My husband is 42 and I'm 48. To cut to the chase he's been having an affair with a family friend who's just 17(hence age of consent in our state is 16). I found out now that's she's three months pregnant by him. Obviously I was devastated since we have a four year old son together. Thou my husband seemed truly sorry and the girl and her parents have been trying to cooperate with us. Deep down I think my husband really just made a mistake

house is paid off, he had another loan though.. not paid off. my name is not on the loan. theres no will that I know of. I agreed to sign off on the house in our divorce but never received the paperwork. weren't even divorced for 2 years. Can I claim the home? estate? What can I do?

My back be hurting a lot, MY pelvic area hurts during sex, I have to pee every 5 minutes. My ankles are swollen. I have been tested for diabetes and that came out negative. Bladder infections have also came out negative. I've been to the hospital four times. Now I'm trying to go to a urologist and my boyfriend said if the hospital can't figure out what's wrong then the urologist won't be able to figure out what's wrong either. He said if 4 different people have told me there's nothing wrong then i'm clearly making everything up. my boyfriend said I must have major OCD and he said I'm probably forcing myself to pee. I told him " Are you insane, why would I want to be in pain" He said " You are not smarter than the machines the hospitals use. It's like you want something to be wrong with you. just accept that nothing is wrong. this is affecting my life to the point where I can hardly work because I have to get up out of my chair every 5 minutes. I can't drive long distances because I'll have to pee. so much more. stretching my back even pains me

so my best friend has been dating this guy for about 5/6 months now. No one in out friend group has met him (which is very weird for us) and it seems they fight every other day. long story short. she found out he was married, he claims hes getting a divorce and only lied to be given a real chance at dating her. he says hes going to handle everying and they will still be able to move in together by sept. or so. there's a whole lot more BS that goes into it but no matter what lies come to surface to BS he pulls shes blinded by it all. At first i thought it was her being stupid for love but i now i feel that he is also emotionally/mentally manipulative. Do i try to reach her one last time by laying it all on the table and trying to get her to see the truth from a 3rd party perspective? or let it go and let this (avoidable) lesson run it's course? In which case i don't see our friendship coming out whole

Really need serious advise: My husband and I have been married for 42 yrs. His family never accepted me into their family because there was a cultural nationality and monetary difference. His only sibling, a sister and I have not spoken for more than 10 yrs. She is now under the care of Hospice and pending death due to cancer over the next several days. My husband would like to go and see her before she passes. He wants me to extend an "olive branch" so to speak. I first feel uncomfortable, but have no problem doing so because it will put him at peace. The last time his sister and I spoke, he last words to me were: "We have nothing in common and you do not belong in this family". WHAT DO I SAY WHEN I SEE HER? I am pretty sure I am the last person she will want to see on her death bed, but this is more for my husband and for myself. Please, I appreciate any advise pro or con.

My fiancé accepted a teaching job 6 hours from where we currently live. He accepted the job in May and he has until August when school starts to move to the area. I've been looking for work as well and found a great job that I'm actually enjoying. Unfortunately, I had to move 2 weeks ago and he is in the process of selling his house so we decided to do long distance and that I would move in July and he would come in August. He called me out of the blue today and told me he's changed his mind and does not want to move school districts and is taking his house off the market and wants to stay where he is. I don't know what to do!!! I quit my good paying job to move here, I've now got a decent job though I did take a slight pay cut. I'm 6 hours from any family or friends, I don't know anyone here, and I've got a year apartment lease with both of our names on it! I feel like I'm completely screwed! I'm thinking of ending things with my fiancé. He told me if I choose to stay out here that's my choice but he will end things with me. He said he will pay for me to break the lease entirely if I come back. The problem is if I move back I'm now unemployed and I spent A LOT of money to relocate here. ANY ADVICE

My wife doesn't like when I touch her or sharing a bed, she'll only let me talk to and look at her. How do I change this?

Seriously, I can't be one of the only people who had this surprise happen to them all thanks to lazy or fearful In-laws... In my case, we were too young to know she had any issues. I mean, her parents never took her to get evaluated when she had school problems and when I got her she was just a normal timid, shy, introverted, feminine girl who needed a manly man to take charge in the sheets. But as we got older (that was 18 years go) her timidness/shyness became diagnosed as "anxiety disorder" and when she started taking medicine for it her introversion and her feminine side "went away"... So all the things I was drawn to her on went "poof" when she finally got on the pill her parents should have got her on... Not to say I don't like her still, it's just, um, harder to manage the relationship now that she's competing with me on the masculine stuff now... And if you did have this happen to you, what was the end results? Did your relationship get better or worse when they got treatment?

Before you answer I just want to say that my in-laws are huge asssclowns because they should have got her tested when the school warned her that there was something wrong with her in school; now we'll never know if she has any disabilities because she's so high functioning and she can fake just about anything (but clearly she can't fake it all because she's not able to connect with me on the same level that I can connect with EVERYONE ELSE). Anyways, what's it like being married to an aspie? Is it the same as my marriage? Sexless, terrible communication, her unsure of how she feels most of the time, her getting obsessed with things, her doing daily routines and unable to transition, her being unable to interact with people on the phone or in person, her not knowing where to put her hands or where to look during a conversation, her not knowing about social norms and acting like she they don't matter except the ones she's been taught, her making decisions by the book and not taking anything else into consideration? So many questions and not enough documented information anywhere; most marriages the woman is the Neurotypical, so I am of course in a rare situation (once again)... Also, don't attack me that I am assuming she has it; our son has it, and I am nothing like my son but he shares a lot of traits (same as above) with my wife. To add as an added bonus, my wife had a childhood experience that adds PTSD to the list of things she most definitely has all thanks to a cousin that was a little too "curious" for his own good and caused her to be sexually repressed because of it when she wasn't even in grade school yet...

And why is it bad or not bad?

It is big news where I live. The couple has an extremely dysfunctional marriage so I am not all that surprised though it is sad after 33 years and four children that they are divorcing. I have not yet been contacted by the press but expect to be. Inside Edition has already contacted my mother. My uncle is the black sheep in this dysfunctional family though everyone is messed up, the uncle's wife the most. I don't want to say that to the media though. Anonymous---- Not sure what your talking about, they have never divorced before. Anonymous--Inside Edition contacted me last night. They wanted to do a story on it. It is big news in the town I live in though I did not realize it was national news at all. Still not sure why it is national news, it is understandably huge news locally. My uncle is famous locally and so his wife, soon to be ex, is famous also through him.

How do some women get guys to propose so easily? I know one lady who's still in her 50s and has been married 6 times (all divorces). How does she get a man to propose so easily? I really don't know what attracts them to her. She looks like something from Jerry Springer, has messed-up, drug-addicted kids.....

I'm an addict in recovery. When I was using I sold my wedding ring which was worth a lot of money. And basically everything of value in my house. I have been married for 13 years. I have cheated on my husband in active addiction. I have made amends to my husband and have recovered. I have been faithful to my husband since then. It's been years and he still doesn't forgive me. I want to have kids and move on with my life but I feel as if I cannot. I don't think I can be in a relationship if I don't have trust or am treated with love. My husband explained how he can't treat me the same because I broke his heart. I don't know what to do because I feel as if I deserve to be loved fully. And I feel like he deserves someone who hasn't hurt him. Am I wrong for thinking I deserve something more?

if so, what qualifies as "large", as stones can come in all sizes to pretty extreme.

My husband is military and a female coworker broke her ankle while jumping. (airborne) He was the NCO sent to the hospital with her. After that, I noticed that he had been texting her a few days after it happened. saying "hey im going to be on base later this evening if you need anything let me know" (He hid the fact that it was her texting, he showed me a picture of her ankle and said her squad leader sent it to him) Shortly after, I seen the messages in his phone and confirmed it was actually from her.. I asked him about it and he said she also did, but the picture he showed me was from her squad leader. I let it go. A few days go by and he's laying beside me in the bed and were looking someone up on his facebook and in his search history it popped up her name, I didn't say anything about it, but that bothered me.. the next day we are looking at the pictures he has of our daughter on his phone to send to his mom who is out of the country and when it swipes over, her picture pops up. He had taken a picture of her at the hospital that day. not of her ankle of her. and from the looks of it, she didn't know he had taken it... I then express my feelings to him about of inappropriate it looks to me, Texting, searching her, taking her picture... that was the end of it.. WELL i come home from work yesterday and we are laying down on the bed and all of a sudden i seen him and her texting again.. should i be concerned?

We think so. My wife's fave vibrator, a 10-function bullet type, is slowly dying. It's the best when it's working, she says. But it's so unreliable now. We use it more and more in bed. I just found the same kind on eBay for super cheap. Bought two, planning ahead, LOL. What are your thoughts on "good vibrations" and not the Beach Boys song?

Hi.i have been married for almost 5 years and I have 2 kids 1 and 3 years old.my husband hits me every time he abuses me he never respected me as wife he treats me like his servant every time when he hits me the next day when I check my body I found many signs and when I hit him back he hits me more worse he pulls my hair and kicks me than he breaks staff at home injure him self and tells me he is gona show cops and take my kids from me I am house wife my family dont wana support me and my daughter loves her dad so much I feel bad so much for them

Asperger's Syndrome (autism) and PTSD are very common conditions that come with sociopathic, psychopathic, and narcissistic tendencies because the person who has these conditions lack the ability to process emotions (their own or others). Since they can't process it, they can't value it. So if a partner had one of these conditions, is it possible to have a successful romantic (needs emotions to be authentic) or sexual (just needs physical effort to work, emotions optional) relationship with them?

She is the type who just lost all her indentity after her kids grown up (they are all above 30 now and married for many years, we are the only one who live in the same city with her). She has no hobbies, no friends, she is just living as a housewife and being bored from having nothing to do. Everyone has to have strong boundaries towards her otherwise she gets way too much, she tries to move in with her children, and take control over they life etc. My husband developped some recent chronic health issues (nothing too serious or dangerous tho) and now she feels like she must "save" him, like if this would give a new meaning to her life. She insist to accompany him to all his doctors appointments so she can hear with her own ears what the doctor says and talk to the doctor. When we told her she maybe shouldn t as he is an adult and her being there is weird and creates stress, she got all offended saying its her right to know everything and be there because he came out of her womb. How to handle this? My husband is scared to tell her again as she throws tantrums and whenever he goes to a doctor without her and she gets to know she guilt trip him. Its a bit twisted but she seem to enjoy these appointments as she often says: -Oh it was such a great day guys, thank you! I wish she had something else to focus on... She is btw not being neglected by anyone. She lives with her husband and we visit her at least once or twice a week, take her out etc.

Then cry to anyone that will listen when she leaves him staring she just wanted his money. He also tried to blackmail her and force her to marry him

I won't go into specifics on what I have, but the doctor told me not to walk around too much or strain myself because the affected area may worsen or take longer to heal if I don't. Walking is intensely painful and I'm screaming while I do it. I went to take pain medicine for this, and I asked my husband if he would do it for me. All I can do is lay down and get up to use the bathroom, but that's all I'm supposed to be doing. He said he couldn't help because he was too involved with his game... We dated for years and he was never so focused on games like this. It was a hobby, but now it's an obsession. I've never felt pain like this, and its probably some of the worst external pain I'll ever feel, painkillers or no. But right now I need his help. I can't do much for myself until I begin to heal. I can't make him do anything, not that I want to, but he should want to help me. Hearing my screams of agony should be enough to make him assist me. When he has something as minor as the common cold he's bedridden and constantly getting me to do something for him, which I don't mind. It's his turn now. What do I do?

I'm 29, been together for 4.5 years and live together. Told him at the beginning of the year I want to get engaged by the end of the year(don't think he took me seriously) We are planning a trip to Japan in September and I bring up the proposal thing and He got really annoyed saying he feels pressured and that every time I mention it, it makes him not want to propose even more. After I got upset He texted me saying he does want to marry me and have a house together one day but didn't give a time of when we will be engaged. How long do I wait for that ?

I recently had a baby and we recently started to get into sex but during it my husband would suck on my nipple and drink my milk! Is that weird? or is it just me. Ofc we had sex before but after having the baby i didn't have sex for weeks after so I'm slowly starting to ease into it again.