Family: Question: Can my bf get full custody?

Question: Can my bf get full custody?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 12:58 PM PDT

I m considering leaving my bf as I m tired of the toxic relationship but I m scared he might get full custody. I m with my child the most, even when he is at home. He has grow tents in our has to grow Marijuana, he also abuses smoking it too. He has anger issues and sometimes yells in front of baby. And he doesn t worry about her safety as much as I do.

Question: My mom always throws away my clothes?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 12:44 PM PDT

I'm 17 graduating high school my mom keeps throwing away my "old" clothes. I bought vans and barely had them for 6 months and she threw them away because they got a little dirty! I tried explaining to her that the type of shoes I buy aren't cheap $10 ones but they're $45 so they're supposed to last years but she's says she doesn't care and tells me to take care of my shoes. I wear normal clothes like a t shirt and pants yet she throws away my clothes even after barely buying them. When I can't find it I ask her and she just says "I threw it away because it was TRASH" And it's so upsetting because I have a job and buy these stuff myself and I honestly am so fed up with this. We have 5 rooms in my house and my mom only decides to rampage mine?? She goes through my closet and washes my clothes multiple times that my clothes because full of lint and start looking old. I keep telling her to stop and that I wash my clothes every Saturday when she's not home but she doesn't care and just constantly keep doing this! I don't have any privacy in this house with my mom because she's so nosy and won't leave my stuff alone. My parents are divorced so it's just my mom and I'm going to college next year but I'm still living at home so there still won't be much privacy. In my culture we don't really leave our parents after 18 so I'm pretty much stuck with this ongoing bull. I guess my question is, how should I hide my clothes and any advice on my mom?

Question: Difficult father/parent situation?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 12:21 PM PDT

I'm 16 years old. My parents divorced 3 years ago. My father remarried 2 years ago. He's got three stepkids and a baby boy who was born earlier this year. I live mostly with my mom and my older half sister (19). I spend weekends with my father and his family. I try to be respectful of my fathers new family, but it can be hard. He joined a Church shortly after the divorce. This is where he met his wife. This religion is very strict and I have a hard time being around them when they do their prayer time. And this is where my question leads. My parents custody agreement says I get to chose which of them I go on vacation with every year. Not sure how this came to be decided, but I believe it was my fathers choice when they were working it out. I normally go with my mom, but last year she convinced me to go with them, because she thought I needed to try harder to blend with them. I went and hated it. Their idea of a vacation is a religious camp that I felt very uncomfortable at and found it very hard to connect with others there. I had zero fun and was so happy when it was over. I will never go back again. Problem is, my father and stepmother weren't happy when they heard I had chosen not to go this year. They feel I'm being rude. My father said he was disappointed I couldn't be more respectful of his religion, etc. I didn't badmouth the religion, I just said it wasn't for me when they asked why I didn't want to go back. And the truth is, they don't feel like my family. My father makes me feel like a bad person for not joining his Church. He criticizes me for wanting to dress in dark clothes and for wearing makeup. He want me to become someone I'm not. I don't know what to do. But I have been considering cutting contact once I'm 18. When I try to bring this up, he said children, especially girls, shouldn't talk back to their fathers. Advice?

Question: What is the right thing to do if you witness a family member cheating on their significant other?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 12:05 PM PDT

My cousin and I are very close, grew up together. The other night, he was stressing about his girlfriend because she was being distant (that's what he says at least, there may be more to the story.) We were out having drunks and he said that he was positive that he would break up with her (they have only been dating like 2 months). He ended up kissing another girl, and asking for her number. I didn't say anything because they were breaking up anway. Apparently they talked and are ok now, but he never told her... I talked to him and He told me that he doesn't plan on telling the gf and I agreed that was best. As long as he doesn't do it again, would it just hurt her more if he told her as it was just a kiss? I want to be clear that I don't ever plan on telling her, but maybe I should not have agreed with him that keeping it a secret was a good idea. Also I may be biased, I got further irritated when I found out that when he worked things out with the gf, he basically told her that his distant behavior was the result of me bitching at him and fighting with him for days, even though we had one for an hour and this happened a day later. He has always had habit of shifting the blame onto others and it gets to me, especially this time when I helped keep his stupid secret and got thrown under the bus for it. I don't think I will bring it up again or do anything further, just trying to contemplate this in my mind. He had already told the girl that his behavior was my fault before I was involved at all, I just didn't find out about it until afterwords. The fact that I was hanging out with him during this "distant" behavior made me the perfect scapegoat. The one fight we had happened before any of this and was unrelated to the cheating. The only reason I brought it up at all to him was because he asked me to keep it between us. Also I realize that this was not clear, the hour long fight was NOT about the cheating. The fight happened before any of it, (saying they would break up, the kiss, any of it). He just took that minor fight that happened before and blew it up to make it seem like that argument was the reason he was acting strange.

Question: Moving out at 17 in SC?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 12:01 PM PDT

I live with my father and he is against me leaving. I know I'm not legally an adult until I am 18 but can I move out at 17 now? My dad will call the police I know but will they do anything? Will they take me back home? I'll be staying in high school along with taking college classes and I have a safe place to stay and I'll have a part time job. Will police make me go back home? I'll be 18 in 5 months can I just go ahead and leave now without anyone getting into trouble and me dragged back home?

Question: My mom is cheating on my dad?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 11:58 AM PDT

Okay I have a sucky situation.. I know this has happened when I was younger like 7 she was like naked in front of the freaking webcam and would lock me in my room all day until my dad came home from work, and now im 15 and my older sister isn't living with me anymore and my mom is like emailing guys from the gas station and making accounts all over the internet ect. AND TOLD ME ABOUT IT, LIKE GIGGLING LIKE SHE WAS A 12 YEAR OLD GIRL! SHE TOLD ME NEVER TELL ANYONE, AND I COULD MEET HIM SATURDAY! This morning she took a full blown like 2 hour shower, put on MY clothes (which DON'T FIT HERRR) and 10 pounds of makeup.. did her hair.. SHE NEVER DOES THAAAAT!! and she told my dad me and my brother were going to the store with her, and nope, we didn't... "Don't tell dad!" uggggh then she leaves for like 2 hours, and comes back with like 2 bags of grocries.. like really? How stupid do I look! and I don't know what to do, should I tell my dad? IDK what to do... He is under so much stress already, his mom just died, his uncle, his grandma, his dad hates him, my sister is crazy, his sister is crazy, and he doesn't even wanna leave the house because he has no teeth (he needs dentures..) and he works so hard.. I feel horrrrribleee.. I love my dad.. but if I told him, he would divorce my mom and I don't want my family torn apart after my sister just left from doing horrible things..

Question: My son wants some My Little pony figures but my husband doesn't want him to have them. What should I do?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 11:02 AM PDT

My son is 7, it is almost his 8th birthday and he wrote up a list of stuff he would like and along the normal stuff (call of duty and a new game system) I found that he wants some my little pony figures (specifically Rainbow dash and apple jack). My husband saw them and hes told him that he doesn't want him to be gay. Of course he questioned this but my husband just said he would tell him when he got older. Should I just let him have the figures or should I talk to him about this whole situation, he seems pretty torn up about it

Question: Why Is My Son So Stupid?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 10:58 AM PDT

Hi! I am a 41 year-old father, and my son apparently has gotten dumber. I expect nothing on his grades but A+'s, which on his last test failed to do so. I am furious with him now, it's like he doesn't even care! He claims he just needs a little help on math, which is stupid! It's my job as a father to provide and protect my son, not do his work for him. On his test, he just got a simple A, isn't that ridiculous? If he does not get his grades up, then I am disowing him. No question! No argument!

Question: Can my parents call the cops on me?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 10:44 AM PDT

I m 18 and planning to move in with my boyfriend and his family in 2 months when I graduate night school. My parents want me to love with one of them but I can t deal with them theyv always been so super strict never letting me do anything or go out at night even to hangout with friends. I already. Refused to come home one night and my mom threatened to call the cops on me can she really do that when I go to move out will they do anything or make me live with one of them???

Question: How do I get through to my son?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 10:38 AM PDT

Im 43. My son is almost 18, he is one of those stereotypical gangster type teens. He currently has anger issues and it seems that he is mostly aggresive towards me and sorta towards my husband. When he was little he had some aggression issues but he was generally kind to others. I started noticing changes around Christmas of 2005, that year he wanted some my little pony figures(specifically Rainbow dash and minty). My husband said he would be letting him have them since he didn't want to be made fun by other parents and he didn't want him to be bullied. The result was my husband and I getting into a brawl that lasted 2 hours, long story short he won that argument. Following that Christmas he started having problems with kids bullying him because of his size. I made the mistake of thinking he was just lying to get attention (he used to lie that he was having stomachache when we were paying more attention to his newborn brother) but then he started coming home with bruises and cuts, I felt like such a failure. When he got to middle school he met a guy in 7th grade who seemed really nice and all but when I came home one day, I saw them making out in his bed. I told him he could see him anymore and the he was grounded for 2 months. He seemed pretty torn up about it, but I left him alone thinking that he needed to learn to get over things himself. Fast forward to current day he seems to get ticked off easily (and you're in for it) and he sometimes has red eyes and/or smells awful.

Question: I feel bit shy around my own mom ..while talking face to face is it normal?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:57 AM PDT

Question: Mi dad wus on top of mi mom and the wear nakd and somting was in her but I do not no wut i am 6 wut wear the doin?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:44 AM PDT

Question: What should I get my sister?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:38 AM PDT

My sister is turning 13 and I need to find her something amazing. We have a very close relationship and I want this present to be special.

Question: Help???!!!?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:30 AM PDT

i am a 13 year old girl in 3 months and i self harm because of my brothers and my mom doesn know but when ever one of my brothers throw a f****** knife of me she dosent care and says they are kids one is 2 and one is 7 the older one keeps calling me a pig or a bit** or something b ut when i say shut up she beats the heel out of me today i have been locked up in my room for a total of 7 1/2 hours i skiped school .while she went with my brothers to buy the older one a bike and a ozobot and the young one a bike car thing i asked her if i could get skate board but she said no NOT because i am a girl but because she used to have one when she was younger and she did not like the sport. i can't save up mony to buy thisngs by doing chores because we have 2 maids my dad i always traviling so we don't have a bound.

Question: Would my birth parent's want to meet me?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:28 AM PDT

I always asked myself this question ever since I matured through high school. Through my city's law i'm not able to learn of their name and other details until i'm 18, which I just turned recently. However I know some of the details from what my adopted parents told me. My birth dad was 16 and my mom was 14 when they had me. This leads me to think neither was in a state of rational thinking when they had me so would they consider me a mistake? Any thoughts appreciated.

Question: How do I cope with the aftermath of my parent's divorce?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:22 AM PDT

Currently a senior in high school graduating this year. Since freshmen year they have been going at each other's throats. It all started when my dad went to see a prostitute in Thailand on a golfing tour and didn't mention it to the family only until the start of my freshmen year. Since then the only time they have been able to talk is through lawyers otherwise it's another warzone. Freshmen and Sophomore years were hell for me because there were countless of times I just hid in my room while both of them had hissy fits which usually ended up with the police just wandering in. My dad tried to justifiy his actions by explaining to me that it was because he was lacking in his "sex life". And now years later is okay with the idea of meeting that woman in Thailand. My mother hasn't made it any better due to the fact that her family never forgives. Her side of the family's already "outcasted" several of their own and I don't want to join them but I don't want to leave my dad either. None of my friend's know this is all happening and they don't deserve to carry this burden. I don't know how I have made it to this point but I don't think I can keep going like this. Despite going to a counselor for almost a year about this, I can't help but think there are things a counselor can't fix. Following freshmen year they tried selling the apartment we lived in (the same one we live in now) but it took ages for them to agree on a price. This whole time we had to live in the same apartment and only recently got word that we were selling it in a month (Thanks for the response).

Question: I don't know if my future mother in law really likes me?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:14 AM PDT

I have been with my finance for a very long time. We are getting married soon and have two children. Well I don't get along with his brother and his sister in law, its a long story. And his Mom, she's nice to me but there little things that she does that hurt my feelings. Because she is nice to me so when she does these things I get confused .. Recently was my fiances sister in laws birthday, and she got her a really nice gift. He got his brother and my fiance super nice gifts as well. My birthday just passed and she didn't bother to get me anything at all, all she did was tell me Happy birthday on Facebook. I'm not a little kid. I don't care about a gift but it does make me feel bad. It makes me feel like she acts like she likes me but really doesn't. My fiance notices but he doesn't really say anything. I am used to it but sometimes it really bugs me. What would you think?

Question: Is my mom ok looking..she feels plain?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:08 AM PDT

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Question: I'm 15 turning 16 in July. I live with my mom in colorado, but I want to live with my dad in Maryland.?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 09:04 AM PDT

What would convince judge that I should be able to live in Maryland with my dad? My dad tells me I am able to choose where I want to live when I'm 16. My mom is verbally abusive, I do better in school when I'm not around her, she threatens me with physical abuse, she causes me to have anxiety attacks and cry a lot, I'm severely depressed and she tells me to "get over it" and "stop being dramatic", she has threatened to send me to a girls home, but the person that I call my father is not my biological father but has been in my life since I was 2 but hasn't adopted me. Would this be enough for a judge to let me live with my dad? I also have a 4 year old brother that is un-biological fathers son. He lives with my mom and me as well. Would this affect a judge's decision since the court system tries to keep siblings together?

Question: I feel like the biggest loser!!?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 08:57 AM PDT

I feel like a loser like I don't have my life together. I have 2 weeks of sophomore year left and I don't have a car (my school doesn't allow cars freshman and sophomore year). I'm a Psych Pre-med student and my science classes keep me super busy if I'm not studying I'm volunteering. I plan on getting an internship and working this summer to save up enough money to buy one but right now I feel hurt. My parents got my younger brother a car. I know I'm an adult now but here I am miles away from home. I'm not dependent on them they don't pay my tuition, I've sent them money sometimes and they've sent me nothing it kind of sucks being a broke college kid and all your friends have parents loading their bank accounts but it's whatever. The true problem is I don't have a car but my brother two years younger then me gets one who's at home and probably will attend community college just so my parents can keep an eye on him. Why wouldn't I get a car before him? At one point my dad was giving him $500 a month for no reason and never sent me anything. Even when I was his age I never got that. I've managed to make this college thing work on my own even with little money. I just feel like a bum.

Question: My mother is a barrier in me getting close to family of hers, how do I overcome this barrier?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 08:52 AM PDT

She is very bitter at her siblings over stuff that happened years ago (about 25 years ago). I miss out on family time as a result of this and though I am a young adult, traditions have formed that don't involve my siblings and I as we accidentally are overlooked as my mother often refuses to go. Holidays like Christmas are not spent together though I take a gift by to my mother's siblings the week after Christmas. How do I overcome this barrier which is my mother. She has a great family and I have tried to talk to her about it but she won't change. My mother says to this day that she would do nothing any different now then 25 years ago. Any tips?

Question: How to convince my mother to stop being immature?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 08:48 AM PDT

I am a fifteen year old girl, who is a big sister to five children. The problem is my mother's immaturity. Everyday she comes home late and sometime she's even drunk. On some nights she won't be home at all, and I find out the next day that she's been at some club with her boyfriend. And when I try to confront her about this she acts like I don't ever let her have any fun, and I get that my mother can go out sometime but she's doing this every night. That's not the only issue I have with her whenever she starts dating a guy, she gets so infatuated that she forgets about her kids. She's even paying trips to go out of the country, to spend time with her boyfriend. My mother is a single mom, so we don't get a lot of money to go around in the house, but she keeps making these ridiculous purchases and I'm sick of it. But I can't confront because the last time I did she threatened suicide on me, blaming me saying that I'm always negative to her. That's why I never talk to her anymore, the only times when I do talk to her is whenever she tries to talk to me. I'm not saying she's a bad mom, she's not abusive to us and she can pay attention to us when does. All I want is for my mom to start making adjustments in her life, she's a thirty two year old women who acts like someone from my age. So please can someone tell me how to speak to my mom, because I really don't know how to do this anymore.

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 07:57 AM PDT

My mom and stepdad have sex on a weekly basis when they think I'm asleep. It's normally on the weekend during the night but one time back in October I walked in on them in the morning. They don't know I know but they're REALLY loud. My room is next to theirs and my headphone doesn't cancel out the sound. Ugh still can't get the image out of my head.

Question: Daddy Khen Treng doing some weird stuff , hard at work #KHENTRENG2012 #MEANCAMBODIAMEAN?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 07:29 AM PDT

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Question: Don't know what to do!!!?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 07:13 AM PDT

Hi I work away from my kids. They live with my ex when I'm working. They're 15 and 18 soon. I travel back and forth as much as I financially can as I work out of the country. I'm usually with them for 4 days every other week. However they are both really unhappy at their mums as they both have an awful relationship with her. A few years ago things with work weren't good and I got an opportunity to do try else. We discussed it at the time and my kids said I should do it. It meant I would be away but the future would be brighter, as I always tell the kids to look at the bigger picture. My business is doing very well but I work every weekend. I work 10 days solidly and travel back to see them. This is where my problem is. I've always pushed them to do things to keep them occupied, from music lessons to sports. But every weekend their mum just leaves them alone and goes off and does things with her other kids. She remarried and dotes on her other kids but with mine she does nothing. She says "Your Dad's back soon he can take you" The kids even say she's jealous of the life I've made after she left, but she was the one who wanted to break up. I think she takes it out on them. If I do go back I don't get paid. I won't take a paycheck if I'm not there. I've built something but if I don't maintain it, it'll fail. But I hate seeing my kids unhappy. I've told them to go and stay at my house when I'm not there. But do I just pack everything up and move back until my kids are older?

Question: So my family and I are in some finial herd times. Have been for awhile. We have a one year old. We have 1600 $ worth of bills and with a?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 07:12 AM PDT

Kid those keep coming doctors visits and medical bills from the pregnancy, plus my husband's car keeps needing things. Family helps but it's not enough. I try and get a job but keep being unsusseful. Eventually family won't be able to help. We don't know what to do. What can we do ?

Question: How do I deal with this situation with my dad?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 06:59 AM PDT

At my church my dad is a deacon and has been for years. He's in his 70's now and his health is declining. We only have 3 deacons. One has dementia really bad and hardly attends church now and a little more than a week the 3rd deacon passed away. That makes my dad the only active deacon our church has. The pastor has made mention to making me a deacon for years but hasn't done so. Well, my dad was sick a few years ago and the deacon who died never came to visit him at all. My dad seems to still be sore over that and when the family was preparing his funeral he said that he didn't want to be put on the program at all. Saturday at the funeral my dad came in and sat on the back row of the church and wasn't even dressed in a black suit. He didn't even have on a tie. The deacons from other churches in our denomination were there and they all were dressed in black suits and all sat together on the front two rows of the church. That made me really embarrassed by the way he was acting like a spoiled little kid. I told my mom that if he really feels that way then he needs to go ahead and resign as a deacon. With his age it's not going to be too much longer before he dies and I would hope that my friends and family would come support our family at that time but if people stay away because dad is grouchy in his old age then I don't know what I'd do. He's a deacon so at least he should have put on his black suit and played the role despite his feelings. Help!

Question: Drunk sister issues?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 06:56 AM PDT

This is dead serious.. I already have some ways to go about this but I'm open to reading suggestions. My sister is 23 and I'm 20. We are very close and open. We currently both live together as a strategy to be in a better financial position later down the road and it won't be permanent. So basically every Friday night she comes home drunk in a very aroused manner. She recently came out of a intense relationship and I understand that, but she's always gets really wild and starts talking about her fantasies in my company. Again I didn't really care but recently shes been coming more and more onto me and starting to fantasize about us doing explicit things. Not trying to be gross... It's what's happening. It's not only when she's drunk either anymore she's seeing me as something different then a brother now. I'm considering moving out or talking to her about it but I don't want her to feel bad about herself either. I live in Kentucky.

Question: My Mom May Force Me To Live In Her House With Nothing To Live On...Over A Graduation Present?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 06:55 AM PDT

So my mom and I just ended an argument about my graduation present from my teacher. This particular present was a kitten, and my mom hates cats. She told me I had to work for it (which usually never works because it's never enough for her), and so I did. And THEN, she says: "We're not getting the cat, Ali.". Not only does she say that to piss me off, she f*cking calls the teacher who promised me the free kitten, and tells her to not give me the cat! And we enter this heated argument, then she ignores me, then when I finally had enough, I said to her: "I'm getting the cat and there's NOTHING you can do about it!" (YES, I know I sounded like a brat, but mind you I worked really hard, and she decided to bail out on the deal.). And she ended it with a "We'll see about that." (Mind you she has threatened me with forcing me to live with no money, no transportation, no medications (which I have medical needs for), and pretty much nothing except her house. So I think that's what she meant by "We'll see about that.". I'm 18-years-old and unemployed because she forced me into an autism program, and until I get to a certain point, I am forced to remain unemployed.). What am I supposed to do? Any advice?

Question: How can i prove to my brother that i love him?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 06:27 AM PDT

im 15 and my brother is 17. He always does so much for me, he helps me with everything and sometimes even takes all the chores for me when im tired, he always helps me with homeworks and he always hugs and tells me im the best sister ever. But i dont feel like it. He does so much for me but i dont repay him, its just that i cant help him with almost anything, he is very handsome and can do anything alone and i cant help him with homework because its too hard for me.. how can i prove to him that i love him too Thats a great idea Elroy. I have a friend she is 16 and she has a crush on my brother but she told me not to tell him because she is very shy. Maybe i can that :) Also Holly when i said handsome i mean that he is strong and good at everything so he rarely needs my help with anything, because he gets it done himself before i even have a chance to help

Question: Why is my own mother using me?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 06:09 AM PDT

I am one out of 10 kids I am the second youngest child, the youngest daughter of my mother lives with her I am the only one that helps out of all 10 kids. I feel she is using me I am the only one out of all 7 sisters with a great husband that treats me well we've been together 9 years with 1 child. All my sistes have kids by multiple men and their men are bums my little sister has a guy right now using my mom for shelter and he does not pay for ANYTHING not even help with shopping or take out the trash my husband goes over there and takes the trash out for her!!! (more of this story below in comments)

Question: Should I move back home?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 06:07 AM PDT

I moved from another state 2 b with family. I mainly moved for a fresh start. It was definitely a stress reliever, but after 5-6 months it's been HE'LL. My mom is CRAZY obsessed with these 3 cats my brother brought home Smh. And now the whole entire house smells like cats and cat shitnd. It's gross. I'm embarrassing. She doesn't care wat anyone says or wat health issues could occur n my dad doesn't like to argue with here. Smh. My mom favors the hell out of my middle sibling. It's just crazy how **** is here. He steels money from here, does drugs and she's always nice as hell to him, never seems to be upset with him. She's ALWAYS cussing me out for the smallest things. Like my shoes are in the living room. My jackets on the chair. But I feel bad to even think of leaving my youngest brother (who always gets beat up by the middle brother, and my mom never says anything) and little sister (who u just love). My dad fired me (caught him in his lies, was having an affair) I came out here to really finish school, my parents don't help me with anything (after not having a job) I been getting parking tickets LIke crazy because I can't afford a parking permit to park in my own neighborhood. It just seems all bad here Smh. I've only been here for 8 months and I already want to go back. I have a son in my home state and I'm missing time with him. I feel finishing school in the home state will be better. I just want a strangers advice, not criticism. Sorry for the long story

Question: My brother is a drug addict, how do I know when he is lying and when he is being truthful?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 03:31 AM PDT

It is with regards to things like "I can't come, I have to be at a meeting" when we suspect he is just using and doesn't feel like being scolded for it. As for giving money I would never trust him.

Question: Why does my stepson get mad at me for having sex with his mom, my wife?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 03:11 AM PDT

I am 40 years old and newly married, my stepson is 17 and he really hates me. When I am having sex with his mother he gets angry. He walks around slamming doors in my house. I tell her to keep it down but what can I do she is a screamer and have to have sex. After I had sex with her one night I put on my robe to grab a drink. He was standing in the kitchen huffing and puffing. He was posturing like he was going to fight me. He walked into our room without knocking once and seen his mother on her knees going at it. He slammed my bedroom door and blasted his music. This little f uck is about to find himself homeless.

Question: I despise my little brother. His attitude towards me and our workers (maid and driver) when my parents are not around is intolerable.?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 01:59 AM PDT

Moreover I get the blame just by trying to discipline him when my parents are not around busy "making money" When I was his age I would be severely punished for such act. He would punch my driver when he picked him up late, would steal the car's money for his expenses and therefore look very innocent in front of my parents because he "doesn't spend money." My attempt for shutting him up have always backfired as I would be seen as a terrible sister who doesn't care for her brother. But looking at him obese and selfish I am so disgusted that I would not call him a little brother. How do I deal with this? a. Yes, I talked to my parents b. Yes, they "scolded" him c. No, they did not beat him up for this as they would for me. d. Am I adopted?

Question: Will I be a better father than my dad?

Posted: 18 Apr 2016 12:34 AM PDT

My dad hit my mom in front of me when I was 4 and he would hit me too. He was taken away. He would always fight with my mom. Argue. He had drinking problems as well. He went back to live with his sisters instead being with his only son (Me). Now I'm 18 years young, and he still hasn't looked for me.But I don't care. I decided to have a family in my future and be there for my kids. I will have fun with my family and my wife will be my best friend:)

Question: How to persuade parents?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 11:55 PM PDT

How do I persuade my parents to let me go back to public school. As of right now I'm homeschooled and I hate it. I have no one to help me out, no adult to back me up and to help convince them. It really sucks. They think there's bad influences, bad people, and just peer pressure etc there. Yes, that is true but I have values and I would stay firm in them no matter what. They keep on saying no, after I've tried to get them to say yes. What do I do? Please don't tell me, you have to just be homeschooled til your 18. I'm 15, but I want to experience life and socialize with people. I enjoyed school, and seeing friends even though it sucks. Please I need help, because I have no one to help me with this.

Question: Family dislikes me?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 11:34 PM PDT

His mom and sister dislikes me and feels I'm taking her son/brother away from them. We're suppose to wed next month but no one knows but us and my side of the family should I call if off and move on with my life they are blaming me for coming in between them and is making him chose me or them but I haven't done anything intentionally he just loves to spend time with me dispite our busy schedules. I tried to get close but they dont accept me. They have days or week where things are good then they go back to disliking Maybe I'm not cute enough or something idk. I called things off today due to disrespect did I do the right thing? Also everyone else in his family respects me and treats me nice except the mom and 16yr old sister

Question: Is it ok for my mom to borrow money from my boyfriend and try to control the situation about the money being saved for a car?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 11:00 PM PDT

My mom lost her job recently and I lost my car because the battery and alternator failed. I don't have a job yet but I have been applying at different places so my mom had no money to fix it and neither did my boyfriend so I junked it. While the car was working my boyfriend got a job and I was driving him to work on his first day of work my car broke down on the wat there. My mom offered to take him to work until he saves up enough money to get a car in a month. His mom won't help at all getting him to work so we can get across this bridge for a car the problem is since his job is 35 minutes away, my mom all of a sudden needs her car fixed because of the right front wheel wobbling she wants to borrow $200 while we're trying to save money to get the car, she'll pay him back and then another thing she wants is him to give me all of the money or half so she can take the money to get her car fixed and then give me it back when she gets paid. I feel my mom wants to control the situation and I feel bad because it feels like my boyfriend is being used for his $, all were trying to do is save for a car and his mom and my mom are asking for money. My mom and his mom don't communicate or even talk to each other but his mom wants his money for bills that she put in his name and my mom wants to borrow money to get her car fixed and my mom said if he doesn't give her the money then she'll stop taking him to work. Which I feel is cruel when she offered to take him.

Question: What to do with my Aggressive cousin?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 10:58 PM PDT

My cousin takes mma and beats me whenever he is bored,he uses his holds and grapples against me,I started taking martial arts just to defend myself,but my cousin is a higher belt than me,his parents do nothing to stop him,whenever I try defending myself,he easily blocks it and puts me on a hold,I tried telling him to stop,but he continues grappling me,I come to the point where I need Yahoo answers,any help will get all stars,this is really annoying me,whenever he visits me.

Question: Why is he like this and how can I handle him better?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 10:51 PM PDT

Hello. I am a twenty-five year old male, with a twenty-three year old boyfriend (Yes, we are homosexual). We have been together for three years now, after an accidental interaction with each other. I wouldn't say our relationship is necessarily the greatest, but we make do and seem to be mutually accepting of one another. My issues when it comes down to it, is he can be extremely feisty, almost childish when he wants to be. He desires to fight over every little issue and has a tendency to slap, pull hair, or even bite when irritated or irate. During sexual intercourse, he is always fussy with how I handle him and to what extent of movements I make on him. He desires pain and harsh natured intimacy, which I refuse to give to him and it usually results in him being forceful in his wants. He can go from being content, to being angered in less than a few seconds. For instance, last night he asked me to cuddle with him in bed and two minutes later was slapping my chest and telling me to stay away from him. He was abused as a child, physically, verbally, and sexually; having a difficult time in showing his emotions and tends to have misplaced aggression or anger. I do love him with all of my soul and he is the very beauty of my world, but his mood swings and his behavior can be something obsessive and often times sudden. I need help in understanding why he is like this and while I have no interest in changing him, I do need help in learning how to manage his mood swings. Help?

Question: Why is my mom always mad at me?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 09:56 PM PDT

So my mom would always get mad at me if I question her on something i dont know or have problems with. I grew up not telling anyone about my problems and just trying to figure them out myself. When we moved to my parents home country I didnt understand their language so I kept quiet. Since I was the only one who spoke english I got bullied and stuff for years but I never told my parents cause my big sister ran away a bunch of times and my little brother was still a baby. We moved back here in California I was so happy but I got used to being anti social so my mom gets mad at me. When I go home from school (my high school has a college campus. My classes are far apart too) and I'm really tired and lay down on my bed. She tells me shes tired and I'm useless, clumsy, an idiot, lazy, and why arent I the top 1 in all my classes (I have straight a's).(she doesnt have a job) I do chores, babysit and never get the time to do homework or study (I do them at school) but I dont get allowance. When I ask my parents if I could buy new clothes or stuff (I'm taller than her and my sister. She gave me my sister's old clothes) she says no but if it's my brother she buys him everything. And she buys new clothes only for HER. My dad gave me a phone cause he said I'm responsible enough but she keeps disaproving. My aunt,grandma, and sister told her that I should have one so I happily kept it. Now we are moving back to their country and I REALLY dont want to but I have to. What do I do?

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Posted: 17 Apr 2016 09:37 PM PDT

Question: I want to sleep with my mom?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 09:20 PM PDT

ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS DROM TOLERANT PEOPLE PLEASE I'm 18 and my moms 46. I want to start a long term relationship with her. She is divorced and can no longer have kids. Any tips on how to start the relationship, and how to keep it good.

Question: Why do people complain way to much?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 09:17 PM PDT

well my mom complains about the stuff my brother does my brother does the same thing about her my boyfriend complains about life my friend complains about her ex... but if I complain I remember one day my mom said I am tored of hearing you complain and that was the only time I ever did! because I know complaining doesn't help but if I do at all oh no!

Question: Would you for two weeks? Family Advice for moms?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 09:08 PM PDT

Mothers, would you let your 1 year old go stay with your mom for two weeks in another state? You left his dad and his dad told you that he is in your custody and you need to take care of him as I will not help you by taking him 2 days a week as agreed. Now you have to find a daycare and just get over the break up while working a job and going to school for your degree. I just feel guilty because he is so young and I have never been away from him for more than 2 days. I trust he is in good hands, but my emotions are whats holding me back. Would you all? Additionally, he was used to seeing his dad every day and now he has not in a week. Would he feel that I left him too?

Question: NEED to stay home? What can I do besides faking SICKNESS?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:54 PM PDT

I need to catch up on work and I know it is annoying to ask questions like these but please help;( I can't go tomorrow because then I have to deal with a certain teacher.. I know that I need to learn to deal with it for when I'm an adult but I never do this kind on stuff ever and I just need tomorrow. I can't tell my parents this because I was just absent for 3 days on vacation so i literally can't miss again. I know people will say to explain it to them but TRUST me they will not listen. so how can i stay home besides faking sickness because I was just sick last week too (for real though) and if I was again it'd be suspicious ok.. well no one has given me better answers all the times I've asked this. thanks if you talked about being sick but can't do that;( I was just sick (for real) last week and if I was again it would be suspicious. anyways.. now i'm just thinking I should slip on water and hurt myself

Question: Mom keeps eating my food when I sleep?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:53 PM PDT

My dad sister and I went to Costco and we spend nearly 500$ on food because my mom is too lazy to go to the grocery store on a regular basis so therefore we never have any food in the house for school lunches and I can't eat school food it's nasty! So when we were at the check out line my dad said to me personally "don't eat all of this in 3 days" and I got so pissed I could've broken his jaw right there because I a, not the one who shoves food down my throat! My sister stocks up on everything and eats in the basement and doesn't throw away wrappers and my dad finds them he thinks it was me and when he finds out its my sister he's like oh ok whatever. If she takes a box of goldfish to her room he doesn't care but if I try to eat one snack he screams. My mom binge eats at night when we are supposed to be sleeping. We buy all this food for the two to eat it. My mom used to be in shape but she started this way of life where she over eats and eats everything and just eats more and more and complains about how she ate so much. My dad gets mad ME when all the food is missing and it's normally my moms fault only. I'm serious she got really fat because she eats so much. I have no food for lunch and I get blamed for it. Even my mom says I shouldn't have eaten it all in one day. I cant even sleep because I get too angry. What the hell do I do?

Question: Is my son gay?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:42 PM PDT

I'm 32 and divorced. The other day my son invited his best friend over to play call of duty. I peeked in his room and saw him making out with his best friend. Later I peeked in again and saw his best friend ******* him in his *** and they were completely naked. Since I'm divorced and my speed is pretty much dead I had hoped that my son would carry on our family with his son and wife, but now I feel disappointed. I'm crying.

Question: What does 9ET/6PT MEAN?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:40 PM PDT

i need to know cuz beyonce cumin on and i dont wanna be late

Question: I can't stand my mom Advice?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:39 PM PDT

My mom is so fake.All she does is scream at me like I am a dog and talk about me to her friends I am living with her in my house that my dad left me because I am not going to be mean and kick her out. She is always rubbing it in my face all of my defeats and mistakes that I have made in life.She is mad because she has worked hard to put me through schools and get me jobs and I was never able to keep them because they were never what I wanted to do.She never cared about my ideas or the things that I wanted to do because she said that they were foolish and that I needed to be more like her.She is the type of mother that comes into my room and throws all of my valuable cherishable things away because she see's everything as junk. She never listens to me because she claims that everything I tell her is not important or is boring to her and I do not like that at all because I have to listen to all of her bad stories.She even had her girl friends come into my room 4am to talk to me about what a bad daughter I am and how I need to stop harassing my mom and causing her stress and my mom was just sitting there (pretend) crying like I really did something to her and then when they left she screams at me.She has called the police on me trying to have me kicked out of my house because she said that I was harassing her and trying to poison her in her food that I was cooking it's just too much.I can't do this anymore Advice?

Question: I caught my son having s'x in the shower?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:32 PM PDT

My son is 16. He invited his best friend over to play Xbox earlier and I left to go pick up dinner. I got back to the house about an hour later and he and his friend were nowhere to be found except I heard the shower that's in the bathroom next to my bedroom running and I peeked in and saw him ******* his friend in the ***. I'm not sure if I should ground him or not. Or should I just ignore it

Question: My dad has a new daughter/son (Newborn baby) and I'm usually the only baby girl! What to do?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:30 PM PDT

Okay so let me explain this. I'm turning 13 in 4 more months and today I paid my dad a visit. He had 3 kids. 2 of his kids are older than me (Let's say...16...or 17?) But anyway, he told me that this him and this woman is going to have a DNA test of HER baby. She claims that HER baby is my baby but I'm usually Daddy's little girl and if this baby is my dad's then I will get upset because I will feel left out and my dad really loves me. I don't know what to do. Should I stop talking to my dad or talk to him about it?

Question: Why can't my parents understand my arachnophobia?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:29 PM PDT

I have been scared of spiders since I was born. Right when I see one I start shaking and sweating. If they r small I can kill them( which takes 30 min to do) if they r big I literally can't even in the same room. Even after I kill them I can't stay in the room. My room in the whole entire house is usually the most spider prone. I mostly make my dad kill them but now he just calls me a baby and won't my mom gets mad and thinks I'm immature. I understand my room int the cleanest and spiders like dirty rooms but I'm a teenager what do u expect. Just tonight I had to kill a spider because my dad said now and my mo said no and my sister was taking a shower. It took me about 39 min to have the guts to walk in my room. It was on the floor which made it worse. Took me 5 min to have the courage to walk up to it. That was when I started crying. My dad then started calling me a baby and my mom started yelling which didn't make things any better finally after 5 more minutes I killed it. Now my phone is taken away because my room is a mess and how I over reacted. This is the usual weekend for me. I don't understand how they don't see how bad my phobia is. I've seen worse cases of arachnophobia but I would say mine is small. I just need advice thank you

Question: My mom implied that she thinks i don't care about her?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:27 PM PDT

my mom had just come home, bringing back takeout for dinner & i happened to be in the kitchen when she walked in, doing homework. i don't know who started the conversation, but my mom said something like "at least the dog cares when i walk through the door." this made me feel really guilty and upset. why would she think that i don't care about her? of course i do: she's my mother. i have a little sister that is very, very close with my mother... maybe that's why? please give me advice, thank you.

Question: Finding a job for my dad?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:22 PM PDT

Hey, I'm 14 years old. We are having a lot of problems at home, there are a lot of bills to pay, food is expensive and with the extra curricular things that my sister and I do (dance and track and field) we don't have a lot of money. Money has been getting really tight, so my dad is considering going back to work. He is 64, and ha really bad arthritis and is a very shy and sensitive person. My mom does't think he can take the demands of something like a fast food restaurant. What are some good jobs that he might be able to get in the Portland (Oregon) area??

Question: How do I make my relationship with my mom better?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:17 PM PDT

Long story, short.. So over a year ago, my dad left my mom because of his own issues with her and his life. He got a new gf pretty quick and at first my mom and I were angry with him. I decided to forgive him and now I really love going to his house. My mom is a really negative person. She's very pessimistic about EVERYTHING. I'm all about the positive vibes, hippy kind of life. I love my life. I get along well with everyone except my mom. Whenever she comes around, she kills my vibe, so I automatically shut her out. She does so much good for me, but every time she comes around I get in a pissed off mood and I'm really mean to her. We fight all the time and rarely talk. I don't like it. How do I be more positive when she talks to me and how can I fix our relationship? I really just want my mom back. I miss laughing and hanging out with her. It breaks my heart that we can't get along. It's so hard for me though, to just be nice to her. It feels weird.

Question: My cousin ran away and I don't know if I'm doing the right thing?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:10 PM PDT

(Im 12 and my cousin is 15) My cousin got in a big fight with my aunt but this time it was way worse than it's ever been. My aunt gave my cousin a option to leave so my cousin left. I understand why cause my cousin watches her 4 younger siblings after school with no recognition for it, is emotionally abused constantly, and still try's to be nice to my aunt. Their house is a mess and nasty and my aunt doesn't do anything,only my cousin does. My cousin left but my aunt told the police she ran away. She's staying with us but I don't know if we're doing the right thing. The police are looking for my cousin but they don't know she with us and my mom offered my aunt to take temporary guardianship if my aunt didn't want her but my aunt kept refuseing. Are we doing the right thing letting my cousin decidd if she wants to stay or not?

Question: How do I solve this?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:08 PM PDT

I'm 34, my son is 15. The other day he asked if he could give me head. From there it just escalated to where he asked me if I would **** him(Altough I did make out with him). I should also note that his eyes were pretty much bloodshot and he smelled awful. I don't know if I should let him have sex with me or not.

Question: Is it favoritism?

Posted: 17 Apr 2016 08:06 PM PDT

Well I'll explain a bit, is was a petty stuff but it kinda bothers me, so my brother is a cheapass and whenever I buy soda he always drinks it and he never buys anything this has gone on for 9 years I've confroted him about it a lot of times about it and even told my parents and they "warned" him several times but there was never real action taken, same happened before a couple of times when he stole money from me, all he had to do is deny and deny and they "warned" him, a couple of days ago I warned him that if he took from my soda again I'd take the internet away from him for the rest of the day, and yesterday it happened so I did what I said, he made a fuss got angry and once again my parents "warned" him and they asked to give him the internet back, I refused, it was a matter of principles and I wasn't going to back down so in the end they ended up mad at me and punished me which isn't the first time that has happened, everytime I try to take a stand for myself against him he just gets angry makes a fuss and I end up with the trouble. Am I the one wrong here?