Ground him? Forbid him from seeing his friends? I found a box of cigarettes while I was cleaning his room.

I'm genuinely curious. I'm 30 years old and they live many states away. I call them every few months. I haven't seen them in years. but I've never gotten a call FROM them to ME. I'm not upset about it. I was just wondering if they might be upset with me about something. is this normal?

My dad was married and had two children. He divorced her and married my mom and had me and my brother. He told both of my half-sibling that my brother and I were not his biological children. This was a lie. We were his children. He just wanted his first set of kids to feel like the only kids. My dad told me to keep quiet or else he would not forgive me. My half siblings are 32 and 27. I am 15 and my brother is 18.

I am 55 years old. My father died when I was 20. When my mother remarried, her husband died 20 years later. Now, she's currently married again, and I noticed a big difference between her current husband and previous husband: First off, my mother's in-laws welcomed her with open arms when she first met my father. Fortunately, that was also the case for her second husband, who my 1st cousins referred to as "uncle." They loved being around him. Her current husband, however, never seemed to develop much of a bond with my family (my mom's in-laws). Not only do my 1st cousins never refer to him as "uncle," but they habitually mispronounce his name every time they ask me how he's doing. In addition, my aunt said something very disturbing to me -- that my stepdad doesn't seem to hang with the family much, to which she blamed his culture/ethnicity for the way he is. While I think that was out of line for her to say, I do believe she's right about how he doesn't partake in social gatherings with her and the family. Is it possible he's uncomfortable with my mom keeping in touch with her previous husband's relatives? I mean, my dad is gone, NOT divorced. So I'm not understanding the lack of love here.

He dropped out of college. He is unemployed. He has no friends or girlfriend. He has no money. He spends all day and night on his laptop. But he did save the house and entire family from certain death by discovering a vehicle fire in the middle of the night. So would you be proud or embarrassed?

Guys my gf is 17. Ber parents are very conservative. But they let her you ger sister go to bar,wewr dress above knees . While my gf cant move out of home , she needs permission to move from one floor of her house to ground floor, she cant go to balcony, close her room doors, she dont own a phone , she is not allowed to chill out wid friends and not even allowed to wear sleeveless clothes. She is forced to wewr full length clothes. She is 17. She is also not allowed to talk to boys . Though she is in co.ed school. What should she do?

Sometimes when I comment on a photo, some of my friends including my family see it. One time I commented something on a post and my mom saw it and she's like "why would you say that?" I don't want it too private. I just don't want my family to see it. I'm friends with my mom, dad, and my two siblings, and my aunts, uncles, and cousins and when I comment something they can see it and it's so annoying. It shows on their notification like "John commented on a post". It's so freaking annoying!

I just finished a university course in film and graduate next week. Currently I'm near the end of a temporary job related to what I had been studying for, and I'm planning on being a bartender full-time (have experience working as one) until I get my next job in film (post-production) since it's hard to come across them where I live in Northern Ireland. My dad keeps telling me to pursue jobs in film and that he doesn't want me working in bars my whole life, and he knows I don't want that either. It's a conversation we've had countless times now and I've told him I'm open to moving to England for better work. I get that he's being supportive and wants me to succeed, but it's putting a lot of pressure and stress on me that I don't need, since I'm already stressing myself out looking for jobs. How can I tell him that he needs to back off and stop putting pressure on me? I need to add, my dad does do a lot for me that I'm really thankful for: buys my groceries (I'm the only one in the house on a vegan diet), helps me out with money should I need it, is supportive of me, etc. This makes it harder for me to deal with the pressure and talk to him about because I don't want to seem ungrateful.

I have 4 boys: one oldest son, one middle son, and the youngest are twins. I love my boys but I always wanted a daughter. We would love to have another child but unfortunately we can't afford any more kids in this family.

Whenever my distant aunts come over they have a habit on kissing me all over the face with their lipstick then last but not least kissing me on the lips. I've tried to tell my mom and dad they have said that would be rude to reject them ugh it's so frustrating. I've tried to duck, walk away, eat onion doesn't work they aren't phased by this they find any opportunity to do this and they just hold my face their hands and run it down with their lips. They don't care and they say this runs in their family. I've had to deal with this for years and I'm too old for this now this grosses me out. Helllllllp I've run out of ideas

I have no problem being around people, but I like spending most of my time alone in my room, without anyone. If I do get married, I will need to have my own room.Is it possible to find somebody who wants to marry me?

I want to try working in another state for a while because I have never traveled. Both my parents traveled extensively so idk why they don't want me to travel, any time I say I am going somewhere they tell me I shouldn't go because "it isn't that great." I just graduated university and my younger sister just started university. Our family is acting like I am going to ruin their lives if I don't be my sisters roommate while she does her degree. Ive always had random roommates off Craigslist so idk why they are so much more protective of her (we are both women). They said if I don't room with her they will get her a one bedroom apartment and make me pay half. I want to work for the government but my parents don't want me to. We don't have health insurance since my parents are unemployed (by choice, they've been offered jobs but turn them down) and I really want to have insurance. I feel like I am being smothered by people who have a history of making bad decisions . What should I do? Give in and make my family happy or take care of myself?

He won't stop entering my room without permission and acting like I owe him a switch game

I am a 23 year old guy, and want to feel a bit more independent and not always be dependent on my parents. I live in New Jersey, and want to move to a state thats in the Rocky states, great lakes region. I don't plan on marriage because of the fear of being divorced. States that I thinking about moving to are Colorado, South Dakota, Wisconsin, Minnesota, Michigan, Idaho, Montana, Vermont, Pennsylvania, (technically a Vermont and Pennsylvania are Northeast states but whatever). I rather be locked in the house with 5 feet of snow than suffer through hurricanes so the Southeast U.S states are not an option.

I had posted about this earlier and I am going to the beach and it may or may not work out to see the cousins their with their Dad and future step-mother. I am worried they will think I am disloyal and disrespectful like my parents who I am with are. My parents are with their friends and I don't really like their friends but I am going cause two of my siblings will be their for the 4th weekend (Saturday and Sunday). So how do I get over my feeling of being disrespectful and feeling of shame if I don't see the cousins while at the beach? I may end up seeing them, but this is for if not. I have a way I may cross paths with them.

My sister had a falling out with the family, when she got pregnant from a one night stand years ago. She insisted on having the baby and not contacting the father, because she never wanted a relationship. She was still in uni when this happened, and my super catholic parents stopped supporting her financially. She worked in a fast food restaurant, and got a small apartment, and went through the pregnancy alone. I am ashamed that I wasn't there for her. She has a son that she loves very much. Last time I saw them, the boy was about 3, and my sister was back in university. She and her son slept on the same bed, and she was so strict with the food they ate, that she made everything herself, including bread. That's when I started noticing her paranoia. Now the boy is 10 and my sister is an engineer, she has a lovely home, and I visited her, and was really concerned. Although she has money and a house now, she and her son still sleep in the same bed ( the boy has his own bed, but doesn't sleep in it). She is so afraid her son might choke or get sick in his sleep. She still makes all food at home, and the boy helps her in everything. They don't have friends, all activities they do together. This is their typical day: wake up, drive to school and work, come back together, cook together, work and homework together, go play outside, shower SEPARATELY , read and sleep. I am worried, they are very eccentric and isolated. I saw people make fun of them for the way the dress and act. For the morons who don't understand; I am not suggesting that their relationship is inappropriate! I am worried about their isolation from everyone else. I think a 10 year old boy should have friends! Also she should have friends too. People can be cruel, and I saw first hand, people making fun of them. I admire them for not changing themselves for others

This person only talked about themselves and never asked you any questions about yourself. Would you ghost them or would you let them know?

Alright so my friend who is 18 was kicked out of her home and her father kicked her out and apparently is also accusing her of stealing money. Filed a police report under her name but she's saying she didn't steal it and it's not like I don't know her She is a close friend but she just doesn't seem like that type but her dad is just like that in general. Well she called me asked me if she could stay here and I being who I am I said yes sure thing , she's offering to help pay rent because I just live w my parents in an apartment and here's the thing she's planning on just working for the rest of her life she has a boyfriend but he didn't offer her anywhere to stay. She is not planning on going to college and wants to just work. I don't think it's right for her to stay here even if she helps for things. My family has our own issues and as harsh as it sounds it's her issue and I don't want to create more. I don't know what to do she doesn't want to talk to her parents, she's at the age of adult, she doesn't want to start college. How do I nicely tell her that she can't live here long. Without ruining us? She literally has no place to go. Also is she considered a fugitive because I don't want my mom to be harboring a fugitive if she has police report on her.

Me and my dad went downstairs to find my dad's phone we looked where he was last time but when we got up from looking under the couch WE both saw a girl crawling we didn't see her face because it was covered but she looked around 7 and it was just me and my dad at the time so it couldn't have been my mom or sister and about 1 minute after that they walked in they didn't see anything and this just happened please tell me why this happened

So im 31 my son is 8 years old and my husband/his dad is 32. So recently we were on the beach and my son asked me if he could have the same swimming shorts as dad. I didnt give him a anwser and i told my husband about it and his reaction was like "Wow thats so cute" and i said "Dont you think its strange ?" he said "No i think its cute. Me and him wearing the same swimming shorts its pretty cute" So yhea he aproves my son wants it. Should i buy to him? Do you think its cute? Are they to revealing to a 8 years old? This are the shorts: https://www.google.com/search?biw=1366&bih=695&tbm=isch&sa=1&ei=4yMcXcbOHu2flwSK37nYBw&q=swimming+shorts+flowers&oq=swimming+shorts+flowers&gs_l=img.3...181974.185321..185476...3.0..0.289.1944.0j8j3......0....1..gws-wiz-img.......0i19j0i5i30i19j0i8i30.-RNRpGHBWOI#imgrc=zsdXSOYez--xfM: Im not english ,sorry about my english

I just had a baby with my husband. We each have one child we brought into the relationship. He is very nasty to my child. Name calls him, bruises him, smacks him for the littlest things. Ever since we moved in he has gotten worse with me. Calls me stupid, mentally retarded, b*tch, the dumbest c*nt he's ever met, ugly, shoves me and chokes me. Punches me, doesn't allow me friends, hates my family and convinced me they all hate me too. I swear i'm crazy sometimes and I feel so stupid and bad about myself because he tells me it's the truth and I believe it. I'm very intelligent, have a college medical license, top of my class, yet I honestly feel like i'm the most stupid person anymore. My mind scrambles for simple answers lately. He convinces me everything hateful said to me are just words, but mixed with the physical side and the vulgar hateful things, it HURTS. One night he went rummaging through his drawer saying, "where is my gun because I can't stand your stupid *** anymore" He constantly says I don't appreciate him for going to work & paying the rent, but I do everything for him & pay for everything else. I do his laundry, cook, clean, work, pay all utilities and other bills, make his lunch, put all his clothes away, take care of the baby and his dog and yet I get called trash. I'm at a loss. I want help and to be happy. Why do I love him? Is something wrong with me? How do I get out? I get threats & abuse every time I try to leave. Please help. *nothing negative please!

We were in our pool swimming in my back yard. No body was home. Eveyone had left to go to work. My cousin started touching me while we were swimming and I didn't say anything because I was feeling horny... he moved my swimsuit strap to the side and started to finger me. Then I took off my swimsuit bottom and he took off his... we had sex. I know I shouldn't have done it! I just need advice plz!!!

I'm 14, I have a 22 year old male cousin (my only cousin on my dads side) who I used to be pretty close with when I was about 5. I would be so happy to see him, and wanted to be just like him. When I was about 7, I decided that I disliked my father's family and was not as nice to them. Shortly after Thanksgiving of 2017 my aunt sent my father a text message out of the blue stating that she doesn't want anything to with my "f***** up family." I haven't seen my cousin, aunt, or uncle since then. What should I do to fix this mess, so I can see my cousin again?

Ok so I know when my parents are going to have sex it's very obvious. It's not that I hear them but just subtle things that I'm very observant about. It may sound weird but it's normal to be in the room when my mom is getting dressed and one night we were talking and I noticed she didn't put on underwear and then said she forgot but then proceeded to go about her business. Then she was rushing me to go to bed which is very uncommon. Tonight I can smell and hear her spraying perfume that I know is from Victoria's Secret and she never wears it. she used to wear it when she used to sleepover my stepdads house when I was young. It brings back bad memories because that was the only time I've heard them have sex and then that morning she said she was sick last night and then flirtatiously looked in the mirror at him. Then I walked into the room (they sleep with a baby in the bed) and she was laying in the middle which is really odd. She was not wearing a nursing bra either (she breastfeeds). Recently I walked into their room while the door was open and she was showing him a damn sex toy and then she got mad at me for being mad. I know it's none of my business and i know how normal it is but it just makes me so angry idk what to do. I can't talk to them about it because I'll sound crazy. I sound so damn crazy but it makes me so angry and sick. I even get scared when they're alone that they'll be sexual not sex but affectionate. Idk what to do please help

Not looking to separate from any of the people but just the gossip. For example I texted my mother that a friend of our late grandfather's died yesterday. She responded "oh that is terrible, you should go at least to the wake. By the way has my sister put anymore crap on Facebook". So I tell her someone died and after 2 sentences about that she goes to the gossip on her sister. Meanwhile another aunt who I am a lot closer to speaks of nothing but her anger at this toxic sister of theirs and how she thinks the devil got the sister. So when I go see this aunt when she is in town my Dad, her brother-in-law, gets upset that I "have to" go see this aunt. He uses my OCD as a way of making me feel bad when I am the lone member of the family along with my brother who is not totally obsessed on the toxic aunt. My other brother who has Asperger's is always posting about it even on here calling her his "narcissistic aunt" and my uncles won't speak to her. My parents are consumed with a deep obsession that I will give too much info to this aunt and I do have to be careful on that as I tend to cave when asked questions and thus answer honestly. So how do I separate myself from all this drama while not taking sides and not making myself estranged from anyone? The aunt's deal is she has had some midlife crisis where she for the last decade or more lashes out at people and makes a mountain out of a molehill. She also lies about people while in these episodes. Some call this lady a narcissist like my brother's posts but I think it is more just a midlife mood disorder. She seems too charitable to be narcissistic (self absorbed), however her siblings do call her the "narcissistic sister" which is how my brother got that quote.

Wife and I are expecting our first. Haven't been married too long but do parents think about their kids doing the deed. It's kinda embarrassing.

I'm not trying to sound bratty or like an annoying teenager, but when I say I strongly dislike my parents, I am being one hundred percent genuine. For starters, I've never really felt that "connection" that most kids feel with their parents, ya know? I'm just kind of nonchalant when it comes to that subject. I don't feel much towards them, which sounds so horrible to say out loud. It's not like that with anyone else, just them. They always talk about how much they love me, especially my mom, and it just makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. Besides that, my mom has the tendency to twist my words around when talking to other people and to make me sound pretty awful, though I know that isn't her intention, it always happens anyways. I've talked to her about and she said she'd stop but she hasn't. My dad had to get a liver transplant because of his drinking and will you look at that, 2 years later he's back to drinking again. They cuss all the time, try to get me to do things they know I'll hate without any consideration for how it would make me feel (I have anxiety which they also don't ever seem to think about). I'm a 16 year old girl and I don't know if this is silly or if I'm just being a brat? Advice?

if you answer yes, why should parents charge their children rent and then later, expect them to pay for their retirement home or live with their kids for free later in their life. Is this not a double standard?

Since I was a little girl I've always wanted to be in the USMC, but I guess my parents always thought it was a phase I'd grow out of. When I told my parents I enlisted they were not happy. My parents think the military is no place for a girl.I leave for basic training July 26th and my parents are refusing to talk to me. What do I do?