I'm 23 yrs old and I realize that though I get infatuated with men, its very hard or nearly impossible for me to fall in love with anyone. Been out on blind date with 8 guys and still fell for no one. Almost every one of them really liked me but I just end up liking them platonically. I never had a crush ever since I was 11 yrs old. And I won't be surprised if I end up being single by the time I'm 35. So my plan is to marry someone whom I admire, not necessarily completely in love with. Just wanna settle down with a house and family. My life goal is to have children. I would be unfulfilled without my own kids. Maybe some years down the road, I would learn to fall in love with my future spouse just like many arranged marriage couples do.

The sex of either of us is irrelevant. I've been dating a divorcee single parent for over a year. This person has been putting pressure on me to move in because they are having problems paying their bills however they hasn't discussed or committed to marriage with me and want to live together first. Their children are still young and have already been through one fairly recent divorce. This person is struggling to pay their bills and are looking for childcare which they can't afford. I have a good job but work almost an hour away from them. I also have a house paid off bill free and in good credit with money saved. This person often complains abou not having enough friends and has been wanting to meet my friends but often inquires about friends of mine who are doctors and lawyers. I haven't introduced them to this person. Ex aide I wonder their motives. Is this person a user and should I be cautious? They don't want to compromise when it comes to living together and I would be required to move into their place even though it's not convienient for me but is for them and their kids.

Been with my man for 5 years. He loves his family and since i've been dating him we've always had to go on big family event trips - it could be someone's anniversary, someone's wedding, a family member who was diagnosed with an illness so she threw a big party - all have been out of state. It's important andI support him but sometimes I feel like it's too much. Instead of saving up for our own trips, we prioritize the family trips. Next year, his aunt is having a 25th anniversary and another aunt is having a wedding out of the country - where things are NOT safe to go right now. On top of that, my sister is graduating from grad school and I can't miss that. How does he expect us to go on all these trips yet save for a house and wedding? It's like we have to put our own dreams aside to make other people happy. He said growing up, his family was the only one who missed out on these family events and now that he's older & can afford it, he'll go. He also has marriage on his mind but how can we do this? Also with the international trip, he was not planning on it initially but somehow he was convinced after seeing his family (not his parents) who was maybe thinking of going, now he wants to. He said these are big lifetime trips with the family we can't miss and when they aren't happening, we can focus on us but there always seems to be a trip.... help... I may have to pull the big guns and talk to his grandma to plant the seed. She (like everyone else has been asking when we would be married).Of course, in our time but how can we save if we're going on all these vacations? I guess i'd have to tell her it'll be a while until we get married bc he wants to go on all these trips...

OK , First, I totally understand he does work hard ( 7-12 hour days) , and I am the stay at home gf/mom . I cook , clean EVERYTHING, even his messes , laundry and including his dishes ( we have no dishwasher ) Trust me I want to work, but we're waiting for our 4 year old to start pre K in august..she had potty training issues, but she finally is going on the potty..anyways, okay so I asked him nicely, if he could just please pick up his clothes and just rinse his plate in the sink, play with his daughter at least one day while I clean or go do an errand, something to get out. HE wont , he just throws his clothes on the ground and even the towels...ok , i get you tired and just want to lay down , so ill let you do that..but he never helps at all..alll he does , is just yells back.oh fine I work all day and you expect me to clean everything ( I never said clean the whole house, just help pick up ) Throw your load of laundry in, but nope , he refuses ...no im not being rude to him < he wont talk to me, I tried . So there were a couple days where the house was a mess , and his sisters happened to see it ..and i automatically get blamed ( they didnt yell at me but later on) They think I am lazy , and today i got a very RUDE AND MEAN text from one of the sisters..saying to leave my brothers name out of this, he does everything for you , you are a lazy stupid child..she is threatening to beat me up , cus I got angry one day and yelled ...I havnt replied back , cus i am scared ALSO, he drinks about 5 days a week with this co workers in the back yard and stays up late... I spent literally 6 hours today straight up cleaning and organizing , but she calls me lazy : (

back story: We were in relationship for over 2 years when I got preggy. MIL &I were really close.When I decided to become catholic,she became my sponsor. baby is 9 months& when he was 1 month the doc was saying he should get bath a night to get him in routine.I told her & but she kept bathing him everyday and I eventually had it an we got in fight. She said she grandma so she can do whatever she want.I told her if she cant respect that then I cant trust her. so she decided to refuse to ever let me inside her house again.I tried to make up with her, she slammed door in my face before I even spoke. It got to the point where baby daddy &I broke up. And since then I'll admit I can be very rude towards her bc she refuses to speak. She said she doesnt care if its even an emergency with my son, regards to seeing him, etc.(BD lives with his mom &I ended up getting a lawyer bc I couldnt deal with her wanting to control visitation& everything). Tuesday I was picking up son& she was outside, i said hi & she ran into her house. When BD went inside, I saw her by door and said hi again, she walked away.then friday I went to drop off her daughters bday present at the party & I said hi. She started walking away& made a swishing away motion with her hand. I decided to follow her &say hi 3 more times.nothing. I went right in front of her &said hello. She said hello& walked away.she likes to use my age against me since Im 21& she 40. If someone can give me advice on how to deal with her please

Me and my wife recently went on a holiday. I had transfered some of our savings to spend on the trip. She told me to not spend the savings. I lied about not spending them and spent them on the trip. I didn t tell her as I m the breadwinner and manage our money. When she found out she threw a temper tantrum, screamed at me and physically attacked me. Now she tells me that she don t trust me and want access to all the money i make. I tried to tell her that I m not comfortable with this. new temper tantrum.. I agree to give her access just to shut her up.. next day i thought she forgot, then she tells me to give her access. I say no, new tantrum.. she attacks me, screams, leaves the flat.. Every time she tells me she will divorce me if i don t do what she says. How do i tell her that she got no business snooping around my bank account and she need to trust that we got as much money as i tell her. ?

My wife is about maybe 40 pounds overweight and she's very self conscious about it. I'm muscular and athletic and she is very attracted to my body type. Like most guys, I too find the thin, in-shape woman attractive, but I looked past any physical traits and fell absolutely in love with her. Love is more than physical traits. When we got married, I told her I don't care about her having a perfect body and I honestly don't. However, she is still very self conscious about it, while I don't really care about her belly fat, etc. I put my money where my mouth is and make love to her as often as I can and with with the utmost genuine enthusiasm. I put all my effort into pleasuring her sexually and give myself to her as often as she desires. I buy her plus size lingerie to feel sexy, I let her tie me down to our bed and have her way with me anytime she wants (something she likes to do), and I have even stopped masturbating at her request (because it makes her feel unattractive) even when we go a week without sex. Doing that has made me want her even more. My hope is that she can realize that yes, I love her and yes, I can be attracted to her regardless of her weight or body type/image. Is there anything else I can do to help her feel loved, improve her self image, and get her through the stupid comments she sometimes hears from friends or family about how different our bodies look?

I'm recently divorced, and my ex wife testified in court that she's unemployed, when she does in fact have a job. She told me that she works under the table for a senior home clinic as a CNA, but I know those jobs don't pay under the table. How can I investigate her so that I can report her job to the friend of the court? She's trying to get as much child support as possible out of me, and it's unfair.

I am divorced with two young children. It is unreasonable to want the man Ive been dating for two years to move in soon. He has a good relationship with my kids however they are young (3 and 5) and dont sleep well and act out and require a lot obviously. He does not want to move in because the kids are os young still and wants to wait until they are older. Plus he says since he met me soon after my divorce I should focus on my kids for now. But I need help paying my bills and cant afford my house payments plus I need some help with the kids. Should I dump him for not wanting to move in soon?

My husband and I could not be more different.. he is 6'1 tattooed everywhere from head to toe of honestly what looks like our 16 month old colored on him with color crayon...But hey who am I to judge i'm 5'8 usually purple or pink short hair... He is the quite one and im the loud one.. I guess what is wrong with interracial marriage? Everywhere we go he is called my boyfriend (we get pulled over by border patrol..) "does your boyfriend have id?" my response is yes my husbands does matter of fact his name is listed on the insurance papers in your hand.. I just want to others to treat us like we are anyone else... he gets upset with me im worse than mary poppins i cant lie i just cant you have to remember lies not the truth.. so please please stop harassing us just ask me.. im tired and want my family happy.. we are not bad people

My spouse started filing divorce first. And for last 2 weeks, i said i am sorry and i asked to work it on and fix our problem. I got no clear msg..i called and texted and left msgs facebook,kik,skype. Got no msg. Finally i accept it is what he wants so i have to let him go. And that night, to forget or to remember for whatever reason. I had one night stand sex with strange man. And i met anothet man that week. And now..my ex to be knows it and got so upset and blames me i cheat on him and commit adultery blah blah.. What did i do wrong?

Personally, beyond the difficulty in and fallout from trying to convince a prospective spouse who is not acquainted with the law, I see them as practical. Relationships take a lot of effort, but sometimes circumstances arise that are so far beyond the horizon of conceivability. They're as much to protect oneself as they are to protect the other. That or a semester of California Community Property has indoctrinated me. Though... I still can't stand CA's "no fault" rules. ugh.

My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs and married for 4. 3 months ago my husband shared some painful information with me that I cannot seem to shake. Before he and I met, there was a girl I was friends with for about a month before she moved away for college. She and my husband apparently dated and were quite intimate with eachother. I knew that they had dated before, but he left out the intimacy part specifically and it recently came up in an arguement. I had asked him before we started getting serious, how far things had gone with her because I have my own personal rule about not sleeping with friends left overs. He told me that there was nothing more than light kissing. When I confronted him about leaving out the intimacy details, he became super offensive and blamed me for not remembering that he told me this already. I know for a fact that he never did otherwise I would have never continued our relationship. Now here I am 7 years of being with who I thought was the man of my dreams, and now I feel so betrayed. I feel like our marriage is based on a lie and that he cannot be trusted. After a big fight about this, His words were, "I didn't tell you because I knew how you would react, so I waited until i thought you could handle it maturely." So what else is there that he's not telling me until I am mature enough for It? We have a 8 month old daughter and I don't want to desolve our marriage as I know how hard that is on children. What should I do?

So is it okay for someone to watch porn right before having sex with you? The porn is not mutual