Family: Question: Engaged sister overstepping boundary with my boyfriend?

Question: Engaged sister overstepping boundary with my boyfriend?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 01:56 PM PDT

My older sister initiates residual sibling rivalry. I feel my sister has struggled with feeling displaced. My sister has been in a 10-year relationship and just got engaged at 30, a I'm 27 and in a serious 2-year long relationship about to move in with my boyfriend, so obviously engagement has been on my mind as well. Recently, my close friend got engaged and my sister took it upon herself to lie to my boyfriend that I was really mad my friend got engaged! My boyfriend knows she can sniff for information or be threatened so he provided an aloof answer. He reassured me he knows what he has to do. I trust my boyfriend but I'm really upset that my sister would be so disrespectful to open up a conversation about my future without my permission! That, and the fact she tried to make me look like a brat demanding a ring now! I want to mention it to her, but I know she'll thrive off my feelings being hurt....

Question: My brother whose a loser and felon did not reply to my texts today. How do I show others how rude the loser is when I am trying to be nice?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 01:55 PM PDT

He is an awful person. He is an embarrassment to our family. He'd be in jail if our parents weren't such bad enablers.

Question: Does smoking really goes everywhere?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 01:42 PM PDT

I wasn't sure how to exactly ask the question on here but when someone smokes in a bathroom or something would it really get on the counters and towels even when you can't see anything? My brother has been smoking in the bathroom which I don't care about other then a few messes he made but if he notices he does clean them. If I say anything I'm not sure if he'd argue with me and yell at me about it we never been close but if this is true it will get all over I guess a fight will begin he is smoking cigarettes.

Question: Why are some moms overbearing over their sons?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 01:25 PM PDT

Question: My grandma broke my iPad?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 01:12 PM PDT

I have an iPad Mini and I just got it for my birthday which was 2 months ago and today I went to mcdonalds and bought some French fries, came back home and my grandma was already in a bad mood, I also had a mcflurry from mcdonalds, she got my mcflurry, poured it down my bra and yelled "YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING AROUND HERE" and then she got my ipad and broke it in half, what should I do?

Question: Why are family members so unsupportive of me and my decisions?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 12:59 PM PDT

My family members are the most unsupportive in my life and it hurts. You'd figure your own blood would support in whatever decision you make but boy I was wrong. For example, I was offered a job that I feel is not a great fit for me but when I told my family members about this (I know I probably shouldn't have) they told I complain too much and just take the job. They even tried to guilt me into accepting the job offer. Why?

Question: How to deal with an aunt who is overly critical (maybe even jealous) of everything I do?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 12:49 PM PDT

I want to start this off by saying that I'm in my late 20s, I have a good job, I travel a lot, and have a good amount of friends. I'm generally a happy person. On the other hand, my aunt is in her late 50s, single, lives with my other aunt, and doesn't have a whole lot of friends. She is critical of every single thing I do. When I travel, she says stuff like "Well, you know you could die in a place crash." I bought a luxury car recently and she asked me why I thought I was better than everyone else. I've been going to the Kentucky Derby for the past several years and she always enjoyed watching it - that is, until I started going. Now she thinks it's animal abuse and horrible that I go. She is negative and mean about everything I do. I told my mom to stop telling her anything about my personal life as the examples above are her normal reaction and it's none of her business. I live two hours from my hometown and visit once a month, sometimes twice. I know it shouldn't seem like a big deal because I only see her a few times a month, but it is so draining and has such a negative impact on me. She's always there. If my mom and I do something together, she has to come. I don't want to say she's jealous of me, but I can't figure out why she is so critical of me and always wants to know everything that goes on in my life. Do you guys have any advice? I feel like I've been biting my tongue for so long. Thank you!

Question: Is my sister normal?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 11:50 AM PDT

I have a half younger sibling that is far in age as the rest of my siblings. I haven't talked to her much as it's hard to bond since she is the only daughter of my current stepfather. I noticed that she is quiet emotional and tends to cry easily when she hears a sad or tragic event. For example, we brought a baby rabbit a few days ago and she has got overly attached in such a small amount of time. She cried badly when she noticed the rabbit wasn't feel well. She also gets emotional watching sad movies or reading about bad news. People also tell her that she's too sympathetic. Isn't she being a bit too emotional? I feel like something isn't right here but I can't seem to address due to the large gap in age but she is going to be a high senior soon so I feel like I should tell her it's not good to get too emotional. Maybe I'm just over reacting.

Question: How terrible was this I said?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 11:39 AM PDT

I'm posting this again. I think about this every day and it bothers me so much. My great grandma passed away and she was a wonderful person in our family. The next day someone if my 10 year old brother could be a pallbearer. I started laughing and said that was silly to thin of him doing such a thing. Now I realize how sad and awful that is. I mean it was so hard losing her and I love my brother. Some say I deserve to feel pain and guilt.

Question: My parents are a joke. What should I do??

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 10:59 AM PDT

My brother (15) has been having difficulties sleeping lately and I'm 98percent sure he's going through depression. His behavior has switched up, he's very irritable, reserved and jumpy. Even his friends have noticed it. What worries me most though is that he's been having rough nights (pretty heavy nightmares and screaming in his sleep) but my parents are convinced he's going through a teen phases and that it isnt worth the expenses to pay for him to see a dr or therapist. Essentially saying he should suck it up. That has led me to, on multiple occasions, catch him ODing on Benadryl to help him sleep, (taking way more than he should for his age and weight). He claims he tried remedies and the herbal OTC sleep aids but they didnt work. He tried pain killers like Advil PM and Adol Night with "sedating" ingredients too but he had to like quadruple the recommended dose for even a slight effect. And that scared him a bit. I brought it up to my parents and they joked it off as it being cheaper than a dr visit and that a dr wouldve probably prescribed it anyway. Not sure what to do since my parents arent taking us seriously.

Question: Should I let my son move to New Jersey to be with his girlfriend?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 10:50 AM PDT

My son and his girlfriend are both 16. They have been together since they were 12. We live in California and his girlfriend and her family are leaving to move to New Jersey in a matter of months. He really wants to go with her. His girlfriend's parents agreed as long as he gets a job and pay them monthly rent. He's going to be an adult in 2 years, so it probably wouldn't hurt to let him go.

Question: I have a thirteen year old daughter. She is not going to the next class. The last time I spanked her was when she was 10. Should I spank?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 10:27 AM PDT

We also paid a lot for her extra lessons. She doesn't seem to mind that she has to repeat her class. Also, she has always been a trouble kid and her teachers are not happy with her. I have spanked her several times before and it seemed that it works better than grounding her or taking away her phone. But I don't know if it's good to spank a 13 year old.

Question: Why do people like to kiss???

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 09:37 AM PDT

When did kissing go from "eww thats gross" as a kid when people made out on tv, to something that symbolized love, lust and/or affection. Im 24 and still disgusted by people sucking each others faces. Feel a bit out of the social loop tbh because I absolutely hate it. Whenever a girl kisses me I literally pull away and cringe. It gets to be really awkward but I genuinely dont associate kisses with romance or "hot" its literally people sucking each others faces. I do it sure but only bc my gf likes to. To meet its still that gross thing you close your eyes to when it happens. Wow, i sound miserable and pathetic asking this but any ideas on wtf.

Question: Why do kids these days expect their parents to pay for college?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 09:32 AM PDT

I graduated college 5 years ago. When I was in college, I had the Dean's Scholarship and although it wasn't a full ride, it covered the majority of my tuition. If people want to go to college, they should work hard in high school so they can get a large scholarship to pay for it.

Question: Do you think 40 is way too old to have kids?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 08:21 AM PDT

I think it is. If you have kids at that age, you risk your child being born mentally retarded or with downs syndrome. Why risk it?

Question: Do mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law hate one another because they are both women?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 08:20 AM PDT

and women, of course, always hate other women?

Question: Why is this considered inappropriate/violating??? (Be honest)?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 07:52 AM PDT

So I'm a confident gay man, and I have a lot of straight guy friends. Right now I've been have a pretty intense debate with one who I'm honestly a bit attracted to. So I brought up playfully/jokingly, a hypothetical situation of what if. What if I was attracted to a straight friend and I sometimes masturbated to innocent images/videos of said friend and one or twice masturbated while watching him sleep. No saying that I have, just hypothetically. No he's not some porn star or a random guy on the net, but if he had been no one would have batted an eye. So is it really considered violating/invasive/inappropriate from a social standpoint??? If you have to, consider it two straight friends where one was completely uninterested or not really that kind of attracted to the other. Please. Be. Honest.

Question: How can I get my older brother to stop he's reached a new low?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 07:42 AM PDT

My older brother been farting since I remember but I've noticed recently he's reached a new low by naming his farts and reintroducing them them when they come back for example he has the squeaky , puffy, quack , ricky rickon ,the most absurd one is el pollo loco it's annoying and embarrassing how can I make him stop

Question: How come normal women become fat and unattractive after having kids?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 07:14 AM PDT

But celebrities still remain the same after having kids? ex.Jessica Biel, Kylie Jenner, Beverly Mitchell

Question: How would you react if your 16 year old daughter raised her hand and threatened to slap you?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 07:10 AM PDT

Question: Why does this happen to me?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 06:10 AM PDT

why didn't they abort me if they only wanted to love that stupid chimp.just think a sec. the kid that peed himself when parents punish him now is stealing 100 percent of parents attention from me. he get money he wants. he is adored by them and parents are polite to him. on the other hand they are mean to me .i know the reason . just because he is taller and my parents are scared of him .that's all. he is 28 and doesn't do anything at all. my teachers wonder why i am always silent. they don't know it's because i was always ignored when i talk at home. i wonder why my parents had me . they don't deserve children. children are not cow you keep in a pan.they need money they need attention they need respect the same way every other person needs.

Question: My dad smokes 4 paks/day. The heat from his cigarettes is contributing to gloobal warming. How do I gets him to stop?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 02:27 AM PDT

Question: I ve never met my biological dad. I want to find out who he is. My mom doesnt remember anything about him. Where do I start?

Posted: 14 Jul 2019 12:59 AM PDT

Question: How would you react if you learned a family member was a really nasty online troll?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 11:35 PM PDT

Let's say you found out that an adult sibling or cousin spent a lot of time online viciously attacking children. Like saying vulgar things to them on message boards, saying things to coax them into suicide, and even stating how they hope the child is raped or killed. What would you do?

Question: Is my dad just being unreasonable and insecure?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 11:18 PM PDT

Whenever one of my siblings does something bad, he always puts the blame on me when I didnt do anything wrong. Plus he always complains saying how I get my actions from my older sister when my mom wants her to be my "role model". He even said " If you care about your sister so much why dont you just go move out with her", like seriously? He gets mad at my mom for no reason too. When he sees a guy walk pass by my mom he thinks she likes him or something and tells her to go date the guy or marry him. He also said that he could replace my mom anytime he wants to! He always has to know where she goes, what she does... never gives her any freedom!!! Yes, he helps out around the house and renovates the place to make it look nice but he always says that my family is not appreciative of what he does when we actually are. He always nags how the older ones should do the most work while the younger ones can just sit back and watch; my younger siblings are always on their tablets playing games or watching YouTube and my dad doesnt do anything to them but does to me. Hes changed, and its not a good one.

Question: How to deal with a toxic mother?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 10:14 PM PDT

Okay I had enough. My mother will not let me drink cola cola but diet or zero. But she will let my 7 year old sister drink it. My mother will punish me If i ever ever drink cola cola My mother lets my sister eats whatever the hell she wants. But for me chips are prohitbed from me. My mother lets my sister get chips when ever she wants. She uses this excuse that I have prediabetes and that I need to go on a diet. However I dont wanna go on a diet if my sister can drink whatever she wants and eat whatever she wants. How can I tell my mother that Im fine eating whatever I want. I dont understand whats so bad about type 2 diabetes whats the worse that can happen?

Question: Should I tell my mom that her cooking sucks?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 10:01 PM PDT

Question: Looking for other people’s perspective on this...?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 09:36 PM PDT

It started in 2015, when one day I was in my moms room talking to my stepdad, hanging out with my cat, just messing around. My stepdad grabbed my head forcing me into a kissing position his tongue in my mouth. My mom walked in when this happened; and when i finally wrenched myself off his grasp, he laughed almost as if it was funny, while I looked at my mom. I told her that his tongue went in my mouth, and she made a face and we never discussed it again. Fast forward to the summer, I went up and visited my grandmother. The conversation came up and she said that was sexual abuse and from there everything took a turn. She wanted me to stay with her, and I agreed. My mom was upset my stepdad upset, and everyone was upset the only person believing me being my grandmother and of course her friends. Well in the end of the summer basically my mom made me feel extremely guilty and so did my stepfather saying how could i make an accusation like that. My mom cried and my stepfather was disgusted in me. I had to go home and tell everyone I lied and make everyone believe that I just made a big story up.

Question: Grandparents who was once in my sons life.?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 09:33 PM PDT

Long story short. My baby boy is now 17 months. From birth up until 16 months. He use to see his grandparents (my husband parents ) almost everyday. His parents told us that they would help babysit our baby so that the both of us can work full time but they changed their mind just to have us move closer once our lease end so we had one income and I couldn't work since I didn't have a babysitter so we decided to move to another state 7 weeks ago since we can no longer afford our rent and everything. My son is a smart boy. As a mother I feel that he is sad that he is no longer see his grandparents. He sometime called out their name and look sad. I'm sure he know what s going on. I'm sure he misses them since he use to see them 3 or 4 times a week since birth and all of the sudden they are out of his life. It's a big change for him and today I found out that the grandparents are coming out here for 2 days to visit. I feel like it's not a good idea. I feel that it'll be too much for him to see them for 2 days and they are gone for a very long time. I really do not want to put him in that position but my husband think otherwise. What to do? Am I overthinking it?

Question: Why sometimes do two close family members have near opposite personalities?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 09:31 PM PDT

Question: My dad's GF is jealous of me being around him or if I buy my dad gifts, she said my skin was dirty I'm white she's black I have clean skin?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 09:14 PM PDT

Question: My brother keeps calling me mom?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 07:12 PM PDT

I was trying to look up the reason this is happening but they all relate to younger siblings being a toddler or younger. My brother is 8 and as selfish this may sound I'm a 16 year old who just wants to hang out with friends instead of watching him when my parents go out. How should I put an end to this and how can I stop my parents from relying on me to watch him.

Question: Why have I been feeling sad lately?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 06:23 PM PDT

I am 27 year old male and still live my parents. Both of my brothers have moved out because they are married. My middle brother who I was the closest to moved out ,2 years ago. At first it was tough because me and him would always have a hour conversation when he got home from work but eventually it got easier for me. I still see him. I babysit my niece Tuesday Wednesday and Friday so when we take her back home I get to see my brother. As far of my older brother goes i still get to see him but not as much. Me and my cousin are really close every Friday and Saturday we hang out and he spend the night its a tradition we started when he got his licenses. But I notice lately not that after he leaves on a Sunday I just seem sad and just don't wanna do anything. And I want to know how can I stop feeling down in the dumps. Do you think me and my cousin should get a place of our own? And it's not just with him after me and my brother hang out and I to back home I get that same down in the dumps feeling. I just need advice how to not feel sad after hanging out with my brother or cousin.

Question: Will we end up together if this goes forward? Should I do this?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 05:51 PM PDT

My aunt got married two years ago. It caused friction with my Mom, because my parents are really racist (They won't admit it but they are) and her husband is black, so is her step-daughter, my cousin. I'll call her A. She and I clicked immediately, became best friends, which my parents didn't like. My Mom despises her, uses various nonsense to convince me that she's a bad influence. (Calls her a slut because she smokes weed and has huge boobs. Like, what?) Been growing very distant from my parents this year. Graduating high school soon and staying local for college on scholarship. A and I have been talking about finding an apartment together. We're also had a few tender moments. Her playful nature seems to cross over into flirting sometimes. Plus we have a lot of trust - she's the only person I've tried weed with. When we were searching, she seemed pretty relaxed about the idea of a one-bedroom apartment, saying it was cheaper. She doesn't seem bothered by the thought of us sharing a bed. I talked to my sister about this and she just rolled her eyes. "The way you two look at each other, and you want to start sharing a room? Just don't get her pregnant, dude." She's convinced that we'd be having sex every day. Is that likely? Should I go through with it and move in with her? Let this relationship advance? She's only my cousin by marriage, and we'd probably keep it low key. But should I?

Question: Why do some smart people produce dumb kids?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 05:43 PM PDT

I know somebody who is 18 and is a junior in high school because he got held back. His parents are both doctors with advanced degrees.

Question: What are some ways to help my 14 year old twin daughters with their self esteem?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 04:47 PM PDT

I notice that my twin daughters have low self esteem when it comes to appearance and academics. During summers, they spend time outside playing sports or camping. I limit electronics time but when I allow social media, their keystrokes are strictly monitored. Me and my husband have been trying to help them boost self esteem. We know it's normal for kids their age to feel low sometimes, especially for girls. What are some other ways that we could help our daughters?

Question: Unfair bedtime?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 04:34 PM PDT

i'm about to be 16 when school starts. my aunt informed me that when school starts she will be taking my phone at 9:00 pm. when she goes to bed. see i just moved in with her and when i was with my mother i went to bed at 11:30 and i maintained honor roll all year.. i often don't get tired. it's summer break right now and last night my aunt yelled at me for being in my phone at 11:30 pm. any advice how i should talk to her about this?

Question: How can a single mom afford daycare?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 04:28 PM PDT

Can child support cover the entire cost of daycare? I work as a vet tech and I definitely can not afford daycare on my salary. I will file for child support right after the baby is born.

Question: Why did my father pick my sister over me?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 02:54 PM PDT

My dad cheated on my mom and then divorced her once his mistress got pregnant. My mom suffered a lot and is now better. I lived with my mom for 15 years without any contact from my father and now he contacted me. He wanted me to meet his new wife and my half sister. She is 18 and I am 25. I met them and they were very sweet at first. My father wanted me to help my half-sister get an internship at my workplace. I told him that I don't feel comfortable with her at my company and he called me selfish. He said I was just like my mother. I told him that he was the selfish one for destroying my family and abandoning me. Half-sister started crying and said my mom destroyed my family and now I am ruining her family. She said she didn't want to have anything to do with me at all. She wanted an internship only not a sister. I called her a b and her mom slapped me so I hit her and then dad threw me out and said i am no longer welcomed in his life. He took her side when I met her and he choose to ignore me for 15 years.

Question: Tips on saving money? (without a job)?

Posted: 13 Jul 2019 01:35 PM PDT

so i am 15 and i have started to realize that i'm running low on money. like, really low. i have around $7 left and call me irresponsible but i'm not allowed to have a card and misplace cash easily, also i'm just bad at keeping track of stuff. are there any tips on how to earn and save money so i can do stuff? or places that hire 15 year olds?