To cut to the chase I found out my husband and nephew had sex with a family friend of ours who's about my nephews age and wayyy young than my husband . My husband and I have been fighting since the incident and my nephew has tried to apologize. I don't want this to ruin my marriage cause we have a two year old son but I don't know what to think at the moment any advice may be taken

I confronted him the day after July 4th about his cheating years ago. I did it because I was tired of the emotional abuse he was putting me through while still putting on an innocent act. I was at my ends at that point. We were doing counseling and I said it. he denied despite all the evidence shown. I initially said we should have a separation or something as a trial because this relationship was no longer working for me. to my surprise he not only denied the cheating but decided that was the end of our marriage because I said that. While still maintaining that I was making stuff up. the counselor gave us some time to think through about the decision. But he stuck to it. I felt relief but at the same time I felt hurt because if anything I should have been the one to react badly not him. The week after he antagonized me, and kept trying to push our son to be disrespectful to me. I talked to him about it and he thought it was funny because to him it wasn't antagonizing unless I reacted. then the week after he tried being nice by buying ice cream and pizza. I felt as if he realized I was really trying to move on and decided to stop me in my tracks. Because losing weight meant me being attractive to other people. But I refused. Then he went back to being him ignoring me and all. tonight as I was going down the stairs while he was going up he goes out of his way to try to avoid touching me. he has been doing that lately. Like as if I was repulsive. Why is he doing this?

I'm 31 I can't hold down a job. I'm smart I have a Masters Degree. I have friends I'm very social, I love to speak in front of crowds, and I meet people with ease. The PROBLEM I don't know how to read or understand people. I can't get along with too many people at all. I do have lots of friends though. Specifically I can't get along with Coworkers or roommates. I'll often think someone doesn't like me when that's not the case, or I'll be convinced someone doesn't want to associate with me when they are actually just busy. At work I've been fired from so many jobs because I can't get along with people. I feel like I'm really socially awkward in the workplace when I talk I feel as though I'm socially awkward and like I'm doing things that are awkward but can't help it. Like I tell myself this is weird you are weird. I'm ALWAYS picked on/the one nobody likes. Once a coworker actually started a hate website about me in the office about how annoying I am. I don't know HOW TO CHANGE or WHY it's me. It's like I don't understand social situations. My current boss has asked me if I have autism. I've STRONGLY been consider suicide at this point if I get fired from another job. I'm 31 and I can't take it much more. I feel like therapy won't help me and like I'm at a point where I can't change. Does anyone have advice? Does this sound like autism?

my husband ben in the hospitable for five month . he is home noe. need twenty hour care. will is insurance pay me

Ive been through so much hell in my current relationship and I've fight and pleaded with him for so many years.there was a point where we argued every single day. I think it's cause we are so different. The only thing we have in common is that we are both strong and dominant but it isn't good because he always wants to have the last word with me. Now I just feel myself emotionally disconnecting from my boyfriend altogether.its like he doesn't wanna better himself period. Its crazy because he acknowledges that he can have anger problems, a short temper, and the like. And instead of going to counseling or trying to improve himself he just goes " well maybe you need to be with a more passive man. This is who I am". Not only that but he has three kids by two woman. I have no kids. I'm not even all that physically attracted to him because he wears the same thing every single day. My bf is controlling also in a lot of ways. I'm on the verge of ending this relationship. I'm done fighting, trying. I've recently reconnected with my guy friend of 10 years who is the complete opposite. He's sweet, kind, soft, he's in tune with his emotions, easy to talk to, a good listener, he is my age (27). He's also funny. It was my first time laughing in years. The other night we talked until 3 am just catching up on each other's lives. He discussed his ex girlfriend who was just as inconsiderate and angry as my boyfriend. He said he wishes his ex would have been more affectionate. I was like " go figure, i wish my boyfriend would be more affectionate" He was like " my ex would get mad about everything. I was scared to say things to set her off." I was like "SAME. I literally walk on egg shells with my boyfriend trying not to trigger him. 24 hrs ago I texted my guy friend and was like "I should've got you with you 5 years ago lol. you're probably my soulmate or something. been with the wrong person this whole time lol" he was like " you're messing up out here lol". I was like " everything my boyfriend lacks you posess" and my guy friend was like " lol you didn't even like me back then." Then I jokingly said " you got buff that changes everything lol" and he started laughing. I was like " pretty sure you didn't like me either lol. he jokingly said " that's the 20th century we in the 21st century. But I feel you. I'm not sure how we avoided romance so well I texted him a long paragraph about how he's a great person, friend, and confidant. i told him he's so intelligent that it's crazy and that he would have been a better match for me for sure . I told him how me and my boyfriend are so different and its almost like we resent each other in a sense because of it. but he might be right that i need someone passive. I told him he has a great vibe, he's funny and is postive and uplifting. he put a heart face next to the message and said he will respon so he said he would respond in a few because he was driving but it's been l like 24 hours since I sent that text and no reply. smh. Worried that i shouldn't even have sent it. I was just feeling emotional and wanted to get it off my chest. do you think that text freaked him out oh my boyfriend is 35 and not nearly as intelligent as my guy friend. Everytime I hear him talk i'm like wow he's so smart and articulate it blows my mind. I think that's what draws me towards him the most. Of course my guy friend is good looking but i love his mind the mo Im posting this again in response to ana's reply to my last question and to clarify some things. First of all, I'm not an easy lay because I have never ever had sex with anyone besides my boyfriend EVER. I lost my virgnity to my boyfriend When I was like 24 and he's the only person I've had sex with. Also, Did you hear me when I said I was JOKING about only flirting with him because he's buf another thing ANA My boyfriend has been controlling, crazy, and short tempered WAYYY before me and my friend reconnected. He's been this way from the start of our relationship. He also gets irritated with how i say my words sometimes. There was a time where he tried to rush me into his house so his male neighbor wouldn't look at m go to my guy friend for him comfort because it's hard to talk to my boyfriend and he gets irritated easily. Couple months ago I told him how I wanted to make the relationship more exciting because I feel like it's getting dull. He brushed me off. Monotomy kills relationship. He doesn't care about romancing me or pleasuring ME. it's all about him. I told him I didn't want to have sex one time and he got angry threatened to break u e and my guy friend also talked more our childhoods and he told me about his birth mom (he's adopte I'm really upset that my guy friend basically ghosted me. it's so not like him. he's always been so kind towards me and everyone else the 10 years i've known him. If the texted freaked him out we're good enough friends to where he could speak up it's just really rude to ignore someone without explanation. why tell me you're going to text me back after you finish driving and it's been 24 hours since i've heard from him? Me and my friend were vibing so well, we had a connection. It's not like I said anything sexual or disrespectful like this is crazy

I just finished my Masters Degree in May. I inherited my aunts home when she passed away so I'm living rent free with no mortgage. I've lived here 10 years I'm pretty established as far as friends, knowing the area, my doctors etc. The PROBLEM is I can't find work in my field here or even in the state to be honest. I've had some offers in other states far away that I've turned down. Part of me wants to continue applying here in town with the hopes that eventually something will open up. My concern is being out of the field too long may hinder me from getting back in. The area I'm in is pretty limited job wise anyway. There's not much full time work here in town period to be honest and no major cities near by to commute to. I'm living off of the money I received when my aunt passed away as I'm currently unemployed. I have enough to likely last me 6-8 months at most. Should I consider relocating far away? What do you think?

Do men discuss marriage and love just to continue getting ongoing sex ?

If so, did sex get old and boring when you were married ? How long after you were engaged did you get married ?

We have been together for over 17yrs. He went back to Nigeria and got married and now wants to come back to the u.s. how can I prove to the police that he commited bigamy since i have no proof but I am sure he did and it is confirmed!

Like it's a taboo subject, and isn't talked about until it's about to happen and they are still awkward about it and have trouble accepting the fact that their adult child is getting married and having children

A relative of mine I am told has now fallen in love with a Chinese woman who is in America but married with kids back in China. He is in love with her and it is believed he is hoping they will be together forever. Since she is married with kids back in her home country (she lives in the USA right now) is he committing adultery? Or does this not count? Also is it unhealthy and is he not wise to do it? He is one to get madly in love too quick. He is unstable and has Bipolar Disorder. He has been married and divorced twice and his first marriage ended on grounds of infidelity he committed. Not sure on the 2nd marriage other then being told 2nd hand that there was another woman involved.

Hi. This month has been a very hard month for me. I used to see hope in my marriage, that's why I came here, to get insights into things that I probably was overlooking or to get support to figure out what I could do to help/fix the situation. But the more I think about the situation, the more I realize that it's hopeless. My wife has filled her life with so much "stuff" that she no longer has time for the marriage. She told me recently that she did want to make me sexually satisfied and emotionally happy but things of higher importance are taking priority over that (then she couldn't tell me what those things were). That's a slap in the face y'all. That's like saying "I love you but not more than I love other stuff". I can't just leave 4 teens, 5 animals, and a decade and a half marriage (though it's been more like roommates really) behind but it's crossed my mind a few times this week. There's just nothing there. She doesn't kiss me any more and the only times she texts me is to tell me to do something. She doesn't even text me to see how I'm doing. I just don't exist in her world any more. She even sleeps 2 hours before me each night (forcing me to put the teens to bed) and wakes up 1 hour before me. There's. Just. Nothing. There. I'm thinking of entering therapy finally so I can get over her but I'm not sure. I feel like it's what's best at this point. I want to fix this, it's only bad because I'm selfish; but maybe she's the selfish one and there's nothing I can do...

My husband and I have been married 12 years. We have 2 daughters they are 9 and 7. My husband came home from work early today and told me out of nowhere he wanted a divorce. We haven't had any real serious marital issues. He told me he only wanted 1 kid not 2 and that the children are now cramping his style. He told me he's accepted a new job in California (we live in Minnesota) I had no idea he was even looking for new work!! I'm honestly in such shock and disbelief I'm shaking. Does anyone have any advice? I don't even know where to start. I just found all of this out an hour ago!

I mean i really am pregnant and its obvious. I just feel really weird and shy with the attention. I feel like hiding under a rock. Pre pregnancy i was fit and sexy... now i feel like a bag of potatoes. Am i strange for feeling this way? I just want to tell myself to grow up lol.

We turn off the AC when we go to work. When we get back the apartment is very hot. My wife turns down the AC to as low as it will go because she thinks doing so will cool the place off faster. I know it won't. The last time she did this she forgot and I woke up in the middle of the night, freezing. She forgot to reset it to 70 and it was 52 degrees. She refuses to believe me that turning it all the way down will not cool the place off faster.

My wife got PTSD as a child. She grew up in the slums of a manufacturing city and her family was very poor. Eventually her family moved to the country where it was a little better for her but they were still very poor. Because of the neglect and abuse she endured, my wife was already broken; she kept to herself and she didn't form any friendships/bonds with her family members or her classmates. This was 18 years ago she lived that life, but the core values of just surviving and not thriving still resonate within her. Her Mom was emotionally distant and at times came to my wife for comfort when she was hurt by my wife's Dad. Her Dad was also emotionally distant and was rarely ever home, at first because of his bar job and being an alcoholic but then eventually because of his farm and full time job (workaholism). My wife grew up with NO emotional ties or support whatsoever. I was raised in an emotionally connected/bonded middle class family with no abuse or alcoholism. I'm not used to emotional neglect and survivalism at all; we had enough in my family and we checked in with each other often. I was supported and I was cared for.... But this is not how it is in this marriage... I am the supporter and the caregiver; not just of her but all 4 teenagers... I am a single parent to a workaholic wife... Is workaholism worse than alcoholism or the same? Anyways, my question is, will this ever get better? Will she ever cope with her PTSD without therapy? I love how my first answer accuses her of not having PTSD because it sounds pretty normal to them. Obviously there's not enough characters on these posts any more where I can type it all out so how can you make an assumption that she doesn't have something she does? Her mom and dad yelled a lot and her dad was drunk most of the time; they grew up in gang territory and her mom even got in an accident because of a gang member driving with no headlights on in the middle of the night as a dare.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating since we were 12, and we are now 16. We are planning on getting married when we are 18. Most couples get married after a few years, so would it be a big deal if we get married after waiting for 6 years?

my wife and i got a divorce 9 months ago, and 2 days ago she told me i never get to see my kids again. I have 2 daughters (8/10 years old) and a 5 year old son(who i just saw last week on his birthday) . I don't understand why she said this, because we left off on good terms as far as I was concerned, but she texted and told me she has a boyfriend and wants him to be the father figure. So I can now see why she made her decision, but why should i not be allowed to see MY kids and some random guy gets to be in their lives? I have never done anything to harm my kids or wife, I thought I was doing a good job as a father. She told me my kids dont like me and never want to see me again, but I know that can't be true. My kids love me and last time I seen them(a week ago) they were crying and begging me not to leave.I don't think this is fair, I deserve to be in my kids lives. Is this legal that she could just take them from me? Could I get a lawyer and try to get them back? As a father, what are my legal obligations? I know I have to pay child support, i do, but she always comes to me for extra money to buy the kids cmas presents and other holiday stuff. Just last week she came to me for $100 for my sons gift.

I like my friends ex-girlfriend and I'm not sure what would happen if I pursued her. This is one of my childhood friends and he went out with her for over 3 years. We both met her at the same time and he ended up with her. For 3 years I didn't think about her or even talk to her. It's been almost a year and we're both single. We've been hanging out and talking non-stop and she's going with me to one of my work friends wedding. I feel like she's waiting for me to make a move and I'm conflicted on what to do. Her ex is my friend, but I've know her as long as he has and I'm terrified of missing my chance like I did 3 years ago. I'm almost 25 and don't want to miss my chance, but I also don't want to lose him. Is this wrong? Should I ask him for permission?

My ex and I have two kids a 7yr old and a 4yr old. We were doing great at co patenting we even still lived together. Then one day 6 months ago he took the kids to daycare while I was at work came home packed his stuff up and moved with some chick! He has not talked to the kids since! He switched his phone number we can t get a hold of him. What should I do ? What should I tell my kids who are hurting so bad?

I mean i really am pregnant and its obvious. I just feel really weird and shy with the attention. I feel like hiding under a rock. Am i strange for feeling this way? I just want to tell myself to grow up lol.

Ive been through so much hell in my current relationship and I've fight and pleaded with him for so many years.there was a point where we argued every single day. I think it's cause we are so different. The only thing we have in common is that we are both strong and dominant but it isn't good because he always wants to have the last word with me. Now I just feel myself emotionally disconnecting from my boyfriend altogether.its like he doesn't wanna better himself period. Its crazy because he acknowledges that he can have anger problems, a short temper, and the like. And instead of going to counseling or trying to improve himself he just goes " well maybe you need to be with a more passive man. This is who I am". Not only that but he has three kids by two woman. I have no kids. I'm not even all that physically attracted to him because he wears the same thing every single day. My bf is controlling also in a lot of ways. I'm on the verge of ending this relationship. I'm done fighting, trying. I've recently reconnected with my guy friend of 10 years who is the complete opposite. He's sweet, kind, soft, he's in tune with his emotions, easy to talk to, a good listener, he is my age (27). He's also funny. It was my first time laughing in years. The other night we talked until 3 am just catching up on each other's lives. He discussed his ex girlfriend who was just as inconsiderate and angry as my boyfriend. He said he wishes his ex would have been more affectionate. I was like " go figure, i wish my boyfriend would be more affectionate" He was like " my ex would get mad about everything. I was scared to say things to set her off." I was like "SAME. I literally walk on egg shells with my boyfriend trying not to trigger him." Today I texted my guy friend and was like "I should've got you with you 5 years ago lol. you're probably my soulmate or something. been with the wrong person this whole time lol" he was like " you're messing up out here lol". I was like " everything my boyfriend lacks you posess" and my guy friend was like " lol you didn't even like me back then." Then I jokingly said " you got buff that changes everything lol" and he started laughing. I was like " pretty sure you didn't like me either lol." he jokingly said " that's the 20th century we in the 21st century. But I feel you. I'm not sure how we avoided romance so well lol. I texted him a long paragraph about how he's a great person, friend, and confidant. i told him he's so intelligent that it's crazy and that he would have been a better match for me for sure . I told him how me and my boyfriend are so different and its almost like we resent each other in a sense because of it. but he might be right that i need someone passive. I told him he has a great vibe, he's funny and is postive and uplifting. he put a heart face next to the message and said he will respond so he said he would respond in a few because he was driving but it's been l ike 6 hours since I sent that text and no reply. smh. Worried that i shouldn't even have sent it. I was just feeling emotional and wanted to get it off my chest. do you think that text freaked him out? oh my boyfriend is 35 and not nearly as intelligent as my guy friend. Everytime I hear him talk i'm like wow he's so smart and articulate it blows my mind. I think that's what draws me towards him the most. Of course my guy friend is good looking but i love his mind the most Me and my guy friend also talked more our childhoods and he told me about his birth mom (he's adopted). He said he never really told anyone the things he told me.