Okay this is going to need a lot of backstory. I'm 14 (15 in a few weeks) and my parents have locked me out of my house for the past 4 years (almost every day I'm not exaggerating) I've been locked out in heavy snow and negative temperatures before (for almost 1 1/2 hours with only a medium thick jacket, their excuse was because I wasn't home on time aka running straight home, not stopping to say hi or have a conversation with anyone and getting home in under 10 minutes, which I guess they forgot I told them I would be at the library with my brother (he's17 and isn't allowed to have a key)anyway the only way I can get inside my home is 1.text my dad on facebook over wifi because he refueses to activate my phone with minutes (I want my phone activated is because he shuts off the wifi leaving me with my only choice, banging on my door, I knock loud because his bedroom is on the second floor and he won't hear me otherwise, but when I do knock loudly he complains about me knocking so loud. So, I would like to know, is it legal for me to break a window (I know its not a smart idea but I'm curious, I just want to know) in order to get into my own home and if I would get arrested because my dad hates me and would probably call the police for vandalism, breaking and entering and unruly-ness. Or would the cops (sort of) be on my side because its child endangerment for locking me out in poor weather conditions (locked out in a snow storm, freezing rain, etc, I've been is both before)

Yesterday I was begging my mom to take me to the gym because I m depressed due to my weight gain I am anxious to lose 17lbs I used to be skinny and now I m chubby and really unhappy I recently stopped isolating myself and went shopping for bigger clothes after a year of hiding at home :( anyways I kept begging my mom to drive me to the gym because I can only have 700-1000 calories a day and my brother yelled at me "go jump in the ocean instead! Drown yourself" and that was like punching me in my face it hurt me so much ! I went to my room pretending to be fine but I ve been crying ever since I feel so unwanted and like a big bother ! Any advice what would you do ?

I used to go visit my grandma every weekend, she is in critical condition and has been for about 6 years. My aunt moved in about 2 months ago and her and her 2 kids are hateful to me everytime I go out there. They don't let me have much to do with my grandma anymore. I can't even have a meal with her without them being rude and telling me stuff like "I don't know why you even come out here" or "you always think you have to do this or that"

I was leaving the stadium with my dad and there was a homeless man begging for money so my dad reached into his pocket and threw some loose change at the homeless man and told him "good F-ing luck" I found it kind of funny but I wonder if my Dad was wrong to do that. I mean he did give the man something right?

My sister thinks I'm "wrong" for disliking her baby daddy. The main reasons Why I dislike him is because he hit her in the face while she was pregnant with his child , he bleached her clothes and he actually got into it pushed and spit on me. That's why I don't like him. She think I need to be nicer towards him and forgive him (which is completely crazy of her to suggest that! Because he keeps on cursing her out and she does everything he tells her to do. 😖I forgive him but that doesn't mean I have to be around him, right??

I told them yesterday I am moving out in the summer, and yesterday they thought I maybe was just talking crazy. But reality sunk in and now they are mad. It already started. Mom says she couldn t sleep last night, she feels empty and that we are not close anymore and she would never do that to her mom. And that she will not let that kill her and she "hopes" it doesn t kill her. And I am moving strictly because of my boyfriend and I will basically become a whore. And I should stay in the house till I get married to somebody "legit". How can she tell that to her people that I moved out. And it doesn t matter I don t have any space I should stay I already signed the lease for June. I thought that when I become a nurse and become financially independent they would see me as an adult. But as long as I am in the house, I am seen as a child that must do everything they say. Mind you, I was born in America with foreign parents. My mom s dream is to stay in the house till I get married. I have a boyfriend of two years that I met in college so I have known him for ten years. But my parents till this day refuse to met him also because he is not of our decent. It had been bringing me anxiety and stressing me out. I am trying to control my anxiety by staying as calm as possible and standing my ground. I guess I am asking for advice. I understand where they are coming from culture wise, but I want them to understand me as an adult. Thanks.

I'm 18 years old and I bought plane tickets to go to Spain to be with my dad and his side of the family for a whole year, traveling Europe. I told my mom a while ago about this and she was against it, but forgot until recently when she found out I'm also going to this music festival in Hungary. She started to scream at me, saying I'll get raped and die and I'll be like one of those kids on the news kidnapped. That I shouldn't be going to Europe for a year and should just be the summer, and just go to college right away (I got into NYU). I'm half Danish and a Danish citizen (dual citizen) by birth. So, I can get a free education there for college if I want. She told me traveling is a waste of money and all these things that if I come back, she will never take me in and that if I call her crying, she won't pick me up because "she told me so." She also told me I can't leave because I'm not 21 and I'm under her rules until I'm 21. My dad agreed with me, telling her I'm 18 and able to make my own choices, but she just blocked him on iMessage (he's in Europe). She also blamed the festival idea on my best friend who is coming with me, even though it was my idea and I told her so. She started saying that's why she hates my best friend because she's the one filling my head with ideas, when literally all of this was my idea. I don't know what to do anymore. I spent my entire day yesterday crying over this. I'm still gonna leave, but this sucks. Why can't she get it?

I'm 17 years old and I'm running away to Europe. My best friend moved there recently and she's deciding to let me stay there with her. I've saved up over 3k and I got my passport, plane ticket, and working visa too so I can work there. I did this all behind my parents, especially my dad. My parents are divorced. My entire teenage years they've abused me. My dad has threatened me, insulted me, thrown things at me, told me he wishes I was aborted, threatened to kick me out, thrown cold water at me in the middle of the night and thrown me off my bed. My mom is manipulative and always tries to steal money from me. I can't take it anymore. I'm leaving to go to college there. I tried to tell them, but they told me I have to stay here and go to college here even after I'm 18. I live in New England and I was just wondering, if I leave one weekend and then tell them I'm Europe a few days later rather than a friend's house, what is going to happen? They don't know the house I'll be in in Europe.

me and my girlfriend are both 16 and in our last year of school. We re 2 weeks away from our first exam and her dad and step mum won t let her do ANY revision! Like none! They always call her selfish because she isn t spending time with family and it isn t fair ! They literally are trying to do everything they can to stop her revising. her 10 year old step brother (has autism) constantly goes in her room and throws her books everywhere screaming that she s selfish because she isn t spending time with him, WHEN SHES JUST TRYING TO REVISE! Her dad and step mum told her that her exams aren t that important and she should be spending time with her step brother because he has his SATs in a few weeks too and it s very stressful for him as though hers aren t. The environment in that house just isn t right for her. She can t study or do anything. I asked if she wanted to move in with me JUST UNTIL OUR EXAMS ARE OVER (about 2 months) and she said she wanted to but she s scared to ask. We did a little revision session a few days ago and it went SO GOOD! I actually learnt and remembered stuff and so did she! We both revise and study better with someone to help us. So it makes sense! I think her staying at mine until exams are over is a really good idea. At least then she might actually pass. Her mum said to come round for a few hours after tea but she can t as she can t walk long distances and her dad will constantly text to check up and we won t get anything done! Opinions please

When I was little, my mom and dad would fight a lot. Because my dad drinks a lot and he would swear at her, yell at her, and he has hurt her before and have her a black eye. Me and my brother used to wake up to yelling at like 3 am when we in grade 2-4 . It was terrible. We used to watch it all happen. There was nothing we could do about it. I always hated my dad, I don't have one good memory with him. I'm surprised my parents are still together. When I was little i used to be really quiet never had REAL friends only people who would make me feel like **** when I was only in grade 1-8 . I was always the different one. In grade 5 I became depressed and ever since then I have been depressed. In grade 7 I started cutting. I hated life. Now I'm in grade 9. I have real friends now. I love them. But they drink, and do drugs and smoke. I don't drink very often cause i don't wanna turn out like my dad, I don't smoke either but i smoke weed and have done other drugs but only to try them. When I go home my mom bitches at me cause i smell like smoke. She thinks i smoke she won't believe me that i don't. Today i didn't go to school because I feel like ****, she got so mad. She doesn't understand how hard it is to go to school with depression and social anxiety. My mom straight up told me that she wants to kill herself be she of me. I want to die too. But it hurts knowing you're the reason someone wants to die. I feel like ****. I don't know what to do. I wish I was more like my brother..

My daughter is in a rebel phase right now. She slacks on homework and chores, talks back constantly, cannot be bothered to answer simple questions like " how was your day?" She's lyng, wearing too much makeup & her wardrobe looks like she's an escort. I've tried being an understanding father & offer to just listen if she has any issues, she refuses & just rolls her eyes. What is her deal? She just turned 14 i try punishing, she doesn't care

I know it sounds mean, but my step-father is not very in control of his alcoholism and at every family function he makes an *** of himself and embarrasses the rest of us. He is not supposed to be around alcohol because he has a hard time refraining from drinking when its around him. Yet, my husband is having a diaper party outside while my shower takes place inside. There will be plenty of alcohol at the diaper party. My mom insists my step-dad will behave, but I just don't believe that. In my shoes, would you let him come & risk the drama?

Okay so this is really weird.. my dad hasn't been talking to me AT ALL. We live in the same house & our rooms are very close so he hears me coming home from school ..doesn't say anything ... when he's making dinner he says nothing to me about dinner & doesn't make me any so I don't eat until my mom gets home which is 10 pm... he says absolutely nothing to me & no i didn't do anything which makes this weird .. I don't deserve this why is he ignoring me?

My father lost his job 10 years ago. He has not worked since then. He has a nice job and was fairly wealthy. About a year after he lost his job my mother and father divorced. Since then he has slowly declined into a major depression and his drinking is worse then ever. He has been living off of all his savings which is about to only $500 now. He has been in and out of the hospital from injuries caused by his drinking. Most recently he was in the hospital for a week withdrawing. Then about a month after that he was throwing up so bad he needed emergency hernia surgery. We do not have a great relationship, but I have always been there. I try and see him at least once a week and do dinner. He lives alone we knew he was drinking but didn't know it was that bad. This past year he stopped drinking beer and went straight to whiskey. His money is almost out, he dropped his health insurance, and doesn't really have any friends or family near. When I ask him about the drinking he says he is not a alcoholic but a binge drinker. He doesn't want to go to AA. A day after he was home from his surgery from the hernia he was drinking again saying he was "weaning" himself off. He talks about getting help, he talks about moving back home to family, he talks about getting a job, and does not follow through. The last time we talked we had plans to make plan for his future and to better himself and he ditched me. It got really ugly with me getting really upset. I then said we are going to sit down and talk today or I am done and taking a break from you. And that is where it is at. I have not talked to him in two weeks. His mother calls him and checks in, but he is a compulsive liar. He is 57 and I am 23. Anyone in a situation kind of like this? I do not know much about addiction to alcohol. I don't know what to do now. He doesn't show he wants help so I am at the point of walking away and saying my goodbyes. The doctors say he only has about a year to live if he keeps drinking because his liver is bad. Any opinions, thoughts, guidance... would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Me and my sister are both 21 and I'm so tired of sharing a room with her because we don't have enough bedrooms in the house. Every time I come home from school or work she's always in the room, she barely leaves. I never get any privacy or my own space. My family always wonders why I'm in a pissed off mood and it's because I'm tired of being so enclosed with my sister and family. Right now I don't have enough money to rent a place of my own because I'm going to school. Any suggestions?

As a child I have to deal with knowing my younger sister was mom's favorite, and it was so blatantly obvious. She always took my sister's side. My sister was not required to do chores, but was still given a larger allowance. Mom would plan vacations for the two of them. She never missed one of my sister's soccer games. She would even spend a LOT more on my sister on birthdays and Christmas, and then practically rub it in my face by pointing out how big my sister's pile of presents is. But to this day mom will not acknowledge she ever did this. She says it's in my imagination and she loved both of us equally, and yet everyone knows it to be true. Even my sister says so. And because of this I am now not close to either of them, which upsets mom because I'm the one with children but I don't let her see them often because I think she'd treat my children the same way. All she would have to do is apologize and tell me why she saw fit to treat me like a lesser, but she won't do it. She'd rather suffer not having her grandchildren in her life. Why is it so hard for her to just be honest?

There is this kid and autistic and he won't let me call him dad. I honestly believe he's my dad, but he said he would open a can of whoop *** on me if I called him dad. Pleez hellp, I think I'm goofed.

My parents always call me immature and irresponsible. I'm 20. Go to university. Full time student. Good grades. So to prove I wasn't so irresponsible and immature I went ahead and applied to jobs and I got a real good part time gig for summer that pays 12$ and hour. My parents told me i can't work the job because i have to spend 3 weeks in Another country doing social work and teaching. (I go every other month for 3-5 days to do social work in different countries) do I take the job? Or drop it?

My sister has been dating this guy for 2 months she's madly in love with him she said they're gonna get married one day. She already has names picked out for their kids. One problem he's 70 something and has kids of his own she's only 14. He's been in and out of prison a lot. She said he doesn't look like he's 70 she's right. He looks like he's 30 or 20 but still makes it even worse. I wouldn't be surprised if he had grandkids. She said he doesn't but I wouldn't be surprised if he did. I don't know how she met him. She said she met him online she met him over Twitter or Facebook or whatever it is kids use. I told her that's dangerous but most teenage girls don't listen to stuff like that. He's a nice guy for a prisoner. She feels bad for him. I don't know why he's been in jail he could be a serial killer we don't know him yet he's a nice guy. Our parents died when she was younger it's been me and her. Since she's been a teenager she's been acting out a lot lately. Listening to crazy music that I don't even call music. She's been into stuff like the Beatles , Marilyn Manson , One Direction , Skillet I don't know who that is , Black Veil Brides stuff like that etc. . Also she's obsessed with death and gothic stuff. I guess that's normal for a teenager. But it scares me to know she's dating a prisoner especially one who is 70 something years old. She said she doesn't matter to her. She said they already had sex twice. How can I help her ? Is this normal for a teenage girl ? He even asked her to marry him she said yes. I don't think 14 year olds should be married they have no reason too.

My father is very aggressive he fights with mom over everything they have never had any happy moments also he is very abusive, both verbally and phisically especialy towards me, usualy he would come back late at night and wakes me up at 3 am to make him "dinner", everything about me annoys him, the way i dress, laugh, speak.. even my ringing phone, he would smash it on the floor so I always have to set it on silent mode, i feel like he hates me so much for no reason and now even more because im treating cancer and the cost is so high. I want some advices, also where i live there is no family counselling and you can't report your own parents even if they beat you to death. Thanks!

S/O's parents are coming into town for an event along with my parents. My dad made restaurant reservations for all of us and would like to pay for the group of us. Hr wants me to send my S/O's mom a message telling her where the place is and that we will be "hosting them". I feel this could be worded better or addressed better in person. What is the best way to tell them we're paying for dinner? Should I send a text, wait until we meet, or wait until the check comes?

Last week she made me go home and change because my skirt was above my knees. So I just wore jeans and a flannel shirt, but then I was in trouble for being too casual and I felt out of place. I don't have any skirts that are to my knees or below them (I've looked for some but can't afford to buy clothes I'll ony wear to church) And I'm really short, 5'2, so I can't find any maxi skirts that aren't 10 inches too long. Even if I could find clothes I like but are also suitable for church I can't afford them and my step mom won't buy me any new clothes. Another problem is that there are maybe three or four girls there that are around my age (I'm 17) but they're all soooooo shy. And then my step mom told me I'm being stuck up becase I wasn't hanging out with them, I said hi, and tried to make conversation, but they just gave me short answers and stood around awkwardly. I would copy what they wear to church (colorful maxi skirts and denim jackets or cardigans) but I'm too short, they all must be like 5'8, I'm prtty sure they were wearing flats too. Anyway, what should I do? I feel super out of place and my step mom is making me go no matter what.

My mom goes into my wallet and takes money from me. Every birthday I had she takes my money with the false promise of giving it back to me,When my sister paid me 100 dollars for babysitting her children my mother took some of it without asking and again promised to pay me back, never happened yesterday my birthday mind you she took what money i had left in my wallet then asked me for the money my stepmother gave me. Today i went o the store thinking i had enough to pay for everything but turns out mumsy went in and took some money again for her cigarettes and scratch offs. So i had to awkwardly stand their and ask the guy to take some stuff off my shopping. How do i stop her?

Need to add that this is a new home in a blended family situation. They have always had separate rooms, but since they live at home part-time we asked them to bunk-up in full-sized bunk beds.

why do parents just assume their kids are straight? i mean did they tell you they were straight? and before you say "because it's the normal thing to think" then let me ask you this...when a mother gets pregnant she expects her child to come out with two arms to legs and all that good stuff but when they don't the mother dose not hate her child. and don't say to me "it's the normal thing to think" because in reality there are so many things that can go wrong with birth that you shouldn't even be surprised when you'r child comes out with down syndrome (not saying that in a mean way)

Hi, i'm 14 and my mom recently got married to this man who i don't really like. His real son got killed a year ago and he is always crying so i just ignore him. He has another daughter and she is 13 but she lives in Pennsylvania with her mom and i live in New York with my dumb step-dad and my mom. I also have 1 brother and 1 sister but they moved out as soon as they finished high school. My step dad never lets me speak to my own mom the way i usually do. Ever since he moved in i just wanted to beat the **** outta him every time because he always tells me what to do like he is my real dad or something. Like one time my mom told me to take out the trash and i said "Whatever." Meaning that i was going to do it and my step dad got all pissed and started yelling and telling me to just say yes. I always say whatever to my mom and she doesn't care but ever since this guy moved in he won't let me. even though i still do. He even said that he was going to hit me because i couldn't tie the garbage bag because there was too much stuff in it.I was trying to tie the bag for like 20 damn minutes but i couldn't so i just went upstairs to my room and turned on the tv. While i was tying the bag he was outside smoking a cigarette then when he came back in he realized that i didn't tie it. II forgot to mention that the pile of the garbage was almost my height so that was impossible to tie. Anyways he came into my room unannounced ( SOMETHING HE IS NOT SUPPOSED TO DO BECAUSE HE IS NOT MY REAL DAD AND IT ISN'T HIS HOUSE) and started yelling at me then he hit me. When he hit me i got so f.u.c.k.i.n.g mad that i punched him in the stomach really hard then kicked him out my room. When my mom came home from work i told her what happened and she chose HIM OVER ME?!?! REALLY HOW COULD YOU CHOSE A MAN THAT YOU'VE KNOWN FOR LIKE 3 YEARS OVER YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD? . Also i have an aunt that lives in the house with us, ( She doesn't have a Job ) My dic*head stepdad always yells at her too and tells her to get a job. ( She lost her job and had to move in with us, she has been jobless for 3 years ) I know that she needs to get up and get a job but still he is yelling at my aun't, i love my aunt and it makes me angry when i see him do that. He hates my aunt too, one time i was on a trip to see his dumbass daughter and my aunt said that she needed to pee and he said no, because she takes too long with everything and we'll be here for hours when really she is fast and takes no more than 2 minutes, He curses out my aunt right in front of my mom and my mom doesn't do jacksh*t. My aunt is my mom's sister and she also choses him over her own sister. It makes me sick how my mom doesn't do anything about it and how he just yells at us all day everyday and she doesn't do anything.She just sits there and doesn't stop him. I told my older brother what he has been doing all this time and he said he is coming here tomorrow and is going to beat the living **** outta him. What can i do?

My bro is like 10 years older than me and he's too lazy to do anything my mom is helping him but he's making stupid excuses and want to give up then after few mins he was talking about my mom so I stepped in and told him the reality is that he's a lazy single douchebag then suddenly he hits me and kicks me so hard that I'm crying and I have bruises then my mom came and did nothing she did not punish him she did not say a word she just came and played her stupid game, like god she's too lazy to parent her kids I stepped up to her but at the end it's me who's hurt, I want another family or a foster family I hate this one,im only a 14 year old girl

Im being sent half way across the country because of it.

I'm very close an older friend of mine, we are very close, she is like an aunt to me. We are always messing around and having fun, although she always calls me "silly girl" why? She will be like "Where is my silly girl" or I will be doing something funny and she will just giggle and say "silly girl" why? Is it bad ?

I am 20 and my husband is 25 my mom is a divorced feisty 36 year old who from day one has taken interest in my husband. She flirts with him and has asked embarrassing questions of me about his manhood size and how he is in bed. Last week he told me she cornered him in the garage pulled his hand to her private parts and asked him if he wanted her. Bless the guy he told me straight away and I am furious but don't won't to fall out with my mom over this. Any real advice how to tackle this.?

My dad gets upset with my brother and sister when they talk about money with the other church members. We are well below poverty line. Dad says if my siblings keep bringing it up the state will take them away. Im 18 so they cant with me.

I am quite a private person and I don't mind my own company, I feel like my family are constantly on top of me. I see at least one of them everyday, I never have time for anyone else my friends and my partners family. They just show up at my house never ring 1st to say are you busy? If they do ring and I don't answer they just keep ringing & ringing until I pick up and they tell me we are on out way to yours, they don't ask if it's ok they just tell me. I literally just want a day to myself to do my own thing! I feel like they know everything about my business, I have no privacy. It's really getting me down and I feel like my partner is getting really fed up with it too, he works extremely hard and comes home every night to a member of my family being there. I need to break away from them but don't know how! I don't mean completely just not everyday. They aren't the type of family you can say things to they just fall out with you if you have an opinion or if you have something to say, please help

Okay! So here is my story! When I was 16, my mother got married to my step dad! I was always very close to my mother since my dad is not in my life! I was also very close to my grandparents! once my mom got married, she was so focused on the new relationship, I became lonely and I felt a void in my heart! I felt as if I wasn't loved anymore! I'm a huge home body and would find my purpose at home since I was never popular at school! So, I started to reach out to men on internet dating websites to fill my void! When I was 16, I ended up flying to Minnesota to meet a guy I had met offline! It was very very stupid of me! I also have a problem of saying "no" because I'm a very co dependent individual! I hate hurting others, so I let go of my own well being so I can make them happy! But it ends up hurting people more in the long run! So anyways! I got caught, was brought back home, and ended up going to counseling! I then jumped right back into online relationships again! I started to feel this void creep back into my life and wanted to end it! So, I would date guys and lie to my parents about where I was! I was a Freshman in college at the time! I then met my next boyfriend! We ended up running off to Vegas to get married and I soon became pregnant right afterwards! he was very controlling and I didn't want to make him unhappy, so that is why I made the choices I did! My mom hated him and the relationship, so I lied about stuff to make everyone happy! We then got an annulment I miscarried and we went our opposite ways! I now have a couple of guy friends I talk to every night and I had met them online! I told them that my heart is not ready to talk to people again from my last break up! They said, "no! I need to be in your life"! I couldn't let them down, so I said yes! I've told my parents the truth about everything since then but my mom doesn't believe me! She really doesn;t think I have an issue! She just yells at me and won't let me talk about my emotions and fe feelings with her! When I try to, she yells above her lungs and doesn't let me get a word out! It doesn;t help that my step dad checks my phone data to see who I am texting and how late I'm staying up at night! It sucks because they both yell at me! My mom thinks that I don't have an issue and I'm making up complete and total lies! I've tried talking to her about it but she says I'm being selfish and unloving! My grandpa is there to talk to me every single day and it really helps me to sort out and deal with my emotions! I wasn't ready to move out for college when they wanted me to! My mom just kicked me out and thats when I went back to men! She never stops and tries to understand my feelings and how I'm hurting! She's just like, "buck up and do what you have to do and start acting like an adult"! It really hurts me! And I always see them fighting because of me! I feel like such a horrible person! I'll be 21 in June! I really want to die but I'm scared to face God on the other side! I don't know what to do! I feel so guilty! Please help! I never meant to hurt anyone! Thank you!

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A while back my brother dropped out of college and moved back in with me and my mother (I'm still in high school). He met a girl who I honestly think is bad for him to be with, and now this girl is homeless and broke but she can't stay with us. My brother has had problems with drugs and drinking since he came back from college, and he feels like he is wasted potential. He just recently walked into my room and asked me how I would feel if he died tomorrow. The way he talked to me sounded like he was considering suicide. He doesn't want me to tell my family because he thinks our parents don't care. I'm scared and I need advice on how to handle the situation.

Help! My mom and this maid are arguing a lot and obviously I'm on my mom's side because we caught her stealing things and the idiot is shouting at my mother and threatening her. What should I do? It's actually rly scary hearing all the noise from my bedroom.

For food, clothes, anything like that i hate having my parents spend money on it. I went on a vacation with my friend and my parents bought us shirts but I always feel bad for making then spend money. I hate how I have this feeling... How do i make it go away??

My children are 25, 23, 22, and 20-year old identical twins. And all 5 of them still live at home and seem perfectly fine with it. I would never just toss my kids out on the street, but I would kind of like to travel abroad long term with my wife and sell the house because its a really large, yet I'm not sure what to do about all these kids, who seem perfectly happy still being here. And we still support them with food, cell phones, car, etc. How do I encourage them to think about moving out and doing more on their own? I'm especially concerned about my 25-year old son who isn't going to school and just quit his job because he "hated" it and he's now just lazing around the house and hanging with friends and smoking pot.

My brother just walked in and smashed my computer monitor for no reason at all. Now I haven't been able to jack off to decent porn for 24 hours now how can I get back at him ?

I've been doing poorly in school academically. I've been severely depressed for two years due to loneliness, as I have zero friends. I've lost my motivation to pay attention in class which subsequently caused my grades to drop. I'm raising my grades easily, as I did well in school two years ago in junior high under better social circumstances, and I explained everything to my parents: having no friends, my suicidal thoughts/tendencies, the cause for my terrible grades. I understand why my parents are upset, but it bothers me that they have no problem using this against me when we get into arguments in front of my siblings. They're constantly on edge with me since they're upset that I'm failing and am suicidal/depressed (they're religious and think I'm going to hell). They snap at me for everything (that is not an overstatement from a defiant teenage girl; they get incredibly pissed at me for tiny things that I never would have gotten in trouble for before). During arguments in front of my sisters that have no relation to my school life whatsoever, they use the fact that I have no friends and am not doing well at school against me. My dad yelled at me when he got mad at me for being inside the house too long. When my sister walked in with one of her friends, he said in front of everyone, "See, your little sister actually has friends to do things outside with" while embarrassingly emphasizing the "has". Do I deserve it for being an absolute failure? Should I say something?

For the most part, he's been a great father and he's really fun to be around, even though he's always been a stoner and he leaves me home alone to go to Vegas a lot. (Come to think of it, that's probably the reason why he's so chill.) Anyway, I was thinking back on it, and I remembered this one time when I was five, when he got impossibly high on who-knows-what and locked me in a closet for three days. He did feed me while I was in there, though, and when he recovered and realized what had happened, he let me take a week off of school so we could go to Disney World. He also cut back on the weed, so nothing like that ever happened again. He's not a bad father just because of that one mistake, right?

My 94 year old Grandma has dementia. My grandma has an old town home that was filthy (she was a pack rat) and we have been all trying to fix it up so we can put it on the market. This way we can get some money to put her in a nursing home. My grandma has no investments or savings because during the recession my parents went through some tough times losing jobs and kept borrowing money from my Grandma so really she has nothing left. They did it only to take care of me and my sister growing up so we would have food and a place to live. Anyway my aunt and uncle got mad at my parents years ago for asking my Grandma for money. So since my Grandma has had dementia my aunt and uncle told us that we have to take her during the week and they'll take her Friday, and Saturday. My uncle claims it's "revenge" for taking her money that now we get her more than they do. Honestly though I am so worried for my mom, she is almost 60 and when she comes home from work she has to deal with my Grandma repeat herself, she caught my Grandma trying to feed our dog coffee (which could kill her) she craps her pants doesn't change them, and she gets angry if you try to tell her to do something. My mom is upset all the time and stressed out and is on medication for high blood pressure. I am worried for my mom's own health. I'm in college by the way and so is my sister. What should I do. I don't want my mom to have a heart attack or develope dementia herself. Please help what can I do!

My grandma is in her mid-60s, and every time she visits (6 months a year), she constantly complains about how sick she is and how much pain she's in, which is strange because she always seems to have plenty of energy to socialize and talk with people on the phone. Anyway, today, she's been lying around all day, speaking in a tired/exhausted tone, and pointing out all the places in her body that hurt (including her feet, hands, back, head--she seems to have a headance, and legs). She does this all the time. And today, when my brother's therapist came over, she showed her the entire collection of medicine/pills she has. I keep insisting that she go to the hospital if she's in that much pain, but she keeps dismissing it. I feel like she's exaggerating this to gain attention from everyone, but I'm tired of wasting my pity on her.

My mother obviously chooses my eldest sister over me and my other sister. The eldest has been to jail 3 times, each time she has bailed her out. We just got in a fight about her and she told me and my other sister that she will never bail us out of jail if we were to go. She kisses her *** and cries when we tell her she is wrong. She is a ******* ***** and she just makes me want to shoot her ***. She drinks all the time and gets drunk probably 2 or 3 days of the week. She smokes to relieve her stress but I think it just adds more to her bitchiness. I m pretty sure she has bipolar disorder because she seems super happy at one point while im talking to her, but then 3 seconds later whilst still talking about the same thing, she changes her decision and starts bitching once again. I literally hate her and think she needs mental help. Please help me. Thank you.

I have an aunt who's married to my uncle (my mom's brother). My uncle has three sisters and none of them like my aunt. The only people that my aunt are closed to in my family are me and my siblings. Here are some background information about my aunt and uncle: they don't have a house, they don't have any children and my aunt has been trying to get pregnant for a long time and my grandma always told her to have a baby because my grandma loves little children. My uncle and aunt don't live together because one of them is in Georgia and my aunt is in Florida. They only talk on the phone. A few months ago, I went through my uncles phone and I saw a picture of a girl with a big, pregnant belly (her face was not showing). I'm assuming it's my aunt because she sent the picture to my uncle. And then a few months later, my aunt blocked me and my siblings from all her social medias (Facebook, snapchat) like she didn't want us to see her pictures or anything. Flash forward a few months later, I went through my uncles phone and I saw my aunt sending my uncle a bunch of baby pictures. It's the same baby. I'm pretty sure that this is my aunt's baby. But I'm confused how did she get pregnant if she doesn't live with my uncle. And why did she block me from her social media. Why would she hide her baby and why isn't my uncle telling my family about this?

Why do people say you don't know love until you have a child of your own? I find this statement hurtful and presumptive. Maybe I am not looking at the statement in the correct way but what about women that cannot conceive? Do they love less? I am open minded and I would like to hear both sides to really understand it because currently I have been feeling really hurt by a friend of mine saying this to me.

When I was younger, I found out my dad's pw to his account on our computer and logged in. It said that his number 1 top viewed site was a p*** site. My heart sank when I saw that. I never looked at him the same after that. He's married to my mom & I kind of saw this as offensive to her. If you say that maybe they view it together, they don't. They don't even sleep in the same bed and aren't romantic. He would also go downstairs to go on the computer and make us leave the basement when he was down there. And other times, he would go down there and shut the door behind him. There were always a bunch of tissues in the trash next to the computer that were folded up and there aren't a ton of tissues in the trash anywhere else. A memory I have was when I was maybe 14, I would do sit ups to practice for PE class. I was doing sit ups in the same room when he was watching TV & I looked over at him and he started SCREAMING at me. He was screaming at me not to look at him. He had his hands down his pants. I didn't realize at the time but now looking back I find this a very creepy memory. To this day, he always sticks his hands down his pants right in front of everyone without caring to adjust himself. I literally will look straight at him and he does it without caring. And I see VERY often that he has b****s. He doesn't hide it, it's almost like he wants us to see. Happens every day. Idk what to do but I feel very uncomfortable. My mom is EXTREMELY oblivious and wouldn't listen to me.

Last fall I moved into my own apartment instead of renting with my mom. Partially because I was expecting my second child and partially because my mom drives me CRAZY! When she comes over I do try to make sure to bring her home. If I don't she winds up staying for days, weeks if she's in the mood. I love my mom but she has a very big personality. She gets huffy lately when I bring her home so I know she's noticed. Sooner or later I'll have to sit down to talk with her about how I feel. I made a list of things so that I can phrase them diplomatically. The three biggest: 1) Sometimes my brother (who stays with her when she stays) is mean to my 3 year old. 2) She periodically makes remarks insinuating that my children's father is molesting my daughter (who trust me, is not. If you knew my mom you would know that she is extremely paranoid, especially when it comes to children. I'm nearly 24 and she still wants me to bring someone with me everywhere I go. She thought my dad was molesting me). 3) Often, when I make a decision regarding my children, she'll wait until she thinks I'm not paying attention and say something in low tones to my brother-usually negating what I just said and telling him to or to help her do something completely different as a solution. Is this disrespectful? Can parents disrespect their children? I ask because traditionally, in African American communities, whatever the elders say goes but come on-I moved out for a reason. What do you think?

okay i don't know if rude is the right word but let me explain more. also this is kinda a rant. i think calling her spiteful and very sarcastic fits her. she 18 but hangs out with me and we usually have sleepovers but i still get so annoyed with her attitude. some of the things she says can be so annoying. she thinks i need a job and im 15 years old, even my mom doesn't want me to get a job yet. i got annoyed and told her she JUST got a job, which she did, and she brushed that off. shes also someone who believes she always right. recently her and her family just got a new house so she wants me to help her move. i didn't say no exactly but i basically made it a no, so because of that she using the excuse that i don't want to leave the house and i'm basically lazy. i don't know how to explain it right, but when she said that, she said in the most bitchy tone, and it wasn't directly to me, she just said that so her mom right in front of me. im just so tired of her thinking i have to do everything she says, basically bullying me. i cant cut her out of my life because obviously her mom and mine are sisters, and they're really close. our family had a huge thing so my cousins family and mine are really the only close people. im a softy, i have no idea what to do.

Hi, I just wanted to get some advice.... We have a 10 month old baby girl but all we do is fight now (not in front of child) over his parents! I'm finding that when ever they come over, or we go over to their house I always leave angry. Sometime his mother says rude comments to me regarding me telling her what my child needs etc (like how much formula in a bottle) she just cuts me off and walks away or says yeah yeah yeah as i'm talking to her. Also I've noticed they never ask me about me? like how are you, or how is your family...It's like they are not interested in me or my family..As i said to my husband, they simply dont know me! They have no idea about my fav food or just simply what i like doing in life? The other day, my own mother came over and so did my parent inlaws by chance (they have all met before at BBQ's etc), so were all sitting there like there is a line drawn down the middle...my mum was always asking them about what they have been doing etc, you know like trying to get to know them, my mum must have made conversation with them more than me...but not once did they ask my mum anything, they just sat there and talked to their son (my husband) when everyone left, me and my husband both agreed that that was so uncomfortable but we had a fight because I mentioned that they didn't even ask my mum anything about her, or her day, nothing! Anyway I've had enough, I hate going to visit them now...It's like they are only interested in my husband and child.I told my husband that they have to make more of an effort especially since i'm their granddaughters mother, we all have to get along and thats what I wanted. What do you think? Thanks for any answers I find it weird and very rude