Specially knowing the fact that all other casual partners and exes got her pregnant, bit he as a husband would now never be able to do it n would never be able to become a father in his life? And he only had to know about her past abortions only after marriage as she hid it?

One of my friends is 21 and married, yet Im 20 and I still suffer anxiety. I still need to develop myself and enjoy life, but there some girls marrying at such an early age. I know it not my business if my friend married, it is her decision in her life, but I plan on marrying at 25 or later, but it shocks me how some people marry so early. I still don't know how to cook and clean that well I dont mean anxiety I mean stress

In perimenopause right now. No sex drive at all. Sometimes I don't even think about it and when i do it's a dreadful feeling that i should do it to make my husband happy. Does this get better once I am done with my periods for good?

I had a lipoma removal from my back 2 weeks ago. It was a very simple surgery, the incision is probably 2 inches long. The thing is it's still bleeding like it was the next day. A few days ago my surgeon called for a follow up and I told him it was still bleeding, he said I can make an appt with him and he can take a look at it if I'm concerned. I made an appt for this week but I'm nervous going because I have lots of hickeys and finger nail scratch marks on my back and I have a small bruise under my eye. Before I had my surgery I went in for a consultation and I was very nervous, my surgeon asked me if I was fine and if I needed any help from him, I told him I was going through issues with my husband and that I'm talking to a detective about issues I'm having with my husband. If the surgeon sees my bruise and hickeys can he call the cops on my husband? I live in California. I'm not under age nor an elderly so I'm assuming there's no law that he has to report this. Please don't tell me to leave him because I won't for cultural reasons, plus he's a good father but he has issues. Also in my culture Arabic women are prohibited from leaving their husbands. Thank you for your answers

My husband and I have been married about 2 1/2 months. He has a 2 year old and 5 year old. Sometimes after spending the day with them, we are both exhausted and just want to watch tv and go straight to bed. Without having sex. Actually it has become a nightly routine but we will have sex at least once a week. And I'm fine with that. I just don't want our intimacy to go away. Is this normal? What are some ways I can keep the intimacy going without having sex?

For him to tell her "I always enjoy your company." Inappropriate or not?

You were a weak, ineffectual loser of a father, should you just try to forget the fun things you did with him when he was a little kid before your marriage fell apart and you lost your mind, health, money , his money etc? After Family Court told you that you had to be in therapy to see your son and then the state psychiatrist you went to destroyed you with psych drugs so your health is ruined? Do you try not to look at old drawings your son did and toys that you played with with him and stuff like that before it all came unglued? I'm not going to hate my son, I still love my son and I think he's right about a lot of the things that he feels about me. I'm just tired of crying all the time feeling like I failed so badly and don't have a relationship with him anymore. I think often about killing myself but I realize that would be such a horrible thing to do to him. So instead I just try to kind of will myself to die soon so what little money I have left at least I can leave it to him. Because if I can't be a good father at least I could do that much for him. What do I do just try to forget about him and he was a little kid and we had fun together? Pretend it wasn't real? Not going to Therapist's anymore they've never done me any good. Just asking

I'm married for the 2nd time to a man who currently lives overseas but we are working to get him here. He is an amazing man and pretty much the type of a man I was looking for so all is good in my relationship with him. I first divorced form my 1st husband when I was 25 and now im 32. Im currently studying to become a paralegal, so my unmarried 31 yr old friend told me yesterday the following "You should have moved to NYC to attend a law school after your 1st divorce when you were 25 and that way you could have met an attorney and been happy." Ummm the comment was weird for me since who said that the formula to happiness is through marrying an attorney in NYC. I dont discuss ym marriage with her, so Im not even sure why she think im not happy now even though my hubby needs to get his green card before moving here permanently. Any idea why someone would said that if they know you are already married? The last thing I know is to get an advice from a 31 year old single friend who due to lack of marriage perspective is looking to have a baby out of wedlock within a few years. My answer to her comment was "I'm happy." She didn't say anything else. Am I overthinking what she said or not? Im a university graduate except that im not looking to spent another 3-4 studying and getting large loans. So wasn't looking for any life advices from anyone even though she 'volunteered' to advise me.

I'm trying to start a photo business, and I'm getting a lot of push-back from my husband. We have a toddler that he watches while I'm at my day job, but I work 2 days/week at home and watch our kid on those days. I also take over all kid duties in the mornings, evenings and weekends. Now with my photography taking off, I have a few hours every weekend that I'm out shooting a wedding. Even if it's an 8 hour session, I'm usually only gone for 4-5 hours of our kid's awake time. This is what I want to do- it's my dream. I'm trying so hard to make sure he has time to himself and time to do what he loves too, but I still am being met with some resistance. Some days he says he's happy for me and thinks it's great, but most of the time he acts as if it's annoying and tells me to slow down. I know he works hard with our kiddo, but I try to take over as many parenting duties as I can and give him a ton of breaks. I even take several vacation days a month to help offset. I really am trying to be accommodating of his needs too, but that effort feels unacknowledged. I'm just not sure what to do. Is he being unreasonable? Am I?

My wife told me a while ago that one reason she doesn't like having sex is the clean up. Even if I use a condom, she still has to clean herself up because she hates being wet. I never really thought about this but it really makes me upset when I think about it. The reason she might not be having sexual activities with me is because of her own sensory experience since she hates her body and what her body does. Vaginal sex isn't the only way she dislikes sex. Obviously she dislikes anal sex for the same reasons, the lube is too messy/sticky and she doesn't like the clean up. She also doesn't like to swallow when a ejaculate in her mouth but at least brushing her teeth after doing that is more tolerable than the other 2 acts. If she's a germaphobe overthinker, what do I do to help her opposition to natural things like vaginal sex? She's on Prozac for depression and anxiety, but maybe she needs to be on something to stop her brain for thinking too much? She can't drink wine/beer/liquor/cocktails because she says it gives her heartburn, so something else needs to happen. Before she met me she was a stoner, but studies are saying that being a stoner makes you MORE prone to overthinking, not less. Ideas?

Ok so my husband just got back from being away for over a month. He was working with army cadets. Anyways, we have 3 young kids. 1,2 and 6. He wanted us all to go hang out with some friends. I'm not feeling good today so I wanted to lay down and stay home and get better while he went out with the kids. But he insisted I went with them. When we got there I asked "Why couldn't I have just stayed home and rested while you and the kids came here". He would have had help with the kids where we went. I've been alone with our kids for over a month with no help. And when I ask for a day to even rest from my cold. He gets mad. He got so mad at me and admitted he can't handle 3 kids alone. I did it! I just want a couple hours alone. I'm so stressed and I feel I'm falling apart. Does he just not understand? Is he lazy? Has anyone been in a situation like this? Your significant other refuses to take the kids and let you rest but leaves you alone with them a lot?

Me and my partner have sleep divorce his snoring is horrid. I can't sleep in the same room as him. I can even hear him through the ceiling it's that loud. Anyway I keep my room and the whole house tidy with no help. He says it's my job as the house wife to do it (my daughter has a disability and so I care for her to when she's at home). He works 32 hours a week, with about 2 days off sometimes 3. I'm the only one that drives, so have to drive him everywhere. So he tells me to stop mothering him for things, but then asks me where his work clothes are. Is his dinner done and so on. He also wants me to help tidy his room which I don't really go in and definitely don't make a mess in. I don't get why he can't be more independent? He's 32 it's not even like he's a teenager. I'm really struggling in this relationship, but my daughter has an amazing bond with him (not his biological child.) He treats her and raises her like his own. I feel trapped.

I always treated my husband the way my friends told me that they treated their husbands .. Or the way I also saw them treating their husbands . I never appreciated my husband , always took him for granted , never told him how handsome he was ..I always treated sex as a favor I was doing to him . He never told me that he was feeling unloved but eventually he told me that he couldn't take anymore and he left me .. I'm writing this personal story because I know most wives are just the way i was .. Please reconsider the way you are treating your husband ! tell your husband today that you love him , tell him that he is handsome , tell him to forgive you for all the times you have taken him for granted . When was the last time you told your husband " your eyes are pretty "?

was in the hospital for 3 days . i could not see her cause it was long drive like 2 hr drive . so ill see her at home. my mom is home now . she had neck surgery cause she had a fatty tissue in her neck/. she will be home all day long cause she cannot do anything we adult kids have to help her out she is wearing a neck brace for 6 weeks. my hubby has sat off from both jobs. so i want to see my mom sat . so my sister makes a big deal out of it , my sister did bring her to hospital. my sister gets mad at me cause i want to visit my mom with my hubby. i want my hubby to see mom to, i think it makes sense. family needs to get over it . jeese. i like to have more then one answer here .

My husband will have diarrhea or something and not wash his hands, and I swear he smells really bad when he goes to sleep next to me. I can't honestly take it anymore, how do I tell him this without nagging?

Iam 47 and my ex husband is 43 and we recently got a divorce. We' been married for fifteen years and have a 5 year old son. He left me for an 18 year old girl. They have one on the way and now they live ten hours away and I have no idea how the custody is going to work. I would love for my son to just stay with my but I know that's impossible. Especially since I know my son of course loves his dad. So how would custody work in my situation thanks

My wife has overloaded her schedule with too much work. Sadly, offering to help her with the work only results in her taking on more work. Further sad, if those new things she took on gets taken off her shoulders (through other people doing the work or a paid service) she just takes on even more work to fill the free time. Basically, my wife is a workaholic and refuses to talk to me let alone have sexual relations with me. So how do I open communication better with her when she doesn't make time for it or value it like she does her 1 billion projects she has running in her head?

I have been married for 8 years now and when I got married my son was 15. My sons father passed away when he was just 2 years of age. My son is currently in college and still lives with us. We recently purchased a bigger home and my husbands 21 year old daughter from a previous marriage has decided to come and live with us. This was abrupt and has put a strain on our marriage because she is jealous of me and requires a lot of attention She does not work or go to college and pretty much sleeps all day. She doesn't drive which means that my husband has to drive her to get food 3 times a day. I spoke to my husband and basically said that this is not working out and I feel that I can no longer be myself in my own home. He's very upset that I had the nerve to ask him to tell her to leave just to accommodate me. I'm very confused and need some advice please. How would this be accommodating me if I never even saw this coming?

Will they post one of their divorce documents down the road?

Please know the signs of childhood sexual abuse and be aware of WHO your child is around. LISTEN to your child. Sincerely, a survivor. PS Your husband could be the one molesting them.

I know she's hot. She doesn't need to prove this to other men, does she? She's already got a bloody husband. I call this disrespect. There are plenty of beautiful women and they dress modestly.

If you are married and conversing with an ex lover(with spouse knowledge and permission) to mention the night you spent together and say that you enjoyed it, to the ex lover? Short version Lover says "I ve always been a nice guy U enjoyed that didn t u lol" Response "Lol at the time lol"

Should I get Divorce? I feel like we are roommates. My husband & I have been married for 10 yrs. We were college sweethearts. We have a good relation, did things spontaneously and travel a lot, after we had kids, ages 8 and 4, I feel we became roommates. All we do work, take care of kids, take care of the house, bills, repairs, family events/kids bday/ school events/ repeat. We don't do date dates bc we are always booked with other stuff, we have not slept in the same room for yrs bc I snore. We hardly have sex bc we are both tired. I feel like we are roommates, I do love him but this routine is a buzz kill. I do love him and he is a great father but I am beginning to resent him bc we have nothing as a couple, I am thinking divorce bc I don't see him as a husband anymore.

Now her girlfriends want her to go to the same club with them while the husbands stay home and babysit. She seems legitimately excited. Do I just shut up and let her enjoy or should I mention that it bothers me?

Grandfather: Rich businessman, former abusive alcoholic Grandmother: Docile, kind, very religious Catholic woman Daughter 1: College professor that always forgets to show up to things and is obsessed with research. Her husband: Almost never around. Always doing research in a remote location Their child 1: Really attractive neurosurgeon daughter. Compulsively cheats on her husband and addicted to painkillers, but nice Their child 2: Went to Yale, lives in NYC because she's very gay Their child 3: used to have a drug problem in high school. Now kind of anti-social and glued to her parents. In a good engineering program Daughter 2: Housewife. Nice lady Her husband: Sex addict that constantly cheats on her Their child: Is pre-law at an ivy league. She's also somehow a sex addict and used to be addicted to coke but now a bigg sorority girl. Daughter 3: Housewife. Nice Her husband: President of major bank. Their child 1: Shy, sweet, nice girl Their child 2: California socialite that used to also have a cocaine problem but now goes to a good college Son: Also a president of a major bank. Secretly gay. An alcoholic His wife: very religious italian woman they have 2 young kids