The man is 40 he's never been married, he has no kids and his last long term relationship ended in 2007. He typically only dates in the 18-24 age range. The 40 year old took a 21 year old girl on an all expenses paid vacation. He pays for round trip first class airfare, expensive meals and drinks, an impressive rental car, nice air bnb's and pricey hotels. She had a boyfriend in February and stopped talking to him at the end of March. By the 1st week of June she was in love with the 40 year old and on vacation. From June through this current month (september 2018) he has taken her on 3 more all expenses paid weekend trips to state parks, museums, stayed at a cabin one weekend and cooked her a $150 meal. She posts all kinds of photos on her Facebook and Instagram of the meals at the restaurants, the nice hotels, the places he takes her and for some reason she loves posting photos of herself wearing his sweatshirts, jackets, hats and his clothes. She's 5'1 and hes 6ft so she thinks its cute to wear his clothes in all the photos. Is this likely true love and he admires her so much that he wants to go out of his way to spoil and impress her? Why would a man do all of that for a girl he's known for such a short time?

Its kinda getting on my nerves really. If the girl is tan and has dark eyes usually the guy is more white-ish and has blue eyes. If the girl is blond with green eyes usually the guy is dark and has dark hair and dark eyes. Etc. Why are people mostly with those that look nothing like them? Also... am I the only one who prefer people that look like me over those that look different?

She also likes his wife.

I never thought I would have to ask this because it just seems like it would be a no-brainer but 10 years of asking questions on here and I'm not even sure what the correct answer is anymore because there's so much political correctness and agenda throwing and proselytizing going on and evangelism going on that I just don't know anymore. I was born with a penis. I identify as a man. I do not however have an interest in sports, cars, violence, tattoos, drinking or smoking, motorcycles, going to the gym, playing first-person shooters on the internet and teabagging people, going to the bar, or being competitive. I am not submissive so I wouldn't qualify as a beta male. But clearly I'm not considered an alpha male either. So what the hell would you call me? Someone made me feel like because I am not interested in those things that I would actually be transgender because I don't care about masculine things. But I don't identify as a woman and I'm quite satisfied being a man. So wouldn't that make me cisgender? Given, most men don't consider me part of their Community because I don't act manly. But most women don't consider me part of their Community because I don't act womanly either. And I really don't care for the identity of nonbinary because that's not what I am either. Again I identify as a man just not the same kind of man other people think I should be. I'm also not a liberal. But I'm not a conservative either. I am me. Identity politics is f*cked up...

*Quick Disclaimer: Graphic Details* My wife and I have been happily married since October of 2016. When we got engaged, we agreed to stay virgins until our wedding night. When the time came to have our first night together, we found sex proved to be difficult for her because of her weight, and the only position we were able to achieve was missionary. Even the missionary position was difficult for us though because her legs were getting tired fast, and they kept pushing me out of her. We just figured it d get better from there, considering it was both of our first times having sex. However, since our wedding night, things haven t really improved. She still gets tired quickly, and wants me to edge myself so that I won t have to be inside her very long. We spend a lot of time for foreplay beforehand, but when we finally get engaged in the act, she wants it over as soon as possible and let s me know. It s enough to kill the mood, and I have tried telling her, and explaining how it makes sex less enjoyable. Because of these issues, I m lucky if I have sex with my wife once every couple of months. Any suggestions what I could do?

and fun. Has anyone worn one of these, they seem really revealing and short and I am not as excited about the ruflle butt undies as he is. He wants us to go shopping for the costumes this weekend. What would you say or do ? He claims he had to wear a French Maids Costume as part of his Frat ination apparently some sorority girls dolled him up including lacy bra and undies ! oh I wish there were pictures.

I'm not talking about LGBT Community stuff here, I'm talking about people who don't want to follow the rules of conservatism or Christianity and they want to run the marriage the way they want to but no one outside of that household validates their marriage nor do they accept them for who they are. It appears to me that conservatives really like controlling everyone and everything, so when an observed marriage doesn't go the same way that their marriage does they judge them. So what are liberal marriages supposed to do? Keep their marriage and what they allow in their family out of public eye so that way they don't have any issues with conservatives and Christians who are outspoken and righteous? And when a person has a non-structured marriage where they don't have a head of household, will the conservatives ever accept them for being a different version of marriage? Or do conservatives truly believe that they own marriage because of the evolution of the United States and how it was formed via judeo Christian values? What am I basically trying to say here, in order to be left alone by the judgmental Conservative Christian majority do people have to conform to their way of doing things? Or do they just have to stay inside their house and never leave? Or better yet, do they have to move to an area that has more people like them instead of assumed that all areas are habitable by all human beings and people know how to be respectful of other people's values or beliefs.

If things don''t work out with your significant other, would you replace them right away, even before divorce is officially finalized? Is that even love? I feel that if you truly loved someone you wouldn't replace them that quick. Or is it that people are emotional and they let their feelings take over? Maybe anger, or fustration, or sadness? I feel like I would give it time because I really love that person or husband. It hurts to let go but lets just say I can't take being mistreated anymore. I feel like it would take me personally some time to get over and move on. Or is it just me who thinks that way?

Few months ago my husband and I got into a huge argument. He said he was done with my behavior and I also said a couple of hurtful things to him that I regret. I admit, I made a mistake and should have never said those hurtful things to him or treated him that way. Out of anger he decided to reach out to an old friend ( another women) through fb. The other women knew he was married and all because he told her. A few days later he asked her out, but the other girl said no because she's not a home wrecker, however, she continued to talk to him. I found out about her because I noticed he was always on his phone protecting it and had a password. I used to have access to his fb but when I tried logging in, I realized he changed the password. Long story short, I apologized to him for the things I said and explained to him why I said them. I truly love him but I was going through a lot of stress (school, work, family, etc). He refused to take my apology at first. Now we are good and he doesn't talk to that girl anymore bc I confronted the whole situation. My question is, if a person really truly loves you would he replace you that quick before a divorce? Because that's how I felt my husband was doing and it hurted me so much. How can someone say they really love you, but if they really did, why would they be so quick to replace you despite what happened?

Like lodging, plane, etc

If anyone out there is a computer genius or mabey just knows how the internet works. I know a little ,but apparently I'm the crazy one. A month ago he got a text from a person, the area code was from another state. I glanced and saw this girl ( big boobs) and he said that his ex wife must of put his number in online and did this !! For a minute I thought it was true. Then It happened two more times, different days, different girls. He gave the same damn excuse. Then I opened up his junk email while I had his phone. I had to snoop! 1000s of emails from sites. There all so different. All girls. Young, in there 20s. I can't say porn. It wasn't just porn. Girls. Naked girls. He's 46. His excuse is that he was on dating sites years ago and that's how they got there and that his ex probably did it. Just like the text he was getting. I'm not a fricken idiot. Tell me I'm wrong or right, If you go on sites like porn or looking at these girls from every site known to man and you look or subscribe to it, it goes into your junk or spam. His is all in Junk. And what about the text?? His ex is not that board in life to be messing around online and put his number in! If you respond, Thank you. Need the truth! Thats all.

My husband and I are having too many arguments about my son. My son is 16, and out of control. I get that, but he is acting that way because his father, my ex husband don't even call them. My son had been in trouble With the police, with other teens, we caught him having sex in his room with an older girl, caught him with drugs, his attitude is not the best. I have no idea what to do and that pisses my husband. The other day we had a very strong argument, because my son came home at four in the morning, high and smelling awful. He was very out of place, my husband scolded him and he reacted mean towards my husband. So my husband beat up my son, I didn't know what to do, My kids and I suffered from domestic violence with their dad. I asked him for the divorce papers, he's staying at a hotel and my son is at the hospital. He keeps on calling to check up on him.and to apologize, he doesn't want to divorce. What should I do? Why do I like I'm repeating the same story?

My wife is very selfish; possibly even narcissistic. Unless she feels like it, she doesn't do anything; and if she feels like doing something that no one else wants to to do, she'll do it anyways. The world, revolves, around, her (so she thinks). We have two kids together, 16 and 12. They don't have a set bedtime, and my wife loses most of her energy by 7pm then goes to bed by 9pm. Meanwhile, she's done nothing to get the kids to go to sleep, so she leaves me to do it all alone. My 16 year old fights me and tries to stay up as long as possible. My 12 year old is fine. But we all get up at 5 or 6 am, so going to bed at 1am means my son only gets 4 hours of sleep (he's regularly in sleep related psychosis). And I don't know how to fix this problem without (1) abusing my son to make him go to bed sooner, (2) abusing my wife to make her go to bed later and help me, (3) abuse no one and get taken advantage of by both of my narcissists. Please help me. I'm tired. I haven't slept in a few months now. I'm really, really, tired. My wife on the other hand, gets 8 to 10 hours of sleep and then claims she's still tired. She's on medicine for anxiety/depression and she says it's the "right dose" so I don't understand her at all. It doesn't help that our senior cat (15 years old) encourages my wife to go to bed to cuddle with him and they sleep together a lot. So she uses his "cuteness" as an excuse to go have a nap. Meanwhile, I get yelled at if I even play a vidya game.....