we discussed about her development and the basics of adulthood since her pre-teen years. Most of us complain to our friends. I don't think her friend is fully aware of how young she is compared to her. They sometimes treat each other as equals but there's a big difference between the girls.

Question: Will child welfare system do anything about parents who have sex in front of their children?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 10:12 PM PDT

I am worried about a 9 year old girl whose parents are doing sexual things in front of her. No violence or drugs are involved and the child meets her basic requirements. However, it's not appropriate for kids to know the details about an adult's sex life. Plenty of children are exposed to sex as lots of parents let them have free online access and it's often learned from friends - those aren't illegal at all. It seems different to me if two parents are performing sex right in front of the child. This girl shows no signs of abuse, but she shows behavioral problems. She seems to have a lack of right and wrong, may behave aggressively. It may just have to do with the lack of actual parenting, but I'm unsure. We live in Canada so laws may differ from the USA.

Question: How to get away from negative people?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 09:09 PM PDT

I live with negative people who bring me down and i'm the only one that they target. Not just the people who live with me but others surrounded by me. My sibling brings me down and tries to get others to join her. She kicks me when im already down. Whenever i am away on vacation or somewhere far away she says she misses me and won't stop messaging me, asking me where im at when i tell her no she keeps begging me and harrass me to tell her. My brother uses me to make himself look better by telling embarrassing stories and making fun of me when he is around others. I try to get away but they just keep following me and telling me they miss me.

Question: Is this wrong ?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 08:40 PM PDT

Me and my cousin have been dating 2 years I love her very much she's crazy obsessed with me. She has a daughter from a previous relationship me and her are having a baby next summer. I'm 21 she's almost 25. Is it wrong ?

Question: How to get out of a bad situation?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 08:34 PM PDT

I am 19 & am a current full time college student. I work part time & pay for everything on my own besides rent. I live just with my mother and she is a full blown bipolar alcoholic, who puts me through more stress & verbal/mental abuse you can imagine. I can move out into my stepdads home but his house is kind of in horrible conditions.(not that i am picky but its REALLY bad) I am trying to decide if I should take off school, to start somewhere full time & just get my own apartment, move in with my stepdad or stick it out with my mother. I need some serious advice please

Question: Needing someones advice? Should i be worried?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 08:21 PM PDT

I sent a gift to my friend. Turns out dumb me underestimated the money amount of the postage and she had to pay $3 out of pocket to the mail man. I feot absolutely terrible and i know its not the BIGGEST problem but it still bothered me. Our passed 3 phone calls these last 3 days shes brought it up, "ive never payed so much for a lollipop" "i cant believe he made me pay $3" I apologized on the phone and i said ill send you money! She said no nooo you dont have to! Dont send me anythinggg (in a joking way) she was like "you better nof send me anything!" so i sent it anyway. Along with a peice of paper with a happy face on it saying "don't hate me.. put this back in your (piggy) bank!" Fyi "don't hate me" is something we always say Is it bad that i sent it anyway? I was being respectufl or trying to

Question: My fiancée has leukemia and I want to know how I can be more supportive during this trying time?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 08:12 PM PDT

My fiancé and I live in Provo Utah, my fiancé moved here to get away from him s abusive amd toxic family. His saint of a mother moved to Utah to be near her only sane son after she was bought out from her home by his father. My fiancé and I love each other but his dad said that if he and I move back to Nashville he'll lease us a place to stay and he can get treated at several cancer treatment centers, I could get a job working in either Nashville or a surrounding town but his dad is abusive and his brother is mentally ill, so much to the point to where he had a double amputation for no reason. My fiancé has Chronic leukemia and I'm terrified about his health right now. His mother amd I are trying to convince my fiancé to stay in Utah because it might not be perfect but he'll be in a loving environment opposed to being with his dad and brother? How should I go about this. I want to provide more information in Utah we have the Huntsman cancer research institute, while in Nashville there is St. Thomas and Vanderbilt. I don't know what to do. His Dad said he will help with bills and insurance if we stay in Utah. His one brother is mentally unstable. How can I convince my fiancé that it's less stressful for him to stay in Utah and get treatment than to move to Nashville get stressed and that will affect his health.

Question: Why do my mom and dad like my sisters and brother more than me ?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 08:08 PM PDT

Ok I'm 5 years old I have a twin sister and a 3 year old sister and a 2 year old brother my mommy and daddy like them more than me they're always paying more attention to them. But I'm special I was named after my grandpa who died before I was born and my middle name is named came from my daddy. Why do they like them more than me ? What should I do ?

Question: How should I punish my daughter?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 08:05 PM PDT

She had a party last night and I promised to give them some privacy. When I came back home all I heard was his wet clapping and moaning sound. (They're 18). Fearing the wost I went halfway downstairs and walked into a huge orgy. It was terrifying. They were hanging out with these black boys that I had never met that were in their late twenties and early thirties. It was awful. I went upstairs and let them finish then when they came upstairs I told them to get them all out of the house NOW. Now my daughter hasn't been home since. How should I punish her?

Question: Me and my mom are constantly butting heads over this. Help?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 07:33 PM PDT

Okay so, i'm 15, a female, and i don't want kids ever in life. I know that i just don't have it in me to be a good mom, and that's not how i want to spend my life, anyway. I feel like I'm old enough to know what i want and where i'm going in life. I'm not changing my mind. She thinks otherwise because of some stupid dream that she had. If i took my dreams seriously, i would be thoroughly convinced that I will eventually turn into a vampire at some point in my life. I think she's being very ridiculous. She also believes that words "have power", and that if you say something over and over, it'll come true. So, I said, "I'm never going to be able to have children" and she got really mad, and was about to hit me! She's crazy! Why can't she just accept my decision and shut the hell up about it?! Just because i have a uterus, doesn't mean i have to use it! It's not like she pressures me about it or anything, but she'll say stuff like "When you have kids...." of "My grandchildren...". And i don't want her to be expecting something that'll never happen. I don't even like men, so it's not like i'm gonna meet "that special someone", and change my mind. In fact, it's not just men, i don't really like anyone to be quite honest. Any who, i plan on finding a doctor to remove my ovaries. I know that doctors won't so it as a preventive method, and that's okay, because i do have a medical reason: Extremely painful periods. It's unbearable, really. So, i talked to my mom about the procedure that i want done (partial hysterectomy) and she basically just mocked me and pissed me off really bad.

Question: Parent issues?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 07:31 PM PDT

I'm 15 and I have had some problems with my parents since I was 13.... They think that I dont tell them what's going on in my life and they say all I do is be on face time with my friends and listen to music.... At this age I really don't feel like talking. My parents and I fuss all the time its mainly my mom. She fuss I fuss back which I know is wrong. And we fuss about dumb stuff all the time. But I'm not gonna hush while she screaming at me. Then one time she went threw my phone (WHICH I DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CAUSE SHE PAY THE BILL) buh she saw that I had downloaded Instagram back when she said I needed to delete it she said I was disrespectful and she took it for like a month. Like I'm 15 can I not have Instagram, and we had a fight about that.... I barely talk to my parents its like we dont have the same interest no more. How can I stop the fussing and work on my self ?

Question: Should I let my aunt know that my cousin sexually assaulted me?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 07:26 PM PDT

My female cousin sexually assaulted me when I was about 5 or 6 years old. Now I'm 19 years old and I still remember what happened. Me and my mom were talking about it and she told me that I should tell my dad so he can talk to my aunt. I'm a female and she's also a female, so when it happened it was weird. It did affect me in my life.

Question: My Son is Gone?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 07:15 PM PDT

My son is 19. He graduated from high school last year. I purchased a beautiful home PC as he requested as a graduation gift. After purchasing a very expensive computer, I never heard from him again. I know he wants to be a rap star. I bet his mother told him that I do not support his love for rap music, which is a hellish lie. I support my son in everything he loves. He does not return my text messages and/or phone calls. I feel that I am a victim of parental alienation syndrome. If you are experiencing the same alienation or did at one time in your past, what is your advice to me? Is my son gone forever? What do you make of this situation? I last spoke to him by phone in June 2016.

Question: Victim of Parental Alienation?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 07:10 PM PDT

My son is 19. He graduated from high school last year. I purchased a beautiful home PC as he requested as a graduation gift. After purchasing a very expensive computer, I never heard from him again. I know he wants to be a rap star. I bet his mother told him that I do not support his love for rap music, which is a hellish lie. I support my son in everything he loves. He does not return my text messages and/or phone calls. I feel that I am a victim of parental alienation syndrome. If you are experiencing the same alienation or did at one time in your past, what is your advice to me? Is my son gone forever? What do you make of this situation? I last spoke to him by phone in June 2016.

Question: Is it normal for my mom to keep having sex when she knows I can hear her?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 07:04 PM PDT

Is it normal for my mom to keep having sex when she knows I can hear her? So recently my mom got a new boyfriend and it's horrible she's been doing it with him few time at night. (He doesn't live with her, cuz he's still married) ( ****** up i know) In past since she divorced my dad when I was 5 now im 21. She would keep having sex with new boyfriends. First time I witnessed it when I was 5. Eversince then I would cry everytime I heard her. And she would do it in the same room as I and my sister was sleeping. And after that time I had troubles falling asleep. Second time I heared I became mad I would run out of the room i was like 9 and more and times happened afterwards. Now im still living with her thank god seperate rooms. But I hear her... I tried talking she says she understands but she thinks just because I'm an adult now I don't care.. but I do I get enraged I start to tremble. I feel like someone is choking me.. I ran out of my room so many times in my childhood that I started to feel that she just doesn't care anymore.. and I'm not very sex active myself I see why.. I think this trauma is distroying my needs for pleasure. And I'm just 21.. can't wait to move from her .. how can I respect her when she doesn't understand.. I know shes a human too but.. the trauma just came back again.. the same bad feeling.. everytime it I hear her the feeling breaks me..

Question: Would you take in your cousin so they don`t end up on the streets?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:32 PM PDT

They have chronic fatigue & have no where to go.

Question: Are there any married people who can tell me what's it like to be married? I'm just curious.?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:30 PM PDT

I'm a junior in high school and I'm not you know planning to get married right after high school but maybe when I'm 28 or 29, or when I finish studying for being a general doctor, or I might adopt. ( I'm leaning towards adopting).

Question: I think my dad is a perv.?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:25 PM PDT

I hardly know how to start this. A couple of times, my dad told he he wished i wasn't his daughter; three guesses why: 3 little letters. My own dad wishes he could have sex with me. The 1st time he said this, my Mom was still alive. Sadly, my Mom passed away, Dec. 26th, of last year. Along with that, I finally got the nerve to tell him i had been molested when i was 12 (I'm 40 now); he made "jokes" of calling the jerk who molested me my "boyfriend." Along with all that, he treats me like I'm his personal slave. Nothing I do is ever good enough or right. I so wish I could leave. Please, please respond; I could really use some a sincere opinion about this. Thank you in advance.

Question: How do you deal with other family members fighting constantly?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:25 PM PDT

So my home life isn't the best. My parents clearly want to get divorced and my sister is constantly fighting with them over nothing. It's interfering with my grades, sleep, and social life, and I'm just trying to avoid it. Any advice?

Question: How do you deal with other family members fighting constantly?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:24 PM PDT

So my home life isn't the best. My parents clearly want to get divorced and my sister is constantly fighting with them over nothing. It's interfering with my grades, sleep, and social life, and I'm just trying to avoid it. Any advice?

Question: I want to go live out in the woods for about a while?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:17 PM PDT

But my dad would not understand if I told him. I'm 21 I just quit my job and I want to go live in the woods for a while but my dad calls me every day at least twice a day wondering where I am. When I'm at home if I leave the room to go to the bathroom for 5 minutes he comes looking for me. I just want to get away for a while. I was thinking about just leaving a note that says "lll be be back in a week" or something. Is this a bad idea? I'd be taking plenty of food to last me the whole week. And I'd just be going into the woods behind my house. How can I convince a friend to come?

Question: Will I regret quitting piano? [10 POINTS FOR BEST ANSWER]?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:00 PM PDT

I've been playing for 8 years now, and it's not very appealing anymore. I wouldn't say that I am very good at it though. My sister and I started at the same time, and she's very talented. For me, not so much. It's a bit sad, honestly.. Most of my family members look down on me just because I'm not as good as my cousin(s) (he's some sort of piano prodigy) or my sister. ('Cause she's younger than me.) I don't have much time to practice because of school work. My parents are upset with me because I don't practice. I just.. don't have the passion anymore. I can't express myself like I used to. I've always had a knack for art, so I'm thinking about taking some classes for that. But also, I don't want to let down my family because they've done so much for me. My dad spent way too much money on a grand piano and lessons. If I quit, all the money would be going down the drain. I would never forgive myself if I did quit, but I also want to be happy. What do you think I should do?

Question: How do I get my Dad to let me see my Mom's family over the holidays even though he doesn't like them?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 06:00 PM PDT

I really wish I could see them but he doesn't like them cause my Mom committed suicide and they said unkind things to him after. I am 14 and have cousins I haven't seen in a year.

Question: My sister is the worst person ever. She is 22. After age 20 is there no chance at this point of her changing?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 05:59 PM PDT

I used to think she'd grow up, now I just see she is all bad. Our Mom spoils her and never enforced punishments with us (any of her 4 kids). This sister was bad so never learned, the rest of us were good. If our Dad punished her, our Mom lifted the punishment if my sister bitched enough. So is there no hope for her to change?

Question: I'm so depressed ?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 05:57 PM PDT

I've been so so depressed ever since that I came into the US. I feel like my life is mixed up and it's not like the others. I have so much in my head, school,love,beauty,future everything and it's stressing me out. For school, I didn't do my freshman year so I have to take exams for every class that I missed for credit while doing my sophomore year. I honestly don't know what to do to make my life better and nobody even understands me not even my mom wants to listen to me. I want to go back to the country of my family but I can't right now because of my dad and he says that school over there is poor. What I decided to do was finish my high years since I'm almost done and do 2 years of college with an associates degree and then go back. For love, I don't understand anything at all. When I arrived in the US, he told me he loved me and then 2 weeks later he talks to me about the same girl that he really loves but the girl has other boyfriends and I dont think she's interested in him . When we were talking I would tell him that I love him everytime we were finished texting but he wouldn't say it back like before. Now we don't talk and he desintalled Messenger so I dont think he has any interest in talking to me. I'm trying to convince myself that he's probably busy with school. Then my beauty, I don't feel beautiful. I have skin discoloration( I have brown and light brown patches) and my little brother and sisters always calls me ugly.

Question: Is it bad If i confront my parents about my future?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 05:50 PM PDT

So basically my mom asks me the same thing, what do you wanna do when you get older? I give her the same answer "Business" every time she asks me and she asks me every other day. Then my mom told my dad to ask me and the same conversation happened. But this time Im arguing with them saying that "they are thinking short term and they aren't thinking of how my life will be when they aren't here cause everyone doesn't live forever". My parents want me to major in something THEY like not something I like. I also told them that If they want me to be something so bad and I end up being that and then when they're "not here" and I dont enjoy doing it anymore Ima be in a tight situation because Im going to have to find a whole new career. Is it wrong that I'm telling them this? I feel very bad when I have to confront them like that but Im looking out for my long term future.

Question: What the crap is with my last name?

Posted: 02 Nov 2017 05:16 PM PDT

So, my entire life I was raised as Jennings and told that was my last name since forever. My mom's maiden name was Bond and my mom had children with 3 men. One was a Jennings, one was a Stokes, one was a Tapp. I have a little sister from tap and a older brother from Jennings, would that count me as all of them by a little bit of blood? BTW, I am from Stokes but go by Jennings, Stokes left while my mom was pregnant with me and I thought for years I was a Jennings since that's what's on my birth certificate and so I was under the impression I am, I was wondering if I still share blood to them