I'm going through some things right now. My married pastor has been such a great support. He's been the pastor for about a year and I've always had a bit of a crush on him (he's only 41 [I'm nearly 28], very attractive and has an amazing personality), but nothing too crazy. Our church is nondenominational and very casual, so everybody dresses casually and is welcoming and loving. Nobody's afraid to be themselves. Anyways, lately due to my issues, I've been quite vulnerable I suppose. My pastor has been so sweet, hugging on me and giving me attention and I guess I've become unhealthily attached to him. He has a beautiful wife and beautiful family and I have an incredible boyfriend. I just have daddy issues and tend to get attached to older men who give me attention (most of the time, they happen to be married fathers). How do I stop? I know that once time has gone by and I'm not in such a vulnerable state, my attachment will die down, but I don't know what to do until then. Thinking of him and being around him makes me truly smile and it distracts me from the sad things I am going through. Don't get me wrong, I adore my boyfriend, but everything I am going through has me pretty snippy towards my boyfriend lately and it's not intentional.

The divorce doesn't even have to be his fault and he'd still lose money.

I'm almost 28, he's almost 26. We haven't been dating long. We started dating at the beginning of September, but didn't become official until a few weeks later. We talk about marriage all the time. He believes he loves me, but hasn't said it yet. He has just hinted to wanting to say it. In the time we've known each other, we've been through a lot. I care a ton about him and do want to marry him in the future, but I can't say I'm at the stage of loving him yet. I don't want to say it just because I am vulnerable right now and because we've been through a lot. Can you want to marry somebody you don't even love yet? He was engaged earlier this year to a girl he had only been dating less than 6 months. I think it's safe to say he falls hard and quickly. I've never been the same way. It would be 2 years before we actually get married, but I am just curious. Akeath, we aren't planning on getting married for at least 2 years. We don't even live together yet. I've told that if we're still together in a year (11 months now), that he can propose to me. Also, we're waiting until marriage to have sex so there will be no children outside of wedlock. In addition, we have been through a lot since we've been together. He was with me the entire time my mom was in the hospital recently, sacrificing everything (he took off of work) to be with me during my rough time and was holding my hand when my mom took her last breath. He promised my mom in her last moments, that he'd take care of me.

My wife is 5 months pregnant with our daughter she's been really depressed lately. She has a daughter from a previous relationship she was supposed to have twin girls but she had a miscarriage with one of them. She said her boyfriend got mad at her and left her and his kid she feels like it was her fault. She's worried I'll be the same way I told her I would never hurt her like he did he's a jerk I know him and work for him he's not very nice. She also said she's been having nightmares about him. She let's her daughter see him but even though he's her real dad she makes her call him daddy especially if I'm around which doesn't make sense to me. How can I comfort her ?

I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 25. He proposed marriage to me a month ago. He is African and I am Black American. We come from two different backgrounds. I'm Muslim and he is Christian. My family is Christian too. He asked if we could just do a civil wedding since he doesn't have the money for a large wedding and since his parents and siblings are back in Africa. We are both students. I wanted to have a large wedding with both sides. Nothing extravagant. I just wanted to have many people. It's an important day for me. I really do not want a courthouse wedding. I can't imagine getting married without his parents and siblings here to experience it. He only has his uncle and friends. Also, his friend told me he needs to give the bridal price since it's customary. Also, it's an Islamic tradition too. What to do?

So 2 days ago my mother had a Halloween party for her birthday my husband and some friends took a Uber there and drank pretty heavy. I was really drunk and saw a friend who I haven't seen in 3 years were not super close but when I introduced her to my husband he started to flirt with her right in front of me. I kept my cool so when he forgot his fake knife my friend offered to lend him one for the Halloween contest. He left me for an hour with this woman looking for it in her car. When he came back his mask was still on. He then acted cold to me and hung out with every one else so I hung out with my girlfriends for the night. The girl left home but some of us crashed at our apartment when I woke up sober we didn't have sex that night and most of these days we don't do it often. I realized what he did and asked what happened he became offensive and told me he didn't sleep with her. They were only gone for 15min he said I was too drunk but my best friend said it was a hour I blacked out and had no clue he was drunk too but the girl was only high on weed. Do you think he was telling me the truth?

His mom has been insisting him for me to sign a prenup ever since we got married recently. We got married bc I wanted to help him get his VISA & stay here in America. Now his mom is starting to build a lot of assets under his name. He told me in the prenup that I wouldn't get anything not his financial support. And if I ask for financial support he calls me a gold digger. I just don't feel right about his prenup but he says everyone gets it. It will protect you and me. But how? He doesn't want to give me anything. It's not like I want anything but I know divorces can get messy ugly and super dirty. And he just flat straights out and tell me all of this.. it's like what kind of person did I get involved with..

So I'm in the process of a divorce. She assaulted me in March and we have had no contact due to the OP since then. Basically we are coming up to a divorce (no fault from my understanding) and we pretty much agreed to everything but she wants ownership of our second dog. I'm not okay with this as i have seen her abuse the animals. She has also told me and some of my relatives a story of how she choked her rabbit when she was younger (15 or 16). I have cared for the dogs and paid for major vet bills since March, but even before then I was the primary caretaker, because my income was mostly the only one coming in through the marriage. We have only been married for 2 years and 7 months of that have been seperated. All debts are in my name and I am willing to take them all. My lawyer seems disinterested in the "custody battle" for the second dog. I live in TN My question is what can I do? I have messages of her friends saying they received messages from her saying she couldn't keep it and asking for them to take it. She lives in NYC and I live in TN. I have numerous witness saying she abused the animals, but I am related to all of them. Any help you can offer would be greatly appreciated.

They don't live together but have been dating for about 6 months. He comes over to my house and spends time with me and our child, tells me he loves me and is confused. We are NOT sexually active either although he tries. But after a couple days or so he meets up with her and there has been times when she has gotten a hold of his phone and found out about us being together she will tell him it's over and stop responding to him and he begs and pleads for her to take him back yet tells me he is going to leave her. If he really wants to be with her why won't he stop coming over, cuddling and playing family man with me? It's confusing me and every time I say just be with her and we can co parent and I stop contacting him then he seeks me out saying he misses me and our child and wants to come over and tells me he still loves me.. What should I do and does he want me or her? I sometimes think he doesn't want to let her go because she does a lot for him but I'm not sure.

My husband and I got a message from his ex girlfriend from 8 years ago saying she was going to take him to court for child support. We did not even know about this child, he was never notified or contacted about. There is no paternity test and he has not signed a birth certificate. Her ex-husband did. My husband has no custodial rights or visitation, again we had no idea this child existed. Can she do this now and what can we do? We are in Colorado and she is in Kansas. Because she has six kids already with other men, we believe she is trying to get money because she is broke. We do not know if she is on any government assistance, we are aware of her live in boyfriend. They both are marijuana smokers. Oh, he also had a vasectomy in 2009... this kid was born in 2012

I looked online didnt find much. I really want to get under his skin and I want it to go on for weeks. This guy tried to get with my wife after she said she wanted to be friends. I confronted him and he tried to fight me on my own yard.. get creative guys!!!

If she does this it'll mean our son won't have a TV over here to watch which he does often he's almost 2. Watches a lot of kids stuff on Netflix. I told her if she takes the TV i'm going to ask for half of rent that I've been paying for her since she moved out and her name is on the lease. She told me if I do that "she's going to **** me over" and tell the judge to let me have him every other weekend. Since she moved out in June 2018 we've been doing 4 days on and 4 days off, so she's going to punish our child with time with me over money and a TV.

I have taken issue w/something I discovered about my husband. I have always known he has a need to be affirmed by other women, not cheating mind you, but in particular, former lovers/gfs. I let it go, we've always been up front about our pasts and I am comfortable. However he recently through the devil FB had an old friend message him, no big deal. Yet he was not entirely honest about who she was. Apparently she was a woman that while married to his first wife, they all 3 agreed to have a threesome...the wife didn't like it but my husband continued on an affair with this woman; she was their nanny. He lied about who she was stating she was just an old friend of his ex-wife's, which on its own is odd because his x was quite nutty. Fast forward, he had forgot he told me about their past and I asked that he get rid of her period. He has not, but the issue lies w/ we recently celebrated an anniversary. So, even though I know his phone for whatever reasons are off limits (even though mine isn't lol) I went into his camera roll because I wanted to make a slide show and he has photos I do not of us. Well in his camera roll was a new folder added once you save an image from FB messenger and surprise there was a photo of her in it. Nothing nude but clearly meant be suggestive, so either he asked or she volunteered. I find it very inappropriate since she has plenty of images within her profile. I don't know how to handle this as surely he is only going to "see" me in his phone.

We are in our 30s and not conservative people. However, I don't feel I know him enough yet. We went out 4 times over a month. He wanted to see me more but I had been going through a busy period at work and family related. His insistence on having sex makes me hesitate even more. I like him and he treats me well otherwise. What's a good way to handle this situation?

Her children are living full time with her ex. Am I wrong to think there are some red flags here?

Im a 23 yr old female married to my wife whos 25 and is in the army and we go to Kentucky for her duty station in the middle of next month. I live in nyc with my mom and i graduated last dec with a game art and design degree. I finally got a job in my field 2 weeks ago that im very happy with and they are letting me be remote but ill have to come in for a week once a month or once every two months. My mom whos 60 and disabled is moving to NJ and i want to help her get settled in and handle all the tech stuff and help her get around her new neighborhood. So i want to stay with her atleast a week to help her out. I also have a side business selling jewelry online but i want to sell in Brooklyn every couple of months cause the table is cheap and my target audience is in that area so ill get alot of business. My wife says that im being extremely selfish and that im a child and a ***** and a terrible wife because i want to delay me coming to kentucky by a couple of weeks to help my mom out and try to get settled into my new job. Theres no jobs for me in kentucky and it took almost a year to get this job with no experience. She just wants me to drop all of my goals and stay home for her because shes in the army and i dont think that's fair. And the fact that i want to help my mom move and settle makes me a bad person? Am i being selfish? Whats the middle ground? Ill be in kentucky most of the time except for when i leave for work purposes. Im really tired of being called names..

My wife has this idea that we're suppose to share EVERYTHING and anything she doesn't know she feels it's a secret from her. Several years ago I bought a used Mercury Mountaineer that I love. It is based on the Ford / Lincoln style that come with the keypad on the driver's door to lock and unlock the vehicle. When I bought it the keypad didn't work. Some 4 years later I decided to look into it. I discovered that some wires inside my driver's door had broken and I spliced them back together yesterday. The keypad now works great. Ok, I found the code in the truck so now I don't have to worry about locking my keys inside. There's a 5 digit code and I told my wife what the code was just in case she locks herself out of the truck. I think saw online that I could change the code to something more familiar to me. BUT, the factory code would still work. I told my wife I was going to add a second, more familiar, code and when she asked was I going to give it to her I said, "why do you need the new code when the old one will still work?" It's not like I am hiding the code from her but I've already given her the factory code and she knows it will still work but she now wants my special code. We're not one of those couples who has log ins and passwords to each other's accounts but she thinks I don't want her to have the new code. Why, when the old one still works. How much do you or should you share with your wife? She doesn't even drive my truck. She has a car. She's probably only driven my truck once in the past 2 or 3 years.

Wife and I are mid 30s and already have a kindergartner and a toddler. I have a good amount of energy so I am ok there. Mentally it's hard raising 2 kids so I am worried about 3. We live in a small house, but we make it work. I'm excited, but at the same time scared. Any advice or heads up is appreciated. Thx

I've been on the fence on this subject for a while now. Possessiveness seems to be toxic and controlling but at the same time it seems to be a sense of belonging and knowing that you have someone who wants you alive and doesn't like sharing you with other people because they value you that much. I think this is one of those double edged swords where it's a good thing because it makes you feel like you have worth and value but it also is a bad thing because it's like a death grip and you have no way to leave or get fresh air without them trying to control you. Personally I like knowing that my wife doesn't want me to leave her and will take a powerful position to keep me around, but if I did want to leave I would feel bad about her emotional attachment because clearly it's unhealthy to claim someone as yours when everyone has human rights to own themselves. So which is it? Is it a good quality trait or is it a negative quality trait? And I don't just mean possession over you but you having possession over them. Is this a bad thing? Or is this confused as a good thing?

Is this normal? I don't know if it's just a subject for conversation or if she's expecting something from me. I am not ready for a commitment. I barely know her anyway. All I could say right now is that I like her.

My wife has finally admitted that she has cheated on me with 2 guys ( I believe it's more) . We have been together since high school. In college she cheated on me and contracted herpes and guess who was the one to take her to get the results and console her me. She said it's bc my sex game fell of which is true I'm only home 2 nights a week and I've gained a belly that I didn't have before . We have a beautiful daughter who adores both of us and when I found out I snapped I started throwing **** and woke up my daughter . I'm tired of being played a fool and really need to get over this feeling.

I heard when a guy gets married they have to say goodbye to a lot of things also sex and having to lie about the number of beers they've had as well as watching golf on weekends

My wife has a really bad headache she took a couple pills she said it still hurts. How can I help her feel better ?