Family: Question: Why doesn't my mom want me happy?

Question: Why doesn't my mom want me happy?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:47 PM PST

She body shamed me for being skinny but I have worked so hard to get where I am at I used to weigh 180 pounds now 150 pounds I had to do workouts at home because she wouldn't take me to the gym because it's to EXPENSIVE when yet she pays over $100 on smoothies I have asked her to be in a sport or something she said no so I do a lot of walking she gets mad everytime I do something good just because she is miserable doesn't mean I have to be when I was together with my ex at the time she was mean to him kinda makes me think that's why he cheated on me I wouldn't blame him if that's the reason though I'm still friends with him, we sometimes talk about me moving out soon she sometimes talks about getting a duplex together like no I am trying to be away from you because you drive me crazy.

Question: I am dreading Thanksgiving tomorrow, how do I handle the hurt I will feel?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:17 PM PST

I am not going to see my Dad or his family because my mother won't let us. My parents divorced and she dislikes my step-mother so penalizes us kids. My step-mother is not the most child friendly but I am a teen and don't mind. She is not mean or anything. Tomorrow will be another holiday where my Mom alienates us and my Dad is too lazy to fight for the right to see us (he asks us and when my mother says no he doesn't pursue any further). I feel such a void not being able to have some holidays with my Dad and his family. Calling him doesn't count and as a result I don't even know my cousins that well (see them once a year). My mother on the other hand has family but all my cousins are babies. Also, even though my Mom's family is close we deserve two families. How do I handle the hurt I feel tomorrow and at Christmas over this? How do I stop hating family holidays. I am only 16 and deserve equal time.

Question: Am I in the wrong?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:15 PM PST

My brother is a 22 year old man who feels the need to ask for everything. He asks where his things are. He asks for my mother's and my help on a daily basis. He asks me to spell check his work and if I know where the clothes are and where his mail is. He doesn't do his own laundry with the pretense of not knowing how to do it. Am I in the wrong for thinking that he should learn how to do things and not rely on my mother and myself? Does he have a point of if we might of seen something he needs he should ask first?

Question: Tomorrow I have to listen to my Mom and aunt speak of how much they hate their brother, am I best to just ignore them?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:13 PM PST

Their brother is the family outsider right now (it rotates among the 5 siblings who the bad one is). Usually this lasts about 5 years and it is year 3 of us hating him. It was my mother before this. So I obviously am more mature and don't want to join in and so am I best just ignoring them or do I scold them? Their complaints are just how he parents and because his wife is bitter like my mother they don't come to family holidays.

Question: My mother demands my Dad do things for her but seldom reciprocates. Why might my Dad be okay with this?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:11 PM PST

Weekends are spend with her making a list for his chores. She does not contribute anything. She gets mad when something is not done by him like he is a kid. I don't live at home anymore but it has always been this way (I would never marry someone like my Mom). Meanwhile she also gets mad when he does things with his friends and has NEVER allowed him to do holidays with his side of the family other then one Thanksgiving when our grandfather was dying. Even Christmas when his mother was dying she wouldn't let him do. So why is my Dad okay with someone this abusive? Or what might be the reasons? He did not grow up like this as his mother was much kinder.

Question: How do I get away from cigarette smoke?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:05 PM PST

My mother smokes alot. She won't listen to me because it's 'her house and she pays the bills' so she can smoke wherever she wants. If I can't make her stop smoking, how can I get away from the smoke? Also, are there any tips to convince her?

Question: What are some tips on avoiding someone who's coming over to visit?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:44 PM PST

My grandma and uncle are coming over to visit us, only that I never got along with them because they were always criticizing me. There is only one bathroom in our house and they're coming for a week. I really don't want to see them. What are some good ways to avoid them while I happen to go out of my room to use the bathroom?

Question: My mom won't feed me?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:35 PM PST

Here the thing,my mom has always been obsessed with being thin. Always pushing me to do intense sport even at the age of 10,but since we lived in Italy we ate healthy so it was kinda ok Even tho I kinda grew up seeing myself as obese,that is why I got fat. Now,it has been 6 moths since we transferred to Brasil and the thing is my mom is kinda becoming anorexic. She won't eat all day long and she'll do a lot of sport,so she wants to do this to me. (Also she is an alcoholic,so she replaces food with this) She never buys food,the only food there is,is with really REALLY low calories. The nearest supermarket can only be reached by a car and my dad is too busy to be into my life. There has been a time when I almost fainted because of this,I really don't know what to do. I am worried for her and for me. I am starting to feel really sick and hungry often Even when I'm in class I can't buy anything cause she won't give me money cause she knows I'll probably go eat something What should I do?

Question: How do I forgive my mother at this time of year for the hurt her keeping me from my Dad at holidays?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:27 PM PST

She is mad he divorced her. Plus his new wife is not the nicest around kids. I am a teen now so don't mind stepmother. My mother still says no when my Dad offers to have us for one holiday. I feel so sad knowing I am missing out on the holidays with Dad and his family. My mom won't budge even as I tell her it hurts. How can I get over this?

Question: Mom told me to leave and never come back?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:22 PM PST

I'm almost 16 and my mom said that she give up on me because I'm sexually active. She said she doesn't care anymore and to walk out. If I walk out nevr come back. I know she will have to let me back in soon but if I went to stay with a friend could she call the police? Also I'm homeschooled right now because of past mistakes. Am I able to enroll into public school on my own or do I need the help of a parent guardian? because they want nothing to do with me.

Question: How do I stop this guilt? I'm not going back?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:16 PM PST

A while back in august I left my dad. It sounds kinda weird but my mom divorced my dad they really never loved each other and my dad is an alcoholic, a huge liar who always hated my moms side of the family and just mean and grumpy in general, so me and my brother just went to his house on the weekends. One of those weekends he got drunk like usual and took out all his anger on me when I asked if there was any food (really? This is a common question). He took out my lightbulb to leave me in a pitch black room and later came in my room and trashed it while breaking really expensive things. I decided once I went home on Monday I would never go back and I never did. He and my uncle since then texted me once a month trying to bribe me. Of course I won't but every once in a while I get really guilty and think about coming back on the holidays but I don't want to go I don't want to see anyone but the dog that of course I can't have.

Question: Family trouble?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:06 PM PST

Hello my name is Nathan and my family has got some big news that my mother is pregnant and it may seem amazing but let me in on all the trouble in my house there lives my mother my grandmother my older sister me and my twin brother and sister and now my moms new husband of only 2 months ok. My mother broke the news to us last Thursday and I've practicality died we are going threw so much already first of my sister pays rent because my mother can't afford it all and my stepfather breakup works my grandma stays at home and cooks food for all of us while cleaning and watching over us and my 3 year old cousin. My mother works from 6-5 comes home says hi then sleeps wakes up and sleeps again. My mother is going threw financial struggles and it made my sister upset that my mother would decide to have a baby at a terrible time we are going threw to a guy we breakup even know and my keeps saying he's a good guy and my sister should show respect for he and now my sister is moving out and my mother says she can't do it and she won't succeed. Who can I make things better?

Question: My brother is making my mom cry and feel horrible just because she wants to take us on holiday.?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 12:02 PM PST

I have an autistic brother and my mom has never disciplined her kids. My mom planned a holiday for us and my brother said he would not go. He is 19 years old but he will not learn to drive or make his own food. My mom goes crazy trying to keep him alive. He always wants to go places and yesterday my mom needed to go to a doctor because she was sick and my brother wouldent let her because he wanted to go somewhere. He pulled her and she almost passed out. Now he is yelling at my mom every night. He says that she is a horrible mother because he dosent want us to go on holiday and he dosent want to go with us. He says horrible things and she cries at night and my mom never cries.

Question: My parents never appreciates me?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 11:57 AM PST

im a 14 years old girl and the youngest. i have never felt their love since they divorced when i was 5. they are now married with another person and left me and my sisters. i live only with my sister (middle one). the oldest one got pregnant when she was 17 (not married) and now live with her boyfriend. me & my sister don't go to school because we couldn't afford it. my dad comes home sometimes to take some of his documents that he kept here. and whenever we meet, he always scolds and yell at me. ever since i was little, i was never appreciated for anything i've done. i've been through major depression and had no one to lean on. it was because of my mother's husband who raped me but my mom took his side and left me too. my dad doesn't care. my sister has anger issues. but i do still love them. i really want to make them proud. i want to take care of them when they're old. but what should i do? i feel like it was my fault to even born and really want to change. please help.. thank you :)

Question: My family calls me a psycho.. is it them or me?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 11:27 AM PST

My family gets mad at me a lot. I have to admit that I don t always do my share around the house, but I feel like my mom is ALWAYS fussing at me over something. I try to reason with her to calm down and not yell, but she s so mad that she feels like yelling is the only way she can make a point. When we don t see eye to eye, she tells me that I make them all miserable and to go to my room. I asked her for how long, and she said that she wants me gone for the whole weekend. Also, she takes money away from me (large amounts) when things don t meet her expectations. I m 18 and a senior in high school, and she s taken at least $500 from me as well as my car for a week or so. I do well in school hoping it will catch her attention, but that only works for awhile. What s sad is that I feel like she is happy when I am away or when she catches me in the wrong because she gets to punish me. My sisters even convince her that I m crazy and tell her made up things to get me in trouble.. since I have a history of running my mouth at anyone who has a problem with me, my mom always listens to them and ONCE AGAIN I AM GETTING YELLED AT. I m honestly sick and tired of this, and I feel like I should move out. My mom does a lot of good things for me, but when she yells at me and makes me feel like I m this horrible person who screws up everyone s lives, I don t know what to do. It really ruins my self esteem. Am I the crazy one? What can I do to make things better?

Question: Masturbating sibling?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 11:14 AM PST

Me and my sister are 14 and we both like to watch porn and she jerks me off and I finger her for pleasure, is that normal?

Question: Housewife is spoiling her kids?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 11:09 AM PST

My mom is so insistent that we are screwed without her and will get weak and sick without her there to feed us. She literally brings my brothers and me our food even when we arent hungry and says my appetite isnt normal and i need to eat more but my bmi is normal. half the food goes to waste anyways because shes always trying to feed us so much. if i get hungry I will go to the kitchen and get food anyways but she acts like without her we will not eat enough and starve and our life will be ruined. she doesnt even make us healthy food so i dont know why she acts like that. we barely have fruits and vegetables mostly some oily curry. i think shes juts making excuses to make her job sound more dire than it really is. im turning 19 my brother is 17 and the youngest bro is 13 she should stop doing all this for us we literally tell her not to instead of do it and then make us feel guilty saying that we dont do anything and bla bla bla also i clean my own room but she literally cleans my brothers rooms for him and i think she should stop that because hes used to it always being cleaned for him and he wont ever start doing it himself at this rate. same with the laundry. how does she expect them to do anything if she insists on doing it. i think shes just making excuses as to why she needs to stay a housewife for the sake of us but i dont see why its so necessary. we are old enough. i mean its fine but why does she make us feel guilty when she does all this unncessary stuff for us also my younger brother would also do his own healthy cooking but he stopped doing it because he figured our mom wud do it for us anyways so if she would leave us on our own we wud be fine cuz i can make myself stuff too

Question: I can't stand my boyfriends cousin?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 11:05 AM PST

I hate being like this, but I just can't stand her. She is 16 years old, and basically just uses my boyfriend for weed and rides. She rarely gives anything back, and all she does is big talk about how much of a bad *** she is. I feel bad for her because I know she has never had a good female role model, but I also get annoyed that she tries to hang with us every chance she gets. She has very little friends, and the ones she does have are in trouble. I need to deal with this, it just sucks because I know he is the one that allows it. At the same time, I don't want to be disrespectful to his family.

Question: I really hate my mom?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 11:02 AM PST

So, I m an only child and I really hate my mom. My family is rich but my mom acts like we re poor. Me and my dad dress nice but she goes out and dresses and acts like a homeless person. She is just very out of place and embarrassing in public. I love my dad so much and I wish it was just the two of us. My mom verbally and physically abuses me. She calls me names and puts me down as well as hits me and pushes me away. I try to be nice to her but she never appreciates anything. I cleaned the whole house for her one day (mind you, this is a huge borderline mansion with an indoor pool and 5 bathrooms) and she came home from work only to yell at me for missing a spot in my bathroom. She cooks awful meals on purpose and is always rude. She scares away my friends and won t let me talk to boys. I am not allowed to have anybody over or go to anybody s house. I can t watch any shows other then Disney Channel and she won t buy me new clothes even though I have so few I run out within a week. She hates vacations and won t spend any money. My dad get fed up with her but somehow their still together. I m so sick and tired of this life. I m always being made fun of because of her and I m losing friends fast. I have tried to run away but my dad stopped me. Please help?

Question: Should I say anything to my sister's boyfriend?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 10:54 AM PST

I bought a Christmas gift for my nephew, and let my sister know ahead of time what it was. Alittle backstory - my nephew is not the boyfriend's kid. And the two do not get along. He's a 35 year old man, and my nephew is 11. Anyway, so Tim (the boyfriend) tells Jason during an argument, that his aunt got him a "stupid" present, and then proceeded to tell him exactly what the gift was........Now, being a college student on a budget, a"stupid" $80 present wasn't cheap. The issue is now, (since I only see my sister a few times a month) do I say something, or wait until Christmas and announce infront of everyone that I apologize to Jason for his daddy ruining his Christmas surprise, but that I hope he enjoys his present, and does not find it stupid. I want to be the bigger person, but my goodness I want to smack Tim so hard....

Question: My family doesn't believe me?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 10:43 AM PST

A few days ago me and my sister drove home in her car from my brothers, I was visiting from our of town and I accidentally left my phone in her car. We got into am argument and she told me to give her my phone I told her I left it in the car and she didn't believe me and things got worse from there. When my mom got home I told her it was in her car and my sister barged in the room and called me a liar and a piece of ****. My mom believed her and kicked me out for lying, which i didn't lie. I had to drive for eight hours without my phone and she still refuses to even talk to me unless I apologize, what should I do?

Question: I m bored and have nothing to do?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 10:23 AM PST

I don t have school today because of Thanksgiving. I got ready earlier to pick up something, but now I m just sitting in my room. I m 14, so I can t drive. There s nothing to really do in my town, not that it really matters since my friends are either already doing things, don t want to go out, or live an hour away from me. My mom isn t working, but I m not sure if she would want to drive me anywhere (also, walking isn t really an option. Everything is too far and my mom probably wouldn t let me walk). I always sit at home after school and on the weekends and it s getting really repetitive and annoying. What should I do

Question: Can I get my nephew arrested?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 10:13 AM PST

Before, I go on. No I am not talking about dating. I have a strange feeling my nephew is not a YOUNG adult. I have a strange feeling he is a REAL adult. I don't believe he is 20 years old, I strongly believe that he is really a 35 year old real adult man, when I say real, I mean a real adult who has been an adult longer. Not a stupid young adult who just turned one legally. I don't think my nephew is 20, I have had a strange feeling he has been lying about his age since he was 12 years old. His friends are 3 years "younger" 17 and three years "older" 23 than him. He said that's the age range he can relate the most with and they all like the same games/ things to do as him. Which I think IS creepy, he should be hanging out with the 30-50 crowd since I believe he is really 35. He "finished" high school 2 years ago, why would they of allowed a 33 year old male to go to high school? I believe my nephew is lying. He is sick in the head. Can I get him arrested?

Question: Father left child at 7 years old, what should I do?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:49 AM PST

My son is 7. I have been separated from his father since before he was 1. His dad has always been in and out. He will go several months seeing him every other weekend, then he loses his marbles and goes a couple without seeing him or any contact. He has never paid a dime in support or provided for his son. I realized that he was incapable of doing such things when he couldn't keep a part time job to save his life, 7 years ago. Alas, the important thing was that he was 'there', at least every other weekend. Be present. Make our son feel special. Even if you bum $100 from me for the weekend so you can take him to ComicCon - just do it. His dad had a child with another (crazy) woman 3 years ago. Since then, his dad has been really ... 'unpredictable', to put it nicely. About 5 months ago, he dropped our son off on a Sunday afternoon and said 'see you in two weeks...' Well, come to find out, his dad packed up and moved to TX (we are in IN) with his gf and other child. We have not heard a word from him. I haven't called him. My number has been the same for 15 years. He blocked me and my family members from his fb, and has made no attempt to contact us. My son asked me the other day if his dad was dead. I gave him so words of assurance. I told him I didn't know where he was. I don't know if I should tell him that his dad has moved to TX with his baby sister and her mom OR if I should continue playing dumb. Advice?

Question: Should parents scream, torture, throw things at children?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:42 AM PST

As one of the victims in this topic, I have to say, I cannot deal with this mess with my mom. I have a positive attitude unlike her. Everytime I try to say something good or change the negative topic, she screams. Its not just screaming, she loves to throw a chair or one of my belongings at me. For example, she threw a pint-sized vase at me and it broke into pieces, leaving me with cuts. So did the same thing happen with scissors except it didn't break, it cut me. She broke one of my possessions, one the objects that my dad personalized and gave to me before he passed away. I don't think this is right. Please help.

Question: My family constantly compares me to my cousin?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:40 AM PST

I just got discharged from inpatient hospitalization for an eating disorder a couple months ago. I'm really self conscious about my weight. My uncle, aunt, grandparents, even my own mom, always compare me to my cousin. My cousin is really skinny and she's a lot more petite. Everyone always asks me why I don't look like her even though we're the same age and eat about the same amount. They're always commenting in front of me how much prettier she is, how much weight she's lost, etc. Tomorrow I have to go to a dinner for Thanksgiving and I'm terrified to eat. How do I deal with family members who compare my appearance with my cousins?

Question: Sociology project: Is love still relevant in our global, contemporary society?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:31 AM PST

For my final I need to conduct a survey by asking this question. I would more than appreciate any and all opinions :) It doesn't have to be long, but if it could have substance to it that would be perfect. And if you're comfortable, a tiny introduction of yourself to supplement your comment would be great. Thank you! Also, feel free to write in any language comfortable to you :)

Question: I m grounded for a year for doing nothing!!! What do I do?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:23 AM PST

My little brother, 10 years old has been very annoying, I was helping my dad make the bed. As I grab bed sheets and run back my little brother fakes like if he was hurt and in doing so he falls down hard hurting himself. I did not want my dad to think I was this type of person. I was then punished by my dad for 2 weeks. At first I didn t care about my punishment, all I wanted was for my dad to know what really happened and that I m not the type of person that hurts others. I explain to him but he says why would my little brother be crying? I beg him to believe him. He tells me I m being annoying and I tell him I will not stop till he believes me I refused to go to church or do anything till he believed me. He then grounds me for a year. Do I deserve this? I wanted him to know that I wasn t a lier. And now Thanksgiving is ruined and Christmas is also ruined for me, I can t use my phone or play video games. I am writing this at school on a computer. Can anybody help me with what to do? I don t deserve to be grounded!!

Question: How old is my grandma?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:16 AM PST

She says she's 74, but my mum says she's 80, and my aunt says she's 76. How old is she, really?

Question: I m sorry but I hate my mom so much?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 09:09 AM PST

Okay so I m 12. I know that sounds crazy but I just have such a strong disliking for her! We are a small family.. me and my mom and dad. My mom has always been an angry person and yells for stupid reasons. If I don t get a B on my report card she screams so loud and swears that I m stupid and Need tutoring. We are not that wealthy and we dont have THAT much money. She buys stupid stuff online and always sends money to my completely fine siblings, but when I ask for something she says I m ungrateful. I m pretty sure she is racist... I m half Colombian on my dads side. She is rude to my dad and treats him like ****. She is a trump supporter and white as f*ck. I go to a private school where all the teachers are white. My skin is pretty dark and all my teachers are racist. Every time I tell her, she ignores it and stands up for her own race which is white. She doesn t seem to like black people or hispanics. She drives me insane!! Please help.

Question: Is Thanksgiving a good time to show my family I like to Crosdress. I thought if maybe I wore a pretty dress & heels and brought an apron?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:57 AM PST

to help my sisters with the women's work I might be more accepted How would you react if your brother or Uncle showed up dolled up in a cocktail dress? FYI my family lives in Texas and are good Christians but not super conservatiive

Question: My cousin's husband is cheating on her. Should I tell her what is happening?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:53 AM PST

Question: I am 32 and my mother does not want me to go to therapy for fear I will talk about some of the terrible things she had done.Should I not go?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:51 AM PST

My mother is a hurt and confused woman that hurts me terribly by the things she says to this day. She is worried for instance that I will talk to the counselor about her knowing that my little sister was being molested by my step dad, or that she never let me go to school and let us get beat every night by our father etc. I can forgive and forget but last year after my fiancé left me she looked me in the eyes and told me everything g was my fault. I almost took my own life when he left and a week later she said the statement that she knew would rip my heart out. Then last week she said Even if I had gone to school, I would have never made it. I want to go to therapy and she's so upset that it will affect her. I'm so hurt and confused.

Question: Should I send it today or Thanksgiving day?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:49 AM PST

I have a card to give to my friend it's about how thankful I am for her. Should I give it to her today? Or tomorrow? I figured today because tomorrow she's going to be extremely busy cooking and with family. What do you think?

Question: I need a good Thanksgiving prank cause Pam an them is coming for dinnar tomarrow so theirs gonna be a BUNCH of people at my house!?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:42 AM PST

Their will be like 30 people at my house for Thanksgiving an I do a good prank every year. One year I waited till every one was in the dining room an I went in my room an took off all my clothes an ran downstairs, threw the living room an dining room an kitchen an back upstairs TOTALLY naked an my cousint Jena saw my worm! One time I peed a little in the mashed potates an stirred it up an one year I stuck my worm in the iced tea! One year I was still having to sit at the kids table an I stuck my finger down my throate an throwed up all ovar everything! It was hilarious! One other time I walked threw filling my plate an was crop dusting an I was back at the table when I herd uncle Pat in the dining room gag an then go "who the hell farted? Jesus Christ it stinks like a outhouse in hear!" I laughed an laughed cause no one knowed it was me cause I had left before the stink came rollin in. That was prolly my favrite prank, though I did jake off a lot after Jena saw my worm. What can I do for a good prank this year? I don't want to do any of the same stuff!

Question: Why do families usually no longer get together with aunts-uncles-and cousins for the holidays after grandparents die?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:34 AM PST

Both my parents' families had big gatherings and after the grandparents died it fizzled out after a few years. No feuds or anything and we still cross paths during the holidays with a few people (most live local). But, Christmas and Thanksgiving are just Mom and Dad and their kids and grandkids. The one exception is the uncle with just one kid and no wife (he comes over with his son since they'd be alone). Why is this? And am I right that most families do this?

Question: Hey, Hey im 16 and have a delusional mom who bothers me about eating every 30 mins. Any suggestion on how to deal with this?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:31 AM PST

Question: Why is my aunt sad and lonely?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:27 AM PST

She'll never know that she drove my uncle away.

Question: Have you ever done something for your kids and then regretted it?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:13 AM PST

Question: ADVICE NEEDED----Do I need to apologize for behavior in 2004-2005?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 08:07 AM PST

I had a manic spell in college brought on by my anxiety. My mother was at odds with her family and I was always trying to make up to them about it. As a result that became one of my anxieties. So in my family anxiety I would seek out family too much. I became intrusive and even a little stalkish. I'd run into people on purpose and invite myself to things like a family Easter and a cousin's Elementary School graduation. One aunt became very irritated with me I could tell and uncomfortable. So come 2006 I backed off. However, in 2012 I got in trouble once when a misunderstanding made this aunt and another think I was imposing again. So now it is 2016 and everyone seems to enjoy me. My mother is interacting a little more with her family as well. Do I ever need to apologize for what happened 10 years ago or would most relatives (aunts in this case) forgive and forget at this point? My mother has a hard time forgiving people so I have come to believe all family members are like her. I still obsess about family but have better social boundaries. I am in therapy and on medicine for anxiety.

Question: My dads mother is coming home today she treats me like a 2 year old and is always smacking my butt how should I tell her to stop? Pls help!?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:56 AM PST

Question: Mother still hates my boyfriend even after 5 years.?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:48 AM PST

Ive been with my significant other for five years. My mother still talks badly behind is back, trying to tell me he doesn't mean anything he says, he's a liar, a horrible person, etc. My dad at least acts civil. What would you do in this situation?

Question: About my college graduation?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:43 AM PST

I graduated for a local college and the college could only provide 3 tickets for each graduate. Of course, my Mom, Dad, and brother were obvious choices. My aunts & uncles were furious that they didn't receive invites and haven't spoken to any of us since. We tried to explain, but no luck. They are pissed. Now what?

Question: How do I handle the loss at holidays of not being with extended family anymore following grandparent deaths?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:37 AM PST

Everyone just does things with their own kids now and we see them throughout the year but not at holidays. I miss the holiday gatherings but I have an apartment so can't host anything plus half the family travels. How do I get over this loss? It starts tomorrow and continues through Christmas and New Years. It is a big void I feel.

Question: I have to see my sister tomorrow who randomly tells me I smell (My Dad says I don't). How do I deal with this immature 20 year old?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:36 AM PST

I ask my Dad who affirms I don't smell at all. Obviously I would know also from smelling myself. How do I deal with her? She is weird and immature for no reason (no disability other then ADHD so she is not emotionally disabled or anything). How can I respond? I haven't had to see her since July but have to tomorrow for Thanksgiving.

Question: Why does my blood relatives get mad if I don't say I love them back?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:10 AM PST

Ok why would I say it when I don't? They emotionally abuse me so much and criticize me often and they expect me to say it?! One day my brother was telling me how I never say I love you I said I do just to make him shut up that didn't work he said actually say it, he also he said say you love your nephew this was awhile but they still get mad about it oh and one time my mom said it I said I love you to quietly she was getting mad either she didn't hear me or she was looking for attention by her friend who saw it.

Question: Hey if this is my gq stay. Beautiful .. Wish u could ve told me. I loved u but I found like this ... Just be u ...?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 07:03 AM PST

Question: Did My Mom Have the Right Reason to do This?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 06:51 AM PST

I'm 12 yrs old and I was walking to my mom's car to go to school and I forgot about my glasses. I told my mom and she told me to go get them. After trying to search for my glasses, I decided to leave the house and find my glasses later. I opened the door and my mom looked at me very angry about being late for school and being irresponsible. She went to look for my glasses and she pulled my hair, started yelling at me, and I think she cursed at me in Spanish too. I started crying and at that point I felt like killing myself. She found my glasses and kept yelling at me. When I left school she's acting like nothing ever happened. I thought it was very dumb for what she did and should've apologized because she forgets stuff all the times, so I don't why she pulled my hair and yelled at me also I wasn't even late for school.

Question: Please, i need help. I think my mom is crazy and idk how to help i have never seen her like this.?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 06:36 AM PST

My mom has been acting crazy for the past two days and this started Monday and today is already Wednesday. She keeps saying she is hearing voice and she doesnt even let my dad go to work she is crying and keeps shaking too. This morning i found her in front of a candle screaming to my dad on the phone to come back this was around 7AM and i ran to her scared because i didnt know what was happening and she was like scared and shaking talk to my dad on the phone and i grabbed her and i told her to calm down and took the phone away i kept telling her my dad was working but 10 minutes later my dad got here and he called her by her name and she said "shhhhh im not her, you cant say my name in spanish i dont know what to do, i dont wanna take her to a hospital she will feel alone and maybe that wont help her. She is not a believer in spirits and she keeps talking about my dead grandma, please help.

Question: I can't take it anymore!?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 06:09 AM PST

Ever since I was little,I've wanted to see the world and make a diffrence. I chose a career that would allow me to do both. But with my mom and brothers, I'm under appreciated and picked on. I'm not allowed down the street, let alone Africa. My brother blaming me for something that even my mom says was his fault was the last straw. Running away seems like my only option. Any advice?

Question: Issues at home?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 06:02 AM PST

I live with my dad's friends who my mom and dad were really close to. My mom passed away when I was 13. I am 18 now. I have been in a foster home for 3 or more years until they took me in. I wasn't allowed to live with my dad and I also don't want to live with him. We just fight a lot. But now with my dads friends wife. Let's call her Jackie. Jackie gets mad at a lot. I forgot to take my clothes out of the dryer she gets mad. I'm getting a surgery and she's mad because she don't want to to take care of me.. now i just told her I have ADD and she's mad.. so much fightin here lately I don't know what to do?

Question: Should I Tell My Grandmother This?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 05:51 AM PST

My Grandmother is 80 and almost housebound, she is a great woman and i love her very much. I am a 27 year old woman and she always wants.to buy me something big for Birthday and Christman, she is very wealthy and she wants me to have the best. Last Christman she bought me a Playstation 4, now it was very expensive and i was touched as it is the best thing. However i went to the game store and exchanged it for Playstation 3 and a lot of games. The reasons for this are There are only 2 games on Playstation 4 that i am interested in and both are already on Playstation 3 The games for Playstation 4 are stupidly expensive and really i could.afford them but i woyld rather spend money on other things, upkeep of house,taking wife out for dinmer etc. Problem is she always asks me what i want and when i say i am not sure she always buys me something and also gives me money, problem.is she could be buying me things i already have or didnt want etc. I felt bad for exchanging my Playstation 4 that she bought me, i exchanged it for Playstation 3 console Accessories 20 Games. With a Playstation 3 there are many many games i like so i do prefer having that. Grandma means well but she doesnt understand that the newest technology isnt always best. Should i feel bad about this? Should i tell her? I am worried that this year she will buy me something like more games or accessories for the Playstation 4 that i dont have.

Question: I think my family's life started to be hard because of my mom.?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 05:48 AM PST

So, I'm 13, I know, I'm young but I will explain what is happening the best that I could. So, 4-5 years ago, my mom and me are going home from buying groceries, and I have the better life, I can get what I want, I can do what I want, nobody will scold me because of my decisions, etc, but this is where my hard life started, so we went from the groceries and we ride in a public bus, and then the bus passed our destination, and it's night, there is no jeep (I'm from Philppines) and bus passing in that place in night, so we ask for a ride in the van owner nearby, and they agreed. And they offered real state job to my mom, and this is where it all started. And my mom really wanted to earn many money, but after 2 years of real stating, nothing happened and it just makes my family more problematic, me and my young sister need to go to many people so they will take care of us and others didnt treat us better and my mom go to a more deeper job that which is I can't explain here (because it's confidential) and it makes our life more problematic because now, I'm depressed and I have OCD, SAD, and sometimes I have panic attacks and it was caused of stressed because I need to take care of my naughty sibling and so many things and sometimes I can't take it anymore. And my father works in another country and he's 9 years in there, and I didn't saw him person to person since when I was 6 years old, and we just chat everyday, and he said he always say to my mom to stop her work but she don't.

Question: ADVICE NEEDED----Do I need to apologize for behavior in 2004-2005?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 04:40 AM PST

I had a manic spell in college brought on by my anxiety. My mother was at odds with her family and I was always trying to make up to them about it. As a result that became one of my anxieties. So in my family anxiety I would seek out family too much. I became intrusive and even a little stalkish. I'd run into people on purpose and invite myself to things like a family Easter and a cousin's Elementary School graduation. One aunt became very irritated with me I could tell and uncomfortable. So come 2006 I backed off. However, in 2012 I got in trouble once when a misunderstanding made this aunt and another think I was imposing again. So now it is 2016 and everyone seems to enjoy me. My mother is interacting a little more with her family as well. Do I ever need to apologize for what happened 10 years ago or would most relatives (aunts in this case) forgive and forget at this point? My mother has a hard time forgiving people so I have come to believe all family members are like her. I still obsess about family but have better social boundaries. I am in therapy and on medicine for anxiety. I saw the question below about someone not forgiving their aunt so that made me decide to ask this.

Question: My mother won't forgive her aunt's behavior from 1980's. Is this common of family? Should I be afraid?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 04:32 AM PST

My mother's aunt was single with three kids in the 1980's so she got needy. She would call her brother (my grandfather) for money all the time. She also showed up and her nieces and nephews sporting events without waiting to be invited. Lastly, there was a conflict with my grandfather's mother who had alcoholism and depression and so my grandfather didn't get anything when she died and this great-aunt got everything along with the other sister (who died 5 years later). So now my mother does not like this aunt of hers. It has been 32 years since her grandmother died and yet she still complains about this aunt. The aunt now is not intrusive and does not ask for money. She is remarried and much more modest about boundaries (though a little tacky). So is it normal that if you are at odds with someone's parent then you don't like them? My mother doesn't like this great-aunt of mine due to stuff 30 years old but my Dad says it is because she is mad at my grandfather's mother still for not leaving my grandfather in the will. I don't get why the great-aunt is punished for what her mother did. Is this normal and should I be afraid people will do this to me? My Mom's brother doesn't like her and 6 years ago he blocked me on Facebook when I tried to friend him. Might he dislike me for my Mom's sins the way my mother dislikes this aunt due to her mother's sins?

Question: I have an issue with my sister in law she is 14 years old, minipulated and loves having attention .?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 03:59 AM PST

I just got married recently & his sister would try to get in the middle of us in every picture! She would call him over and pull him aside the whole time we were celebrating. When we got married she gave her brother a hug of course & said ILY but at me she didn t say anything. She tries to argue with me constantly. When I first met my husbands half siblings at a carnival my husband would want him his sister than his little brother then me on the ride. She would say hold me!!! And he would hug her. That s doesn t happen anymore at all. We would get in arguments because of her . If she did something wrong she would blame me when I wasn t even there. She always asks for money, tells her brother to go buy her somethin (which he doesn t)& tries to use me like a taxi. How do I draw the line w/ my husband ? I don t want to visit his dad, brother, sister every Sunday. Not just w/ his family but mine too. We finally just got a place to ourselves and I want to enjoy it. The first night we were at our new place his family helped put a couch together by 8pm and didn t leave until 11pm.His half siblings would argue&yell. &their father would yell at them. I was raised differently. The sister is almost 15 & his brother who I get along with for a reasonable amount is 12. They are too old to be yelling and arguing. Is it ok for me to tell them both that there will be no yelling in our home ? (W/ my husband?) is it appropriate for me to ask them to leave ?

Question: How do I give "the talk" to my 11 year old brother?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 03:06 AM PST

My brother and I are very close .He tells me everything going on with and the same is with me.His friends are telling him things related to ..you know what.He is just 11 .He told me not to tell this to mom and dad.Its in my hands to educate him .Pls tell me how to do that.I hope it doesnt get awkward

Question: I moved on and now my child's father wants me back?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 02:21 AM PST

My fathers child and I dated for two years. Honestly he treated me like complete crap and was never faithful. Always looking up other women, always talking to other women, there was ALWAYS something. The last time I found something that was it, I was done. Not even a week after I kicked him out, completely not planned, my ex came back into my life. Now all of a sudden my baby's father realizes everything wrong he's done and swears up and down he's going to change. I don't really believe him, but he's manipulative so he knows exactly what to say. I'm torn and idk what to do. My baby's father is pretty much forcing me to choose. He was really mean to me daily. I couldn't talk about my worries about the relationship, he always degraded me. It was horrible

Question: My Mom Suddenly Died - Need Help With Dealing With It?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 02:05 AM PST

I'm 18 years old. On Thursday the 17th of November, I watched my mom pass away. It was sudden. She wasn't ill. My mom was having an eurythmia, meaning her heart went into an irregular motion and nothing could be done about it. I kept telling her to look at me, that she was okay and showing her how to breathe, she was scared and kept saying she couldn't breathe and she was dying. Every time I told her to look at me, no matter how disorientated she was, she managed to focus on me, until the last time I said it, she didn't look at me anymore, her eyes didn't move again, they started to change color, she was so cold and motionless. My dad tried for about 30mins to breathe for her and bring her back but it was too late. We tried everything we could. From our initial phonecall before my mom passed, up to the arrival of the paramedics was over 40minutes. I'm left with the last image of my mother and an overwhelming amount of responsibility. My mom was my whole world, we spent every day together, I can't cook or figure out how to use the washing machine. I feel so alone and I can't grasp what has happened even now. What do I do? How do I endure this??

Question: Do you hate your sisters boyfriend?

Posted: 23 Nov 2016 01:51 AM PST