Family: Question: My cousins don't want me on Facebook or Instagram. How do I get over the rejection?

Question: My cousins don't want me on Facebook or Instagram. How do I get over the rejection?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 01:32 PM PDT

They are nice to my face but for a time as teens played the game of "my enemy is your enemy" and disliked me because their bitter mother wouldn't talk to my bitter mother. I don't see why I need to be punished cause out mothers are disgusting that way. So how do I get over the rejection.

Question: My mother is a narcissist and a lunatic. She hates me but loves my sisters. She gets my Granny to hate me. How do I win her back for family?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 01:22 PM PDT

I hate her for what she has done to me but I love the rest of the family yet they hate me because of my Mom's comments about me. My Mom hates me because I don't feed her ego and make her feel perfect. I can't meet up to her demands or I would. She hates me and my Dad goes along with it cause he fears her (he won't grow balls and stand up for me). Now my granny hates me cause my Mom tells her lies or things that are none of her business and she believes cause it is her daughter. It really hurts to be hated by Mom. I was adopted as a baby and so my birth-mother already abandoned me. I sometimes want to kill myself cause of it.

Question: Please help? My mom is burning a bridge in our relationship?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 01:15 PM PDT

My mom has mental issues, I think so and s he has menopause. She berates me and my dad evryday and is very emotionally abusive and has gotten violent towards evryone at home multiple times. I'm thinking of reporting this to someone. My mom has threatened me and my dad and would say stuff like 'I hope you die, you should kill yourslef' I want to report this to th e police or someone. That's NOT ok. That is abuse. My mom today grabbed me and pinched me, and t he n she started to yell at me afterwards. She does this for no reason by starting fights everyday with me and my dad. Also my mom paid for my sister's education and I'm in school at a university now and my mom is threatening to not pay it even it's much cheaper. She paid for my sisters education even though it is much more expensive! This is burning a bridge in our relationship. I'm thinking of going to the domestic abuse center or poloce and do something she had NO right to hit people and make death threats. She has started fights with my dad and has threatened to cal th e police if he simply reacted even though she provoked the whole thing. What do I do?

Question: Should I take my daughter to a nudist resort?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 01:11 PM PDT

Question: Help! I think my brother is becoming a nazi?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 12:56 PM PDT

My younger brother is a junior in college and he lives about 2 hours away. For the past 6 months or so he s been getting more and more into facism/nazi stuff. He s becoming more racist and sexist and has started buying into those ultratraditionalist views. He knows I m into philosophy and he talks to me about these books he buys by guys like Evola who was a "superfacist nazi." That s what scares me the most, he s not just a stupid pos redneck, he s getting into it from an intellectual standpoint. I don t know what to do to change his horrifying world views!

Question: Why did she blame me when she was the reason why I left our school project? ):?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 12:43 PM PDT

I was friends with this girl and I had always been there for her. We had a really bad argument once but I forgave her long ago. Now we were supposed to do a project together and I was doing my best to help out everyone because we didn't have much time..... She went behind my back and told my best friend that I'm bossy, mean rude and manipulative. That I'm making all of them look stupid. I never had any of these intentions....I wasn't comfortable working on the topic of their project so I told them that but they never listened...... ): We had a series of arguments...where they took my seriousness as a JOKE and my JOKES as serious. Anyway....I changed groups after that... because I was hurt... how could someone that you cared about so much... just betray you after all you've done for them? She found out and called me selfish, said I never cared and told me to never speak to her again..... why did she blame me when she was the reason why I left?.... She told me nobody wanted me in the group anyway....... ): All I wanted was just to be there for everyone...I didn't want to hurt anyones' feelings...I'm just upset that she discussed me behind my back when she could have told me in person...but no she had to talk behind my back... Her other friends also blamed me...they said it was all of my fault and that I had a problem.....I only left because I didn't belong...because they didn't want me to be part of their group they just wanted to use me......I left because they didn't respect me....and because she spoke about me behind my back....

Question: Too old for sibling?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 12:31 PM PDT

So I'm 16 and my mom just found out she was pregnant. Kids don't stop being *** holes until like 12 and I'd be almost 30 when he turns that age. We won't have anything in common. Its almost like I'm a dad to him. How am I going to cope with this? Also my other siblings are 10,11 and 18 so by the time the kid gets out of highschool were all going to have kids probably and that's weird. I don't know if I'm ready for this because I have friends I like to hang out with and were going to be a "quiet house for the next 2 years. Not to mention that she's already strict with friends. This is terrible! Any advice?

Question: Can I have a quinces if I'm half puerto rican?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 12:25 PM PDT

My Mom and Papa are both half puerto rican. My mom wanted a quinces when she was turning 15 but she never had one because my grandma couldn't afford it. I talk to my mom about a quinces and she said I could have one. My dad, never grew up with any hispanic traditions even though my abuelo is full blood Puerto Rican. When I asked my abuelo about helping me plan my quinces, she didn't know what it was at first! His family was poor while growing up, and he had a ton of siblings. I have never met my abuelo on my moms side because he left. My friend is half Columbian and she will be having a quinces, but I feel like hers will be more traditonal since her mom is full columbian, and both of my parents are just half.

Question: How do you forgive your sister in law for stealing money from her elder mother ?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 12:08 PM PDT

And also the sister in law's son as well stole from her.....;(

Question: How do i keep my son from his father my sons father is living a double life how can i keep him from his father?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 12:06 PM PDT

Question: Tomorrow is parent teacher night at my middle school. My mom is going and I told her a bunch of lies about two of my teachers and how they,?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 11:45 AM PDT

Love me so much. She says she's going to visit them, and I don't want to get caught in a lie. How do I stop her from going to visit them?

Question: My cousin called me and I am nervous about calling back out of fear of rejection. He wants to pick up something I have for him, what do I do?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 11:32 AM PDT

My Mom convinced me as a kid I'd been rejected by family. This was NOT the case and my mother was abusive. However, the fear I feel is still there when I hear from family even 35 years later.

Question: My sister is jealous when her brother (me) gets something she doesn't. How do I rub it in her nose when I get ahead of her in life?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 11:27 AM PDT

Question: How do I tell my sister I don’t want her 2 year old at my birthday?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 11:09 AM PDT

So, my birthday is on the 6th. (October if you're reading this later). My sister is coming up, and it probably means she'll bring her two year old son with her. He always touches my stuff. Before you comment on that, I know, he's two, but here's more info. He breaks everything he touches. Literally everything. My expensive stylus that works on literally all screens? Ahh, let's rip off the part that makes it like that. Amiibo? Let's pull the sword out of his hand. And he tries to put on my clothes and shoes. And I wouldn't be surprised if he blew out my candles and unwrapped my own presents too.

Question: Why do people say that when you get into a second marriage, you should put your spouse first and your kids second?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 11:09 AM PDT

I understand that you should show your kids what a healthy marriage looks like and all, but you can very well do that without having to play the favorites game. What if your spouse, during the wedding vows, promised to give you the world and then three years later, did a complete 180? What if he/she turned into a drunken, abusive, violent idiot that beat your kids on a regular basis? If anyone (including my spouse) laid so much as one finger on my kids, I would break every bone in their body. So how come people believe this BS?

Question: How to stop hooking up with my boyfriend's best friend?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 10:53 AM PDT

I met my boyfriend's friend at my college and every since than we been In love. We than started hooking up now whenever my boyfriend leaves the room I start kissing his friend..once I give him oral once my boyfriend was asleep..I'm very sexually attracted to his friend and am kind of obsessed with him..but I do love my boyfriend so how to stop?

Question: Why is my brother's wife doing this to me?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 10:43 AM PDT

My brother's wife has large boobs. She likes to show a LOT of cleavage. Strangely, my brother is OK with that. At our parent's home, she will bend over in front of me and say "Don't look at my boobs". How could I not look at them when they are 6 inches away from my face? I just say "OK". That is really strange behavior. Other times she will bend over in front of me to give me something and then say "Did something come up". I always truthfully tell her no. I have NO sexual interest in my brother's wife EVER. I wonder why she is acting this way. Is she flirting with me or possibly just teasing me? Anyone have any ideas why she is doing this to me?

Question: Leashes on kids?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 10:26 AM PDT

What's your guys opinions on this and did you ever have one as a child?

Question: Which word is correct? "Grandi" or "Granny"?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 09:51 AM PDT

Question: My dad is a Republican and he thinks that lawyers and most democrats should be executed. Is he mentally unstable?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 09:01 AM PDT

Why would he think that? He disagreed with a democrat in his local newspaper and said "He's horrible, they need to execute him."

Question: My uncle chews his wife out like she is a dog. He yells at his kids and grandchildren. What kinds of things make someone this mean?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:57 AM PDT

Question: Mom and aunt are in a war with each other. My aunt comes to town this weekend. I am scared people will think less of me cause I cant see her?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:44 AM PDT

I want to see her but my Mom and Dad won't let me. They say she is bad and if I see her I'd be justifying her actions (whatever that means). So I am forced against my will to take their side. All my cousins are seeing her and her son and I won't be able to. I feel so bad about myself and fear my cousins will blame me.

Question: Why my dad is being so harsh to my brother?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:06 AM PDT

My younger brother,who is 14 has met this new girl. He is crazy in love with her but they are not at the same school so my brother skipped school to go to her school and suprise her. Its the first time he skips school. My dad found out though cause school called him to ask if Kevin(My brother) was ill or something. When my bro came back home my dad started yelling without leaving my brother say something.My brother is grounded for one month so that means till 2nd of November and he can do nothing. He has his phone,computer and ps4 taken away, he has extra homework(my dad is a math teacher) he cant leave the house,he is not allowed to see this girl again and finally he has to do a lot of housework(escpecially at weekends).He has been grounded for only a day(and acctualy for the first time) and he seems so depressed. I find this really overreacting, I know my brother should get punished,but 1 week would be okay. Is there anything I can do? I cant see my bro like this.

Question: How do I get people to stop accusing me of raping Or molesting my cousin I love her I would never hurt her in any way but my aunt doesn't?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 07:43 AM PDT

Question: My mom asked me to go to a hockey game with her. My friend also asked me to go to a haunted house with on the same day. I can't do both.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 07:41 AM PDT

My mom is trying to guilt trip me into going with her to the hockey game, but she got the tickets for free, so I don't seethe issue with me going to the haunted house instead. The haunted house seems more fun, but I almost don't want to hurt my mom's feelings. But, then again, she is trying to guilt trip me into the game. Help?

Question: Is my sister right to be embarrassed and annoyed at this?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 07:11 AM PDT

Yesterday, I posted four times about the Las Vegas terror attack. Two posts were from Facebook, one was on Instagram (which was also shared on Facebook) and another on Twitter. She read all of them and when I came downstairs, she said to me "You posted far too much about it. Don't you know how annoying and embarrassing that is? I've never been so embarrassed or annoyed by you in life." I asked why it's annoying and embarrassing and she replied "You don't need to post that much about it. Everyone else I know has only posted once and you've posted multiple times. You do this all the time when a tragic event like this occurs. It's completely unnecessary. You should only post once and only once. God I'm annoyed with you." Our parents agreee with her. They believe posting four times about it is excessive and that I should delete a few of them. Is she right to be embarrassed and annoyed?

Question: Mother left husband with kids can she try to take them back now?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:24 AM PDT

The mother left the children behind with there father and didn't try to see them for almost two weeks. She claims that she was beaten and checked into a shelter. However being a child in the household I know it's not true. She is the one who is attacking and her marks and bruises she has is from hitting the father. Nothing in the house is in her name. However she took one with her and refuses to make payments. Now it's been over a month and she decides she wants to come home and wants the children. Is that something she can do? Just a side note not old has she cried saying she was beaten she has turned the father in for drugs, selling drugs, child abuse, And more... ALL turning out to be lies. Yet the courts seem like they are more willing to help her out. Every time she comes around the children she screams at them calls them names and has even made comments that they ruined her life. The father tried to go and get a protection order for the children against her but they denied it because she came to them first. Yet she's the one making harassing phones calls (like called at 5am in the morning demanding to speak to children even though she knows there asleep... only just to say hi) it's not fair to the kids... the father is worried they might make him give up the house or she might try to take the kids. They are older than 12 and all say they want nothing to do with her. Anyone else dealt with similar issues?

Question: Is it just A.D.D. or something else?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:05 AM PDT

A few months ago we decided to get our oldest son some help. He's 13. Biologically speaking, he is my step son and has lived with us (his dad and I) for 4 years now. The final nail in the coffin was when we came home to find paint splattered in our garage then our room because he tried to fill holes that had but into the walls (his room was next to ours). He said he did it "months ago" when he was mad and that day he was bored so he pecked at the walls with a long screw driver. It freaked me out! He has always been moody and testy for as long as I've known him (8 years). Never smiles, gets embarrassed easily (even at a young age). He always has yelled at only us, never teachers or literally no one else, but his father, me and his little brother (my stepson as well). We take things away like the tablet, games, etc, but when he gets them back he's an asshole again. He will not tell anyone anything and if you ask him he flies into a rage and wants to argue. Just telling no sends him off, no matter what it's about. Today I didn't say a word to him, even when he argued with me. He never lets you know when he's leaving. He also doesn't talk to kids his age. Mumbles when he talks and walks away and expects you to understand what he's saying. He has his 3rd appointment tomorrow with his therapist (he goes weekly) and she thinks it's A.D.D. which is fine, but the lack of disrespect is horrendous. He is emotionally under age, I think. His birth mom hasn't spoken to him in 3 years.

Question: Infeel bad and idk what to do.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 05:44 AM PDT

I was trying to sleep and my brother kicked me so I got up and asked him why and thing escalated and I threw somthing at him out of anger but he dodged it and it hit my grandma in the eye. Idk what to do and I just feel so guilty and sick and I wanna kill myself now.

Question: I run my own business to provide for my family but she says im selfish.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 04:59 AM PDT

Ok so I am the only one that works and pays for everything.. I even bought her a car and pay for her insurance.. everything she wants I pay for.. even pay for her gym membership and getting her nails done etc.. on top of all that sometimes I'm the one that has to cook dinner.. all she has to do is stay home and take care of our 2 year old and our 6 year old which is in school for half the day.. but she says I'm selfish because I don't show them enough attention and I don't do enough with them.. am I wrong?

Question: Would it be good to confront my kids in front of the whole family, at our family get together? My kids refuse to join the army that is why?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 04:41 AM PDT

They both are against joining the army(neither want to fight, and they both said they don't want ptsd from it). I have had them both home schooled for 8 years, when they are done with home school next year I plan on kicking them out. I already feel very creepy being seen with them based on how old they are, I don't care at this point if they get hurt on the streets. I am not a "troll"(someone called me this) I am just a fed up father. I got angry that both my kids refused to walk 15 miles(5 hours twice a day) to go to town to look for work and to work 8 hours at a job. Since they refused that I ripped up the birth certificates and ssn's. Since, I do not plan on letting them go to college(my income determines that until they are 25 and I do not want to support their careers). And since I do not want to get them driving lessons, or teach them so they can find work and drive to it, the army is basically their only choice and they refuse to go. What do you think?

Question: Why do these jokes make my sister so upset?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 04:36 AM PDT

My sister doesnt talk much to people and I always say things like "stop talking so much" or call her chatterbox to make fun of her. Why does she always get so upset? Once she even avoided me for like one week after I made a joke about her. I dont get it, it's all meant in a funny way and is just normal teasing between siblings.

Question: Why is my dad mad all the time? I can t have a normal conversation with him.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 03:06 AM PDT

You can t tell him anything. You can t joke with him. He always throws **** that I should "respect" him and I m done of tip-toeing out of subjects that aren t about the fricking weather. I can t take it anymore. The house is like an army. He started raising his voice because he told me "Stop walking!" and I didn t. He can t hear sharp so he always thinks I mumble stuff against him. He s not even that old, what the heck? He s just 50. My family s falling apart. Mom and dad are passive agressive and I stay in my room all day listening to the The Wall. I just need help. I need advice, how can I make my family like the ideal family in magazines?

Question: Is it okay for me not to consider my mother s husband my step father?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 05:49 PM PDT

I m a sixteen year old girl, and when I tell a friend something about my mother s husband I don t call him my step father and my friend s always argue and laugh at me saying he s my step father but he s never done anything for me and we barely talk (I don t dislike him or anything), they always try to push in the thought of him being my step father in my head. It irritates me

Question: How do I get my mom to stop favoritism?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 05:48 PM PDT

I am the oldest child, and I have this younger sister who is a complete devil, she has all D s in her classes, sneaks out at night, hits and yells at me AND SHE IS 10! I am a couple years older than her and I am a straight A student and I am not ever allowed to leave the house besides for school. If I ever get a B or even ask to leave the house or hang out with friends she yells at me, hits me and digs her long, sharp nails into my skin to the point where I have scars all over my body because of her. She has had a phone since age 7 and I still don t have one, and whenever anything happens it is always my fault, she never punishes my sister. Whenever my sister starts hitting me and punching me and I tell her to stop or fight back my mom always hits me and yells that it is my fault. When I try to talk to her about this she screams at me to shut up and that she doesn t care. She constantly calls me ugly and that I should try to be more like my sister. My dad is rarely home, and he usually takes her side, when he does take my side my mom yells and hits him. What should I do?

Question: Struggling with Parents split?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 05:44 PM PDT

I'm 15 years old and my parents have been split for 6 years. I've never been sad over them not being together, until now. I don't know much about their relationship because they never want to talk about it, but from what my Grandma says my Dad loved my Mom so much and was very unhappy when me and my mom moved out. I always wonder what it would be like to see my parents in love and happy WITHOUT any step parents. I really want to talk to the both of them face to face about them splitting up but how do i get them to? Thank you <3

Question: My single dad wants to leave?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 05:03 PM PDT

My parents separated last year and it was hard on my dad. He now has trouble with my sister. And they often get in agruements. With him yelling at her and her crying. During this fight, he said he didn t want to be our dad, anymore. And that he wants to just pick up and leave us with our mom. Who I barely see due to her two jobs. What do I do? When he said that all I did was cry. I can t talk to my friends, because they already pity me about my parents. My mom won t answer my texts and calls, and my sister shows no remorse about what happened.

Question: Is it irrational to be mad at something like this?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 04:05 PM PDT

I'm currently living at home with my parents as I just started a new job, but I'm hunting for apartments. When I got home from work today, my dad was sitting on the couch. We exchange a few words about dinner, and one of the first things he says is "You look nice...for once. Why don't you look like this all the time?" And so of course I said "What on earth was that for?!" because it was clearly a backhanded compliment. He then screamed at me for getting offended, telling me I'm such an "irrational snowflake." For what it's worth, this has been a pattern in our relationship for 22 years (my self-esteem's in the gutter as a result), and I don't think that I should allow myself to be insulted just because I'm currently living under his roof. He seems to think his opinion is a fact - that I do look like **** all the time (I don't, I shower and groom daily), and yells and swears whenever I question this "fact." Am I wrong for reacting the way I did?

Question: Homeschooled and bored...help?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 04:02 PM PDT

I'm homeschooled. And bored as ****. So basically... I finish my school and practice and everything, fairly early, and I'm the type of person who likes to get out of the house and do things. But here's my dilemma. I'm too young to drive. My dad (who drives) left the house so he can't drive me anywhere. My brother who drives is in college, so HE can't drive me. So it's just me and my mom. She drives, but she doesn't like to go out of the house ever, especially for me because she hates me. She just stays on her computer the whole day. I've been bored out of my mind. What are some things I can do to get out of the house (don't give me basic things, like walking) ? I don't have any friends. And she doesn't let me go out of our block because there was a sex offender in our neighborhood recently. please help ugh

Question: I caught my son smoking crack i don't know what to do i mean crack is a whole different level of drug i need help what should i do?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 03:39 PM PDT

Question: I accidentally said something really awkward to my dad. Do you think he’s as weirded out as I am?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 03:33 PM PDT

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, and I was whining about it to my dad because we're close. My dad said, "screw him" and, without thinking, I impulsively replied, "I wish I could at least one more time". Meaning: I wish I could have sex with my boyfriend one more time. I freaked out and said, "oh my gosh, I'm sorry, that just slipped out, I wasn't thinking" and my dad just glared at me, kind of halfway laughed, and replied, "yeah, obviously". That was a few days ago and we haven't talked about it since. My dad hasn't been acting weird or anything, but I can't quit cringing at the memory of what I said. My dad and I are close, like I said, but we NEVER EVER EVER talk about sex. I'm his daughter and sex talk is off limits...obviously. I'm 19, so it's not like I'm underaged and talking about sex, but still. I FEEL SO WEIRD. Do you think he feels as weird as I do?

Question: My fiancé has cancer and wants to move out of state to be near his family, I don't know how to tell him his family stresses him out?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 02:53 PM PDT

My fiancé and I live in Provo Utah, my fiancé moved here to get away from him s abusive amd toxic family. His saint of a mother moved to Utah to be near her only sane son after she was bought out from her home by his father. My fiancé and I love each other but his dad said that if he and I move back to Nashville he'll lease us a place to stay and he can get treated at several cancer treatment centers, I could get a job working in either Nashville or a surrounding town but his dad is abusive and his brother is mentally ill, so much to the point to where he had a double amputation for no reason. My fiancé has Chronic leukemia and I'm terrified about his health right now. His mother amd I are trying to convince my fiancé to stay in Utah because it might not be perfect but he'll be in a loving environment opposed to being with his dad and brother? How should I go about this. I want to provide more information in Utah we have the Huntsman cancer research institute, while in Nashville there is St. Thomas and Vanderbilt. I don't know what to do.

Question: Is it okay if I give my 1st cousin once removed who is my age flowers on her birthday one of these years?

Posted: 02 Oct 2017 02:43 PM PDT

okay she is my dad's 1st cousin her parents are my great aunt and uncle and my late grandpa and step grandma are her uncle and aunt which makes her my 1st cousin once removed but anyways I would like to know if its okay for me to give her flowers on her birthday one of these years but don't worry I am not attracted to her due to her being related to me so please let me know as soon as possible on if its okay for me to give her flowers on her birthday in the future