Family: Question: Why is my grandma like this to me?

Question: Why is my grandma like this to me?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 01:26 PM PDT

I'm an 11 year old girl. I have a grandma that comes to my house for the whole summer. I used to be okay with it, but she has gone way too far. She's bossy, strict, nosy, unfair, and pretty rude to me. I am respectful to her and appreciate her, but she just argues with me, yells at me sometimes and calls me names. She says I don't have manners, don't treat her with respect, and just today called me a sarcastic little bit**. I hate it and she did it just because I told her that I'm not bad at geography. I don't know what to do and my brothers ignore it and my parents are on vacation til Sunday. Why is my grandma like this to me and what shoukd I do? She also ignores me and calls me a smart a**.

Question: I'm 14 and my sister is 22 why can she take my phone away and I can't take hers away? I should be allowed to take hers.?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 01:14 PM PDT

- She takes it away all the time for no reason. - Can i take hers? - My dad always says he dosent want to hear it. - This is so unfair.

Question: I'm 14 and my sister is 22 She always calls me a baby and a crybaby which is rude I ask her to stop and she won't My parents don't even care?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 01:05 PM PDT

- How do I get her to stop? - Why does she think I'm a baby and a cry baby? -

Question: I hate my mom!!! ,?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 12:52 PM PDT

She's such a bad mom. She always yells at me. When I tell her to stop talking to me she yells. She threw a toy car at me right now. I'm crying. I don't want to report her because I have a little brother. I am 14 by the way. She's always yelling she's a *****. I hate her. She's so annoying. I can't stand her and she never helps me. I hate her so much. She hits me and yells at me all the time. What can I do?? I've tried talking to her before but she never understands and thinks I'm blaming her. 😤 I just want to die and go see god I'll be happier.

Question: How can I get my little sister put in a behavioral correction center (something like scared straight?)?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 12:50 PM PDT

My little sister is a nuisance. She is absolutely disgusting. She gets awful grades in school, and not only that but she is incredibly violent. She had stolen my clothes to wear to school (very revealing clothes) when I confronted her about it she got angry and started hitting me. She took a bag and started beating me with it (they left welts all over my arms) Then she starts punching me all over my body. She then starts chasing me with various heavy objects and start swinging them at me. Not to mention she hangs out with the "wrong crowd" and everything. All this and she's only 11 years old. I want her to learn how the real world won't tolerate this nonsense. How do I get her to a behavioral correction center?

Question: When do most moms stop being naked around their daughters?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 11:49 AM PDT

My wife sometimes showers or gets dressed in front of our daughters who are 10 and 13. I find this to be a little inappropriate, but neither she nor the girls mind.

Question: Can my brothers girlfriend move out of state with their baby?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 11:10 AM PDT

My brother and his girlfriend are having trouble and she is going to move back to her moms in Ohio. They live in Alabama at the moment. There is no way he can go to Ohio with her and she wants to take the baby and doesn't want to let him be a part of the kids life. She is only doing it because she can. She sleeps all day and has our mom take care of the baby until my brother gets home from work and then he has to tend to her because in quote "I have had her all day and you haven't spent any time with our daughter". They live with my mom at the moment. Is it legal for her to take his daughter away. She doesn't abuse the baby but she does yell at her and I have seen her myself push her across the room in her walker thing out of frustration because she was getting into a drawer. The baby will be 8 months this month on the 23rd. Myself don't believe the kid is old enough to be whipped and punished but I haven't had a kid yet either. So can the mom legally move back to Ohio if my brother doesn't agree. The baby has his last name

Question: How can i forget what my mom used to do ?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 10:31 AM PDT

when i was young (7~13 yo) my mom used to get mad at me for nonsense , like even when i just dun do homework or fight with my younger brother like normal siblings fight , she would scream at me and cry hystericaly , call me names start slapping herself and promising me she would leave home and never comeback , even tho she've had no problems with my dad at home that would make her crazy or smth , she would stop the crying when she beats the **** out of me . i think i have a problem cause everytime i remember that i start crying or have the feeling to cry , i also feel like my throat is dry and can't breath , even tho i dun live with my parents anymore , i live in another country which is 19 hours flight from home . i would like to forget all the things that my mom have done , some people told me to not talk to her anymore , but i cannot i love her she is my mom , i wanna forgive her soo bad and i do , but everytime i remember what happened i have this bad feeling again .... what should i do ?

Question: My dad has never helped my mother and I financially what do i do?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 10:12 AM PDT

My mums been a single mother for 10 years As stated above he never has, now that my mother and I desperately need financial help due to rent and bills we don t know what to do. Ive asked him a couple of times but he refuses to help. I know he has money but i just need some advice on how i can legally get him to take his responsibility. He has never given my pocket money or taken the responsibility of being a father. What do i do. Im 19 btw

Question: How Can I Ignore My Brother?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 09:57 AM PDT

First off, I hate kids. All of them. I don't care whether they're related to me or not. I've despised children since I was a child myself and that hasn't changed. I'm almost 19 now and just looking at children disgusts me. Their voices irk me. They're so ******* annoying and I want nothing to do with them. Ever. My half-brother turns 10 this month. There was a point in time to where I liked him and that was before he could talk. After he turned four, I wanted nothing to do with him. He's a smartass little ****. He gets away with pretty much everything and gets little discipline. It pisses me off. And when he's acting up, somehow I get scolded despite my age. I get nagged to spend time with him and it pisses me off since I don't even like him. It's boring too since although we like the same things, they are still different. Like he plays the Lego video games which I don't enjoy. I play more mature games like Fallout. He likes anime but the basic Pokemon stuff while I enjoy things like Black Butler and Attack on Titan. I'm visiting my dad next month which means I have to face my brother and he pressured to spend time with him. He doesn't respect me as an authority and I don't know what to do. I'm sure I'll get hate for this, but how can I ignore/avoid him without making it obvious? I know society expects me to love my brother but I just don't. All answers appreciated.

Question: Mothers, how's your relationship with your son in law?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 09:47 AM PDT

(Superficially) friendly but distance? Close? Downright hostile? Mine's the first. It hurts my feelings that my S-I-L doesn't trust me. When he started dating my daughter, I got overprotective and questioned his motive. He's a few years younger than my daughter (who, when they first went out, was pregnant with her former fiance). I believed at that time that men do not date older women pregnant with another man's child except if he wants something else (my daughter already had a good career and S-I-L was still in university). Anyway I've admitted I was wrong. However, he never gets close to me as he does with my husband and sons. In family functions we're being polite to each other, but that's about all. Recently, my oldest grandson (S-I-L's stepson) asked me why I don't like his (step)father. I don't know where he picks that up, as I'm always being nice to S-I-L. It saddens me and I feel blamed. Anyone with difficult relationship with S-I-L/ D-I-L? How did you mend fences? How long does it take until all's truly forgiven and forgotten?

Question: Getting scared of leaving my mother.. please read. Any help or advice is greatly apprecited.?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 09:34 AM PDT

So here goes.. I m a 22 year old female. I m about to move out in the next couple of months and go to BMT. (Joining Air Force) I m an only child and me and my mother have always been like best friends, literally. We do everything together. We share such a great bond. I know I am getting older and have to leave at some point, but it just gives me anxiety thinking about having to leave her soon? My parents divorced 3 years ago.. so me and her bought a house and moved in together. She has a boyfriend.. and my dog will also be staying with her. But I just worry about her being alone, and I know she will feel lost for awhile. Is there any advice for me and her on how to cope with me leaving soon? If you ve been in the military and understand exactly what I m talking about.. I would love to also hear your response and advice. TIA.

Question: Is it okay to not let my mom know everything?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 08:45 AM PDT

So I'm 24 years old. I'm independent meaning I live on my own and I have a car and I have a career as a school teacher. However, my mom can be a helicopter mom sometimes. And sometimes I don't want to tell her everything that is going on with me all the time, like relationships, financial stuff etc. I feel bad that I don't tell her everything but she's not always the most positive person to talk to which is a big reason why I don't tell her everything. I went out of town with a guy friend and I didn't let her know because I didn't want to hear her mouth and there's just other things in general that I don't let her know. Should I feel bad? Is it okay to not let her know everything? Most of my friends and family thinks that she just needs to let me grow up and stop babying me and I agree but I never want to hurt her feelings because she's a great mom, she's just overbearing sometimes. I feel like even though I have my own place and I am making my own money, I feel like I'm still at home sometimes living under her rules! Please help! I really need to feel better! lol

Question: Jordan S and Pearl L are dating?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 08:33 AM PDT

Question: My adult sister is very overbearing and demanding to my parents and I. how to deal?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 08:31 AM PDT

I am 25 and my sister is a few years older. I've dealt with her my whole life, but am reaching a point where I am exhausted. She is very controlling over me, steals my clothes and never returns them and lies frequently. She yells at both my parents and I and makes us do things for her. She is very demanding and tells us we can't do things. The most recent comment was "you all think you can become a runner like me? Try I dare you." It has become very unpleasant and all of us are unhappy. We have confronted her numerous times to stop, and she tells us what we want to hear but does the opposite. I think the worst part of all of this is her friends and people she's trying to impress she treats completely differently. She will respect them and hide the way she treats us. I've given up on trying to change her as she's the only one who can change herself. I also don't want to stop talking to her because she is still my sister and I care. We just feel she is somehow going to learn the hard way, but if any of you have experience dealing with something like this, please feel free to give advice.

Question: Sister only wants me around her kids for birthday parties and holidays?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 07:57 AM PDT

My sister has a son and duaghter(my niece and nephew)however she never invites me to spend time with them or seen them unless she is throwing them a birthday party or it's the holidays. I would like to have more of a relationship with my niece and nephew and have expressed this to her but she never calls or texts to try and make plans and I have stopped texting her trying to make plans because she's always busy. What should I do? My mother who is a narcissist has more of a relationship with them than I do. What should I do?

Question: Isn't it extra important these days for new Dads to help out moms with the kids than years ago?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 07:26 AM PDT

I came to this conclusion as a dad. It's harder for 1-income households with stay at home spouse to make ends meet with today's living standards and costs of living than years ago. This means it is not shameful to either choose 2-income household and live up to standard, vs go down to 1 income and live on an extremely tight budget. It's not shameful to opt for the former these days. But as a dad, I think it's vitally important to recognize an extra dad responsibility that would be more pronounced than years ago. If spouse is working, the father in turn SHOULD do more diapering, more bathing, more of the cleanup, more of the grocery shopping, not just because it is the right thing to do, but also that by not pulling this weight, it's blatantly disproportionate efforts being made by mom ...on top of working .... And this uneven give and take can sour any family relationship. As a dad, I believe strongly you are saving your family by agreeing to do this extra responsibility, as second Highest priority to keeping your day job.

Question: Why is my father a dumbb beaner that can't read nothing ,?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 07:11 AM PDT

Question: MIL visits from out of state stays at my parents house cause it s bigger. How do I get quiet alone time with my baby?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 06:23 AM PDT

She stays at my house early morning till late evening.

Question: Anything I do to my little sister my mom makes it a big deal and sometimes calls the police. She is mentally ill but not diagnosed?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 05:46 AM PDT

Is this just my family? If my little sister throws something at me and I throw it back? I did soemthijg wrong. If my little sister is being annoying and I tell her to shut up? My mom tells me that I should shut up. If I slap my sister (softly) after she hit me or is being annoying? I'm wrong. My mom has not life and makes her life watching me and making sure I don't do anything wrong according to her and wrong according to her is dumb **** like not shutting something all the way. Are other households the same?

Question: When I was about 8 years old I witnessed my mother stab my older sister in the arm.?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 05:43 AM PDT

She made her say she cut her arm on a loose piece of metal, they believed it. I'm 17 and I still live with her. She has health's problems and only agrees she does when she says "yeah I do so you better..." and uses it like it's a good thing for her. Today my little sister threw sharp pieces of metal at me after I told her not to and then I sat on one so I went up to her and slapped her softly in the face and then she started crying and sayed I hit her eye 🙄. Anything I do my mom wants to call the police. My question is, can I press charges on her for stabbing my older sister? If she ever gets me arrested I will be doing this but I first want to know if I can, still.

Question: Should 16 year old couple be allowed to be alone?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 05:14 AM PDT

My bf and i are 16/ turning 17 very soon. I go to his house often where he has an upstairs living room that leads to his bathroom and bedroom. We hang out up there because there is more privacy and theres a tv and video games. His bedroom is always shut and we do not go in there. His parents usually look up the stairs or walk up there to check up on us. But the last time i came over, they said we have to stay downstairs in the living room in front of them. I feel like this might be because they are afraid we will have sex, but we have openly discussed how we are no where near ready. We occasionally kiss but nothing else. Its just embarrassing sitting there with his family constantly in the room. What are your opinions and should we be allowed to be in privacy?

Question: My Dad is a ignorant liar and doesn't see the damage he does to others. How do I stop feeling so mad at him for failing me in life?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 04:54 AM PDT

Question: My mom is pisses me off?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 04:46 AM PDT

She just going to throw my stuff into the wall just because i refused to wear something. She let me wear some childish stuff like kids stuff. Im 14 for **** sack. Im not being disrespect but i dont want to be pick on when im going to summer school. Now i have to clean up my room for an hour when i back home.

Question: My sister is having a seizure while breast pumping should I cover her boobs or hold them? I am a guy.?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 04:26 AM PDT

Question: Should I try to keep my brother and SIL from moving out yet?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 04:06 AM PDT

My brother and his wife have been married for about 1 year. Neither had a job when they got married and both are still in college, so my parents turned the downstairs into an apartment for them. No one goes down there without their permission, and they only have to pay for gas for my bro's car, food when they eat out, and their stuff for college; my parents pay for everything else. My brother got a part-time job about 8 months ago, and my SIL got one a few weeks ago. She is adamant that they move out ASAP. They have 1 car and she doesn't have a license, so if they don't get a place in the city, she's going to be stranded at the house unless he drives her or someone comes to get her. The places in the city that are in their budget are in a rather icky neighborhood. I suggested that they wait a little longer until she can drive and save their money for a second car first, but she claims that living with my parents is bad for her health and is giving her anxiety. I don't live there, but I knew she and my sister were having issues--my sister is a teenager and still wants to spend time with her older brother who she considers her best friend while SIL wants him to spend his time at home with her--but my parents have bent over backwards to accommodate her (my SIL). Neither my brother or SIL have ever lived on their own. Advice?

Question: Should I tell my dad I don't want to move?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 02:21 AM PDT

My dad wants to move to another state but I don't want to. I just turned 20 and my immediate family which includes my dad, my sibling and me are really close. I am very financially dependent on my father to the point of him paying for basically everything except my person care type products. Because of this I feel like I'm a pretty heavy burden on him and it's even worse that I haven't even gotten my associate's in school so I can start my career yet. My dependency on him as well as him being pretty controlling and overbearing has me worried on how to tell him that I don't want to move and what would happen if I do. I really don't want to move away from my friends, family , or my college and go to another state. I guess this really just me venting but I feel like it'd be nice to get some advice from strangers who might have some experiences that would help me.

Question: How do I warn my bro and SIL that they are about to make a mistake?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 01:51 AM PDT

My bro and SIL have been married about a year. Neither had a job when they got married, so my parents converted the lower half of the house into an apartment of sorts; they only have to come upstairs for food. My brother has had a part-time job for about 8 months and my SIL just got a part-time job. They have 1 car and are both still in college. My parents pay most of their living expenses at this point: food, water, electricity, insurance, etc. They're just responsible for the gas in my bro's car, their food if they eat out, and their books for school. My sister and SIL haven't gotten along since my bro and SIL got back from the honeymoon. My SIL has been pushing to move out, but until now, they haven't had the means. She thinks that now that she has a part-time job, they can afford an apartment. The only ones in their price range are outside town (meaning she'll be stranded if he isn't there to drive her places) or in a really nasty part of town. Neither of them has lived on their own before, and I don't think they're ready. Is there a tactful way to warn them before they do something they'll probably regret, or should I just let them do this?

Question: Nobody is coming to my Graduation?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 12:22 AM PDT

So long story short, my mom left me a long time ago and ny dad currently live somewhere else. I've live with only my stepmom for the past few years and we don't love each other. We never do anything together. It was always a hit or miss kind of relationship. Basically that's my quick background. Tomorrow I'm graduating high school but I'm depressed since the only person coming is my step mom. I felt sad knowing a lot of people have a lot of people in their family coming to their graduation and they all care about them. It make me feel sad and depressed since nobody cares about me and I'm so lonely. I've always feel this way for years but now I realize I'm graduating which makes me feel worst about this. I know I shouldn't feel sad the night before graduation. I just need someone advice to cheer me up. Please no rude comments.

Question: What do you say to someone younger than you who is constantly telling people to grow up?

Posted: 08 Jun 2017 12:21 AM PDT

I need a really good line to shut up a younger relative (early 20's) who has taken to go around telling everyone they are immature or need to grow up. People aren't necessarily immature or need to grow up, they are just being normal or working out serious problems but this girl is driving everyone nuts with her obnoxious comments. Her mom should really say something to her but she doesn't. And trust me, this little girl is no shining example of maturity. She's obnoxious.

Question: Is this dumb? Is t weird we are friends with such an age difference?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 11:57 PM PDT

I'm 20 and I have a lot of friends but I have much older friend who is in her 60's (I hope that's not weird) she's helped me through a lot of hard times, were extremely close, she's an amazing friend to have. Her mom died last year and it's about to be the 1 year mark since then, she's going to be so upset this month. She got a new pool recently and I was thinking, what if I wrote a short sweet hand written letter and sent it to her along with a new comfy pool (chair) float. Just to boost her spirits a tiny bit.. Would that be weird? A young kid sending her a fun pool float?

Question: Borderline Personality Disorder Mother?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 10:32 PM PDT

To try and keep this simple, my mother is an alcoholic. I found out when she was in rehab (the most recent time), her psychologist had diagnosed her with borderline personality disorder. Two months ago I found out I was pregnant. My mom convinced me that my boyfriend and myself should move into a house with her and help pay rent until we could afford our own place. Thinking it was a good idea, we quit our jobs, packed up our entire lives up and moved four hours away to live with my mom. The area we moved to jobs were far and few between & we were applying everywhere we could. Two weeks went by and we hadn't had a single bite for either of us. My mom would hound him every single day asking him if he had found anything, and when he told her not yet, she would say "he needs to get his **** together". Now, she was the one that convinced us to quit our jobs, move up there and "get settled and try to find jobs as quickly as you can". But that wasn't good enough for her. She kicked us out. Her pregnant daughter and her boyfriend that just picked up their lives to move in with her when she was the one who convinced us to do so. She also badmouthed my boyfriend to her whole family saying he's going to be a lowlife father because he hadn't found a job and left a beer by the grill. No one in my family can see her ways but me and my sister. I haven't talked to her since we left. Should I give her another chance? Or should I cut her off completely from mine and my child's life?

Question: Can my mom take my sisters son?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 10:25 PM PDT

My sister is being abused by her boyfriend/baby daddy to second son who is a baby and her first son is 2 almost 3 and both of the kids have been caught in the middle of a physical fight. (Have been hit by a throwed object and gotten punched in the head) The first son is the one we wanna take. My sister doesn't work with him, pays more attention to the baby, he has a little to none amount of words he can say and is picking up habits from the abusive boyfriend. He screams every time someone begins to speak a little too loud and hits and punches for no reason. (He will just run up to you and hit on you) My mom is in good health and can offord him. She went to either jail or prison before but any of it was 7+ years ago. I'm 16 so I can't adopt him but. I work and pay attention to him more than she has. They live in Oklahoma and we just moved to North Dakota. I DO NOT want them to go to Child Services either. Please tell me how we can help.

Question: My mom is dating a women and i feel very uncomfortable about the situation?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 10:17 PM PDT

I'm 18 and my mom has recently started dating a women. My mom has been very open with me about her sexuality and she expressed to me that she is starting back to grow a interest for women which I'm perfectly fine with. However i didn't think that after divorcing my dad literally 4 months ago that she would move on so fast and I'm very uncomfortable with the situation.. She's kinda forcing her girlfriend on to me like asking me to call her mom and wanting me to build a relationship with her it's all overwhelming and my mom recently got upset with me because two weeks ago she wanted me to invite her girlfriend to my graduation in which i told her no out of respect for my dad now yesterday she tells me her girlfriend needs to stay with us for a few weeks and everyone knows that weeks will turn into months and I'm not really comfortable living with a stranger because i barely met this lady 3 weeks ago and my mom met her 2 months ago! I then told my mom i might go live with my dad and now she thinks i don't like her because she's lesbian which is not the case i love my mom alot and i want to see her and my dad both happy but i just don't know how to tell her that im not comfortable with her girlfriend living with us without her thinking i have something against gays or something?

Question: Im a 14 year old boy and don t like to spend time with family?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 09:59 PM PDT

I m a 14 year old boy and i m soon going to become 15 in September. My family loves me. And I love them. They care for me and joke around but sometimes I get really annoyed and I just want to be left alone but they never listen. I m also a momma s boy so my mom never understands what i m going through. My family is the type of family who don t let me stay up late of go out which really bothers me. Soon i m going to be a sophomore in highschool but the problem is that I failed geometry. but my dad is hard on me and he says "dont fail" or for example I was at my cousin s house the other day and we were talking about jobs. My aunt from my dad s side who came over from another country asked my cousin what he was majoring in, he said computer engineering, as soon as he said that my dad looked at me and repeatedly asked "what are you going to be?" I became awkard and left the table. Whenever this happens I die inside and i tell myself "why am I living with these people? everyone in successful and i m the first failure. i m just a body to take care of and feed." Now that that s out of the way, I m the type of guy who sits on the computer for more than 4 hours and I LOVE to hang out with friends. What I don t understand is that how can other teens my age love their family so much? I see it all over social media. As soon as I learn to drive i m moving away from my family.

Question: I Made My Mom Cry And I Feel Bad?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 08:44 PM PDT

So I'm a 20 year old guy turning 21 in a couple of months and still living at home with my parents. The thing is I want to move out. I feel like I don't have much freedom when living at home with my family. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents to death. My mom is amazing and my dad is a very good husband and father to me and my brother (He's 17). I want to move to a different state about 20 hours away from my current state. I talked to my parents about it and my dad was very happy and excited that I'm moving forward with my life and living on my own, my mom acted like it didn't bother her in front of my dad but she's really heartbroken. She started talking to me about me moving out a few nights ago while I was laying down next to her then she started crying about how I'm gonna leave her all alone. I love my mom very very much and I hate seeing my mom cry it just breaks my heart. It's not like I'm never gonna visit them ever again. Once I get things sorted out in the new state I'm moving to I will come back and visit couple times a year if I can. I will not be living alone. I have a family member that I will be staying with I don't know how long though. also My girlfriend will be living with me once I get my own place in there. Did I make the right decision of moving out of my parent's house? Is my mom trying to make me feel guilty for wanting to move away? She's been crying for about a week now. She asked me to spend at least one more year with her and then move out. I feel really bad about this Also is it wrong for choosing my girlfriend over my mom? ( I'm planning on marrying this girl in the future) she's not just any girl. But I feel like I made the wrong decision when I saw my mom cry)

Question: Did I harass my sister?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 08:21 PM PDT

I have lice and have done all i can for the past five months to get rid of it so i read that i need to find the source of the problem so i ask my sister and she doesnt answer and instead leaves the room and goes to her own. So i go to her room, open her door and ask her over and over and then explain if she does she has an obligation to communicate because its basically a health concern for more than her if she does. She told me to get out and i told her not until she answers my question so she got mad and threw a bag at me and tried to punch me and stuff. I think she got scared and i also think she has some sort of ptsd but i dont know if thats true but that would explain if you think she was over the top in her response.

Question: My mom makes me feel bad all the time please help?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 08:05 PM PDT

So this past year, my mom has been making me feel really bad and hopeless and it's really bothering me. Everytime I talk about this, I just feel so sad, depressed, and worthless. My mom consistently says to me that you should die and my life would be much better without you. You are just a stupid plain piece of ****. She has really been getting on my nerves lately. What she is trying to do is control to be who I am and I want to be who I am. Not what who she wants me to be. She is trying to control what I do in life as I want to go my own way, not what my mom wants me to do. We constantly have fights and arguments and she always will say something bad to me and this won't ever stop. I am like crying so much right now about this like I do not want to have her keep saying bad things about me but my mom won't ever stop saying these hurtful things to me. I have talked about this with my school counselor and school psychologist and it is not helping to solve this situation at all. What should I do next with this? My life has been so miserable this year because of the nonstop bullshit my mom keeps telling me. It doesn't define me. She does not see how hurtful she is to me when she is saying all these things. I cannot stand my mom any longer. I have told my mom about how bad she is hurting me but she does not stop. Whenever I tell her I need space, she doesn't give me space and just talking bullshit to me. Should I really be talking all her words personally?

Question: Is he my step brother?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 07:44 PM PDT

My mom nd her ex boyfriend had a kid who's now my brother. But my mother's ex boyfriend has a son from another female. Does that make his son my step brother? Or are we not related in any way? I think we aren't because there are no legal documents of marriage or anything from them nd we aren't blood related. But my mom tells me we are?

Question: Want to run away and start my life over? How should I do it? No car. No friends. No where to go. Uber is non existent out here. PLEASE READ?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 07:37 PM PDT

I have been wanting to do this since I could basically talk. I'm in my 20s now. I have severe panic (to the point of black outs), I never go anywhere alone, never been out before by myself, etc. What's going on: * I live with family that is extremely mentally abusive, and sometimes can be physically abusive * They have imprisoned me inside this house. The longest I ever went without going out of the house was 1 year * I have a driver's license (which they refused to let me get, but I got with a past friend secretly), but now I have absolutely zero friends because they restrict me from having any friends, dating anyone, getting in a car with anyone, etc or it's "or else" and are restricting me from buying a car (with my own money I have saved up) * I have zero privacy (there's even recording devices inside the house to listen and watch our every move - seriously) * I keep my room clean, but my mother, especially, is constantly going through everything, throwing my expensive stuff out, reading all my stuff, etc * My mother hacked my Facebook account without me knowing for months and had me under surveillance on all my messages/posts/etc * There's no existence or record of me existing nor are my parent's names their real names and have lived in places they claim to have never lived * The only two places they'll allow me "alone" is the post office and work I need help, but I don't know how. I am afraid of help because I am afraid of my family. * When I say no record of really existing: I have no birth certificate. The only "certificate" I have has a different name and birthdate on it and it's not a birth certificate. It's non existent. It took around 18 years for them to "recover" my social security card and give to me.

Question: My parents have literally taken over my Liberty help!?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 07:35 PM PDT

So yesterday was literally my birthday. And literally my whole family wished me a happy birthday online... then today my very close auntie texted me and asked me if I wanted anything for my birthday. And she said to ask for anything that I want to. So I said that maybe I wanted some computer parts to build my own pc. Then my parents literally figured out a few minutes later and told me to cut her off and say to her that it's way too expensive and that they shouldn't buy me everything. They forced me to say that I was happy with what they gave me which was just a birthday wish. But I actually just wanted something. And my parents forced me to cut them off. How do I resolve this problem? Also my parents are extremely strict so it would be hard to counter their argument so I need a really good one.

Question: My Mom is a dangerous person. How do I stay safe from her damaging my relationships?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 07:11 PM PDT

For example she is always working hard to sabotage my relationships with any family members I love and she resents. This is especially true with my Dad who she divorced in 1995 and has devoted her life since to holding a grudge against him and all associated to him. He was not the easiest to be married to and was, still is, an alcoholic. However I am an adult and his drinking does not effect me. So now I am an adult and can see who I wish but my mother does all she can to make it difficult. Holidays are hell because she puts up roadblocks to try and make it difficult for me to see my Dad. She gets her mother, my grandmother, to get mad at me if I see my Dad at Christmas. I usually get around it and get to see him but it provokes a lot of anxiety. As a kid she also led me to believe my Dad did not love me and so I joined her side for 4 years and bad mouthed him daily with her. Now I feel guilty and that shame is triggered whenever there is a holiday if I don't see him. It is a toxic cycle. Again my Mom is the toxic one. My Dad's drinking usually does not bother me, there are exceptions when he is snappy. My mother, his ex-wife, is the dangerous one. How do I stay safe from the damage my toxic mother has caused. I think a lot of it is sub-conscience but when I confront her I get "don't you dare lecture your mother, I never would do that to mine". I have an anxiety disorder and all this makes it 100 times worse. ANY THOUGHTS?

Question: I hurt that my Dad is an alcoholic and none of my friends are allowed to come over because of it. What does AlaTeen teach?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 07:09 PM PDT

My Mom said I can go to Alateen as long as I don't tell my Dad and go to the one 30 minutes from where he live so no one will know us. .

Question: Does this make sense " I am the brother of 3 siblings" ?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 06:48 PM PDT

I have 2 brothers and one sister. Idk if this is right.

Question: My mom wont leave me alone???

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 06:30 PM PDT

She always says i'm always on my phone and tablet all day and i'm not!!!, she always tell me to go outside. What im gonna do outside??? There's nothing to do outside

Question: Advice on nudism family? Conseils sur la famille?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 06:26 PM PDT

My dad and mom take pictures of my brothers and I naked and posing since I live in a nudism family. I don't like doing it anymore since I'm 13 now and its not like I'm 11. Has anyone else had a nudism family and what age did your parents stop taking nude pictures? P.S. We are not being sexually abused! Mon père et ma mère prendre des photos de mes frères et moi nu et posant depuis que je vis dans une famille de nudisme. Je n'aime pas le faire plus depuis que je suis 13 maintenant et son pas comme je suis 11. Quelqu'un at-il eu un famille nudisme et quel âge vos parents cessent de prendre des photos nues? Nous ne sommes pas P.S.: victime d'abus sexuel!

Question: Is it right that my dad is tracking my phone? He doesn t have a reason to distrust me...?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 06:19 PM PDT

so im 14 and i kinda like my mom a lot more than my dad cause my dad has done something like 3 years ago i haven t quite forgiven him for.. (it sounds dumb but he really hurt me and my family) and then me and him were in an argument today and he said. "I don t get why you text your mom at such odd times in the morning when you should be sleeping. oh trust me i know exactly when you re texting her, they have apps for that" umm,,, I m pretty much home all day, but my stepbrother (a couple months older than me ) just leaves without asking and my stepsister (3 years older than me) just drives off any where and has plenty of reasons to be distrusted yet IM being tracked?! is this wrong or is my paranoia driving me up the wall

Question: Rude baby daddy. Can I request communication through third party?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 06:01 PM PDT

My daughter s father is extremely rude to me via text. We have a share custody. He is very mean, constantly calling me names and cursing me out. Can I request a communication through a third party in court? Or what can I do about it? It really hard to communicate with him about our daughter with all that anger.

Question: Questioning sexual abuse in my 7 yo daughter. Help!?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 05:54 PM PDT

I found out my fiance was looking at incest porn recently. We are no longer living together as of this week. However I have been very attentive to some behavior my daughter is displaying. In the last month I ve noticed her suddenly being afraid of the dark, painful urination, a rash on bottom cheeks and redness/discharge from her vaginal area. Looking back, I see some of these behavioral signs like being clingy and nightmares. It may be redundant but i want your opinion. I feel I should take her to the doctor but I am worried sick until then. Do you think something may have happened? I just don t know what to think!

Question: My Daddy is bad to me, what do I do on Father's Day?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 05:47 PM PDT

Question: Fun things to do with my cousins? All 3 teenage boys?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 05:28 PM PDT

My cousins are coming over on Eid and it's gonna be lit. What are some fun things teenage boys do? Anything fun.. This is gonna be the last day they come so it has to be fun. We used to play babyish games, but now those games are boring. What should we do? Good ideas that can help are like party games, or party-ish stuff, idk. smh

Question: My Dad is a pathological liar and my mother a narcissist. How do I find ways to keep them from hurting me as an adult child?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 05:24 PM PDT

I see them little but have to some. They seek to turn the extended family against me and my Dad enables my mother's wicked bitterness while he spreads his pathological lies. Neither cares about what is best for me. They are bad people.

Question: Blacksheep in the family?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 05:00 PM PDT

I've always been the black sheep in my family because I refused to put up with their favoritism and double standards bullshit, yet still come looking to me to tell me about their bullshit problems? I have not talked to them in years since they kicked me out. My little piece of garbage sister never had to pay rent because she has a big mouth, yet I had to? Say double standards much? So, knowing they kicked me out, why do they expect me to give a **** about their issues? I will never forgive them. They were never there for me all my life. I will take this to my grave.

Question: Why can't toxic family members like my bitter parents (both of them) open their hearts to this message and how do I get them to?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 04:55 PM PDT

Question: My Mom wants me to fix my alcoholic sister for the sake of her kids. How do I get her to see I cannot "Fix" an alcoholic?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 04:52 PM PDT

Question: Should adult children treat the new spouse of a parent as another parent and as a potential grandparent?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 04:46 PM PDT

I feel uncomfortable having my mother marry another man and then treating them like "another father." I just feel like the other man is just like a boyfriend or something and couldn't play the role of a grandfather or be referred to as such. How does this usually play out? How should I tell my mother?

Question: Is it normal for me to not look like my parents?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 04:39 PM PDT

Me and my parents look nothing alike. I'm a 15 year old girl and I'm their biological child. I have brown eyes, brownish skin, and black hair just like them but that's only because of our race. Our personalities are quite different too. They grew up in a small village in another country and I grew up in Canada all my life in the inner cities, so the environment and generation may be factors. I have a 3 year old dog, and she looked nothing like her siblings when she and the other puppies were born. She looks a bit like her mom but her fur is a different colour. Is it normal for kids and animals to not look like their parents and siblings?

Question: If my dad screams really terrible things to me whenever he s mad, then apologizes but continues doing it, is that verbal abuse?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 04:30 PM PDT

Question: My mom put me out Monday for whatever reason I don't know?

Posted: 07 Jun 2017 04:28 PM PDT

My sister and I pay her​ rent here. I give my mom $200 and my sister gives her $300. This includes the light bill too. Whenever I ask her about the bills she shuts me out until it's time for the bills to get paid. My mom also uses my kids on her light bill and rent assistance. She tells my grandma today if I move out than she gets evicted. My mother has no income and relys on me and my sister to pay her rent. I do everything to help my mom however after having my son she has been stressing me out during my heal time.