She's really mean to everyone. The things she says and does to everyone is just mean. She eats all the food from everyone and then we're all left hungry at the end of the month because of her. If you say anything to her about anything she does she gets really mad and violent. She just doesn't care about anyone but herself. She's selfish. I'm tired of her. She just won't stop. I hate her. I hope she moves out soon. We're better off. She's 24, black, and schizophrenic.

My parents do this ALL THE TIME. My Dad is worse about it now and my Mom when I was younger. I have an aunt on my mother's side that stirs up trouble and seeks to cause fights.

He forks out money to look good but has no love.

Let's say a person has a cousin (who's NOT immediately family) that she didn't grow up with, therefore missing all of the cousin's birthday parties. This cousin uses words like "f@ggot" and "retard" to describe gays and people with autism. But all this person can think to yourself is, "My cousin shouldn't use words like that, but OMG, she's such a great person. I love my cousin!" In addition, she always spends hundreds of dollars on her cousin (birthdays, funerals, etc.). Meanwhile, a VERY close friend of hers also uses those same two hurtful words, to which she hypocritically thinks to yourself, "The nerve of her!" with nothing positive to say about the friend elsewise. In addition, she never feels thrilled when the friend invites her places. It's always "I guess I'll go," as opposed to how excited she is when it's a gathering for her cousin. I understand that mothers tend to play that same "double standard" rule, particularly if their son is a murderer who was incarcerated. Naturally, a mother would say "My baby can do no wrong" while forever holding a cold-blooded killer [not related to her] in the lowest regard. When it comes to family, it's natural to always come to their defense... but only if they're IMMEDIATE family. Is it ridiculous to defend a morally corrupt relative you barely know, just because you feel proud to be part of the same bloodline?

So when i was younger i used to live in mexico. we have a house and half of my family live there. My dad has decided to get married by the church in september in mexico. I really want to go to be able to support him and see all my old friends and family in person again. My dad is on board but my mom isn't. I understand that since i'm still younge she thinks i'm going to make bad disiciens and that she wants me to be safe. I've been trying to convince her of letting me see mexico again for years now but have failed several times. My dad is fine with it and my other sister (22) is going as well. she says that i can go when i'm 18 but by then my dad and his wife will be living here in the US. i also know that my school starts in sept. and that she might also not let me go because i would miss school but i would only miss a day or a week of school. i've been to scared to ask my sisters to help because they might tell my mom i want to go and she would shut me down right away. so i've turned to the internet. Please give me ideas that will help my case so that i can be surrounded by my culture again.

My mother in law is annoyingly controlling. She's a nice woman, but she wants to be in control of everything and make everything about her. Birthdays, holidays, cookouts, pool parties, and any other occasion HAS to be spent with her. She has family in other states in countries so she demands that my boyfriend and his siblings be with her on all of those special occasions. It worries me that one day we won't have traditions of our own, and teaching him that I am his family now is something that can be tough on our relationship. How do I deal with this without being confrontational towards his mother?

EVER since my family got a dog, my mom's been acting worse and now she only cares about my older brother and our dog and could care less about me and my other siblings. She's been spoiling our dog so much and makes us do stuff for her and let's my brother do whatever he pleases. We have NO SAY WHATSOEVER and if she insults us, we can't insult her back or we'll be punished. WE CANT EVEN HANG OUT WITH ANYONE WITHOUT HER HAVING TO ASK ABOUT THEM. She needs to know every minute detail about who they are. SHE DOESNT EVEN LET US GO WITH ONE OTHER PERSON OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER. Like who even is she? WE'RE ALL ADULTS. WE'RE NOT KIDS ANYMORE AND ITS TIME YOU STARTED TREATING US BETTER. Everything HAS to go her way apparently and if anyone ever so much as disagrees with her with the tiniest things she blows up with frustration. She doesn't even encourage or support us with anything!!! She only insults and discourages. What kind of mother is that? She only feels like a stranger to me giving orders. NORMAL PEOPLE DONT LIVE THIS WAY. They're supposed to be close with their parents but for me it's like torture every single day and there's no way of getting out of it. I would ask my dad about this but he's always out working and it's not like I can get a therapist or anything. What should I do?

Errrr how can I begin this.............. MY FATHER IS LIKE A DAMN BURPING MACHINE ALWAYS MAKING LOUD SOUNDS WHEN HE IS BURPING,It's uncountable how many times did he burp in a day and yes I have anger issues about that kind of thing, I tell him to close his mouth at least when he is burping but he comes to me saying "I do whatever I want you idiot". No he doesn't burp like 100 times a day, he burps about 3 times about 6 minutes No he doesn't burp 3 times every 6 minutes It's just a habit he sometimes does it and sometimes not

I need honest suggestions without getting mean and rude. I m not happily married but still living with my husband for the sake of kids. We are married for the past 13 years and my husband has always always cheated on me with different women. I caught him many times ,forgave him many times and gave chances but everytime he took it for granted. My heart is badly broken. We have no sexual life, no romance , no intimacy. I feel so lonely.Now I m with a guy who s 12 years younger than me , he says he loves me . He talks with me and treats me nicely,I also like his company and attention because those things are highly missing in my life . I try to b best mother for my kids but I just can t get over being lonely. I have never cheated on my husband before. This guy also came in my life coincidently. He s my husband s distant relative but I don t know why I felt like trusting him and getting closer to him. We have never been physical in our few short meetings but now he wants something more.. is this wrong to do ?is it wrong to b with a younger boy ? I know cheating is wrong but this is what my husband has done it since day one and pushed me away from him. Please don t judge me I m really worried and need an honest opinion.

I am 27 and my little brother is 10. I am married and live seperately, so my little brother feels more like my Nephew. My parents raised me well, but they are spooling my little brother. I don t like being around him because he is whiney and disobedient. My Dad and I usually take a fishing trip. This year my dad asked if he could stay in my camping trailer with me on the trip. If he brings my little brother along, am I okay to correct him with things like "no boots in here. youre getting mud everywhere." what about " you need to stop your whining so we can all relax. thats enough." If not, its crossing my mind to let my dad know that if we wants to bring a kid along, he needs to be mature enough. Perhaps even letting him know that my spouse and I like a peaceful trip and the last one he attended was chaotic. (constant complaining and catering to this brat. My dad saying Lucas. .Lucas stop. Lucas enoigh. Lucas. every minute)

This woman is part of a rare species. She didn't get fat and/or ugly.

So my girlfriend lives about 20 minutes away from me, and we go to completely different schools, and she is about to go into the 9th grade and I am about to go into the 12th. My girlfriend is 15 and I am 16. My girlfriend really wants me to go to her school since it's my last year in high school and I want to go also, but I've tried asking my mom and begging so many times but she won't let me because of the fact that we live 20 minutes away from each other. I want to try to convince my mom to let me go for just one semester at least, and then switch back to my home school for the second semester and just graduate from there. I've tried telling her so many times that I don't really have friends at my home school... so I mean it doesn't hurt to try and switch to my girlfriends school for one semester... my mother also doesn't want me going because of how early she leaves for work, she leaves around 8:30 to go to work and wakes up at 7 to get ready.. my grandmother cannot take me because she says she has to take my brother to school but she takes him around 8 and my grandmother wakes up at around 4:30 to take her husband to work and she doesn't get back from taking him until 5:30 or 6.. how could I rearrange something to make it work... help please?

We will be talking about something completely different but then randomly she will say "When I die" and tells me stuff. I don't know if she just has anxiety about it or was tested for something positive and not telling me. We already had the talk kind of but she is only 50 though our family seems to not live that long. I am a little confused and concerned she told me what she truly wants me to keep like her jewelry for example because I have a older sibling who can be a bit selfish when that time comes if I don't take what she wants me to I can see him make it hard to deal with but I won't want any fighting at all. She also brings up other stuff about it, I plan on taking those things in my room before telling the sibling when the time comes to make it a bit easier as they know not go into my room without my permission I can be mean when it comes to that. But what to do or advice on what to say? I don't say a lot when she brings it up.

I use to be chubby and I had positive attitude to lose weight. I did lose weight because I realize being over weight not good, but I met so many women they so negative about their bodies and go to extreme to lose weight. They say nobody like fat and they look like cow, but when I was chubby I was like ok i can do better for my appearance.

My dad hasn't called in about 2 years now and I'm waiting for him to want to talk to me and want to call me. I miss my dad but I am stubborn. I want my dad to want to be a dad and to want to have a relationship with me. I'm 21 years old now but he's hardly been in my life the way I wanted him to anyway.. and I know he probably expects me to call and talk to him first. Which is frustrating..

I acknowledge that my daughter is almost an adult. She must grow up and make her own decisions. I lay off and don't check her phone as much as I used to. The problem is that even well-raised teens make mistakes online. Their brains aren't fully developed enough to think like adults yet. My childhood friend is a cop - she's seen too many parents suffer financially, mentally and socially because their minor made mistakes online. Now the parents have to pay the price for it because whatever they did must've been illegal. This is my first child so I have no previous experience. I know that harsh parenting is not healthy for her development. I should not treat her like a 13 year old, but I also can't treat her like an adult because she isn't one and doesn't act like one yet.

she's been on this site for so long and puts so much time every day into yahoo and making it a better place, there needs to be more people like her

I am a single mom with 2 kids(elementary aged) and I have lived in the same place my entire life. All of my family is here as well. I have been wanting to move away for a long time now just to know what else is out there in the world. Would it be a good decision to leave or should I just stay where I'm comfortable? And if I make the choice to move, how should I decide where is a good place to raise kids.

If you start a job and the job is pretty simple and easy and fun. But the employees are all rude hostile and callously mean. Employees would just get onto you and begin to harrass you and hr reports causes them to get more stupid. Would you quit?

My adult kids are upset because we inherited our parents money and then sold the family home and moved far away where cost of housing is nothing compared. We looked at moving closer but we refuse to spend x amount on housing, even though we can afford it. My son told me it shows where our priorities are as we put money above our kids (and grandkids) because we choose to live comfortably at the expense of rarely seeing them and facetime isn't a suffice way to be involved in their lives. How can I resolve the conflict?

My mother is a sociopath and has always been incapable of loving my siblings and me, and just was a bad mother. I want a baby, but my husband is worried I'll be like my mother once I have children (right now, I'm nothing like her, I'm much more like my father). I think I'll be okay since I moved in with my grandparents at the age of 12 and they were good parentsm. Also, I'm not even a sociopath, amd I'm getting close to 30, I really want to have a child.

He also is a very ignorant man.

Long story short I don't like my MIL she has no boundaries has upset many of her own family members, has cut her great nieces hair without parents permission, bought tickets except for herself and my son saying she will babysit him that night, tried to dictate where we buy our furniture from for our home - from her card and pay her off for it! And gave her daughter a dirty look when I said no thank you we have it sorted. And so many other things , has to know every single detail and is so jealous of my mums relationship with my son. Now as I dislike her I don't want to see her as often as I would if she was more my type of person. My partner doesn't drive and she lives an hour and half away and expects us to get a train to her. My mum drives me everywhere and she said but that's because she's your mum. You should come to us by train. My own dad wouldn't want me travelling that far either nor anyone in my family. My son isn't the best on public transport. So I put him first. She has now twisted my partners head to say that I moved us far away from them (I didn't we always wanted to move here) and that I don't want my son to know her family. She is insecure so always thinks the worse. Do you think I should get a train for hour and half? Am I being unfair when I don't for my own family until we save for a car we will but until then we get a lift or cabs.

Ok, I need some help! Here's my situation: -My father is often unable to work because he has knee, hip, back, etc. issues. Because of this, he does not generate a high income. -I am a sophomore in high school. I have all honors classes, so I am VERY busy doing homework and studying for tests when I get home. -I have to ride the city bus to school because I do not have a car. -Because I don't have a car, I also have no way to get to work if I get a job. -I'm not old enough for ~most~ jobs and even if I do get a job, it would most likely prevent me from maintaining good grades. -My dad doesn't even want me to get a job. But ALSO: -My family is very big and we don't have money for necessities, let alone luxuries. I don't get birthday presents or any new clothes or shoes. I want to be able to: 1. Eat. 2. Get new clothes/shoes once in awhile. 3. Get my own phone and pay for it myself so as to not hinder my father as much. Hopefully someone can come up with a way for me to do this! Thank you for reading this extremely long question!

I'm sick of my father, he treats me like $hit whenever he wants, but I shouldn't stand up for myself at All. Sometimes he'll mimick the sound of how some mentally challenged people talk, whenever I have a chance to defend myself verbally. He knows for a fact that I don't sound like that when I talk, I think he does it sometimes because that's his escape exit, it's his way of keeping me silent, I think it's his way of breaking my dignity. the vast majority of the time he'll put other women before me, even when their life has no value, whether he knows a woman or not whether she's right or wrong, he'll always take their side. Sometimes he'll scream louder than you you really does, when he's around other women. He's a womanizer just like his father oh, but I chose not to go down that road. He'll tell me sometimes I'm nothing but a pothead yet fifteen years ago, he used to smoke crack and drink alcohol all the ******* time. my father has tried and sometimes successfully manipulated me into doing things I didn't want, and sometimes he'll make me feel bad if I didn't comply with any of his decision-making. I graduated with an IEP diploma in high school, he dropped out of high school. He blames me for having certain elements and deficiencies, yet it was his incest with my mother that brought me and my twin bro into this world. He has scarred me for the rest of my life, and I will never be normal like anybody. He thinks I should live off of SSI and forget about work.

So when i was younger i used to live in mexico. we have a house and half of my cousins live their. My dad has decided to get married by the church in september in mexico. I really want to go to be able to support him and see all my old friends and family in person again. My dad is on board but my mom isn't. I understand that since i look white it might be more dangerous for me and that she wants me to be safe. I've been trying to convince her of letting me see mexico again but have failed several times. My dad is fine with it and my other sister (22) is going as well. she says that i can go when i'm 18 but by then my dad and his wife will be living here in the us. i also know that my school starts in sept. and that she might also not let me go because i would miss school but maybe that could be a way to convince her? i've been to scared to ask my sisters to help so i've turned to the internet. Please give me ideas that will help my case so that i can be surrounded by my culture again.

My dad and I have grown apart a lot lately. My stepmom instigates stuff between me and my family and growing up I just took it. As I have become an adult and I have a child of my own I have become strong minded and no longer just let them push me around. No matter what my dad chooses her side. She could say the sky is green and he would gladly agree knowing she is wrong. They aren't even married but have been together for about 14 years. She even made my parents divorce hell. My dad never takes me or my 2 biological sisters side weather we are in the right or not. Now that I have a child of my own and I am a single mother, I choose my son over everything. He is the most important thing in my life. But my dad takes every chance he can to beat me down and I don't understand how he does it. He chooses the woman he had an affair with over everything. I honestly feel like if I died he wouldn't care at all. Like it wouldn't affect him in the slightest. So I guess my question really is, do I just let it go and let them have their own lives and stop trying to be in my dads life, or how do I try to become an important part of his life again?

Basically, my brother slept with her sister and never called her back. And now she thinks it's my fault. Apparently, I'm responsible for what my idiot brother does. How to solve this?

How do they enforce this

My dad has really bad anger issues. I don't even know if I should call them anger issues anymore because it seems like he's just crazy. My dad has hurt me, my mom, my grandmother, and the rest of my family very much... over the years if my family has argued with him hes the ONLY one who gets physically violent.. he put a gun to my grandmas head, a knife to her throat... he fought my grandmas husband before... I don't know what all this anger is caused by... he says he's a very angry person because of his mom leaving him when he was born and he says it opens a wound in his heart and he holds pain there. But I don't know if that's the reason. Anyways, the other day he kicked my friend out of the house because he thought my friend hit my little brother which he didn't. He also had my mom in a chokehold and said "I'm going to snap your neck b**ch". I honestly don't know why he acts like this ): he says he loves us and all but what could be the cause? ): how can I get him help? He thinks nothings wrong with him...

found some suggestive pictures when i went on her phone. she's fully clothed but the pictures are made to emphasize her ****. should i take it to my parents or deal with her myself? i don't know how to straighten her out.

My life is a mess right now, i have to deal with a toxic parent whom i happen to live with. I went to other family to help and she found out and blamed my unhappiness on me. i'm 16 and they act like im 18. they want me to pay for car insurance when they took my car to use for them selfs. which i'm fine that they took my car but why it it my responsibility to pay for the insurance if i don't drive unless they need me to. and i've talked to my toxic parent about a therapist and she doesn't think it's necessary. but there r some days when i just wanna lay in bed and cry. I can be happy it just only if i distract my self with friends and etc. but she hardly lets me see them because she thinks there all bad influences. I'm kinda stuck here and i know most people are just gonna assume in being over dramatic, but that's definitely not the case, i have family who agrees and says they see it happen but no one will get in the middle to help.

Growing up my mother covered every square inch of family gossip there was from her brother's marital life and sex life to her sister's ex-husband's sex life. She covered every ancestral secret and every opinion about everyone I knew. Her whole family was like this. I know every square inch of everyone's gossip. I rose above that. At age 16 onward I moved past that and got better and better (not perfect). Come adulthood I stopped gossiping about anything regarding anyone in the family. If it was a scandal, I did not discuss it unless with someone confidential like my father if it was affecting me. Now I have a reputation of being a big gossip. My mother is CONSTANTLY obsessed over whether I am sharing things on Facebook that I should not be (she does not use it). Yet I have never done that other then 2 times sharing news of a family member's ailment too soon and the other time a family member's death. Yet I have this reputation. My mother still gossips (though not nearly as bad). What I do do is give too much info. For example if an aunt who my parents dislike asks me something about their summer travel plans or Christmas plans then I answer honestly instead of being deceptive. This is deemed gossip. If I am asked where my brother lives these days and I answer then this is deemed gossip. All because of family bias' and dysfunction. So I become the gossip due to my parents toxic and creepy behavior and an aunt in my mother's family being a narcissist. How do I respectfully point this out to them? How do I point out I am not a gossip, simply honest unless it is malicious and then I keep my mouth sealed?

I should love my Dad, yet I hate him.

I am the youngest child of 5 kids. I am the only one to graduate from college, and have a very small business. It seems as if my dad is after me. When I visit him he just stares at me(I find it gross). He got mad when I told him I was engaged. He asked me why don't I just live with him at home? When he sees me hang out with friends he wants to tag along on everything which is not fair those are my friends not his. He asked me to buy his house and I said no. He asked me to help him start a business I also said no. He follows me to work sometimes and I was creeped out. How can I resolve this? What is his problem?