Family: Question: Moveing family across America?

Question: Moveing family across America?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:46 PM PDT

we live out of state from my family and I really need to move back home due to my dad isn't doing so well. Husband dose not want to move to NC or even the east coast because of the weather. I moved here for him and have been here for 4 years now. I love it here but feel guilty livening far from my dad and keeping his first grand baby away from him. I also feel guilty if i moved my family to NC knowing they hate it :( don't know what to do...

Question: Should I move out of my parents' house?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:44 PM PDT

I am 18 years old. I was a good student overall and graduated from high school when I was 16. I could not finish my college degree because of my familial problems. My parents always fight. On top of that, their economical condition is terrible. We live in a studio basement and we are a family of four. I worked a lot but still couldn't manage to finish my studies as they kept snatching my money. But now, I want to start my life over again since I'm only 18. Do you think I can move out and manage to pay my rent, bills and everything myself? Please note, I'm in a mental trauma while I'm at their house. That's the reason I'm considering moving out. But, I step back because of their words. My dad keeps discouraging me. He says my situation is going to be worse if I move out. He says I'm going to be homeless and starve to death. Then again, I was considering the money issues. I cannot afford a house for all of us on my income. But, I can manage to get a room for myself and live comfortably.

Question: Other parents ideas on teen driving privilege?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:32 PM PDT

16 yr old son moved back in with us7 months ago. Deal was grades up to passing or loose driving vehicle( family vehicle which we would eventually give to him) . for 7 months I let it slide , kept reminding him about grades. He had the potential to pull them up.All low Fs, we took steps to get tutering etc if he was having trouble.. Its his way or nothing. Teachers said he can be a hatd worker and can do it he just doesnt care and takes no responsobility / accountability and had some defiant behavior. Parents with teens may know. Fast forward to June. Vehicle taken away so far for a week. He moved back in with his mom. Insurance on him on w/suv will be over 400.00 a month. He is working. We offered to get him back and forth to work etc. We had to stand by our decision. Hes highly upset and expects us to not "piss him off" and he bullies people around. Insuramce will drop us if we let him take vehicle to his moms. I feel like I must stand by decision at this time and i guess my question is what do other parents do ?

Question: What do you think of a 55 year old guy that pays rent to a live-in girlfreind sleeps about 4 night on a couch at his aunt and uncles house?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:26 PM PDT

Question: Camp David is rustic. WIll donald fit into the outhouse? Will Melania fetch water? Will Barron will be allowed to enjoy nature with Dad?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 12:59 PM PDT

Question: Why does my dad treat me so unfairly?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 12:47 PM PDT

I have 5 brothers, and I'm the only girl. My dad always treats me as if I am the most unimportant person in the house, and I hate it. On most days it starts off good, then he completely changes, and starts treating me unfairly compared to my other brothers.For example, if I get hurt he just tells me to take some medicine, but if my older brother gets hurt, he treats him like a prince or something.Although I get extremely sad when stuff like that happens, I get mad for an hour or so, but still end up forgiving him every time. I hate the way my dad treats me, and I want to know why I am less important than the rest of my siblings.

Question: My uncles abuse me, what should I do?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 12:19 PM PDT

I'm 14 and I live with my uncles. They have abused me and my brother physically, emotionally and sexually. They have hit me for accidentally touching them, my brother for lying about BRUSHING HIS TEETH, they also threaten to "beat our a** so bad we won't be able to sit for a week". And they call me names like f***tard, brain-dead and twig. And I think this is worst of all, they used to make me and my brother take showers with them to the point that we were crying because they forced us to, and they say that they have cameras all over the house, including the bathroom. Also I was in their bathroom and I found weed and a bong this kinda scared me and I don't feel very comfortable knowing this. What do I do???

Question: People think I am anoying and my parents to cause I aks way to many questions?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 11:59 AM PDT

My parents are mad and yelling cause I aks to many questions and it is frustrating me and my friends to what to do and its realy hard to socialize for me I only know how to socialize out of questions ):

Question: I dont like my sister anymore. How do I ignore her when we live in the same house?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 11:46 AM PDT

Okay, so my older sister is becoming really rude and annoying. If I even run into her at home she doesn't even say anything, just looks away. Most days she ignores me the WHOLE DAY! Meanwhile, shes always laughing and talking to my parents and other siblings. Like, you really make it obvious!! Rudeness is not a good color on you. Anyways, she only ever talks to me when she needs help or wants to do something. When I do, she just ignores me. Its SO annoying and she only really cares about herself. We would have a normal conversation, and she would be so into what shes talking about. Whenever IM the same, shes all "Oh, cool." Like.. really?!?! She sounds NINE doesnt she?!?! Shes 16... -_- she is SIXTEEN AND STILL ACTS LIKE SHES NINE!!! I just cant stand her, and shes always rude but makes sure to be subtle so no one will care or even notice that shes being rude. Idk if older siblings are always rude to their younger siblings or if she just simply doesn't like me.... BUT SHE HAS NO REASON BECAUSE I VE ALWAYS TRIED TO BE NICE TO HER!! Once she moves out i feel ready to not have a sister anymore. Like she just brings so much negativity into my life, and always makes me cry. If i do something, she'll always say im not doing it right. Also, she never owns up to her mistakes. If i try to talk to her about it, she'll just storm off. We used to be friends, but I would pick soo many people over her. Anyways, how do I ignore her if we live in the same house? I can only ignore her atm..

Question: I m in high school and I may have to move houses but I am freaking out!!! What can I do to help my parents and not move?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 11:39 AM PDT

I am in high school with one younger brother and my mom lost her job and my dad has to travel everywhere and is sick of it so he is quitting. I overheard my parents and they said we are running out of money in our bank account and then my dad told me we may have to move houses soon. Battling through high school my house is my one safe haven and I can t loose it now because this is where I have lived all my life. My parents fight all the time about how my dad isn t home but moving would be so much worse. They said that if I got a job it wouldn t help but I want to know what else I can do.

Question: What should I charge for homecare?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 11:00 AM PDT

My sister was having some memory issues and confusion so I brought her into my home to care for her. She is content now, no longer lonely, and eating well and doing much better now. Her finances were in shambles and I have become her personal secretary and financial manager as well as her cook, laundress, driver, and medical advocate. She is 89. I have cut way back on my work hours to devote myself to her. She says she wants to pay me for all that I do. I have no idea what to charge her. I know she can afford to pay, but she is my big sister - more like a mom to me, so I am not comfortable to talk about money from her to me. Yet, she has much much more of it than I do, and I have lost half of my income in bringing her here, I have asked her for nothing so far. If I can bring myself to accept any money, what do you think would be fair?

Question: My parents don't let me buy things with my own money?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 10:49 AM PDT

I've been saving up specifically for a laptop for the past few months, and I get good grades, yet my parents don't let me buy anything. They don't have a valid reason why I can't, they just don't let me. What should I do?

Question: Would this drive you insane, someone who is terrible at singing, and plays the guitar?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 10:35 AM PDT

My dad likes to play the guitar, but he doesn't play it he beats the strings instead of strumming. He is completely unaware. It drives me and my mom insane, he does it several times a day. The he constantly tell to stop his singing, because he sings terrible it's screeches in my ears. It bothers my mother studying for her CMA and it has been bothering the activities doing in my daily. I have tried to listen to music loud enough to avoid the sound, because I have been listening to it for 2 years and just one day is enough for me to go crazy. I would let go if it was a chance of him improving, but this person is completely unaware of terrible how they play and has no chance for improvement, because he thinks he is already good, and will scream and threaten us if we tell him he is terrible.

Question: To be furious my adult daughter cashed in a life insurance policy we had on her that we paid on?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 10:16 AM PDT

She is 33 and is a little slow.She did it on such a sneaky way I feel betrayed.I feel robbed. She bought a car and got an apt with someone.She said she was sick of hearing her father and I scream at each at other and having her father watch her like a twelve year old. I am thinking of telling my other son in law so he will ground her from the nieces and nephews. she said she will continue to do little errands and she hopes we don't start a war. I don't think I can trust her ever again.i think out relationship might be over. The people at work think I am justified in being so pissed The neighbours are sick of hearing me scream and scream and scream at her.

Question: My dad gets angry at me for having anxiety?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 09:40 AM PDT

My father is a pretty angry dude.I'm talking screaming, insults, etc. Yesterday was a bad day for my anxiety.We were set to go somewhere in about an hour and I started crying as a result of a panic attack. I truly was terrified in the moment.He came in, told me to "shut the f* up, grow up, and get over it" and told me that "it's always the same **** and it's ridiculous". I'm 18.I otherwise do what I'm told, don't break any rules, don't drink/smoke, etc.When we arrived at said event (something I was dreading)tried doing something I had to do but was afraid of once, succeeded, and then was told I had to do it again because it didn't develop correctly. Full blown panic, and I couldn't do it. My dad came storming into the roomand told me that if I didn't do it he was done with me. He snatched my phone out of my hand(I was using music to calm myself) in front of everybody.couldn't do it so we left and in the elevator he told me not to talk to him anymore, and that he was stripping me of all of my privileges and was no longer going to take me to my college orientation weekend next week. Instead of fighting him back I just listened,and in the car on the way home I gave him a sincere apology twice to which the first he said "Shut up and stop talking" and to the second no response.He snapped at me again this morning, telling me once again to shut up.His reaction to my anxiety makes me even more anxious as I then worry about getting noticeably anxious and getting him angry. Any advice?

Question: My parents are super hard on me and it makes me sad all the time because I really try to do things right.?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 08:33 AM PDT

Recently I went to a magnet doctor with my dad.. super creepy stuff they find >.< and they told my dad they found some hidden emotions and they ranged from depressive thoughts to simple things such as feeling like they dont appreciate me trying to do everything they say.. and it got better I was happy but recently it s been the same. An example was I was making dinner for my family and my dad always gets water so I served him water and I had made lasagna and salad... well I get to the table and he says he didn t want water and he told me the garlic bread was missing.. that really really hurt.. I know it s probably dumb but I really really tried to make everything perfect and they expect a lot more.. this morning he asked for eggs so I made him some and he got upset and asked why I didn t heat up beans and tortillas... one more example.. I clean the kitchen Sometimes.. usually my mom asks me to do it but I did it without her asking and felt pretty good about myself but then she walked in the kitchen and yelled at me for missing spots on the counter... I know this is really dumb probably but i just need advice on what to do or what because I ve been getting super upset and sad again like before and I just hate feeling this way..

Question: Are we doing the right thing?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 08:21 AM PDT

We told my mother in law that she has till Sept 1st to move out of our house. Without ranting and creating a ton for you to read I'll just say that I respect her as my husband's mother but she does not respect me or her own son esp her grandkids. She tries to control everything from everything involving our special needs boys (3 boys) she goes through our mail, phone, and any papers she can find just to nose in and run her mouth to those who gossip. She is living with us for free, doesn't do anything to help around here and is constantly arguing. When we said she has till Sept 1st the family is acting like we are the bad guy here. Which brings me to my question, are we doing the right thing by telling her she has to leave? we have had multiple talks about boundaries and our expectations, she just doesn't care and does what she feels like doing

Question: Should I attend this funeral or give the funds to another family member so they can go?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 08:03 AM PDT

Me and my family always had bad blood but I speak to them from time to time. This one in particular did me dirty a lot back in the day but I forgave her; seems like I always have to give her money though. Anyway an elder in the family passed so of course everyone in the family is traveling across county to attend the funeral. That certain family member needs around $1k to go. I kinda feel bad because if I give her the money then I can't go and obviously I would hate her guts for putting me in that position. I am sure everyone would be wondering why I didn't come out either to see the oldest person in the family lay to rest. Then there is the second option of not giving her the money and then she would just hate my soul and encourage everyone in the family to hate me for not helping her. And for some odd reason they take her side.....That's how me and my entire family fell out in the first place. So as you can see its a tricky situation where no one really wins. In times like these I wish I had a lot of money to solve everything....or just had a sane understanding family... Because no matter what I do here someone will end up hating someone. Sad that people don't plan for rainy days and then people like me end up looking like the bad guy when we refuse to open our wallet or our well runs dry.........But hey, we cant choose our family. Anyway any advice is helpful, I am sure you all were in similar situations when it came to money and family.

Question: My dad makes me feel absolutely worthless and a waste of space?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 07:48 AM PDT

It's going on for some time now and he keeps comparing me to other kids and saying oh they're so advanced and smart, and keeps telling my mum what his cousin's children score and stuff and always brags to his colleagues about them, not me. Every single time we go to a dinner party he's like "my brother's daughter is one of the best in the whole nation" when I'm one of the best in my class and I cry every night. I talk to him much less now and I tell him how I feel but he never takes me seriously and just laughs. I'm getting depressed and pressured and almost suicidal. What do I do?

Question: How do I stop parents from getting on my nerves?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 07:44 AM PDT

My parents, mom especially, are always getting on my nerves for the littlest things. For example, my mom will just state the most obvious things and think that we didn't know them (me and my sister). It actually happened this morning. She woke me up at 8 and then went to wake up my sister while telling us stuff that we had to do which we already knew. She said stuff like,"Shell, you have to mow anon1 and anon2's lawn today (knew that already. I have a little business where I mow neighbor's lawns on Saturdays) and anon1 is having a party later so you have to do their lawn first (knew that too). She said that stuff pretty loudly to me and then went over to my sister's room and told her the exact same thing because she thinks we can't hear. She always does this kind of thing and whenever we ask her to stop or tell her that we know what we need to do, she gets all offended and pissed off at us because she thinks that we're talking back. Any advice to help me get less annoyed by this or help me figure out a way for them to stop? Thanks...

Question: 2 parties and social anxiety is taking over. Parents don't know?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 07:42 AM PDT

Today I have a graduation party (I'm not friends with anyone going) and a gymnastics party (not as worried for this). I've struggled with social anxiety for awhile and no one knows. If I said I didn't want to go to the graduation party bc I get really anxious my parents would think I'm making up a lie bc my sister recently started going to therapy for her anxiety. I asked my mom and she said I didn't have to go but now I do cause my dad yelled at me. All I do the whole time is stand awkwardly near my parents while they talk to adults I don't even know and my sister goes with her older friend somewhere in their house. Help.

Question: Do you have to love your family?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 07:06 AM PDT

i really do nnont feel like i belong there. even my mother said that my views are completely differennt from hers and therfore do not belong in the family. Sometimes even though I think I am in the right my mother nnever seems to think my way. but i am also the same as her. What do i do

Question: What do you do if you want to run away?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 07:01 AM PDT

I feel that I am a terrible son. I always lie to my parents because I am afraid of what they d do if they knew the truth. I do not feel like my existence in this family is required

Question: I have to see my Mom this weekend. She is very difficult because she is so bitter towards my Dad (they divorced in 1998). How do I handle it?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 06:35 AM PDT

I generally avoid her but I am seeing her Dad for Father's Day since my Dad is oversees for two weeks and her Dad, my grandfather, is ill. So I have to see my Mom. I see her like once every other month. She will throw out insults about my Dad and it makes me feel guilty or ashamed that I am listening to it. She gets mad when I tell her that. My Dad did hurt her emotionally and left her, however I should not be punished for that.

Question: How do I mark tomorrow, Father's Day, when I feel so sad that our annual reunion is over?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 06:33 AM PDT

My Dad used to have a reunion with his siblings, mother, and us kids-grandkids. It was Father's Day weekend every year. My Dad died in 2012. I still feel so sad on this holiday, I hate it. I tried to make the reunion myself but had no luck. The others seem to busy understandably and the aunt and uncle have died since. Something small was held in 2014 but nothing else. We still get together around the Christmas holidays but not here in June. It hurts so much. How do I get over this pain?

Question: My cousins from one part of the family blocked me on Facebook. Does this mean they dislike me or just they don't want me to see something?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 06:31 AM PDT

Their Mom and my Mom are on bad terms.

Question: Uncle is an alcoholic and Mom is reaching out to him. Why is Mom's sister accusing her of enabling?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 06:30 AM PDT

It is not like she is buying him alcohol.

Question: Translate this to Korean?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 06:20 AM PDT

Dear, Dad Today is a day for thanking you and everything you've done for me, but in reality I should thank you everyday and appreciate you more than I do now. Without you I would be nothing and everything is thanks to you. Without that person to play catch with or someone who I could look up to my entire life would have taken a turn for the worse. As I grow older I will want to go outside less often and playing sports together will be a thing of the past, but you will still be my dad. Our conversations will grow different from talking about football to girls or cars or college, but no matter what happens in the future you are forever more to me than just a father. Some kids have no dad and others have not so nice ones, but I was lucky enough to be born into a family with two loving parents and a sometimes loving sister (I'm just kidding nuna).Someday I wish to be as great as a dad to my kids like you were to me (maybe a little bit manlier). Thanks for being my dad,

Question: What should i do, save up and put all the money back when my mum used half of the money or just leave it for her to use as allowances?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 06:08 AM PDT

My mum found my granddads money in his apartment when she was helping him to clear it out, she didn t tell him and at the time my grandad was in care and he hadn t got long to live. But that wasn t all of the money there was a lot everywhere and it was only a sixth or less of the money. But thing is if my mum didn t take the money, my other aunts and uncle will and they would do the same and hide it or split it between 5 or 4 if they wanted to include my other aunt who had passed away but my youngest aunt is the type that she would not split it between the 5 when my aunt who had passed away has 4 children. Now, my mum has spent half of the money on my grandad s funeral and other things and i shouldn t be bad-mouthing about her but she didn t input some money to it and others like my uncle and aunts think my mum has input her own into it. My mum and me is going to asia to sort my granddads tomb stone and she wanted to use the leftover money and use it as spending money and taking my granddads friends out to eat. My mum then said the whole leftovers money she found, she said to use it for when i go to uni. But I don t and i want to save up and put back the amount me and my mum found. I just don t feel right about using my grandad s money, its just wrong and i respect my mother as well and i get it that my mum is not in the right financial position and only counting on my dads wages to live on and i had just started working part time weekends as i am still studying.

Question: Why might my Mom be so hateful towards her extended family of origin?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 05:44 AM PDT

It is not her parents and siblings but her extended family. She has an aunt who is the sweetest person in the world and many wonderful cousins. Two uncles got more in their mothers estate then my Mom's mother. My Mom has forever resented this. Also her Mom's father was an alcoholic and apparently unpleasent. However he died in 1982 and it is now 2017. My mother hates those two uncles and does not want to see the aunt even though she acknowledges the aunt has a soft side.I mentioned recently one of the uncles was in town near where we live and my mother said "don't go telling him we live here, I don't want to see him". She also asked why I have him on Facebook. They are all nice now and the estate issues my grandmother is long over and she gets along with them even though they aren't necessarily close. I got to know them from going to a reunion with my grandmother which my mother has boycotted all but once. So why the bitterness in a family like this when the alcoholic grandfather has been dead since 1982? Plus an alcoholic is sick so her grandfather was simply struggling (he died before I was born).

Question: How to make my son stop fighting?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 05:37 AM PDT

My son took karate last year, and ever since has been practing his moves incessantly on children he meets. He does it at any time, and does not discriminate. He has beaten the living piss out of girls and boys alike, and always does it at times when they'd least expect it (during church, sitting at a table at a restaurants, etc). He says that he's a "villain" and uses his karate powers for evil rather than good. Should I try to find a drug that will chill his *** out?

Question: Question about homeless shelter?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 05:19 AM PDT

I'm 19, i don't get along with my family. And I don't want to keep putting them through pain. Should I find a shelter to stay at?

Question: My parents never believe anything I say. What should I do?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 04:43 AM PDT

Whenever I try to tell my side of a story, they don't believe me. It's like anything I say doesn't matter. They always doubt the things I say.

Question: Why does my little sister have it so much easier than me?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 04:33 AM PDT

I m 13 and my sister is 8. She has everything a lot easier than me.... she has almost no chores and i have at least 10 a day including manual labor. Another thing that bothers me is every time she gets grounded (even if it s just for a day) she just asks our parents to get ungrounded after about an hour and they unground her. Whereas when they ground me sometimes even for months on end they don t unground me at all even if I beg or if it s for just a day to go to the cinema. Also I tried something the other day where I did the same thing to get into trouble as my sister did about a month ago... she didn t even get grounded and i got grounded for 2 weeks. I just don t think it s fair.

Question: I want to put hair extentions,blue contact lenses and change my wardrobe.My mom yells at me.She says why do you want to become another?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 04:21 AM PDT

woanm?Stay this way and love yourself.Why is she doing this?

Question: Is there anything stranger than that?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 03:55 AM PDT

A woman changing in front of her father, got naked in front of her father that causes sexual desires in the father.

Question: My mom & dad had divorce recently because my dad cheated her with a prostitute. why my mom still says to me that he is yo dad ,he loves you?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 02:53 AM PDT

I fuking hate him now cause he cheated but tbh he was an awesome dad but still he cheated my mom!! Why should i talk to him? But my mom still say to me that he is yo dad , you should talk with him daily and all

Question: Can anyone out there... please help me?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 02:52 AM PDT

I want to know if you could please tell me why I would like to know maybe if I didn't ...but what else am I supposed to do? Grandma won't let me... go! goooooooo! back to where I never came from... how can I when I can't assemble a phrase with two hands that have never been placed on the furnace. I am so angry at everyone who has ever doubted Easter egg hunting! how could you?

Question: How do I convince my traditional minded parents that video games are normal among teenagers?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 02:38 AM PDT

It seems like my parents literally believe video games were invented by satan himself. Although they are traditional minded, they are basically educated. They have kept me away from my PlayStation and PC all year long because of studies and now even when during summer vacations, they can't resist continuously scolding me for playing games. Is there any way to convince them that gaming is normal? It kinda pisses me off when they compare me to all the students with excellent grades but they can't compare with all the teenagers who like gaming in our own society.

Question: Well I am a HANDICAP GUY and so i want my wife to sleep with some other guy so that atleast my wife gets the SEXUAL SATISFACTION. is it ok?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:22 AM PDT

Question: Has my fatehr just done something illegal?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:20 AM PDT

So it is my sisters 18th and I wanted to test which phone powers on faster; mine or my brothers phone. Now my brother would refuse to let me do it even though I let him borrow my old phone as he lost his own which is why I claim ownership of it. I took it pff of him and then he went 'Hey!' in an angry voice. Then my dad said 'Stop it right now or I will kick your ar*e so hard that my foot will fall off'. This was his exact words and I felt threatened by this as he has never said anything like that to me in such an aggressive approach. I would it if you could help. -Ciaran.

Question: My parents are making me extremely depressed?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:14 AM PDT

I m about to be 18 and I really wanted to drive but the problem is, is that my parents say I can t and won t allow me too. Every morning my mother always decided what clothes I wear and how my hair is styled. I never go shopping on my own either, she always buys my clothes, shoes and every time I get something from the store she always has to approve of what I m buying first. Even if it s candy, or one dollar. My parents also say I can t cook and won t let me use the stove or oven. My mom also says I can t go swimming or have swimming lessons of any sort. The only time I go out is with my family and even then i never go out on my own unless my mom says it s okay. My mom always chooses my school supplies, what schools I attend, what my classes are, and the type of backpack I have. If she doesn t like the color or style of my backpack I can t just buy it. and my iPad is on safety mode. I am not allowed to date or have a boyfriend because my parents say no. And my mom is trying to force me to change schools, change my hair, change my writing and I don't think she's gonna let me travel I'm really depressed about this. I have a really sad future

Question: My mom wants to move out, but we have no where to go.?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 01:08 AM PDT

My grandpa is refusing to fix the air conditioner to our house, causing my mother to get excessive hot flashes. We have tried to talk to him about it, but he is old and kind of crazy, and he won t listen to us. He wears jackets and long sleeves out in 80 degree weather. My mom is losing it living in this house in such hot weather, and she has been talking about possibly leaving the house and moving out somewhere else. Problem is, she does not have a job. She lives off of social security, and my sister works minimum wage at a fast food restaurant. We have barely enough money to make it every month, let alone pay rent at a house. My mom also, refuses to try and find work anywhere past walking distance of the house, which she has already tried every nearby location, yet she wants to move out. We have no where else to go. I m 16 years old. I m a minor. Technically, in the state of Texas, I can move out at the age of 17 and the police cannot force me back home unless there is proof of an unsafe environment, and as long as I state to my mother that I m moving and tell her where it is I will be. I refuse to allow my mother to jeopardize my future by forcing me onto the streets without schooling and without a home. Is there anyway I could stop her from doing so? Any sort of legal measures I can take in order to stop her from purposefully putting me in danger of not having a home nor being in a proper school, because I will be unable to attend school if I am living on the streets.

Question: I feel disgusted and honestly afraid of my parents?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 12:52 AM PDT

I can't be the only one who thinks this is crazy. So I'm 15 and I disagree with my parents politically, and they showed me some dumb guy named Ben Shapiro and someone brought up the idea of secular morality. I always ask this question when people bring this up, and I asked my parents as an atheist that if they found out undeniably that there was no God and religion is fake, would you go around raping and murdering people. And to my disgust, my dad said yes, that if he saw a pretty woman that he would rape her if there was no God. I feel uncomfortable being around them now and I honestly feel nothing but hatred for them. What do I do? My mom just sat there nodding in agreement so I don't trust her either. I just feel like if you need a fictional book to be moral than you are a piece of crap. Thus makes me scared for if he ever opens his mind to differing opinions and finds out his religion is false.

Question: Would you forgive a person this bad?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 12:14 AM PDT

My brother currently in jail for 2 years so far has had his fiancé with his 5 year old daughter his fiancé worked in a bar and secretly was dating this guy and now she's pregnant she's due tomorrow and she sends letters intimate stuff to my brother and she thinks she's gonna go back to my brother and my brother gets out in 4 weeks he is really stupid and I feel like he still loves her and her baby father left now she's trying to get with my brother and she's really beautiful she has green eyes and curly hair she's really beautiful I have envy towards her and she's a professional makeup artist

Question: How do I talk to my mom?

Posted: 17 Jun 2017 12:13 AM PDT

Okay so a little back story my parents are divorced have been since i was little have been since i was little im 15 now ill be 16 in a 2 months i will be in 11th grade this coming school year okay so i feel like my mom is extremely over protective & she also doesnt understand i have needs. my mom doesnt let me go to these all night they throw at this place were i i live i used to ask all the time but know im tired of hearing no all night is just where you go some a bunch o people come & you kinda get lock in the building all night except the its only for kids of a certain & and they have a police on duty too & ive told her that but still no she also doesnt let me hang out with my friends or anything which is really kinda getting in the way now that summer is here because its like im losing in touch with every one & since im going to be a junior this year & dnt hang round to many people to being with i really dnt want to ruin any relationships. okay so this where it gets embarrassing so im a tom boy but im trying to branch away from that but i feel uncomfotable talking about things like skirts dresses & bras & stuff but i have been cursed with big boobs but wait it gets worse the last time my mom bought me real bras & panties was when we were living in our old house & we moved over a year ago and my boobs were too big then & way too big know and i have to wear a really tight tank top with them if i dnt have a shirt i can wear a sports bra on how do i tell her she being uptight i understand the whole sex thing honestly but i shouldnt have to struggle bout what to wear because i dnt have the right bra also im a virgin and never had a boyfriend i dnt even to her about boys whenever she asks i just say im not looking and then she assumes im gay and then i have to reassure her im not she has nothing to worry about but its hard because im 15 with the body of a 21 yr and im getting really tired of only being able to wear sports bras and even those are staring to get to small

Question: Is this abuse or is it normal?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 11:36 PM PDT

Ok so here's the chores I do every day: 1. Wake up and herd 6 siblings from the bedroom into the living room (it's harder than it sounds) 2. Watch them and obey them until mom gets up 3. Get yelled at by mom until ears literally hurt 4. Make their breakfast 5. Try to prevent them from throwing food/milk everywhere 6. Clean up 7. Watch them for 2-3 hours until snack 8. Repeat steps 5-6 9. Watch them until dinner 10. Steps 5-6 again 11. Get them all into the bedroom 12. Try to have fun until bedtime I'm scared of my parents, they hate me... I'm homeschooled, so I'm home all day I have depression I also have autism I don't have time to have hobbies or anything I'm too young to move out Is this abuse or is it normal? PS. I know I look like a troll, but THIS IS TRUE

Question: Do you get along with your siblings?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 11:22 PM PDT

I am 25 years old and I am pretty happy I have an amazing girlfriend I am finishing up my engineering degree and consider myself to get along well with others. My brother on the other hand, is 35 he moved in back home after a bad divorce but he seems to not get along with anyone therefore, he has no friends and tends to ignore me and talk poorly behind my back when in reality I have done nothing wrong. Do you get along with your siblings?

Question: What do i do about my abusive mom?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 11:14 PM PDT

so my mom abuses me when i talk back or stuff like that. when my brothers talk back they just get yelled at but when i do it she hurts me and leaves bruises sometimes. i dont know what to do anymore. she tells me to be more social but its hard because i have 3 different kinds of anxiety. she just doesn't understand and she never listens to me. she pulls my hair, drags me by my hair, pushes me, slaps me, shoves me into things, ect. i tell my great grandma about it and she calls my mom but my mom lies about it. she makes me feel like everything is my fault and i bring myself down a lot about it because im not the way she wants me to be.

Question: I hate my stepmom and father?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 11:09 PM PDT

I hate my life so much. I m close to 17 years old and my father won t give me a phone or trust me to do anything. He is the most controlling person on this planet. He only believes he is right and no one else is. And my devil stepmother is worse. I forget to do things and she constantly yells at me. And I can t help if I so forgetful I m stressed with school and basketball. And she constantly takes my ps4 away which is the only thing fun in this evil house. I can t even use wifi or social media at the house. He banned me from it. I m so done with life and I just feel like dying sometimes. The only fun times I have are with my friends and I can t live with my mom because she s in another country. I don t honesty feel like living anymore.

Question: You can smell fish in your bedroom, what do you do when you notice your mom in your bed?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 11:04 PM PDT

Question: I suspect my father is having an affair with my mother, what should I do?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 10:56 PM PDT

Question: So I'm getting married in July and I need to find me a father daughter song. He's my step father but he's more of a father to me than my bio?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 10:32 PM PDT

So I'm getting married in July and I need to find me a father daughter song. He's my step father but he's been more of a father to me than my biological father. I met my step father 6 yrs ago and he's been great but I wanna song that reflects our relationship even though he wasn't there when I was a kid.

Question: What do you think of this?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 10:31 PM PDT

I was talking to my grandma on messenger just 20 minutes ago and she told me that she was going to get off and will see me on father's day. I put the letter k and whenever I out the letter k, it changes to kys because I say that a lot lol. Anyways I said kys and my grandma said "what does that mean?" I said "nothing ☻"

Question: My sister thinks I'm selfish?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 10:11 PM PDT

Today I helped her clean her apartment and organize a few things. She had to go to the store to get food a few minutes ago since she didn't have any in the fridge and she asked if I needed something. After showering, I finally got time to eat my leftover from yesterday since I was starving.Then she came from the store and was belittling me about not putting up her dishes from the dishwasher. I told her I was hungry and was going to do it immediately after I finish food. Then she said she didn't eat either but still was nice enough to go get food for us. Then she said she hopes I stop being selfish because I might act the same way to other people and that I only care about myself. Few minutes later I was going to the room and she said I never spend time with her and now I'm depressed from what she said. One might not think it's that big of a deal but I tend to take things deeply even when they're not. What do I do?

Question: I added another note from tonight. Pls read my notes from the other nights & tonight I want opinions if it seem my mom wants another kid pls?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 09:10 PM PDT

Here is the first note, the first story is from the other night & the second story is from last night. The second note is from tonight https://peoplepicggg.tumblr.com/post/161915217553 https://peoplepicggg.tumblr.com/post/161915224933 My mom is responding doesn't make sense. Once I told her I was holding a baby I believe it was a boy I guess she thought I was referring to her having another baby. She's like "I have all my girls & u will be the one to have the boy" I believe she said "you're probably going to get pregnant soon" (I'm a virgin w/ no boyfriend). She's always making comments when I don't feel good she'll be "don't worry once u have a baby u feel better" then shes always saying how I'm going to have five kids, since I'm done w/ school before I finish shes "ur going have kids soon" or my sister was saying how I'm going to be 18 & my moms like BABY, but then she's like "no in 10 years u have one" I'll be 25, that's around the same age my mom had me (25 on 26). She always says for my last sister "your always the baby" or "ur always going to be the baby no matter" & "ur (or) my the last child the last born". When something happend a few weeks ago I said to her please no more kids, shes like "what are you crazy?" She's always saying when she's a grandmother how she'll always be there unlike her mother but then she jokes saying "I'll be far away". My mom is 42, has a belly button hernia, popping/cracking painful bones. She cares for her sick father, my 2 sisters/dogs

Question: Cousin I barley see is going off to college?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 08:46 PM PDT

She is my first cousin and just graduated high school. They live about 20 hours from us and so we only see them once or twice a year. Some of my family can get annoying but this family and my 4 cousins in it are awesome. Me, my sister and our 2 oldest cousins who are all girls are pretty close for how much we see each other and we really just hang and have fun. We are visiting them and have been for the past week and tomorrow is the last day. It won't really affect me too much but I'm not sure how much I'll be seeing my oldest cousin now that she is going off to college. Is there anything I can do about this?

Question: Is it bad that I never learned how to cook, swim, or even drive and I'm 18 years old?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 08:46 PM PDT

I'm about to be 18 in two months. I never cook for myself because my parents say I can't, I never learned how to drive because my parents said no, I only go to the movies or out to eat. I don't do my own hair, my mom always does it and most of the time she choices what type of clothes I wear or if I wear a skirt or not. I spend most of my time in the house or at school studying for exams. I only have two friends and they rarely talk to me. I never learned how to swim because my parents said no, I'm always on the computer and have no social life. And I never traveled anywhere without my mother with me or older sister who's 27. I'm not allowed to even cook for myself and my mom always tells me to be alsleep at 9:30.... I never traveled out of the United States. Is this bad?

Question: Do I have to move with my parents if I don't want to?

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 08:41 PM PDT

I'm 18 and just graduated from High school, I don't want to move to the mainland with my parents bc there's no reason for me the go there, besides family. My mom is guilt tripping me into going but i SERIOUSLY DO NOT WANT TO GO. My dad doesn't want to go either bc he has his dad here (my grandma). I tried asking my sister if I can move in with her but she doesn't have room in her house, and I don't want to move in with my boyfriend bc I'm not on birth control and I don't want kids. It seems like my only option is to move but I know if I move I'll be irritated bc my mom thinks I'll be happy like her but I won't. I tried getting a job when I was 16 but she didn't let me and even NOW she won't let me. Any suggestions?