Long story short, I'm thinking of asking my girlfriend to marry me after we come back from belize in march. We've been together for a year now. We both have great families, no financial pressures other than goals, our relationship is what I consider nearly perfect. Only because I don't believe in perfection. We actually agree on just about everything and spend most of our time together searching for new experiences, traveling, and basically looking at the world to see what we can experience. We've even started getting our finances together to buy a sailing catamaran and start exploring the world in 3 years and we are 29 and 25. My only concern is I was married once, never did figure out what I did wrong other than being the guy that liked skydiving, flying, adventure etc..and she just liked to cook. So I've been divorced with no kids or baggage since the end of 2012, then had a shitty relationship for almost two years. Now, I've found someone that I really do see myself spending my life with, but I'm not sure if after one year it is too soon to make that determination. What's the usual amount of time that people spend together before popping the question As a side note all of our friends and family like the both of us.

I've been married for 4 years now, overall my marriage is a OK one. I understand life has it's up and down, and we can't have it all. Lately, or lets say it has been a good few months, also in between our married years, I always have the feeling my husband is not the one I want to spend rest of my life with. He's 10 years older than me, now this ages has really grown on us, career wise, interested wise and life goal wise, we've growing into two separate paths. I'm 30 and he's 40, I feel like I'm living in an older and much disciplined life. I don't want to have kid just yet, but he does. I love travel but he doesn't, I know you must want to ask why I married him at the first place, oh well the answer is when you fall into that false love with someone quickly, you brain doesn't function soberly. Another thing is our sexual life sucks, he can't satisfy me. We had many chat about this but no improvement whatsoever, I don't want to end my life just like this. Being with someone also he loves me, but I can't live the way I want, and be myself. I know some people will say I'm selfish, I'm really not happy, struggling in my head constantly. financially I'm doing a lot better than him too, I really feel like I'm 40, I'm always jealous of couples are around the same age.. What should I do? I'm a person not afraid of living single life, I just need freedom and be myself..

I feel like it affects children by making them feel alienated to find a spouse or a soulmate and sometimes depressed. It has also elevated levels of anger in children.

he's 31 and I'm 22 he even invited my parents and my older brother as well as me to his thanksgiving saying its my debut to his whole family and he's proud to show me off and he thinks my family and his family will get along great I've already met his mom and cousins and we've only been dating since august could this be going into the marriage direction??? he's divorced so idk how easy it is for him to wanna get remarried

Wife's mother came to visit. They went out to do their hair and came back 5 hrs later. I'm not talking to both of them. My wife went to work and I stayed home with her mom and ignored her. I don't like my wife going out. I won't even be happy if she goes to her work Christmas event as she has to take care of our child. Am I wrong? Should I divorce ?

my husband sat on the couch with me after work. He said how his feet were sore and asked for a massage. I agreed. I took off his boots. When I went to remove his socks, I realized that his socks were nearly black from filth . I started to massage his bare feet. As soon as I started, I got a whiff of a horrible smell. I didn't say anything since it was a hot day and his feet were probably sweating. Then as I was rubbing, I noticed callouses on his big toes. He had toe jam in between his toes. I kept rubbing, not wanting to be mean. After 5-10mins, he readjusted because he was uncomfortable. His feet were now closer to my nose. The smell was horrible. I asked him if we could stop because his feet smelled. He laughed and said " No, deal with it. I was on my feet all day and they are sore. I always do what you want." He moved his feet up to my nose and said "Smell them. All that sweat. No air for 16 hours!!" I started to gag and felt I was going to puke. He laughed. I started to tell him how he's gross and stop. He said how I'm his foot slave I only talk when he says. He put his hand over my mouth. He grabbed a sock, forced my mouth open and stuck it in. Then he shut my mouth and put his foot on it, so I wouldn't spit the sock out. I was forced to be his foot slave. Why?

is love supposed to hurt? How do you know if the person you are with really loves you? I have been with my boyfriend (well ex right now) for 3 years. the first 4-5 months were amazing, he was the perfect man. All of a sudden he got really comfortable with me I guess and he would hit me (not all the time but he would hit me hard) he cursed at me all the time and towards my family, he would check out girls right in front of me and say things like (I would love to **** her, she is so sexy), whenever he would do something wrong he would break up with me (i think he broke up atleast 90 times through out the relationship to teach me a lesson) He would lie about where he was and would hardly take me out. He broke up with me 2 days ago for I don't even know what but I know he will text me back. I reached out to his ex-gf and she told me that he would hit her and insult her but from the sounds of things, he got a lot worse with me. Why does he keep coming back to me if he does not love me or why doesn't he just move on? how do you treat the women who loves you this much like this. I know I am stupid for staying but it was hard to leave and I somehow always took him back I felt guilty and he would never apologize for anything he did wrong he would just break up I do not like being with someone like that I just feel like it has been so long that is all I know.

About a month ago a coworker of mine died unexpectedly at an early age 55. My Wife had also known him for as long as I worked with him. The day I told her upon finding out she broke down and cried uncontrollably. I later found that they were texting and on Facebook daily. It was to the point that she had to get on medication because of his passing. I had never seen my Wife in this emotional state even at the death of a very close relative. Because of the daily texting and Facebook and her emotional state I almost questioned whether there was more than just the above mentioned things going on as in an affair. My Wife said she wanted to talk with me and assured me that there was no affair whatsoever. I was somewhat satisfied after our talk but now have learned that she's even been back out to the gravesite on two separate occasions. Now my suspicions are again wondering that she was in fact having an affair with him. Am I putting to much into this or was she actually having an affair that she can't put behind her even though he's gone?

Is it possible to get legally married but keep your names the same? My wedding is in fall of 2018 but I really need health insurance now because of my disabilities. I would feel really bad if i needed to change my name at the court because when its time the wedding would be odd. If we did do this before our wedding can we still have my last name changed after the wedding?

My husband and I have an 11 month old daughter together and he also has a 5yo daughter from a previous relationship. Our daughter is the apple of his eye, he dotes on her so much and she is rarely out of his arms, he genuinely cherishes her and I love that. My issue with this is that his first born.. he rarely sees her, granted we live in different states but he doesn't even go out of his way to spend time with her but our daughter he will stay up all night with if needs be. I feel bad on her as I know what it is like to not have a father in your life and i'd hate her to go through that if I could find a way to help. I have tried discussing this with him but it just ends with him getting defensive and I drop the subject. I know I probably shouldn't interfere but i'd love to have them all bond together and have a relationship. Any advice?

I am a 23 year old female married to an incredible man. When I began to have sexual feelings for people it was usually for woman growing up. I kept this to myself and tried to push it down. When I was in 9th grade I was dating a bisexual man who dumped me after 3 months for not wanting to have sex yet. As far as I got with him was kissing him which did feel really nice and sweet. I was ready to come out to my friends as feeling like I wanted to be with women too when I met my husband. He was born in a Mormon family although he was not and had strong views on these things. He had 2 girlfriends before me, neither of which he even kissed because of his morals. When I was 15 we had sex and it was so nice I could push down these other feelings. We had a long distance for awhile which was so hard but we got through it and at 19 we were married. 2 weeks ago I got out of my mind drunk (which was also what he had not originally believed was okay) and I told him that I have liked women my whole life). He thought I was joking so he was kidding about a threesome. When I became sober he quickly learned the truth and told me he understood me now and where the light in me went. I was told I could explore other women and he would like to watch and touch me but not her. I really want to but am afraid this will ruin us because we were almost built around our purity. (Also...His sister's husband came out as bi 2 years ago and he was mean about it. He now wants to apologize so badly for that) Just adding that he was born in a Mormon family and while he was not Mormon himself he still had these very strong views of soulmate love and we didn't even kiss for 3 months. After my last boyfriend it was nice to want to be wanted for more then sex and my husband just made me feel like a god almost. I was never trying to explore this and since I have been with him since I was 14 I did feel wrong ever having these thoughts and keeping them from him. I wasn't being 100% with him and that's all I was trying to do. He offered me this and I am just thinking about it. I NEVER would have asked to do this. I completely respect all of your opinions, i'm not just asking this so I can get a "you're an independent women who should do what you want" just please offer advice even if you don't agree

I'm asking cause I get no Kissing what so ever from my wife, very seldom.

will he develop feelings or can this go on with no feelings attached?

I know everyone will say "cheating is wrong" this and that but in reality, can you go with the flow, not overthink the whole thing and be successfully married and sometimes have a thing on the side?

I have said something to my husband about it, due to it bothering me so much but made him not say anything for the fear of making it awkward or worse. They weren't together very long. They only do it with this ex. they even like her kids pictures. Would it bother you? and would it make you feel like they didn't like you or that they liked her better. Am I being petty ?

We live below our means. My husband salary will be enough for the 4 of us as a family. I work as an insurance financial accounting manager and my salary is our savings. We saved my whole salary plus a small portion of my husband salary per year. We max out all of our retirement plans and still put money away for our kids education. She doesn't know how much we make and it's non of her business. She judge all the expensive items I purchase. In her eyes a handbag should not cost more than $100 dollars and she set certain limits on spending. She try to convince how I should spend my money what car I should buy and etc. Is this jealousy? Or Is she really being a good friend. She does give good advice but when it comes to money or spending she is pretty judgmental. She once told me about 2 years ago her husband salary will not be sufficient to feed her family and he needs her income. I did not tell her how much i spend on anything. internet is a great place to find out how much someone pay for a car, a bag or even how much my house cost.

My 20s have been rough but when I turned 25 I had no idea how much harder it would be. All my friends are either getting married or they've been married and are pregnant. It's been really hard because I have been single for almost 6 years. Most times I don't mind it but this time of year especially it gets hard. Its like a daily reminder of how lonely I am. Since I was a young girl I have always been independent but I find myself yearning to settle down and have a family of my own. I have seen some really crappy people find significant others no problem and they pop kids out like pez. How did you get over this crisis? And how can I stop comparing myself to others? Thanks so much in advance

Met 2 years ago on a language exchange website. Married for 7 months, dated for 2 years (1rst year spent together, 2nd year was long distance relationship. I'm 25, he's 27. I'm from America, he's from South Korea. Currently living in South Korea with him. Returning back to the US soon. Denies cheating while we had long distance relationship- I have no valid proof that he may have cheated- just my thinking. His parents completely approve of our marriage. My parents disapproved of our relationship because they suspected him of using me for citizenship (without no real proof or reason). Left my parents home to come marry my husband and haven't let them know I am married and bought a home in the US. Little things about my husband annoy me and make me angry. Alone and depressed-he's always playing starcraft and doesn't want to go out much. And I have no friends here. Anyone else unhappy as a newlywed? Sometimes I think I made a horrible decision in getting married. I don't think it matters to whom I would've married, id think the same way.

My ex, who is a widow of desceased husband and left with 2 children. I did not really agree how she takes care of her kids. One time (last time we ever saw each other) the teacher on the bus told my ex to teach her son (4 years) the education to sit on bus while it moves. And I was very mad as her son is out of control (becasue of her not perfect person) and i told her straight up you're not a good mother. Not the first time I told her this but after that comment, that day she was very angry with me, She did come with me as I was buying stuff for the home and we just started fighting on little things, and eventually broke up. Am I in the wrong? She later did tell me that night (after she asked me something, I replied and began hesitating my words. She told me oh come on, jsut talk normally, you are ruining my english (now I speak very good english, she doesn't)

So my husband and I are going through major financial battles that include court, new place, a baby on the way, and many bills from the both of us. My husband has partial custody of a little boy from his ex who I watch part time while he works. I recently quit my job due to unhealthy anxiety levels while being pregnant and we currently can t afford to keep our phones, don t have half the furniture we need, and can barely even afford food! My husband only seems to be worried about christmas gifts and I m afraid he s going to go out and buy the whole toy aisle out plus a gift for thr both of us (which he was talking about). And his son has a mother, two sets of rich grandparents, and other family who would shower him with gifts. It worries me greatly that he would be more worried about pleasure spending than his family s needs first. I also feel as if he s not too worried about having the necessary items for our baby that we re still missing. Tried getting gov. help but still haven t received word yet. I am a new mom and wife and need advice badly on this. thanks much

I do the best I can to please my husband. After work, he lies on the couch. He is a construction worker and has to wear thick heavy boots in high heat. I feel bad so do what he wants. While lying on the couch, I sit down by his feet. He lifts them up and puts them on my lap. I untie and pull his boots off. He always lets out a sigh of relief since his feet can breathe. I run his feet in socks for a bit, then pull off the socks. I rub his feet some more. After 10mins or so, I let his feet sit out while I get the water ready. I bring a basin of cold water and one of hot. Since his feet are still hot and sweaty, I wash them in cool water first. He loves this since his feet get relief. Then, I have him soak his feet in warm water with epsom salt. After 20 minutes or so, I pull them out and dry his feet off. He lies back down with his feet up on my lap again. He flips on the tv while I give him a massage. He stands for long periods of time, so his feet are usually sore. I rub on lotion, then do a deep massage. He always thanks me and says how nice it it. After a half hour of more rubbing, I put a pair of clean socks back on. People say this is too much, but I want him to feel loved and comfortable. Do you cater to your husband/wife's feet this much?

I feel like I have betrayed her , If I tell her the truth I fear losing her ? What should I do I have epilepsy and I didn't disclose that I m having it since childhood. Also I have many mental issues like flipping , focusing all related to epilepsy , I had seizures thrice in her absence but she doesn't know , I take medicine hiding them . When I got sick in the past I went into depression in which I did series of mistakes which are unexplainable since it happened due to my illness . What should I do I have epilepsy and I didn't disclose that I m having it since childhood. Also I have many mental issues like flipping , focusing all related to epilepsy , I had seizures thrice in her absence but she doesn't know , I take medicine hiding them . When I got sick in the past I went into depression in which I did series of mistakes which are unexplainable since it happened due to my illness . What should I do

She says she wants to have sex with other men while I watch and then I can have her after they are finished. It sounds kind of hot but I'm not sure about this. Any advice?

My wife abandoned me when she got a good Job out of state. She left me and our kids (her parents had the kids when she left.) I got myself on my feet got a job and for 2 years tried to reconcile our marriage (to no avail.) every time I tried she shut me down (ignored my calls, ignored texts). Now that I've met an awesome woman that loves me and our kids she now has been calling me and trying to mend our marriage, but I've gotten to the point where I don't want our marriage. She's been texting me saying she wants the kids for thanksgiving (even though my girlfriend and I had plans) I said ok. Now she's invited me. Our marriage was toxic fussing and fighting (no hitting in my part.). My new relationship is nothing but good. What should I do?

I cook, clean, and 39 weeks preggo with our child. I make sure my husbands clothes are set out in the morning with his socks and shoes so he doesn't have to think about it. I don't work so I take care of everything and I am going to be a stay at home mom. I am grateful don't get me wrong but I am ******* horny. I don't ask for much and the only time I ask for money is when we need food in the house or if my car needs gas (which is not all the time because I don't go anywhere except for groceries and the occasional fast food for our dinner). Sometimes all I want at night is some good loving. He cuddles with me and doesn't let me go and kisses me all the time and tells me he loves me all the time and I love it. But damnit I have needs to. He never wants to make love to me. I feel so unnatractive and I went out of my way yesterday and spent almost 4 hours shaving 'everything', doing my hair to a 'T' (sexy hair), smokey makeup, and dressed up. I looked damn good. All I got from him was 'Your bras are getting to tight'.... I just want to ask him if he actually has a penis. I love him to death but damn! Its been almost a month and my hand just aint cutting it anymore but tells his guy friends we have sex all the time. and I just want to yell at him and embarrass him in front of his friends and say 'Well I don't know who your have sexing with but its not with me!' Ugghh!!! I'm about to explode! And everytime I bring it up how we barely have sex he gets defensive and embarrassed. Cont) And I know he isn't cheating on me because he comes home straight after work and we are on each others phones all the time.

My husband pitches a fit and leaves for sometimes days at a time when we argue. He runs off to his mother's house and stays there. I'm pretty sick of my son having to watch his father constantly leave when there is any disagreement at all. So I'm ready to leave him permanently. I am working on employment already. But what are some resources for mothers who have had their husbands walk out on them and their children, in Houston, Tx?

Even if she had the papers signed and ready to be served? Should she havevfollowed through with the divorve anyway? Say she did stay with her abusive husband out of guilt because he was hurt and needed care. At first, things changed after the accident. He is different. kind and loving but he has the m9nd of s child do to the accident. slowly he starts to revert to his old ways. Now instead of physically abusive he is emotionally abusive with infrequent physical altercations. Should she stay to care for him and take the abuse or should she follow through with the original plan for divorce?

My husband is someone who procrastinates alot when it comes to getting things done. He has an infection in his gums and needs an implant. Its a long story, Anyways, I am always reminding him to call the dentist and worried about his health but he still doesn't do it. I have to be the one to remind him or call the dentist for him. Am I wrong or is this ok that I have to do this? Should he be more responsible about his health? I appreciate everyone answers or responses, but if I don't care and he gets sick or he gets a heart problem because of the bacteria build up in his gums, then it will become my problem, don't you agree?

My divorce started having problems as a developed a huge ovarian cyst ! I was in constant pain, my ex husband started to watch tons of porn, which didn't bother me! One day after 8 years of marriage! I went and looked through my ex husbands history, there was not only porn but dating websites! I was heartbroken then he started practicing black magic "because this is common in his village in Mexico" but he always denied he practiced or believed in it, until our last two years married! His father passed away, and my ex filed for divorce! My brother recently told me I ruined a marriage with a good man! That broke my heart! What do I do? Do I cut my brother out of my life? Or what???

My wife had multiple relationships before we got married and most of her ex's are trying to contact her asking her to get back together or keep sending their pictures to her. This makes me extremely uncomfortable. I asked her not to have any contact with her ex's who are trying to contact her for the wrong reasons (either to sleep with her or whatever). I am cool about her talking to her ex-husband, as he is classy. I'm not asking her to not talk to any man or anything like that. It's just the 'wrong crowd' that I have been asking her to avoid as it makes me feel very uncomfortable as there is some unusual excess of interest in her from men that I just don't understand. Today, she said there was a guy who was following her and another guy who was smiling looking at her long enough to make it awkward for her. I appreciate that she told these to me, but these things make me very very uncomfortable and sad. Why are all these things happening with her that happen with none of my friends or their wives. There is always SOME wrong interest in her from someone that is stressing me out. I'm not happy at all with this element of our marriage and it's really bothering me. What do I do?