My wife and I are currently going through a divorce (5 years) it was a mutual decision and we both wanted to basically split everything evenly from saving to furniture and any debt we owed would be paid in full using that money prior to split. She is requesting alimony, this is of course upsetting, but what makes it worse is she's seeking alimony based on overtime total She makes 16/hr with OT on weekdays and weekends on occasion (I'd say about 20+) a month. I make 23/hr with OT on weekends, full 8 hour shifts. This OT isn't always mandatory, but it's available most weekends. I have worked OT nearly every weekend to hell us save for a kid in the next year or two, but now I want to use my free time to go back to school. Can a WA state judge award this type of payment based on OT worked in previous years since I technically make more? But she actually pays less than I do since she has family to help her and I do not. Do they not take her debt to income into consideration over mine? She lives with family for free and pays no utilities saving well over $1,000 a month. How can I fight this or .take the judge see that I am the only one losing here and that this is all after I have cut so much from my budget just to put anything away. Can they seriously force me to work OT just to help her pay Bill's she can easily af

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according to my husband she was not a good mom, she cheated multiple times on his father (even with a family friend) and always left the kids behind...when his dad finallky divorced her...she went on to marry 2 more times and left the children..(one of the men beat her kids for 10 years and did nothing (because she didn't want to give up her expensive lifestyle) years later shes bancrupt...living in a rental with her third husband who is 10 years younger and doesn't work she was forced to move her husband and herself to her other daughters house....my husband and all the kids feel sorry for her (although she doesn't care about them in unless she needs money) why does my husband not see how toxic this is? I refuse to talk to her because she insulted me once because i told her i wanted boundries she replied with "what my kids own is mine too" and I said not my house it isn't! my question is why do the kids continue to try to save her and not see the toxic behavior?

While we were still dating up until we got engaged, my then boyfriend/ fiance now soon to be ex, gave me gifts (money, jewelry, clothing, things like that) Now that were divorcing one another, he's saying all the stuff he gave me weren't in fact gifts. The items in question ranged from when we were dating up until we were engaged. I understand anything after we married is marital property, and anything before we met is our own separate belongings.

I'm 21 and getting married in a little under a year to the absolute love of my life. However we clash a lot over the fact that I like to drink and have fun on my days off. He wants me To tone it down but the thing is.. how can I tone it down when my Natural personality is fun and loud? Like I just love to drink and be around friends that to me is living life. I don't even know any other way to live. My husband-to-be claims I drink to much but I really don't. He also thinks that because I'm loud sometimes that I'm "attention seeking" which no. I'm friendly. I don't know I love him and want to tone it down for him but a life without partying to me is like a dog sitting in a cage on a beautiful Day. That's deadass how I feel. How can I switch things up and still have fun?

I've been renting a storage unit out for the past seven years; five of which, I've been married to my husband (that i'm currently separated from.) Right now, we're going through a divorce, and my ex is insistent that he has legal right to the contents of my storage unit. He's never financially contributed to paying for the unit and has no belongings that he's put into the unit. I know CA law says that anything purchased/ bought prior to a marriage is not considered marital property; however it's the contents of the storage unit that worry me. For the last five years, I've filled my storage unit with stuff given to me by his family, and by my husband (family heirlooms, birthday, holiday, anniversary gifts, etc.) I'm worried my ex and his lawyers will say i'm (a) trying to hiding assets or (b) try and take what was given to me. Any Advice?

I want to marry this man, but I'm worried that it will be the wrong choice or a mistake. Once if there is someone else out there that is better for me? I don't want to ever get a divorce. This could also be the person I should marry. I hate the there are only 2 choices: marry him or break up. It's scary. Advice?

I have a son with joint custody 50/50 rights and decision making. The mother of my son in my opinion doesn't make the brightest decisions when he's in her custody. Recently she started dating a married man with 3 other children. It's not that I care she's dating anyone i just don't feel it's morally right that she's dating a married man and has my son around the potential drama that a situation like that could bring. Do I have any kind of legal foot to stand on to prevent her putting him in a situation like that?

But they want sex outside of their relationship, do you think they are truly content? I met someone who wants sex but says he is happy with his wife and doesnt want it to end. I cant understand how this can be.

I know a lot of women who are married to men who don't exercise, drink constantly, eat junk food, are overweight, never manage their appearance and personal hygiene, don't brush their teeth, don't wear deodorant, don't do skincare, and just are lazy and couch potatoes. What kind of a partner is that?

since I will probably be a terrible parent and husband. Not just my wife says I am crazy, but my few friends left all say Im crazy. people at work say Im crazy and no one tells me what I do thats crazy. and i feel like if i am so messed up i shouldnt be around people. all my relationships are toxic and i dont know why but all i can do is stay away from all people, and i think id do my daughter a huge favor if i left her life now. but i dont want to, but i think i should

Okay, so you and your husband have been going out for 10 plus years, married for 5 years. You have two wonderful kids. But your husband doesn't help you, even after you have had many fights about things going on in the house. Next your husband goes to your boss's house and won't tell you why he went to your boss's house alone. You think the reason he went to his house was because he thinks you and your boss are a thing, but he doesn't tell you why he went. What would you do? Divorce him? Take a break? Go to counseling?

In our custody papers, it was agreed that he would be responsible for proving insurance for our child through his employer. He decided to recently become self employed and he doesn't have insurance, so he had his wife put our child on her insurance? It does not say in our papers there is an exception for spouses, that he is the responsibility party. Is that still considered going against what is in our papers?

And how did it come about in the USA? Did all the "white collar" (educated) just stop having babies in the USA? Seriously do mostly waitresses, hotel maids, and barmaids get pregnant now? When I was younger my former spouse and I never heard the end of "when are you two having a baby?" We got that "deer in the headlights" look when we said that we have both had surgery to negate that. Some of our neighbors thought we were court ordered. Others said, "You better get started because her clock is ticking". How apropriate it is to say that to a woman who just turned 38. I actually had a co-worker who thought we were breaking some law. I guess the idea of "Wanting sex but not babies" was alien to them. After her mother split us (she hated me because I did not force her daughter to become a mother), I sold my house, and took a job in Asia. I met my second wife there. In more technological countries like Singapore and Japan, only about half of married couples have children. We were pretty much the norm there, but very much the exception back in the USA. We returned to the USA only last year. We rented a middle class condo. There are about 100 units here, and maybe only about 10 have families with children. Wow, that was a big change in only just over ten years. No we do not live in a gay community. Just about everyone here is obviously straight, but I think a lot are co-habituating (not married). Do not get me wrong. I like being able to go to a supermarket, and not get plowed down by children running with shopping carts. Well, I still see that at Wal-Mart, but certainly not at Ralph's, or Safeway. Do not make claims like "It was always OK". Yes legally it was. In the USA socially it was NOT OK at all. I know because I was there. I was labeled, in the office, for being the only person who did not have pictures of children handing in my cube or on my screen saver. And no we a do not identify with "chldfree". We are just a couple who said, "We rather pass on that, have money in the bank, and stamps in our passports". I just think it is strange that we are no longer the minority. We are older than most of the couples without children. In our complex, most couples are 30-40, and have no children. Americans were sometimes very hostile tward us They called us "libtards". I thought that was a bit funny, because my wife and I were, and still are not interested in politics. Most Buddhist are apolitical. I am also a veteran of the USA. You might call me a right leaning independent.

My husband accepted a job in Myrtle Beach SC. in 2016. We purchased a home two years ago. We both knew if his job were to end we'd be in big trouble as there aren't many high paying jobs in the area. Unfortunately, he was laid off. The company actually went bankrupt. I work but I'm only making 32000 per year. My husband is trying desperately to find work in his field but there is so little non seasonal jobs it's been next to impossible. He's currently working in retail for the summer. He's been getting interviews in the Greenville/Spartanburg area but they are not paying for him to come up for interviews. It's starting to make a dent out pocket with gas, hotel, food etc. When we purchased the house we paid cash so we do not have any type of mortgage so it's been easier on us. If we had rent we couldn't do it. My husband is becoming very fed up wants to sell the house and just move us both somewhere new where there are more jobs. I'm slightly uncomfortable with that idea however I realize we can't keep living on our current income. Eventually we will run out of savings. Is moving without either of us having a job a bad idea? Thoughts??

My husband and I have been together for 4 years... he has recently gotten into doing Uber for extra money. He usually goes out at 7pm and come home around 3 am. Everything has been fine until now... He came home at 3 am (I found another women's hair on his head, but i brushed that off) and asked me to make him something to eat because he was hungry. When I came back into the room with his meal, I saw his phone ringing and it was a women named "Sarah" she tried to call 4 times in the last 20 minutes. I called her on my husbands phone and asked her what was going on between her and my husband, she hung up! I checked my husbands uber driver app and the last ride he received was at 11:30..., but he came home at 3!! How do I ask him to stop doing Uber because he is not being truthful? I love this man so much, but the lies are getting ridiculous!

We fight a lot and it is a borderline toxic relationship at this point. oh, by the way in case this confused you, i mean, should I move out of the house, to get an apartment, for a 6 month lease or something like that, just while we cool off and see how things go.

I'm 20 years old and have been cheating on a family friends husband. I've known them since I was 11 and I've seen them become a family and have a child together. Though her husband who's 45 and I have been having a very romantic relationship. I went over to there house the other day and her and their son came home and caught us in bed together. She was in shock and screaming, I got scared and immediately left the house. I feel so horrible for all of this and know I need to apologize to her. I'm just not sure how to cause I know she probably never wants to see my face ever again. Any tips thanks

I've been with my "wife" (we arent realy married we just moved in together) for about 5 years, i have a 2 year old with her , she got an iv or whatever you call it in her so she couldnt get pregnant , and that thing didnt even work , and now shes pregnant , i didnt want another child because she has a very bad temper that drives me crazy , makes me just want to grab my things and leave , i want to leave her , but i feel stuck , like if im chained up to her and cant leave because i would have double child support and wouldnt be able to survive with it , and then also i wouldnt be able to start a newife with another woman :-( i feel like a prisoner in this house thats not even mine..any advice on what i can do?