Okay I am going to my sister s wedding (I am her brother and a groomsman) in a few weeks and I have a few questions. One can I refuse to participate in certain events? I don t want to catch the garter, dance with anyone, go to the bachelor party, and only will be there for my sister. I have no interest in romance period, hate socializing in noisy places, and I don t want to ruin other people s fun because I know they will try to get me to have fun and I will be only miserable so others will get upset with me for not enjoying what they like.

I asked if Europeans consider Spaniards as Europeans and three dudes from America on Quora insulted. "What a stupid dumb question. Get back to school" like wtf

I'm not a great speech-giver, so I intend to keep this short and sweet. GROOM is actually known as the talkative brother between the two of us – he can talk to anyone about anything for hours – days if he actually knows what he is talking about. GROOM is a lucky man today – he got to marry a beautiful, intelligent, charming, and caring girl who will always be there for him. And BRIDE, you got to marry, well, GROOM.

My boyfriend and I have dated for 1 1/2 years and I know a proposal is coming within the next 6 months because we have talked about it for months now and he's took me to look at rings I like, has bought a ring, we've talked about marriage timeline. So we're all excited, our families know it's getting close. I really love his mother, we get a long great. But ever since he told his mother 3 months ago that he knew proposal was close (she told me about the conversation), she has been pre-wedding planning. She had me try on her dress, which was beautiful but as a couple we want a dress that is something we share alone so I politely declined. She has told everyone she knows in her small town that he is proposing any minute now (we've had friends of his mother come up to us asking when the wedding is and that they expect a personalized invite), pulled old flower girl's dresses out of the closet, asked me constantly about my color pattern plan for flowers / bridesmaid dresses, has been looking for decorations, venues, food vendors and has even tasted cupcakes... without me or my boyfriend being there. Now, I know its going to be a small cheap church wedding. And when the time comes, I'd love her help since 1) My mother is much of a planner and 2) I don't care about small details so if someone else wants to them great. However, we are not even engaged yet and it feels like she is taking away mine and my boyfriend's moment to just enjoy dating and for him to enjoy the proposal planning. He wants it to be special and loves planning things out. But now he joked that he may as well just give me the ring, we're basically engaged. All he did was tell me his intention to propose and told his parents his intentions and now it's exploded into something that feels like the proposal has just been skipped. I haven't even told him how much pre-planning she has done and I told him to take his time proposing so he feels in control and not pressured. The only thing I have asked is that he proposes in private so we can enjoy our moment in peace. The breaking point was a few days ago when we were visiting his home town and I went yardsaling with his mom and she started negotiating wedding decorations without really asking if I liked them and asked my boyfriend to see the ring. Idk if it was everything adding up but I asked him to let me be the first to see it. But how should I deal with this? It feels like a third person is in my relationship but I feel thankful that I have a future M-I-L I mostly get along with.