The gift is for my step daughter who is 22 years old, just moved in with her fiance (they are lesbians), this is their first place outside of their parents homes, and so I wanted to get them something for their place, but I also know that everyone else will be getting them something for their home, plus they have their wedding coming up and will have a registry with stuff for their home so I wanted to get something different that no one else would do. My idea is to commission an artist to paint a custom cutesy portrait of their dog, which is like their child to them. My husband thinks it s the stupidest thing he s ever heard, but I think they ll love it. He says if someone gave him that he d hide it deep deep in the garage where no one would ever see it. But he s a 40 year old man, and these are 20 year old girls. What do you think?

Hey guys. I currently in my first semester of graduate school. I only have one job at the moment. I've been looking for another job for 2 months with no success. My current job position as an graduate Assistant does not provide me with enough funds to support myself but my tuition is paid for. My fiancé is taking care of the rest of my finances while I am in school but lately she's been taking her anger out on me because she's been taking care of the bills. What should I do? I am actively looking for a job....actually 2 jobs.

Idk it this is connected or not but yesterday my boyfriend texted his baby mother and sending a picture saying "I love our son" and on top of that yesterday he asked me "how would you feel if we split apart? And go separate ways?" I feel bad .. I think he wants to be with her ? But he told me that he asked that because my family is unsupported of us. And he's tired of pleasing ppl but I was wondering maybe he just missss his baby mother And also he said that after he came back from getting his son from her so idk if it's all connecting

My wife whom I am separated from works at a restaurant my mom just so happened to walk in. My wife went to my mom with a wedding ring still on her finger and they both started crying. Me and my wife have not spoken in months. Her cousin and other members in her family have contacted me to talk trash and threatene me. They don't know we split because she cheated on me and later asked if I could say I coerced her into marriage. ( even though getting married was her idea) we are not officially divorced just separated. Why did she cry? And why is she still wearing a wedding ring? What does this all mean?

I am writing a research paper about how stress affects relationships/marriages. I would like some real scenarios. Thank you!

I honestly think my husband is addicted to porn. I'm not the only one who s said it. He has a problem. We have sex all the time, every day. If not, he will still get sucked off. Or if we have sex, he'll still go watch the porn, he will watch it any chance he gets, bathroom, at work, waiting rooms, you name it! It makes me feel like ****, not attractive, not good enough kind of thing and I've told him that. I wouldn't care so much if it wasn't all the time. Side note though. I'm getting worried now... We have a 2 year old. Should I be worried about his porn searches? Most of them look amateur and are titles like "daughter sucks daddy off" "daughter bangs daddy" daughter-daddy this and that.. the girls literally look 12-16 and I know if they re on porn sites they re 18+ but seriously... I don t know how to process this, it kind of makes me feel sick and grossed out? Am I overreacting?

My husband and I have been together for 9 years. Our relationship has always been rocky, and we had talked about separating several times. In January, he had an affair with a coworker and left me to be with her. We did not divorce, but it was a very messy separation. During that time, I was lied to and disrespected severely as he was very conflicted between continuing with his mistress and coming home. He actually ended up seeing both of us at the same time because I did not have it in me to let him go completely. This definitely did not help things, but I was very conflicted, too. The mistress ended their relationship two months later and we decided to salvage our marriage. This was 8 months ago. I am still having an extremely difficult time since those emotions during our separation were very traumatic. My husband admits that he has a hard time with leftover emotions from his relationship with the other woman. On our better days, our relationship now is better than it has ever been. I feel like our progress has hit a brick wall, though, because it's hard to express our emotions to each other without reliving everything again. I'm just hoping by writing this, someone somewhere has been through something similar and can provide some imspiration and hope. Do couples really fully recover after an affair? How long does it take? How did you move past the emotions?

Backstory: I am 25 and my husband of 3 years is 27. We have been together for 7 years total, and we have a 5yo girl and a 4 month old girl. I work full time overnights, always pulling at least 8 hours of OT per paycheck, sometimes more. My husband, who has a degree but refuses to use it for anything, works part time and brings in half of what i make per month. He works days. I have a babysitter for my youngest 3 days a week while my oldest is in school full time. I try to sleep during the day as i work 530pm-530am, but i still somehow manage to take care of my family, clean the house, pay the bills and do what needs to be done. He, very rarely, will take the trash out or do a load of dishes, but most of the time he is playing video games. i would say on average its about 20-30 hours a week. This has caused issues between us for years, and how he is incapable of playing video games and taking care of our kids at the same time. Now, before you say "you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel", i have done this probably close to a hundred time in the last 4 years or so. He groans and complains or says he will change and he does, for about 2 days, then goes back to how hes always been. Also, before you say "stop having kids with him", i have. no more kids. The thing that is really putting me over the edge is how he treats our girls. 5yo and 4 month old, and he gets frustrated and yells at them or grabs and jerks them around. I need to know what to do. i want him to leave. Update: If you are going to waste my time being dumb, please move on to the next question. I am genuinely asking for helpful opinions, not antagonizing ones. Thanks

My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum the other night. She said she was tired of "playing house" with me and told me to decide if I wanted to be with her long term or not. We have been together for three years. She is in grad school for engineering and works full time as a manager. I am an engineer as well. I moved into her house about a year and a half ago. I told her I'd like us to get a bigger house together but she said she's not really interested in getting another house unless we are married or engaged to be married. Frankly, I can't afford it right now. I have some debts I need to pay off first. She said she'd be willing to help me pay those debts but it makes me feel like a loser having my girlfriend help me out financially. I told her we will get married someday. I guess that's not good enough. Why are women so pushy for marriage?

I've thought about dating someone who has a child but I just can't. I don't hate kids but other people's kids can annoy me. I also find it annoying and boring R when people talk about their kids. Is this normal?

She won't have sex with me and I'm wound up like a clock because of the frustration Should I divorce her

I want it to be at 68 degrees. She kept saying that she was cold. I thought she was exaggerating. She's been wearing socks, leggings, and long sleeves around the house. Right now she's not working and I'm not made of money. She quit her job and is looking for another one. I don't think the house is too cold. So I said when she wants to pay the bill, she can feel free to waste money by turning it up. She didn't say anything to that. Today, I came home and she was wearing gloves in the house. And I said it's ridiculous you're wearing gloves. Then she took her hand out of the gloves and it was kind of cold and she said they were way colder before. So now I feel bad. I know it's going to be more expensive. I read each degree increase costs you 5 percent more of your bill. I guess I'm not just annoyed about the hate but money in general because she's not working right now and I'm paying for everything. Her job was miserable. She was exhausted and would sometimes cry about it after work. But I also feel like we don't all have jobs we like. I hope she gets a better one but I don't know when she will and it's stressing me out. Anyway I can't tell if I'm just being a jerk right now because of that. Should I just put the temperature up to make her happy?

so I asked him to please wait until marriage for sex and he did but when we did it it was a horrible disaster I didn't know what I was doing at all and I think I frustrated my husband badly I feel like **** for letting him down and it's my fault for not being experienced enough I bled all over the place I asked him to please stop and he did and I apologized and he said it's ok and I went to the doctor to see if everything was okay But now whenever I try to initiate sex again with him he tells me to stop and to get off him and he goes and watches porn instead What should I do

My wife whom I am separated from works at a restaurant my mom just so happened to walk in. My wife went to my mom with a wedding ring still on her finger and they both started crying. Me and my wife have not spoken in months. Her cousin and other members in her family have contacted me to talk trash and threatene me. They don't know we split because she cheated on me and asked if I could say I cohorsed her into marriage. ( even though getting married was her idea) What does this all mean?

Any women been through this? How can I get my husband to open up to the idea? I've brought it up a few times and he always seems to get a little upset about it.

Ten years ago my heart was broken by, what I call, the love of my life. We fell for each other very fast and very hard. And then just like it started, it ended and she moved back to her hometown, I was destroyed. We rarely speak or see each other if we do its at a social event in her city that we always attend and mostly just Hi or a head nod with many looks shared. Around 7 months after the break up I met the girl I eventually married, I love her dearly which leads me to my inner turmoil. I don't go out of my way to think about my ex, it just happens. ALL of the time! Although we were only together 3yrs the relationship had such a profound and powerful effect on me, and that is not an over exaggeration in the slightest. Everything reminds me of her still and I feel like I'm doing some kind of hurtful thing to my wife, although I can't help it. What concerns me is that the constant reminders and memories just make me happy. I love to think about her. She was the greatest time of my life, and the way things are looking it will never change. We haven't talked in 10 years and she is now married, neither of us have kids, but lately I have considered reaching out to her but to see her and talk. Naturally I can't talk to anyone about my little "obsession" about my ex. Our mutual friend told me she was asking her if she'd seen me and how I was, Is this something that I should seek to see her and get closure? It has been this way for 10 years, and shows no signs of stopping.

Even female animals don't leave their offspring to babysitter animals. In fact, we never see the female away from her offspring. When the wife works and she has kids, she's always in trouble and the kids suffer. Do you think they shouldn't work?

Ten years ago my heart was broken by, what I call, the love of my life. We fell for each other very fast and very hard. And then just like it started, it ended and she moved back to her hometown, I was destroyed. We rarely speak or see each other if we do its at a social event in her city that we always attend and mostly just Hi or a head nod with many looks shared. Around 7 months after the break up I met the girl I eventually married, I love her dearly which leads me to my inner turmoil. I don't go out of my way to think about my ex, it just happens. ALL of the time! Although we were only together 3yrs the relationship had such a profound and powerful effect on me, and that is not an over exaggeration in the slightest. Everything reminds me of her still and I feel like I'm doing some kind of hurtful thing to my wife, although I can't help it. What concerns me is that the constant reminders and memories just make me happy. I love to think about her. She was the greatest time of my life, and the way things are looking it will never change. We haven't talked in 10 years and she is now married, neither of us have kids, but lately I have considered reaching out to her but to see her and talk. Naturally I can't talk to anyone about my little "obsession" about my ex. Is this something that I should seek to see her and get closure? It has been this way for 10 years, and shows no signs of stopping.

i mean if compatibility is the most important then how come they stay married?

I'm a newlywed, I work 6 days a week and sometimes double shifts. My only day off is Sunday and my husband usually sleeps half the day or his parents come over or he wants to go shopping... basically i never get to do what i want. he has more day off's than me. So the one day that i'm off i want to be able to do what i want too, like wake up around 8-9, eat, shower then go out for a day time activity like beach or a museum or shopping, but by the time he wakes up he'll want to shower (at least an hour) then eat, then watch tv then go on his computer, the day's over and we did nothing! then i'm back at work for another 6 days... I don't want to make plans by myself i know he won't like it but i hate feeling like i'm being dragged on a leash every single day of my life with no breaks....

It all started again tonight. This time in the bedroom with her reaching for the laptop rather than trying to build a connection with me. So I was expected to keep going. Then I got kicked in the head and I stopped out of hurt. She tried to apologise but went back to demanding instructions. She then expected me to have sex and try for a baby but I told her that I felt degraded and not in the mood. That unleashed a torrent of attacks. I was called a woman, told f...you, f...off, you can go, useless and that she will find a man to give her a baby. I was in shock again. She tried to hug me in bed and apologise afterwards but the damage is done. I'm calling my lawyer tomorrow to protect the house. I told both sides of the family what she said and that I will leave. But it's stupid but I feel like everything she said is excused and I'm making a big deal out of nothing... It was hard for me to describe in the above. We started out alright this evening but things turned ugly when she asked for the computer to watch porn while I gave her oral sex. I had no mood for sex and got upset to the point of crying a bit. I know that's not very manly. The result was anger. She tried to comfort me mid way through the oral sex but I continued through with it anyway with her demanding the way she wanted me to get the point. Of course I want turned on anymore. Told her I had no mood. She demanded I have sex and give her a baby. I refused and she unleashed the insults. Telling me to f off, f you, I'll find some man who can give me a baby, get out, useless, dumb, it's not like I have mood for sex with you but I have to anyway to get pregnant... She demanded I have sex and give her a baby. I refused and she unleashed the insults. Telling me to f off, f you, I'll find some man who can give me a baby, get out, useless, dumb, it's not like I have mood for sex with you but I have to anyway to get pregnant...

When I do find out that he called her, he blames it on him being drunk. That's bull sh**!! I don't call my ex when I'm drunk. My hubs called her so many times, his ex finally blocked his butt. Do y'all think he is still hung on her or on love with her?

Is it normal for wife to not want sex after getting married? We re newlyweds, and she s a virgin. The problem is I m always initiating sex. I can count on one hand the 10 months we ve been married number of times she wanted it. Things going very slow. Is this normal.  My mother thinks wife doesn t love me, she says that when a woman desires a man, she d want sex a lot more. I m just really confused and frustrated.

it means that how kind of married i can?

I am a 27 year old woman and i am lesbian and i am married to a woman, the person i love most in the world. All my family, friends and co-workers all know i am lesbian and am married? I also go to a university miles away from where i live, and i am not out to anyone there, they ask me about personal life but i just say 'i am married' and show my wedding ring. I just go to university to work, i have few friends, im not really that sociable there, plus i dont think it is anyone's business who i am married to or that i am lesbian. Is it wrong of me to be openly lesbian to all my friend's and family and co workers but not at university?

Ten years ago my heart was broken by, what I call, the love of my life. We fell for each other very fast and very hard. And then just like it started, it ended and she moved back to her hometown, I was destroyed. We rarely speak or see each other if we do its at a social event in her city that we always attend and mostly just Hi or a head nod with many looks shared. Around 7 months after the break up I met the girl I eventually married, I love her dearly which leads me to my inner turmoil. I don't go out of my way to think about my ex, it just happens. ALL of the time! Although we were only together 3yrs the relationship had such a profound and powerful effect on me, and that is not an over exaggeration in the slightest. Everything reminds me of her still and I feel like I'm doing some kind of hurtful thing to my wife, although I can't help it. What concerns me is that the constant reminders and memories just make me happy. I love to think about her. She was the greatest time of my life, and the way things are looking it will never change. We haven't talked in 10 years and she is now married, neither of us have kids, but lately I have considered reaching out to her but to see her and talk. Naturally I can't talk to anyone about my little "obsession" about my ex.Is this something that I should seek to see her and get closure? It has been this way for 10 years, and shows no signs of stopping.

Hi ive spent so many years couldnt tell my husband i need to get spanked finally i gave him some hints n he understand it but he give it to me for fun in bed before sex he liked that allot but i need it more seriously for discipline not for fun im affraid to tell that cuz he may think its weird i thoughy if he likes it for fun he would do it seriously sometimes sure but he didnt so what could i do ?

I have been married to a man for 3 months who refuses to have sex with me. My husband's best friend/boss's older brother (who is also married but not faithfully) wants to have a threesome with me and another girl. I am 24, he is 41. Him and my husband are both Muslim. I have gone our whole relationship without sex before and after marriage and don't know how much more I can take. I have literally begged for it. Should I feel guilty about actually wanted to have sex with this older man that gives me the attention I crave just once? I know it would be wrong but I'm at the point where I don't care if it's wrong anymore. My husband knows I'm bisexual and had no problem with me being with women but I am scared to destroy the whole family if I sleep with his best friends brother but I would rather it be with someone I know and trust.

She is physically much stronger (She's a tennis and cricket player). Its one and half a year since we married. We have no children :'( 8-9 months before, I once angrily slapped her on face. She then fought me and taught me a big lesson. Then we fought about 3-4 times and every time, she beat me hardly. One month after our last fight, she started denying me sex, and made me do household works which I did because I was free those days, but later, I became accustomed to it. Now I do it because I fear her. I kept obeying her (because of fear and habit). Last night, she put a chastity around my penis. Now I am locked in chastity and she has the key. Also, I love her. Its a country I can't go for divorce or call the police. (Women can, if they are abused but men can't) She said that if commit to totally submit to her and obey everything that she tells me, give her all my salary and property (a 1 kanal house), then she will open me, love me equally and we will be able to live happily. Should I think of doing this as I am living in a misery...

So here's the deal. My wife is pregnant, And she always had a bit of a drinking problem. So she's struggling to keep herself from drinking for 8 months. She says that I have to stop drinking too! Why's that? Last time I checked, she was the one with the baby. Not me.

Asalamualaikum, I'm 22 and hubby is 27 and just got married, both virgins. Anyways, I'm a very ticklish type of person and every time he was touching me for foreplay, I was giggling. And then when it came close to lNTERCOURSE, I couldn't keep legs open because laughing because I think sex is kinda funny. Finally he said "daaamn it! Won't you take anything seriously?" He got angry and left the room 😔. What to do?