No this isn't about me. My husband didn't cheat on me and I am not going to cheat. I am just curious about logic behind it. I am doing a paper for a college class I am taking

My husband and I went to a marriage counselor today to work on some of our issues because on April he asked for a divorce and I said no. Which some of them are my upkeep of a 1 bedroom apartment, not showing affection at home only when we are out and our sexual live is non existent. I ask him to communicate with me. I have psychotic depression which I will put a link in below. I don't have a job currently looking for one. I know I am a burden and I don't know what or how to change that any help would be appreciative? https://www.verywell.com/psychotic-depression-1066607 I am on medicine and have doctors for my type of depression

My wife hasn't been feeling very good tonight. She has a sore throat she's been coughing a lot. We're suppose to go to a concert tomorrow night. She feels kind of sad. She said she always cries when she's sick. How can I help her feel better ? We already had sex

I'm rich and I'm marrying my childhood friend/boyfriend Though he also comes from a wealthy family and he is extremely handsome my heart belongs to a humble guy who I hate because I love him so much.. is it bad to marry someone you know you don't love? In general when people get married do they even stay in love? Can time make me love? Can I force myself to love him forever

Even I love it now. I don't need a man or husband to live my hair. but I do want one and one hint he's the right husband is he loves my afro.

So at school there was a huge scandal about a male vice principal having an affair with a female teacher. The teacher got suspended for the remainder of the school year and I believe that the vice principal got fired... or he also got suspended.. but I'm pretty sure he got fired. Anyway, the teacher was married and she had a kid with her husband. The vice principal was single, never married. Anyway, a lot of people were blaming him for the affair and saying that he deserved what he got and that the teacher's treatment was totally unfair and "poor teacher." Anyway, do you think it was fair that the vice principal might have gotten fired and the teacher only got suspended for like 2 weeks? In my opinion, I would have fired both, just to be equal. Besides, she also knew what she was doing, and she was married and he didn't force her to have an affair with him. What would you have done? And do you think the consequences for both of them were equal or unfair? Do you think that it was right for them to get reprimanded, or was it okay for them to have an affair, since it is their private life? Thanks :)

My wife is emotionally/mentally abusive to me. She is also sometimes very sweet and caring. I never know which person I'm going to deal with. I'm always scared as to what I am going to "do wrong" next. I do all the chores in the house an treat her with respect and love her. I don't deserve this. Even if I hint at what she is doing to me I get the silent treatment and she gets very upset. She always turns the situation around and somehow I end up apologizing... She is so stubborn and will NEVER EVER believe she does anything wrong. She thinks she is always right. Counseling is not an option and I'm a Christian and don't believe in divorce. Need advice.

I cry after me and my husband have sex. It doesn't hurt really he does a wonderful job at it he's so gentle and he's really sweet. Is it ok to cry to him ?

I am stay at home mom, I have 1 year old daughter. My husband is assistant professor at a university. He is works 60 hrs a week and spend rest of time at gym. He spends weekly 15 hr or less with me. I have no friends or family in US. I was depressed a while ago never completely recovered but I am try to put a happy face and take care of my daughter. Before my daughter was born I used to keep myself busy with tv, grocery, shopping, chores etc, but I didn't have any responsibilities and if I get bored or frustrated I used watch movies. Now I can't do that, my daughter doesn't let me. I'm feeling my depression is coming back. I want to go out by myself and do some activity but my husband doesn't stay at home and my daughter has strangers anxiety so we can't hire a baysitter. We tried to send her to daycare for couple of days a week but my husband thinks she is too young for that. My life is not in my control, I feel so powerless and helpless. Whenever I bring this issue to my husband, he doesn't listen. I don't feel loved or appreciated. I want to commit sucide but then who will take care of my daughter. What should I do, should I divorce my husband. Am I overreacting. It is so easy to end a relationship. I know he loves me and cares about me but he is too selfish to see my suffering. I feel like I'm a single parent. Can anyone give me any suggestions.

My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years now, and we've just had our first child together. I've always had issues with her not picking up after herself, and I have approached her is several ways, all of which involve me asking her to pick up her stuff. I've even tried to do it myself but this just ends up infuriating me. She stopped working 5 months ago and has no plans of going back to work as she is going to be a stay at home mom, which is totally fine with me. However, I keep coming home to piles of dishes, unsweapt floors, dirty cloths, half full cups everywhere... you get my point. It is literally getting me to the point of telling her I need to move out... I don't know what else to do. I've told her that I cannot live like this and that she needs to make it her duty to have the house clean by the time I get home from work in order for me to want to be here with our child and her. Otherwise, I come through the door see the mess, get pissed, start picking things up and when I'm done cleaning I am so pissed off that I can't even look at her. She knows this too, but I guess she just doesn't care. She tells me that she is not "wired" the way I am so she just doesn't get it. Which I think is bullsh*t! I've cleaned up several times and showed her what my standards of "clean" are, and the next day... same thing. I am at the end of my rope, I can't live like this. I need some advise. Please Help.

For some reason a lot of the families i see is The wife gets everything and the wife is always right and telling the husband what to do.. and i just dont think thats right, i mean Husbands pay the bills, fix everything protect there wives & still the Wives i see treat there husbands like crap and always want to blow there hard earned money on stupid crap like clothes they dont need and random crap. I feel like the Husbands supposed to lead the families but all these Husbands i see are actin like little cowards. How can i make sure my future wife knows i want to be the leader and that for her not to boss me around? I dont want to be a rude husband but i dont want to be walked all over by my wife either. Any advice will be great.

My husband and I got married and had our first baby daughter this last month. Now my husband is saying that he wants his mother to move in with us. His father recently passed away and he doesnt want her to be alone. I love my mother-in-law, however, i want to be able to establish my own family with my husband and daughter...just the three of us. I am worried that she will dictate how we raise our daughter, offer her opinion in everything we do and generally make my home uncomfortable to live in. My husband has two older siblings, however, both have slight disabilities...i am not sure if that is why living with them would not be an option... I love my husband and do not want to leave him...i also would not want to force my daughter to live in a broken home... I do not know what to do. If i werent married with a kid I would bolt! This is a total deal breaker for me. I take my vows seriously, though,and am now stuck. My husband has said "ther is no question whether she is coming...i just hope you will forgive me." What should i do?

She must be twice the size when I married her, she won't diet or try I can just about get erect and if I wasn't well endowed her fat would stop me reaching inside her no matter how I do it who I fantasize about I just can't come inside her anymore and I have to finish myself with a hand

I need some people to read my story... if you ever wanted to help someone in need, this is the time! My wife doesn't want to have sex. Not at all. I've tried absolutely everything to figure out why. There's just no desire there! I'm a Christian and a very sexual creature. I believe that a big part of marriage is sex - the physical union of two people. I may have engaged in some pornography in my younger years, but I cast it all aside and have been clean for a long time now. I'm still a virgin, never had any relations with other women. I love my wife and am dedicated solely to her. I work for her, I take care of her, I do everything - but I'm so miserable all the time because of this one thing that's missing. I didn't enter this marriage to remain celibate! Really I can't take this anymore. We are a very low income family. Marriage counseling is really expensive for us (though I would pay for it if my wife wanted to do it... but she doesn't care for it, says it's not necessary). I've talked to my pastor and he's talked to my wife... but she doesn't want to listen. She keeps saying how unimportant sex is. Listen, God hates divorce and I made a promise that I wouldn't divorce her. But I don't know what to do. Please, help! I found my wife had made a similar post on YA... please read this before commenting. It opened my eyes a bit. LINK: https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170504200415AApCwU3

We had a very nice sexual relation Nd after my delivery he is not all interested on me..my baby is 7 months and I completely recovered now.we used to have sex every week Nd now we r not having sex since 3 months..when I touch him he will tell me that m tickling him and he will be angry on me..I am touching him the same way how I used to touch him b4.He will be always in mobile..he is not even interested to sleep with me.he is sleeping in different room..I am not understanding how come he feels tickling suddenly..Is dis de correct reason or something else..we had good sex life for 15 months..Need to worry about anything?? Please help

My fiance and I just recently got married.. We've been married for 3 weeks.. We were engaged for 8 months and dating for 2 years before that.. We love each other so much and we're very attracted to one another.. We didn't have sex before marriage because I was virgin and I wanted to wait till after marriage.. He's had sex before with other women before me.. So we used to make out, oral sex and etc before marriage (but not sex). After we got married, we went to our honeymoon and we've been having sex everyday (sometimes once a day, others three times a day) we never missed a day. We came back from our honeymoon, we moved in together.. Then one day I went on his computer's history and I found out that BEFORE we got married (ie before we started having sex) he used to watch porn everyday to masturbate.. He used to watch it in the morning before he goes to work, in the evening after he comes back, and at night before he goes to sleep.. EVERY single day.. Ever since we came back from honeymoon, the frequency of having sex had died down.. He doesn't seem to want it everyday.. on weekends he would do it at least twice per day, but during the week we miss days.. I'm just wondering, he used to watch porn and masturbate three times a day and now when we finally are having sex he is missing a day or two per week of not having sex with me... He just doesn't wanna do it some days. He is not watching porn and masturbating now and we're always together so he's not jerking off anywhere.. I don't know if his sex drive has gone down, or just because we've been having sex then he doesn't feel the need to masturbate/watch porn often.. Like he isn't sexually frustrated anymore.. I don't wanna brag about myself but i'm not a bad looking girl, i'm pretty attractive and have all it takes to make a man happy... and i do want to have sex everyday. I'm very confused? Why is he not wanting to do it everyday? I feel bad because I feel that the problem is me and not him.. and i don't even know why..

It just seems that in the day and age that we are in everyone is so quick to get a divorce. I am in my 20's now and in about a year or so my boyfriend and I are gonna get engaged. Its something that we both want and I can see myself with him for the rest of my life. Lately, different scenarios have been running through my mind of potential things that could come in between our marriage such as infidelity, being unattracted to one another, possible changes that we may have within ourselves, etc. But I am willing to make the marriage work regardless of what storms might arrive. What I am trying to say is, it seems like people get married just to get divorced and aren't willing to give the marriage all what they have to keep it together. During the time that my grandmother came up, divorce was rare because women wouldn't be so quick to leave. Honestly, if my husband cheated on me once. I would not leave him. I would get counseling. If he became a habitual offender then we would have to find out what is causing him to constantly wander outside of our marriage. This has nothing to do with low self esteem or anything like that because I am very attractive....But I just hate seeing people break up especially when they are married. People have lost respect for the sanctity of marriage. What are your thoughts and am I the only one who feels this way?

My husband works for his parents. He started to work for them back before we got married so he could have a good income for our baby. He works two hours away from home so he asked me to come with him and we agreed that I and the baby come up every other week cause that is a lot of traveling for us. So we just got married and went on a two week honeymoon. Without the baby. She is 9 months and I still haven't gotten over being away from her but he insisted that we have our honeymoon without her and the agreement ended up being that while his parents babysat her, we got to see her for a few hours of the day so it would be easier on me. So we got back from the honeymoon and he has asked me to come up with him to work for a week, he starts work Monday and we just got home. I told him that I didn't feel comfortable going up there right after the honeymoon and that I wanted to stay home but he got upset with me cause "he missed our baby too" and I am selfish for not wanting to go with him for him to see us after work. I just don't know how to handle this situation and I want to make him feel better but I want to stay home and be with the baby. It honestly is hard to feel bad that he missed her when he made a big deal to be without her.

You all might say how wrong it's but he is not always so aggressive, he only beat me when he is high on crack. It's not him but crack. Should I inform my wife or just take the beating after all he is the one giving me the pocket money.

It's a bit embarrassing, actually. I love my wife, but I've always thought there's "something" about her sister that I could never put my finger on. I know it would bother me if I found out my wife was having dreams about my brother.

My wife has always hung out mostly with male friends. She does not like women as much as friends. She has always done this either with me or in a larger group which has been fine. She did this before we met so it is something I accept. I have never had a reason not to trust her that I know of. That being said I am sure some of her friends are attracted to her. Recently though she has wanted to go do things one on one with male friends, such as go to a movie. Usually this is in situations in which I do not want to go or cannot go. But I am wondering if it is okay for a married woman to do such things alone with another man? If it is normal then I am fine with it because I trust her, but I don't know if it is or not. Advice?

Hi all. My house is under construction...I had to be in a hotel for 3 nights with my son...He's 16, and has severe autism. He can be aggressive at times, but mostly he's a great kid...He needs to be watched constantly, as he is a toddler in a teenage body...so, while we were at the hotel, I thought my husband would come after work and stay with us. The first night, he didn't call or anything, so I called at 10 to see if he was ok...he was already home, and didn't let me know his plans. The next day, I told him that I was upset that he didn't check on us...if he didn't want to come to hotel, that's fine, but I feel that knowing I'm alone with our son, which is hard, and not checking on us, was careless...The next night, the same thing...he didn't show up, or call, even though I expressed my feelings to him during the day. I don't think it was nice, and it shows me that he just doesn't care about us. I raise my son alone...I also work during the day in my husband's business....so I always help him, but with this recent situation, after many like it, I am beginning to see that it's a one way relationship The house isn't unlivable, but the floors were being polished, and my son would not understand that he cannot walk on them...The bedrooms were available, but with my son being so impaired, he would not understand that he cannot wal on the floors till they are dry

How do you deal with being married to a functioning alcoholic? My moral compass is everywhere with the fact he drinks every evening and gets drunk on Saturday with his friends. We decided instead of randomly getting drunk he could do an every Friday night where he goes there or they come here, no bars. They get drunk have a good time and that's that. But he has to drink every single day between 2-6 beers and I'm just having a hard time with it. He's a good husband seriously, he works everyday provides for us, no physical or mental abuse, he's supportive and is good with our children and even cuts grass on the side to pay for his habit. I know it's wrong and we have argued over his alcohol consumption along with him picking up a smoking habit and snuff to! I worry for his and our families future we want him around a long time but he doesn't care. Am I wrong for picking his drinking apart? We've definitely had our battles with it but it just bothers me so much and now he sticks to the plan mostly besides having up to 6 beers in the evenings I just hate it around myself and our children.

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How much damage did parenthood do to your relationship?

I was talking with my ex about the stuff that I will take from the house and when I mentioned I wanted to take our pictures and keep them in a safe place because maybe in the future my daughters will see them, but she said all pictures we had together during 13 years are thrown away. I told her few months ago that I want the pictures and she agreed. Now she admitted that she threw them away on a moment of anger. I still have scanned copies of the pictures on my computer but I am sad that all printed ones are gone. She says its her right to throw them away but I don't agree with her. It is my right to keep them especially that 13 years are a long time and we have 2 daughters who would love to see them in the future when the are old enough. I am really sad now.

My husband is away on a business assignment for four months in England I got so lonely and fed up I finally saw the coach who has been after me for ages We had sex and he wants me again but I feel so bad now I can't do it Shall I email my husband and confess?

So me and my wife have been married for 6 years and she has been unemployed for about three years now. We have a 4 year old daughter. She cooks cleans and is a good wife but I just feel like our marriage would be even better if she had a job and we had two incomes instead of one.

Our marriage ended, and yeah, it's my fault it did, but we seem to have been getting along okay lately and I asked her if she thought we might get back together, and she just said, "You're like B.O in a suit", and I think that's harsh.

So, last night me and a few old friends went to a bar after I got off work. I usually don't drink on a weeknight, but I haven't seen these friends in years so I figured why not. Me and the fellas knocked back a few beers and shots and just caught up on the last 2 years since I seen them. 2 out of 3 of my buddies are single, so they were flirting with the ladies at near by table. One woman in paticular was flirting with me and continued to flirt with me, even after I told her that I was married. I figured whats the harm in flirting back since she already knew that I was married. One thing led to another and I found my drunk self sitting in her car. Out of the blue, she unzipped my pants and started going down on me. I reminded her that I was married but she dint stop. I kept saying over and over that I love my wife and this shouldn't be happening. I want to tell my wife, but I don't think she'll believe that I was sexually assaulted. I know she'll think that I wanted this to happen to me. We've been married for 10 years and I don't want this woman to ruin our marriage. Also, the woman from the bar keeps texting my phone and I cant block her text. If I change my number my wife might get suspicious. Can someone please give me some advice that will help me out of this mess. Thank you.

So the husband is "looking" for me, and calling, threatening to hurt me, now I would go out and confront him face to face, but the guy is way to pissed off, I dont want to get my self arrested or loose my current great employment over this stupid act. How do I go about fixing this? How do I get him to leave me alone, and stop stalking me if he does not want to talk in a civilized manner. And yes most people would tell me to confront him and fight or what ever, but I will not. Not worth it, she means nothing.

So 3 weeks ago today, I got let go from my job at the Collections Agency I was working for, but the problem with this has been going on for quite some time. So I'm going to give a little back story to this. When we met I worked as a public space housekeeper making 10 dollars an hour, I had been with the company for 3 years and I was very happy with my job and never had any complaints, the pay wasnt all that great but the benifits were great. My wife (girlfriend at the time) Worked as a Customer Service Rep making 16 an hour. When we first started dating she had no issues with this. Fast forward about 6 months she started nicely telling me that I needed to get something better and to maybe try Office Work like she did. I gave it some thought even though I never considered that type of work in the past I began applying for Office Jobs. After a long search and many interviews later, I found a job at a collections agency. After about 3 weeks of working there I was let go from the position because "I wasn't working out" Now I'm unemployed and have been looking for a new position for 3 weeks. Luckily I have a decent bit of money saved to keep the bills paid until I find something else. My wife has been putting me down and telling me that I need to get my life together and get my s**t right. She pressures me to go back to school even though she never went back either and we are the same age. She has hurt my pride so bad I'm honestly considering divorce. Does anyone have advice?

When we get in an argument I want to talk it out and find the issue in order to resolve the problem, my wife will go into another room and tell me to leave her alone, yes I follow after her asking the same question which always turns into "why don't you want to talk about this" her response " I said leave me alone, now drop it" and leaves to another room. I don't want to chase her all around the house so I don't follow. This is the time I start feeling as if I don't matter, that what I have to say is unimportant. Yes, I listen to her and I repeat back what she says to prove I am an effective listener. I guess my issue is why doesn't she want to stop and listen? my last ditched attempt was to write her a note that started with 'this is a plea for help' she didn't come to me and talk that time either, pathetic aren't I?