Family: Question: Bro's Relationships Dying. Should I help?

Question: Bro's Relationships Dying. Should I help?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 02:14 PM PDT

So my brother & his girlfriend live together with me & my mom. I hear them argue all the time, like once almost every week. But it isn't a traditional argument, always it's the gf yelling & crying like a baby to my bro, & my bro tries to calm her down saying sorry or whatever. I never hear both of them yell at each other, it's always her doing all of that being overly dramatic, saying they should break up whatever and my brothers just quiet. I don't know what's the cause of these outbreaks, & I kinda wanna know why because I'm sensing that my bro is whipped. Should I ask my bro what's going on ?

Question: What should i do now with my mom's elder sister?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 02:11 PM PDT

Hai am antony am 19 years old my mom is 34 years old and her elder sister is 38 years old last night their waa an discussion on my sister marriage it was 2 am...my moms elder sister called me and asked me to do head massage while i was doinv she holded my hands took them the chest thats a inch above breast she told me to massage their ...i like her a lot and i use to just press her boobs while she is sleeping now i slowly took my hands down she was silent i went in touched hee nipples ...she know what am doing but she didnt care ....what is the mean for this silence should i have sex with her ....i like it when i pressed her boobs i will be more Happy if she gives me a nice bliw job with short sex ...now whag i must doo

Question: What to do if my brother killed my father and mother?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 02:10 PM PDT

I am so scared right now, please help.

Question: Stupid family member?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 02:05 PM PDT

How do you deal or get a family member to stop spewing her personal belief BS every time that she sees you? She has been doing this for 12 years. She says weighing anything over 100 pounds is very "overweight." She keeps telling me to lose 20 pounds but I don't want to! I'm 5'7 and 120 pounds, I have no flabby skin. But this messed up 66 year old family member, comments on everyone's apperance and tells them to lose weight if they aren't up to her standards. I get told I overeat by her, yet I'm vegetarian, I don't drink soda, eat fruit/sugary things or junk food. Only carbs I eat are vegetables, yet eating 800 to 1,000 calories a day is overeating by her standard. I am sick of this, not just this is her problem. She is constantly spewing other BS(this is what she just said the other day, "People aged 17-20 in my day had their own home already. All of you are messed up for not being able to afford a house yet." How does a high schooler(or even someone that just got done with hs afford a house already, really?). Ironic thing is she weighs 174 pounds and she is 5'9. What would you do?

Question: Jealous of my daughter s bond with BIL?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 02:03 PM PDT

I have a 2.5 year old daughter and we ve been living with my BIL for about a year and a half. I love my BIL very much, but sometimes feel like he treats my daughter as a surrogate daughter. I feel like he s constantly trying to get her attention and be the one to make her smile and laugh. I ll be playing with her in her room and he ll come in and be like, "OMG I haven t seen you all day! ", and suddenly it s like I m invisible. I don t want to feel jealous. I want her to have a good bond with him. In fact if I start to feel myself getting jealous, I ll look for an excuse to leave the room, so they can continue to play. Today I tried to build her a fort and she kept saying she wanted her uncle and tearing it down. I had to leave the room, because I was getting so upset. On one hand I feel like I m being ridiculous and on the other hand I feel resentment. I carried her for 9 months, dealt with the uncomfortableness of pregnancy then post partum. I dreamed for the day I would have a daughter. I deal with the tantrums, wake up with her, care for her when she s sick. Am I a horrible selfish person for feeling this way, even if I don t want to? How do I make it hurt less?

Question: I m moving, should I tell my parents I don t want to? I know they re considering our opionions...?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 01:57 PM PDT

I ll be a sophomore starting at a new school many hours away from my state, Im from upstate NY. Very cold winters with lots of snow but I love my friends and school. My dad got offered a great job, and it d be much better than what he has. But it s not a drastic fiscal situation, so my parents are considering my opinion, along with my sisters. I love where I m at, and it s very hard for me knowing with a few words I can prevent this. I know they ll be much happier, and much closer to relatives. They re also considering our opinions on schools and the house. So I have a few questions. How well do sophomore girls fit in at new schools? What kind of school should I ask them to look into? What s it like in Maryland?When should I request to move? And should I tell them I don t want to go?

Question: Am I attracted to my brother????

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 01:51 PM PDT

Im very confused right know and scared I can't tell if I'm attracted to my brother or not I am 14 and my brother is 12 we always fight I also have anxiety so I have a habit of overthinking stuffI also love reading and have read books with incesty novels also I masturbate and watch porn sometimes with is common to have incest in it i have no intention to do anything but im concerned I have a tendency of going on with whatif I have stoped reading and watching this stuff

Question: Why did my dad say this?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 01:15 PM PDT

My mom always tells me in person dont eat dont eat. And today i had a test and my dad told me to not eat ANYTHING when i get hungry he said i should STARVE. What is his problem? I couldnt even do well on my test for the first time.. Im a straight A student. Even the teachers gonna know somethings up. I dont feel well. What do i do please help? Thanks.

Question: If my mothers maiden name is Doodbro and my father is away "at the gas station" what is my last name now, do I keep my fathers, or change.?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 01:11 PM PDT

Question: Teenage girls who can drive would you have done this?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 01:04 PM PDT

I just got back from picking up my younger sister at school. Since it was hot out and I did not get out of my car I just drove in my bare feet and did not bring any shoes with me.

Question: My mother won't let me go Christmas caroling because it is Halloween time, why can't I go every night?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:52 PM PDT

Question: Does it mean Im stupid if I got a B in a class?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:48 PM PDT

Im a senior in highschool and I just got a B in the first term of Calculus. What can i do :(?

Question: What would my step brother s wife s sister be to me? Weird to this think she is gorgeous?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:43 PM PDT

Question: Are you more blood related to first cousin or second cousin?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:37 PM PDT

Question: How do I learn to not care?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:21 PM PDT

my 14 years old brother is root of my problems. he wants everything I have. He snatched my tablet,smartphone, laptop,desk and room and my parents allowed it because they so dumb,they believe every lies he tells about me. I always have arguments with my brother whenever I go home and it really affects my studies(the stress) and me. he wants to dominate everything in the house.I cant get enough sleep,good grades and good health because of him. When I talk with my parents about this ,I become the bad guy i'm 17

Question: Really cant stand our daughter in law- she thinks she's a know it all?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:19 PM PDT

it's one thing when she comes onto marriage and divorce to answer questions but its another to tell everyone their marriage problems all day long to their faces . she's also very cheap. what can my husband and I do ?

Question: My Dad lost his job and i want to help?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:17 PM PDT

My dad lost his job a few years ago and hasnt been able to find anything after that. I just feel he is becoming more and more depressed alone at home, i dont know how to help him or how can i keep him occupied. we dont have a lot of family here and since we moved from another country he hasnt made a lot of friends either. I feel pretty helpless.

Question: Is it illegal to have sex with my cousin?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:11 PM PDT

Not because I am hillbilly I just have smoking cousin

Question: What would my nephews be to each other?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 12:02 PM PDT

My brother has 2 boys (My nephews) and my fiance has a brother who has 2 boys (My future nephews) I guess since my fiance would be my brother s brother-in-law. But my fiance s brother wouldn t be MY brother s brother-in-law. What would the nephews be to each other? 2nd cousins? or just regular cousins? or not cousins at all.

Question: Do you have the same blood and genes as your first cousins yes or no?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:57 AM PDT

Question: How can I marry my Mom, I am adopted so biologically she is not my Mom, I love her and want to marry her?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:54 AM PDT

Question: Is it normal for for dad to stare at your ***?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:52 AM PDT

I'm home from college and Im staying at my dads house because my mom is crazy. I caught him looking at my *** when I was in the fridge. Is he lonely or something? I'm his daughter WTF?

Question: Would you say first cousins are like your brothers and sisters yes or no?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:51 AM PDT

Question: Want to sneak out but how?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:38 AM PDT

So the reason for sneaking out isn't of much importance. I just need advice on how to not get caught. My room is downstairs and my parents room is upstairs. I can't get out my window because the screws I my burglar bars can't be taken out. I was think of just sneaking out the back door? But for how long and how can I avoid getting caught?

Question: How do I get my mother not to poison our Thanksgiving and Christmas this year?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:29 AM PDT

She poisons it each year by bringing her toxic negativity about people in the family around us and banning certain people from visiting. She is like a 9 year old and I am sick of it. She won't even allow my step-Dad to see his side of the family because she is mad at his sister

Question: Why my dad just be a dad?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:28 AM PDT

Question: If someone said and I quote "you should observe me and take all the good things and throw all the bad things away, and apply it to yourself?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:19 AM PDT

And that if you look closely you'll find there's nothing bad about me" How would you feel? Would you be right to feel hurt?

Question: My fiance's parents say I am holding him back, what should I do?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:12 AM PDT

My fiance's parents do not care for me. His mom.has said hurtful things about me.Mainly claiming I'm using my future husband for his money. Our relationship is pretty equal in my opinion. He works and I am in medical school. His mom doesn't like that I am in school she thinks I should quit and get a job. It is frustrating. My fiance's just got back in touch with his dad and I overheard him tell him that I am holding him back. It was frustrating because he hasn't been in his life and I knew he got that from his mom. I think our relationship is equal. We both contribute. I am sick of his parents always being so negative because he isn't doing what they want him to do. It's frustrating why someone would say I hold him back. I encourage him to seek the best possible opportunities. I helped him get his first two jobs less than 2 months after he graduated college, he's thinking any getting his Master's once I'm done with school. We have our lives planned out well. So that's what makes what his parents say frustrating and hurtful. He has said things to them about it on many occasions but it doesn't change anything. We are getting married next month. They won't be attending. My fiance doesn't care BC he has never been close with them but it bothers me bc I'm very family oriented. It makes me sad that they have such a low opinion of me.

Question: My coach kicked me out of practice. What should I do?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 11:04 AM PDT

I took a few seasons off, so I am not as good as the other girls. My coach always benches me and never gives me playing time. But part of that is because I can never go to practice. Because of personal reasons, I miss practice about 2 times a week, but she knows why. All the new freshman are getting way more playing time, then I have ever gotten. We got in a disagreement and she yelled out me to get out of practice in front of the entire team!!! The entire team was laughing!!! She said she kicked me out because of my attitude. She kicked me out of practice 2 years ago, so who knows if she will do it again. There is only 3 weeks left in the season, should I just quit and not finish? Or suck up the embarrassment and go to practice? Why should I finish the season?

Question: Hey muero por saber! Es posible encontrar a mi hermano por mi ADN y el de mis padres?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:58 AM PDT

Han pasado casi 18 años desde que esto paso, mis padres no quisieron tomar accion (no se por que) pero cuando mi herman@ nacio (en el seguro) ellos dicen que 2 veces vieron a un niñ@ diferente dicen que el primero era blanquito y el otro en la incubadora era morenito y pues no estoy muy bien entarado muy bien de lo que paso, nunca quieren entrar en detalles y bueno lo que paso fue que con el ultimo niño morenito pues tenia problemas del corazon y fallecio a la semana de nacido por dichas causas, me habian contado de esto de mas pequeño pero no le tome mucha importancia. Meses atras de este año mi madre me conto que una señora con un don le dijo que era niña y que estaba bien con una familia buena y apenas esta semana mi Padre me dijo lo mismo, ella tiene un amiga (igual) con un don y le dijo lo mismo pero llorando por todo lo que vio que paso, no se que puedo hacer yo! Por cierto mis padres ahora ya son separados Ayúdenme, aconséjenme, que creen que deba de hacer, cuanto creen que pueda costar exhumar el cadaver para ver el ADN, y si no fuera mi hermano que procesos se llevarían a cabo para encontrar a mi herman@ POR FAVOR AYUDENME !

Question: Out of all the cousins is first cousins your closest blood relative ?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:48 AM PDT

Question: My Mom and Dad don;t like my wife and I don't see them anymore because of it. They are getting old now, would I be bad if I forgave them?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:48 AM PDT

They were not nice to my wife because she was uncomfortable with our kids being around my brother (he has drug problems). So we limited visits and as a result they bashed my wife and my mother called her a b..tch. So I broke ties in 1998 and have only seen them three times since, one was when my brother died (overdose). I thought after my brother died we could reconcile but the insults ramped up when I saw them twice the month he died including the funeral (my wife came with me to that). So we cut contact again and haven't spoken since August of 2007. They are nice to me until the subject of my wife arises, then it is hostile. So they are 84 and 81 now and I got word through my brother that my Dad has early Alzheimers. Should I try again or just wait for them to come to me and otherwise consider them dead? They were great parents to me as a kid, it is the parent-adult relationship that has been awful. The kids of mine are adults now so I am not needing to be protective anymore (now my sister is an alcoholic) and my brother is dead. What do I do? Would I be being bad to my wife if I forgave them though? My wife hates them with a passion and hates my siblings with a passion. She obviously was mistreated by my parents.

Question: Is my son a murderer?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:39 AM PDT

He just got back from 6 month rehab in Venezuela, and I have reason to believe that he may be a murderer. I sent him there so that he could get off his addiction to marijuanas and to stop him from being gay because I'm catholic. He got back a few weeks ago and I've noticed that he often strips naked and lathers himself in pig's blood, and creepily watches (male) children at the local park. Just a few minutes ago I searched his room to see if he was really off the drugs, but not only did I find a pack of weeds but I also found 3 decapitated cat heads in his underwear drawer. Please what should I do I think something bad happened to him at rehab. I think he may be killing other humans now what should I do, send him back to rehab??

Question: Is it rude as a new mom to keep the baby away from some "family" ?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:37 AM PDT

I am due soon and this will be my first child and as talking it over with my husband we have decided to not let certain members of our family see our child. For example we agreed on my dad not seeing our child because growing up he let me down and disappointed me a lot. He hurt me emotionally and he will only have contact with me a few times a year and I just don't want my child to be hurt like I was. We also agreed on his mother NEVER being alone with our child because she's a drug addict and also an alcoholic and we wouldn't feel safe leaving our child with her. Does this sound dramatic or reasonable? We would just like our child to stay away from the people that has hurt us.

Question: Is it normal for a grown man to not be able to do some things independently?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:30 AM PDT

I am an adult and in my late 30's and even though I know how to take care of myself, there are some things I don't have any knowledge to do independently like cook and especially having to ask my parents or a family member to call my doctor for me about insurance questions since I don't know anything about insurance. Like for an example, if I go to the hospital for an x-ray and if a doctor there has a question for me about my insurance which I know nothing about except my parents or a family member about the insurance and if I had them call my dad or something, would this be childish or is this ok? Is it ok to have a third party represent me and to do things for me like that when it comes to insurance issues where I have a disability knowing about how to take care of stuff like that?

Question: I do I break bad generational legacies past down by my parents?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:30 AM PDT

My mother gave me some bad legacy that seeped into my brain and now I don't know how to live without doing it. It is where if I like someone I spoil them but if I hate them I let the whole world know. Also, the legacy that forgiveness is impossible. I never put private but I did here so I can be honest without being noticed when I answer future questions Also the legacy of blaming someone else like I am doing here

Question: How do I not get manipulated by my brother?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:22 AM PDT

He has a smartphone and a tablet. our parents bought me a laptop and now he wants it. He lies to our parents that his tablet and smartphone are slow and he cant research well. I have to use my laptop but he uses all the time when I need it the most. When I tell him to give it to me,he goes to my parents and starts talking sheit about me and my parents scold me and I have to give it to him. he starts yelling and arguing non stop so he wins all the arguments,and I become the bad guy.

Question: Is it bad keeping parents life insurance policy for self if you were living with your parent?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:20 AM PDT

and you depended on the parents income at the time. All other family members left home already(sisters and brothers). Is it considered bad if the person that was staying with parent uses the money to become independent, instead of splitting it with other family members? That person was the only beneficiary on the policy? Another thing is life insurance companies will not give it to the wrong person because they would have to pay twice or more from that mistake.

Question: My brother only comes to my parents when he needs something. He is 26. What makes someone do this?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:19 AM PDT

He was an awful teen and now he has distances himself from the family. He is not as bad as he once was (he used to steal, break things, and rage) but now he just ignores the family unless he needs something. Our older brother talks to him sometimes but that is all, again unless he needs something. I should have said "our" parents though he isn't really in the family anymore by how he acts. Rebecca · 7 mins ago-----How can I suck my own balls? I am a woman

Question: How do I get my Dad to start loving me again, ever since he got remarried he stopped loving his kids from his old marriage?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:13 AM PDT

How can we get him to love us again? He didn't even see us over the summer like he used to and now I just learned he is not going to see us for Christmas because he and his wife are going to see her older kids from her old marriage (they are older then us). He said we can still skype but that doesn't count as being with someone for Christmas. We won't see him at Thanksgiving as my mother makes us travel to see her brother. How can I get my Dad to love me and my siblings again. I saw in at Spring Break and for a day at a wedding two weeks ago. He might see us in January otherwise Spring Break next. He isn't like a Dad anymore and I am mad. My mother who is divorced from him says he loves his new wife now and not us. People tell me not to listen to her say these things but I am starting to think she is right. My mother seems to like it, like "I told you so".

Question: Why do some people (instead of Apologizing) get angry/offended/resentful if we make them realize their mistake ?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:10 AM PDT

*Please read full* I am a kind of guy who if does something wrong immediately apologizes. Because I feel hurt when I do something wrong and can't stand without apologizing it feels like if I don't apologize my heart will burst out. I even listen to lectures given by my elders because when I am wrong and anyone is making me realize it its their right to tell me that where I am wrong! But when anyone else is wrong be it my mother, small sister or father. They instead of apologizing become angry on me. Don't talk to me. As if making them realizing their mistake is a crime. Sometimes my father say "I will not beg you to forgive me by saying sorry sorry". But I don't want anybody to beg! I just want to people realize their mistake and be apologitic! Apology shouldn't always be sorry! It can be only one sentence telling me that I was right and they were wrong. But no. Even after all this if someone points out my mistakes I apologize. I tried to be like them but my conscience won't allow it! This happens with my family if it were outsiders than I would be OK. But my family does this to me.

Question: Is my aunt a Nazi? My cousin calls her "Nazi Mom" when he is mad at her, should I be scared.?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 10:05 AM PDT

I am supposed to see this aunt Saturday. My cousin calls her "Nazi Mom" so I am afraid she might really be a Nazi. My mother doesn't get along with her so I don't see her that often but I am seeing her on Saturday. Is she a Nazi and how do I find out so I can be safe if around her?

Question: Is it normal for a 16 year old to want a baby?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 09:41 AM PDT

Now before anyone says anything i know having a child is hard i know because i have basically raised my little cousins and nieces and nephews since i was 11 but i still feel the need to have my own child. Everyone says im much more mature than the other kids my age and i know lots of people are gonna say your still in school, what about money and a job. Well for one im not in school im doing a course that i get a diploma from and i know i would have the support from my family not all of them but most of them because three of my cousins had kids young.but im just asking is it normal to feel this way

Question: MY plan for university?! Would this work????????????????

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 09:20 AM PDT

SO to start off, I can't work right now because I'm 16 and my parents wont let me. So, don't tell me I don't do nothing or I'm lazy. No, stop it. First off all, my parents are on a very low income so they won't be able to afford for my tuition. I live in NYC (born and raised there) and I first wanted to get away from NYC. I thought about going to an out of state university like at Florida or California. But when I added the expenses, I was like HELL NAH. My parents can't afford that. I can't afford that. So I thought about doing community college where the tuition is like $4000 to $6000 (that region) and taking some online courses to speed up the process. Get a full time job and live at home so that when I'm done with college and get my B.S. degree, I can save all the money from my full time job to move to Florida and get an apartment, move in with my roommate get a full time job there and finally go to medical school but switch to part time job because med is a head ACHEEEEEE. This is to protect my bank and not burn a hole in my pocket in the long run. My parents can't help with anything and I'll be on my own.So in general, does this sound good????? Any more tips or experience from you guys would be helpful. BTW I'm a high school-er on my way to this stuff...............

Question: Is having sex with ur first cousin insest ?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 09:06 AM PDT

Question: My mother likes to ruin family holidays by being picky about who she allows to come (which of the family). How do I get her to grow up?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 08:39 AM PDT

I am an adult so could just skip it but then I'd have no where to go. She doesn't ban her kids or grandson, it is her family of origin (her siblings and their kids) where she is in with some and out with others. It always leads to hurt and most people don't come as they are justifiably disgusted with her. Then we miss out on seeing family we'd like to see but aren't asked to their get togethers since we are expected with our Mom. How do I get my mother to grow the hell up? She is 57 so I don't know if there is a way or not. I want more family holidays and she wrecks them. My step-father's family comes, but not our family. When my Dad was alive she did the same thing (poisoned our relationship with him) so this is a pattern of hers. I should add she is not a narcissist as she never acted that way with us kids, just abusive to her family of origin.

Question: As a parent is it safe to let your child around a child abuser as long as they are supervised by someone we very-very much trust?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 08:33 AM PDT

I know this question might sound obvious but here is the situation. It is not me in the situation or my family but someone I know. This person's uncle is said to have abused at least 3 family members sexually. He is not a homicide risk but obviously should be no where near children (he is evil). This person's grandparents have the abuser and the rest of the family around at holidays (abuser is now out of jail). So this person wants to take her daughter (age 7) to Thanksgiving, however the pedophile will be there. Does she take her and just highly supervise her or do they miss the family time at Thanksgiving, is it too dangerous? I told her I'd ask on here for her. She knows the uncle a little but was one of his victims and speaks very little to him. The man is arrogant and doesn't show remorse she says (just acts like nothing happened). Again this is NOT my family, someone I know. Anonymous · 1 hour ago-----I will be with her for an upcoming event, that is why I wrote we (it is her I meant who is deciding)

Question: Should I pay or not?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 08:19 AM PDT

3 months ago we were at my sisters house. their hot tub was open, being drained and a shovel was left nearby. The kids decided to put dirt into the hot tub by the shovel fulls. By the time the adult realized what the kids had done there was a good layer of dirt in the hot tub. We offered to help clean it out but we never got a set date of when. My sister and her husband did end up cleaning it but it didn't work. The parts needed to fix it were around $240 which they decided to split 3 different way for the 3 different families that were involved. We were a bit taken back but we paid the next day. A month later we hear that the parts didn't fix it. My sister and her husband hire a professional and it gets fixed for $300. Another month goes by and we get another text saying they are splitting the cost for the professional again and that we owe $100. Now i know its just $100 but I want to know if we are in the wrong for not wanting to pay. We have hosted before and have had things broken and ruined, but we have never considered charging others for it. What are your thoughts?

Question: How do I overcome the damage my parents did to me so I can keep the good and remove the bad?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:59 AM PDT

They were NOT bad parents, they just dumped their problems on me and got me involved in adult problems. Now I have bad anxiety because of them. How do I get over this? I am in therapy, what else? Like I say they were not bad, just one of them (my mother) got mad at people and sucked me into it and my Dad backed her 100 percent of the time. So I have anxiety because of them. Also they dont understand anxiety as they don't have that feeling of anxiety, never have.

Question: I can't stand my brother in law and he lives with us!!?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:43 AM PDT

He and my husband are very close. They have always lived with each other. We also work together. At work he is rude and temperamental. We also live with his girlfriend. He constantly asks my husband for money for things such as repairs on his truck or anything expensive. It's a fight to get the couple to pitch in on groceries and clean up after themselves. He makes me cry often because of how mean he is. He only cares about himself and lies about everything he can. I fell like I'm constantly walking on eggshells to keep him happy and level headed. He acts like a 15 yr old boy. He refuses to be mature bout ny situation a often threatens to break my things or hurt me if it's something he doesn't like. I try very hard not to let it get in the way of my relationship but it gets harder everyday.

Question: I can't stand my brother in law!! How do I keep my cool?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:32 AM PDT

Question: How do I get over the fear of my mother?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:30 AM PDT

She alienated me from her family (my extended family) as a kid and now that I am an adult I am still terrified of her. I am terrified she has the power to still hold me back indirectly (like purposely set up a conflict of times so I miss a family event other then hers). Intellectually I know she can't control me as I am an adult but emotionally I still feel like I am 12 when I think about her. I am aged 33. She is not evil or dangerous, she just poisoned my relationships with her family when there was no threat to me even though they had differences. Also she banned me from seeing people she was mad at (now she just rolls her eyes of I do). I usually keep who I see now secret from her (I live on my own)

Question: My dad masturbates in the living room?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:29 AM PDT

Nothing like this ever happened until a couple of days ago I walked past the living room to get to the kitchen, and he was sat on the sofa masturbating with the door open. As soon as he saw me he turned the tv off and got up straight away saying I was up early etc. I'm not close to him anyway so I ignored it and haven't spoken to him much since, which is normal for us. Well today around midday I go to the living room to get something (the door was closed this time but I didn't think anything of it) and he's doing the same thing, immediately turns the TV off and goes off into the kitchen. Not sure what to do about this other than never sit on the sofa again. Why is he doing it so publicly wtf is wrong with him? I'm 20 by the way

Question: People insist on tearing my family apart.?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:18 AM PDT

I'm 35 years old and I'm the 3rd oldest of 8 kids. As a child, I could remember my older cousins visiting from out of town. They would come to our house, bully us and try to turn me and my sisters and brothers against each other. My mom also had a friend whose nieces and nephews would visit from NY and do the same thing to us. In school, my enemies and "friends" would intentionally go to my family members and tell them things about me just to see the hurt on their faces. My "friends" would also come to my house and do the same thing, ouch. As an adult, I decided to work with my brother at a job. I befriended this couple at our job and for some reason we would be in a good conversation and they would all of a sudden begin to blindside me and start talking trash about my brother to me, like wtf. Why would you do that? Moving on, my sister's best friend does hair. I got her to do my hair and she just out of the blue starts to tell my all of my sister's darkest secrets and talk **** about her like I wasn't even sitting there. Once again, I was like wtf. Why would you want to betray my sister like that to her own sister. I'm pretty sure that my sister confided in you as a friend and trusted you not to tell anyone, especially her sister. Moving on, I've also seen people do these same things to my mom and her sisters and brothers. My family has been disrespected and torn up so much til we don't even talk anymore. Is this a generational curse? People insist on tearing my family apart.

Question: Do you like or dislike your parents..?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 07:00 AM PDT

I come from a family that isn't the brightest and nicest. I have to admit I really dislike my parents and most of the rest of the family. My father is racist against his own people, he is hispanic, and he calls them names if they don't look so appealing to him. He glorifies his kids that look more caucasion, but somehow he acts like I'm not as worthy as them because I didn't end up looking caucasion, I actually look like his mother... his father's family was a white family and he likes them more and denies his mother wasn't white. My mother, shes a woman who allows my father to manipulate her. She never made anything of herself because my father was controlling and verbally abusive towards her and myself, I am the oldest if that has anything to do with it. I feel bad for her at times. I have moved out and am married and happy to be out of there. My fathers side of the family is as ignorant as he is, and they are very shallow people.

Question: How might I get my mother to let me have a relationship with my grandparents (her parents)? I am in 8th grade so not able to go on my own?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 06:14 AM PDT

I asked a question earlier about this but was vague on some parts. Situation below. 1. My grandfather is an alcoholic. He is NOT violent or anything but can get in a bad mood when drunk. 2. All my cousins get to see him on holidays and special occasions. My siblings and I are the only ones not to. This hurts me more then you can imagine. 3. My mother did the "tough love" thing of telling him no relationship until you get help. That was her call but the thing is she cut us out of his life also when we did not make the call to do that, she did. 4. The hardest part is my mother tells us that her mother, who she is also at odds with about it, does not want a relationship with us because of my grandfather. Yet the other grandkids are really close to her and respectful of the grandfather. My mother reminds me of this everytime I bring it up "they don't want a relationship with our family". So while we have family on my Dad's side it hurts to only have one side of the family. It really hurts that it is personal and they don't want to be in my life like my mother says yet I don't get that when she was the one to cut my grandfather out due to his drinking. So HOW can I get her to let me be in her family this holiday season? It hurts the most then when all my cousins go and have photos on Instagram and we are the only ones not there. I feel so ashamed of myself but can't change it. PLEASE HELP

Question: My Dad has been acting weird. What do I do?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 06:13 AM PDT

I'm 18 now and for the past month dad has been acting strange. It's just me and him living together but before this nothing was awkward. I started noticing that when I passed by or got up he watched me. Like if he was watching TV he would literally stop and follow me with his eyes. I caught him looking at my butt when I bent over. Cringe I know. Thenn one early morning I was going to the kitchen and I caught my dad outside my room. It looked like he had his ear to my wall. Nothing was said he just turned and left to the kitchen. Now today same thing. When we are in the same room it's awkward and I just avoid him now. I have no where to go and I'm supposed to live here while I go to college but I just feel sooo weirdd. I don't know what to do? 😔

Question: My mother tells me about her brother's sex life with his now ex-wife, is this normal for a mother to do?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 05:58 AM PDT

I am 16 and with her a lot. I find it funny but creepy she is telling me this stuff. It is nothing scandalous except that the aunt was pregnant before they married (I didn't know but was little then). It just seems it should be private. Like how she got pregnant when they were having marital problems and it was her way to trick him into the marriage. Or how the frequency declined. She has 3 brothers but only the divorced one she talks about the sex life of (plus she is not that close to the divorced one).

Question: How to deal with a child that claims something is his/her own when it's not?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 05:56 AM PDT

I have a four year old nephew that borrows my phone to play games and watch cartoons he thinks the phone is his own but it's not and when I try to explain to him he crys and shouts I can't even use my own phone in peace.

Question: Why were families close in the old days and they are not anymore?

Posted: 01 Nov 2016 05:44 AM PDT

I know select family members might be close (like two siblings might stay in touch or two cousins). However, it seems most families are no closer that classmates. They see each other as kids and then lose touch as adults accept reunions. Only difference is some come to weddings and funerals (mainly the elder ones). So why is it that in the old days families stayed close all their life, now they are just acquaintances as adults other then maybe two or three members of a family who become friends? For example my mother has 6 siblings. Never was there a falling out or anything but when I was little they'd see each other twice a year for the grandparents (Christmas and Summer). Now the grandparents have died and two of her siblings we haven't seen in 6 years though we get a Christmas card. I have only seen three of the cousins since grandparents died (2007 and 2010) and only one aunt and one cousin would I call close. My Dad's family lives local and is smaller so they are a lot closer plus our grandmother is still living. But he has cousins he hasn't seen in years. So why is this?