If one is unmarried and not a fornicator...

I have noticed that a lot of marriages don't work out. Some people only stay married for a year or 2 before splitting up. Why is that the case?

Two weeks ago my three year old son and I went out to the store. When we came home I went upstairs and caught my husband having sex with a teenage girl. I was screaming crying and the girl ran out. I was absolutely devastated by what I saw. He tried to convince me he loves me way more than her and it's all a big mistake that will never happen again. It's hard for me to handle since we've been married for fifteen years.

It's the 4th of July and I really really want to go see fireworks with my friends. But my husband has to work so he says that's unfair if I go. Says if I go to the the fireworks he will not be home when I get back. Says he doesn't want me to go because my friends might drink and he doesn't want me in the car with them. Is it unfair? I feel like he should be happy if I'm happy and trust I'll be ok. What should I tell him? Any angry or resistance to what he says and he starts to yell and doesn't listen.

I'm a guy and I am worried about all the things I need to do. We have one vehicle that works but we will need a second bigger vehicle. I worry that something will happen and our emergency fund will be gone. I worry a lot about money. Don't have credit card debt but will be paying student loans for a while. Our house is 1100 so ft. So I worry that the house is too small. I also think that I'm taking time away from my older children. Such that they will get jealous and mad at me because we have a new one which will need a lot of attention. I thought only women go through this. Thoughts?

I'm looking for a little bit of clarification here. My ex husband and I were married for 13 years from 2002 to 2015. We divorced in 2015, it's about four years now. I was a SAHM during our marriage. I stayed home, took care of our house, the kids and was a good wife. My husband filed for divorce in March of 2014. Our divorce was final in May 2015. We did have a slight dramatic custody battle. Our children are 15, 13 and 11. He is in upper level management for a Fortune 500 company. He pays child support every month and is a good father to our kids. I was receiving alimony until I remarried my current husband (we married in March of 2018). I still do not work, I stay at home. My husband seems very frustrated with this because we live in NYC and our rent is quite the bit of money (along with five kids as I have three daughters and he has two daughters as well who are my stepkids). He wants me to work, even part time to help with the bills. I am looking for work but I am not motivated to work TBH. Well here is the thing. My ex husband is dating a black woman from Brooklyn (we are all from Queens). She works for NYPD as a lieutenant. Their relationship is pretty serious. He tells our kids he wants to marry her. My kids like her. She was a single mom with four kids before meeting my ex husband. What makes me surprised is that I would have never thought he would date such a career oriented woman. The black lady also has two baby daddies, she is rough around the edges.

My husband lost his wife in a car crash in 2004. She was 32 when she passed away. We met in 2011 and got married in 2014. Every year on their wedding anniversary, the date of her death, and her birthday he continues to post tributes to her about how much he loves and misses her and about the kids. He even posts photos from their wedding! At first, it did not bother me but now it's starting to make me feel as though he never really moved on from her or her passing and that I'm just here filling this void. I'm uncomfortable with it. Family members bring it to my attention every year that they find it strange. Should I say something to him?

Is it because they broke up?

This started about 4 years ago when he said something stupid & hurtful. At the time one of our kids didn't like sleeping alone in their room so there was an empty bed and I slept in there. Best. Sleep. EVER! No snoring, no one talking in their sleep, no one taking all the covers, no one taking up the entire bed, no bad breath being exhaled into my face. It's been awesome. I work a lot and as I'm getting older a good nights sleep is important. Well now my kid wants their room back and I said I'll just move to the couch. My husband is very angry that I won't go back into our room and says that I snore too and he manages. I'm asleep, I don't hear my snoring. How can I get him to understand how horrible he is to sleep with?

wouldnt you be relieved to be free of that person and enjoy your life rather than being stuck in an unhappy relationship that drained your spirit.

When I was subsitute teaching I was making a 100 dollars a day and I told him that's not a lot and it's not a livable wage. He was like " you can live off a subsitute teacher, Stop undermining money all of the time that's irritating." Idk why he got mad when I was just stating facts. whats his deal? is he truly this ignorant? Its not enough money if you like luxurious things.

I have condo that is fully paid off and I rent with my fiance. Since I moved to San Diego, my only income has been freelance work and collecting rent. My fiance, on the other hand is an attorney and making six figures. Part of me wants to do a cash out refinance on my condo and purchase another investment property and start to build a real estate portfolio for my own sake. She wants to use that money as a down payment for a home for us. I'm not sure what I should do.