3 weeks after the affair came out and my husband came crawling back to me, I asked my friend who is a girl (who is the best friend of the girl my husband cheated on with) and I asked her if she was the middleman sending messages from the other girl to him and she said no. At the same time she went onto saying " that's none of my business and I am shocked about the affair. I treat you like my sister, and I never knew anything until everything came out".....a week later my husband confessed and said she was sent one message for the other girl and that she knew about the affair for a whole month. I've known and have hung out with this girl for many years. Its one thing my husband cheated and lied...but for this friend that I trusted so much, she lied to me when I asked her about sending messages. and even had the nerve to call me her sister?! She's obviously choose her side. We are meeting up for dinner, How do I confront and talk to her about this?

I don't understand the mindset that beta males make better providers and fathers and husbands than alpha males. If a guy is less physically attractive, makes less money, has less of an interesting personality, is less leader like, how does he make a better father and husband than an alpha male who has a better paying job, a good personality, takes charge in taking care of his family, etc? Literally every aspect of the alpha male makes for a better father. I think a millionaire doctor who's a nice person and has good morals has infinitely better potential to be a good father compared to a guy who sells insurance making 30k a year, doesn't take care of his health, and is boring and doesn't want to be a leader in his family and just watches tv all day. I just think it's weird that women would rather marry a guy who is the personification of Homer Simpson rather than a guy who is successful in all areas of his life and wants to be a good father

The woman in question is my ex-best friend's wife. While we were friends I never would have considered doing anything. He ended our friendship of 8 years a few months ago, and I keep thinking I should try. She still keeps in touch with me, but he no longer does, and never even offered an explanation as to why we were no longer friends. I don't think she has told him that we still communicate from time to time. He treats her poorly. Name calling, shaming, embarrassing her in front of people. She is only with him, I think because they have a child, and she is waiting on her green card. and she doesn't want to get deported and never get to see her daughter. They have only been married a few years. Would I be wrong if I offered her a better life and an actual intimate marriage free of mental and verbal abuse? No she hasn't told me why. She will if I ask, but I don't even bring him up. I am done with the guy. I got to see a very dark side of him when we all lived together. I put it as just a dark time in general for him, but he is selfish, manipulative, and lazy. I got to see the verbal and mental abuse first hand. She didn't have to tell me. I actually pulled my friend aside one day and talked to him, as a friend about it, he made excuses about it, and basically blamed her for it. I just let it go. Her first priority is her child or she would've returned to her home country a while ago. We have not discussed anything of a future of her and I together ever. Depending on what I decide after getting a few answers on here it may lead to the first time anything is ever brought up. I still have to consider her friendship to me though. My loyalty is absolute, and I will not violate her trust or values. As for my ex friend. He ended the friendship, so my obligations to him are gone.

I'm 29 he's 30 and we have been dating a little over a yr. I understand we're still new to each other. I just want to know a suttle and no -threading way to tell your boyfriend that you want to be a mother and a wife. It was always spoken about, about kids and being a wife. We're both settle into our careers and my only concern is waiting too long and having health risk for the child. We're at the age where it's appropriate to discuss this, yet where still new to one another. I am now at the point where the baby fever is strong.

=I am very sensitive wife and when we argue about something, I usually tell him what to say to me or apologize to me. He is very honest, fun,and very helpful in house chores as well. He is living in my country for work and for me, he says. Nowdays raising baby together, we are both very tired and get very sensitive especially in eary morning. .= Both of us do not call each other names usually but my husband sometimes calls me those only when I acuse him over our son by asking him did you just hold him hard? And when he says he did not, but I seemed to have told him that he acted wrong. I know he hates to be accused doing something over our son. This morning, on the bed, my son was playing around my husband s neck and I accused him with the same content, and he said he did not hold him tight to move him away with upsetness while he was sleeping. And I told him again that he did it. And I told him do not ever treat him in that way with upset face. And then he said quietly bit** showing me his back on the bed. I hate to be called names from him. Recently we argue often and when I and he get tired, we tend to talk to each other with a little mean voice. So.if I oftenly bother him by accusing him or asking him the same questions over and over, I know this will upset him, do I deserve to hear that? I mean he is a good person but recently he seems to have a sensitive reaction over what I complain. So do you think the way I act to him is that bad?

How would you feel if this happened to you? I was caught by surprise but so many things going on I was not able to give it much thought until after we all ate lunch . I asked her why needs to stay in contact with them . I was upset and just walked away after lunch with my biological child to do our own thing and left her with him and in laws to chat . How should I feel about this? No big deal?

My sister has always been with men, never women. She was married to a man for nearly ten years and they have two kids together however her husband left her (he was very selfish guy with issues) when her youngest child was only one. Now she is in a relationship with a woman and her kids are two and three years old and she's claims she's a lesbian not even bi. How can she go from being straight to gay that fast especially since this is her first lesbian relationship?

Been married for one year I hate to complain but I am beyond disappointed in him. He works like alot but all the money he makes either goes to his sister bc he owes her (which i didnt know untill we married) or cigarettes. The situation is getting from bad to worse bc hes had to borrow thousands of dollars from me since we wed for a car, lawyers ext. This month instead of paying the rent on time for once or pay me back the thousands he owes me, he choose to send all the money to his sister leaving him pennyless for 2 weeks. Why would someone who cant pay there bills do that to there wife? His sister doesnt need the money as bad she lives rent free. We are in dire straights BC of him. I always pay bills on time and dont use my extra money for anything. This week with no money he has used our joint bank acount to buy cigaretts after I told him not to bc that money was for a few bills. Now the acount is left empty the checks are going to bounce and the check he gets in 2 days will be enough for the rent nothing else. The way i see it I will never get paid back and he will keep smoking. Its a horrible situation. I have reached out to his sister who says she will send the money BACK to me since we needed it for the bills. This is so embarrassing for me to have to ask his sister for the money. Its not like i dont work im working extra but this has gone to far. What should I do? Was it wrong of me to ask her for the money back when she originally offered that?

After 23 years of marriage my parents divorced and my mother wanted to throw away their wedding photo which is big in a wooden photo frame, a very beautiful picture. I stopped her and said no give it to me, it doesnt matter that you are divorced you will always be my parents, so I kept the photo and its now in my room. Divorced or not they will always be my mom & dad ❤️

I met a lovely guy at a girlfriends birthday party, I was tipsy and he lit me up. We ended up in bed at his apt I don't know his name, it was just a quickie, I still love my husband as much as before, it really meant nothing no feelings no guilt just quick thrilling sex. I won't ever see him again. So what is the big deal everyone on here goes on and on about cheating, it wasn't.

I snooped on my spouses phone after they returned from taking a vacation out of state to visit an old friend I had never met that I wasn't invited on(in the past they have told me neither of us should take solo vacations). I found they had been bad mouthing me behind my back and talking about arguments we had and depicted me in a negative light. I also found their ex had been coming over to their house brining dinner over, something they had never mentioned to me. I confronted them and it resulted in a huge argument and now they hide their phone lock it with a password and even take it to the bathroom with them. I know I was wrong for snooping. What should I do ?

My wife's 21 year old son still lives at home with us. My 20 year old daughter is home for the summer on summer break from college. Yesterday she was at a job interview for her 2nd job and needed her birth certificate so I told her I would swing by the house to pick it up and bring it to her. When I pulled into the driveway my step-son was there getting ready for work. I run up the steps into the house but on the way back out I looked down at the steps and he had a couple packs of blunt cigars and a plastic container next to it. Blunts are legal because all it is is tobacco. But in the container were several buds of weed. I look at him and ask "what that was?" I already knew but I was surprised that he'd just have it sitting on our steps. I told him I wanted it gone. How dare he bring weed into our home. Today I sent him a text saying that we need to talk about the weed. His reply was "what about it?" My reply was, "Are you kidding me?" And he replies, "I like to smoke it." He's 21 and can legally drink but I don't want him bringing beer or any other type of alcohol into our house but weed is still illegal in our state. My wife wants to excuse this as he's young and that's what kids do. If you want to smoke weed then that's all on you but you're not going to do it in my house. How should I handle this situation since mom seems to not care either? Either the weed goes or you go, plain and simple. Am I wrong? Here's the kicker. He has a second job valet parking cars at an upscale hotel in our city. Would you want some 21 year old kid parking your car knowing he's high on weed? In an effort to even the score my wife brought up the fact that "well, your daughter talks to you any kind of way but you're upset about this?" She likes to bring my daughter into an argument when it's not about her. My step-son has weed in our house and she seems fine with it. Her son borrows her car and she's fine with the fact knowing he's driving her car probably high on weed. Would I be wrong to go home and completely turn his room upside down looking for more weed he may have stashed in there?

My husband does I discovered, he tells me all married men do, so I thought YA might answer that!. I don't mind I watch sometimes just wondered if you all do and how often. He does it 2/3 times a week he is 35 and yes we have a very healthy sex life, but he says it's different ? What do you think?

I am not upset about $15K. We can certainly afford that. I am upset that he didn't discuss and just bought motorcycle

She keeps asking about my guy friend who is a lawyer. I think she wants to be set up with him however she is divorced with two kids and my guy friend doesn't want kids let alone step kids. Plus he works all the time and wouldn't be there to father her kids like she also wants.Her ex husband and father of her kids was very wealthy growing up but his parents lost their money and he is broke now and has to work. They are divorced. She also isn't good about paying when she goes out. Is she money hungry?

My boyfriend wanted to get away to see friends but he didn't have the money because he's financially struggling because of his child support and mortgage. He is 32 and his mom bought him a vacation to go see his friends. Is he too old to be accepting trips like this? His mom also helps him buy groceries and food still and bought him furniture and appliances for his new house. He says he struggles because he was left with a big house to pay for after his divorce and he pays a lot of child support.

I've been noticing that my wife has been talking to other men on different social media. She's even made a new private page on one of them and blocked me from seeing that page (if I wanted to try and look her up). I've looked through some messages and what I've seen is making me question our relationship and if she even wants to be together. I've nonchalantly brought up the issue recently that I was concerned about and she said that she wouldn't do it any more and that she's only attracted to me. I feel like one of her single friends has convinced her to make said page and I guess feel single along with her for attention. I'm not sure what to think/feel. I don't want to raise suspicion and feel insecure about our relationship and our future.

She is very conscious of her body, she works out and does the spa every week. She has been reading how all the female film stars have their labia remodeled She has a georgeous full labia with large inner lips which she wants cutting down! She says they are ugly but I argue that it's only me that sees them and I love the large lips. Now she wants me to pay to have them reduced ???

My husband was happy that we had our first child. But since having him he seems like he has lost interest in me. He doesn't sleep with me and says it's to risky using a condom and he wants me to get better contraception. Why is he so scared to have another baby. I myself don't want to have baby but because he is so behaviour it's making me think why. Sometimes I even catch him watching porn. He goes to bed without me and then turns the other way when he sees me. I went upto him yesterday to hug him and he was startled and said he felt shy. He is making me so uncomfortable in this marriage I feel so lonely. I feel like he has lost interest in me and is making excuses. Plus he doesn't communicate with me.

He wont let go i dont know why ive never cheated on him before i lost 50 pound and gain 15 cuase i stop going i talk to him and cant make him understand

I met a guy, we hung out and had sex 4 times within the month I've known him. I do truly love my husband, but I enjoy good love making sessions too. The man does know that I am married, he is a single man. I constantly visit him at his house. I know that I'm taking things to far, should i just break things off with this man? Well this man get offended if I break things off? I would like honest answers. So far this man wants to plan his weekend around me, he makes me feel good I do know that it's wrong and a marriage is 2 imperfect people before God. What do I do?

I found out about the affair after 1.5 years and he ended it in order to save our marriage. Since then, he has seen her several times, after he said he ended it. It's now 4 years later and he is still reaching out to her to check on her. Does he miss her? Does he love her? What keeps him from completely letting her go and checking on her?

I'm going through a divorce and a custody battle over two kids. The father has asked the court for full custody. I currently live with my parents because I've been advised that I can't get my kids unless I live with my parents. But, the truth is my parents provide a volatile environment that neither me nor my kids like to live in. If I move out, would that be giving up my kids?? If I move out, I'd movr into my first child's Aunt. My ex-sister in-law, who's extremely supportive and whom my kids enjoy living with very much.