I find I am habitually in situations where things are nice and I start to trust that they can just be nice. That life is good in general, I m a kind, intellectual, witty guy and that I m not foolish to be proud of who I am. But it is inevitable that she will get disproportionately upset at something that I have to be disturbed by well (like road rage), rag on me to do something or change something about myself, or just ignore my perspective in general for a period of time while expecting me to listen to her. Is it not ok to just expect things to be nice? Am I wrong to think that she simply owes me true mutual companionship? She makes me feel like I am impossibly needy and weird. I know I am not perfect but we have been together for 7 years now and I want to grow. I do not like who I am and she makes me feel like that is my fault too. She has very bad image issues and I have NEVER told her she looks bad. I am constantly looking for ways to tell her she looks good. (because she does) I honest to god jut want to be able to trust that things can just be nice... So I can work on myself..... When I feel really low and I cry I usually start to creep back up emotionally but get blind-sided by one of the things I wrote at top everytime. Its usually by the next day. Is this needy? Is this out of the ordinary? I just want to be happy.... I so desperately want everyone to say that these are quid pro quo needs in a marriage and that they are not hard to fulfill, but please be honest.

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Do you think something is wrong with him?

My wife doesn't like it if I look at other women which I can understand that. What I don't understand is that many times she points them out before I do. She will point out if a woman's boobs are hanging out or if she has a big butt or anything provocative. Many times its someone not near or direct line of sight, so she actually has to point it out to me. If I mention it she gets upset but yet she many times goes out of her way to point it out and show me and even talk about it for a bit. What do you make of that?

We can't agree on anything since Hillary lost, and no sex!

My wife is never happy. She's always in a bad mood. We didn't have the normal engagement because she's from Mexico and we didn't spend a lot of time together before we were married. She has this dream of being rich and having a very expensive home and have fancy cars. The problem is I just make an average salary. We have a decent house but she isn't happy with it. She always makes me feel bad telling me that I don't make enough money. She feels embarrassed when our children's friends come to visit. Every day she tells me how much she hates our house. I feel depressed on the weekends when I'm off work because I have to be around her. I've said we should go to mariage counseling but she won't agree to go. I feel so unhappy. I think I would be happier if we split up but we have children and I don't want to put them through a divorce. What should I do?

My current wife is about to go back to court over custody of my step daughter her daughter over custody. He is seeking full custody. Here is my question. In the devotee agreement he was supposed to pay 300 a month for child support but he offered in person to my wife s half of the child support and his since it was $600 it dropped down to $300 a month making her half 150, it s been about 5 months now and he has been paying the full amount of daycare but says he owes her nothing else since it is completely in her name he has been paying more than he should have, can he get away with that?

I have a well paying job. Problem is I had another coworker bust me sleeping with a married coworker. She left her phone at work and this guy saw the text message. He showed it to everyone and told her husband. She is going through divorce but we still see each other because the sex is too good to quit. Besides what's the point of ending it when everyone now knows and my lover is going to be divorced? How long till everyone moves on and leave us be?

If your wife or gf suddenly started wanting different things in the bedroom, what would you think? Like all of a sudden wanted to role play or wanted to be spanked regularly, what do you think was the reason? Would you think they have always like it, but just now exploring? Think they saw it in movie/tv and want to try? Or are/were they cheating and now want to do it with you?

I came in, said well, hello to you too! He said "shut the hell up and put the stuff away" I saw that he had bought groceries and so, I came in w daughter, washed her hands, etc. and then started to put things away. he got mad at the way I was putting things in the fridge, which escalated his anger even more. Then he started tell me that he made a mistake by being with me, and he made a mistake by having the child, and that my ex bf, would have never made that mistake bc he's smart. And then he goes on to say, that he must be dumb for having a kid with me. What triggered this argument, is that I left the door open, and some flies came in. So, he got mad over that. All I said was, "thank you, you always have such kind words to say to me" he said "Im not being kind" I said, "I know" The thing is, Im waiting for my tenant to move out so that I can move back to my house. He thinks that Im just here willing to tolerate his crap. I think he feels he can continue treating me badly, bc he knows I have no place to go. He doesn't hesitate to tell me stuff like "you can move out" or "so are you going to move out then" or "this is my house, and if you don't like it, you can pack your **** and leave" knowing, I can't just get up and leave with a daughter right now. I guess today, I just felt like writing this without asking a question. I feel like Yahoo Answers is my "public" diary. I feel a sense of relief when I write. I also, can look back at the stuff I wrote a few months ago etc. and it somehow helps me to understand what I'm dealing with and thank my lucky stars for my home that I have and that I will be moving into in a few months.

Work isn't that hard. in fact is so slow i wish i could sleep at my desk. I have no motivation to work when i do get work do to the light work schedule. However when i get home i'm beat. I don't want that to happen all the time.I'd love to surprise my spouse with some surprise sex time. however by the time i get home my bed looks nice for sleeping not sexing. today i have been horny all day and now it's close to going home i'm too tried to even care about filling that need. WTF man i can't win! any suggestion. BTW medical checks out. no real reason for me to be tired. but doing nothing is draining!

Me and my husband had an argument and was ready to leave him so I filed for child support. We worked out our differences and I didn t want to push through with the process again but they served him this morning. Will they throw the case away once I don t go to court? What will happen? P.S I live in Illinois

My husband and I are both 23 & have been married for 2 years but we've dated since age 18. We met freshman year in college so we know a lot of the same people. Sometimes I hang out with some his male friends without him. My husband and I are complete opposites and there aren't a lot of social activities we have in common. I'm more chill and low key and my hubby is an extrovert. I freak out in a lot of social environments and he respects that. One of our close friends is an introvert like me so we hangout a lot. We hike/paint/fish etc...My husband and I are from two different cultures and his culture is a bit more traditional/old school. We have trust in our relationships but outsiders view it as me being a loose wild wife. I have no interest in his friends but they were my friends before I dated my husband. So many rumors are circulating and I've told my husband and he says to ignore it but I just can't stand feeling like I'm embarrassing him.

They say that all men masturbate many daily. Most wives just don't know, so assuming this reality, does it bother you he does and what he's fantasizing about when he is? I asked my husband and he admitted he always had, in the shower, bathroom even in bed when I am asleep, he won't tell me who he thinks of tho.

So many cop out non answers... all the same. Was expecting.

I have a short guy showing so much interest in me nice guy but I wonder if he will satisfy me physically?

I want more . He is the only 2nd guy I've ever been with since the first . The first is only once when I lost my Vcard . Then I didnt have sex for 4 years until I met my husband. But the sex doesn't excite me as much now . He don't even go down on me and I always go down on him . He is not open to try new things It made me feel like having a fwb behind his back . Just for satisfying my needs. I am so tempted but holding back . Any advice? Please don't be mean. I tried my best to talk to him about it,but he just brushed it off. I told him I want to be kissed passionately,and his answer is "why do we need to do that?" . Tell me, what should I do if I already talked to him about how I am feeling . I've always pleasure him by going down in him I know he loves it and I do it because I love him . I even bought a sex toy to use during our sex, but he just gets lazier , bought lingeries, but he just don't care. I tried , but he just don't seem to do anything

Our marriage has become a chore, he has lost interest in sex or intimacy. He drinks with his pals and ignores me, has for years I finally decided to look elsewhere. It was so exciting and fun and the sex was wonderful, but now I can't stop and want more, it's so easy with the internet, so many handsome guys who just want one night fun. Shall I tell him I am getting it outside? He won't care.

She never let me come in her mouth but she lets this guy do it to her. She even swallows it. 😡

I'm heavier now than I was before my I had my son last May 2016. I'm 219 lbs and had never been put of the100's before my doc told me he wanted me to be 210 when I was carrying my child. I had a breast reduction when I was 28 back in December 2014 the year my husband and I married. I was a 38 DDD and not as heavy as I am now. Back in 2012 when we were dating he said he didn't like my weight and wanted me to lose weight. I was 150 something then and wish I could get back to that size. When we began dating in 2011 I was 138. My parentssigned me up for a fitness camp as an early bday present in april and I didn't lose a pound. I work out every day and can't get the weight off. My husband told me he likes my body but I should have known he was lying if he didn't like my size if he didn't like me 5 years ago when I was smaller. I feel embarrassed to have sex with him and he said there's no need. This past weekend he called me day and bad at sex and said my whole body jiggles while we do it. I'm a C cup now and can't lose it no matter what I do. I have to hear complaints from him and my parents. Sometimes I feel like giving up on life cuz I can't get the body I want again. I had a C section so I have a purge that won't go away and it's numb not to mention.

I'm 34. My husband and i have been together for 11 years. We've been married for less than a year. We are abnormally happy for all of these years. I feel like I need to make a decision now about having children. I've never particularly wanted kids. My stepdaughter just went off to college. Raising her was a joy and we have a great relationship. Yet i dont want to start all over again. I was a second mom to her since she was 7 and I feel like it's all been done. My ticking clock plus now being married are tremendous sources of pressure. Not to mention basic norms and pointed questions from family. My biggest fear is being alone one day and not having grandchildren. That's what kills me, but I'll have my stepdaughter. Its hard because shes 18 and away at school so we're not as close right now, because she has so much going on. I also have a close bond with my mom and I'd love to have that with a child. I know a baby would be beautiful and like a miracle. But motherhood looks completely unappealing to me. I'm an introvert. I don't handle stress well. I want to travel and see the world with my husband. He is 50, so I don't want to gamble our happiness on our best years left. He wants to have a baby basically for me. He wants my happiness above all. I just have so much doubt about this decision. I don't want to change our entire life as we know it, but the doubt and potential regret is killing me. Its completely clouding my judgment. Does my reasoning sound logical? Excluding Vivienne's cryptic answer, THANK YOU all so much for your very reasonable, direct, and nonjudgmental answers. This has been such a struggle for me. I've tried therapy, but it was so self-reflective and I walked away reflecting on my own doubts even more. I really needed this Dear Abby forum to just get real. It is so CONFUSING to be constantly asked "when are you having a baby?" and "don't you want one?" a million times, even by the same people. after expressing these same thoughts.

I'm a white guy my wife is African American. I used to never see race/color I have a two year old son named Diemonique(not my idea). my wife is always trying to talk to him about racism and white privilege. Deep down I just feel like leaving them and never coming back.

I was married 18 years ago and relocated away from family and friends. We moved to be closer to his family. Immediately after we relocated, his mother and sister started being nasty to me. I endured a lot of comments and tried my best until 3 years ago when one of the comments just went to far. Now we are ostracized from the immediate family and they don't want to spend time with our kids at all. The entire reason we are here is because of them. My husband clearly doesn't want to relocate and throws up TONS o excuses. He finally broke down and said he'd move, but he seemed really pissed about it. My kids don't want to move and I feel completely pressured and trapped in an overpriced, neighborhood with a house we can't fix up. What do I do?

So the other day my husband was very unfair to me. He was supposed to pick me up from work but 15 minutes before I finished work he texted me asking if I could take the bus while he buys himself a new phone for work! Obviously I got upset with him! But he still didn t get it. So the next night we visited my mom and I got her help to help me get my point across since I m a bit bad in stating my part in any argument. But he only obtained like half of what she was saying and took it as her defending me. He got a bit of the situation but he has started to act like nothing happened. He still thinks he didn t do anything wrong and that I just made a big deal about it! I m really only upset because he made me feel like trash, something disposable to him. He just won t get that. What do I do?

My husband just started dating other woman and being intimate with them. It is starting with no real rules but just to be safe. Then we will see how it evolves. Any advice on what to do and what to expect would be great . Also I love to hear from people in one sided open relationships or poly people to get some dos and donts .

Okay, I would like to preface this by saying this is a silly question and I would never actually try any of this -- I'm just plain curious. My husband and I have the same first name, however, he took my last name when we married. We are both working professionals, he's a radiologist and I work in finance. I was just wondering, what security measures exist to prevent someone in this scenario from stealing their partner's credentials? For example, my husband did a joint MD/MBA program and we had already married when he graduated. Ergo, it is my last name on his degrees. I only have a B.S. in economics, so what measures exist to prevent someone like me from falsifying my resume to say I have an MBA from an ivy league university? If the company which hired me requested a transcript, the name would match. I also know my husband's SSN if that was ever needed to keep up the facade. Or worse yet, what if I wanted to pretend I was a doctor? Again, I would never do any of this, I'm just simply curious.