So I've liked this girl for a while. I was being stupid and got impulsive and we were walking around this darkish hallway and no one was really around. We were going to go drop off papers for work. Anyway, I kissed her, but it didn't last long. She started crying pretty much immediately, pushed me away, and seemed terrified of me. She left as fast as she could. I mean I thought I might get rejected but **** I didn't think that would happen. I'm not disgusting or anything.

I just got married a few days ago and changed my last name to my husbands. I know I wanted to do it, I had thought about it a lot but I still cried on my way to the SS office and feel very depressed now after the fact. Even though I kept my last name by moving it to join my current middle name, I still feel like I have just lost a big piece of my identity. Is this something a lot of people go through or is there something wrong?

B4 marriage all was perfect as in dream. He is generally a reserved person however we got on so well. In the last year however He changed from the person I fell in love - he is mean,blames me for all negativity even when I have had no part in it , He hides things from me we don't talk nor enjoy time together I have never felt so alome. he is extremely closed and does not tell me anything personal to him. I am an extrovert and love opening up to him. recently the arguments have gotten dreadful and we have separated temporarily he makes no effort to contact me or apolohise even though he caused the arguments by staying out late and hiding minor things from me. I am lost as to what to do : do I walk away for my own sanity or keep trying....

Been married for 4 years, wanted to start having kids a year ago, but husband says not until he has a more stable future established. Problem is, he won t decide on anything. He keeps dropping out of his college classes and failing semesters because he "just can t find passion in anything". I m all about finding your passion, but this is getting ridiculous. He has been in college for 7 years now and still has no undergrad. I wouldn t care except for the fact that it is delaying us from having children, buying a house, etc. I have my bachelor s degree and I am a very ambitious/hard worker. I am bringing in all of our income while he keeps dropping out of classes, working on his truck, and hanging out with his buddies. This has been going on since we first got married. Am I horrible for being at the end of my rope? I love him with all my heart, but I am starting to lose respect for him after being patient and understanding for so long. We planned to start having kids a long time ago but he refuses to start until he not only finds his career, but graduates and starts working in it. I have been wanting children so bad that sometimes I have dreams that I m pregnant and I wake up so, so sad. He gets defensive and angry whenever I try to talk to him about how I feel. How am I supposed to handle this as his wife? Yes, I don't own him. Problem is we agreed before we got married that we wanted a large family, and he said that his condition was not until he was more established. If starting a family wasn't in our plans, it wouldn't bother me so much.

My dad passed away 3 years ago and since then I've kind of taken it upon myself to learn about my family's ancestry. My dad and I were really, really close so his death when I was 19 was really hard on me but now I'm kind of confused by what I just found. I just found out that my dad was married for 8 years and then divorced, before marrying my mom 5 years later. I found the marriage and divorce records, theres no denying that it was him. I don't know if I should mention this to my mom but it makes it feel like my relationship with my dad was a lie. He never once mentioned that he had been married for 8 years before. What do I do? Just act like I never discovered this?

This has been going on for the past year and I'm getting annoyed. Whenever I pick my wife up from work or the gym, she always takes her shoes and socks off in the car. I find this ok since her feet must be hot,sweaty, or sore. The problem is her feet smell putrid. She always apologizes for "any little smells", but her feet are worse then that. When I ask her to put her shoes back on, she says how they are tired of being in shoes. This past week has been really bad. After work, she's been going to the gym for 2 hours a day. When we get in the car, she complains how her feet are sweaty and need some air. She takes off her shoes and lets out a big sigh of relief. Yesterday she said " Phew I can smell them from here. Glad you don't mind babe. That's was a hard workout an they were sweating the whole time." I thought to myself how horrible the smell was, but I didn't want to say anything mean so I just nodded. It's a 30min ride home, how can I cope with this?

I'm 29 yrs old and have been with my husband since I was 16. However we only got married in April. We had such a great relationship and we figured getting married wouldn't change it. But it has. Now he tells me ALL the things that he hates about me and claims I ruined his life. How is that possible? If he was so miserable why has he been suffering in silence for 13yrs? I think he only married me so I could be trapped. He has become so emotionally abusive and I'm trying to understand why.

I've heard the phrase, "its cheaper to keep her," why do some men stay in unhealthy marriages?

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My wife and I have been together for quite some time now. In the begging there was a lot of passion, but over the years that passion was replaced with a different kind of feeling. I do love my wife, but more like a family member not a lover, she became my best friend over the years. We have sex on regular bases, travel, go out on dates, everything normal couples do. My problem is that I am not infatuated with her anymore, I don't even get jealous when other men try to talk to her. Recently I saw her talking with her ex and that really upset me! Since I got jealous all of the sudden, does that mean I still love my wife?

I found out in a fb message that you have to accept to answer when you are not friends on facebook that the woman my husband was seeing right before he got with me, it said she was pregnant and wanted nothing from him. This is a NIGHTMARE THAT NEVER SEEMS TO END. I already have 3 kids, he has a daughter who is 4 who never bothered to get visitation rights for but pay a way too much in support and then we just recently found out he has a son that he wants to pursue giving up because the mom is getting married bc lets face it he can't afford more child support either especially when he won't get a better job... I'm trying to be supportive.... But I'm not sure he really wants to give up the child...I think he wants to pay for them both to look sorta noble...but not deal with the drama.... But it bothers me...he had me mention to the 2nd gal about adoption and she won't talk to me about it even tho I have a lawyer lined up and he won't follow thru on talking to her either... And now!! Apparently he MAY have another kid out there that...who knows...the mother prob will send papers unless she had an abortion or miscarried... The only good thing may be is that the the mother lied to her husband (appears she got back with him and they are still married) and the child is "legally" currently her husband's unless she comes clean... I hate knowing this secret and I want to delete the message from almost a year ago that my husband has never seen... WE JUST GOT MARRIED!!!

My family is having Thanksgiving on the same day my husband's mom is having it (Which may seem to be a no brainer, but up until the last few years, my family has had Thanksgiving the following weekend to make traveling a little easier). But the last 2 or 3 years, I haven't had Thanksgiving with my family, so we could have it with his mom, who has been battling cancer. My husband wants to have Thanksgiving with his mom, of course, but I haven't seen my family since last January and my grandfather hasn't been in good health for a few years either. We visited his mom about a month ago and do so about every 2 months. I told my husband he should just go have Thanksgiving with his family and I'll have it with mine, but he insists that we go the same place, though I assured him it would be fine with me. Because of his mom and my grandfather, this has been quite hard for me to decide (my husband will not), I could really use some advice on what to do. And then, if we did go to our own families' dinners, who should our son go with? Is there any way to make this decision easier for both of us? I feel terribly inclined to go with his family, because I know he will be hurt otherwise, but I do miss my own family as well.

My husband has expressed to me, over and over, that oral sex (him receiving) is very important to him. The problem is I have never been comfortable giving oral sex. I have always been very submissive. I rather my guy take control in the bedroom. But, I would like to be more assertive and I would like to be more confident and feel comfortable pleasing him. So, how can I do this? The few times I have done it for him he has obliged to my "rules" (no pushing my head down, etc), so he's willing to compromise with me as long as I do it. I'm not a young kid that just got married, I am 37 years old and this has always been an issue for me. I've had 2 other serious relationships before my husband. The first one didn't like receiving oral, so I think that may be why I don't feel comfortable to begin with. The second one basically forced me to do it every time we had sex and he would want me down there for a very long time (30-45 mins) and it got old fast. So, how can I get over this and please my husband? He doesn't demand it all of the time, and I should be able to do this for him without feeling so uncomfortable about it. He has said it is a huge issue for him that I don't do it, which I feel isn't really fair because I never did it while we were dating. But, I feel I should be able to please him. He is very much into pleasing me. So yes, him expecting something that he wasn't getting before marriage may seem selfish, but he does things for me in the bedroom. I feel I'm the selfish one. Pick, he didn't shove his penis in my mouth, I wouldn't really consider it rape, I willingly did it, but he always positioned himself in a way to say, "Hey, it's time to do this", while we were having sex. And then he would just last forever. I did talk to him about it, but nothing ever changed. To make this clear, it has nothing to do with the act itself, I don't mind the taste or anything like that. It's the way it makes me feel when I do it that I don't like. Trisha, go away with your warped view on things. You entirely missed the point here.

I worked a manufacturing job for 6 years I was laid off in January and my wife had just graduated with her business degree last December. I haven't been able to find a job, so I did what I should be doing, taking care of all of the housework while she works. She's making comments and doing things that are making me feel like less of a man. She has started calling me "my wife" and has called me a housewife several times, just not in front of other people. When I used to be the one working, we would have a morning ritual. She would make me breakfast and coffee and would see me off at the front door, she would tilt her head back, and I would kiss her. Now, she has asked that I start making breakfast for her! I have been doing it, what's fair is fair I suppose. With her profession, she has changed the way she dresses, she now wears skirts and very high heels. She is managing sales contracts for a women's clothing store. I am 5'9" and she is about 5'6". She routinely wears really high heels that make her taller than me, I have to guess that they are 4-6 inch heels. She insists on making me kiss her at the doorway, the same way I used to kiss her, with ME having to tilt my head back since she's taller than me in high heels. The thing that gets me, is that she comments on it, she has says "what happened to my husband? Did he shrink?" "I'm taller than you now, I guess you really are the housewife now." Am I overreacting? Is it her, or my insecurities?

Out daughter was born in January of this year (2016). Most of this year she lived with my husband's parents, but in August she started staying with us. However, on the IRS website it says that if a child was born in the tax year, then they are considered to have lived with you for the whole year, even if they didn't live with you for the whole year. But even in spite of this, my husband still doesn't want to put her on our taxes even though we really need the money. My husband's parents have a lot of money and don't need any extra at all, but my husband wants them to put our daughter on their taxes just because she lived with them for most of the year. So I need help. What should I do or say to my husband about the situation? I told him that we need the money, and we definitely do, but he still wants his parents to put her on their taxes. I don't think his parents care either way, but my husband keeps arguing about it and making it seem like I am being selfish or inconsiderate by suggesting that we put her on our taxes. To Liz: I meant if they are born into your family. Of course you couldn't claim our daughter because she isn't in your family.

Edit i have been married 10 years since I was 18 to my husband and we have two children. 8 years old and 6. He told me he really likes his study/lab partner, kisses her and stuff. He wants a open relationship. This girl has been to my home (when i thought they were studying) and I guess they have fallen in love. I confronted her and she said she didn't mean for it to happen it just did. Sh doesn't know what she wants. I had him choose, and he says he wants to try for the children. But I know i read texts he sent her telling her he misses her so much he can't think during the day. What should I do? she said they haven't had sex. Should i be worried?

I was raped by a family friend at the age of 15 and got pregnant. I have been with my husband for 3 years now. After I told him what happened to me when we met, he told me he had a best friend who raped several teens and was recently put in jail. He and his family had no idea his friend was capable of ever doing that as they had known him for years. I understand they were friends and that he never saw that side of his friend. Well it has been 3 years and his friend decided to write him a letter. I felt my heart get heavy and that horrible experience went through my mind again. I asked my husband if he would write back and he said yes, because he was his best friend as teensoon up to the age of 25. I just can't believe my husband who knows how much it hurts and what the trauma of being raped caused me. I can't stop imagining the trauma all those teens have suffered because of my husband's friend and how he can even consider writing back. It hurts me heavily, does he not care about what I have been through enough to hate him. I have moved on and try not to remember the past, but just knowing about that letter made my heart feel heavy and I started to cry uncontrollably. To which he asked me why I am making about me. Why I get sentimental and angry when theyou talk about him. Should I look the other way and not care if he writes back?

She gave outdated and unsafe advice to me in the past. I'm still offended a month later.

We've only been married for a couple weeks now, I'm asking this question because sometimes she gets annoyed at me when I tickle her or agitate her (just playing around) and she's grab my wrists and left marks, stabbed her fingernails into my arms and also left marks and today she me 4 times in my legs and side and it feels bruised, all this is because I tickle her or play around or joke around, that's just my sense of humor. She calls me stupid, ignorant, and dumb on the daily basis as well, does this seem abusive to you? Any advice? HAHA BABEHART