Everything seems to be about the bride, even though it's both of their day. The bride gets a mini parade walking down the aisle while the groom just stands there, everyone's talking about her dress and where it came from etc., her father usually makes a speech while neither of the groom's parents do. Do you ever feel as if the groom is unloved?

So, this happened: we slept together. First time in the same bed, no sex, because she's virgin and I do respect her. We talked, stayed together, talked about lots of things, and she fell asleep next to me, with her hand in my hand and her leg between mine. When she woke up she stretched a bit and one of the underwears straps fell off so saw her... nipple. Needless to say that I wanted to kiss her so bad there but I couldn't because she's a bit difficult for these things and when she realized it she turned as red as a tomato and readjusted the strap and covered herself in shame with the blanket til the chin. She was strange and taciturn the whole day. Suddenly while we were talking about another topic she told me 'you know, you are the one who has ever seen me... (she meant naked). Neither my mom has ever seen me since I was a teenager'. I was like: well thats normal I'm your boyfriend it should be obvious that I am the one to see you naked. But she was saying like it was such a bid deal. Anyway, why is she like this, I understand shy, but come on it's me! We've been through a lot. When I say a lot I meam she ran away from her abusive aunt's home in the middle of the night and stayed at my place. She got beaten up for me from her aunt. I defendes her. We are living together now. She was sick, I took care of her. I was always there for her and she makes a big deal about a nipple.

So my boyfriend is the one in his family who survived to the tragic events that happened about 20 years ago in his country, he lost his parents and his sister in war. I know that as a teenager he lived with his uncle who always mistreated him and forced him to go to work although he wanted to study. I still remember him being scolded and threathened while he was carrying heavy cement bags. I know his uncle and once when I was little I tried to defend him from that man. Anyway, my boyfriend has taken antidepressants in the past and has been well for a while, until the anniversary of the tragedy occurred and the tv and the news on internet wrote about it. Of course he read it and started complaining about how the journalists talk about it in a really cold way, questioning if it really happened. He lost his family in it and doesn't understand how people talk about it and the guilty governments like it's just an event, not a crime. Sometimes he tells me he feels like he doesn't fit in and he wants to meet people who speak our language and lived what he went through. At work he has 2 serbian coworkers who hate him because of his ethnicity and leave him work to do alone and don't help him and give him death glares. He tried not to give it importance but once he overheard when they said that our people should all be killed and that in the past they did well. I he refuses to leave the job saying that it's hard to find a new one bc of the crisis and started talking about health insurance etc to persuade me. I love him so much I cannot stand seeing him like this. He asked why was his life like this and he wanted to have a normal life and he had tears in his eyes, though he usually is really strong. I hugged him so so tight and he did the same he was so sad. I could feel he needed love and I try my best to give him all I can, but I feel it's never enough.