Family: Question: I want to build a computer but i dont have any money or a job. i live off my parents and they wont fund it. all i want is like $100 too $500?

Question: I want to build a computer but i dont have any money or a job. i live off my parents and they wont fund it. all i want is like $100 too $500?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:56 PM PDT

It wont be the best pc but it will work anyway i'm not asking for you to pay just to find out how to get money for this. I also have already checked kick starter but i don't think they just fund that kind of stuff. BTW i'm 13 thats why i have no job and live with my parents. Thanks :]

Question: I try but i just cant be nice to my parents?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:53 PM PDT

Im 16 and I really wanna have a nice and normal attitude,i wanna smile and talk to them like normal people would, but whenever they (especially my mom) say something to me ,i always get sooo angry and annoyed by them and i just yell at them or i just answer really shortly and angrily. I cant help myself ,i always get so annoyed and they are not doing anything wrong.. My mom is always asking me whats wrong because i never smile when im with them and we always end up arguing.i get so mad over the most stupid things and i cant control myself when im angry i just wanna scream and cry and die. Im so tired of being like this and i hate myself for it please help me at least pretend to be happy and nice around them...

Question: Can she get in trouble?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:52 PM PDT

I have a younger sister who told me something today and I want to see what other people think. So my sister is 16 and she made a bad mistake. She was in Walgreen s last month, and she saw makeup that she really wanted. She said she didn t have the money to buy it, so she took 3 things and went into the bathroom and took them out of the packaging and into her purse. Well then she said that when she got out, workers were looking at her from the register and she heard on the intercom "Barbra call 911 now." She said she freaked out when she heard that and took everything out of her purse and put it on a shelf and calmly walked out of the store. Nobody stopped her or anything, but she s terrified to go back in the store. The only thing is, we live far our away from stores, and that walgreens is really the only thing out here that we go to a lot so she might eventually go back. If she goes back, can they call the cops? All answers are welcomed :)

Question: My mother hates me?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:49 PM PDT

My mom calls me fat, pathetic, worthless, stupid, a bad daughter, a bad influence, everything you can think of that will mentally destroy a person. This happens everyday, every god damn day. Just an example out of the many thousands, my cousin's wedding is coming up in a few months. My mom keeps screaming at me to diet and lose weight. She thinks I'm so fat, that it even embarrasses her to be near me. No, I'm not like all the skinny girls, no I'm the prettiest person. I think I'm okay, 17 years old, 5'3", 143 lbs. She's even asked my doctor about my weight and they say that I'm just fine and healthy and I should just maintain it, which I have. Regardless, she does not listen. She always finds something to criticize. I feel so pathetic and ugly. I'm depressed all the time and I just wanna cease to exist. I feel miserable everyday. How can someone do that? I have no confidence in myself. Nothing. I have nothing. Today I requested that I wanna get my hair cut short because it's getting long and it's too much to manage since it is very thick. She starts screaming at me saying short hair is ugly and that I look even uglier in it and very childish. She brings up the wedding again and how I need to have long hair to even look decent. Then she goes on ranting about how my siblings have become like me and are starting to talk back like I do. "Sitting down and talking with her" isn't gonna do jack. I wanna get into college, go to med school, get a job, and cut all ties.

Question: Should I tell him I'm leaving him and moving out of state with our kids? Or just tell him after we're gone?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:44 PM PDT

Yes, I asked a lawyer, and he says in my circumstances, I could do that. It's not recommended, however, if I told him 30 days before I go, I'd have to live with him (and his mom) for 30 whole days before leaving. That would be hell. I've tried to leave a few times but guilt always brought me back. But I am done, I just can't do it anymore. He's angry and unreasonable. His mother, who we live with, agrees with him on everything, especially if it means she gets to "put it to me." I am hated, and I have given up everything for him. I don't want my kids to think this is how a family should be, or how mommy should be treated. However, is it better for my kids to tell him the day of? That would likely mean witnessing a terrible argument, but at least they could say good-bye and know that we aren't living here anymore. Some closure. If the kids wouldn't see that ugliness I would definitely let everyone know before we go, first. I know, some people will just see this as an evil woman stealing her kids. I'm not. Even though I think he's awful, and not even a good role model, I still want him to be able to see his kids. But leaving here and moving to where my family is would give me a place to stay until I support myself. Which definitely wont take me as long as it is taking my bf, who is 10 years older than me, and has still never left mommy's house.

Question: Grandma passed away?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:05 PM PDT

Hi all, My dear Grandma passed away, 6 day ago. Can anyone explain for journey to me.

Question: My brother got really fat, what do I do?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:04 PM PDT

My brother has piled on a ton of weight lately. Our whole family is fat so, it's not like was unexpected...but... I mean my mom is over 200lbs, my dad is 300lbs, my older brother is like 240lbs, I'm 17, play high school football and I'm 350lbs. But my 12 year old brother was really skinny until just before he turned 11. We used to joke he was adopted. But all of a sudden he started eating like nonstop and went from 110lbs at age 11 to just over 200lbs now that he's 12. He doesn't care and neither does the rest of my family. What do I do? He seemed like he was the only one that was going to make it out without becoming fat as s---. I'm the only one that cares. What do I do?

Question: How would a girl feel if a guy text her when he is emotional unstable?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:51 AM PDT

So hello guys, i was listenning to Drake and it make me feel really emotional so i text this girl "we never talked but to me, you are really special. That drake song makes me think about you. Sorry if this tweet is weird." How would she feel? She didnt reply to the tweet but she favorite it

Question: I'm so afraid I don't know as much as other kids or people do?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:33 AM PDT

OK. I posted about this a few weeks ago. I was taught at home until last year. Now I've been meeting different people in school, and I found out so many things. My family is REALLY traditional so I believed them about so much stuff. But now...I have friends from divorced homes that are happy. People date young and don't get pregnant. Lots of divorced dads still support their kids a lot, and want to be with them...Some of them are so active with their kids it's unreal, but all I've ever heard is that the didn't stay with their family and that they're evil. I didn't even know about different divorce schedules or that the kids don't care as much as I thought they would. That the kids from those homes could be so normal and not damaged. More normal than me. The kids do have some habits I don't like but almost no one bullies and everyone is pretty nice. I feel like everyone else is already used to all of these ideas and I'm just finding out now. How can I ever catch up? How do I know, what else I missed out on, when I didn't know I was missing anything in the first place I already missed years of bfs, and sex...how can I fix any gaps that I have in my mind or life from not having those relationships or experiences? That even middle school kids have had? I just entered highschool. I don't have much time left to find stuff out! My parents met all of these people too, so why did they lie to me when they knew they weren't telling me the truth? I just don't get it. @Rosalie thank you!!! I'm happy I'm not the only naive one xD Your answer really helped.

Question: I try but i just cant be nice to my parents?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:30 AM PDT

Im 16 and I really wanna have a nice and normal attitude,i wanna smile and talk to them like normal people would, but whenever they (especially my mom) say something to me ,i always get sooo angry and annoyed by them and i just yell at them or i just answer really shortly and angrily. I cant help myself ,i always get so annoyed and they are not doing anything wrong.. My mom is always asking me whats wrong because i never smile when im with them and we always end up arguing.i get so mad over the most stupid things and i cant control myself when im angry i just wanna scream and cry and die. Im so tired of being like this and i hate myself for it please help me at least pretend to be happy and nice around them...

Question: Why does my 16 year old sister wear a white t-shirt with no bra around the house when mom and dad go to work?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:20 AM PDT

I'm her older brother and she doesn't do that when they are home.

Question: My dad won't accept my apology?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:20 AM PDT

So I had a really bad day at school today, and by the time I got home I was in a really bad mood. As soon as I get through the door, I sit down and pick up my earphones to listen to music. My dad tells me rather sharply to take off my earphones, so I sigh and rip them out. He tells me this is why he yells at me all the time because I do things like that. I say "okay" and he says "can we please just talk now" and I said "yes, I said okay". He then proceeds to say that because of the way I acted I have to study all night (on a Friday) until bedtime, and I agree reluctantly. At dinner, I'm feeling kind of crap about the whole thing so I apologise (not to get out of my punishment, because I genuinely feel bad). I tell him I had a rough day but that I knew it wasn't any excuse. He doesn't reply for a while, and eventually says it was no excuse. I agree, and he refuses to talk to me all e evening. My mum asks us to talk it out but he refuses. I know I messed up, but why is he so angry? What can I do to let him know I truly am sorry?

Question: Beauty is in eye of beholder? Ive dealt with people who called me pretty and ugly?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:16 AM PDT

One time in Lebanon, I was at a convention . There were hundred of girls and boys there, and I went to a stand advertising Building and Architecture. One of the guys (an engineer) saw me and his mouth went a gape and he turned red. Later, his sister came over and asked my mom if I was single and engaged. The dude wanted to see if I was marriage material. Another time, there was a guy (I live and learn in America) in my class that said to another guy " I like (my name)", and the guy said "What she is UGLY!!". There were a couple of guys interested in me and some girls jealous of my looks, but then there are some people that pay me no heed.

Question: I saw my mom kissing someone else! what should I do?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:11 AM PDT

so my mom got engaged to a new guy after she and my dad broke up, but we live in Canada and he lives in the USA so we were going to move down there. its been a couple months since I have seen him but I really like having him as my stepdad. anyway just last night my moms boss came over and he was here for like 3 hours. and my room and my moms room is upstairs and I have a little hole in my floor from when we ripped out the old heating vent and the hole is only the size of like 4 quarters and it can see right at the front door. so last night when my moms boss was leaving I saw her and him kiss and honesty it made me feel sick, I think I might ask my real dad if I can stay with him. but should I confront m mom? should I tell my step dad what I saw? or should just I let it go?

Question: Moving out at 18 with someone your parents don t approve of?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 11:04 AM PDT

Long story short, I m currently 17 and my boyfriend is older by only 4 years. My parents don t approve of the relationship, but once I turn 18 we were planning on moving in together- yes, I have a job and have been saving, budgeting, I m taking care of everything I need before I make this decision. This is final, so I don t need advice about whether this is a "good choice" or not. I am going to finish high school completely even if I leave home before graduation. tldr; those are the details, but this is my question- how can I break the news about moving to my parents? In the state I live in, 18 is the age of majority like most and my parents legally could not stop me from moving, but I want to make the transition smooth and successful, especially if I already am responsible for everything in my life as an adult, such as finances, etc. Any advice? I appreciate criticism, but only if it s constructive.

Question: Isn't it weird for a girl in high school to still call her parents "mommy and daddy"?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 10:55 AM PDT

There is this one girl who's a senior, 17 years old, and she has a bubbly personality but i mean she's cute,her personality is cute but i think she thinks she's still a little girl because she literally acts like one around her parents. I mean she's calm around her friends but around her parents she starts acting all excited and laughing at the smallest things and calling them mommy or daddy. Wtf lol

Question: My classmates make me feel embarrased that my family is Japanese?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 10:24 AM PDT

We are talking about how the Japanese immigrated here and were hated by many Americans and treated unfairly. There are two rude boys in my class who make fun of me because i have Japanese ancestry. I don't look Japanese but my last name is Minamoto and they decided to call me skinny Minamoto girl and make fun of my last name as well.. I didn't CHOOSE to have Japanese ancestor and i didn't choose my family so it's not really fair..

Question: My mom said I look like a baby deer?!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 10:22 AM PDT

Question: Mom doesn't approve of daughter's boyfriend, daughter chooses boyfriend, how to reconcile?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 10:17 AM PDT

I'm the "brother" in this whole mess. My sister is ruining her relationship with my mom, because my mom won't tolerate her boyfriend. The reason for this is that my sister keeps complaining about him to our mom and my mom's convinced that her daughter is wasting time with this guy. Also, my sister doesn't give a sh''t and doesn't want to fix things with our mom. My mom has already said that she has no daughter anymore. How to clean up this mess?

Question: What's a easy labor job my dad can do ?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 10:02 AM PDT

My dad has remodeled houses almost all his life and now he's almost 60 with a torn rotator cuff and still remodeling homes. I just don't want him to break down already! He has done heavy labor jobs 5 days a week all of his life. Please help if you can!

Question: My mother would not allow my older sister to invite our Dad to her high school graduation, when I graduate in two years how can I?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:45 AM PDT

Since I am closer to him I want to invite him but my mother I know will tell me not to dare or will contact him and say "you are not welcome" and she will host a reception likely so will bar him from her house. She is mad about their divorce 8 years ago but I don't feel I should be punished. So my question is when I graduate (a year from now) how can I be able to ask my Dad and his family when my mother is going to bar me from having him like she did to my older sister? She tells us she is protecting us from our step-mother's critical ways but I think my mother is just mad at him and using us. @Rebecca----Amen to that !!

Question: Mom threatening to not come to son's bd party if in laws there?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:44 AM PDT

My mom is in her late 60s. She is an incredibly hateful, stubborn, selfish, and unstable person at times. Of course, she blames it all on my husband, myself, or kids and says we are all the culprits. She called my mother in law an "idiot" via text and makes fun of her on a regular basis. My husband has had his fill of it and I mentioned to my grandma. She said that my mom told her that she will not come to the party "If Jim's parents are there". My husband's parents are not his biological grandparents, but he likes them just the same. Everyone gets along and my in laws are not trying to fight with my mom, she has simply chosen to make this about her dislike for them and has chosen not to attend or to "act a fool" if they show up. What exactly can I do? Of course when we call her out on her behavior her answer is always "I learned it from YOU!" which she said to me as a child when I asked her why she was mean to me or made fun of me.

Question: My mom never takes me anywhere!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:32 AM PDT

I am 14 years old and my mom never wants to take me and my sister anywhere! Before you say "You're 14 you're perfectly capable of going places on your own" no, you don't understand how strict my parents are. My dad works a lot so I can't ask him to take me places, so I have to ask my mom and that conversation usually ends in her telling me no. I have been home this whole spring break and I am always locked up in the house and I'm sick of it!!! What do I tell my parents? I just can't stay at home 24.7 anymore I'm so bored of it.

Question: Is it normal that I feel ignored in my relationship?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:20 AM PDT

My boyfriend invited me to his moms house to meet his family however when they arrived he failed to introduce me to any of them and I had to introduce myself or his sister did it for him.During dinner he sat next to me but his entire attention was on his 6 year old child during the whole meal. Also he kept bragging about what his cousin did for a living several times and how great his cousin is with his son and how much his son likes this person yet failed to introduce me to this person and they never spoke nor acknowledged me at all. Also his son is disrespectful towards me sometimes and does not listen. His six year old son expects his dad to do everything for him and demands his dad for more food, never says please or thank you and is constantly putting photos on his Facebook page of his son and telling his son he is special. His son throws tantrums a lot an does not listen nor respect boundaries with adults. Meanwhile I am there and my boyfriend seems very bored with me. Is it normal I feel ignored/neglected my relationship?

Question: I hate my mother in law!!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:15 AM PDT

We ve had our differences but I never argued or said anytg to her. I keep everything inside and I let my husband handle her when she goes crazy. and when he does I hear the conversation and i ve heard her say some nasty things about me, very insulting. Every argument or fight she has with my husband is about me. Always the same thing "i don t call her". I m the type of person who doesn t call all the time but i do keep in touch with people. She is not satisfied with it. So i tried to change that by making an effort to call her more but she always find something to say about it (she thinks her son forces me to call her which is not true and i find it offensive) or Sometimes she would not pick up like i m annoying her or somethg but i dont make a big deal out of it. I just stop calling her until she reaches back which she never does and then she goes to my dh to fight about it that i don t call. Now i have decided to ignore her and her complaints. But i resent her for the nasty things she said about me and everytime he mentions her i get so angry and i hate her more. I feel so bad because my husband is so good to me but i just hate his mother so much especially now that I m pregnant. I have never had this kind of hatred toward anyone. I get along easily with people. My mil is the only person i just can t stand. I don t know what to do. Is it the pregnancy hormones? What can i do for these feelings to go away? I need advice on how to let go. I m praying like everyday for Lord to help me with these feelings. Ps: my husband doesn t know how i really feel about her.

Question: Since yahoo has letters limit,i m going to write my problem below.?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:15 AM PDT

Me and my parents are having money s problem. My dad works in a factory of shoes and he gets about 1,100€ a month and my mom doesn t work anymore because sadly she s having many problems about her health.. So there s only my dad working in the family but sadly they need to pay bills,which there are many of them. I ve been worried about this having less money everyday and I m only 15,failing in school because it seems i don t care anymore..i wanna get a job but I m only 15. Any advice? Please?

Question: How do i get custody?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:14 AM PDT

PLEASE NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS. My son is 10 months old. Me and his father have joint legal and physical custody. We just got it about 4 months ago. Which i wanted to go for full custody because his father is very irresponsible and hes been abusive to me in the past. Which i should have brought it up in court but im stupid and i didnt lol. So, i know i cant bring it up now. His father gets him every other weekend and on the alternating weekend he gets him on Sunday-Tuesday. Well, this last weekend he never came to get him. He said he was busy doing other things. Then that following Sunday he didnt come either. Now, is this going to be enough for me to get custody? I still want my son to see his father but i dont feel he should have custody when he wants to go party instead as he said.

Question: My parents decided this week to get a divorce after 15 years of marriage.?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:13 AM PDT

I m away at college, but my siblings are taking it really hard. Everything is a complete mess. I want to go home this weekend, but I work and I don t know how to call in? It isn t necessarily a family emergency, but it s a pretty serious family issue. How do I explain this to them?

Question: Mom demanded my child on Mother s Day, acceptable or not?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:10 AM PDT

My mom adopted me as a child and has been very possessive of my son and myself for years. My son s biological paternal grandmother wanted to see him briefly on MD but ended up getting called into work and could not see him. My mom automatically said "that is ok, he can just come with granny and I on Mother s Day!" I told her absolutely not and she could not understand why he was allowed to see his biological grandmother for a short visit and not spend the entire holiday with her. Am I wrong to disallow her to hijack my MD and take my child? I think she also expects him and my other 2 children to give her MD gifts on MD. Do they have to give grandma's anything?

Question: Why does my daughter and law seem to bring up loaded arguments regarding any mistake I have made regarding bringing up my Son?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:08 AM PDT

Is she trying to piss me off? She posted via FB paper written by a judge about parents who divorce and who hate each other. Much like my divorce. I am 10,00 miles away from them and she does this. Kind of obvious. Oh boy, my Son and I used to be close,wow. And she is having a baby soon

Question: I NEED SOME ANSWERS! I FOUND CONDOMS IN MY DAD S BEDROOM!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 09:05 AM PDT

Okay so today I was inspired to do a musical.ly video. And i did it in my dad s room because his room had good lighting. Then when I grabbed a box of perfume (it was his) behind it showed a box of durex condoms. You may wonder why i hadnt been caught its because my dad was on duty and my mom is working abroad. And in the box were only 2 condoms left. IS MY DAD CHEATING ON MY MOM OR WHAT!?!?! Holy **** im so nervous. Should i tell my mom or pretend i never saw it?

Question: So im graduating tomorrow, and i dont want my in laws there?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:54 AM PDT

I live with my in laws, and they are bullies and try to take control of my life. I have a daughter and my MIL tries to play the mom and tell me how i should raise my daughter. They even told me that i wasnt doing enough, but getting a degree is a big deal for me because i have been through a lot in my life. Is it okay that i not invite them? It would just be very uncomfortable for me and this is day i want to celebrate me.

Question: Since my mother tells me my father does not want to be in my life how do I know if she is telling the truth or not?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:52 AM PDT

Question: Scared about losing my older brother?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:49 AM PDT

I'm 21 and my brother is 34. We actually didn't grow up together because he went to boarding school for most of my early childhood. I once went more than 5 years without ever hearing from him because he believed he was a bad influence on my little brother and I when he was in his early 20s. Anyway, now he's married and very successful but I still don't see or speak to him that often. He lives states away and won't visit because of issues with my parents, but if we talk on the phone we talk for hours. He and his wife are trying for a baby sometime soon and I'm afraid I'll never hear from him again. He loves his wife *a lot.* She's like his world. I'm afraid they'll have the baby and won't bother with me or my younger brother anymore. How am I supposed to stay in touch and be a good aunt from so far away? I still live with my parents and my brother won't go near them, so I feel like I'll be kept away from the baby as my mom tries to get closer to them. Has this happened to anyone else?

Question: Legal? Fair? Typical?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:33 AM PDT

I'm 15. I recently, at my request, moved to Mississippi to live with my dad and stepmom because my biological mom has drug problems and has been a very inconsistent mom (to say the least). I love her, but my dad and stepmom have always been there for me. and I needed stability. Before I made the decision to move here, my dad and stepmom warned me that they still believed in spanking as a last resort even at my age. I was kind of shocked, but really wanted to move in here, and (since I rarely get in any trouble) wasn't all that concerned. We have no school today (teacher work day) and this morning I got in big trouble for something that I, in all fairness, deserved to be in trouble for. But I was still flabbergasted when dad had my stepmom take me out back and bust my behind. She didn't leave any bruises or "hurt" me or anything like that, but she did light me up something good and the pain was/is very intense. I'm just kind of shocked. I know that they love me, I'm NOT looking to turn them in or get them in any trouble (regardless of the answer to this question), but this is so far from my cultural norms that I have to ask, are they even legally allowed to do this? Is it fair at all? I just never really saw this happening at my age, and it all went down so suddenly.... Is this legal? Common? Fair? Typical? I lied about where I was going, and yes it is a 2nd offense (I got grounded the 1st time), and lying is their #1 rule (understandably). I'm usually very honest but I was really stupid this time. The lie was about where Id been. I said I went to a friends house but I really went to a different friend's house to swim alone. I had permission (from the friend) to use the pool, but I knew my stepmom wouldn't let me swim alone and couldn't go with me today, so I went by myself and made up a cover

Question: You ever have protective big brothers like I do?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:14 AM PDT

I am a guy and i am the youngest in my family and I don't need anyone to protect me but they feel like they need to. I am not a troll and anyway my brothers are really protective. For example I started dating and when I do date my brothers make sure that I don't turn into a player like them even though I want to be a player. Then what makes matters worse is that I want to have sex and they won't let me even though they all screw as many girls as they want. However they are not bad because they are always there for me when I need them and they always protect me and I am the only one they ever spoil. For example they take me to six flags all the time and they always give me rides even though I am old enough to drive. They also stop me from doing something stupid. My brothers are not bad its just the only time they are annoying is when it comes to dating. Are your brothers like mine?

Question: How to convince parents to let me hang out with my friend?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:10 AM PDT

My Dad doesnt like my best friend and he never has, but just recently he forbid us from hanging out and talking (we still talk and he knows that and doesnt want me to, but doesnt really go out of his way to stop us from talking) He says shes a bad influence on me and says he gets a bad feeling about her a doesnt know why and cant explain it. Which in my opinion, isn't a good enough reason to forbid us from hanging out. I have know her for a bit and nothing bad has happened. Is there anyway i can convince my dad to let us hang out? and show him shes not bad person? Also, ive gotten many different opinions on this from other people in my life and they all agree that my dad is overreacting and not using his logic, but instead using his emotions (my therapist said that) any tips?

Question: Any ideas how to make my parents anniversary special for my father who is staying away from us for the time being?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:10 AM PDT

It s my parents anniversary tomorrow.I have already ordered a cake for my mom. But the problem is that my father is abroad. Therefore he is not with us for the time being. He is staying alone there while we three(my mom, sis and I) are together.I want to make him feel special on this day. So what can i do to make his anniversary special for him while he s away?Any ideas?

Question: My Mom wont talk to me if I move out with my Boyfriend? Help?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:07 AM PDT

We currently live with my mother until we can get on our feet. Things got rocky the other day and we discussed moving back to his moms in new york from utah until we get on our feet. My mother told me it was disrespectful to leave and she thought I was better than that and wont let me take my dog if I go. She told me once Im gone if I stay with his family I'm dead to her. My problem is I love my Mom, I also really love my boyfriend. In an ideal world I would like to have my dog, live with my boyfriend and have my mom in my life. I dont know what I can do to make this happen... help me please. I dont know if this information matters but I am and only child with a single parent all my life its been just me and her. I think shes scared.

Question: Stay with my Dad for a couple weeks?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:01 AM PDT

My mom does hard drugs. Hard. And she s abusive in every way. Verbally, physically and emotionally. Right now she s going through withdrawal and the only thing I can describe her as is Feral. She doesn t look like my mom. Her face is sunken, she s flushed and vile. I want to go stay with my Dad for a couple weeks. He lives a few states away. I have a plane ticket for this weekend and am going either way. She says she ll file kidnapping charges. I m almost 18, and do online classes so it s not like I ll be missing school. He gets summer and for the past six years she hasn t let me go. She says she ll file charges but I d be allowed to stay with my dad there because of all that s going on. But I don t want to stay forever. My bestfriends are here and so is my life. And I m afraid if I tell the courts what is going on they wouldn t let me come back. But if I don t get out now, I m going to lose it. I cannot deal with the beatings, the verbal screaming matches where she follows or the drugs. I m almost an adult and am moving out in July anyhow so when I come back, I d just be packing and moving out of her wave of influence. What can I do?

Question: My Mom said of I move out I ll be dead to her because it s a slap in her face?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 08:00 AM PDT

Question: Mom? Is that you?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 07:57 AM PDT

Question: Is my mother cheating?!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 07:57 AM PDT

I JUST BORROW HER LAPTOP AND HER FACEBOOK ACCOUNT IS ONLINE THERE AND I SEE THAT A GUY WHO IS HER WORKMATE SAY "GO TO SLEEP, I LOVE YOU" AND IT WAS LONG BUT I DIDN'T READ IT CONTINUOUSLY. AND MY MOTHER AND FATHER IS FIGHTING HOURS LATER BECAUSE OF MY MOTHER'S WORK BECAUSE MY FATHER SAID IT WAS ILLEGAL AND MY FATHER IS IN THE ANOTHER COUNTRY. I CANT UNDERSTAND WHAT'S HAPPENING! Help!

Question: My mom won't let me go to my best friends graduation party?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 07:39 AM PDT

she lives in Minnesota we moved to South Carolina my mom will make any excuse for me not to take a plane by myself for the first time doesn't want me get lost or whatever but I am 20 years old not 15 anymore I feel so bad that I am not going because she wen't to mine when I lived there she is not just my best friend but she is pretty much my only friend if she gives me enough money to go from the money we are getting I might just go without even asking her I am going to have to take the plane by myself someday especially if I want to do good modeling jobs I am not a troll thank you very much we were friends ever since I was 6 or 7 my mom knows her well If I get the money I will go

Question: Despicable grownups is ruining the life of 13 year young man?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 07:33 AM PDT

So I am a 13 year old man, and I am in love with an 18 year old girl, lets just call her Eve. Eve is supernice, hot and she likes games, she is so nice that she even bought me the new Starfox game! I know she likes me too, she has actually said that I'm sexy, and joki g about wanting to shower with me. Fast forward, this monday she invited me to a party. Somehow my parents found out about the party, and they said they forbidd me to see her. Today at school I asked the school's nurse/councelor person, who is supposed to not tell my parents, but when I said Eve was older and she asked how old and I said 18 it suddenly became important enough to call my parents and make dad pick me up after school! >:( First thing he did was to take my phone, check if I had her number and send her "Hi, am Carls dad. If you dare to interact with my son in the future we will press charges" And I just what the hell?! She is innocent, she has done nothing but nice things! Sure sex with me would be illegal because of a law against pedophiles, but she is not a pedophil, she is a goodlooking cool girl, not some old creep like those we see on the news, and she even bought me Starfox, she can't possibly be bad! How do I make them understand?

Question: I want to move in with my Father, but my mom won t let me.?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 07:29 AM PDT

Ever since I was 2 years old, I have been living with my mom, I m 19 years old now, and this June I ll be graduating from high school, my plan was to join the military, but I wasn t able to pass the entry exam a couple of times, and this is something that my mom is pressuring me to do, but it s not working out, she told me that I can do anything but live with my father, and that s what I want to do. I don t know how I can convince her, every time we have this conversation, she always shuts me down and says no. My goal is to move in with my dad, and I want everything to be as smoove as possible, my dad already found me a job here, all I have to do is move in, but apparently I need my moms "approval". I am also afraid that when I move out, she won t be able to give me my belongings, (documents, personal items, etc). The main reason why my mom doesn t want me to live with his is because of their bad history, and her assuming the fact that he won t take care of me, he seems to be doing good for himself, and he s already willing to help me anyway he can, any suggestions guys?

Question: Dad said I cannot go out after prom?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 07:21 AM PDT

So prom is next weekend and that happens to be my birthday weekend. I am turning 17 and I already made plans with my friends to get lit (drunk, you know how it is with prom) but I got in trouble last night and now he s saying I ll lose my phone and i can t see friends or sleepovers for 2 weeks and how I need to come straight home after prom. Obviously I am not going to do that cause it s prom. My dad did crazy stuff in high school and I hate how he s always trying to hold me back from things. Anyway, my dad is also bipolar and changes his mind 24/7. What should I do to be able to go out after prom? It s my birthday weekend and I don t wanna be stuck at home that s lame. Please just give me answers I wanna know instead of lecturing me, thankyou

Question: Boyfriend criticizes me all the time?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 05:08 AM PDT

If I say something he doesn't like or behave in a way he doesn'y like he says I'm going to punch you in the face, and out puts his fist against my face and laughs. He's not angry, he seems to find it entertaining. I say I don't find it funny and he says your so serious in an annoyed tone. When I wouldn't talk to him while he was in the car he called me a little b*tch...I said don't say that and he said you are being one, kept saying the word. I tell him something his mom says that I don't like or agree with and he says he is going to ask her. In other words he's going to let her know I've been talking about her behind her back, and make me look bad. He makes fun of me because I wear makeup. Says I look like orange or Donald Trump. He wipes his thumb over my for head to take off the foundation with disgust and goes look. I feel humiliated His mom tells me what shade of foundation to wear, says the one I have looks cheap. I went shopping alone with his mom who I don't get on with, but he refused to go. I ended up buying him a few t-shirts. When we got back all he did was eat 3 rolls, didn't offer me anything. His mom was chopping everything for him like he was a child. If I do something a different way than the mom she snaps and shouts my name. I'm so embarrassed to be treated like this and feel depressed. What should I do?? Is this abuse?

Question: My mom is being really mean to me!!!!! Please help!?!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 05:07 AM PDT

I am a 15 year old girl and my dad died three years ago due to cancer. My mom has recently gotten a boyfriend. Ever since they started dating, my mom has been ignoring me and paying me no attention. I came home from school one day and asked if she wanted some toast. She glared at me then threw the loaf of bread in my face, calling me useless. I say i love her every night but she says i need to grow up and **** off and then she slams my door. She said that once im 18, she wants nothing to do with me and it will be like i never existed. I just feel like dying. Her boyfriend is horrible and they have sex in front of me and smoke. My dad was the nicest person ever. Please help me, my mom has been this way for the past 7 months.

Question: My brother is getting married again and I am terrified that he will get divorced again, how do I overcome this as I can't control it?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 04:59 AM PDT

His divorce was painful to watch (this is his second marriage). He made mistakes but did not realize he was and wanted to work on them but the wife would not forgive him (it was personality stuff between the two). In the long run both are better off and they successfully co-parent their two kids (we feared the mother would alienate but she has not). However, I would hate to see him go through that again and no one expected it when he first got married last time. Now, seven years after his divorce, he is getting remarried. I fear it will happen again.

Question: My cousin asked me to help him get a job but he's an idiot who should preferably work in Antarctica alone?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 04:30 AM PDT

My cousin is probably the dumbest individual you will ever meet. He is always right, it's always someone else's fault and he always tries to do as little as possible. He called me yesterday to say he got fired. He didn't say he got fired, he more angled it towards him being laid off because of lack of work but I am 95 percent sure he got fired. He tried the same bs story the last time he got fired. You really need to hear this. Here we have a months notice. His last boss actually told him that he would pay him for his last month as long as he didn't come in to work. So he "worked" his last month without having to go to work. The boss just wanted to get him out of his sight. That says a lot about a person. Now he asked me for help. In a way I really want to help. His wife is incompetant and can't work, he has a little baby girl of 2 years and he has one on the way. For the sake of his children I really want to help. But to recommend him could ruin my reputation. What would you do?

Question: Why do i hate my mother in law so much?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 03:51 AM PDT

We've had our differences but I never argued or said anytg to her. I keep everything inside and I let my husband handle her when she goes crazy. and when he does I hear the conversation and i've heard her say some nasty things about me, very insulting. Every argument or fight she has with my husband is about me. Always the same thing "i don't call her". I'm the type of person who doesn't call all the time but i do keep in touch with people. She is not satisfied with it. So i tried to change that by making an effort to call her more but she always find something to say about it (she thinks her son forces me to call her which is not true and i find it offensive) or Sometimes she would not pick up like i'm annoying her or somethg but i dont make a big deal out of it. I just stop calling her until she reaches back which she never does and then she goes to my dh to fight about it that i don't call. Now i have decided to ignore her and her complaints. But i resent her for the nasty things she said about me and everytime he mentions her i get so angry and i hate her more. I feel so bad because my husband is so good to me but i just hate his mother so much especially now that I'm pregnant. I have never had this kind of hatred toward anyone. I get along easily with people. My mil is the only person i just can't stand. I don't know what to do. Is it the pregnancy hormones? What can i do for these feelings to go away?

Question: Boyfriend and his mom lecture me?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 03:40 AM PDT

I usually like to wear foundation a few shades darker than my skin tone because I like the way it looks and but bf makes fun of me saying I look like an orange, I have Trumps face. He tells me it looks so ugly. He keeps criticizing me until I take it off. His mom told me I need to get a new foundation that the one I'm wearing is cheap. That I should go for a much lighter one and then I'll be fine. I feel the only way to get them off my back is to do what they say, or else be constantly criticized and judged. But I don't want to give in to what they say, as if they control my choices. I don't want to have my natural skin exposed around them, because it is full of acne and acne scars that I am self conscious about. I feel I would be allowing them to criticize abd judge my natural skin and I would be upset, because it is something that has effected my self esteem. I seem to always have to please them, and I am really tired of it. Its like a constant lecture that never ends. I feel weighed down. How would you handle this?

Question: Mum blaming me for me starting to fail psychology?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 03:17 AM PDT

My A-Level psychology left school a couple of months ago because she's on maternity leave. When she taught us, I understood everything she said. I had A*, A and B grades in essays and other types of assignments. Since she's left, we've had 2 or 3 supply teachers coming in. Our lessons have gone all willy-nilly now. They mix everything up, don't teach us properly, don't really help us etc. I'm starting to get C and D grades now (and occasionally I get E grades). I've recently talked to my mum about it. However, she believes it's my fault I'm starting to fail psychology because "I don't put enough effort in", even though I revise all the time alongside my English and Chemistry courses. I've even asked for help from people like my older sister, who did psychology a few years ago. But they either refuse to help me or think I'm better off studying on my own. I'm now starting to believe it's my own fault I'm failing. Is my mum right?

Question: How can I survive living with abusive grandma and half sister for months?!?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 02:55 AM PDT

So, I'm living here in my grandma's house for like 1 year now and we and my mom and my lil sis having a rough life here because I think when my mom is not here and not present in house they are just forced to take care of us. How can we survive this for like months? And They are very so aggressive to us espicially to me. I'm always crying and my mom and dad knew it but we cant go back to our past house because of some reasons. It will take me months or a year to go back there and my mom is not always in here and my dad work in another country. HELP! I'm only 13.

Question: How do I convince my mum to start cooking again?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 01:23 AM PDT

Any advice for what I should do? Every since her divorce, my mum has become extremely lazy. "Politically Incorrect " Cheers! I will give it a go. "Politically Incorrect " Wish me luck! "whyskyhigh" Not only did your advice work, but it also helped me learn one of my mums recipes. Cheers!

Question: Are my family manipulating me?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 01:07 AM PDT

Okay, my sister is pregnant, and she decided to go to another city with friends, but she left with no money whatsoever. My sister is irresponsible, she has another son, who she doesn't take care of, she likes to party a lot, practically every weekend. She caused her own miscarriage before, by hitting herself in the stomach, drinking and smoking, so I don't know what's she planning now, since she's pregnant. I've ask her, she said she's excited, but I am afraid she's just telling me what I want to hear. My mom called me, asking me for money for my sister, and my mom says, "She's worried about her, and afraid she'll jump in someone ride to get places, and If I really do care and love her, I would send her money to take the bus, and if I don't care and don't love her, just forget about sending money to her. You're just gonna blame yourself for not helping your sister out if something does happens to her." I really do love and care for her, but I have a family of my own that I have to take care of. My mom can't do it, because she practically does what my sister does, and she decided to take off to another state because she broke up with her boyfriend yesterday, she left with no money also, and she left my younger sister with my grandparents to take care of. Now my mom is asking if I could watch my younger sister for the summer. If I don't help, my mom is just gonna dump it on my grandparents, and when they don't help out, she blames everything on them.

Question: How do I hide these scars?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:59 AM PDT

My name is Sage and I am a twenty year old male from the United Kingdom. I recently got together with this guy (23) who is an absolute sweetheart and I adore to my very soul and we have been together for close to a months now. Well this morning, he called me to say he was coming over tonight and asked if we could try having sex, which it's not that I am scared of relations like that, but I am absolutely terrified of showing my body to others. I had heart surgery when I was fifteen and had to have all sorts of tubes placed into my chest, stomach, and I have an ugly scar that runs down the front of my chest. I've never let anyone see these before and I have always been extremely self conscious of them and I know it sounds silly, but I am afraid if I show them to him or if he sees them he will think I am disgusting and want to leave me. I am afraid if he sees my body for what it is he won't see me as attractive anymore and he'll hate me. I want to be close to him in a physical way, but the thought of him seeing me makes me feel sick. How can I de these scars of make them less noticeable in just a couple of hours? I can't have him see them or it might all go downhill...

Question: What do I tell my boyfriend?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:54 AM PDT

Hello. I am a 20 year old male and my boyfriend is 22. We have been together for 3 years as of last month . It's kind of embarrassing, but we haven't had sex yet since the entire time we have been together. I mean it sounds amazing, being able to be that close to him and all, but I am terrified of the idea. I was raised by two homosexual men (two fathers) and they never really gave me the talk or gave me any indication of how sex works. I mean, I have a basic understanding, but even then it is limited. He keeps talking about all these things he wants to do to me and I have no clue what he means, because I am that oblivious. I don't even know my own body, let alone being with another person in that way. I mean he does give me butterflies in my stomach and electricity down my spine. He makes me weak at the knees and knows my body like the back of his hand, but when we start getting closer to sex, I start panicking and make up excuses to not do it. What if I mess up? Or what if he wants to do something that I don't understand and then he realizes how much of a virgin I am? What if he hates me because I can't please him enough or he thinks I am not good enough? What if I can't do sex like other people can because my body is messed up or something? I don't know how to bring up the fact that I literally know nothing about sex? He's been wanting to do things like bondage and dirty talk, and I have no clue how to do any of that. What do I tell him? How do I explain?

Question: Why my sister's bully me and my mom let's it happen?

Posted: 29 Apr 2016 12:50 AM PDT

I have two sister's one is 28 married with two kids living in a apartment and the other is 15 and i am 30 currently i am living with my mom at the moment (for reasons like health problems and trying to go to college) but i always had problems with my two sisters since before. Those two are the same they are both skinny, tall, dark, same attitude both of them have big attitude issues with themselves. They somehow always tend to pick at me or criticized me in any way. For some reason they like to pick at me if i like something. If i like to draw and I'm drawing they will judge at my drawing, or if i like to wear dresses they will name me fat characters or say i look crappy. Or if i do my make up they tell me that it is crappy. Or if i get comfortable and wear my pajamas at home they will tell me i dress like a hobo.(Yes my sister with two kids will come and tell me crap to me tell me how to dress in my house) and if i wear something sexy for my boyfriend they will tell me I'm too slutty. And i'm not even asking them, they just come to pick at me because they always have to pick at me at something, they always at my back and don't leave me alone. I try to distant myself and mind own business but when i do they will find something to mock like make fun of what i do like tell me. "Why can't you answer my text are you busy with your boyfriend because that is all you do" And the bad part is when they pick at me and tell me mean things, it is mostly in front of my mom. And she's over there nodding and contemplating them but when i try to defend myself she shuts me up and tell me that they're right when they are just being mean. I love both of my sisters and i care for them and wish them the best. I try to be there for them because they always seem that they are not happy with themselves. To be honest I just want them to leave me alone but I don't know what to do because I am being hush on defending myself. Why are they mean like this to me and why is my mom letting them be mean to me and what could be done about it?