I'm a clean, hygienic person. He says he wants to, but he can't. There are a lot of foods he can't eat because of textures and smells make him gag. Unfortunately this falls in that category. Yet he wants me to do it to him. I don't mind it, but it's not like it tastes like candy either. Any advice? It's not a dealbreaker, it just makes me sad that other men would love to spend time down there, and my husband keeps his mouth far away.

My wife sleeps a lot and likes to argue alot like a child. She has some talents but does not really do much with, only when she feels like it seems. When I have tried to break it off in the past she goes ballistic to the point of getting physical. So I stay in order to keep peace and try to take one day at a time with Gods help. I realize many will say ditch her or set guidelines or get counseling, but come on and give some practical advice because those are not viable solutions in my case.

So my wife and I have been together for 4 years now, and we both have crazy sexual fantasies of having a threesome with me, her, and another guy (or maybe even 2 others!). We are both very loyal in terms of our romantic attachment but we both wouldn't mind some sexuality with another partner involved. Is there anyway we could make a three or foursome work without wrecking our relationship? I've heard that these types of things cause jealousy, but like I said before, without the romance involved, I would be totally okay with another guy sharing my wife.

My fiancé was married for 16 years. He now has a 17 year old, 11 year old and 5 year old with his ex wife. My fiancé constantly reassures me that he wants more children and that he wants to have children with me after we are married. I do not have any children of my own but love his 3 more than anything. I want nothing more than to add to our family and have children with my fiancé. I am worried that once we are married and his youngest is in elementary school and she is no longer a baby he will change his mind about wanting more. I m scared he will decide that he is done raising children and he is now 36 years old and I wouldn t blame him. He s raised 3 great kids. Whenever I mention it he says "I want to give you everything you want in life including kids". I m just worried he is only going to have kids with me because he knows that s what I want. Anyone else in a similar situation? Any advice?

My wife is a public school teacher. She and I have been married 13 years. We have an 11 year old son plus her 21 year old twins from her first marriage. I am probably going to lose my job this summer. I have held the job for 12 years now. Seeing as I am now over 50, I doubt I will get another job anytime soon, if ever. How long can I expect my wife to foot the bills for our household until she kicks me out?

My husband once again cheated. This time he cheated on me with our son's classmate's mother. She is 2-3 weeks pregnant. He does not want to live with her and wants me to work out the things between us and move on with our marriage. I am so lost because a part of me would like to forgive, but the other part of me says that he will never change. And of course now there is a child on the way!! What should I do? School is starting soon and I will have to come face to face with her as well. Please help!

Me and my husband got married this weekend. I love him to death I love him so much it makes me cry. He's the best guy I ever known he's so sweet and gentle a lot nicer than other guys I know. I'm also pregnant so a lot of silly little things are making me cry. Is it ok to cry in front of him ?

This is a little long (I'm sorry) and yes I do expect you to read it all so if you're in a good mood to help someone in need, please read it all and respond accordingly. Just like the subject line says, my wife tells me that she doesn't enjoy and isn't interested in sex or anything that leads up to it and I need help because I of course do enjoy it!! We have sex once every two to three months and that includes all types of sex!! To keep up with my sex drive I have to masturbate daily to keep myself from going insane... Now, I'm not your typical nagging husband either, I'll mention it's been a while and make a pass towards her once and a while but I don't press on when she tells me no or gives me some lame excuse about not having time (although I'll make time and she doesn't utilize it). The only time I will ever throw a tantrum is if it's been *way* too long and she'll normally give me sympathy sex at that point. When I ask her what she *does* enjoy she says she gets more "pleasure" out of backrubs, foot massages, playing with her hair, and popping her zits on her back/face than doing sexual things or doing things that could lead into sex (like dressing sexy, talking sexy, touching each other's body through clothing, ect). Don't get me wrong, I will pamper her because it makes her happy but if she had her way I'd be pampering her every day (and I still wouldn't get sex in exchange)... As far as the dressing sexy thing, I give her *a lot* of time to do it but I don't know what her issue is, whether it's low self esteem or depression or what, but she doesn't even make an effort. She'll just throw on a baggy t-shirt and some loose fitting jeans on her days off (which isn't a huge turn on obviously - unless I was turned on by what dudes wear - but I'm not) and for work she has to wear business casual but she wears the most conservative clothing she can find (never wears skirts/dresses and/or heels just flats and never ever anything that could be considered revealing or visually stimulating). She never said anything about it but my guess is she doesn't like feeling/looking attractive (not even for me)... Yes, she did hook me for life but that doesn't mean I don't deserve to enjoy seeing her at her best once and a while (maybe not every day but once a week would be nice)... By no means am I saying that she has to look like a pornstar to make me happy but I'm her husband and she should want to do what little things she can do to keep me from looking at other women and/or wanting to stray (I'm 7 years married/faithful but I'm just that most people do things like this to keep it that way as married couples)... We're in our mid 20's, despite us both working we make under the poverty line after bills are taken into account, we have two kids (so she had to like sex at least twice in her life), she's thin and gorgeous but I'm a little overweight for my height, and, yes, we are stressed out to the bone (who isn't). We're generally happy in our relationship but she never talks to me about our problems when there is one (I'm obviously open with my issues in hopes of a solution), as a matter of fact, to get her to talk I have to frustrate her by asking a lot of questions to get it out of her (and I have to ask the *right* ones too)... As far as the kids, again I give her *a lot* of time without them. She has plenty of time to "recharge her battery" but she'd rather spend it talking with her girlfriends through the internet or wasting time on youtube, myspace, photobucket, and, yes, yahoo.... As a matter of fact, the only time we spend together is probably in bed (sleeping)... Help me! What do you think I can do to fix my issues?!?! Marriage counseling isn't the solution as SHE WILL NOT GO....

A couple examples: 1) our teenage daughter used my husband s ebay account to sell some of her collectables. I have been asking him for 2 weeks to transfer the money from his paypal to his account so that she can have access to it. 2) Our backyard has been in shambles for the last 2 years and I ve recently been asking him to clean it up. (I have back issues and really can t do much without hurting myself.) 3) We had an old bank account open at a local bank that we needed to close and it took three weeks of asking him and reminding him before he would do it. (long story, but they had my wrong name on the account which I could never get them to correct, therefore I could not close it.) In both of these scenarios, I cannot do it. IF you wanna just bad mouth him, that's fine, I'll just ignore you. What I'm after is advise and insight from others who have had similar experiences. How do I communicate in a way that is not nagging, but gets him to just do it!

I need to get a divorce in California without a lawyer. I heard I can file for it without a help from a lawyer. My X is not around, and we have nothing to do with each other. I have no idea where to go and apply for divorce. I do not know where to get the application. Does anyone know the procedure? Please Help...

im a 21 year old woman and ive been at my work for 3 years, but I need to fill in this form to update history or something and it says 'marital status' now I don't know what to put, Im not married im a lesbian living with my partner who is a woman what should I put? we intend to have a civil partnership, were both feminine women and proud of our sexuality and love so what should I put under 'marital status' in this form? I filled in a similer form 3 years ago when I first joined, but its changed since then cos when that happened I lived alone and had just started dating my partner, now we live together so what should I put?

Me and my girl just got married we just got home from our wedding. What do we do tonight ?

What if there's an extenuating circumstance like she's married?

I'm 17 and when I grow up my main goal is to be a wife and mother. I want to cook for my family, clean, and raise the children. my husband wouldn't have to worry about any of that, I would take care of him and it sound very traditional, but I think this is the way America should be. its not sexist, I understand some families cant afford to have only the dad be the sole income provider, but if a family can afford it why not? I want to have 3-4 children, and its better than going to work and leaving them with a babysitter, nanny, grandparents, or letting a daycare raise them. I have nothing against educated women, but women who stay at home shouldn't be looked down upon.

I feel like I'm doing everything I can to buy this house while my husband is sitting on his *** while I'm making the moves on my own. He did not once offer to put up money for our home. So I asked him: why don't you offer to help with purchasing the home? I do I have to ask you too. You are my husband and you see that I'm trying hard to do so. He just sat there and said well we figure something out, I see what I can do. Let me remind you We been trying for a year, he could of put up a couple dollars here and there all money add up. It's seems like every time we move I'm pulling the weight and I'm tired. He makes good money and doesn't pay out a lot like I do. I feel like leaving his *** behind, maybe move in the house my self . What's your input?

Hello. I am a 14 year old boy. My parents have been going through a divorce for 3 years now. Ive recently found out that I am moving. I am a military child so I am used to moving but I don t want to. How do I confront my mom? Or do I stay with my dad?

So I tend to do this when I run into the store or some place real quick since I wouldn't be in there long and would need them again soon. My husband told me that it is bad and stupid to do this since he thinks that it ruins the glasses. I don't understand why is it stupid to do this as I think its a convienant thing to do. Is it really stupid to do this like he says ?

I am tempted but it seems it always comes out in the end...is it that hard to conceal?

I forgave her and I believe she is faithful now, we did counselling and everything came out about why when and how, We both love each other Things are pretty good between us but (sorry about the crudeness) sometimes when I go down on her I keep thinking of the guys piece in there and his juice running out. How do you get past that? Is it possible?

So I was a virgin until 21, not because I was a prude it just happened that way. I lived in a small town where everyone did each other and the thought of it grossed me out. Then I went away to college and meet my now husband so I lost "it" in college. Yet I feel like I am boring at sex. I asked my husband who says he loves it with me because " I am moist" as he put it. But I want to be exciting. What are some sex tips you wives have to spice it up for him. I AM 25 not afraid of details ladies!!! Or even guys can tell me what you like your wives to do....BE OPEN AND HONEST PEOPLE!!

judge ruled it was his before we married--my ex husband came over yesterday to give me alimony payment, he was with his sister and Mom, they came inside my apartment and laughed at me, said to her son, good think you aint fvkin that no more. they all laughed and left, I thought he was going to want some sex or let me give him oral but he didn't even want it. so, do you think its really over? While his Mom was babysitting our son, she let him die. The court didn't press charges against her, every now and then she would always tease me about not having any kids.

Just something that I've experienced and notice with others. Not to say that some men don't do the same. But since I'm male, I wonder why a woman wouldn't want to stay attractive for her mate? Relate or thoughts?

Been with my wife 7 years and in the total of 7 yrs she has maybe worked 12 months (not continuously). We have 3 kids together and all she does is play on facebook, she is 28 yrs old and has never owned a car and if not for me would not have a cell phone. She has seen me struggle with bills and still no job, she knows we have 3 kids who need clothes, shoes, etc but still no job. Is this behavior worthy of divorce? Yes ive already tried talking to her!

This guy I know and see often was talking to someone and he suddenly stopped his conversation and stared at me totally ignoring the person who was speaking with him. What does that mean?

I am an Indian living in the US and don't have a good opinion on Indian women. They are beautiful only on the outside. For those who don't know, arranged marriages based on common caste, religion are common. Aspects like money, education, country of residence have started to dominate. Nowadays, women in India aspire to marry a non resident Indian living in the US to lead a comfortable lifestyle and a lot of good looking Indian women end up marrying guys with 6 figure salaries. I don't want to be a part of it and am in love with a White girl of German origin. We share a lot of interests and are not in a relationship solely on attractiveness or money. However, my parents say they would disown me if I marry her. I am so sick and feel trapped of Indian culture. What is the remedy for this nonsense

I just turned 26, but feel so lost, even though I have a wonderful husband and daughter , I am not happy. I just always felt that I am not a family oriented person . I have been married and been a mom since age 19. Well the issue is,... That I never really wanted to be married, nor be a mom, as horrible as it sounds. I have always been a free spirit, and feel so trapped in this family lifestyle. Recently I took a trip part solo and with my childhood girlfriend to Japan. I have never felt so blissful in my life, and realized that what truly makes me happy is to be free and to travel. I am seriously considering leaving my family for my dreams. I am so frustrated and don't know what to do. My husband doesn't seem to understand and I have been very depressed since I got back from my trip. In fact, I was never happy even before my trip, and my husband could tell.... Please help!! ----

I am thinking about cheating. My wife and I have been together for 17 yrs married for 11 yrs. the last few years out sex life has been reduced to once last yrs and I had to guilt her into it. My hygiene is good and I try to be romantic but it gets me nowhere, yet when we go out some times if I talk to any female friend she gets mad at me. She has never once done oral on my she thinks its gross. Also we have a 9yr old so I don't want to get divorced. I think it may have something to do with the anti anxiety drugs but her doc. said its not a side effect. What is a guy to do?

This is the kind of stuff he's done to me and in the past to his ex wife. He's hit me and pushed me and beat up about maybe 4-5 times in the last years. It hasn't been often but he does all the verbal and emotional stuff moreso. But I'm curious to know if you've ever known anyone to pee on your stuff when they were mad?

every one of my friends have much nicer things than I do, the list is too long to write. I love my husband but since he doesn't make good money then he should get a part time job to make up for missing opportunities. did I just marry wrong? barnes--people like you are full of hate.

Friday, the father of my 2mo child and I are scheduled to attend a negotiation conference. He is currently stationed in another state so he will only be able to attend by phone. Although we are on okay terms, I'm really nervous to see how this thing goes. As far as visitation, I do NOT want him to have overnight visitation. I do not trust him alone with my child, nor do I trust his crazy mother. I am okay with him seeing our son whenever he wants, as long as I am present. If anyone can give me some insight, I would really appreciate it! I don't want to walk into this thing blindsided. I live in Texas, btw, and we were together for 4 years, but never married.

I am tired of him. He earns so less and I don't want to live a bourgeois kind of life. I have instead fallen for an entrepreneur who is making millions. He loves me and will take better care of me. How do I gracefully end my current marriage?

I have been married 7 years and we have three kids together. My wife's best friend and her husband have two kids and they've been married for around 10+ years. My wife and her friend have been friends since they were 14 years old (20yrs). My wife stays at home with our kids (4-2-& a newborn) her friend actually works while her husband stays at home with the kids. Should I be jealous in the fact that she goes over there a couple times a week so that our kids can play together while her best friend and I are at work? It just seems kind of weird to me that she is hanging out with another guy. I do fully trust her, and its not like she has time with all 5 kids running around while breastfeeding one of them. But I get so jealous and angry that she is hanging out over there. She eats dinner over there and spends ALL DAY there while I'm at work. I work retail so my hours change all the time but sometimes she goes over there around 10am - 8pm. Now she says her friend is always there for dinner and that she gets home around 5:30 or so. It's like she has this whole other life without me and I feel like an outsider. She says that I should give him a call because she said that he would love to get together with me and hangout with the kids. I would feel very weird calling him to hangout because I already feel like an outsider and guys don't really do that kind of stuff. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Please put away the torches. I know I am not perfect and I screwed up. I'm paying for it. I had an affair. He was married so was I. I wanted to leave my husband for him he wasn't ready to leave his wife. He left me. I'm still in love with him. After all of this happened I have tried to work things out with my husband but i'm still in love with this man. He has contacted me once in four months told me he missed talking to me, he was miserable financially, he didn't want to live allot of the time, i couldnt' imagine what he was going through. How hard it's been since D day. Then he seemed to flip and didn't want tot talk to me again. Which hurt. My husband loves me to death! But I can't focus on our marriage. It just isn't there...I feel like I owe it to him to try..but don't know how to forget about my affair. Should I move on from my husband?

Okay so my husbands friend blocked on all social media. And I straight out asked why he blocked me n this guy went running crying to my husband about it now his friend is 22 years old. So my husband instead of getting the full on sorry he starts telling m crap about it

My husband and i have been together for almost 4 yrs and 5 months married. We always have arguments over the stupidest things. We have blended our families (we are both divorced with 2 kids each from previous marriages) anyways, although we argue a lot we are totally crazy about each other. I am a Latina woman which it mean, very passionate and yes, I OVERreact to a lot of things. He is more passive however is black and Italian so it IS in his blood that when we have a big fight it ends up being explosive because of our backgrounds (not making excuses for our behavior). I think is very weak when it comes to his kids, they are always out of control whereas mine are well mannered and well behaved. This has ALWAYS been a huge issue along with his crazy ex-wife. Fast forward to last night, we had been bickering over everything yesterday because of his confrontational tone so last night I go to bed and I start getting the bed ready while he was laying on it. He says to me: "say excuse me" and I was like like no...that is how it started and next thing you know we are FULL blown wrestling on the bed, throwing things around, he was at some point trying to choke me on the bed and trying to throw me off the bed while I was pushing him around as well and kicking him. It all ended with the room being a total mess and Just sleeping opposite of each other. Today of course we haven't spoke and I am waiting for a counselor to return my call because that was totally out of control. What do I do now? What happens next? I am upset, mad and everything in between. We are BOTH stubborn and I know we won't speak to each other until we absolutely have to. I do have bruises all over and my body aches terribly over this... I am embarrassed and shocked. Any real suggestions are welcomed. Thanks

My husband and I have only been married for 6 months but we have a 14 month old baby. We have never had a great relationship but ever since we had our son all we do is ARGUE! I will try an make this short as possible but I really need advice. We really argue over the dumbest things but they turn in to really bad arguments never physical just yelling. Anyways, I am only 22 years old and my husband is 27. He does go to work every day and he does support us financially because as of right now I am a stay at home mom. I will however be starting school in May, but when we argue he puts me down and says "I'm the only one who pays the bills around here the only thing you have done is pop out a baby." And to be honest he thinks he is SO much better than everyone and I can't stand that about him he is also just so heartless and has no emotions what so ever. I told him after our argument tonight that I did not want to argue anymore that I really want to work on our relationship and become closer and he just acted like he didn't even care at all. We NEVER spend time together, ever! He works comes home and plays his XBOX until it's time for bed. We never watch tv or a movie together never have dinner together nothing. So I suggested tonight that we need to get my mom to watch our son and us go and have dinner and a movie together one night soon. I was like do you want to have dinner he was like "I guess so." And tonight I was crying because I seriously want us to work out our problems and just be happy and he told me that "I am a cry baby and all I ever do is cry." He NEVER just hugs me and asks me if I'm ok or anything and I told him that. I told him that I think he doesn't even care or love me because he NEVER shows me any affection and he says "I go to work every day and pay all the bills how do I not love you?" I have NO idea what he is even talking about. I just don't know what to do and I feel so alone and on top of this my grandmother is dying of cancer. I just really need advice and I am honestly not a strong person and I wish I were because it would make things a lot easier.

When I was younger, I had no problem with going swimming etc despite the scar on my back from spinal surgery. Now I'm older and I've put on weight. I hate the way I look and I've found myself self conscious about the weight and having hair everywhere. I don't know what happened. Ten years ago the only thing I cared about was the scar on my back for a while but quickly overcame that. Now I worry about what others will think seeing me overweight. Especially as I'm now 34 years old. A fertility specialist tolld us that I need to start swimming every second day to improve the quality of my sperm. Probably I'm overthinking and once I get into it, I'll be fine. I don't want to swim with a shirt on like a weirdo.

For the past 6 months my husband and partner of the last 8 and 1/2 years confessed to me that he was having an affair! I was so shocked and heartbroken and I have never felt this way in my life! I feel like someone died. I can't eat, sleep or even have motivation to get out of bed. My husband says he wants to work this out and he loves me but I just have absolutely no trust for him at the moment. I love my husband so much I can't stand it. I want to hate him and scream and yell and make him feel awful for what he did to me but I am terrified if I say anything it will just push him away again. He just wants everything to go back to normal and I just can not do that right now since its still so fresh in my mind. I feel so unattractive on top of everything. I gained weight from having PCOS and I feel like my weight gain may have made him unattracted to me which helped him choose to cheat. I am on medication which is helping me lose all the weight i gained (lost 42 lbs so far) and I just feel gross to him. He even had the nerve to tell me that he wasn't sexual attracted to me after he told me about the affair! My self esteem must be in the negative numbers at this point. I am so confused on what to do I love him so much and he does seem remorseful but I just do not feel like anything will ever be the same again. We used to be so happy and I would have never in a million years think he would cheat on me. He said it was like he was living a fantasy and like it wasn't really happening. I am also freaking out because what if she becomes pregnant? I personally called and confronted this girl I say girl because she was only 18 (I am 25 husband is 29), and she told me she might be pregnant, but then later came back to my husband and said she really doesn't think she is she just wanted to try and get me to leave my husband. I am just so sick to my stomach about all this I just want to crawl into bed and never get out! I hope someone out there can give me some honest non-hurtful advice!

My husband and I argue a lot. Sometimes all I need is someone to talk too. We talk through skype or send emails and EVERY day it turns into a fight. He will hang up on me or ignore me. I try to be there for him, send him packages make arts and crafts write letters every day and it all seems worthless. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety ever since he came back from Iraq, he was a year in Iraq when we were newly weds and now he's deployed again to S. Korea. I understand he is away and has issues, but he says very hurtful things. I am heart broken and crushed, every day he makes me cry and degrades me while i beg him to stop being mean, and he's cussing at me and making me cry. We get in a stupid argument and all he says is OMG jackie!! just STOP!! all because i asked him to please call me and he says "I will TRY to call you! thats the best you'll get from me TRY, take it or leave it! when he has a cell phone with him. I'm trying to make this work through e-mail and the occasional phone call. I feel like i put more effort into communication. I already made an appointment with a marriage counselor for tuesday morning, I really don't know what to do anymore, I love him but I don't think I have it in me, I was there when he left to Iraq he was still rude and i was there that whole year and i was the only one at the airport when he came back, while he was here he was cold and it would drive me nutts, it just made me a different person. NOW THAT HE'S IN KOREA HE WILL HUMILIATE ME AND HANG UP ON ME AND I STAY IN SHOCK ALL NIGHT LONG CRYING WHY IS HE DOING THIS AGAIN, I'M TELLING HIM CRYING PLEASE STOP, I DON'T EVEN HANG UP ON HIM ALL I SAY IS PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE. now that he left to Korea I really don't want to go through the insults and the humiliations, should I leave him, so he can be happy and stop mistreating me so much? We don't even have any other problems all we do is argue all the time. Maybe I have been there for him and loved him way too much calling and sending so many letters and spending all my days doing arts and crafts and sending loving emails, its like he is taking me for granted, i feel like i should stop talking to him for a while until he gets mental help and realizes that we need to change and not fight.

we were married for 30 years, since 18. love, habit, 2 kids, good and bad times. more good. I don't know another life. He wants to move on and start a new life - without me. I don't know how to handle myself and move on. I started to read, learning to meditate.... but nothing helps. I don't want to talk to anybody, because its hard and nobody really cares. Everybody has their own life and problems. I am scared.

Last saturday my best friend called me and told me that she learned from someone else that my husband and and his friends went to a strip club on Friday night. I confronted my husband about it and he said that all he did was to get a private dance and that was it. I'm having a hard time with this. I mean he never cheated on me before but knowing that he was there with a naked woman in a room is killing me. I don't get it. I'm 29 year old our sex life has always been awesome. I'm 115 pounds brunette, hazel eyes, even though I have 2 children I have a nice body, I also have a pretty face and I take good care of my appearence all the time. I get hit on every time I go out but I would never be able to cheat on him I love my husband and my kids more than anything in the world. I feel like he should need to see any other woman naked other than me. He said that his friends talked him into going to the strip club and getting a private dance. I know that some of his friends are disgusting pigs and that's why I told him that he needs to stop hanging out with them. He's swearing to God that it was just a private dance and that was it. I'm very mad and I feel really hurt. I told him that I forgive him but I dont want it to happen again and he promised it will never happen again. Now my best friend is saying that I'm a moron because I left him off the hook too easy and without any concequences. Did I make the right thing by forgiving him without punishing him?

I'm really trying to avoid any arguments with my wife because we have a 2 year old boy and I don't want her yelling at me in front of him and I don't like arguing it's not healthy, life is short, I just like to enjoy it. I've been married to my wife for 11 years, she grew up with an abusive father. I feel that what her father did to her she's doing it to me. One of the reasons I married her so I can try to make her a more happier person and to help her forget about her past. Well it's been 11 years and nothing has worked. I have tried everything. Talking to her about it always ends up into a big arguement. I have given up all my friends, hobbies, and etc. just to spend more time with her, I have also given up sex, I just give it to her when she wants it (once a year), I let her control everything, and I let her have whatever she wants. I do all this for her just to make her happy and avoid arguments, but she's always looking for something to argue about. Please any advice?

My wife of 16 years & 3 kids later told me she has never loved me. It really stabbed me in the heart. & It sucks because I have no control over it. Don't know what to do. I love her very much,but feel like she let me down. I have always been good to her so I know that is not the problem. Don't know what to do?

We have been divorced for almost 20 years. We have two children ages 29 and 27. Our relationship is so-so. He has two older children from a previous marriage, both of whom don't particularly like me. He has been with my ex-best friend since we first separated. I think you get the picture. What is proper and what should I do?

My wife has given me a second chance and I want to be there for my wife and my kids. I would choose them any day over the other woman. One of my wife's stipulations before taking me back is that I can never speak to the girlfriend ever again. I sent her an email saying, "I am sorry for involving you in this situation. We should not talk again. I am committed to my lovely wife and family. Good Bye" I feel terrible about what I sent because it is so cold and mean. I am worried about how she is going to take it. She is just a sweet sensitive girl and she doesn't deserve to be dropped like I did to her. We had a lot of good times and she was one of the few people that actually cared about me. I have no clue how I am going to suddenly forget about her. I truly loved her and I know she loves me. We were together for only a few weeks but it was so exciting, erotic, and amazing. At the same time I know I have to forget her to save my marriage. How can I go from loving someone to not caring about them at all?

I am currently 24 now. Me and my husband got married a couple of months ago and I don't feel it will go right. I am wanting to have sex because I crave it a lot, but he won't do it with me. He keeps saying he is hurting after work and he never wants to do anything but sit and drink. Should I have an affair? I love him to death but at the same time I need a man who will have sex with me when I need it. But I love him and I don't want him to know. Should I?

My husband is a citizen of the UK. We got married so that he could stay in the states. We have one child together. His two year green card will expire next year. I found out my husband was cheating on me. I don't wanna sponsor him when his green card renewal comes up. If I file for divorce, can they deny him the ten year green card because we're divorced and he's guilty of cheating? Will they let him stay just because we have a child together even if i divorce him? Also I have proof of the cheating btw.....

Please don't say something is wrong with them, that is a lazy and false answer. When a large subset of society makes a large adjustment in their behavior, it is a reaction to their environment not some random thought of them being damaged.

I am beginning to wonder if such a thing as a happy marriage even exists. My parents have had a horrible marriage ever since I can remember. Do you think it's even worth your while to have a romantic relationship? Should men just be avoided altogether as far as marriage goes? If anyone out there has a happy marriage/ relationship please let me know. I don't Want to give up believing in true love.