Family: Question: Is this the end of it?

Question: Is this the end of it?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 02:26 PM PDT

My girlfriend and I have been together for five years. We have a great relationship but at our three year mark she started pushing the idea of marriage after I told her we should buy a house together. She said she didn't want to buy a house with someone she wasn't married to. I told her I wanted to marry her but wasn't really sure when. She said then don't bring up buying a house unless you're serious about the next step. So she was in grad school while we talked about marriage and she has just recently finished with a master's in biomedical engineering. She revealed to me last night that she has been job searching for a couple of months and found a job out of state. I told her I needed time to transfer my job to where she will be and she told me not to waste my time. She said she'd waited and waited for me to make a decision and knew marriage would never happen, so she made plans without me and is leaving next week. I'm in shock. I don't know what to do. I love her. Is this really over?

Question: I feel so undermined?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 02:06 PM PDT

My self esteem and confidence is really, really low. I have a little brother who is five years younger than me and I feel like he casted a shadow on me. He is a hockey goalie and ALL my parents talk about is HIM. I am a fantastic volleyballs player according to my coach and am invited to practice with the older girls, he even says I serve better than them. What do I get? Half my family doesn't even KNOW I play volleyball because all my parents talk about is my brother and what HE does. I am good at art but hardly ANY ONE in my family knows because of the same reason. I've been starting to loose hope or passion in what I do because of this. I used to be an all A gifted kid. My brother? He got Bs and Cs and my parents worshipped that. I thought maybe if I got those grades they would do the same to me. My grades slipped and I got some A's but mostly B's. My parents refused to acknowledge my grades to people, like I was embarrassing but didn't hesitate to tell everyone how proud they were of my brother. I stared developing major depression to go alongside my social anxiety. Soon, my grades dropped out of motivation and hopelessness. Not to mention people CONSTANTLY bully me at school. Is this normal..? What do I do?

Question: My mom's cousin hit his head and became bipolar and now he's a womanizer should I stay away from this guy?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:59 PM PDT

Question: Is it normal for parents to make the youngest child a spoiled entitled ***** like my parents did with my sister?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:56 PM PDT

Question: I have a dysfunctional family how do I get my parents to see this?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:55 PM PDT

my parents of twice separated and got back together. My brother is a felon and my sister is a raging *****. My mother uses us against enemies in the family and my dad is ignore it. Another brother and myself are normal especially the other brother. How do I get my parents to say they have a failed dysfunctional family?

Question: Mom won't let me go to a concert?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:54 PM PDT

Okay so there's a Shawn Mendes concert on July and she won't let me go. I begged her to let me go, I told her I really love him and he's probably not gonna come back, and I won't ask for anything else because I really want to go. I know she wants me to be safe but I was gonna go with my long time friend that she knows, and is really close to my friend and parent. My uncle said he would take me but my mom said no, she never lets me do anything, like if I want to hangout with my friends she wouldn't let me, she said I had to bring my brother.

Question: My sister is an evil person how do I get her out of my life?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:53 PM PDT

Question: Why is it a crime to have consensual sex between two adults in the family?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:53 PM PDT

Like when I grow up if I want to have sex with my mom why is that a crime as long as it's consensual?

Question: My stepfather gets mad when I see my real dad. How do I get him to see I have a right to have a dad?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:50 PM PDT

My mother gets mad also but she is a woman so she does not know better. My stepfather should know better. He gets mad because my dad mistreated my mother when I was a kid and they were married but I'm 30 now and an adult. I know my mother does not know any better as a woman but how can I get my stepfather to see I have the right to have a dad also?

Question: What should you do if your teenage son and your wife keep calling you gay and you can't get them to stop?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:48 PM PDT

Question: I am going to a family reunion July 29 and I'm nervous that I'll say the wrong things?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:45 PM PDT

These are relatives I do not know very well.

Question: How can I handle my racist, homophobic, short-tempered, hard-headed Dad?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:28 PM PDT

Ever since my parent s divorced, I ve had to make two trips to my father s, who lives 600 miles away from me. Recently, I made the mistake of telling my dad about some of my friends. Ever since my dad has...changed. He yells racist slurs when driving, in public, when I m on the phone with my Vietnamese friend, and when he s angry. He encourages me to harm my two male friends who are in a relationship, and bans me from speaking to them. He forces me to drive on roads without a permit. Threatens to run over my puppy, tries to make me punch my friends during school, etc. Anyways, I have to go down to his house again soon, and I would rather not be hammered on for two straight weeks. Is there anyway I can avoid pressing his buttons and make it through this? I ve tried many things, like staying quiet or away from him, but it doesn t seem to be working, and I am SICK of being miserable during my summer vacations.

Question: Why is my mom mad at me????

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 12:53 PM PDT

Yesterday I had an orchestra concert and I couldn't find my mom in the crowd afterwards. We were trying to call each other but we couldn't hear and it was very frustrating. We said we were gonna meet by the doors but I couldn't find her there. When I finally found her, she yelled at me for not going to the doors which I DID but I just left to go find her. She yelled at me about how frustrating it was for her and how I should've listened and stayed at the doors. Then, she said I looked like I was so bored on the stage and then she yelled at me about why I even do orchestra if I'm gonna look bored and tired the entire time. Like... I can't help it if that's just my natural facial expression. and she asked me if I wanted to quit which was something we've been debating for months and I said I don't know and then she yelled at me again and said she can't do anything for me if I won't talk to her and then she didn't talk to me the rest of the night and she's not talking to me right now. Why is she so mad I don't understand I called my friend to pick me up so I can give her a break but should I talk to her or should I just leave her alone? I'm afraid she'll yell at me if I try to talk to her.

Question: Why are my grandparents racist?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 12:50 PM PDT

Whenever I tell my grandparents about my friends they ask if they're black, then she would tell me not to hang out with black people. I don't listen to them, but why does it matter so much to them?!

Question: I'm 22 and my sister is 14. When my parents go away I'm in charge. She has no respect for me at all. What should I do?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 12:25 PM PDT

- In front of other people she acts like an angel and infront of me she acts like a total brat. - When I talk to my parents they say I need to work it out. - Should I punish her? - Why does she act this way? - How do I get her to respect me?

Question: Youngest son helps father with his trust and leaves out his older brother so his wife gets every thing is this legal?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 12:20 PM PDT

Question: How can I convince my parents to let me go on a Senior trip?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 11:40 AM PDT

So the past few months I have been trying to plan out a vacation plan for going to Disneyworld with my boyfriend and his family. It would be for next Summer after I graduate from high school. My dad said I absolutely cannot go and my mom is on the fence. The problem is, I will still be 17 because my birthday is in October. My dad says I am too young; I just think he is being overprotective. I mean, what does he expect me to do when I am 17 years old, living in a college dorm (probably in a different state), and living with thousands of strangers? I won t even be in the same hotel room with him, I would be staying with his sister. My mom just doesn t want me to go because she is jealous. She can t get over the fact that my boyfriend s family gets to go, but she doesn t. I tried to explain to her that the ONLY time I am going to be with the family is at night, but she refuses to listen. I feel like they are both being overprotective, childish, and selfish. If I were 4 months older, this wouldn t be an issue. What should I do?

Question: Family/eating disorder issues?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 11:31 AM PDT

I see a therapist but that was because I was and still am pretty depressed my therapist blows it off as nothing. My parents don't believe bulimia really a disorder my mom says don't waste my money like that to throw it up just don't eat if you wanna be skinny and do it unhealthily. She don't believe bulimia is real she just says don't waste money by throwing up just don't eat. Help?

Question: I'm sick of my sister and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 11:22 AM PDT

My sister is absolutely evil. She'll act so nice and innocent to me and in front of my parents but really she hates me. She's always laughing on the phone with her friends and today I heard her say 'she's a man hahaha'. I'm a girl very girlie so I don't know why she's saying this and purposely loud enough for me to hear I know she was saying it about me and I don't understand why she would do this. I do nothing to her. I try and help her when I can and stay out of her way so why she being so evil.

Question: My dad wont let me go to school?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 11:13 AM PDT

I've been homeschooled since 7th grade and since they started this I've been getting bad grades and being depressed all the time. I don't have any friends at ALL and I'm socialy awkward now. I'm going to be a sophmore in high school and want to go back to the public school. But no matter what I do my dad won't let me. He doesn't even give a reason all he says is that "he's in charge" I'm failing high school because of it, I always got A's in the public school, I had a lot of friends, I played sports.. Now I feel like there's nothing to live for and I'm ******* suicidal. My mom hates me and yells at me all day while I try to study at home and I can never get anything done because I have to cook my own meals and clean and watch my baby sister all day. I hate my life and there's no way to get away from it. I probably won't even be able to get into college or graduate highschool. What should I do? I've tried telling my mom and dad all of this but they just ignore me, or tell me I can go but then a couple days later say a messed up and can't go to school. Please give me some advice, I don't think they're legally doing anything wrong and I cna't do anything about it. If it goes on I will kill myself

Question: Why would CPS not close a case?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 11:00 AM PDT

My boyfriend's daughter (15) is in a very Volatile situation with her mom and stepfather. The mother has an open CPS case against her for abuse. Her mother has chocked her, punched her, and beat her. All CPS will tell my boyfriend is his daughter is safe for now. Since CPS open the case the mother and stepfather have cut off communication with the daughter. They let her call one time and started screaming at her to tell us what they wanted her to tell us. When she wouldn't they hung the phone up. I was wondering if they are not doing anything why is the case still opened.

Question: Boyfriend's parents?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 10:37 AM PDT

Will you tell to your boyfriend that you are ashamed of his parents especially his dad's behavior? And how? My bf's dad drinks a lot and when he is drunk we speaks loud, offend people, if it is on some party dances terribly, grabs the microphone to sing or tells jokes that are offensive again and so on. Because of this him and my bf's mom are not invited to a lot of family celebrations or If they are invited the skip it, leave early and so on. He has been like this for all of his life. I'm with my bf for 3 years till now and since we plan to get married soon I don't like his father to do some crazy stuff and ashamed me and my family. I once gave a sample from one weeding where I was guest that one of the guests got drunk and broke many glasses at the hall so I felt terrible and don't want that to happen on any kind of party. His mom just said that I didn't know how is to live with alcoholic and because of that I could not understand the things. My parents don't know anything about this because I didn't wanted my BF to be judged for his father's behavior. And then I prevent and stopped each meeting between mine and his parents because of this. So how to keep his dad from making a mess? My first thought was to rent a room at the hotel and since he gets tired and sleeps a lot when he is drunk to send him there. Second idea was to talk to my bf and his sister to be with their father all time but because of my opinion we can get into a huge fight. What will you do? Thanks

Question: I'm 17 and graduate high school soon. I want return to Australia for uni. But my mum is at risk for heart attack/stroke. What should I do?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 10:19 AM PDT

I graduate high school soon & plan to return to Australia for university. But my mum wants me to stay here. She has health issues & at risk for heart attack + stroke. We have no other family members. She's worried that if she has a heart attack/stroke when I'm overseas, + no one will be here to sign the papers etc. She heard that a mother that died from heart attack, cos her daughter wasn't there quick enough to sign the papers for surgery. I want to study in Aus b/c it's cheaper (approx. AU$10,000 less), graduate 1.5 years earlier + I prefer the uni there. I also really hate living here. Ive lived for 6 years in a tiny apartment with a cockroach infestation (my mum refuses to get an exterminator), and I have to sleep in the same bed as her (only 1 bed in the apartment). I don't want to be 22 & still sleep in the same bed as my mum. The apartment is also filled with my relatives' junk that they left here before we moved in, which they won't get rid of (my uncle's apartment) - not in contact with them anymore btw. I know if I stay, Ill hate myself for not leaving and resent her (she's not very pleasant to live with). But, if I stay, I'm basically staying just in case she has a stroke until she dies. But if I leave, it'll be my fault if she dies. We have no other family to do this. She refuses to return to Aus b/c it's hard to buy chinese medicine there, and she doesn't trust western medicine b/c side effects, and she once got sick from them. What should I do?

Question: Why do some people always have to learn the hard way?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 10:16 AM PDT

My brother is like this and it concerns me. No matter how many times I explain it to him that there are some things where you don't get a second chance he just stays careless and arrogant in his actions. For example, his gf just broke up with him because she found out he'd been fooling around with his ex (something I saw coming a mile away and advised him to stop). Now he is totally heartbroken and trying to fix things with her. I don't think she's buying it and I don't blame her. Do you think he will ever learn to be more careful about his actions? When I say I saw it coming a mile away that he would start fooling around with his ex again it's because they were having various meetings for business purposes and one thing lead to another and eventually they started secretly seeing each other again behind his gf's back. We all told him from the very beginning that he should pick someone else to do business with... Will he ever learn or will he just keep hurting himself and others with his behavior?

Question: How do I deal with my workaholic father that constantly wants me (his son) to be working as well?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 10:12 AM PDT

Question: How to leave my home and still have somewhere to go?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 09:38 AM PDT

My parents are just mean to me. They favor my brothers. Specially the one in the middle. I'm the oldest. They payed him a trip to Disney while they buy my little brother food and toys from wherever he wants, whatever he wants. I just ask to go out and they won't let me, say I'm being a slüt for coming home at 9:30 and I shouldn't be out late. I'm 19, in college with a serious boyfriend of one year and a best friend who I hang out with. I also can't go out too early like at 2 pm and come home at 9 because that's too much. They call me names when I leave and when I come back. They aren't paying for anything I own anymore and I have had the same clothes for three years. If I want anything I have to take from my college funds I've earned. I've applied to 8 jobs and I haven't gotten any. I just want to leave the house. Should I just say I'm pregnant and take my things and go? Where would I even go? If I do I have to drop out and just try to survive..I don't really want to do that but I HAVE to get out of this house. I don't get hot anymore because I do defend myself and they know that, they just hurt me emotionally and verbally and I am done with it. I'm not their "real" kid, mom had me with another man and my step dad just hates me. How can I successfully live a life without them? I don't have much money or a job yet..please help me :/

Question: Need some adult advice?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 09:28 AM PDT

Im 18. I just recently moved in with my fiancee and his parents. His dad has been on my fiancee about getting a job. Neither of us have jobs and im still in high school he ia a drop out persuing his GED. So we are in the proccess of finding both of us a job and an apartment to live in so we can grt out of his parents house, trying to find a vehicle. And on yop of it all i just found out im pregnant with another year in high school. Im just lost. I need advice.

Question: How old were you when your father went out and never came back?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 09:06 AM PDT

Question: I hate my dad, anyone else?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 08:37 AM PDT

I hate my dad. He's a deadbeat and has been all my life. He's never worked in his life, he makes my mom work and support him. He just sits around the house all day and watches tv and my mom has to do all the working, cooking, and cleaning. I hate him. I wish to have a normal father. Anyone else?

Question: Should I do the dishes, leave it to my step mom??? Please read....?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 08:24 AM PDT

My step mom always does food for her and my dad and never for me ... And then she brags why I don't do the dishes..and also if I don't do them my dad tells me to them since in always at the house and never help out... In my side I don't think its fair... Because they get to eat and they leave a lot of dishes .... I am 20 years old & still controlled especially by my step mom.

Question: Dad caught me masturbating??

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 07:58 AM PDT

I m such an idiot... I m 14, my door doesn t have a lock and faces the top of the stairs. I didn t hear my dad coming up the stairs, and before I did, it was already too late. We both froze and made awkward eye contact for a few seconds, before he went back downstairs. I have to go downstairs in like half an hour and I m petrified to face him. What makes this worse is that I m a GIRL. (I wasn t naked or anything though) Yep. I'm screwed. I just heard my mum and my dad discussing this. Welp.

Question: How much longer do I have to starve myself?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 07:48 AM PDT

My mom told me I had to give up my room for 6 weeks for a pregnent woman to stay in since she has nowhere else to stay but with her druggy boyfriend. I was infuriated and told the woman and my family that until I got my room back I will starve myself. Nobody believed me at first but I havent eaten in a week and a half, I can tell everyone is uncomfortable, my mom even tried to force feed me but I slapped her and ordered the woman to leave before i die. How much longer do I have to go on? I am willing to go as long as it takes.

Question: Please help im sick over this?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 06:31 AM PDT

I have bad anxiety and get upset easily and nervous. My sunt and i talked about doing something this weekend but when i texted her later that night we talked(last friday) she was unsure. I didnt hear from her again til last night saying what time you wanna go? I was shocked and upset she never let me know anything so i assumed she couldnt. 2 days ago my ex father in law called and wants to pay for me and my kids to go to a waterppark and id love to do that so i daid ok since i havent heard from her. Now im nervous about telling her that i went ahead and made plans because she wasnt clear with me? Should i lie and say im sick.? Ive been loterally sick since she texted last night and cant eat or sleep! Please no rude comments

Question: How to tell my mother that my younger brother had sex at age 13?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 06:19 AM PDT

Yep it s just as bad as it sounds. I m 20 and my sister is 21 and we are trying to figure out a way to tell my mom because we are just afraid for his safety. He told us in confidence that we wouldn t tell her so we don t want him to hate us either. Help!

Question: I hate my family.I wanna kill myself?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 05:44 AM PDT

I'm 19 and f. Don't tell me to move out cause i can't. I just want to kill myself to show them what i feel. But i'm not that much brave What should i do?

Question: Why the **** did my father marry my narcissistic mother?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 05:44 AM PDT

does he only care about physical attractiveness? shes an old ugly person now and theyre divorced. it makes me sick just thinking that these people thought they were so righteous.. well my dad my moms a cu nt while raising me .. i feel bad all the time its her thought and his too now.i just wanna die/ get out of this shitty place but he's not crazy. and he wont admit that he's not mentally stable he tells me im weak and silly, not normal , weird... idk but i think hes not.

Question: What do you think of my dad?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 05:23 AM PDT

My dad is from the 70s and early 80s. Hes an ex greaser. but hes been fat since the age of 12. he tells his friends all these stories about he kicked so and so's *** back then. my dad beat the crap out of a junior during his freshmen year. hes beaten up a couple other guys in the bar when he was in his mid 20s. who ever acted like an asshole to my father he punched them out. As me growing up with him, i never seen anyone over power my dad. only couple people have tried threatening my dad and he tells them to stfu and get out of here. it usually works for him everytime. but it doesn't work for me. if somebody messes with me and i tell them off they challenge me for a fight. im probably not as intimidating to people because im skinny and not as big. but something about my dad takes the fear out of people instantly. nobody has over powered my dad. he even intimidated a cop once. hes never lost a fight or a smack talk before. but honestly i think my dad talks tougher than he strikes. idk. does he sound fearful to you??

Question: Why does my brother smell so bad omg?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 04:58 AM PDT

hes 16 and he smells like **** all the time. how do i get him to take a shower ? he wont cause hes too lazy and i guess i dont really care but he just smells so terrible

Question: How much longer do I have to starve myself?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 04:47 AM PDT

My mom told me I had to give up my room for 6 weeks for a pregnent woman to stay in since she has nowhere else to stay but with her druggy boyfriend. I was infuriated and told the woman and my family that until I got my room back I will starve myself. Nobody believed me at first but I havent eaten in a week and a half, I can tell everyone is uncomfortable, my mom even tried to force feed me but I slapped her and ordered the woman to leave before i die. How much longer do I have to go on? I am willing to go as long as it takes.

Question: I don't think I can trust my mom ever again?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 03:39 AM PDT

Every time I tell her important things she says she won't say anything. Then when I go near her again she gets really loud around my dad purposely so he can hear it, and she repeats every single thing I tell her when she's drunk! It's so annoying and I want it to stop! I tried to talk to her and she said "let it go" but every time she always does it!! I'm sick of it. So what should I do? Talking to her about it isnt the best thing.

Question: How to get over a death and to move on from the memories and nostalgia?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:59 AM PDT

Two weeks ago, my grandma passed away and I haven't recovered from it fully. My family seems to have gotten over it, my sister is busy with school, my dad is busy with work and my mom, who was close to her seems to be her normal self. Recently, her furniture and her bed was put into my house and I have more sadness developing whenever I lay on her bed, sit on her couch and when I eat at her table. The scent of her perfume is still on the pillows we got from her apartment and it makes me even more depressed. I miss spending time with her, I miss helping her with her work, I miss eating her food and I want to get over all the childhood memories I spent at her house, playing with my sisters and cousins. She said that I was her favorite because I spent a lot of time with her on the weekends and helping her with her job. I'm angry at my family, who told me on Mother's Day and a week before her death, that she was hospitalized and in a coma and that she was in the hospital a while back and no one wanted to tell me what happened. How do you get over grief over a close relative, how do you stop reminiscing about the past memories and how do you forgive family who were hiding about what happened to my grandmother?

Question: How do I get tan when I'm really pale?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:22 AM PDT

I've grown up in an Asian family that never really traveled. When I was little, my parents would never let me go outside and I'm 16 and never been to the beach before. Can someone help me. I'm literally was pale as the wall. Lol As*

Question: Annoying old people: Who is right?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 01:08 AM PDT

Yesterday I was going home from school after I have fallen during P.E. and my ankle was hurt. Not horribly, but enough so I couldn't stand for long periods of time and my teacher told me to go home. I was worried cause my ride home is 50 min long. I got on the tram and luckily there was a seat available. I sat down and not a minute has passed, there was an old guy moving in front of me, trying to get my attention so that I would give up my seat for him. I ignored him and then the Justice Warrior #1 came and she said "Wouldn't you stand up for this old man?" and I told her that I have fallen during P.E. and my ankle hurts but she just rolled her eyes, obviously not believing me. 10 sec later Justice Warrior #2 came and she verbally attacked me, saying I should get up and I told her that I have hurt my ankle but she just repeated what I've said in a mocking tone and said: "That's the reason you're not going to get up for an 80-year-old man who can barely walk?" I ignored her and took my phone out to text my mom I'm coming home and the woman commented "She can't text on her phone when she's standing up." I just looked at her and said nothing. I couldn't stand all the eyes staring at me so I got up, limped my way to the door and got off at the next stop. And now I can't even walk because I've strained my ankle! You know, I'm sick and tired of this old annoying farts who think just because they're old the rule the fricking universe. What do you think about this?

Question: I dislike my brother's attitude is that okay?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 12:38 AM PDT

He's gay but that's not what matters, he has this attitude of not wanting to do anything and always complains and criticizes everything and he gets mad very easily and always talks back plus he likes to get very argumentative with things and has this way of thinking that if a song is in a bad time he will not listen which is okay is my belief but he over exaggerates upon that. I can't stand his attitude it's driving me insane. Does he have an illness? sorry if I sounded cold hearted that was not my intention

Question: I have two step sisters​ out of control, it is not a phase. Please help?

Posted: 02 Jun 2017 12:23 AM PDT

Two teenage girls are always talking back to parents and teachers, lying, sneaking out in the middle of the night with older men. My parents called the cops countless time and they are tired of me calling them because they gone missing. Now they are so ruthless no one can reason with them. Cops are tired of dealing with them and they don't want to take them. My parents don't want them because they won't listen, they don't want to reason. They are so out of control we don't know what to do with them. Please help!

Question: Looking back I'm very ashamed of my life?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 11:34 PM PDT

I'm a 98 year old male pole dancer my whole life ive lived off welfare food stamps. I spent nearly thirty years living in my younger brothers house who has a family and is much more wealthy than me. ive become bisexual and resorted to giving men felatio all for a paycheck. wht have I done with my life.

Question: Can i asked why ive been scared about my uncle?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 11:12 PM PDT

Since i was young,he is so strict and keep angry about my little mistakes...till i am 20, i still have a feeling of scared about him,ya i stressed when i talked to him....and he doesnt strict when i grow up..he changed his bad temper...he was asking me why i so scared about him...i cant explained what happened to me....everytime i saw him feel stress af...am i having PTSD?

Question: Can I have a family when I'm older or do I have to look after my brother who is disabled?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 11:06 PM PDT

Mum said I have to live with my brother and look after him when she dies and when i said I wanted to have a family and kids she got angry and said who will look after my brother? Now she won't talk to me.

Question: It's Father's Day soon and I have no idea what to get my dad!?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 11:04 PM PDT

He doesn't watch football/soccer and he doesn't really do any sport apart from the occasional run. He works in computing so he likes robot sort of things. I need something less than 15 pound plz

Question: My mom said no for me to own a room?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 11:02 PM PDT

I ask my mom if I can have my own room and this is what she says: Verbatim Me: "Mom Can I have my own room?" Mom: .....*quiet* Me: "Mom?" Mom: There's no vacant room. Me: *points my uncle's old bedroom* Mom: That's your uncle's bedroom ---- It's my Uncle's bedroom but he slept now with my aunt in another room. I really want to own my own room. I slept with my older brother who's messy. When he eats, he just put the wrappers there and let the wind fly it in different directions and sometimes when I wake up he's sleeping in my pillow eventhough he have a pillow on his own. Sometimes he also gets my blanket and we're switching blankets and I don't like it.

Question: My dad is homeless. I won't allow him in my house. I dont know what to do?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 10:42 PM PDT

My dad chose drugs and alcohol over his kids. He was bipolar and abusive. When I was little he would scream and swear and he would even try to kill our animals. He pushes my mom around sometimes and once pinned me up against the wall by my neck. My mom eventually kicked him out and he wouldn't have anything to do with us. He tried to blame it on my mom and he now is angry at his kids for not loving him. I am now 23 and I sometimes talk to my father but he recently became homeless. I picked him up one morning to take him to see his probation officer and he was acting fine and then I invited him over for dinner with me and my boyfriend and my dad brang his homeless girlfriend. They were both acting like they were on drugs (maybe herion) my dad has alot of health problems but I'm almost sure he was on drugs he was falling asleep and not knowing what was going on he was also not making sense at all. Also that night my roommates wallet went missing. I took my dad home the next day, after he had me drive him around for 2 hours! He was still so messed up he tried to get out of the car while I was driving and he kept asking what was going on. He them had me take him to the hospital for 'free food' what the heck?!and couldn't hardly walk. I told him that day that him and his girlfriend was no longer allowed at my place and now he's sad and still homeless. Keeps asking me if I can let him stay on the floor but I can't. There is also 3 kids living on this house I have been ignoring him

Question: Is this too personal to post to Facebook? post assault by father and people worried for a few years, ready to open up?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 10:35 PM PDT

I'm really kind of tired of living my life in fear, and constantly questioning myself. Real talk status right now. It is really a shame when a parent not only has an affair and walks out on a family, but also gaslights and physically comes after someone when they are starting to be independent and grow up on their own. Unfortunately, it's worse if you chose a path of "teaching" and volunteer, and you financially depend on them. My senior year of college, when I felt like I was in an okay place, this happened to me with one/both of my parents. Am really not looking for any kind of "so sorry for you" response, but I'm trying to shed a light to the people who are confused by what's going on with me at times and why almost every day is a battle for me. I really don't expect this to be any kind of major relief for me, and I'm working through how it affected me, but It's kind of time for me to start owning the past and putting it all out there. dad said "if u are such a low life ur gonna tell ppl that " a few years ago when i said i was gonna tell ppl

Question: My mom is accusing me of stealing money from her?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 09:40 PM PDT

Hi, recently y mother told me she forgot where she had hidden a sum of cash. Large too, she says it was 40k. Which shocked me because we're actually on the poorer side of the fence. We live in a mobile home. She had been giving me the silent treatment for a while and this was the reason why. But we got on good terms and I helped her look for it and we couldn't find it. Now she's changed from forgetting where she hid it to "I stole it". She also is saying now that she hid another sum of money and that it is incomplete; Accusing me of taking from it. I'm totally stumped and I can't even begin to reason with her because I can't get a word in at all. It really sucks because she's told everyone and everyone is giving me the "stink eye" Sorry, I don't really know my question, but what should I do? Just to add more detail, it's only me and her in the mobile home, she also mentioned she has 200k saved away somewhere. Which is a huge surprise she has that much money saved away. She accused me of trying to poison her. I'm not sure if she really has that much saved away, but when I was a child she never spent any money on us{me and my brother) even the child support from my father. So I see now she's been saving all this money for her retirement. Making us live in a trailer park where sex offendors and drug dealers live. a fight would occur once a week. I feel she needs to see a doctor for Dementia, but she seems fine otherwise. This episode seems very unreal.

Question: Do you think my father in law is a pervert?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 08:47 PM PDT

My husband is deployed. My father in law always invites me to every trip that he and his wife take. He forces me to sleep in the same room as them everywhere that I go. We went on a cruise and he made me share a room with them. I took professional pics on the cruise and he said that I looked so good in them, and I was very photogenic, and he wasn't sure how his son got me and how I can get anyone. He was obsessing over my pictures. Still talks about them a month later. He said he wanted to send one of the pictures to my husband because of "how I looked in the short dress". I won't forget to mention that he told me to send a porn style video to his son. He invited me on a trip to a beach house he and his wife took last week. I said that I would sleep on the couch in the living room but he forced me to sleep in the bedroom with him and his wife. (who the f does that) Woke up to him one morning in his boxers standing over me. When a room in the house freed up because my brother in law left early, he didn't want me to take that room. He also told me to pull up that picture I took on the cruise and show it to him again. I showed it to him and he just said "wow"... Should I be concerned guys? Is this strange behavior? Should I bring it up to my husband?? THANKS!

Question: Why are these womans parents giving me such a hard time about me wanting to marry their daughter?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 07:41 PM PDT

So I am supposed to be going over to vietnam to meet a group of women who are potential spouses. I am a vietnamese american man and I had no luck with finding a woman here in america to date me. I gave up. I am being given a hard time by these women in vietnam. One woman said that she isn't thinking about marriage right now and the others said that they would decide if they want to marry me when they meet me. One of the woman's parents said to my aunt in vietnam who is setting me up says they think that I am scamming their daughter and would get engaged to their daughter and then break off the engagement the last minute like one of my cousins did. I am so frustrated and I have such a freaking headache over all of this. Why are they giving me such a hard time ? Why do they think that I am just like my cousin ???

Question: My mom keeps abusing me what should I do?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 07:27 PM PDT

My mom abuses me terribly not to add on she s a religion freak and she s old school.she just got done abusing me like 10 minutes ago and I literally want to kill my self and I m not even joking.i came home from school today she forces me to fast Ramadan even though I don t want to I was starving and weak and wanted to do my homework she won t let me I started working in the kitchen with her from 4 to 8 I was tired and needed a break she told me to put food in this container I was doing it might I add that was food for her and no one else and she started screaming and throwing things and she made me nervous and made me dropped the food this is how she is with every task she makes me do everyone else will be relaxing but since I m the only girl I do everything.my younger sisters don t do anything out of all her kids she treats me so terribly.she wants me to be a dumb submissive wife which I refuse to be .anyways today I refused to do it she jumped on me hit my head against the wall punched me I have scars on me she put me in a headlock till I couldn t breathe and my head stil hurts from that she slapped me ripped pieces of my hair out and refused to let me eat.let me remind you everyone who didn t do anything ate whatever they wanted but just cause I refused to do that one task I was punished like I m tired of this I just want to kill my self already I know if I report her my family will be separated but I can t with these suicidal thoughts anymore this happens weekly now

Question: I am more unhappy than I've ever been?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 07:26 PM PDT

I just got accepted to a community college, which is no news to say, my classmates going to Spellman and Morehouse and Howard straight out of high school and would be living in dorms and going to parties. At first I was still happy, as a two-year education is better than no education, and I may be the first person in my family with a degree and potential career if I keep my mind to it, yet I feel worse than ever. I am a high school senior and will be graduating in two weeks, yet I don't see it as an accomplishment or a right of freedom. I was more free as an angsty tween complaining all the time than I am now as a near adult. I am financially trapped. I cannot work as I am obligated to babysit the children of all my family members. It has been this way since I was twelve and old enough to take the responsibility. I couldn't do any afterschool activity as I had to be home ASAP. I was trapped then and I am trapped now. As long as I am under their roof I have to just be a homebody. I feel walked all over, and there is nothing I can do. They based all of their job schedules and careers on the fact that I'm their free babysitter. I have not one day to work, not even the weekend. I feel the urge to just sign up for the army and leave them. It is the only true way out of here. I regret not being smart enough in school to get a full scholarship somewhere, because now I could see myself still babysitting with an associate's degree.

Question: My friend told me something that was very unlike her? Why'd she tell me that ?

Posted: 01 Jun 2017 07:09 PM PDT

She's very blunt and doesn't really give compliments really. She's nice to me but not so much to others. I sent her a long birthday letter, was really down to heart: She said "you are a blessing in my life" why would she say that? She's never that nice