Family: Question: My brother is 13 with austism and I need some advice for him to understand and my mom?

Question: My brother is 13 with austism and I need some advice for him to understand and my mom?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 01:16 PM PDT

My brother is 13 we noticed his delay ment in his age early on he s not fully autistic but had PPD he s excelled so amazing he s one of the smartest people I know I love my little brother but he s now turned 13 puberty is hitting as we ll as testosterone my mom told me last night that he broke her glasses on purpose cuz he doesn t "like" her and never has and didn t like or love any of us then it changed to he loves and likes everyone but her she was prepared for t the I hate you part as I once told her at that age but idk if it s my brothers way of saying the same thing? He wants it to go away and doesn t understand why he s feeling or saying it he s always been a mommys boy and is loving and caring and like I said so smart but I need help for him to see that there s been other cases or parents or kids who have gone through the same thing pls and thank

Question: How can I be the best person I could be even though I grew up without a stable father figure?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 01:04 PM PDT

I'm 18 and I'm thinking about my future. My parents divorced when I was three and my mom remarried. The man she married was a cruel mean person to me and my sister growing up. He believed that he shouldn't "raise" another mans kid. He was just mean growing up. For the first couple of years he called me "sport" becuase he couldn't remember my name (he admitted this just a while ago) he had his family with my mom and I wasn't apart of it. Though he did treat my mom pretty good. Just not me and my sister. Then there is my dad who I do love him as my father, but not as a person. He is very irresponsible. Growing up he had a serious gambling addiction. He gambled his money away all of the time, forcing him to move a lot. He is the type of person who would always buy stupid things and materialistic items rather than keep a roof over his head. He always had to borrow money off of my grandma. He rather would've spent weekends with his slut-of the week, rather than with my sister and me. He was nice to us growing up though, he was never mean, just didn't really want to be around us. He wasn't ready to become a dad. He still is extremely childish. How do I grow up and raise my kids right, and make the right choices? I never had a "father figure" growing up that taught me things. I raised myself. I taught myself how to ride a bike, shave, etc. I'm doing everything I can to not end up like them, but does anyone have any advice?

Question: My family can't live their own lives?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 01:03 PM PDT

Why can't my family live their own lives ? I am 27 with 2 kids and I have a fiance. I love and care for him, not expectating my family too be happy for him and I,but when they invade our space and time together it bothers me. I am 27 and my partner is 40.

Question: Nephew is avoiding family - What should I do?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 12:54 PM PDT

My nephew is 26 and I am his aunt. There is a huge family holiday for a wedding coming up and my nephew is one of the only ones not coming, most couldn't but my nephew says "he didn't have the money at first" he lost his job and I told him to use his welfare money to pay for the holiday but he refused, he looked for a job, got a job and saved his money but he is now too late as all bookings are finished, the holiday is in August 24th and the close of date was April 1st. He is annoyed because at first the close off date was August 1st but it changed and now he feels he is going to miss out on a family holiday since this is was a rare once in a life time thing, I volunteered to go on holiday with him, just me and him but he says he doesn't want people feeling sorry for him, he doesn't have many close friends and could never afford to go on holiday as a child but I think this is all his fault, if he just stayed on welfare and used that money he could be going but he is too stubborn and proud and just had to use his "own" money. We live in the UK and the holiday is in Paris, if the UK leaves the EU in June it could bump up the price for the wedding and even if the UK stays it is impossible to change anything now He is avoiding all family gatherings, he never answers his phone, has blocked chat on his Facebook, doesn't respond to emails and whenever we run into him in person and try and organize a little party to show how sorry we feel for him he says no. Is this justified I forgot to mention when he lost his job he had to pack up and move back in with his parents.

Question: Help my mom took my nose?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 12:44 PM PDT

what do i do im only 10 i am crying i dont want to not smell for the rest of my life pls help she took my nose and showed me it and started laughing when I was confused and she wont give it back pls pls

Question: My mom calls me psycho?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 12:40 PM PDT

So I'm 16, and i have big problems with my family i have two disabled brothers, so i'm the only healthy daughter the problem is, mom is yelling at me all the time. she's always saying mean things to me."you're a psycho, and you'll always be alone in your life" ," i wish you'll end up having disabled children,like your brothers" when i was a child, she had always threatened me saying this:"someday i'll go far away,and you'll stay alone with your daddy, then daddy will get married, and you'll suffer a lot" i'll be honest,i really hated my brothers because my parents loved them while neglecting me and blaming me for every mistake that i make my parents prefer my cousins,they are always praising them in front of me, and saying: "oh i wish i had a daughter like..... instead of this useless girl". last summer, mom started screaming and yelling,then she said:"you're not my daughter,we adopted you from a hospital" i'm not perfect,i do mistakes,but i swear that i'm doing my best to be good enough for them just to make them happy and proud everytime i try to change and be a good daughter,they just ignore me and laugh at me,no one understands me.mom beats me sometimes, then comes to me and says: "cry as much as you want, i don't care". so i just stay in my room, i don't talk or eat much i always get excellent marks, i'm a good drawer, i sing all the time, my dream is to go to japan to continue my studies,but i gave up on this dream just to be with them,i can't do anything more how can i deal with this?

Question: My family is very unsupportive?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 12:37 PM PDT

So I am the oldest of four kids. 2 and 2 boys. I'm 26, my sis 22, and my brothers 20 and 16. I've been with my husband for 8 years and married 5. We have two children together. I haven't worked for five of those years because I wanted to be a housewife and take care of my kids for a while but now I decided I want to go to work because my husband wants a house and it's unfair for him to pay everything himself. At least thats what I think so I want to help him. Also, it's time for me to go to work because We don't want anymore children for the time being. My sister who has been working since she was 17 and has a diploma, my mom says that she's more intelligent because she has worked all this time and I'm lazy because I haven't. So I got a job at an office where construction workers apply for a job etc.. My family doesn't believe me and says that it won't be long before I quit.. They never believe me and make a face and ignore everything. I've been excited because I will get good pay but my parents and siblings shrug it off. It's like they're never impressed and I don't know if I should just ignore it.?

Question: How to start talking or teaching my kids about sex?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 12:24 PM PDT

we all know that kids will reach a time and they know how they came to this world but i want a better life for my kids,and i am an open minded dad,and i want to build a relationship with them based on trust and honesty so how can i start talking with my 13yr old twin boys about sex?

Question: Why was my nephew so sarcastic to me?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 12:00 PM PDT

A German family moved in near my nephew's house and I made jokes because they all had blonde hair and blue eyes and I said "I can't stand them because of what they did to the Jews" and when ever I saw them I would make references to Hitler. One day they were visiting my nephew for because their power was out and my nephew invited them to spend the night, during dinner and I made tons of Nazi jokes and asked them when they planned on starting World War III, they got up and left saying "We are not staying where we are not welcome" then my nephew looked at me and said in the most sarcastic way ever "Well, I guess it is a good thing they left, they might have burned the house down during the night" I reminded him who he is speaking too and told them those people were too thin skinned and he told me to just leave. Who does he think he is speaking to?

Question: How can I get my mother to stop eating junk food?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 11:58 AM PDT

I am a 45-year old woman and my mother is 79 and her doctor has told to stop eating meat, eggs, cheese, butter, lard, suet, tallow, schmaltz, cream, ice cream and salt but she still continues to eat unhealthy food. When I went down she had blueberry pie and ice cream, at first I thought they were fat free ready made supermarket ones but I saw the lard in the fridge and and demanded to know where she got it, she said she got it to make the pie, the fact that I just ate lard made me physically sick and I took it and threw it in the garbage along with the rest of the pie, I pointed at her and scolded her and said "No more lard" and went home. Yesterday we went to a restaurant for dinner and she order steak and a baked potato and she began putting salt on the baked potato, I snatched the shaker off her, smacked her hand and told her she needs to bring her blood pressure down and she told me to mind my own business and even said "you're never too old for a spanking" and ate the steak. Why is she being so nasty?

Question: What would you do if your teenage / early adult child told you (s)he decided to join the ISIS?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 11:49 AM PDT

Also please let me know which country you are from? If you are from the US, let me know which state?

Question: How to get my 4 yr old to shut up?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 11:48 AM PDT

Question: My dad just told me he did something to me when i was little... how should i feel about this.?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 11:48 AM PDT

my dad just told me when I was a little girl and he was playing with me he got an erection and while we were playing it brushed up against me and i said his name in an assertive unhappy voice instead of calling him dad and he immediately stopped and never did anything to me other than that. My husband and i are planing on having kids soon. Is this something that all men struggle with? I feel upset but so great full that nothing else ever happened. after my dad told me he said he should not have said anything I almost wished he wouldn't have because i feel so weird right now but can anyone please offer me advice. I am concerned for my future children. I dont think my father or my husband would ever do anything but hearing this shattered my world.

Question: How does it feel to have a sister?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 11:48 AM PDT

I don't have one and want to know. Tell me in detail.

Question: The yahoo glitch is gone or only for me?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 11:32 AM PDT

Question: Do you feel GAYS AND LESBIANS should able to adopt children?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:54 AM PDT

Question: Without any paperwork, a Canadian canmake baby with an American in the Haskell Free Library on Vermont/Quebec Border?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:29 AM PDT

The library is a neutral gathering for Canadians and Americans since the international boundary is inside the library. What this means is an American who wants their kid to be Canadian can meet someone of the opposite sex and opposite nationality ....inside Haskell Free Library The 2 of can find a quiet alley between the bookshelves and try for a baby like once a month. When a successful pregnancy results, they time 9 months later to remeet at Haskell Free Library same bookshelf area and .....bring a midwife family member for the trip to Haskell Free Library and ...Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Crying dual citizen baby born just like that :). No paperwork needed right?

Question: What should we do?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:23 AM PDT

I'm 14 and one of my older sisters is 16. We watch our fiver year old brother and two year old sister. Basically when we come home from school we have to watch them I'm come home after my 16 year old sister because I'm in middle school and she's in high school. We watch them on the weekends too. We practically have been raising them for years. I have to get up at night when one of them wakes up I put my brother to sleep every night. My sister and I are so stresses out we don't get enough sleep and we hardly have time to eat. I have ate so little the past few months that every time I eat I feel sick. We never get to see our friends unless we are at school. Our mom always tell us that "we are bad kids" and that "we never do anything to help around the house". We do a lot of stuff. My grades are falling in school because I'm so tired and can't focus. My mom says that everything is my fault. Sometimes even when my sister and I are doing what our mom told us to do she will start yelling at us saying that we are the laziest kids on earth. I never have time to do my homework I either have to stay up late, try to do it before my class or I have to turn it in half done. I want to tell one of my teachers, the one that I trust but I'm scared he will call DHS. We have already been in DHS once before and since our brother and sister are older than they were last time all four of us will get split up and won't get to see each other.We dont want to lose each other. What should we do?

Question: Should I disown my son for watching rape porn?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:14 AM PDT

I seriously doubt that he would ever act it out, but it's still very distasteful to fantasize about such a horrific crime.

Question: How do I know if the things my mother told me about my father were true?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:14 AM PDT

She tells me he was selfish. She also tells me he did not want me as his child though she says he never said that, he showed it. She says he was very selfish and that he only thought of himself. Lastly she says if I ever seek him out then I am ignoring all the hurt he caused her. I looked up his name for the first time on-line and I see he is awarded for his philanthropy work and a church newsletter he is listed in it as an Outreach Volunteer with his son. I also see his son's Facebook page and the son looks very similar to me. So I would like to meet him but I am know my mother is going to give me hell as well as members of my mother's family who also tell me how bad my father was. Based on his name appearing as a recipient of a philanthropy award (three of them) and in a Catholic Church bulletin ( I am Catholic also). So as a result of all this, I am thinking he might not be that bad. So how do I know if these things my mother says are true and I should stay away or if I am right to want to meet him.

Question: Why would my older sister tickle me on my birthday?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:07 AM PDT

She is 17 and I'm 14.

Question: What makes mothers and sometimes fathers over controlling?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:07 AM PDT

Question: Life has become too boring and predictable. My Aunt has offered me a chance to live with her and start a new life. Should I?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 10:03 AM PDT

I am 19, living in the middle of nowhere and struggling to really make my mark. My girlfriend recently left me and already I'm losing contact with those I went to school with. My Aunt recently suggested that I should come and live with her in the big city and work for her. She has lots of money, a nice apartment, lives on her own and can help me find a great career path. She also travels a lot and has best of everything. I'm not used to city life but it could be a challenge I need. I should be happier than I am.

Question: Do I have anxiety?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:58 AM PDT

Right now my dad is screaming in the other room, and it's making me think about myself. I have always felt like something is wrong with me. If I have a conversation with someone, I feel like I'm not a part of it or that I am saying something wrong. My dad is a horrible person who verbally abuses all of us. He's hit us before, but not that often. I trouble talking on the phone, or with cashiers and people I don't know. I always feel like something is off and I hate it. I'm a senior in high-school but I've never been in a relationship before because A) I think something is wrong with me and B) I don't want to introduce my partner to my father. Based off of what I'm reading online, I think I have anxiety, but my family tells me that that isn't a real thing. However, I don't know how else to explain what I feel. Please let me know your thoughts, thanks.

Question: Should I rise to the bait of depression? Or should I just stay where my mind is at the moment?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:48 AM PDT

Today has been a depressing day. My mind has been going hopelessly from thought to thought, my energy has been dropping like a stone, and my mother has been a total ***** today. She's annoyed me more times today than she has any other day. What I've learned from all this is to pursue my imagination. Try to imagine other parental figures, meeting stars I've always wanted to meet, of course using the law of attraction for that. This is mainly because of my annoying mother. But then, once again today, my attention has been caught. A lot of negativity goes on around the place that I live in. It's hard sometimes to try and use that to your advantage or just ignore it altogether.

Question: To babysit or not to babysit. My life is a bit of a mess right now.?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:45 AM PDT

My sister in law has a baby a month ago and wants me to babysit once she goes back to work in May (I'd also be watching her 10 year old son once the school year is over.) I have a 17 month old son who is a handful that I stay at home with already. When she asked me to babysit it was at dinner with my husband, mother in law and nephew. I pretty much said no (unsure facial expression followed by saying "man I don't know that's a lot of kids.") The point being is that I feel pretty darn guilty, but I really don't want to be tied down with 2-3 kids 4-5 days out of the week. I told my husband I'd be happy to babysit for free once or twice a week for free, but that I didn't want the extra responsibility of doing it 5 days a week. There's a lot going on right now, my husband is starting a new business and my mother is very ill. I'm pretty effing stressed at the moment. Am I a total jerk for saying no?

Question: Do you guys think i am mean for treating her like this?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:42 AM PDT

So hello guys Im in love with this girl a lot but she doesnt feel the same way about me. She kind of play me and she just want attention. I block her out of my life by blocking her number and her social media. I tweets on twitter and says that blocking someone toxic out of my life was the best decision i have ever make. Then i saw one of her tweet, she says " im toxic " Why she still care about my business if she dont like me? I hate to ignore her but i dont want to get hurt.

Question: I allowed my sister to stay with me and my girlfriend but now it has caused problems. How can I fix it without hurting anyone?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:42 AM PDT

My girlfriend and I are both 26 and we've been living together now for almost a year. Recently my 19 year old sister was moved in for a while because she had problems at home and felt more comfortable being with me. However, a months stay has turned into 3 months - my sister is happy and probably doesn't want to leave anytime soon. My girlfriend isn't too impressed. It has put a bit of a strain on our relationship and maybe it's more difficult to be completely ourselves with her around. But I just want everyone to be happy and it's difficult.

Question: I'm 25 and I hate my father! I told my mom and she was just begging me to love him.?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:41 AM PDT

I can't just Change hatred.

Question: My moms kicking me out and I m a minor?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:30 AM PDT

So my mom and I got into a huge fight last night over The fact that I don t want to do tutoring (I m on probation for truancy) and when I locked myself in a room she called my dad, they re separated, and told him that I m living with him now and packed my bags. I didn t come out of the room so I m still at my moms but I can t live with my dad. I get so disgusted with him it makes me panick (you d understand if you knew him) he s a alcoholic and he lives in the basement of my grandmas house, on my moms side! I really don t know what I could do I m really scared rn please help

Question: New York Custody Question- What are reasons the judge will take away custody from mother?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:26 AM PDT

Does anyone know what it takes for the father to take away custody from the mother id the mother has been having custody since birth which she is 7 months now?? Thank you. What about for a past drug abuse and an arrest because of that but years before ever becoming a mother?

Question: I have ongoing problem about a black boy who keeps staying at my husband grandma house?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:15 AM PDT

My husband aunt and her boyfriend who lives at my husband grandma house has told this black boy that used to live across the road before they moved since the house across the road had water damage but anyways my husband aunt boyfriend told this black boy to stay while back before Christmas and until now. His brother wife has a apartment but doesn't won't this black boy to live with her and the brother so he thinks its okay to stay with my husband grandma without asking permission which my husband grandma said she wasn't going to kick him out since she wasn't that way but he does look bad with a black guy staying. He tells us his brother and his wife takes his money and stuff, so I don't know the situation there. He also says he gets medicaid and medicare that he never gets to see. My husband grandma wants to know is there a number to call to see if they can help her about this situation because he keeps asking for money for skoal and plus he eats too. He keeps saying he will pay my husbands grandma back but never does! My husband grandma is tired of him being there period and wants opinions from you

Question: How can I forgive my ex??

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:10 AM PDT

My ex game me out daughter day get out . Took $1000 from me my own money. So I packed up and just moved. Now he says wants to be a father never gave us cent never helped us. I want to forgive him but I always hold that anger . Me and my daughter where living out my car to find a place in one day. Had family and away.

Question: Advice on dealing with a sister-in-law you don t like.?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:09 AM PDT

So me and my husband are being thrown a gender reveal party for our first baby. We were just told by a family member (who wasn't supposed to tell us) that my SIL is coming down to surprise us. I'm less than thrilled to see her because we have a very rocky relationship and it's been that way for the past five years I've known her. I feel like her coming down to surprise us takes the attention off me, my husband, and our baby, and puts it all on her for making the trip down to surprise us when she could have just told us she was going to come and not made a big scene about it. She is a drama queen and always has to have the attention on her. The last fallout we had was me finding out she'd been cheating on her husband, after she told me she was not, and so I told her I didn't agree with what she was doing and I was upset she lied to me. After that she didn't talk to me for months and acted like I had been taken off this planet. Now she's decided YET AGAIN that she wants to be close again but I don't want to go through these constant ups and downs with her like we have for so long. She didn't want me to marry her brother. My question with all of this is, how do I just more past everything we've been through and try and enjoy spending time with someone I don't like? I don't want to ruin it for my husband, even though he understands and agrees with the way I feel about her. I'm just tired of all the drama she brings to my life. Thanks guys.

Question: Do parents know that teenagers watch porn on the phone?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 09:07 AM PDT

I mean do all parents know that because my parents would kill me I think if they knew. lol.

Question: Money making Ideas for 13 year old?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:52 AM PDT

I'm 13 and I burn through money way too fast. I can't sell things like bracelets or whatever because my parents don't want me to sit outside bugging people, neither do I. I like to babysit, but I can't put up posters because of weirdos in our city, and I have two older sisters that always get the jobs anyway. I don't get allowances, no one ever leaves money in couch cushions, I can't sell anything or go up to people asking for a job. So what do I do? I only get money from birthdays, Christmas, and occasionally taking care of the neighbor's animals when they are on vacation, which isn't very often. HELP!!!! And we live in a very small city, not even on most maps. The biggest and most popular store is Safeway, and there is only one stoplight in the entire town. So yeah....

Question: How do I earn a relationship with my estranged father? He has never wanted to see me since I was 2, now I am 16.?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:36 AM PDT

Question: I have ongoing problem about a black boy who keeps staying at my Grandma in law house?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:35 AM PDT

My husband aunt and her boyfriend who lives at my grandma in law house has told this boy to stay while back before christmas until him and his family got an apartment so he just recently came back two months ago after living in an apartment a month ago due to his family wouldn't pay rent. This black boy get medicaid and medicare and his brother and wife takes all of his money and doesn't give him a dime, but I just want to find a way to contact with somebody to talk to about him staying at my grandma in law house. Its making our family look bad with a black guy staying there but we don't won't to kick him out but he needs a place of his own. When he comes, he is here for food and money and he never pays us back! What do you think i need to do about this situation and what number to call?

Question: Does your mom live on Sex Drive?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:31 AM PDT

Question: How to go to NURSE?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:27 AM PDT

I know I will get so so much backlash. But if you can't help then please don't respond to this question. I cannot go to my last period today. I know people are going to be like why but please just trust that it's a good reason and I can't deal with it or I will practically fall over. Please I never do this kind of stuff. So what should I say or do to get out of class? I mean it when I say I can't go. Anyways should i say I got my period or something? Like I really don't know what are excuses?

Question: How do I cut off all ties with family?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:16 AM PDT

24 (female) Grew up with no friends or anything. I was always the scapegoat of the family. I have 4 older siblings who are so toxic because our Dad is the root cause of it all.. he's controlling, possessive and is the most difficult person in the world. He made us all feel small and like SH!T our whole lives. Just with them, he gave them the world. And they always felt they had the upper hand because he treated me like crap. Well, It's been almost 2 years since I've seen my siblings... or talked to them. I've been working in the oil fields in which I hated and don't know how I made it. But I saved a lot of money and will be moving to NYC for college and to start my life and I also have a job lined up. But my mom refuse to tell my family anything good about me. She want them to still think I'm nothing and below them. And so everyone still think that. Because I don't add them on any of my social networks because I know they will try to down me. So I told my mom that I was cutting off contact with her too because she's toxic and she said that's okay, and she don't care... because she's not about to tell anyone I'm doing good. So, I need to know how do I forget they exist?

Question: How to talk to a family member about moving in with them?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:12 AM PDT

I'm almost seventeen years old and there's a family issue going on in my household where my legal guardian/ 83 year old grandmother isn't able to take care of me because she's decided to move to a nursing home. So that leaves me with the option to move with my uncle from a different state that's doing pretty well off financially. I'm from Wisconsin and he lives in Alabama, so it'd be a big move. A few people in my family don't really like the idea of me leaving because I'm still in high school but I've already finished mostly all of my junior year, did my ACT, all my standardized tests, and I have more credits than I need at the moment. I've been down south with him for an extended period of time before so I know how things work and I know that I'll never get this opportunity again, there's many jobs available and a really nice college I could apply for and I would be living with my little brother again so I can connect with him better. So pretty much I know how much this will impact me and my family. What would be a good way of telling my uncle how I feel about moving with him and convincing him to let me since its his choice, I only get one shot at this and I want him to understand that if I go there I mean business and I'll be on top of whatever I need to do. Any help would be great !

Question: I want to forgive my mother but cannot, please help?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:09 AM PDT

My mother alienated me from family as a kid. I am an adult now and close to everyone but still carry the effects and hurts of being alienated as a kid. She has a pattern of expecting me to be mad at whoever she is mad at (she often feuded with her brothers and with her father and step-mother. So as a kid I only saw my grandmother and aunt on my mother's side. Now as an adult I have regrets and sometimes we are overlooked at gatherings because the family knows my mother won't come. I want to forgive my mother but have been unable to as the anger at her keeps resurfacing when something triggers the hurt. So my question is how do I forgive her? I want to but am unable to. She otherwise was a good mother, she was just bitter at her family of origin. When I talk to her about it she just defends it and says she did the right thing by alienating me. I have two sisters but they are not affected by it, maybe I am since I was a boy.

Question: I am anxious all the time about conflicts among family members costing me, how do I get over this?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:06 AM PDT

As a kid my mother always brought me into family conflicts by not letting me see relatives she was mad at. Now as an adult whenever there is a conflict I fear I will be screwed by the conflict either in the form of my mother's wrath that I am seeing who she is mad at or that the other side won't want to see me because I am my mother's child. So how do I overcome this anxiety?

Question: How do I get over the unexpected loss of my mentally ill and dysfunctional father?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 08:00 AM PDT

My dad passed away several months ago, and I feel really sad. I was upset with him when he died because he was an abusive and dysfunctional parent growing up. He cheated me out of money and really put me through a lot of stress about 6 months before he died, and I wasnt speaking to him much the few months prior to his death. He had some sort of mental illness but I knew deep down he loved us. Anyways I went down to his house for the first time since his death and saw that he was living in complete filth. He needed a knee and hip replacement and had become sedentary. he was in a lot of pain because he developed sepsis. He didnt know what was wrong, I was going through his mail and saw that he was in the hospital trying to get help just 2 days prior into going into septic shock and suffering a fatal heart attack. He had heart problems and had elected to quit following up with his cardiologist. He went home and was found unresponsive laying in filth before being rushed to the hospital where he later passed the next day. I just always thought that there would have been time to work out our conflict, I knew that he had mental problems, but had no idea what he was living in. This is heartbreaking and I feel really guilty. If I had been there more for him I think maybe he would still be alive

Question: I feel like my olny angry Capricorn out there that explode with angers and yell at people when they piss me off?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:57 AM PDT

Because I'm a quiet person people yell at me because I don't talk to them they have no patients with me and this piss me off

Question: How come my parents are divorced but none of my friends parents are divorced? What made me the unfair one?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:55 AM PDT

Question: 19 and want to move out?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:43 AM PDT

I'm 19 soon to be 20 and I'm graduating high school in two months, I had decided to move back to my hometown after living in Chicago for about three years well wanting to move back to hometown sinces we first moved out here . anyways iI decided to move back cause Ifeel chciago has nothing for me , I recently got accepted to Concordia university but honestly don't know what Major I want to do I want to move back and go community college there and explore and to be more independent without parents cause I realize iI been stuck at the house never really experience the out side world and Iwant to find out who iI really am as a person and make my own decisions instead my parents making them for me but parents been putting the guilt on me plus I told them what I wanted to do I don't think they would let me

Question: My mother is the destroyer in the family, how do I distance myself from her, read below?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:37 AM PDT

My mother is the destroyer. She spreads gossip, sends stalking emails, and seeks to destroy people's reputations. This is not with regards to her husband and children but with regards to her ex-husband (my Dad), her siblings, and her in-laws (my step-father's family). My step-father has an Italian family so they are very blunt so right now my mother's focus is in destroying their reputations. She drove by my step-grandfather's house last night hoping to catch evidence he was drunk (he is an alcoholic). She did all this to my father also when married to him though he is an only child so she was nicer to his family. How do I get her "the Destroyer as I call her" to stop this madness? I can't disown her because she is my mother so I would be acting as bad as her. But it is driving me nuts. Today she is mad that I saw her brother over the weekend as she doesn't speak to him.

Question: My grandmother is crazy and keeps6 talking to herself and want ne to work what to do to avoid her?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:36 AM PDT

I'm staying at her house but she is just crazy she just says : right now were gonna clean the entire house.You cant talk to her she'll keep saying things she remembers 50 years ago over and over.And makes me lazy and stupid and sheis so ******* stupid keep inventing things about me.Godammit she even ttied to beat me what to do?

Question: I want to run away...im 20???

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:34 AM PDT

I live with extremely controlling parents and I want to run away and cut them off. When I was younger/in high school I was extremely suicidal and depressed. I did a lot of drugs and drinking and since I began dating my boyfriend (end of my senior year) he has helped me to become clean, raise all my grades to high honor role, and live a successful life. My parents are constantly bashing him because he is more "redneck" where as we are from an upper class neighborhood. They also don't like him because he doesn't have money and can't afford a nice car and chose to leave college. Anyways y parents are constantly bashing me and saying I'm a **** up because I'm not pursuing the college degree or career they want. I'm trying my hardest to get As and to get a job with the us gov or an internship and nothing matters to them. They constantly tear me down and tell me I'm a failure, ruining my life, and ruining theirs. The other day my dad ripped up half my home work sheets. They control me with money and constantly black mail me. What should I do? My boyfriend was offered a job across the country but won't take it because he doesn't want to leave without me. Should I go?? I want to leave and cut them off because of how abusive they are butI'm worried its wrong to do that because they are my parents after all. I just can't take it all anymore

Question: Will I get taken away from my mom if she keeps letting me stay home from school?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 07:04 AM PDT

On the last report card, it said I missed 21 days, will people take me away from my mom if I miss anymore

Question: I'm confused as an adopted 18 year old thinking about my birth parents. One moment i'm sad for them and another i'm angry?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 06:55 AM PDT

I was adopted by a great family who weren't able to have kids. They let me know that my birth parents were in their young teen years when they had me which gave left me all confused to say the least. I know my parents are very open for me to meet them so I don't see any reason why they should be lying about their age (just FYI). Throughout my last couple of years in school I constantly thought about what would happen if I was to meet them? Or if they even wanted to meet me. This constantly gives me sad and angry feelings towards them without me having met them yet. What should I expect?

Question: Help! My little sister won t stop being aggressive!?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 06:35 AM PDT

I m about to turn 17 in August and my little sister is 15. All my life she has hated me and I truthfully don t know why. When we were little she once pushed me into our dollhouse. One time she even bit me. But it got worse when we got older. She gets mad over the most stupid stuff and when she isn t being verbally abusive she s physically abusive.When I hit back she gets even more violent and attacks harder and when I hit her back again she does even more dangerous stuff. She ll even do it in public. Once she punched me at the bus stop and she obviously doesn t care that she could get arrested for that. This has gone all my life almost everyday. I tell my Mom and yes she reprimands her but that doesn t stop my sister from doing it one or two days later! I just don t know what to do. If she wasn t my sister I would ve fought her already. She even said she wishes she didn t have a sister. That wouldn t me all too much if she wasn t so violent. I don t feel safe around her. And it s not just me I m worried about. I have a baby brother who turns two in May. and my sister yanks him around by the arm or leg. Or pushes him when he comes over to look at her stuff. We tell her all the time that she could get locked up for child abuse for that but she still does it! I m so worried that after next year when I graduate that she ll keep causing him harm. Please help I m so tired and stressed from this issue!

Question: My family has no boundaries?!!?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 06:35 AM PDT

I've been in treatment for over a year and I'm home finally home. I've only been home for five days and I feel like the only healthy person here. My mom is very enabling with everyone around her. She lets my druggie sister live with us, my little brother is out of control and has serious anger issues, and my dad isn't really involved in my life he just goes to work and comes home. What do I do??? I'm only 15 and I have very healthy boundaries and I've spent a long time getting my life back together so it's really frustrating living in such a toxic environment.

Question: How can I leave my parents in this situation?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 06:14 AM PDT

I am 25 years old and I know for a fact that I need to move out of my parents house. They are currently charging me 600 which is almost half of the rent. My youngest brother pays the other part. People tell me I can simply just move out which is not easy either. I have tried before. When I tried to move out the last time they guilt tripped me into staying by telling me if I moved out they d lose the place and my dad would have to get a second job or they d become homeless. I have mentioned on how I want to move to Portland or the surrounding areas and they didn t seem to enthused about it either. They don t want to move with me but I need to move from here (Florida). So my question is what is a good way to actually leave my parents in order to get a better life for myself and how can leave?

Question: I want to forgive my mother but cannot, please help?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 06:09 AM PDT

My mother alienated me from family as a kid. I am an adult now and close to everyone but still carry the effects and hurts of being alienated as a kid. She has a pattern of expecting me to be mad at whoever she is mad at (she often feuded with her brothers and with her father and step-mother. So as a kid I only saw my grandmother and aunt on my mother's side. Now as an adult I have regrets and sometimes we are overlooked at gatherings because the family knows my mother won't come. I want to forgive my mother but have been unable to as the anger at her keeps resurfacing when something triggers the hurt. So my question is how do I forgive her? I want to but am unable to. She otherwise was a good mother, she was just bitter at her family of origin. When I talk to her about it she just defends it and says she did the right thing by alienating me. I have two sisters but they are not affected by it, maybe I am since I was a boy. @KC----But why would most parents punish their kids due to their own grudges? Only one of my mother's relatives ever does this.

Question: How do I deal with an abusive father?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 05:56 AM PDT

My dad makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. One day, my sister and I went to the park to play because we were bored playing in the yard. Usually, he doesn't care if we go up there. This time, he came and picked us up and then threw my phone across the car. Then we went into the house and he pushed me up against the refrigerator and held me by the neck. He eventually put me down after he was done yelling at me. Then he pushed me into his room and started getting in my face again. Yelling and screaming at me and my sister. Then it all stopped. My sister and I sat at the table to eat dinner. We were both crying really really hard so it was hard to eat. He had told ME to shut up or something worse was going to happen. I tried to keep quiet but it didn't work. He yelled at me again. Then my mom called and she helped calm me down and since then, I haven't visited him because I'm afraid it's going to happen again. How do I deal with this?

Question: My sister and I look similar and my sister is using a Sugar Daddy website, I fear people will think it is me, how do I handle this?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 05:50 AM PDT

She refuses to take it down and tells me to stop stalking her. I am scared for my safety I tell her and she just tells me to F off. It is a complicated history and it infuriated her that I stayed neutral in our parents divorce (she sides with our Mom 100 percent but I was neutral and my brother leaned on my Dad's side). So what do I do? I found out because a friend I knew from my school days told me. I am 22 and my sister is 24. My mother spoils her and won't do anything about it saying "it is normal". To my mother anything short of murder is "normal" including when our cousin had a baby at 16.

Question: What do you do if in-laws don't save for retirement?

Posted: 19 Apr 2016 05:50 AM PDT

Hello all, I have a bit of an issue. I have been dating my bf for 2 yrs and we would like to get married soon. One HUGE reservation I have is that they have no retirement, no savings, and still have ~20 yrs left on their mortgage. I am scared to marry my bf because I fear they will become leeches. They are in their 50s, no pension and rely on government medical ins. If the dad gets hurt and can't work, they're screwed. My bf and I are 23 and graduated with degrees in engineering and science, respectively. We planed for our future in order to be able to support a family. His parents, however, did not pursue an education or lucrative trade, got married young, and decided to pop out 10 kids. Dad makes $40,000/yr, mom is SAH. They say they "rely on the Lord" for everything...a little too much if you ask me. They take a passive approach when we talk about their savings and again "rely on God". I am scared because I do not want their lack of income to hurt my and my future husband's savings/kids college funds/inheritance/ect. I bring this up with my bf and he says not to worry and that if worse come to worse, his siblings will help out (6 are daughter who are uneducated, married, and don't work, 4 are boys-bf and one of his brothers are only ones who aspired to anything). So, what do you think of this situation? Do you think the sister's husbands will be willing to help pay the parent's mortgage and expenses? Or does it seem that the financial burden will inevitably fall on my bf