Almost everyone I know has this. Family has the scapegoat, dysfunction, sexual abuse, divorce, narcissism, drug and alcohol addiction, etc.... It ruins special times of year like Christmas that are supposed to be about family joy. I have only known two families to have joy and one of those my mother kept me from cause of her own narcissism and jealousy. Celebrating family for things like reunions, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.... is like celebrating cancer, funerals, car crashes, etc.... I find extended families can be fun cause you don't have the scapegoating, jealousy and intense hurt that you have in immediate family. At the same time our parents are immediate family with those we are extended family with so they hold us back from the extended family cause of their own narcissistic desires. So why is family so hard to deal with when it is supposed to be our best friends? Family brings addiction, suicide, self-mutilation, and other destructive behavior and the only good it brings is when you are a little kid and don't realize how messed up your family is yet. Also why do people celebrate things like family at reunions and holidays when family is as painful as funerals? A reunion and the Holiday Season is like a child's funeral, nothing but agony.

Dear all, sorry for the long text, but it's complicated:). I'm German, both of my parents are German. My big brother (28) is half German (our dad) and half British (his mum). He grew up in Holland and speaks Dutch and English without an accent. Our dad has always spoken German to him, and he has always replied in Dutch, English or a strange mix of both. When he is forced to speak German because people are present who speak neither Dutch or English, he can manage and he is understood mostly (except for the occasional very embarrassing misunderstanding), but has a strong accent (strange English/Dutch mixture), even though he is half German and has heard German from my dad all his life. I don't understand why he can't speak German without an accent. He is really bad at spelling in all of the three languages. Everyone thinks his accent in German and his mistakes are charming, cute (all women) or funny. He thinks his German is really good, but he makes very basic mistakes, translating almost everything almost literally from Dutch, which often doesn't work at all. If I did not know he was half German, I would assume he started learning German a year or two ago. Do you think this is normal? Should he not be able to speak German on a near native level? Do you think my father should (have) refuse(d) replying to him when he doesn't speak German? Maybe we should start doing that? Thanks and peace xx

I found it very disturbing she said she misses me and wants to drive by. She acused me of not missing hee enough and to forgive and forget. Well let's just say I moved out for a deason and shes a toxic parent. This is not cool she wont take no for an answer. What should I do? I live ten hours away and dont care if I never go back in a long time, or ever. That was disturbing she spoke of stopping by like I have nothing to lose.

my mom has 5 kids (including me) with 4 different men. all of them except for one were either drug addicts, dealers, or have been in jail. the one that didn't do that stuff, she's still with today and has a daughter (which is my little sister) he actually takes care of her. is this normal? what does this mean? thanks

I'm kind of hoping she does not recover as she's in the hospital with pneumonia and is only 21. The same time I don't want my parents to be upset if she dies and they might be since their parents even though no one else likes her.

Ok so I live with my boyfriend, we've been together for 6 plus years and have a five year old daughter. I feel like he thinks he's better than me. I'm not the tidiest person in the world, but I do try to keep everything organized. The problem is that all of his things are everywhere. I can't make this house into a home because he gets upset if I move his things. He has knives on display in the living room and a big flag thumb tacked to the wall. He insist on keeping old tables and night stands that are well past their prime and are ugly. There's 5 armours in this 3 bedroom trailer and in not allowed tk get rid of anything. It's not just hi things that bother me, it's the fact that he's constantly holding it over my head that this is HIS house. I walk on eggshells am expected to take care of our daughter clean the house and "service" him whenever he pleases, all the while dealing with his random outbursts of anger and criticisms. I just want a home that I'm not embarrassed to invite my daughters friends to. He doesn't work and Im out of work right now, he gets a disability check. We're constantly fighting, so much that I been sleeping on the couch because it's HIS bed. How can I get him to realize that I put just as much into this house as he does, and deserve to make it look nice. (PS. It's not about money, I have all the décor, just not allowed to out it up, or take his down)

I'm a 16 almost 17 guy and my sister buys my weed for me. I heard him yelling at her about it last night that she needs to quit it and she yelled back and said "you do it and we all know you do it" and he got all defensive and said "I don't know what the f*ck you're talking about" we literally found weed in his sock drawer like 2 weeks ago and even my mom admits that he smokes it. He's not mad at the fact that we're doing it in his house, he's just mad that we're doing it in general. He's never really been a cool dad, anyway. Is there any reason why he would be mad that we smoke weed but he does it himself? Oh, and he got mad at me for buying a sweatshirt that has f*ck on it, but first of all it doesn't even say the actual word. The u and c are censored out but he acts like it's so inappropriate and I shouldn't be wearing it.

My mom and dad might divorce one day,I hope, my question is who gets the company? My dad owns a lending company(is the president) and my mom(Vice President) works there full time and 10x more than my dad(my dad just visits and leaves while my mom works in tears and sweats while sick) I think my dad has retired? So if they get a divorce will my dad who fully own the company or my mom? I'm just worried as my mom has been transplanted and I want her to own it so she can be able to financially afford her lifetime worth of expensive meds We also have other houses and stuff ;;;

Is it normal i can't along with anyone?what disorder do i have? Stuff that gets me screaming and irate People asking me why I am angry because I am ranting and shouting cashiers looking at me weird My fibromyalgia My sister not turning the close caption exactly when I wanted her to because she was peeing. my sister saying I don't want to fight with you when I asked her to move out of my way. My sister my new roommate , thinks she has a right to watch tv at night and pee and shower when she wants.She is not paying any rent and is a slob.My stepson likes her. No one follows my ocd rules about germs seriously The dog barking Any loud noises whatsoever . all of my coworkers are slackers. I have to get them in trouble at work. When people mumble or talk too fast when my fiancé does not move fast enough My fiancé spending 20 dollars on his son. when I KNOW my stepson was lying about where the remote was and it ruins the whole eveing because it turned out he was telling the truth.

She also hates his mother, her aunt, cause she got in the family estate and her father, my grandfather, did not. That was an old feud driven by alcoholism by our great-grandfather but all that happened 30-40 years ago. Her aunt does not have a mean bone in her body but can be tacky. The alcoholic father left his two daughters everything and my grandfather nothing but that was before I was born and not the two aunts fault.

Ok it's a long one.. I've been with the father of my child for about 6 years all together, we were separated for about 2 years when our daughter was 2. He is disabled and gets a disability check, so because I have to work for the money I get, he kept her. I was only allowed to see her on weekends. Anyways, were back together now and I feel like all my efforts are in vain. Almost every morning he is complaining about something, we have a new puppy and it uses it in the house sometimes. He will wake up before me, step in the pee and commence yo cursing and being loud while I'm trying to sleep. So I get up to see what he's fussing about and he asks Ifni saw the pee.. no I didn't because I was sleeping. Or he'll ask why there is a dish in the sink, very condescending. All I'm thinking is... I just woke up, give me a second to think. This is every day. Now I haven't always been the most tidy person. I'll leave my makeuo out in my sink sometimes, I have left dishes in the sink before, and the clothes aren't always folded as soon as their out of the dryer. But I have a six year old daughter that I am trying to take care of. I am aware that my cleaning habits can be better, and I am working on them. But the thing that bothers me most is that he yells at me for these things. Not only yells, but when it gets heated, calls me names, belittles me and is very sarcastic. When I try to just use the facts when were arguing. He often guilts me if we haven't had sex in a while. help.

It is my Mom so I don't want to bash her but if I tell her that then this aunt will tell her kids I am bad. The aunt is nuttier then my Mom but I want to know my cousins. I am 17 and they are 15 and 13.

The man cheated, got divorced, and now he's remarried to someone, what could make them respect someone like this? I like the guys two kids but to do this to his wife who my mom is also friends with? What could make a respected parent like mine be friends with someone like this? They have several really evil and despicable friends this is one of them. The other is a woman who seeks to destroy people's reputations and that woman I really hate.

I am told it is unusual but my ex husband Bill and I are still on friendly terms. When we were married my mom thought of him as the son she never had. They were best friends then and they remained friends even after our divorce. She just adores him and he feels the same about her. The thing mom enjoys MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE IN THE WORLD is to go out to a restaurant for dinner. Bill occasionally takes her to a high end restaurant which thrills her to no end. She looks at it as a son taking his mom out to a restaurant. Some of her friends tell me they think she is turning into a cougar. I know that is the farthest thing from her mind. I know Bill does not think of her that way either. Should I tell her what some of her friends are thinking? I am afraid it will spoil her enjoyment of her outing. Bill is a great looking guy and mom is 20+ years older than he is. I can see how people might think that but it is not true. Or Do I just keep quiet? Mom is having fun and enjoying herself and anything that makes her happy I am all for. In fact, I wish they would invite me to come with them sometime. Should I or she care what other people think might be going on. ADVICE PLEASE.

My parents fight every month about 2 3 time they are harsh towards eachother they always involve us in to this stuff and want us to solve stuff even though i am 16 and teen so i am going throw my stuff already but they still Don't stop doing this i am really worried my elder sister who is 18 tries to keep her away from this stuff but i don't know why i just can't stop thinking about it my fathers rude behaviour and always shouting and he never really stood for her she has always been good to his family but he is two days normal but next day his behaviour changes and when we ask him that why was he shouting he says he was not he says he was normally talking which he lies about all the time and that makes my mother get angry and they get into bad fights they hurt eachother my mother wants to get seperated and but my dads says where will she go if i give her divorse as she has no where to go and thats why i am really worried i don't kbow why their problems never end everyother day they are into an argument and they never discuss their problem to eachother they always add us into and makes us take their msgs from one an other and even if its my fathers mistake he never apologises he thinks he is right and that makes our mother angry. I live in Pakistan and here people keep bully the children of the divorced family its really difficult for us please help me what should happen about this, please help me..

I respect my mother I understand she did so much for me and I'm so thankful for what she has done but we get in fights a lot I'm still a minor and I don't know what to do or say and when we get in fights my mother talks to me and we say nothing in the car and she usually says "So you're not talking to me are you?" Because I'm a horrible mother and what I do is not enough for you right?" and I usually reply to "I am talking I just don't know what to say." And she replies with "Maybe you should say mom I'm sorry for being rude." And I reply to "Mom I apologize for being rude and acting disrespectful." And after she usually says "You're not sorry your just saying that to get me to shut up aren't you?" "See you're not talking to me now." I don't exactly know what to do and it usually goes like that or she calls me disrespectful cuss words and does a action of hitting me but doesn't actually hit me. As wells he disrespects my privacy but I tried to ask her to knock on my door but I'm not going to fight with her because after all she did pay for it and I'm thankful. How do I actually tell her that I appreciate her or say sorry to her without pretending to hit me call me names and say that I just say that to shut her up? When my mom fights with me if my stepdad is there he yells at me too She as well calls me a liar a lot

I'm 14 years old about to enter 9th grade in 2 weeks. Since last year my mom has been irritating me with writing essays at a college level. As well as teaching me physics, anatomy & physiology, chemistry, etc. She is driving me nuts with all her bullshit. It is going to get worse because I enrolled at an early college high school meaning I'll be taking college courses in my junior and senior year. Sometimes she makes me feel like a caged animal! None of my friends' moms make them study as much as mine does. Unfortunately, I won't be with my friends enjoying a regular high school...Any advice on how I should approach this situation? All I want is for her to give me a break once in a while and stop pressuring me with all those subjects.

We used to be close to this aunt and her family but not since a 2005 breakup. We see her maybe every other year and are cordial but that is all. She didn't even come to my brother's wedding cause of her hatred of some of the family that would be there.

My brother only cares about himself and treats me like **** because I am not living to his expectations. My grandma does the same thing. My mom isn't there for me because she is currently in prison. My aunt, uncle and cousins act like I don't exist and would not care if I was dead. No one is proud of me for going to college, being a productive member of society, and not doing drugs or alcohol. Why do I have the live this life? Why am I cursed to live this life if I am a good person?

I've never been abused physically - but I'm questioning the emotional and verbal side. My parents are always putting me down. They call me names, make mean jokes, and when I ask them to stop I have "no sense of humor" and the jokes continue. I'm always screamed at over little things, like a dish being left in the sink. Sometimes the yelling is so violent I get scared even though I haven't been hit since the spankings when I was younger. I'm accused of a lot of things. They don't listen when I talk. I'm called ungrateful and greedy because the law only states that I require shelter, food, and clothes. Everything I say in defense of myself is "talk back." They threaten to take away things like my social life and other things I enjoy. They don't support what I want as my future, which is a completely reasonable future. My dad I'm always told how easy I have it (both parents were physically abused as children). My dad says that even if I tried to take him to court for anything (not this, I've jokes about other things) I would fail, he works with the judges. I don't feel like I can tell them anything amd I don't trust them with certain things. I don't see this with my siblings. But they still tell me they love me? Am I being over dramatic, or is this actually abuse?

I'm raising my younger brother alone after we moved out of our parents' house cuz we were having problems with them so I feel it my duty to raise him to be tough in a big city like ours in case something happens to me. With a life like ours, I don't want to train him to be a wuss. We do stuff like watch sports and play video games together, or we play poker or dominoes or pool or basketball sometimes, but we're tired of the same freaking things. Bullies often pick on him while he's in school and I'm away at work so even though I have no problem defending him he can't defend himself, so mainly I'm hoping for cool new fighting moves I can teach him.

My mom has been verbally abusive my whole life. Physically abusive at some points. In recent years we have been in many fights but we always make up. Once we make up, we act like best friends. Then bam, she finds another reason to get mad at me. This time she really crossed the line. She told my husband (who has a chronic illness) that she hoped he died and she hopes I reproduce with a different man. She told me when he goes for his surgery I need To find comfort in my grandma because she will not be there for me. I love Her but this emotional rollercoaster is taking a toll on my mental health. I want To cut ties without her without fear of retaliation (she's mean enough to start rumors about me). Plus I go See my grandparents all the time and she goes over there as well. She's my mom but I cant Keep doing this. Just don't know how to really cut the ties

I found out here recently as well as my dad-well technically uncle but he is still my dad in my eyes since he raised me-that I'm apparently an offspring of an affair between my mother and her brother in law-my dad's brother. Really hard to wrap my head around it... Would that mean my mom is also my aunt considering she is married to my uncle? Am I a product of incest? Should I hate my mother for doing the very thing she always lectured me never to do and look down on anyone who had an affair? Really confused right now. 0.o

She is very narcissistic like. She only thinks about herself. She has a nephew (my mother sister's child) she won't even be around cause he is an autistic teenager. I find that flat out cruel. She's mad cause he can say weird things but obviously he cannot help that. So with our parents she demands things. "I want this, I want that" and they cave to it every time unfortunately. My Dad fears my Mom and so he submits to her request and her request is to give sister what she wants. So I guess they bring it on themselves and so I shouldn't care but if I did say something to sister who is 25 what would I say without causing a big fight? Sister can be very mean with her words like picking on me as a teen for having mental illness (grant it I was more sensitive then necessary).

I should relax because if I haven't heard them since I was little, I wouldn't hear them at this point.

My mom is trying to force me into a 3 week road trip wit her and her family. She has not listened nor thought about the responsibilities that I have in our city. Can she really force me? I love my mom and appreciate all she does for me, but it's simply not combinent or fair. Im 17 years old currently and will be 18 in a few months.

They gave him admission and he partied and didn;t even go to as many classes as he should. This was 40 years ago and UCLA has never gotten over what my Dad did to them. My Dad brought shame upon the University's good name and brought shame on his family's name and the many good ancestors before him but what he did. It has been 41 years. How do I make up to UCLA for what my Dad brought onto them by flunking out? How do I make up to my ancestors even though all before my Dad have died? His brother graduated with honors from UCLA and two years later my Dad brought his shameful ways to the university and brought a scar the university likely is still coping with by a student flunking out. How do I make to my ancestors and UCLA? My Dad hurt so many and only cares about what it did to him by flunking out cause of the failure he was. Anonymous: Only once before and that was yesterday, last time I will ask.

I hate my dad, he cheated on my mom and abuses my whole family, yet somehow we ended up on holidays in Spain together. Yesterday he took all of his and my mom s money and said he s leaving the country. He came back after a few hours but my mom wouldn t let him in so he started cursing at her and threatening to rip the door off its hinges. In the end she let him in and took the money back when he fell asleep. I am genuinely scared of him, he calls me and my sister whores, sluts and calls us fat. He yells at my mom at every little thing and says he s going to kill us. My sister started recording him and he took her phone and smashed it on the ground. Today he started yelling at my mom again and went out saying he s going to find a prostitute. He took the house keys and didn t lock the door. My mom pushed the couch up against the door and waited for him. When he came back he said he wouldn t give the keys back unless my mom gives him all of the money, but she said she ll give him the money if he gives her the keys. He then started saying that if she didn t open the door in 10 seconds he s going to come in and kill her. So she let him in, but I am really scared to be under the same roof as him and I scared he s going to hurt me or my mom. Our flight home is in two weeks and I just don t know what to do.

My Mom has four guys in question but I am afraid to ask for DNA from them as none of them no me.

So my my mother, small brother and sister came to visit for a month. Me and my husband live in a one bedroom house so they will be staying in the living room (sofa bed etc.) on the last of their week here, my mother's friend is coming to visit for a week. Is it morally right to ask your husband to stay at his sisters house so I can accommodate my mother's friend?

I dont know what I've done to make her be like that , I just want someone to talk to ... theirs time when I just want to go to my mom to talk to about my problems , I've seen how my friends go to their mom about their problems but I can't do that with my mom it makes me sad ...

I used to have a friend (21)who is in bad living conditions. It's just him and his mother who is jobless (he has a job now). At first it seemed ok but then I noticed that they hate their family. Apparently spreading rumors like the mother is going to bars to pick up guys, she does drugs and steals. And everytime she either gets pissed off or cries about how bad they treat her. Later I found out that she does do weed. And when she got caught she cried about her mother not believing that it wasn't weed. She went to bars almost every week saying she's a grown up she can do whatever she wants. And then she would sometimes go to the casino for a few days to gamble even though she barely has money. The more I paid attention to her the more it seemed like she would do something bad, cry about getting caught and then have her son comfort her and have him lie to others to make it seem like she never did anything wrong so she doesn't get in trouble. Oh yeah and saying things like she would be dead without him. When I finnaly tried to get him to see that his mother isn't as innocent as he thinks he got mad and we never talked again. He could be living a good life, he's nothing like his mother but she is dragging him down and keeping him as some sort of shield from life and consequences. Why would someone do this to their child? What is the reason for putting him through all this and making him think she's an innocent helpless person?

So I am 23 years old and a married college student. I'm trying to get a degree in art, but my mom is WAY overbearing with trying to help me! Yesterday, for example, she tried logging into my registration account with the password many times, getting me locked out of my account where I had to go on campus to fix it. Immediately after fixing it she tried it again and got me locked out again!!! She studies available classes in the wee hours of the night and then tries to hassle me in the day to take the classes SHE WANTS. And when I tell her classes I want she picks them apart and goes on and on why that's a bad idea. She tells me i should take this math class not that one, for example tho they're the same class just different teachers, and says just ask your husband, he probably will like my class idea better. She says as though I should get permission from my husband for classes, but the only one whom my classes concern are ME, and my husband knows this. It makes my husband furious because she only constantly hassles me when he's at work and not around. What do I do, and what could I say to my mother? It just makes my college experience feel crappy.

Like one of my relatives posted herself with shorts and tank top that is very inappropriate and even if she deleted her photo you can still find her photo on various websites. Is it true people save your pictures?

My parents have had their ups and downs. They have separated for the 5th time now. A 6th separation was only for a few days. Last time I figured it was over and thought the divorce had been finalized when they got back together. Two times back it destroyed my whole freshman year of high school. My Dad went on a trip with his parents and my younger siblings and upon his return Mom changed all the locks and had a note at the door. She made sure her parents picked up the kids first. Before that when I was little there was one I was too little to remember but another one where Dad got so mad he knocked his cereal over on my Mom. There was screaming and Mom said "I am done" and Dad left. I cried for a week and Dad came back a month later. A few weeks after he was back my Mom was pregnant and they told me all would be fine now and my twin brothers were later born. I know my Dad kicked a whole in the wall when I was 2. My Mom meanwhile is always demanding stuff of him and used us as kids as pawns against his family which has never accepted her. My parents married at 18 and 21 cause my Mom was pregnant with me. My Dad's family objected to the marriage my Mom says (my grandmother denies that). They have 5 kids and three grandkids. Mom's parents are divorced so she sees no big deal in divorce but always comes back to Dad. I think they love each other some but hate each other some to. For me it is my family. In their divorce the whole family dies. We will still have a Mom and still have a Dad but not a Mom and Dad anymore. No more holidays together, it will be having to choose parent for the holiday. I am torn. No joy I feel. I am a girl and 32 myself. My Mom gave details this separation and last since I am grown up now. She cried their entire honeymoon cause she missed her little sister's high school graduation. She even sent her sister-in-law (my aunt) more then once to spy on my Dad thinking he was cheating and each time she cleared him. My Dad name called my Mom like she was a dog when we were growing up but seems better. And my Mom revealed she wishes she had no married him. I feel if she wishes she did not marry him then she must regret me, their child. And her other 4 kids. I think his family's dislike for my Mom has added to the issues but they don't like her cause she is demanding. Yet, our Dad used to be so mean that I wonder if his family bothered to notice that. Everyone on my Mom's side of the family is divorced as we are old fashion rednecks. However, Dad's family no one is divorced but one nephew. I will feel so alone when with them. How do I cope when I am an adult. I feel like I am a 9 year old writing this as most adults shouldn't care. I wish one of my parents were Alcoholic and I going go to Al-Anon where my cousin goes (Dad's sister is an alcoholic and her son goes there). I feel there is no one in my position. PLEASE ADVISE, since my twin brothers are 20 now I think Mom and Dad are done this time. I hope I am wrong but I think I am right. They have failed us kids. Let us see their dysfunction as kids and yet divorced when we are grown up and no longer hurt by it. They hurt us on both ends of the spectrum.

Hatred of parent is one of the bad values my Mom gave me. She hates her father and made us kids miss out on having a grandfather due to it. Now I hate my Mom for that. Ann --- Sorry your family experienced that. My Mom's father never did anything like that. My Mom had such a big mouth she shared everything under the sun. All it was is that her Dad suffered from anxiety which made him drink too much. He sometimes got moody when drinking. So our Mom punished us and traumatized us as means of getting him back for it cause SHE was embarrassed. She even hid Christmas gifts he and our grandmother sent us. He was not a bad guy at all, just had an illness Ann---He was never dangerous at all. His drinking only made him unable to babysit, otherwise he was fine to be with at family functions and all our cousins have wonderful memories with him. Our Mom punished us to get her Dad back cause he embarrassed her by drinking more then one should bit it was an illness he could not help at all. melouofs --- She had no reason to at all, he was a wonderful person.

Am I wrong to cut off friends who don't value or respect me. Friends who constantly judge me for the choices I make. Friends who intentionally exclude from the invite list. Friends who don't support, encourage or stand up for me. Friends who are over 40 and party all of the time. Friends who talk smack about me behind my back and speculate things about me instead of coming directly to me. Friends who constantly flake and act unavailable whenever I invite them to hang out. They are making me feel like I'm a crazy person for not wanting to be around them anymore. Am I in the wrong here?

Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins (grandparents have sadly died).

Mine did on Easter.

The kids have so much fun together and she has that "tomboy" personality but they can't relate to each other at a deeper level. My daughter's relationship with her brothers is less personal. It's not the same as when I was growing up with my older sister. Outside of watching TV or being stuck in the car together, she's often left by herself. I don't know if the reason why my sons are less relatable to her is because they're...boys - or if it's personality clash. My daughter is the second child out of five.

My grandmother wants us to be on our aunt's side and see how bad her daughter is. My parents are furious I would ever be nice to my aunt and mad I have not blocked her on Facebook. It is an extended family war. Everyone is mad I am not taking a side. I think the aunt is nice but way too tough as a mother and I think the daughter is struggling and distorts reality due to a personal condition she has (Borderline Personality Disorder). Both only see the flaws of the other. So what do I do when attacked for not taking sides? I am in trouble for not hating one or the other and will be in trouble for not hating. We are an Italian Family so Hatred is a virtue in the family just like Love. We have the best and the worst in each sides of the extremes. No one has lived in Italy in 100 years but the traditions seem to have been past down. Makes me hate Italy.

My niece has been a hard child to wrangle since birth but a recent event leads me to worry. My niece Clair of 4 has no emotional reaction to death, pointing and jumping and smiling and giggling when she sees one of the house s pet fish died. This seemed fine because I thought it meant she was gonna be harder to tease and hurt her feeling but recently she did something awful. She recently threatened to kill one of the kids she spends time with along with his entire family, giving him night-terrors and forcing his family to intervene and calm him down while telling my sister (Claire s mom) About it. We joke around about ti but i worry that because of how hard her mom is to talk to and how stubborn she can be that claire-bear is shutting down because she thinks her mom doesnt care. Is this a bad thing or am i making mountains out of anthills?

I don;t want to make a big deal that he was alcoholic as the rest of his family didn't talk about it.

When i was 7, I accidentally came on a porn site and i have no idea how. I remembered that i wanted to watch it everyday since i had never seen anything like that before and it made me feel things. My mother, sister, brother, grandma and grandpa discovered it and i wasn t ashamed until now (now i m 16). I never had sex, not even a boyfriend since I don t care about the boys i know (they re idiots), but my mother thinks i m sexually active but i m not (she did caught me when i was 9 and 11 masturbating, i didn t really know what i was doing but i tried to follow what i saw on the screen). I m so ashamed about my past and now this.. My mother and i have a really bad relationship, and i feel judged by my WHOLE family since they think i had sex. I m saving up money to leave my family and this life behind when i m 18, i can t wait to be free from this judgmental, toxic family that gave me a not so good start in life (there happened alot of things). I just wanted to share this. are there more people like me? And does anyone have tips on what to do meanwhile?

And asks me to bring every damn time and I'm sick if it, I'm about to smash head in! How can I get him to stop forgetting his stuff, especially his wallet. That's been 3 times in 2 ******* days!

She was too scared to go first. Its just me and her and my 16 yr old sister because my parents are divorced. Ok im a male but i am the youngest. I had to walk first and go in that dark room to turn on the light while my moms behind me gripping my arm. We still dont know what the noise was becuse theyre was nothing in the room but I could have been murdered.

Toby watches porn on the same computer that My husband uses for work and his little sister uses for school. He's 18 so I don't actually really care that he watches it but I don't want him watching it on the houses' shared computer where his 11 year old sister might walk in and see something sexual on the screen. He has his own personal laptop and refuses to watch his crap on that instead. He always gives the excuse "my laptop is too slow". How can I get him to stop doing this on the desktop

I hate my father. My mom, dad, and I all live in the same house. Every couple months, I call my friend who is also a pastor for guidance as to how to deal with my dad bc he's an asshole and my mom doesn't give very good advice. She gives the best advice! In their marriage, she is powerless and either doesn't want to see it or is in denial

My real name is Lee yes I'm serious and I'd like for this to have happened

My dad makese buy food for me and his son. So whatever I buy, I don't share. I feed my little brother and buy him things he likes but I'm mad that my dad makes me buy everything. From food to even cleaning products. I used to keep the water I bought in the kitchen. Now I keep it in my room. I have so much resentment. I'm expected to bare my own weight and pay for everything but can't make any true decisions. My dad hasn't called a plumber for toilets that won't flush for 6 months. I have to pee in the tub and go to the supermarket or my job to poo. He won't give me his taxes so I can go to school for free. I have to pester him for weeks to get one simple thing done but he expects me to not procrastinate and do all his errands on time. He would rather focus on his businesses than this falling house. So for me to have to pay for cleaners for his mess pisses me off. Am I being unreasonable? Am I displacing my anger because I'm in a crummy house that makes me sick to my stomach? I can't tell my father anything about what he does that upsets me. I can understand why my mom left him after they came here from Cuba.