What went wrong I know every race has dysfunctional but every black man is a liar cheater beater abuser dead beat father's, what caused this?

My husband had a job interview 30 minutes from home. An hour and a half later I tried to call. He answered the second time and said he is still at the interview. I thought "long *** interview" 3 hours later he still wasnt home nor answering his phone. When he got home he said that they were going over the job requirements and asking if he still wanted to do it but he had a 30 minute phone interview 3 days ago where they went over the job requirements and asked if he still wanted to do it. He said he was filling out paperwork but he brought paperwork home to fill out. I said it doesnt take over 3 hours to do an interview and paperwork. He said they liked him so much they started orientation right then but they kept getting interrupted by vendors and customers and stuff. During those times why didnt he text to let me know that it turned into an orientation and he would be there longer? It just doesnt add up. Two of his friends just got busted by their wives for cheating and he likes hanging out with them. He suddenly started trimming his beard last week which he does like once every 3 or 4 months, now he is keeping his hair and beard trimmed. Hes been working overtime, going in an hour early and coming home an hour late but his paychecks are pretty much the same. He keeps spending money saying his coworkers needed to borrow some and then saying they paid him back cash later but I never awe the cash or the money go back into our account. I dont know if I believe him at all.

My husband never plans anything fun for us to do on weekend that we all like. He knows I love family outings, our 10 yr old is always game, we just have to introduce new things or places to go to him. My husband is just content to sit on the couch and watch tv all day. I don't have any friends with young kids to plan stuff with. When I tell my husband we should go out, he says we can go to the beach. I don't enjoy going to the beach. I like going to the city where there are different things to see. We live 40 minutes to Los Angeles. He grew up in LA. He was not like this before I married him.

My ex and I have been broken up for 3 years this month. I am happily engaged, so trust that I am over my ex and have been for a while. I'm the type that realizes life is short and I like to make sure people are happy and doing well. I don't like to have bad blood between me and anybody, not even my ex's. Back then, he basically left me for somebody else, but that wasn't apparent until they actually got together 2 months after he left me. They ended up having a child together. A while back, I found his girlfriend's IG and at first, there were plenty of couple photos (her page is now private, by the way) and then after they had their son, the photos became just either their son or her and their son or him and their son, none of her and him anymore. For some reason, his cousin and I still follow each other on IG and because of that, his new IG showed up in my "suggestions" on IG. Jokingly, I follow requested his private profile and he accepted. I was kind of surprised. NONE of the photos are of him and her, just of him or of his kids. He doesn't mention her anywhere, but i know they're still together. Why does he feel the need to hide his girlfriend? I get the feeling he hid me, too. Before we had really broken up, he deleted all photos of us from IG.

I already pay $400 a month for his child care. Also pay her and the child health, eye and dental insurance. Child stays with me 3 nights and my Ex 4 nights a week. She now requesting child support.

I feel like that was a really hurtful and cruel thing to say, but he hasn't apologized yet. We have been arguing a lot lately but it still feels horrible to say. What do you think? He meant it in the sense that no other guy would put up with me. Then he said he didn't want to discuss the argument anymore and shut himself in a different room.

My brother who is married he was contacted by nasty women who told him he's handsome and she love him she's random she texts him through messenger on a Facebook. He told her I'm married but still she can't give up on him. What kind of women is this they reside western country. She's Hispanic looking too that's very disgusting he even told me she approaches him for sex what a shame. They don't give up even his married that's very dangerous they want to jump on a men hope they rot in hell.

We were together for 5 yrs and never lived together. We got married 2 months ago and all of a sudden for past too weeks he hangs out with his friends right after coming home from work. Last night he said he was going out. I asked him where and what time he would be coming home. My husband said he was going to play cards with the guys and would be back by midnight or 1am. I woke up this morning around 10am and he was not home. I tried calling him 5 times during the night and his phone kept ringing. He has been doing this for the past 2 weeks. He'll say he is going to play cards or going for drinks or movies but never comes home... I am started to feel like I should slip something in his dinner to make him tired and stay home...

why stay married? im lonely, feel left out, he is a Biden supporter, all my friends want beato, but I want trump. I catch him masturbating looking out the window at my friends sun bathing . it kills me every time I catch him, we have had sex in months, all he does it stick it in my mouth before he goes to work. I spit it on the floors, the floors are stained now.

I've been offered a new job out of state and will be moving with the kids in August so they can start school. My husband wants to stay at our current home until January of 2020 so that he can work on putting the house on the market, looking for full time employment, continue working, as well as ensure that I've found stable employment in the area. (We moved once previously for his job and after 3 months the company went under) I'm a little nervous as I've never been away from my husband for this long of a period of time especially with just me and our 2 kids and no family close by. Has anyone ever done anything like this? What was the impact it had on your marriage? Thanks

I have been staying home mom for a long time I hired my attorney through legal aid for divorce The court ordered mediation and he keeps telling me the cost of mediation will me split between me and my ex and he knows that I cannot afford paying this and also the court knows that I cannot afford paying the mediation cost .What should I do? And how much will be! Also there is a lot of financial papers are not revealed to me and hidden by the other party and when I ask my attorney I cannot proceed to the mediation without having all his finnacial statements available to me He keeps ignoring my messages to him and want to proceed to the mediation without this important financial statements! And he doesn't even want to give me copy of the proposal that he is willing to discuss during mediation !!! And keep telling me he will discuss the financial issues later after the mediation agreement?!!! And as far As I know the case will be dismissed after the mediation agreement and I will need to open a new case ?!!!!! What should I do with him? He is not clear at all with me He is handling the case the way that he wants not what I want

Back in February my fiancee left after we had a fight. In the months before this we had these weird fights where she was somehow blaming me for whatever was wrong. She told me before she left that it was for a short time and she agreed to couples counseling with me. We went to 4 appointments and at the third appointment she said she felt more hopeful about our relationship, and I agreed with her. At our 4th appointment she did a 180 and said she doesn't see any hope; she doesn't see how our relationship could possibly work. Still, we kept in touch throughout March and she would say things like "this takes time" and "you need to be more patient". I thought she was coming around. We went out for dinner one night and planned for another one in the future. By early April she tells she had rented a house, our relationship is "just over" and she has movers scheduled for the following day. I. Was. Floored. She'd kept telling me she hadn't rented a house. She'd kept saying "I don't have concrete plans". She didn't rent a house and schedule movers the day before. I don't believe that. She disappeared for almost 2 weeks. She wouldn't answer the phone or return texts. She finally called me though and said, "hi. What did you want to talk about?". What the hell? She spent an hour berating me and blaming everything on me. She then disappeared for another week. By late April we were back to talking and she says she misses me and she says "I wish things hadn't gotten so stupid". We agreed to start from square one. We were going to talk more and we again planned dinner. By early May (a week and a half later) she tells me she's fallen out of love with me, we have no future, she yells at me and hangs up. She then disappears again for most of May. I filed for custody of our 2 kids after that. She disappeared for almost 3 weeks in May and I learned that in April she'd taken my name off the authorized pickup list at the daycare, so I can't access our kids anymore. For most of May and most of June I can barely get ahold of her. When she does answer about our kids she tells me I can't see them. She's become easier to get ahold of lately. She's almost friendly at times. She still won't let me see the kids very much. But she answers texts now (mostly) and has started using subtle text clues that she's being friendly. We even resolved a long standing issue that was a problem in our relationship. I don't know what to make of it. She won't answer the phone or return calls. She won't tell me who's watching our kids while she works. This had been so bizarre and confusing. I had to call the Domestic Violence hotline and they tell me she's emotionally abusive and manipulative, and I now go weekly and talk to a counselor. He says she's got sociopathic tendencies and he tells me to be ready for her to be more manipulative now that **** got serious (e.g. the custody battle). I feel ready to completely lose my mind. Nothing about this has made sense. Sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing by filing for custody. Thanks for reading. Words of wisdom and support are welcome.

My husband is sweet and I usually wear revealing clothes but we had guests from my family over at our house today. My cousin came to visit I wore these white short denim shorts and my husband couldn't keep his hands off me. He had his arm around me which is cute and kept kissing me but he slapped my behind in front of her when I got up and when my cousin left he just had his way with me. He usually behaves better but today he was embarrassing me. We do it regularly but he made me feel uncomfortable and my cousin just laughed

My wife and her family are very nice and very smart people. While no one is perfect, my wife and her older sister and her father have a habit that drives my crazy. They over analyze everything. Please do not misunderstand me. I think planning is very important and I try to do it every chance I get. I believe in the adage that failing to prepare is preparing to fail. But I also think that sometimes, you have to go on the available information that you have, such as it is, and just make a decision and carry it out. My wife, her dad, and sister look for every single possible outcome, no matter how likely to happen and beat the analysis to death. I've seen them decide not to do something because of an event with an infinitesimal probability of occurring simply because that event exists as a possible outcome. They get bogged down in research and don't get things done. They always have to"think about it." Or my wife and I will decide to embark on a project in a certain way. My wife will mention it to her dad and sister and one of them inevitably comes up with a reason from way out in left field not to do things the way we decided and my wife will change her mind and wait for her dad or sister to get back to us. I am sick of this. How do I deal with this situation?