Family: Question: Why can't I have a normal family?

Question: Why can't I have a normal family?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:57 PM PDT

My dad is happy with me sometimes but if I get a "bad" score on anything he would beat me, swear in my face, and he would sometimes spit at me too. My mom is sometimes happy too but she never admits she's wrong. And for the simplistic things she would screa at me. One day I had this science project, there was extra credit but I was too busy on the project since I had only 1 day to complete. My mom yelled at me and swore. And if I get a bad score she would take away everything, call me dumb or idiot and force me to stand for hours. She gives me miserable meals saying im a hobo and that is what a hobo eats. I try my best in school but they never understand. My mom uses the SAME excuses EVERYTIME she's angry. She'd say my friends are athletes and im a stupid pig. Ugh my parents never take me out to exercise its not my fault. We can't go anywhere because their so busy. Im not a spoiled kid but why can't my family just be normal? For dinner my parents cook awful food, I never complain because im trying to be thankful I have food and stuff but to be honest it's just horrible. My mom doesn't do anything to improve, she just says she's too busy. And once I used a calculator on my phone for my math and she thinks im playing. I tell her but she scream at me and beat me. What do I do

Question: How to grow a mustache for a female without hormones ? My sister wants one in our family my grandma has a bread but she shaves it?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:09 PM PDT

Question: Which is worse, running away or committing suicide?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:07 PM PDT

I love my friends, and family, but they make me miserable. It's really a long story how I got here. But, parents divorced, my mom cheated on my dad. I lived with my dad ever since (my brother left), we got along really well. But he and my mom decided to make things work again. Which means, my brother came back too. My dad's currently in another country working. 3 months there, 1 week back home. I can't forgive my mom what she did, because I had to watch my dad cry almost every day for a year, I don't know how he could forgive her... I signed up to get my drivers licence, and I got fired from my job. I decided to not get a job, till I get my drivers licence (because it really speeds up the process, if I can go to the classes anytime, any day)... Before my parents reconciled, my dad and I had plans. On how we'd share the house (since it's big for 2 of us), but of course all that went down the drain. And now, I just can't take living with my mom and brother. My emotional status has been going downhill ever since they got back. Almost committed suicide twice. 1) I drank 4 sleeping pills with pure vodka. 2) I went to jump off a bridge, but I was drunk and fell with my bicycle and couldn't get up. Although, I think leaving without a word is harsh, on some level. It needs to be done. I have other personal issues I need to address too, which I can only do if my past is behind. I wouldn't be gone forever, just a few years... So, what do you think?

Question: My brother eats all of my food, help?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:59 AM PDT

So my brother is 18, turning 19. and he works at a restaurant, but is taking this school year off before he goes to college this upcoming school year. He usually comes home late, and when he does, he's really hungry. Usually I'll wake up and the potato chips are gone or something. He often eats literally everything else. You'll find bags and boxes of empty food in his room, as well as empty pizza boxes and various empty Taco Bell bags in his passenger seat of his car. My parents aren't really making a lot of money recently and don't have much money to go the store to buy new food. One day my brother spilled milk all over the counter, left chip crumbs on the floor, and we found a cereal box, the milk, and and empty bag of potato chips outside and found him under our porch. My parents are really mad because not only does he eat all of or food, he never cleans up after himself either. He often leaves bits of food all over the kitchen and empty (really dirty) dishes lying around. It's starting to really piss me off because the food will be there one day and the next devoured and the empty bag in his room or thrown onto the kitchen floor. How do we get him to stop? he spends all of his work money on food too

Question: I AM A DISAPPOINTMENT? PLEASE HELP!!?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:53 AM PDT

i've lied a lot, and i even had to get a conference with my parents with the vice principal. i bought an ipod touch 6th generation yesterday (friday) , and it fell out of my pocket today (saturday) and i lied about the ipod and then i finally told the truth. i called my dad and told him and asked if he was mad and he said no, but my mom on the other hand was pissed. i really felt like a disappointment. she even opened the ipod and changed the password and all. help please, i really feel like killing myself. :(

Question: Husband confronted my MIL about calling me Dirt. She said she meant to say something else.?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:35 AM PDT

He asked her what her problem was she then said that I had told his cousin that his mother prohibited me from speaking to her. That's false His cousin told me I had distanced myself from her ever since his mother made a rude remark to make us feel uncomfortable and I said yes I felt that way too and I decided to keep my distance. So she called her father who is my MiL brother to tell him how alone she felt here and how I was forbidden to speak to her. My mil brother is now upset with my MiL and she told my husband that this happened weeks ago and she wasn't going to say anything but she told him right after he confronted her. She called me to clear up what she meant to say in the message she said in order for you to be tranquil what do you want me to do do you want me to go apologize to you? I told her I felt that she thinks I'm withdrawing him from them and she said ever since you came along he no longer asks for our opinion and he withholds a lot of information and he keeps secrets from us I told her I have never told him to keep you guys out of anything besides our marital problems that's the only thing that I have ever told him not to repeat outside of home. She said my son is very different he was never like this before you came along. she has done nothing but talk crap about her niece since I moved here and every time I would speak to her at family functions she would get really upset. Her niece noticed. She told her dad. Now I'm to blame? Or am I? any advice?

Question: My dad is destroying my confidence?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:10 AM PDT

My dad is a very controlling man who has a very authoritative and all knowing voice when he states his opinion. He does not handle differing very points from his own very well. He's expressed to be me from a very young age that I have processing problems/learning disabilities just like himself. He is in financial sales and has steered me to sales my whole life. I do not enjoy the stress of my current sales job anymore as I am tired of constantly having to hit quotas and never receiving any residuals on my sales so every month I have to start over. I told him I would like to go into nursing and he laughed at me. He said I'm not intelligent enough to do anything else. His mom, sister, and three of my cousins are nurses so I get to talk to them a lot about the field. It's not that I need my parents approval at my age and I understand I am responsible for my own destiny, it just tears up my confidence and makes me feel different from everyone else. I remember when he took me to college earlier this year for the first time to meet with my advisor, we were discussing the admission requirements for the teaching program and he turned to me and said you'll never get through that program major in something else. I chose psychology instead. How can I not let this effect me to the point it is. You can't have a rational talk with my father either as he thinks he knows all and will yell. I need advice.

Question: My parents are making me go to a college next year that I don't want to go to more so my dad than mom?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:04 AM PDT

I got into the school I wanted to go to which is in California it is perfect for me and my parents were supportive when letting me apply but once I got in they're mad bc the college in California is a lot more expensive than the one near my house. And now when the topic of college is brought up my dad is always like YOU ARE GOING TO THIS SCHOOL (the one near my house) no questions asked! And I really hate it it gives me anxiety and makes me suicidal I would rather die than go to this school it actually sucks. I told them it would be my loans but they keep saying that I'm not allowed to take out that big of a loan on my own ugh idk what to i feel helpless

Question: My mom and I can t seem to get along?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:02 AM PDT

For the past two years, my mom and I have struggled to get along. I started to dislike her presence after she had her weight loss surgery and started to drink and smoke all the time. There was a point in time where she was drunk almost every day after she got off work. That was a little less than a year ago. Her drinking is still pretty bad, but has been restricted to some days out of the week and weekend nights (however, sometimes she will start to drink as early as 10 AM). I started to REALLY dislike her very recently, back in January, when I started to date my boyfriend. She called me a whore and a slut and even went as far as messaging him on Facebook and threatening him. I don t understand what I ve done to make her like this toward me. My current boyfriend is the only guy I ve really actually had a relationship with so I don t understand the "whore" or "slut" comments. She also doesn t let me go anywhere with anyone. She doesn t want to be around me yet she doesn t let my leave. I ve tried talking to her, but our good runs never last that long. Today I asked her if I could go out with my boyfriend and his family to a post-wedding ceremony for someone in his family. She said no and then refused to give me a reason as to why. I don t understand why she dislikes me and most of the things I do. She s perfectly fine when it comes to my big brother and his son and girlfriend. Has anyone had this kind of problem before? Does anyone know how to overcome it?

Question: Will she ever miss me or think about me?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:00 AM PDT

So hello guys I like this girl a lot. Im always there for her and make her smile whenever she feeling down. I sing a song for her and draw a picture of her. Now i realize that the feeling isnt mutual so i move on and block her out. Will she ever miss me? Or im just a toy for her entertainment? I like her and i really do.

Question: My parents more so my dad are trying to force me to go to a college near my house next year and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 11:00 AM PDT

Question: My parents aren't letting me go to Coachella, what do i say to them?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 10:59 AM PDT

My friends are going but I'm the only one who isn't. I really want to though Ive never been there before. I have my own money, I saved up for the past 2 weeks. I have $413.75 and my best friend rented one of their limos so i also have a ride if mom can't drop me. I already have my outfit picked out and it took me 4 days to find them and i went to a lot of different stores just to get ready. I'm 16 now and I proved that im responsible but they told me i can go anywhere without asking just need to let them know now since I'm old enough BUT i asked just incase and they said no. -_- what reason can i give them? A little advice please

Question: I'm 18 and my family won't give me any freedom.?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 10:44 AM PDT

I'm a senior in high school and I will be going to college later this year, so I'd like to get a job this summer to help my parents pay for books and clothes and other things. When I told my mom I wanted a job, she said no and her argument was that "none of your sisters got a job at your age" My older sister laughed at me for wanting a job (she's 31, still living at home). I've been very understanding with my mom. She doesn't let me hang out with the friends or go to parties or prom or anything really but I respect her decisions-she's just trying to protect me. Yes, I should be grateful that I don't "need" a job but honestly I'm trying to help my family and myself get through college. Yes, I know I live under my parents roof and I should abide by their rules but how can I expect to move out one day if I can't even get a job? How can I convince my mom to let me get a summer job?

Question: Should I be blamed for hating my father?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 10:22 AM PDT

My father is has a raging temper and he bullies/yells at his family just for an ego boost. For example there was one time when I didn't tell my father that it was picture day at my school so he didn't order any school pictures. He never really cared about school picture day in the past. Then he blew up into rage and started screaming at me. It was so loud that the walls shook. He was so angry that he threw a spoon at the wall and it hit a glass lamp. The lamp broke and pieces of glass fell all over my head and the floor. Heres another incident: My father took me to a workshop at a college. He was waiting for me on the street at the front entrance of the college. I left the building late because I had to use the bathroom after the workshop. When he saw one of my colleagues leaving, he asked if the workshop has ended yet. My colleagues told him it has ended. Then he immediately stopped waiting for me and left to the bus stop. When I didn't see him waiting for me in the front entrance, I called him then he started screaming at me like I did something wrong and that the everyone left the workshop while I didn't. I explained to him i was using the bathroom. He didn't care then he screamed at me again for not remembering how to arrive at the bus stop. He yelled at me so much with such rage that I started crying.

Question: Should I have children to make my parents happy?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 10:20 AM PDT

I'm 28 and my brother is 32. Neither of us have children. I've always told my parents that I don't want kids so they don't really badger me as much as they do to my brother. But my mom is always almost on the verge of tears when she says "I can't believe I might never get to be a grandma and have my grandbabies." It makes me feel guilty. But I'm not the kind of person who wants to be find a man to settle down with and give me kids. But should I change that to make my mother happy? She's not going to be alive forever.

Question: Why do my parents do this kind of stuff?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 10:15 AM PDT

My parents and i been having colds since last week they said they would go to the movies today all week their but now changed their minds they say their still to sick to go to the movies but not sick enough to go shopping does that make sense and then this week while i was at work the night of the meeting at work they loaded a washer and dryer onto the pickup. If they truely were that sick with a cold why didnt they rest up?! It was their idea to go to jungle book in 3d not mine

Question: Should I let my mom know I saw her and that she looks in great shape?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 10:04 AM PDT

I accidentally saw my mom get out of the shower and dry off because the door was slightly ajar when I pushed on it.

Question: My friend always needs a ride from me,and her mom never gives her ride to hang out with me?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 09:52 AM PDT

I'm 13 years old,I don't drive a car obviously but my mom does.Its getting really annoying that my mom is giving rides to my friend,I know I'm not the one driving but it's just irritating me that her mom can't take her,it's always my mom taking us to where we're gonna hang out and it's never her mom.I talked to her about this and she said it's because her mom is scared about something happening to us when she's driving.And her dad works a lot so I understand,but seriously? It's not like you're driving far away or something.I don't say nothing about it whenever she asks if my mom can take us all the time because I feel bad but my mom took us way too many times and I'm starting to wonder if her mom is EVER gonna take her somewhere without asking me if my mom can take her.What should I do?

Question: If a family of three(mom son and daughter) settles down in Leicester do you think with only the mom working will they be able to make it?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:55 AM PDT

if you are wondering the son and daughter are still small so they can't work yet.there will be some support from the husband who works in Italy too..but because euro will be getting converted to puonds it won't be much that's why. and for the job mom will be trying to find a job such as an assistant care taker or something similar

Question: Why don't people understand there's more to being a nanny than just singing songs and playing games?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:53 AM PDT

Question: How should I tell my parents that I lied about my friends age? PLEASE READ DETAILS?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:51 AM PDT

Ok so me and this guy goes to church together. And I told my parents that I am sitting with a guy at church and they asked how old he was and I told him 37. When really he s in his late 40 s. I didn t know if they would freak out if I told him his real age and all. Theres nothing sexual going on between he and I. Im 16. Now that I ve gotten to know him he reminds me of my grandpa a lot. And My grandpa died when I was only 6 years old so I ve had a grandpa figure missing out of my life for 10 years now. So I really see him as a grandpa figure that I look up to he s very wise and all. My dad has friends that he looks up to and sees them as a dad to him. How should I tell them his real age and explain to them that he s more of a grandpa figure to me and fills the gap of my grand pa missing out of my life. He s so important to me and I cannot loose him, he s like the grand pa I never had. I really want to hang out with him more but I must tell my parents this. Ive already showed them a picture of him and all and yes he looks very young for his age and is very fit. So please don t take this the wrong way saying that he and I are having a love relationship or what not because no thats not what it is. Ive never had a grandpa figure in my life since mine died when I was real young, and I have depression from it. Everyone talking about visiting their grandparents and I don t have any...its so sad. I really need him to stay in my life and be a grandpa figure in my life. Please help.

Question: What do you do if your parents hate your boyfriend?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:35 AM PDT

We just celebrate our one year together. I mostly spend time at his house, and his parents love me! I mean like his mom calls me her step-daughter already...But my parents..well they hate him. They can dislike him all they want, but he makes me very happy and i don't live my life for their approval, i live my life for my own happiness. When he is around they are polite but are so rude about him the moment he leaves. I live with them, for now, and so i have to deal with this all the time. How do i deal with this? And my friends have met him and like us together, just not my parents.

Question: How do I deal with an evil ex?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:35 AM PDT

It wouldn't be so bad if wasn't my daughter's father. He just makes me out seem like I took off with his child. Took off he put us on the street. Then he's just mean threatens me out of money. Tells his mom I'm a bad mother. All lies I give up every cent every second to my daughter.

Question: Mother's(Or parents) who smoke weed?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:35 AM PDT

This is a zero judgement question, Do you think it's okay for parents to smoke weed on their own time? Away from their children of course. I'm curious to see what feedback is left. Thank you!

Question: CRISIS PARENTS WON'T RAISE MY ALLOWANCE WTF?! How to convince them??????

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:34 AM PDT

Anybody else's parents like this? I'm 17 now and my allowance is stuck on $80.00 still. Look when I was like under 13yrs old my first allowance was $20 each Friday, then in my early teens it just raised to a $40 each week and two years ago it became $80 each Thursday but now it's been TWO years and my parents won't raise it. Sometimes they put it in a savings account for me but they won't let me take any out. My aunty works at our bank and she told me that I have a lot of money, that my dad has been putting money in it ever since I started elementary school. I'm not asking for them to give me every single money in their wallet but I'm just asking for a simple raise because I want to travel now. He won't raise it and he wont even let me take any out of my savings. He could at least let me take like $20 out of the bank each week so i can have a 100 instead. Its not like I'm going to be broke if i just take 20 little dollars out and it's not like he's going to become homeless if he just works with me and give me at least a LITTLE raise. It's NOT FAIR because he can give hundreds to my cousin anytime he asks but he puts a limit on me like I'm not as important as my cousin. I want to go to Hawaii and Guam and Saipan but NOOOOO bc someone has to keep the money to himselff No, I'm a GIRL not a guy okay? Ok.

Question: My parents are fighting really bad. they are calling each other names and yelling really loud. What do i do?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:04 AM PDT

Question: Why are my big brothers protective of me?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:04 AM PDT

I know I asked this question a million times already but I just have to know why they are. I am a guy and I am the youngest in my family and I have 10 older brothers. I nearly died when I was 8 years old and ever since then they have all been protective of me. Anyway all of my brothers are players and they have been with a lot of girls and nearly all the females in my small country town know who my brothers are. Yet when I want to fool around with girls my brothers get all protective and will not let me out of their site especially when there are girls around. Some of my brothers have dropped out of college and the ones that dropped out are the ones that care if I do good in school or not and they are pushing me to go to university and focus on that instead of dating. Then if I do want to date they always make sure that she is a nice good girl and they make sure I don't do anything stupid like having sex and I do want to have sex like they did. Why are they like this?

Question: Do fathers ever come back and realized they mess up??

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 08:01 AM PDT

My daughters father kicked us out and I moved . He just wanted nothing to with our daughter complained about one Sunday in 3 months. Never held her or looked at her only when friends where around. Now he says he wants to be a father a year later . Give him a chance or no???

Question: What makes a family a dysfunctional family compared to normal dysfunction all families have?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 07:36 AM PDT

Question: Changing your last name because of an abusive family member?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 07:30 AM PDT

I was never fond of our last name but for years I dealt with it because my parents did get me some lovely things and they weren't really "abusive," but now they're divorced and my father does nothing about this situation with my stepbrother. I could write a novel about it but this deep seated loathing for the last name is in part because I share it with him. I have PTSD and will be in counseling for the rest of my life for the abuse I've dealt with from him. Every time I have to say the name or be addressed by it I feel physically sick. I feel a sense of detachment, like it's not my name. Mom and I constantly walk on eggshells and there is no law or order here. My mom is 60 ish, has had serious health problems and he'll corner her and scream and curse over every thing. I can't go to the toilet or do housework because he'll attack us about the noise it makes. I have memories of dry heaving tears that are cried out, my vision blacked out from him screaming at me. He's smashed my fingers in the door, they've almost had to be amputated.... I want to take the last name of my Mexican grandmother. It was Infante. I grew up in an American "white" family that spoke no Spanish, but I learned the language at age 5 and always loved Latin things, I was the odd on out. When my father was in my life he bought me lovely things and I don't want to shut him out completely but I just wanna shed the toxic name.

Question: Honestly my family is constantly fighting. I don't even want to go to prom anymore, they ruined it.?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 07:28 AM PDT

My family fights every single day like EVERY day, sometimes multiple times a day. They're fighting right now and it's my prom night. I'm kind of over it and it's pretty much already ruined. The bad thing is I already paid for the tickets and my dress and shoes and all of that jazz.

Question: Any tips on cleaning/organizing?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 07:13 AM PDT

I am a stay at home mom with my 2 year old daughter. I used to keep the whole trailer spotless but now I can't do anything for it. My husband used to help me, we would split up sections of the house to do. Example: I would tackle the kitchen and my daughters bedroom and he would do the living room and our bedroom. Well here lately he hasn't been holding up his part of the deal. He got lazy and disrespectful toward the home. I try to clean as much as I can and when he gets home from work (at 11:00am) he goes behind me and trashes everything up. Same with my daughter, she pulls every single one of her toys out abd spreads them all over the trailer. Its gotten so bad that it stresses me out and I don't even want to be home anymore. I don't have anyone to help me. Does anyone have some advice on what I should do?

Question: My parents convinced me that my suicidal thoughts are attention based. How do I stop being an attention whore?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 07:04 AM PDT

My mom and dad called me an attention whore. The sad feeling and stuff are hard to deal with and won't seem to go away so will someone please tell me how to stop being an attention whore? I don't want my parents to hate me.

Question: My bio father abandoned me at two years old just died and his step-kids and nephews were saying how great he was, why them and not his kid?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:59 AM PDT

I went to the funeral as I had met him three times later in life and he was polite but acted polite as though I was some distant relative like a second cousin he'd met as a kid. He was perfectly nice and asked about my mother but no hug, no sorrow or regret. He even introduced me as "the kid I was telling you about from when I was with (he named my mother)" at one of these occasions. So my question is why all this love he gave to his 3rd wife's three kids and his two nephews whose father had died but not to me, his only child. I never had a Dad as my mother never remarried and died when I was 14 and a single aunt took me in. How do I cope with this hurt? I am even mad at these kids he was a surrogate father to when it is not their fault.

Question: Each year at the holiday season my mother keeps me from my father and my father doesn't ask the court to intervene, how do I get over this?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:49 AM PDT

I am a kid (age 14) so I can't choose where to go. I am mad at my mother for alienating me from my father and my father for not taking her to court over it like my uncle did with his ex-wife. My mother even backed my uncle in that but doesn't see she is doing the same thing. When I do see my father my mother says to people "well he is seeing his Dad who never bothers to see him" when my mother always says "no, I am the parent and get them (my siblings and I) because it is the holiday". By holiday I mean Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter. Even Father's Day weekend she sets up her family gathering with her cousins and says "no it is my family reunion and he isn't much of a Dad anyway". Only holiday we get to see him is Fourth of July when she does let us as it is his sister's summer family gathering and she lets us go with him. So how can I get over my hurt by this? Talking to them has done no good. My siblings don't seem to care but I do

Question: Why all this horrible things are coming to me ?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:43 AM PDT

My grandma passed away ... Then I got pregnant but suffered a miscarriage I wanted to be a mom and I had a bond with the little fella forming inside of me but now am just a sad person ... Am failing all my classes and my teacher think that it's because I party so much but I don't ... I am just sad to see all this things coming after me ... And I wonder why ?

Question: I feel like everything I do is a mistake. Help?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:36 AM PDT

I hate my life right now! I love my family because they support me so much but sometimes they just HATE ME. My dad and I get into so many arguments and half of the time he's overreacting. Like yesterday I lost my phone under the bed and he moved the bed back (knowing it would break) and it did break. The bed BROKE on the bottom. My dad was cursing and told my mom and they both got mad AT ME, even though my dad was the one who moved the bed! They said it was my fault and my moms like "you're such a pro" while my dad is cursing at me. Then today I was feeding my baby sister and she kept grabbing the wet napkin with food on it and I told her "no don't do that". My dad noticed and he was like "wow you need help feeding her? It's very simple!!" and he gave me a whole tutorial on how to feed my sister even though I already knew. I told him "dad I wasn't having trouble she was just being difficult" and my dad said "wow you really wanna test the waters with me now". Then when I explain my true feelings to my parents they always say I'm dramatic or that I'm lying.. I feel like killing myself even though I don't want to.. I'm so sad. Please help me.

Question: Will she miss me?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:28 AM PDT

So hello guys I like this girl a lot. Im always there for her and make her smile whenever she feeling down. I sing a song for her and draw a picture of her. Now i realize that the feeling isnt mutual so i move on and block her out. Will she ever miss me? Or im just a toy for her entertainment?

Question: Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry evertime he gets mad?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:15 AM PDT

My brother cries a lot when something happens that he doesn't like. He's 9 turning 10 this year. He cries when he looses in his game, when we have to leave but he doesn't want to, when we tell him to take a shower in the mornings, when we tell him to throw his trash away etc... Idk if i should get mad at him or hug him each time because my parents don't pay attention to him so i worry about him a lot

Question: How is it even possible for a 17 yr old (almost adult) to think she's royalty?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:08 AM PDT

I'll admit that her parents aren't doing a good job, in my opinion. She's really popular in our school and even on instagram too. Like yes, she's pretty and her family has more money than most of us but literally she thinks she's special and important just because her dad owns a lot of the land around here. I think Margaret knows that the lands will be hers one day so she views herself as superior to those who live on her family's property. She doesn't show it, she's KINDOF quiet BUT you can just look at her for 10 seconds and you'll already know that she thinks she's above by her body movement and facial expressions. I went on her IG and read a comments calling her beautiful, princess and such. In school everyone tries to be around her its not fair. This sounds like typical high school drama but this girl thinks she deserves the royal treatment and people are actually giving it to her. Wtf..

Question: I don't love my family?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 06:06 AM PDT

my parents are good and caring and they love me a lot but i don't love them back. I feel like I can't talk to them about anything because they're gonna judge and punish me. my friends are more like a family to me than my parents. I can talk to them about anything and I know they won't judge me. i can't wait to move out the day i turn 18. I'd rather have a crappy home and live with my friends than live in this prison where i can never be myself. i feel like i have no freedom and always have to pretend and lie.. is this normal? i'm 16

Question: Funnel please read?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 05:52 AM PDT

My step mom past away.. And i do not want to atten this funnel,, because its giving me flash backs on my bio mom .. Blood mother that died 20 years ago..in which it was hard on me at that time.. Now im having people on her side telling me i need to go, out if respect.. Is it wrong if i dont atten that funnel.. My whole body is shaking over this.. And im getting racing throughts of the past.. Am i being selfish or this issue in my life.. Thanks for reading

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 05:16 AM PDT

When my 18 year old mentally ill brother comes home from the hospital, he's going to start havoc in the house again. We already patched most holes he punched in the wall and the smashed windows are still there. He threatens to kill me, my parents and everyone, and yells at my parents also. If he has a device, he plays some random games and that provokes his anger and starts yelling uncontrollably. You guys will probably think that he is not that bad but it's worse. He refuses to take antipsychotic medication (lately got an injection though) but takes anti anxiety medicine. My mom and I feel like he will not change at all when he comes home. My parents will argue a lot, even when switching the subject (my mom does). My brother makes my mom cry, and it makes my old dad cry which i rarely see which is really sad so I cry. I don't know what to do when he comes home, because the police is just gonna say there's not enough evidence/requirements bla bla bla and our race is not white so it's even harder to cooperate with the police. He's 18 so my parents can't just get rid of him. For 5 years he has worsened Therapy does not work at all. he refuses to go the doctor and takes advantage over my parents. I have no grandparents, cousins, or aunts near me

Question: There is a rapist in my house?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 05:15 AM PDT

It's a Long story a friend of a relative proposed to marry me but I refused because he is abusive. (He once tied up my little brother up then left crying in a dark room) . I told mom about it so she kicked him out of the house forbidding him to stay with us again. Years passed they forgot about it so they let him visit us every once in a while but he does it only to use our washing machine. He even walks into the house at funny times around 3:00 am or 12:00pm. All mom does is simply complain about it. I told her countless of times to tell him to mind the boundaries but nothing changed about it. Which takes us to this day. He's always been giving off the wrong signs but today he seems to have rapist intentions. Not to show off but I haven't failed to read people accurately before 'studied psychology'. I just locked myself in waiting for dad to wake to get him to talk some sense into him. Is there anything more I could do in this situation?

Question: How is family part of someone's identity?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 05:12 AM PDT

Question: Is it my fault?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 04:58 AM PDT

I lost my phone in my bed and looked around everywhere for it, eventually discovering that it was UNDER my bed. My dad pushed back the bed a little so I could get my phone but it was still unreachable; he asked me to go get a broom and I suggested that he should just move the bed a little more back, unknowing of the results. He pushed the bed back a little, like I said, and the bottom of the bed accidentally broke. He told my mom and my dad started cursing at me saying, "Get the goddamn broom! F*cking A, man.." while my mom was telling me "Wow, you're such a pro. Thanks a lot." All I suggested was to move the bed back! My dad even knew that the bed could've broken if we would've moved it back, if he told me then I would've just gotten the broom and the entire thing would never happen. Is it my fault?

Question: Are all drug users crazy?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 04:49 AM PDT

My dad likes to use hard drugs. He is a useless lying, theiving bastard. Seems like everyone else he associate's with are too.

Question: I love my dad but I hate his personality?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 04:05 AM PDT

I m an 18 year old girl. My dad provides for my family and he s given us everything. He used to hit me a lot when I was a kid. He fights with my mother every day calling her a ***** and a whore.He s actually been the one cheating on her with some tramp for years and I ve even seen pictures of her in his phone and heard him talk to her on the pone. I confronted him about it but he denied it and my parents got into a huge fight about it and he hit my mom and me and threatened to leave us. A few weeks passed and he hit my mom again over the same thing. It s like he s convinced himself that my mother and I are blind idiots who have no idea about what he s been doing. My mother doesn t leave him for my sake, and because he pays the bills and she has no other support system. he hates it if I so much as step out of the house to go out with friends. I ve always had great grades and I ve never so much as talked back to him. He comes from a semi-educated family and just because he s made something of himself he always brags about it and gives me huge lectures all the time. Whenever he gets me something he acts like he did me a huge favour. He treats everyone he knows like ****, which is why he has no friends. He has no sense of humour and he s interested in nothing about my life except my getting straight As. I have absolutely nothing in common with him, and I am so envious of my friends relationships with their dads. I love him because he s my father but I wish he wasn t.

Question: What defines a dysfunctional family?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 02:53 AM PDT

I have a brother in jail and my mother is gossipy and often bitter. Also, my older sister is divorced. Does this make us a dysfunctional family? The divorce was caused by my sister's husband (he cheated and got their neighbor, now his wife, pregnant). I am one of four kids. I am very normal, my sister is other then the divorce, and my younger brother has mental illness but only in the form of anxiety and he is stable now (was hospitalized in high school for it). The big sticking thing though is my brother is in jail. So I am curious, do I have a dysfunctional family? Not that I mind or anything, I am just curious. I ask because my mother always told me she came from a dysfunctional family but they are wonderful. Her father was an alcoholic (not when she was little though) and that was the only abnormality.

Question: It is 4:30 in the morning and an hour ago I hear my brother in the basement high, should I have woken my parents?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 02:35 AM PDT

I didn't wake them up but next time should I? He was high on some hallucination thing because he was singing goofy songs and talking about these friends of his from when he was a little kid (he is now 22) and no one was in the room when I looked in. He is an addict but mainly prescription medicine. He does not live at home but my parents let him stay here for a few days as his room is being used. It is rare he is here. I am 14. @beenthere --- Thanks, I told my Dad when I heard him up going to the bathroom and my Dad put my brother in the car and took him somewhere. My parents seldom let him in the house anymore outside of if it is a family gathering and he is clean.

Question: Questions?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 02:24 AM PDT

This is going to be long, sorry. I honestly hate everything about me and I want to tell my family. I hate my weight, how I look, everything. I am 15, gay and when I grew my family basically made me someone I wasnt(hope this makes sense). I want to be myself and by that I mean, wear the clothes I want ect. Its got worse to where I hate myself and sometimes I just want to run away because I feel like I will be a disapointment or embarrasement to my family. Please tell/help me on what to do?

Question: Going away from everything?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 02:22 AM PDT

I got no reason to live, and nothing to live for. I hate most people around me and I hate the current society in general. I had a job that I hated and paid absolutely nothing, so I quit. I don't even care anymore. My social life is, and always was non existent. I had only one friend, but he died 3 years ago because of an illness. I never had a girlfriend, or any relationship. Because I'm asexual, and it eliminates all possibilities in ever doing anything with the opposite sex. I hate who I am and I hate that I am human because of it... This isn't even all. I got way too many emotional problems, more than I can deal with. And I'm living at my parents house for a while now, and because of that, not only I feel bad, but make their life too because of it. And they wouldn't even understand me at all, and just think that I'm lazy, so they're making my life even worse because of it. But it's ok, I guess, from their perspective, since not only I haven't explained to anyone why I lost my will to live, but I haven't even told anyone that I did... All I can think of currently, is giving my PC to my friend (since his sucks), selling everything else, giving the money to my parents as a thanks for everything. And overnight just jumping on my bike, leave and never come back, or say a word to anyone again... I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do... is it?

Question: How can i overcome porn addiction?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 01:56 AM PDT

t all started when I found some videos on my dad's laptop of some girls belly dancing( btw I was only 11). Then after that I was obsessed with watching sexy girls. My parents did catch me watching porn( wasn't hardcore...yet) after 2 years, my mum scolded me and explained how bad it was for me so that I should stop. But what they didn't do was put on some kind of safe browsing security stuff, so you can already tell that I started watching it again after a year . Now I turned fourteen and for the past one year I have watched porn once a week, gradually increasing to twice a week (or sometimes everyday of the week) and also suddenely started to watch hardcore porn since the last 8 days which scares me. Now before you comment on how disgusting I am I must tell you two things.1.I know I have an addiction, I know the side effects and I have tried all sorts of things to get rid of it except tell my mother ( though I heavily hinted her of my addiction but she refused to believe it was such a thing and said that If she finds me watching porn she will kick me out of the house- so basically I have no where to go for help).2. I did tell my mum how it was also my father's fault when I was 13 , assuming I was to scared to speak when I was 11 or 12- she said that he has stopped and its my fault I was my fault I was playing games on his laptop in the first place. At the moment I am successful cinvincing my mother to kindly pay for net nanny or covenant eyes. My parents do not understand porn addiction so i cannot tell them , which makes it very hard for me to fight this addiction that severley affects my studies, social life and mental state - have read books on the topic but nothing helps. Finally I am a girl who also practices her religion ( that doesn't help much besides in just giving me more guilt) and I DO NOT masturbate. Please help me!!:(

Question: I want to cut myself but i don't want to hurt my mom again. Help me stay strong. Please i'm begging you?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 01:27 AM PDT

Question: My parents are ruining my life help me!?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 01:08 AM PDT

I'm 22, I live at home currently as I've graduated from Uni and am saving to move. My parents are adament they don't want me to move out. I work full time at a school but on top of that I'm expected to make dinner every night for my family of eight. I'm also expected to do half the ironing for 8 people in the week, alongside general chores like tidying, vacuuming and cleaning. But on top of that, I'm expected to spend my weekends doing work for my parents who have their own business and work from home. Due to all my time being taken up helping them out (they pay me £3 an hour for working for them!) my relationship of 2 years have ended as I simply haven't had the time or energy. I'm gutted but my parents just tell me that family comes first and that I should get over it. I feel like I have no way out as they are very good at emotional blackmail. I cant save money in my bank as they pressured me into allowing my dad access to it and they often take my money out and use it for themselves. What do I do?

Question: Their grandmother is lying to the school?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 01:00 AM PDT

My boyfriends mother hates me. Long story short, my bf signed a lease with his parents to help them (he is 27) she decided that because I wouldn't be her pawn that throwing a temper tantrum and then physically assaulting me was a good idea. Now him and the kids live with me. Once things cooled down, we let the kids stay with her for a little bit. They were getting transportation from out of town to continue staying in the school district and she called and had it cancelled and the school complied .... without confirming it with us. So there is that to deal with. Then she went to the school counselor and lied, saying that our home is an unstable environment and had the school counselor go around spreading her bs to the teachers and convinced them to agree with him and their grandma ... who has no parental authority. We had told his mom that we would be picking the kids up friday, got to the house and no one was there, she dropped them off at my bfs sisters and didnt tell us. And was trying to keep them there. We are writing a letter to the principal and possibly the superintendent. And telling the school to remove his mom from the pick up list and to have no contact with her regarding decisions with the kids. And telling them the police will be called if they release the kids to her. Is there anything else we can do? My bf is lettinf her know that she wont be seeing the kids until she fixes this fiasco if lies she spread and apologizes to him.

Question: My daughter is so stand offish.?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:33 AM PDT

Last time I tried to hug her before school, she kinda pushed me off. I felt hurt. Sucks when kids get like this. especially when they are your world. I fear she hates me.

Question: Can I Travel to Rocky Point on my passport in my maiden name?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:19 AM PDT

I don't have time to update my passport before the trip. I'm driving my own car that's registered in my married name and my license is in my married name. If I bring my birth certificate and marriage license, should I be able to get into Mexico? (I'm not really concerned with being able to get back in the U.S., I know I won't have much of an issue with it).

Question: Death threat?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:16 AM PDT

I was on Facebook and saw that my little brother (13 years) had a post on his page from another kid saying "I m going to kill you because you are dumb and I hate you"! What is it that I can do to help him, I don t live with him, he lives with my mom and step dad who both could care less about the cyber bullying of my brother! I m not in good terms with my step dad so I don t get to see my little brother often but I don t want him to be belittled anymore and I know for a fact that he doesn t feel comfortable telling my parents anything! Even if it s this serious! This isn t the first time he s been bullied but it s the first death threat! How can I make sure this kid gets punished and my little brother helped

Question: Why is my dad so materialistic?

Posted: 16 Apr 2016 12:15 AM PDT

He thinks that money is the only way to get happiness. He doesn t believe in love. When I tell him that you can be the richest person and still be extremely sad due to being lonely, he says "will love put food on my table?" His way of thinking really hurts me and I don t know how to make him more open minded.