Family: Question: My house is always a mess?

Question: My house is always a mess?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 02:14 PM PDT

I'm temporarily living with my mom and even before my mom went to live somewhere else, the house was always a mess. My dad did try to clean it up though. My mom though never cleans and has been that way for many years. You'll find food crumbs on the floor, garbage, laundry, pillows, and cups all over the house. I can't take this. I've tried cleaning the house before but after a day or two, my two brothers end up messing it up so I don't bother anymore. It's mainly my brothers' fault cause they're such slobs. It's driving me insane and no matter how many times I tell them not to make a mess, they always do. My room is probably the cleanest room in the whole house. i just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice? Sorry first sentence should be: "...even before my **dad**....

Question: I need links and or advice on grandparents fighting for custody of grandchild.?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 02:06 PM PDT

April 8th my cousin was killed in a motor cycle accident. He had joint custody of his son at the time and was in the process of fighting for custody of him due to his son being in a home with his mother and her abusive boyfriend (whom abused the child's mother as well as the child) this abusive boyfriend is currently on his way to prison for beating his ex wife and one of his children. My cousins child has said on numerous occasions that he hates his mom and does not want to live with her anymore, his mother forces him to call the abusive boyfriend "Dad" now that my cousin has passed away and it started the day after he died. My aunt has been getting visitation with her grandson every weekend but without a court order in place the child's mother is no longer going to allow her to have visits so after seeing a lawyer today she has decided to go for custody. I know this is very hard to do and unlikely but I want to help and try to make this possible I just don't know where to start. There have been a couple of incidents where the mother has been verbally abusive to the child that we have proof of. Her family is on our side in this and know how bad things have gotten. I just need some advice or possibly links to websites that could help me. And help will be grealty appreciated!

Question: My cousin likes to tell me about her parents. How do I respond so I don't offend my aunt and uncle?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 01:53 PM PDT

Question: My uncle is going to eat me I fear. I'm scared of this but everyone says I'm ridiculous. How do I know if I need to fear this?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 01:46 PM PDT

Question: When is June 23rd!!!!!?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 01:43 PM PDT

is it soon? cuz i get my pet chimpanzee on june 23rd and i will beat it with my stick if its bad so you don't have to worry about it attacking me

Question: Asking this to confirm if my anger is warranted. My mom's friend Anne tells my mom bad things about my mom my aunt has said. Is this wrong?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 01:42 PM PDT

Is this wrong of my mom's friend Anne. My mom and my mom's sister are enemies but this woman Anne is friends with both. I feel Anne is making it worse and I resent the Anne woman for that. She gave my mom a long list if negative things my aunt has said about my mom.

Question: My aunt and mother were friends and now that they parent differently they are arch enemies. Is this common in families and the norm?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 01:37 PM PDT

Question: My twin sister posted a bunch of pictures of me after I told her not to on Facebook, do i have every right to be mad at her?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 12:14 PM PDT

She did post them anyway and I woke up to 250 people liking it. Do I have every right to be mad at her?

Question: Is it weird that my sister is my best friend?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 12:10 PM PDT

I love my sis so much and she is like a best friend for me... we spend a lot of time together & always have a lot of fun. we tell each other everything and have no secrets at all. she is the nicest person ever, i can talk with her about everything & she would never judge me negatively and always gives awesome advice/support. do you think it's weird that my sister is like a best friend for me? I'm also a girl

Question: How come my brother doesn't like me?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 11:45 AM PDT

Hi... I'm a 15 year old female and ever since I was little, me and my brother (18 y/o) never got along and I never knew why. I'm trying so hard to stop crying as I continue to type this. My brother has hated me literally almost his entire life and I have no clue why. My dad says that's how brothers are, but just know I have a older sister (17 y/o) and they get along sooo damn well. He always protects her, checks on her and has her back no matter what, but refuses to do the same with me. We don't have a bond, I can't talk to him about anything and whenever someone tells him he's done something wrong, he jokes about it, but I tell him he's wrong and he always cusses at me or tells me to shut up. I don't know what I've done to him in the past for him to hate me so much. I told myself, "what if I killed myself? Or maybe just died in my sleep, tomorrow is never promised. Would he care then?". Is it because I'm not "hip" to the rap music he likes? Or the style he has? Or I'm not as good in school so he uses my grades against me to call me dumb? Because that's what he's always been doing for the passed years. Someone please help me, what can I do? I just can't do this anymore.

Question: What to do about a jerk brother?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 11:26 AM PDT

He's thirteen. I'm twenty-one. We have two siblings between us, a girl and a boy. We all live with both of our parents (I'm only here for the summers). He's a very rude person, everyone agrees. One example of things he does on a daily basis: he does something like putting a bunch of his dirty clothes in one of our beds, none of us can figure out why and he won't give a reason. Dad tells him until he decides to pick up his clothes from outside his room where we put them he can't go out. He leaves whenever he wants anyway because both of my parents are busy and can't stop him. Another example: We're both sitting in the living room and I wonder out loud where the pillows are, there are a bunch on the ground at his feet. It's been a while since we vacuumed, so I asked him to pick them up. He says no. I tell him that if someone asked me to pick up pillows that were right by my feet, I would. So he tosses the pillows by my feet and tells me to pick them up. What the heck is wrong with him? How can I help? My parents can't/won't do anything, and when I tell my dad something needs to be done he asks for suggestions. Edit: Should have been more specific in this timeline. He's been acting like this for two years. It does bother me, personally, and when it does I just remove myself from the situation. It's when he does it to my younger sister and brother that worries me most because they won't be able to get away from it and they can't do anything about it. My sister described him as being a bully that she can't get away from when I asked her how much he's been bothering her lately.

Question: Fathers: If you saw your tape measure in your sons room, would you throw it away?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 10:52 AM PDT

It's pretty obvious what your sons did with it. Would you throw it away since he was measuring his penis with your tape measure?

Question: In-laws complain about not seeing our kids?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 10:04 AM PDT

My in-laws have always complained about not getting to see their grandchildren (our kids). My MIL is a nurse and works 12 hour shifts. She's off on Mondays and on call Sundays. My FIL works 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off as a doctor in South Dakota (we're in Jersey). He is also in poor health and does not drive. Both my husband and I work M-F and spend the weekends out with the kids. We see them on holidays and birthdays (which are planned around their schedule) but they are always saying how sad they are that they don't get to see our kids. It's to the point where they tell family that we don't allow them to see them. My MIL likes to tell people, "we haven't seen the kids since Christmas" or whatever holiday, when in fact they saw them on mother's day, or for our son's birthday a week ago. They never call us to ask to see the kids (probably because they are working). I text my FIL when I know he's home to offer to come over, but he never responds to me. When my husband calls to make plans with him, he's always busy or my MIL gets upset that she won't be able to be there too and he declines the invitation. How would you handle this situation? It's taking a toll on our relationship in general. On average they see the kids once or twice a month and they live 2 hours away.

Question: I ate some dessert I wasn't supposed to eat?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 09:58 AM PDT

It wasn't really dessert I guess. I started eating some strawberries and syrup out of a container and without realizing it, ate almost half the container. I'm super worried my parents will get mad at me and I'll get in trouble. I filled it up with some water and sugar so it looks fuller, and it tastes the same. But now it's full of mainly liquid and still doesn't weigh as much as it did before. Is there anything else I can do? I'm really really worried and freaked out about it and I really didn't mean to eat as much as I did!! Is there anything I can do??

Question: Dad abuses my mum?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 09:42 AM PDT

from what i remember the abuse has started fairly recent (3 or 4 years). my dad is a very aggressive man and definately likes everything to be his way. my parents own 3 businesses and 2 houses together and so thats why i feel like my mum has put up with it for this long and definitely the fact they have 4 kids together and the youngest is fairly young. he threatens her alot and likes to scare her. ive heard him threaten her life numerous amounts of time. he kicks her. ive seen him on top of her choking her. shes told me when us kids have been at school hes held her hostage at home. it makes me so angry to think that he treats her so badly. she sleeps upstairs away from him and that angers him even more but yet obviously she doesnt feel safe enough to sleep wirh him. and she hates herself for being in this situation and blames herself when its not her fault. ive just turned 18 so i want to start moving out but i cant with her not being safe. she so badly wants to leave him but she cant with all the things they have together. my parents are well known and successful people but they put a facade on to people so noone would suspect it.

Question: Is this a dumb thing?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 09:05 AM PDT

I'm 20 and I have a lot of friends but I have much older friend who is in her 60's (I hope that's not weird) she's helped me through a lot of hard times, were extremely close, she's an amazing friend to have. Her mom died last year and it's about to be the 1 year mark since then, she's going to be so upset this month. She got a new pool recently and I was thinking, what if I wrote a short sweet hand written letter and sent it to her along with a new comfy pool (chair) float. Just to boost her spirits a tiny bit.. Would that be weird?

Question: How can I control my anger and sadness after my Aunt threw a homophobic insult at me in front of my family?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 07:39 AM PDT

I don't think she meant it to be hurtful but it was. My entire family was taking group photos at a BBQ. My Aunt wanted a picture of only the girls. I happened to be standing nearby and she said, "Well, he's a half man". She said it twice. Giggled a little. I'm a gay guy by the way. Not a girl and not a half man. I was pretty shocked at the comment and caught by surprise. I'm sad and angry for 2 reasons. 1. I didn't immediately stick up for myself. I was thrown way off guard and the anger and hurt didn't really settle in till I got home. Now, it flips from rage of wanting to exact revenge to utter sadness and hurt. 2. My family didn't say anything. Didn't stick up for me. My sister called me right after the BBQ and apologized. She said she was thrown off by it and sorry she didn't say anything. My mom the next day said she felt horrible and should have said something. I go from feeling hurt nobody said anything. To anger and just wanting to dissociate myself from ALL of them for a while. My aunt apologized through Facebook chat only after I wrote her to tell her I was hurt. She said she was "sorry I took it that way" and that she has tons of gay friends. She would never intentionally hurt me. I thought it was a lousy apology and I also thought she should have called me in response to my message. What do I do now? How do I control this feeling of rage and hatred against all of them?

Question: I'm 26, lost my job & facing eviction & I'm too scared to ask my family for help. I'm scared there going to look down on me?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 07:37 AM PDT

Question: My Mom dislikes my brothers' wives. How do I stop feeling anxious when she announces her dread that they are visiting?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 06:43 AM PDT

My older brother was going to come for a family reunion July 9th but backed out because my mother hates him visiting with his wife and kids so much. She loves him but not his wife. Not sure how she feels towards the kids. The other son lives local so visiting is not an issue but she complains about his wife all the time.

Question: My Mom is a dangerous person. How do I stay safe from her damaging my relationships?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 06:19 AM PDT

For example she is always working hard to sabotage my relationships with any family members I love and she resents. This is especially true with my Dad who she divorced in 1995 and has devoted her life since to holding a grudge against him and all associated to him. He was not the easiest to be married to and was, still is, an alcoholic. However I am an adult and his drinking does not effect me. So now I am an adult and can see who I wish but my mother does all she can to make it difficult. Holidays are hell because she puts up roadblocks to try and make it difficult for me to see my Dad. She gets her mother, my grandmother, to get mad at me if I see my Dad at Christmas. I usually get around it and get to see him but it provokes a lot of anxiety. As a kid she also led me to believe my Dad did not love me and so I joined her side for 4 years and bad mouthed him daily with her. Now I feel guilty and that shame is triggered whenever there is a holiday if I don't see him. It is a toxic cycle. Again my Mom is the toxic one. My Dad's drinking usually does not bother me, there are exceptions when he is snappy. My mother, his ex-wife, is the dangerous one. How do I stay safe from the damage my toxic mother has caused. I think a lot of it is sub-conscience but when I confront her I get "don't you dare lecture your mother, I never would do that to mine". I have an anxiety disorder and all this makes it 100 times worse. ANY THOUGHTS?

Question: How do I accept my Dad has no desire to tell the truth and no longer expect anything from him?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 06:18 AM PDT

He is a pathological liar where he lies and doesn't even realize it.

Question: First day of summer school an I am ALL READY in trouble! All I did was toot, I couldn't help it! Things is so unfair for me in life!?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 06:15 AM PDT

Are summer school teacher for English is a total anus hole, she is a whore an a slut an I hate her all ready. She is SO mean! She was taking role an when she called my name she was like "Arnold Shaffer, I've all ready herd all about you, you're about to be a freshmen for the 4th time. Have they tested you for being retarted?" OMG when she said that I just kept looking straight a head an tried not to let it get to me but the tears came rollin in an I started to cry. Then she was like "I have a report here that you are not to be let out of class for any reason whatsoever, so I suggest you go to the bathroom an get a drink an whatever you need to do before class. I also see that your a disruptive student..." an she was about to say something else but I couldn't help it I farted, long an loud. Her face got red an she totally blowed up. I sat their bawling an now I don't want to come back. My life is so unfair.

Question: My uncle is an alcoholic and my mother says we will catch it if we see him. Is this true or is she a bitter idiot like I think?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 06:12 AM PDT

Question: How do I get my alcoholic family to see I am not an alcoholic and don't wish to be one?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 06:05 AM PDT

They want me to be one with them.

Question: How can I make days out with my mom more bearable?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 05:47 AM PDT

My mom let's just say has issues. Whenever we go out anywhere she goes crazy when she walks past any women and claims they are trying to watch her and deliberately get in her way. This used to happen with just the odd person, but now anywhere we go she's accusing everyone of it. She never confronts them she just gets really grumpy at me and talks to me like sh-t. How can I handle things better when drama starts? When she calms down later on i tell her it hurts my feelings when she's mean to me in public but she just says it's not at me it's at them.

Question: My parents hate and I can say that I feel the same ever since I was born they hated me because they wanted a boy my father threats to stab?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 05:06 AM PDT

I want to run away

Question: My step dad got upset at me for quitting my job and then he goes and does the same thing a few years later.?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 05:01 AM PDT

What a hypocrite!

Question: What did I do?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 04:44 AM PDT

I was on vacation in NYC with my family and brother in law and we ate at a diner in Brooklyn while making plans. And I overheard my brother in law say to his son "attitude like that, they'll spit in your food" which is shocking but that's not the point. My family were making plans and I asked are we gonna drive there and my brother in law snapped at me saying "you can't keep assuming we're gonna drive there, this is new York." I'm from Canada and you need a car everywhere you go, but apparently I didn't get the memo for new York, so sorry.

Question: Should I stop all contact with my sister?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 03:54 AM PDT

She basically is the kind of person who fools me to think she really is need of money and promises to pay me back but its been years and never have seen one penny. Recently she went to jail I bailed her out because she said she would pay $400 I agreed since the bail was $800 I said ok. She never called me after she was bailed out, I tried reaching her and messaging her, she kept avoiding my calls, said she was busy and finally i texted her a long story she fianlly called but she had told me yet another story the first was i have a check at home my irs refund, on the phone she says she lost her debut card and it has no bank on her text she said shes waiting on bank of america to send her the new debit card then she voicemails me and says shes not gonna wait on her debit card because she didnt get the refund, now she she says shes gonna get the money some other way. I would rather not talk to her anymore she has lied to me this way since i can remember she owes me 2700 dollars and each time she says i will pay u when i get my refund she gets it and i never hear from her she says im gonna get a job she never does. I dont know what to do.

Question: Is my mom emotionally abusive?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 03:02 AM PDT

The first time I can remember was when I was about 5 one time I remember I accidentally spilled my milk and instead of just getting a towel she yelled at me like I did it on purpose.I m 13 now,she always calls me selfish, yells at me for little things,threatens to call my doctor.On many occasions I have went in my room and cried over hurtful words she has said to me and I don t cry too easily.Tonight she threatened to put me up for adoption because I was still awake because I was trying to kill a spider in the bathroom so she wouldn t see it when she woke up and freak out.I told her what I was doing but she just mocked me and was yelling in the hall.One time she threatened to hit me for I don t even know what but I know she never would.I m just really confused because most the time she is nice but she gets mad so easy.I m sorry this is so long,but what do you think?

Question: My mom always said if you run away from everything that scares you are going to miss out on a lot of great things in life. Like what?

Posted: 06 Jun 2017 12:14 AM PDT

Every time she said that I would ask her what things and she never gave me an answer. Every time I faced something I was afraid of it always bit me in the *** so what does she mean by that?

Question: Is it incorrect to say your grandparents side of the family? Is your family divided only between your two parents and not your grandparents?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 11:48 PM PDT

What I mean is is your family only divided into your mother's side and your father's side or can it be divided into the four sides of each of your grandparents?

Question: My dad likes to look at deals all day- what should I do?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 11:26 PM PDT

He looks for deals on Craiglist all day just looking at products and complimenting how good the deal is, but never considers buying them. He fantasizes himself getting the deal and saying how it is a good buy but that's pretty much it. He'll also browse around the "free" section all day. We already have the needs in our household- couch, TV, kitchen table, microwave, etc. but he is always looking out for more. It's like he's trying to take advantage of these opportunities and keep them just because. We have a lot of things in our two backyard storage sheds and there are things in there we haven't used in ages. Any suggestions on what I should do?

Question: My mom is marrying new guy but I'm scared.?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 11:01 PM PDT

He is super weird, his job is to put hooks through his skin and hang from them, also he has piercings and tattoos all over his body. He argues with my mom almost every day too and I'm super depressed. I've talked to my mom but can't convince her not to marry him.

Question: Should I respect my sons wishes?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 10:54 PM PDT

My son died recently and tomorrow is the funeral. But here's the thing he knew he was going to die he never got along with his siblings and always told me that he didn't want his oldest brother and sister neither his younger brother or sister to attend his funeral nor his biological father because he will get up and kick them out. He was my pride and joy and they are no good they just took from me he would always give me and never ask for anything that's why it hurts me so much that he died, they want to see him but he didn't want them anywhere near him. What do I do?

Question: I can t stop hating my dad and I don t know why?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 10:52 PM PDT

I don t want him touching me. My stomach gets tied up in knots and I feel like pulling away. I don t want to talk to him. What has he done wrong, nothing. Is he a good dad, no but he was around and would sort of watch my brother and me when we were little. I know many people would say oh at least you have a father be grateful. Which is true but it does not change this disgusted rage I feel. I doesn t make me not want to pull away when he kisses my head, even though I suck it up and bare it. I wipe it off when he is out of the room. I can t find a reason to be so angry and disgusted by him. I want to talk to somebody about this but I feel many would brush it off as a phase nevermind I m 20 and I have been this way since middle school. I love my mom and I have always thought of her as both my mom and dad.

Question: How do I bring up moving a "family" vacation earlier in the summer?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 10:38 PM PDT

My parents and sister and I were supposed to go to New York with my dad this summer, because he does commercial real estate, and has a meeting there. He didn't want to go without us so he proposed a fun family vacation in NYC. Obviously I was all for it because I had just found out that Brendon Urie is performing on Broadway in Kinky Boots. My mom and I wanted to see it, so we were gonna get tickets for the two of us. Tonight we were talking about a date for us to go, my dad originally said late July early August, which was perfect because I don't start class until late August and the last show that Brendon's doing is August 6th. Tonight he said September. I'm starting my sophomore year of college August 21st and have 3 core classes on the day we would leave for NYC, so I said it wouldn't work. He said that I may have to miss out on the vacay, but we literally haven't had one in 6+ years. How to I ask them to accommodate my schedule? I don't want to have to miss out on fun things we never get to do.

Question: Getting kicked out of my house?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 10:37 PM PDT

I'm 13 and I'm dating another guy, so when I had the courage to tell my father ( it's just s me and him in our family) he didn't like it, now he's saying he's gonna kick me out of the house. What should I do?

Question: How can I get alone time from my family ?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 10:26 PM PDT

I'm the middle child out of three daughters and live with my mom , disabled grandmother , and younger sister. Life has been very hard for us financly & recently just got a small apartment after being homeless for 6 months. Being homeless was terrible especially me still being in school & my mom constantly blames us for her financial problems . I'm the kid at school who always has the worn out clothes/broken backpack & has to get help from guidance councilors . My mom has been talking to this guy online & they've decided to get married but he lives all the way across the world . My mom is paying THOUSANDS of dollars , money we don't have to go see him . I've been withdrawn from school activities & sports because of money issues & can't get a car ride from my mom to or from school without her scolding at me for making her waste gas but she's spending all this money to bring someone here who can't work / speak English & is even talking about having more kids ?? But in an 800 sqft apartment there isn't enough room for the 5 of us that there is and she can't even afford school supplies & sometimes meals but is traveling across the world to spend time with some guy we don't know & can't work it's annoying . She blames all of us for money issues even though we as her kids are her responsibility and food , clothing , and school supplies are more necessities but finds multiple ways to send this guy money and gifts . How can I be around them as little as possible ?

Question: How can I help my mom financially?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 10:09 PM PDT

What are quick and easy ways to make lots of money so I can help my mom? Her and my dad have always given me and my sister everything we wanted. They always had a steady income, but now that we bought a house, they seem to struggle a lot with money now. Recently, my mom and dad have gotten into an argument, which is leading to my mom moving out. My dad is taking the house and car. She makes a steady income but not enough to be a single mom with 2 kids, I want to be there for her. I'm only 15 so there aren't many jobs available to me. I want to help her as much as I can. I've tried online surveying but it only makes me around $2. My mom has always been there for me whenever I needed it and spoils me with everything, it makes me so sad to see her struggling like this. I wish there was a way I can make a tons of money so she doesn't have to do it alone. I am doing my best in school and will soon go to college to become a obstetrician, but for now I need ways to make enough money. Pls help.

Question: What do you think their reactions will be?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 09:47 PM PDT

I'm in the US Air Force stationed in VA. Growing up mom and dad didn't have great jobs. (Dad is a school custodian; Mom is a bank teller). So, vacations were trips to visit family members. It was only when I turned 16 and got my own job did I even go to an amusement park which was a 45 min. drive. So I am not sure how they will react when they find out I took a weekend trip to Memphis (This coming weekend). I'm not announcing it. And I'm not posting it on Facebook. On Saturday I will send them a postcard from Memphis that will say something like: Hey Mom and Dad, Greetings from Memphis, TN! I got here last night and I'm going back to base tomorrow. Today I saw Graceland, Sun Studio. Tonight I'm going to see the place where MLK was shot and have some Memphis style BBQ. Wish you were here to experience it with me! I have souvenirs for you and Sarabeth. I'll give them to you when I see you. Hope it is soon. Hunkahunka burning love, John. Yeah I don't know what their reaction will be. When Dad found out I had Netflix, which is only $8/month, he said I had more money than sense. So I'm not sure how he'll react to a trip and souvenirs and the cost associated with them which is why it'll be over before they find out it ever was. I'm not really caring. Still, it's not fun getting the wrath of Dad. Don't know if anyone can answer this but interested in what people have to say.

Question: How does my father track my every move?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 09:26 PM PDT

I am 20 years old. My parents are divorced and I switch between their houses until I find my own place. I know he was tracking me via cell phone plan through T-Mobile before I bought my OWN phone through my OWN plan. As far as I know, he has never been in my car without my knowledge or presence. But he knew my exact coordinates on where I was last night, and he and my mother constantly are aware of my location. How can it be through my phone if I'm not on his cell service? I didn't post anything on social media about where I was. My find my friends only has my friends who wouldn't tell my father about my location, but somehow, he knows where I am. Is this legal? Also, how can I find out how he's tracking me, and how to stop it. It's creepy and disrespectful.

Question: Is it wrong of me to take all my kids electronics when it's time for bed ages are 16 14 and 12?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 09:17 PM PDT

Question: Genetically speaking, is my half-sister a first-degree relative or a second- degree relative?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 09:11 PM PDT

Question: Hey, I have two older sisters who are close in age while I am pretty far. I always feel left out. What should I do?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 08:24 PM PDT

My sisters have a 3 year age gap and I am 11 years from my middle sister I always feel like an only child and my oldest sister isn't nice to me

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 08:21 PM PDT

My dad forced me to do sports and athletic things but I'm not one but athletic and now that summers here I'm doing a camp full of all that stuff and I really don't wanna do it, I've told him and he's yelled at me. Do I just suck it up and suffer, or what?

Question: Should I keep giving my family money?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 08:19 PM PDT

I'm in college using my stepdads military benefits so every month I'm in school I get paid about 2300 dollars. I always put $1500 away in my savings and use what's left on things I need or want (my phone bill, psychiatrist fees, clothes. Etc.) Recently one of my family members has been asking me for a lot of help. I spent about $200 (maybe even a little more) on stuff she needed for her newborn baby and stuff that her kids wanted. I paid about $150 for her to get her hair done. And this is only within the last 2 months. I don't mind helping because she's family and I know she isn't working right now. But it seems like every week she's texting me asking for me to buy or pay for something. Now she's asking me for $250 to pay off a balance and to buy herself some things. It's the first time I ever told her no and I'm felling really guilty. I have thousands of dollars sitting around in my savings but I don't want to touch it. I have the money and she said she would pay me back but I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. I'm only 19 years old and I don't feel like it's my responsibility to give her money but at the same time I feel selfish because I know I have the money. Am I wrong for saying no or was it the right decision?

Question: Iv recently discovered that I'm a father of an abused child?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 08:12 PM PDT

I came to here vent and seek advice. I've recently discovered that I have a six-year-old daughter, and that all this time that she lived with her mother she suffered great physical and mental abuse. She refuses to talk to anyone but me and is afraid of everything . She has nightmares almost every night and barely speak with me as if she is afraid ill her her.Should i find a psychologist for her as soon as possible or give her some time to get accustomed and understand that she is safe now. I feel guilty about seeing the little girl suffering and not being able to help her earlier . I do not want to pressure her to speak with a stranger and end up making things worse but I already care for her and I do not want her to suffer even more.

Question: How do I get my parents to respect my desire to avoid anxiety triggers?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 08:07 PM PDT

They think I should quit worrying but do nothing to help me avoid the triggers. My Dad especially is ignorant. I am an adult living on my own so it is not like they have to help me a lot. But sometimes I want them to see what they are doing. They are just absent minded, especially my father.

Question: Me and my sister have a strained relationship and it's getting worse. All I want is to be close to her. How can I get on the right path?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:56 PM PDT

She is 19 and I'm 20. Things between us have mostly been bad. We've gotten into so many fights that I can't even remember what most of them were about. High school especially was tough because I couldn't stand her getting boyfriends that she'd treat better than me. It's almost like she doesn't like me but I've never done anything overly bad to her. We've just never gotten along but the other day things got pretty bad. I tried to tell her that I want to have a better relationship with her and that I hate how she treats everyone better than she does me and she laughed at me and called me a pussy. I got a bit angry and I told her she acts just like our mother who walked out on our dad and always acted mean to him. She lost it and kicked me in the groin and told me if I ever said that again she wants nothing to do with me. I've been absolutely upset over this. I don't know what her issue is. I always try to be nice but she never reciprocates and then it cause us to fight. She's a ***** and it might be from my mom bt regardless she's my sister and I love her. How can I get through to her and get her to want to be close with me?

Question: URGENT NEED IDEAS FOR FATHER S DAY?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:52 PM PDT

I m 18 and currently waiting to start training at my new job in two weeks, so I don t have very much money. I went all out for mother s day because I had a job at the time and was able to afford everything I wanted to give to my mom. Now father s day is coming up and I have no idea what to do for my dad. I don t want to buy candy or any kind of sweets because my mom ALWAYS has candy around the house and she always gets a Boston cream pie every father s day. Here s some things about my dad: He s not one to go out to dinner and a movie or anything with my mom because it s just never been their thing. Sometimes he ll go out to the garage to play his drums and he used to be in a band. He loves to barbeque and he s a lake kinda guy so he loves to drive our boat and go on lake trips all through summer. I was thinking of maybe finding out his favorite bands so he can go to a concert or something but I have no idea how to purchase concert tickets, I ve never been to one myself. Any ideas based off this little bit of information? Please Help. Thanks!! xx

Question: I am still scared of my brother but he is not bad anymore. How do I overcome my fear of him?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:41 PM PDT

We are both adults but he had anger problems as a teen. He burned my parents house down for example and was arrested for arson and put in a therapeutic program. He was 15 when he did that. He returned home at 17 and no longer had the anger but was into drugs and alcohol. Then at age 21 he went to prison for 5 years for manslaughter. It has been 4 years since he got out of prison and he is a changed person completely. He no longer is a threat. I still remember the things he did between ages 10 to 15. For example he stabbed my mother, set two fires including the second one that burned down the house. He high one day and it took five men to hold him down until the police came. He was only 14 at that point. He crashed our parents car into the side of the house when mad at age 14 and he was arrested for that and held for 5 months in Juvenile Hall. He yelled every curse word imaginable and stole habitually when mad. Now he is not at all like this though. His five years in prison woke him up. He is a great person now. He even helps other troubled people now. Yet, I am still scared of him and fear the old him will come back at some point. How do I get over this? I forgive him but fear him.

Question: Am I horrible for not telling my parents?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:31 PM PDT

I m 18 and I m moving out of my parents house in two days. My plane ticket is bought, my bags are packed, I have all my papers together. I m moving into the house of my boyfriend of 5 years, we re planned this forever. My parents don t know about this though. My parents aren t the best to me. Everything I do is trivialized and they have their own myriad of problems in their marriage, in their families, and with their own mental health they both refuse to acknowledge. I m tired of it and have the opportunity to move out, so I m taking it. I m gonna continue my education in my new town, and I know I can only be happy if I move out of this small town with my parents and move to a city with my boyfriend. I feel like I m suffocating here. My parents think I m just going to take a trip with my friends for a few days and I feel bad and guilty for deceiving them but at the same time they ve hurt me so much for so many years and I can t take it anymore. I m telling them via text or call once I m out of state that I m not coming back but it feels like I m a bad person for this.

Question: My wife sold a car her father bought her. But instead gives money to her cousin for business. Her cousin have not paid since last year.?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:25 PM PDT

Question: Why Am I Feeling Guilty (Please Help)!?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:20 PM PDT

So I'm a 20 year old guy turning 21 in a couple of months and still living at home with my parents. The thing is I want to move out. I feel like I don't have much freedom when living at home with my family. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents to death. My mom is amazing and my dad is a very good husband and father to me and my brother (He's 17). I want to move to a different state about 20 hours away from my current state. I talked to my parents about it and my dad was very happy and excited that I'm moving forward with my life and living on my own, my mom acted like it didn't bother her in front of my dad but she's really heartbroken. She started talking to me about me moving out a few nights ago while I was laying down next to her then she started crying about how I'm gonna leave her all alone. I love my mom very very much and I hate seeing my mom cry it just breaks my heart. It's not like I'm never gonna visit them ever again. Once I get things sorted out in the new state I'm moving to I will come back and visit couple times a year if I can. I will not be living alone. I have a family member that I will be staying with I don't know how long though. also My girlfriend will be living with me once I get my own place in there. Did I make the right decision of moving out of my parent's house? Also is it wrong for choosing my girlfriend over my mom? ( I'm planning on marrying this girl in the future) she's not just any girl. But I feel like I made the wrong decision when I saw my mom cry

Question: Two things I wish lol?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 07:03 PM PDT

I told genesis... the research facility that I donated my dad's body to... That there is two things I wish... 1. I wish that you were not studying my dad's body, but instead rebuilding him to send him back here alive :P 2. I wish that the death was listed a negligent homicide and that the culprit is "ArkanStupidSaw"... But unfortunately lung cancer is a killer... and even in the richest states with the highest education standards... Survival rates for lung cancer are still low. I feel bad about that. :

Question: How to deal with verbally abusive dad who gets in your face and hits u with medium strength?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 06:56 PM PDT

Question: My Mom is a dangerous person. How do I stay safe from her damaging my relationships?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 06:55 PM PDT

For example she is always working hard to sabotage my relationships with any family members I love and she resents. This is especially true with my Dad who she divorced in 1995 and has devoted her life since to holding a grudge against him and all associated to him. He was not the easiest to be married to and was, still is, an alcoholic. However I am an adult and his drinking does not effect me. So now I am an adult and can see who I wish but my mother does all she can to make it difficult. Holidays are hell because she puts up roadblocks to try and make it difficult for me to see my Dad. She gets her mother, my grandmother, to get mad at me if I see my Dad at Christmas. I usually get around it and get to see him but it provokes a lot of anxiety. As a kid she also led me to believe my Dad did not love me and so I joined her side for 4 years and bad mouthed him daily with her. Now I feel guilty and that shame is triggered whenever there is a holiday if I don't see him. It is a toxic cycle. Again my Mom is the toxic one. My Dad's drinking usually does not bother me, there are exceptions when he is snappy. My mother, his ex-wife, is the dangerous one. How do I stay safe from the damage my toxic mother has caused. I think a lot of it is sub-conscience but when I confront her I get "don't you dare lecture your mother, I never would do that to mine". I have an anxiety disorder and all this makes it 100 times worse. ANY THOUGHTS?

Question: My aunt told me she would never leave her younger two sons with my mother. Was this mean?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 06:46 PM PDT

My mother has pulled away from her sister because her sister criticizes her so much. My Mom also is an anxious person. Otherwise she is fine and not a threat to anyone. So while she is not about to babysit anyone was this mean of her sister to say or is it reasonable?

Question: My sister is a bossy and immature girl in her 20's with the maturity level of a 7 year old. How do I turn my anger at her into pity?

Posted: 05 Jun 2017 06:44 PM PDT