Family: Question: Sister is mad at me?

Question: Sister is mad at me?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 01:34 PM PDT

My parents literally never listen & my sister still proceeds to argue with them she got mad at me for not ever getting in the arguments and defending her I see it as why waste my breath if they don't listen things literal never change from her arguing she's not speaking to me what should i do

Question: Should I call Child Services on my sister-in-law who always screams at her kids?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 12:07 PM PDT

She screams at her kids all day long. I have no idea what for. They are like 5 & 3. She won't do it when her husband or his parents are there.

Question: If a man’s mom dies, & he cancels son’s 1st b-day, is it overkill to give b-day card w/gift card a week after giving money w/sympathy card?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 11:51 AM PDT

Let's say his mother dies a few days before his son's 1st birthday party. He, of course, cancels the party. At the funeral, a person who is not immediately family gives him $100 enclosed in a sympathy card. Then the next time she sees him after the funeral, which is within the same month, she gives him a $50 gift card enclosed in birthday card. Is she being too generous to the point where people will keep inviting her to family functions for the wrong reasons: she has money. FYI, when his mother died, she had NOT yet purchased the gift card or birthday card, since the party was still a few days away.

Question: Does a anyone know how to convince over bearing parents of me joining the military?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 11:44 AM PDT

I am a 22year old college grad living with his parents (******* loser). might have austism. My parents don t want me to join because of the plethora of medical issues I have. I have bad eye sight, autism, mediocre hearing,an IQ of 70, arthritis, memory loss, light headedness, and metal problems that I have talked about with a few therapists back when I was in high school. Another thing is I am pathetically weak. I can't even left more than 45 lbs. Maybe it s better that I don t join because I am too much of a ******* pussy to stand up to my elderly parents Also I was interrogated but not arrested for making threats. I am far right on the political spectrum and also an incel

Question: How do I help my 12 year old daughter deal with conflicts (I want to prepare her for the next school year)?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 11:38 AM PDT

During the school year that just passed, my daughter wanted to play with kids who are 8-9 years old but her classmates said she isn't allowed. She has autism and is less socially savvy. I don't think she's interested in friends her own age. We are from Ontario, Canada so elementary school goes from K-8th here. She'll still be in the same school as her younger friends. I highly predict that the same conflict will happen next year, especially since they're entering puberty. My daughter was really upset about this. She'd come home crying and saying that her peers are bossing her around. Telling her to simply ignore these girls won't help. I don't see the problem with my daughter hanging out with a younger age group unless she does something wrong. I keep updated with the school and the supervisors usually tell me if there's a real issue.

Question: Should my brother try to understand where my father is coming from?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 11:25 AM PDT

My father is 85 years old, and a widower. Sometimes when things don't go right, he tends to snap. My brother sees it as arguing. Today my father asked him if he could do something, and instead of my brother saying sure, he said well why can't you do it. At church sometimes my dad has trouble walking. But when I tried to tell my brother why couldn't you just say no problem and do it for him, he said well why can't he do it, he's not 100 he can walk. I don't think my brother can accept that there are limitations to what our dad can do, and it's 'frustrating to be the one stuck in the middle. When my mom was alive, I lived in another state, so I didn't have to deal with it. Now that I live here again, I am in the middle and I hate it. I can see both sides. If I can see where my dad is coming from, and can understand that he is getting older, and sometimes his memory fades, why is it so hard for my brother to accept that.

Question: I hit my dad and I feel horrible?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 11:16 AM PDT

I've never actually hit my dad, but I did today and I feel terrible I don't even remember what exactly happened because it was so trivial but my dad asked me to do something and I got angry because he was pressuring me and he hit me with his sock and I got triggered and kicked him (I was in a bad mood) and he was just surprised and my mom was there too and he told me not to do that in a serious tone then they left. But my dad is super old and he's been having leg problems and lucky me I kicked him in his hurting leg and I overheard him talking to my mom about his leg hurting again (he was better this morning) and the guilt just kills me, I tried to confront him about it but he just says he doesn't want to talk about it and I don't know what to do, there's this awkward tension of 'let's not speak' so I'm just staying in my room for now. He doesn't even hit me ever, just yells, is that why I got so triggered this time he did? what do I do now..

Question: 21 years old and living with my parents?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 10:40 AM PDT

I go to college I get good grades and I am studying to be a surgeon. Am I normal if I am still living with my parents. I am super busy in my studies so I have a small temporary job of working at a restaurant a few times a week and I help pay the rent. I do not have enough money to buy or rent my own house yet. My parents want me to move out when I graduate from college. Am I normal?

Question: Should I seek help for nephew?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 10:35 AM PDT

My nephew is 30 (I am his aunt) and he only prefers hanging out in small groups. He only has 2 friends and no girlfriend and very rarely hangs out with anyone else. He says he gets along pretty well with people at work but doesn't hang out with them outside of work. He never goes to parties, large gatherings and will never start a random conversation with a person he sees on the street or on the bus. I think he is either rude, depressed. hiding a secret or has a mental disorder (like autism) he insists he is fine the way he is but I think he needs help to be more confident, everyone else is very extroverted and to be that shy and quiet is a sign that something is wrong, I have asked him many times about his feelings and he gets irritated at me (could this also be a sign something is wrong) I have told him many times that he is lonely and he says he isn't. I even tried to get his parents involved and told them to make him open up about his feelings but they said he is an adult and can live how he pleases and that he talks to them all the time, they even have Sunday dinners together every week. But I say they need to do more, they need to be more involved in his life. Should I get him to see a therapist or just try and make him more talkative myself? Should I go to his work and try and try and get his colleagues to be his friends?

Question: What to do about a mother who blames me for everything?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 10:23 AM PDT

*I'm a 20 year old in college, but I don't make enough money to live on my own* My mom has always blamed me for everything. She blames me when we get into arguments (sometimes I am at fault, but not always), she blames me for us being poor, she blames me for God not blessing us, and she blames me for my dad leaving. She always tells me that she put her life on "hold" for me, however, she had me when she was 42, so she had a chance to live her life. She blames me for her not having a dating life, and she'll sometimes mention how she was going to get an abortion when she was pregnant with me. I'm sick of being blamed for everything, but when I talk to family members, they always tell me, "She's still your mom and she loves you, so respect her." I'm not allowed to talk to anyone about our issues (other than family members) because my mom will either curse out the person I talked to or become very angry with them. I don't know what to do. I can't keep holding all of this inside

Question: Should I make my college aged son pay for his own living expenses?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 08:57 AM PDT

We are already paying for 1/3 of his tuition. The rest are covered by loans and aid. In addition to his tuition, his housing and meal plan adds up to almost 10k per year. Its extremely expensive and almost unaffordable. Should we make him pay it off on his own with an on campus job and school payment plan?

Question: I bought a vibrator off ebay. will my dad see?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 08:53 AM PDT

i bought a vibrator off ebay, how do i know when to get it from the porch? Will my dad know about it? Im 13

Question: Am I just a complete loser?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 08:21 AM PDT

I'll be 26 in december, and have done nothing with my life, besides work a few entry level jobs. The biggest accomplishment I made was keeping a job in landscaping for 4 year, but I didnt progress much, and I just hate landscaping. That business went out of business, and than I went and hopped three full time jobs. I've always had anxiety, but it's been terrible for the last 4 years. I quite all those full time jobs, because I had mental breakdowns. I moved in with my mom mostly because i didnt get along with my brothers gf (my brother, and I own a mobile home we bought with an inheritance). It needed a bunch of repairs, and my brother didnt care to attend to them, and we got in a fight so I moved out. My mom also drinks alot, and she was having these drunkin episodes, so that's another reason I moved up here, so shes not alone. So yeah, I've never tried perusing a career. I just dont know exactly what I want to do. I'm working part time which is tolerable. I dont find myself nearly as stressed as I did at the other jobs. I plan on working full time again, but I'm afraid I'd freak out and quit again. I've been at my current job for 4 months, which I think is good progress, and hopefully I will stay at least a year. Anyway, I just feel like a complete loser. A lot of my friends joined the army, and are making a great living, and I'm just in my home town living in my mommies house. I just dont feel like I'm meant to be an adult. I'm like a child in a grown mans body.

Question: I am 18 years old in foster care and I want to go live with my dad. But my mom doesn't want me to because she hates him. What should I do?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 07:42 AM PDT

I am 18 years old and in foster care. I was planning on moving in with my dad and stepmom and half siblings in Guatemala. I want to get to know my family because I have never met them, I want to meet my brothers who live there and my dad wants me to live a normal life with him. He has a job he wants me to work at and wants me to go to study there to, all while being with my family again and doing what he can for me to live a happy life. However I told my mom about this and she was like she did not want me to go live with them, because she divorced him when I was little, and she dislikes him and doesn't want to have anything to do with him and says that he is crazy. She even messaged him and said " the blood of Jesus against you" "The blood of Jesus kill you" and may Jesus kill you". And she tells me to stay in foster care and to not go because I have no opportunities in Guatemala. (Which I know is not true because my dad has plans for me to work at a call center where they need people who speak English, and my dad lives a pretty good life). This is a very dificult decision to make! I love both of my parents and I know that neither of them are bad people. But who should I listen to? My mom or my dad? What does God want me to do? Who should I listen to? Mom or dad?

Question: How would you feel if your child never got married or had kids, but was happy?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 07:06 AM PDT

Question: My uncle’s secret lover friended me on Facebook what do I do? How do I know if she wants to be my lover?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 06:53 AM PDT

She really likes men in a bad way.

Question: My mom says my dad chooses alcohol over his children and because of this does not love us. Is this true with an alcoholic?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 06:49 AM PDT

It really hurts me when my mom says this and she's really angry at my dad as he picked alcohol over her when she gave him an ultimatum and therefore she divorced him. We have not seen my dad in over a year as my mom says we're not allowed to because of his drinking. I am 16 and cry every day about this.

Question: My [21M] Dad [54M] wants to come to therapy with me, and I don't want him to. How can I convince him I don't need him there?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 06:06 AM PDT

I just opened up to my parents about my Social Anxiety problem. I told them I would like to start therapy. My father insisted he would like to come to therapy with me. I am highly dreading that. I can't fully be open and honest with my therapist if he's there. My dad is going to make me uncomfortable. There are some things that I don't want him to listen to. My father is a very toxic person. I told him about my anxiety, and he wants to come to therapy with me to get a better understanding of my problem. I told him what my problem is and I explained it to him, and I would like to start therapy to treat it. My dad needs to butt out. I would like for therapy to be one on one in confidentiality. I am 21 years old. I am not a child. The therapy is for me, and me only. And I feel like my father contributes to my problems which is another reason why I don't want him there. How can I convince my Dad, I don't need him to come to therapy with me?

Question: When my aunt bad mouths family to me how do I politely pivot the conversation?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 05:41 AM PDT

She hates her mother who is my grandparent and her sister (an aunt I don't see much of). It is sheer consuming hate she has. Yet this aunt used to be very close and the sister she hates, the other aunt, is not that close. It is all she talks about NON-STOP, she even tells people we normally don't give any family details to.

Question: Does this make her a bystander?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 05:19 AM PDT

My dad abuses me verbally and physically because im not the way he wants me to be as a person. My grandmom lives with us but doesn't stop him at all. I asked her why and she says it's because I'm not the way my dad wants me to me. If i want to be treated better then i must change and be the way he wants me to. He is my father I'm living in his house.... It is his right to treat me the way he wants to.

Question: Is it wrong to say what i did given the circumstances?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 04:52 AM PDT

My dad is verbally and physically abusive. He curses me all the time and even hits me. His relatives... My uncle,aunt, grandparents agree with him and support him. They think i deserve to be ill-treated because i fail to be ideal in my dad's eyes. I get average marks in school and I'm not ranker so they think of like that. My dad says all kinds of hurtful bad words. He says stuff like you are a bastard and mom mustve ****** someone else. My relatives agree with my dads behaviour and so do my grandparents. So today when he abused me i cursed him back. He does talk vulgar about my mom always so i did about his. My grandmother has vaginal cancer and she is getting treated for it. So i told him that the way my dad and uncle are......i wasn't surprised that their mother has vaginal cancer. I had to retaliate because they are mentally harassing me like hell. I can't ignore it anymore.

Question: Why do my mom and sister constantly disagree on what my sister should wear in public and whether skin should be hidden?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 04:21 AM PDT

I'm a dude so i don't get why they need to freak out to each other

Question: Why did my mom come shirtless at 2am?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 02:10 AM PDT

Question: I want get married with my lover, but my father don’t let me ... What do you think I should do??

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 02:02 AM PDT

I'm so sad and angry about my father...

Question: Do you think there's something wrong with me?

Posted: 28 Jul 2019 01:14 AM PDT

i'm an 18 year old girl. i wear t.shirts, sweatshirts, baggy pants and etnies shoes. i have short blond hair and never wear make up. i go skate and play soccer. i read manga and fantasy novels, watch horror and splatter movies, listen to metal and play bass in a band. i like RPGs and violent videogames. i have tons of friends, both male and female. i'm a lesbian and my female friend with benefits is my best friend, we have known each other for about a year before having sex. i burp, fart, spit and cuss. i adore studying math, next year i want to enroll in physics at college and then become a researcher.

Question: Im the only boy in my family and the youngest and my family loves to tickle me. Good or bad?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 11:32 PM PDT

Im the baby of the family with three older sisters. They are all way older then me. My mom wants us all to play together. My family loves tickling because my mom says it is a good way for us all to bond. Usually every night we have family time where we all play together. My biggest sister is the one who would play with me the most. She would always get me in her lap. then she would say TICKLE TICKLE TICKLE. Then her my mom and my other two sisters would tickle me and keep saying how cute I am. my mom tells me to be a good sport. Its so much fun but i feel embarrassed sometimes not sure why

Question: How to tell my parents im into cglre?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 10:35 PM PDT

I'm 14, so I still live with my family (oldest kid is 16). My little side heavily influences my big side, and I'm REALLY sensitive, but they don't know that so they expect me to act my age. They yell too much (for a little) and get mad when I cry all the time, so I think telling them would help. They're decently supportive, but don't really like the fact that I'm also panromantic asexual, so I'm scared they won't accept me. I don't want anyone saying it's best not to tell them, because I will end up really depressed at best, or doing something I really regret at worst if I don't.

Question: Why do some people don't want to change?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 09:58 PM PDT

My two aunts are almost 60, and they always fight and insult each other nearly every day. I stayed at their house for one summer, and my older aunt hit me multiple times, while my younger aunt never did anything. When I told younger aunt what happened my younger aunt said I made problems on purpose and that I deserve the older aunt hitting me. Also, when I and mom try to advise them about something they just insult me and my mom and say that we are bad people and they never hurt anyone. They never apologize and they deny every bad thing or word they say, and nobody visits them anymore. Why don't they admit they did some things wrong and they change?

Question: I think my family is starting to talk about me behind my back and are liking me less and less. What do I do?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 09:48 PM PDT

Question: My mom want me to marry next year?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 09:34 PM PDT

Since I was teenager my mom yell at me to stay thin and that no man like fat woman. I'm 20 and she started to teach me how to clean and cook, she is talking about marrying me off next year. I feel this is too fast

Question: Is is normal for my 13 year old daughter to cry and through a tantrum when she suspects that my husband and I are having sex?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 09:16 PM PDT

A few days ago, we were at a family vacation, and my husband and I had been drinking almost all day. We were sharing a hotel room with our teen daughters, so we had not had sex the entire time. Nonetheless, my daughter decided to begin to cry in the middle of the night and freaked out because she said that we're always horny and we always want to have sex. We don't announce that we're horny, but we do hug and kiss each other around the girls. I always thought that showing affection towards each other would be a positive model for the girls. However, my 13 year old cried and said it's gross and disgusting and that we shouldn't hug or kiss in front of her. She cried the entire time, while screaming that she can hear us having sex from her room at home. I try to quiet when we're having sex & lock the doors, and her room is on the other side of the house. I believe that she stands outside the door listening when the door is locked then most of the time purposely interrupts because she wants us to stop. I feel that the entire conversation was inappropriate and that she crossed major boundaries. We spoke to her that night, but we were tipsy so I feel that this topic needs to be discussed with a clear mind and when she's calm. I don't feel like I need to explain my sex life with my daughter but she feels the need to manipulate and control everything. What do you think is the best way to approach this!?

Question: I think my family is starting to talk about me behind my back and are liking me less and less. What do I do?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 08:44 PM PDT

I m 20 and I don t have a job yet, but I m in college. My mom is beginning to have menopause, and dad has bipolar disorder. I m trying to not cause any drama, but I personally believe they dont want me in their house (understandably). My brother recently left to be with a trans girl after stay in in their home for a few years. He wouldn t do anything but play 2nd life (they were always mad at them, and they were especially mad when he left). They would talk behind his back, saying how he would just sit around and do nothing.

Question: My sister got into a car crash yesterday?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 08:09 PM PDT

My older cousin took her and her friends to the movies but to his dismay a old man who was snoozing off in his car collided with theirs 1 girl wasn't strapped in and had her head hit by a large debris and had her left skull broken my cousin hurt his chest but my sister is just going to college and saw the blood from the other girl she screams her name at night or even in the morning she even refuses to walk and the doctors said there's nothing wrong with her I am so confused and don't know what to do hope you can help

Question: How does a teen girl growing up without her mom affect her?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 07:20 PM PDT

I'm 15, and lost my mom when I was 13. I'm not very close with my dad so I don't have anyone to really parent me. Will this affect me later on? I already try to get emotional connections with my friends' moms but I still am missing my mom. Will this go away? What other things could/will happen because I don't have a mom?

Question: I have done all of the talking, listening, and understanding that I am going to do with everyone. People are so selfish and unreasonable.?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 07:14 PM PDT

Any suggestions?

Question: I am 18 years old in foster care. I want to go live with my dad but my mom doesn't want me to cause she doesn't like him, what should I do?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 06:33 PM PDT

I am 18 years old and in foster care. I was planning on moving in with my dad and stepmom and half siblings in Guatemala. I want to get to know my family because I have never met them, I want to meet my brothers who live there and my dad wants me to live a normal life with him. He has a job he wants me to work at and wants me to go to study there to, all while being with my family again and doing what he can for me to live a happy life. However I told my mom about this and she was like she did not want me to go live with them, because she divorced him when I was little, and she dislikes him and doesn't want to have anything to do with him and says that he is crazy. She even messaged him and said " the blood of Jesus against you" "The blood of Jesus kill you" and may Jesus kill you". And she tells me to stay in foster care and to not go because I have no opportunities in Guatemala. (Which I know is not true because my dad has plans for me to work at a call center where they need people who speak English, and my dad lives a pretty good life). This is a very dificult decision to make! I love both of my parents and I know that neither of them are bad people. But who should I listen to? My mom or my dad? What does God want me to do? Who should I listen to? Mom or dad?

Question: I am a white Caucasian male and love to observe Mexican people and other races am I normal?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 05:35 PM PDT

I am a white Caucasian male 31 years old, American. I love to watch Mexican people, and other races and observe them. I peep inside of their window and watch them and they are very interesting. If they live next door to me I say 'great j have a hobby to myself. No I am not trolling I do greatly and deeply observe them and enjoy it. Mexican people and other races are very dumb and uncalculated and unaware so observing them is quite easy. They are a sitting duck. Inside some vitmanese room I peeped inside their back window and they had a lot of plants and a statue of Buddha. Inside Mexican peoples room it is just like an Americans. Mexican people house are usually a showroom, they have their whole family living there in that small house. Inside Asian peoples room it is nicely designed because they have great arts and know how to fix up a room. Asian people have good arts and crafts skills. I cannot and will not peep In my own race window because they are knowledgeable of such things, neither black Americans. Black people from Africa's house looks pretty spooky. Like Asian peoples house it has incense however.

Question: Unfair or I’m being non understanding?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 04:31 PM PDT

So i wanted to go get my nose pierced but my mom told me no, mind you she was about to let me get a tongue ring and I have multiple tattoos including a large dragon on my back. So I said why not, it's my body anyway? And she goes on to say oh bout how this not her house and I kept telling her how I'm 19 and this my body if I wanted to be a prostitute then ima be one and if I wanna shoot myself in the leg then ima do it....I have a 21 year old brother who lives with us and she let him do whatever..he went to some hotel with his girl 2 hours away from her and my dad even lent him the car. When I asked about going to a festival in the same area with my bf she said no.....

Question: My dad calls me lazy and unproductive? Why?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 02:26 PM PDT

So I'm 21 years old. I just moved home from college and I'm on my internship (I'm getting paid). When I'm off I sometimes relax but I still do stuff around the house. I'm a graphic designer with some artistic ability. I've competed in art contest before. I've won 11 blue ribbons, 2 red ribbons, and 2 white ribbons total. I was also one of two artists in my design class (not to brag but I honestly do take pride in it and I practice it often and I needed to give background info for this). But recently whenever my dad has saw me drawing in the afternoon on my days off he would always try to pull me outside to do yard work for discipline. I know it's for discipline because it's ONLY when I'm drawing. He said it's unproductive and that I should do something and not be lazy. He said I can draw late at night and put the pencil down for once. Not gonna lie, I snapped on him because I took him saying art is unproductive as an insult. It made me so angry to point where I couldn't be around him to go outside and help him. Now my whole family is upset with me because apparently I disrespected my dad. But yet since I'm the only artist in the family I feel like no one understands my perspective and neither of my parents will listen to me or discuss it. It's like it's their way or the highway.

Question: How should I tell my 12 year old daughter that I want her to stop talking to a girl from a low income area/school?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 02:19 PM PDT

I feel like this girl's mom tries to use me for free meals. These people talk in a manner that I disapprove of (constant swearing and fighting). It is not a good environment for my own kids! Besides my daughter, me and my husband are also raising her 2 younger brothers. Maybe the girls can interact online or on phone calls (since they don't go to school together) but realistically, I don't want this girl in my home. I frankly don't want to raise someone else's kid. Also, if the girl comes over, the mom will try to send her 5 other siblings over here too. I cannot handle them.

Question: Will my doctor judge me if he saw hickeys on me?

Posted: 27 Jul 2019 02:13 PM PDT

I had a lipoma removal from my back 2 weeks ago. It was a very simple surgery, the incision is probably 2 inches long. The thing is it's still bleeding like it was the next day. When he called me a few days for a follow up I told him about the bleeding and he said I can come to his office so he can take a look at it. I made an appt for this week but I'm nervous going because I have lots of hickeys and finger nail scratch marks on my back. I'm embarrassed to go back because before my surgery I had some and nurse asked me what those marks and I told her they are marks made by my husband. When the doctor came to my room to talk to me before they wheeled me in she showed him the marks on my back (she told him these are the marks I told you about) he looked embarrassed but didn't say anything. Maybe me being a Muslim lady like him he thought bad of me. He didn't even make eye contact with me and appears uncomfortable. Should I go keep my appointment? If I go see him I won't be able to cover the marks because they are inches away from the incision.