Family: Question: What is this person to me?

Question: What is this person to me?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 02:07 PM PDT

My aunt is my half blood aunt. She is married which means he is my uncle. He is not blood related to me. What is his brother to me?

Question: Relationship problem with new wife?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:57 PM PDT

i started seeing a girl and she got pregnant withing 5 weeks of us dating, her family are highly religious so we decided to get married but im struggling with it, she doesnt let me have a second to myself. the baby is 9 months old now and she is beautiful but the mother is trying to control me telling me what i can and cant do she is very jealous, she is from a very poor family and i am a very wealthy business man, she doesnt even let me leave the house with out her, i just feel like iv had enough now. shes the nicest person in the entire world and a fantatstic mother but the intelligence gap between us is just too much she doesnt have a clue about anything i talk about half the time, she was brought up in church school and only studied bible so something bad happens its "gods will" i dont have a clue what to do. she doesnt let me go out with anywhere she will cry her eyes out if i want to speak to someone other than her, shes not aggressive at all or argumentative i just cant stand it, im pretty much retired at 38 so i dont have to go to work so she just wants it to be me her, baby and her family 24/7. first week i brought our house we had all her family over staying. its just too much. it would kill her if i leave her and i dont want to leave my baby but im not remotely in love with her although im fond. i dont even know if there is a solution to this or just im airing my situation as i live in a foreign country where no one else speaks english im here alone going insane

Question: Am I a big loser, I'm 33 and have no direction after a bad accident?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:29 PM PDT

I always feel like I'm starting over. I met a crazy ex, and had to move out and start over after she almost ruined my life. I moved into a rental, and it turned into a bad situation so I decided to move and start over again. Then things were going so good, until some lady T-Boned me, totaled my car, and put me in the hospital. On top of that the cops gave me a DUI because they're ruthless around here and I had a bad concussion (I don't even drink). So now I have to pay for a lawyer, can't renew my lease because I was running a successful business and it's been shut down for a month and may even go under. So I'll have to start another business, but I took a huge financial hit by shutting it down. Also, I got some pick up work at Ruby's, but I'm 33 and everyone is female and younger than me, like 18. I feel like such a loser, and I have really bad headache's now after the accident which is affecting my ability to work in general. Am I a loser? What should I do? I have a college education but it seems hard to find jobs in my area. I'm thinking of doing car sales, but I don't even know what I'm doing anymore at this point. Can I have some advice?

Question: Should I cut my family out my life?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:28 PM PDT

Hey, I know most of you will say bloods thicker than water and should stick by family but I don't think that applies to me. I'm so different from my family, like we're completely different and we don't get on because if it. They're all very and I mean very judgemental and two faced about absolutely everyone. I'm the one they hate in the fam as they think I'm a weirdo ha because I'm not like them. They look down on me and belittle me with everything. Also make fun of me but they sugar coat it so its like a backhanded compliment sorta thing. We were all out for my mums birthday dinner today and I was talking about how I've got a few trial shifts this week for bartending and everyone just made a face to each other then my sister started bragging about how her son has applied for so and so this week and everyone was like "oh wow I hope he gets something" I've put up with this all my life. Being looked down upon, the one that doesn't matter in the fam. Like I get used also for like babysitting my brothers cats while he goes on holiday or watch my sisters kids, that's the only time that they're "nice" to me until I've done my duties for them, then they go back to being cruel to me. I'm deciding to just cut them off, we don't even like each other so what's the point in forcing it. I'm taking stand for myself to not put up with people like that I'm my life. I have a lot of self worth to let myself be treated like this family or not.

Question: I think my dad might kill me and my family. What should I do?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:21 PM PDT

My dad has mental problems and he's been in and out of the mental hospital multiple times. He has a ton of outbursts and he has a lot of anger toward myself, my sister & my mom—he blames us for all of his problems in life and has a ton of anger and hatred towards us. Last night, he and my mom had a huge fight (way bigger than "normal") and now my sister and I are scared that he's going to hurt us or maybe even kill us. We tell our mom that we're scared he might do something, but she's in denial and says "he wouldn't do that." I know what he's capable of, he nearly punched me in the face for no reason once when he was having a psychotic outburst and I was only 16 at the time. His family doesn't live in the same state as us & they don't want him at their house so sending him to live with them isn't an option. If you have any suggestions about what I could do or say to my mom so that this doesn't happen, please comment. I'm open to all suggestions. Thank you.

Question: How to declare war on siblings?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:20 PM PDT

I found out about a musical and watched it but my brother found out and told my mom and my mom said its inappropriate for my age. I am very mad at my brother and want to declare war. What are some ways to do this?

Question: What do I do if my mom is keeping me from passing highschool?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:05 PM PDT

My grandma is dying and we have been taking care of her. I have to pass this one class to graduate and I am having a REALLY hard time understanding it. I have a month left. My grandma might live 1 more month in her current state. My mom has no job. My job is to pass highschool. The stress is killing me. My medical conditions are making it harder and harder. I am behind but if I do work everyday I will just make it. My mom screams and says I am not her daughter. She is an alcoholic and all I want is to do my work. My grandma is hard to take care of but my mom and I both agreed I should do class now due to it's difficulty. I don't have time to do anything.

Question: So I be so protective over my Mom & my sisters?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 12:31 PM PDT

Because of an accident (almost 8 months) that took both my father & my brother I am the only male left in the house( I'm 12)! I find myself wanting to be protective when my sisters bring their boyfriends over. As well as when strange men come up to my mom. Am I right or wrong to want to be protective? I feel like I'm only doing what my Dad would want me to do. But I wonder if I'm doing the right, or the wrong thing

Question: Does it bother you to have a family that is always asking for help?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 12:20 PM PDT

I have an uncle from my side who keeps telling what to do. help your dad with his business, blablabla. well I'm an adult and I have my own job. A demanding sister who keeps telling me to help my dad when he is sick. Ironically she never even asked my dad when he is sick. And I waited beside my dad when he was sick in a hospital and my sister was busy doing his "demanding" career. it is just on my nerve that those people told me what to do but they never do anything to me, ironically. so F#$# them? @janet: a real adult knows when they have a bossy relative. Why don't they are the one who helps my dad rather than me?

Question: My significant other doesnt want me to have anything to do with my sister . i agree but its hard. Any advice ?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 12:03 PM PDT

My s/o doesn't like my sister mainly because shes trouble. my sister and i have been through alot such as foster care and etc and we basically have stuck together. My sister will get upset with you and then all hell breaks loose. she goes on this rant about how you are never there for her, she talks bad about you to other family members and etc. This usually happens EVERY YEAR. so the last time she basically got upset with me for something so small as me trying to help her and my mother repair their relationship because they are always into it. she calls me a trader then goes on fb talking bad about me like calling me fat and telling people that my husband doesn't want me, she then texts my husband that im cheating on him (which wasnt true) she talked bad about me to family, she tried to talk bad about my parenting, i blocked her she basically emailed me, texted me from different numbers and etc basically harrassing me. My husband got upset with her and told her to stay away from me forever and he doesn't really like her around me because she does stuff like this all the time. I feel like because shes my sister its hard to just not talk to her but i always forgiver her and she does something crazy again and again and again. we are adults for godsake and this has been going on since we were teens. Shes 28 and im 26. even if her childs father upset her she will go full force and start cursing me out, my mother and etc out of nowhere. she also never admits when shes wrong.

Question: I learned my great-uncle's wife was married before him and divorced. When the great-uncle dies can I, should I, share this to his kids?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 11:42 AM PDT

It is not a close great-uncle but I see him at reunions and funerals. I saw him at a reception recently with my grandfather after a funeral for a non-relative. I told him I saw on ancestry.com "Previous marriages 1" on the wedding certificate and he said "no one is supposed to know about that". He told me the story and said "when I die you can tell my kids". His wife's background was that she died when I was 12 and I only met her on two occasions. She was a severe alcoholic and he came home with the son from a weekend trip and she was dead. He has since remarried happily but was widowed again last year. So now I am 31 and just heard the great-uncle has had a massive stroke and to anticipate a funeral soon (he is 87). I am going to go to the funeral as I always do for family and so I wonder, do I tell the kids "did you know your mother was married once before"? Do I do it at the funeral reception or wait? Or do I leave it a secret forever? His daughter is close to us as she and my mother are close. The two sons don't love local and we seldom see them other then every 3 years at a reunion and that tradition has begun to fade (they have only done 1 in last 5 years).

Question: My uncle's wife holds her kids back from family members she is mad at. Is this parental alienation even though it is extended family?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 11:34 AM PDT

She does not hold them back from their father but from aunts, uncles, and cousins. Grandparents are the only ones she does not do it to. It is my uncle's wife so aunt by marriage. She does it to her in-laws and so I assume her own family as well. She holds grudges easily. None of the people pose a threat to her kids other then one 16 year old cousin who gets into trouble a lot might if they are unsupervised. Her family she is closer to but I would guess she does it there also as I know she has an estranged brother (no idea why though he has been in jail).

Question: My father likes to tell fibs a lot. Does this make him a liar?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 11:32 AM PDT

Question: My aunt claims my mother tried to hit it on with her husband, my uncle. How do I comprehend all this and know if once again aunt is lying?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 11:24 AM PDT

She did not say it to me so I heard 2nd hand. It is a mostly estranged aunt.

Question: Should i let my 17 year old daughter move with my mother for a year or two?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 10:30 AM PDT

my mother has a place up in new hampshire. we're originally from massachusetts, and when i was around 16 my mom let me live there. we all moved there and if she wasn't there she had a family friend stay over. i was a ski instructor and a candy striper at a local hospital. my daughter wants to do the same and go to school there as well, to finish junior + senior year. it's kind of different though.. i had my mother. i do trust my mom and i think she'd be fine especially cause she's old enough to make her own decisions and drive and all that. should i allow it?

Question: Working at a family business, they make fun of me?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 10:19 AM PDT

I work at a family business, they're all brothers and sisters and their dad, who hired me. Of course I'm not a family member here and sometimes I notice how they use me to have fun. sometimes I'm passing by and I hear them whispering something and then they shut up and giggle, they also like to give me stupid orders to feel superior or whatever. Right now, I wasn't doing anything because my job is to help the costumers and there are no customers so they called me to give me something stupid to do and as I got closer I saw how they were whispering something and they stopped talking and just looked somewhere else giggling :v couldn't make it more obvious than that. and just like that there have been many other stories. I'm so tired of feeling like their toy, what would you do? I can't leave this job i need it.

Question: Who job is it to make sure my dad eats?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 10:14 AM PDT

I had a huge argument with my mom because I was yesterday and did not go anywhere to get my dad something to eat. He sat here all day and did not ask me to give him something to eat. When my mom came home from work. She got angry and said why did I let my father starve. So I told her it's her job to make sure he eats if he can't go anywhere. I know I'm his son and I love him but I just don't feel like it's my job to make sure he eats. My mom could have called and see if he was hungry but she didn't care.

Question: Does anyone have a sister like this? What kind of a grown up did she turn into?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 09:45 AM PDT

My sister is 17 and sometimes I don't think she'll make it in the real world. She is taking classes to be a nurse but I don't know if she'll make it in that job really. If someone tells her to do something but someone else isn't doing anything she usually starts an argument about how that's unfair because she "works so hard". Whenever she has to do anything she'll do the bare minimal so she can go back to her phone as fast as possible (when we take the phone away she will just do something else like read a book, listen to music or pet the cats).Ex. Dishes (adds water/soap to the sink and then claims it's done), laundry (once her clothes is all dirty she'll just wear my mom's clothes even though they're too big). If we ask if she can do something she will just say "ok" and never do it (she will either say she didn't hear it or completely ignore us.) When we get upset with her about something she'll just act like we're not even in the same room, just keeps her eyes away from us while shaking her head. She does that whenever we say try to explain why we want her to do these things because she thinks ignoring it will " solve the problem".She has actually gone to bed without eating tons of times because she chose to go to sleep rather than making the family any dinner even if it's as simple as sticking burritos into the microwave ( she's too tired for that). Does this sound like anyone's sister/daughter when they were younger?

Question: HELP PLZ! Whenever I hug my brother, for some reason I start to get hard. I AM NOT GAY, BUT I DO NOT KNOW WHY I REACT LKKE THIS?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 09:43 AM PDT

Question: How do I avoid family members being aware that some anonymous posts on here are from me about them?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 09:41 AM PDT

Question: My family make 0 effort with me?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 08:56 AM PDT

So my close family is my mum & sister, we only live a mile from each other but they live across the street from one another and they see each other weekly. I try to remain in frequent contact & visit them twice weekly, for me it comes naturally to nurture relationships, especially since my dad passed away. But I've lived in my house for 3 years and both these relatives have only visited me like 4/5 times after constantly asking them to. They make excuse after excuse, the first excuses were that they're busy with their new partners (both are single now), second was they wanted to give me space to be with my new boyfriend but I said this was ridiculous & should be no excuse not to visit or make plans with me. Now their excuse is they are working & I'm not, so 'I don't understand'. I can't work because of poor health so it's exhausting for me to travel there anyway and I know what it's like to work as I've juggled multiple jobs before. Plus my mum makes tons of effort to meet everyone else but me it seems. Which is a shame because we had great times together. I tried to discuss this but they instantly became defensive & hostile. I don't understand. What should I do ?

Question: Do you go to family get togethers? Are you close to you're siblings? I'm not close to mine and I don't go to get togethers much.?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 08:56 AM PDT

Question: How can I help my mom with her nightmares?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 08:53 AM PDT

My mom was beaten and abused by my dad. I never knew about it into she showed up at my house in the pouring rain past midnight. Since then, we have went to court and my dad is now in jail. But she still is scared he break out. She told me "I m scared that he will break out and come for us, James." She still stays with me, and she wakes up every night screaming and crying from nightmares about my dad. Last night she even wet the bed. I don t know what to do. I m trying to comfort her, but it s not working. Any advice?

Question: Does my mom caring more about honesty/trust have to do with my sister?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 08:42 AM PDT

I'm a 13 year old girl. My older sister was apparently troubled and lied a lot. She did some really bad things that got her suspended in middle school. Nowadays, my mom keeps talking about Trust. Not referring to anyone specific, she keeps discussing how no one believes a person who lies all the time. She didn't talk to my sister about this in the beginning. But once I was old enough to understand (and by the time my sister began doing those things), my mom became extra strict on me.

Question: My brother treats me like a slave?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 08:37 AM PDT

I'm 13 and he is 16 he always makes me make him food and serve him left and right. Sometimes when he comes home from sports hen makes me give him a foot and back massage. I told my parents and they don't even care. When his girlfriend comes over he treats me even worse. What should I do?

Question: My dad was an alcoholic when I was born, id like to find info on him and his life?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 07:38 AM PDT

Question: Do you go to family get togethers? Are you close to you're siblings? I don't have a relationship with mine.?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 07:19 AM PDT

Question: I found a pair of my pink panties in my brothers room...?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 06:57 AM PDT

Ok so they were missing fir like a week do I looked in his room and I found them. It had sticky white stuff all over the inside where my vertical smile goes. So I think he's using it to you know, **** and spank like people say. Do I confront him about it or just wash them ...

Question: I'm the inspiration for all his photos.?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 06:42 AM PDT

So is it ok that my little brother takes every pic on his phone of me? Is he just my biggest fan like he says it is it a little creepy? He loves it when I'm in my bikini, and when I try in clothes with my friends. One time I was coming out of the shower and my towel almost fell off but he said he deleted that one do it's ok. I'm 13. No rude answers.

Question: Why do I need to piss my life away working full time when if I am not able to get dates and won't have kids etc?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 04:45 AM PDT

My dad was an engineer just like me. He worked my mom did not and he paid for me and my sister to go to college and supported the family a lot. We went on vacations etc. Money was tight but still he was able to provide a lot. I don't have to worry about having kids etc thus saving me probably a million dollars. If I just worked part time I could support myself and have free time to pursue my interests and hobbies. I also have a few business ideas I don't have time to work on them now wasting so much time working.

Question: Should I visit my oldest brother more?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:34 AM PDT

I'm a 20 year old guy and I have 4 older brothers they are 21-31. My oldest brother doesn't live with us. I don't understand why he doesn't live us. I know his relationship with our father isn't great. I only see him like on Christmas. My birthday was in June and he only said "happy birthday lil bro" on Facebook and that's it. He did not come to visit us. I love him but it feel likes he isn't really part of the family. He live about 20 mind away so not super far. He doesn't have a Good job and has money issues and stuff so I know his life isn't the best but he's always been nice to me. I kinda want to visit him because I like him more than the brothers I live with. I don't have a car and I cAn uber there. Should I try to visit him more? it doesn't seem like the rest of my brothers cares about him.

Question: My brother antagonizes me constantly and no not just small things.?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 01:25 AM PDT

he goes in my room takes things, wrecks my room, calls me *****, fag, whatever u think of hes said to me. he hits my parents, me, and everyone else in the house, and then when i get aggressive towards him (pushing ti the ground, yelling at him, kicking him out of my room) i feel guilty but at the same time dont know what else to do to cope with such a mentally instable child im 15 he is 12. what should i do to cope with this but still keep a superior look because i dont need him thinking im scared of him or he owns me because he can do whatevet he does.

Question: Do I have the right to smack my 16 year old sisters hands after I caught her stealing from me?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 12:57 AM PDT

Question: What would you rate this guy and girl?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 12:55 AM PDT

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Question: Over protective parents?

Posted: 10 Jul 2018 12:28 AM PDT

So I am a 23 yr old woman and I'm trying to see if my parents are over protective. I'm a student graduating in a few months and I'm engaged. I'm very clear with the rule of " my house my rules" even though I pay rent. I help around the house with the cleaning and taking care of my brothers. The thing is that I noticed things are different between my brothers and I. If I want to go out I'm still expected to ask for permission mean while my 20 yr old brother and just yell I'm going out with my gf and not come back until later on at night. They still want to give me a curfew. My brothers hate cleaning the house so I'm stuck with that as well. My parents will tell them to do so but they will just stay on their cell phone or playing video games. To be honest I've actually stopped helping as I used to because I just don't find it fair that I have to do my brothers beds and pick up their dirty clothes. If I don't clean for example I might be working on a paper for school I'll still have my parents telling me you are the woman you need to need. I'm not saying they are bad people I love them to death I just want to know am I just being sentitive to the whole idea and have to "man up" to it or are they just not being fair? My fiancé and I are planning on getting married as soon as I finish school also because he just doesn't really like how things are at my house. I just want someone else's opinion from a different point of view. Thank you for your time.

Question: How do I stop swearing at my parents?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 11:36 PM PDT

Every time I get mad at my parents I always swear at them and say mean things but that's because they never listen to me and I feel like the only way they do is if I do what I said. But I feel so disrespectful and guilty after I say that stuff to them because I love them so much but I'm tired of them always interrupting me when I'm trying to say something or when we're just having a small disagreement. Our small disagreements always become big ones because they never let me say what I want to say. They always say what they want to say and then they say "this conversation is over". I just don't see how that's fair?? So I swear at them and that's the only time they somewhat listen. What should I do?

Question: Do you go to family get togethers? Do you get along with you're siblings? I don't really have a relationship with mine.?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 10:42 PM PDT

I have 1 brother and 1 sister. I'm the oldest and I don't have a realtionship with them. We do help eachother out when its needed but it doesn't get us closer. There is no drama with us. I just think if they don't ever try to call me then why should I. I recently stopped going to get togethers. I just don't see why I should go. I may see them on mothers day and that's it. Both my parents are divorced. I have a decent relationship with them. Thats all that matters to me.

Question: My cousin never has money?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 10:20 PM PDT

recently we had a bbq for the 4th of July. So my mom asked us all to give her $20 bucks towards it. There is my two sisters, my cousin and then me. I'm kinda broke I make the least of us all I only make minimum wage but I did manage to buy a few drinks. Both my sisters gave her money . My cousin did not. He says that it's because he had s car accident recently and have to pay a $1000 deductible. This is true but my oldest sister feels that he is using us. Because he makes around 22 bucks an hour which is more than all of us. I don't know what to really think. He does make a lot more but he's always broke. He also cant go a cousins wedding because he won't have money to buy a outfit. I would help him but I only have 20 bucks. My question is does my sister have a right to be angry? Is he a user?

Question: I have an issue with my father he treats me unfairly?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 10:11 PM PDT

Few years ago he got in to a finicial problem I stood by him and took a bank loan to help him out and now I'm struggling with life I have bills to pay and other stuff and he won't even help me with money when I asked him for help he says your money is save with me I don't want you to throw your money away that's what he says coz I've been spending money a lot but it's unfair to me the way he treats me I'm really pissed I told him that I'll find away and I won't turn back to him and I failed to find a solution now I have to go back bagging for him to help me when I know he could I'm really pissed and angey

Question: What does it mean to love someone like a cousin?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 09:48 PM PDT

When a boy cousin says to a girl cousin that I love you like a cousin, what does that mean exactly? To love means to feel protective, care, etc? I have never experienced a cousin love so I don't quite understand what this means sadly

Question: Please read fast! bug emergency!?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 09:44 PM PDT

ok so i was in my room at night and i share a room with my sister. my sister is asleep, and im watching videos online. all of the sudden, a Japanese beetle lands on my phone. i slam my phone down hard on my bed, but now i can't go to sleep, since its in my bed. i cant lift up my phone, for fear it will still be alive. and i cant kill it, cause the lights need to be off so i dont wake up my sister. please help it is currently 12:41 am. bug under my phone in my bed! what do i do ok i found out its not a japanese beetle, its a kissing beetle, which is more terrifying. im hiding in the bathroom with my laptop. i miss my phone :((

Question: Do you go to family get togethers? Are you close to you're siblings?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 08:31 PM PDT

I recently decided to stop going to family get togethers. I have no relationship with my siblings. We could live 10 mins away from eachother and never see eachother. Yes we may help eachother out but it doesnt get us closer. My sister just had a cook out. It went ok but it was my first time seeing her and my brother since thanksgiving. I may see them twice a year but we never call eachother. Right now my brother lives 10 mins away. We dont even talk to eachother. We can get along but since he never calls or texts me I don't call him. Same with my sister. Also my sister lived close and it was the same thing. Yes they can ignore me. I just don't see why I have to go to family get togethers. I do stuff with my mom and dad. They are both divorced right now but I see them still and talk.

Question: How can i escape my house ? help?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 08:28 PM PDT

im 17 and i hate my living situation with my parents. i talked to my friends mother whom lives in a different state told me i can move in. my mom WONT LET ME LEAVE she says i can move when im 18 which makes no sense. 17 and 18 arent far different ages. im sick of all the stress and torment in my house and i just wanna get AWAY. everyday my mom tells me if i dont like it here then i can get the fxck out. and when i finally found a place shes wont let me leave. i hate this so much i swear to god if i live in his house any longer im going to commit suicide

Question: Should I let my 12 year old daughter hang out with a girl who is in foster care?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 07:16 PM PDT

My main worry is for my daughter's safety. This girl lives with other foster kids, many of whom are older teens. I don't know what her friend has been exposed to. However, children from dysfunctional homes are very likely to participate in risky activities. They go to school together. It was one thing to hang out during school hours, but hanging out in the summer and texting on social media?? I can't keep an eye on them 24/7. I can usually trust teachers and admins to make sure things go well but school is over. Even if her friend is not putting her at risk, note that this young girl has exposure to older foster teens (many of whom she doesn't know herself, they come and go as they move to different places). She doesn't know/remember each and every kid who comes. Her foster parents seem very loving and kind. They understand our concern about not knowing which kids are a danger, which ones aren't, etc.

Question: I really miss my father but I can't because he's dead any tips to help get it off my mind?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 06:50 PM PDT

I'm 12 and my father passed away on November 26th 2013 when I was 7 a day before my mother's birthday he wasn't my blood father he took care of me when my biological father chose drugs over me and I'm really missing him and it hurts that I can't hug him I just want him here if I got to see him one last time that;s all I'd ever want for 1 present forever I don't know what to do I just really miss him...

Question: My mom reached out to him behind my back?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 06:03 PM PDT

Long story short, things recently ended between me and a guy I was seeing for a while now. We were on bad terms for about a week and I had so much on my chest but was not able to get it out since he wasn't ready to talk, so I was not myself at all. My mom and I are very close, she knew about everything throughout the time we were together, both the good and the bad, she loved him from the minute she met him, etc. Recently, with everything going on, I've had a whole range of emotions. I got to a point where I almost had an anxiety attack and I've shed lots of tears. Him and I are on good terms now that we finally had the space that was needed and got to talk things out in person, BUT he told me something I had to promise him I would not repeat. My mother reached out to him telling him how disappointed she was, how hurt she could tell I was, and basically sticking up for me saying how loyal and honest I was even after some of the things I was put through. She told him over and over not to tell me because she knew I'd be upset. I am LIVID. I am 21 years old and can handle my own battles. I know she was looking out for me and hates seeing me get hurt, but seriously?! I don't know what to do because it is eating me alive and I can't even talk to her about it. I can't talk to anyone in my family because I'm afraid it'll get back to her, then back to him. But now I can't even trust my own mother. What do I do?

Question: How can I move out at 16?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:50 PM PDT

So basically me and my mom can't stand each other she's constantly on me and expects perfection out of me while she expects nothing out of my brother but yet she does stupid **** like getting back together with my alcoholic stepdad but basically I can't stay here anymore she keeps threatening to send me to live with my grandparents but that's in a whole other city and I'm in my senior year of high school and I'm in a cosmetology program and I'm almost done but if she sends me away I can't finish and I don't have any other career paths how can I stay in this town without living with her at 16?

Question: My dad is mad about me moving out? advice?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:29 PM PDT

Hi so i'm 18 and just got accepted for my dream job as cabin crew! :D for this job you must live within 2 hours of heathrow and gatwick airport and at the moment i live more than 4 hours away so i've decided to move in with my aunt in the city. Even if I hadn't got the job I would have moved out back to the city I was born as the countryside is beautiful but can be very boring for a young adult. When I broke the news to my dad he got very angry, because the aunt is my mothers side of the family and he hates her. It's sad because i don't want a bad relationship with him. Also the move will make me so much happier as I miss the beach and the city and my friends in the city. Where I currently live I hardly leave my house and me and my dad constantly argue. I just don't want him to disown me and I'm looking for advice on how to make him less cold towards me? Thanks. Please don't respond saying things like; "he can't stop you moving out you're 18" or anything harsh.

Question: What is a reasonable curfew for a 13 year old girl who is at her Aunts house with her cousins?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:17 PM PDT

So I was at my aunts house and my dad thinks I should be home by 10, but I said bc I was at my aunts and uncles house with my cousins I can stay out later. And my dad's house is right next store to my aunts so I think I should be able to stay out until 12 at least and remember that I am hanging out with. What time do you think is fair? Thanks.

Question: What is a reasonable curfew for a 13 year old girl who is at her Aunts house with her cousins?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:07 PM PDT

So I was at my aunts house and my dad thinks I should be home by 10, but I said bc I was at my aunts and uncles house with my cousins I can stay out later. And my dad's house is right next store to my aunts so I think I should be able to stay out until 12 at least and remember that I am hanging out with. What time do you think is fair? Thanks.

Question: How can I cope with my boyfriends mom taking care of his Ex girlfriends other children from different men ?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:07 PM PDT

Been dating this guy for 6 years, had a child at 14. His mom started raising the child since both idiots didnt know how to go out parenting. The child is now 12, seems like shes the boss of her grandma.. suggesting to invite her other 4 siblings to her home who are not my boyfriends children nor the grandmothers grandkids. Im kind of possessive i dont like that shes letting those children stay at her home for weeks. My boyfriend hates that idea has expressed it to his mom that how can he take care of kids from a woman who hurt him? She says she feels bad for them because her mom is a druggie who does not even feed them. Well call CPS on her .!!! I thought about yelling to his mom but how can i kindly tell her thats a bad idea they are going to get used to her hospitality & expect more. Boyfriends child is prohibited by her mom to go to her other siblings grandparents so shes confused and i dont know what to say. "Well your grandmother is Mother Teresa" haha any ideas? No stupid answers please smh

Question: I can hear, but not understand. Parent disagrees?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:04 PM PDT

What do I do? My parent does not believe me. He says "what" whenever I say something to irritate me, to seem like he has hearing problems. It embarasses me when I keep on having to tell strangers I can t hear them after several times, so now I just smile. I had ear infections every few weeks when I was younger until 9 maybe? And I got that ear surgery thing. Could that have caused it? Is there a way to even help me?

Question: I keep hearing loud clapping noises from my sons room?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 05:00 PM PDT

I got home from work yesterday around 9 PM, i went to bed, but next door in my sons room, i keep hearing loud clapping noises. I wen to his room to see what was going on. He said everything was fine, i saw what i think was a shampoo bottle below his chair, it kinda made me suspicous of what he was doing. Im confused and don't know what to do, do any of you guys experience this?

Question: Should I trade bedrooms?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 04:51 PM PDT

Me and my brother were very close from the time I was born. He was 10 years older than me. At age 9 he was 19 and joined the service. I remember going into his room every day and crying. When I was 11 I was told he was MIA and I didn't understand what that meant at the time. I use to go into his room and sit on the bed. When he was gone for the first time I played video games in his room. When I turned 11 i stopped playing in his room because I felt like I couldn't move anything. I joined lots of things but being an 11 year old girl with no real answers my anxiety spiked. I lost all my friends. I'm 16 now and they still don't know where my brother is. My mom is pregnant for the first time since me. My dad is deployed and I can't ask him. My mom gave me 2 options. I can have my brothers room and pack all his stuff up and my new sibling have his room or she pack all his stuff up and I take his room and new sibling takes my room. I have the taller room but their the same size. I'm confused and my school counselor can't make time to talk to me. My mom doesn't understand why i can't just answer her. She's due in 4 months so my new siblings needs a room. I feel like I'm at a lost. I quit going in there because I felt like he would be coming any day. If he comes home and his room is gone I would feel awful especially if all his stuff is gone. What should i do? Should I trade rooms or let my new sibling take his room. Like either way I would feel awful.

Question: Are my parents horrible for this?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 04:15 PM PDT

So, when I was 18 they bought me a dildo. But my mom told a few of her friends about getting me a dildo, a few family members, she used her sisters account to buy the dildo and when the package came it had my little sisters name on it.

Question: Every time I'm with my dad he criticizes everything I do and is never happy with me?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 04:13 PM PDT

My parents got divorces 6 years ago when I was 12 and ever since then I've been living with my mom. I'm the youngest and the eldest is 15. I'm now 19 applying for universities and every time I hang out with my dad he gets mad that I don't ask him about uni related stuff and criticizes how anti social I am. He keeps insisting that I am a certain way whatever he is criticizing me about and never really gives me a chance to talk and he repeats himself so so many times and I find it so annoying and draining. I've noticed that I have cut hanging out with him short cause I swear not an hour passes without him criticizing everything I do. I don't know if he thinks I'm failing in life and that he needs to be harsh on me or if he doesn't feel involved in my life enough or if he simply wants me to improve. Either way it never ever helps. I always feel wrong and it just makes me so sad. I love him and I know he loves me but I just want at least one day where I could genuinely enjoy his company, no criticism no nothing. I want a day with him where it isn't about the wrong things I do or how irresponsible I am or whatever. Has anyone gone through this before? How did you cope with this? eldest is 25 not 15 sorry

Question: I want my cousins out of MY house how do I get over this? Any suggestions that will help me?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 04:00 PM PDT

So I'm 12 and my cousins are 13 (their twins just not look alike) and they have been here since July 3rd and are leaving on the 15th it's the 9th for me and I'm just really upset anything that could help calm myself before I go and yell at them? I've been really nice and I really just can't much of this anymore they eat around my lap top that I payed for, take stuff without my permission like things that mean something to me and they took my slime I don't care about that but they were bringing it downstairs and I have animals 6 of them I don't want them getting sick and they leave things out. I had to sleep on the hallway floor yesterday because my cousin was taking up my bed and my Aunt and her other 2 daughters were sleeping on the couch. They leave drinks and food in my room I asked my cousin to put her 2 old day tea downstairs before we were about to go to bed her response was "Can't I just pour it in the bathroom sink?" It may be a sink but it's a sink for water only and I don't feel like getting ants cause she wanted to throw away her food in there too. I said "No I don't want to get ants." and she was throwing a fit over it their not responsible, they don't clean up after themself's, take things that mean something without my permission, I've only gotten 3 hours of sleep a day and I'm getting tired I can't wait till they go back home ( I know it's really rude but still. ) Do you have any suggestions that would help till they can go back home?

Question: How should have my mother dealt with her employee?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 03:49 PM PDT

our family had a babysitter working for us. She was the babysitter for me since I was 7 years old. But my mom kept her until I was an adult (until 30!!). but of course, she did not work as a babysitter anymore since I was 15 years old. Rather she became more like a housemaid (she cooked and mop the floor). When I was 27 years, I came back to home and sometimes I had to work from home (sometimes I had to meet a client so I went out a lot as well). This babysitter was still there (she was like 56 years old). She was very rude and disrespectful to me. Like one time, I was working with my computer at home and she came to me asking "how do you get money (my name)? you don't work" or another time when I was in my home office, she said "why are you in the room all the time?"..... of course she is very uneducated and did not know that computer is used for work. I was an engineer anyway... so I use computer for making reports and doing 3D designs. Sometimes she got on my nerve most of the time by asking rude and stupid questions like that. My mom kept her until she was 60 years old and she just left without telling us that she was quitting. So my mom never fired her. She said she was going to his sister house and she never came back. I told my mom many many times about her attitude but my mom didn't do much about her bad mouthing. How should have mom dealt with her? no childish comment for under age teens.... this is serious question!! oh btw, why I went home? I have to help my mom because my dad has a brain disease called parkinson. I work from home because I can keep an eye on him. @? & Pearl: nope she knew what I do. she was just trying to annoy me with those rude questions.....

Question: Do you go to family get togethers? Are you close to you're siblings?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 03:03 PM PDT

I don't have a close relationship with my siblings. I'm the oldest and I have a brother and sister. Sure we help eachother out with stuff. We just aren't close and never will be. Its just how it is. I recently decided to stop going to family get togethers.

Question: Isn’t it weird that my sister tries dresses and ask me if she looks attractive?

Posted: 09 Jul 2018 03:00 PM PDT

I don't know if she's attractive or not. I don't see her that way. She's like a dude to me.