So my parents complain a lot about... pretty much anything. Anyways, that's not the case here. The thing is, for some reason, everytime they start complaining about anything minor (and even me) I get this weird, uncontrollable desire to laugh out loud at them, it just happens. I've been thinking it may be some sort of defense mechanism to not feel negative emotions on my end, but I'm not completely sure. What could be causing this unwilling laughter?

I'm a female and my brother is only a year older. However my parents let my brother get away with everything. It's like we have different rules for anything, my brother is 17, and he can go out drinking because his a "man" and knows how to handle himself while I'm 16, I can't even walk home from the gym after 8 clock. They let my brother get away with staying out late and drinking because they want him to experience things, but what about me? The more my parents do **** like this makes me want to rebel more against their words. Does anyone think it's oksy for my parents to treat me like this?

are they real people sending the fake messages ? how the messages send ?

that health problem erupts(money because they cant work, ride to hospital, ride to out-of-state hospital because their specific specialist is there)? How would you feel and what would you do?

but beats themself up instead then I end up feeling bad for having standards?

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I pay for a very nice nursing home for my 93 year old GrandmA. Her nursing home got a new resident a lady who was an acquaintance of my grandma during her high school years. This lady is black and her brother dated my grandmas cousin a couple of times. According to their conversation neither one liked the idea of this interacial relationship. They both laughed on how my grandma would call her cousin white trash and the embarrassment she felt for being related to her. Racism is to never be tolerated, paying for my Grandmas nursing home is supporting rAcism, but I still care about my grandma, I have to be strong for the good of the country

My man and I have been together for 15 years. We've live in a house together and have an 11 year old daughter. We are happy together with an issue hear and there because no one is perfect. However, he is a good man and is always there for me. Everyone seems to wonder when or if we will ever get married. Since we are not married I feel it's ok for me to flirt with other men. My best friend lives in another city that's a few hours away. So whenever I go to visit her I stay the night or sometimes the weekend. While hanging out with her I've met a guy whom I'm very attracted to and flirt with a lot. People have seen us dancing and flirting in public. Some say it's considered cheating and disrespectful to my relationship. We aren't married and it doesn't seem like we'll be getting married soon so how is it cheating. I haven't slept the other guy although he is pushing me to. Is this cheating and should I stop enjoying flirting with other men?

i treat him like he isn't even human. i told him i hope he dies and goes to hell and he will find the rest of his people their too. Im hoping these words will get to him and he will feel like i am abusing him and leave my mom.

I love my parents. More than anything. But they are extremely protective and controlling and trying to dictate my life constantly. I don't have friends, I don't go out, and I don't even ask because I know it's always going to be an issue. I have dreams and aspirations for traveling and joining the military, but even though I'm 18, they are still telling me what I can and cannot do. Because I am 18, turning 19, in December, I realize that I can leave if I want to and start my life if I feel like it. But I don't want to hurt them. I don't want to potentially make them sick or age faster because I'm choosing to live my own life. How do I go about this exactly? How can I have a conversation with them about my future without being treated like a kid? What kind of things can I say so I sound cohesive and mature, and they will listen and understand me? Because I've tried speaking to them about it and they just shut me down and dismissed me. What is a new tacict I can try?

I'm currently 19 years old, femal, and I'm working on getting a full/part-time. Recently I got into an a very bad argument with my 24-year-old sister who also stays at home as much i do, but she also has a new boyfriend who's been taking her out every Saturday and for the last week she's been going to hang out with my brother all day, who I no longer talk to. Meanwhile I am stuck at home because I do not have any friends, everywhere to go alone is awkward and I do not get along with my other siblings. Should I take my chihuahua and myself to the beach alone? Or just wait to get called back for a job offer? My sister never used to go hang out with my brother all day and after our argument I feel like she's trying to prove a point that "she actually gets out of the house more and talks to people" but other than hanging out every Saturday and suddenly clinging to my brother she doesn't have anyone else. Idk if I'm over analyzing but I've had mild anxiety the past week and im trying to stay focused on myself, but this whole situation is just frustrating.

Recently i have been fantasizing about my mother and how amazing her body looks at 38. I am 23 and i constantly think of what it would be like to watch my mom have sex with multiple men! I catch myself looking at her *** when she bends down and i try my hardest to rub her feet when she s barefoot... I get so turned on when she lets me touch her feet... My dad hasnt said anything to me about it so im not sure they really know what that does to me..another thing is my mom walks around our house in small underwear and sometimes i will get up in the morning to pee and shell be brushing her hair or in her room with the door open and have no bra on .. Another main thing that turns me on is that she wears thongs sometimes and g strings that are all the way up her *** and i can see them.. Not to mention she leaves her durty panties on the bathroom floor so sometimes as nasty as it may be i pick them up and sniff them...growing up my parents would be on the couch usually my mom completly naked and on top of my dad and i would hide somewhere to watch her...i also caught her having sex while my dad was out of state.. Idk how to tell her how i feel and im scared my dad will kick me out..please help

My friend told them, nothing I controlled.

I am adopted. My parents have already gone through the process of certification in fostering. They let it expire though because they didn't think they needed it. My freind will be moving 1 hour and 38 minutes away from here and because of that she's willl be moving school districts. She'll lose the majority of her freinds and she won't be able to see her dad a lot because he works almost 24/7. From what I can gather she is not being taken away because of event type of abuse or neglect. Her dad is just going through a financial issue and simply isn't able to provide a home. My freind also has a history of mental issues around depression and cutting. I would worry that this move will spark this again. Everyone one in my family is willing to take her in and everyone in her family is willing to let us do it. Sad thing is, she's scheduled to move away next week. I didn't know that till recently and I immediately brought it up to my parents and they agreed to take her in. Do you think CPS will let us temporarily take care of her until they finish the certification again? Or is that a big no?

Christmas is a time of joy. It is a time with Grandma at her house opening gifts in the evening after a morning with Mom and Dad and siblings opening gifts. It is a time of cousins, aunts, and uncles visiting. It is a time of joy and happiness in the air. Then a week of celebrating the wonderful family you have through New Year and no sorrow until school returns January 3rd. The holidays are joy. For me, and many others, it is the season of rejection. The season I am shunned for turning my father in for incest. The season of my Mom blaming me and her parents not speaking to me. The season of cousins who have blocked me on Facebook. The season of being shunned by siblings and the season of feeling the guilt and shame that I didn't just submit to my father. It's the season of being unlovable because of my Aspergers and the season of contemplating drinking and/or suicide. How do I get through the pain this Christmas of being rejected from my family and unlovable when love is in the air?

It is like I am the father and he is the child.

I keep asking my dad to send me off to private but my stepmom keeps saying I'll just want to go to private school so I can go get away with murder. I'm getting to the point where I don't like my stepmom. She is in always my business going throug my stuff or worrying about me which i ain't her concern i don't want to live with my dad and stepmom anymore more if she's going to continue to go through my stuff and search my room go through go to my call list my text messages go through my Facebook Messenger. I Especially don't like it when she says I am not like your mother I am not going to be your friend I'm going to be your mother you're going to have a curfew you're not staying out all night long young lady, I am not going to give you what you want I am going to give you what you need. I hate it when she makes me talk to her when I get upset. she always says young lady I'm not going to let you keep things bottled up inside you I'm going to make you to open up to me. I wish my dad would send to a private school so I don't have to deal with my stepmom anymore

I keep hearing it usually women who are afraid that husband will cheat or leave them for another woman. How about men, aren't some afraid?

My dad kicked me out of house when I was like 24years old and raised me very strictly. As a boy I am closer to my mom and being only child me and my mom were very close. She passed away last year and since then my dads personality has changed. This same happened when my mom filled for divorce and separated he changed his personality got her back she got sick and eventually passed away. I moved out but he keeps wanting to stay in touch and talks like he is innocent and doesn't pay attention to when I try to ask him why he did certain things; he is trying to pretend to be weak to get me to come back home become a religious Muslim boy. But that's not the life I want; why the F should I move back home? It's my life I can be dead tomorrow I want to do what I want. But he's consistently setting guilt traps when I blocked his number he is sending emails. WTF should I do? I'm a career driven person I'm about to finish my mba and work full time in my career field but I'm someone who never had a girlfriend so I'm not very smart in people's department especially grown up as only child. Another thing to note is he doesn't care about my career or school he is more into getting me married and moving bac home but F religious and don't care about these things. Please help

My 30-year-old brother still lives with parents and carries on like an immature child with things like holding a grudge against our father for all the "child abuse" he has done in the past. He also extorts money from the mother and siblings if they don't pay him since he has never worked and because of his cleaning services around the home. He also blackmails his younger siblings if they don't do whatever he wants which can be anything from going with walks with him, taking him to places, cooking him food (yes, he's 30-years-old and doesn't want to cook), and watching recorded TV shows that may not be interesting to his siblings. He also expects me to make changes in my working hours so that there is someone at home to cook him food. and that I should also stay home when he needs or wants me to stay home. His reason for wanting me to stay home and top make changes to my working hours, he's trying to avoid the father while also getting someone to give him food.; He claims he suffers from PTSD as a result of the "child abuse" he had suffered as a child. He also blames it on the father why he si what he is today.

My grandparents are Ukrainian as is my dad, my mom is Russian. I've never been to Europe. The farthest I've been is Canada and Jamaica. My grandfather told me we'll have a fun time there and meet his old friends and family. My grandfather told me that he wants me to see the people he fought for in war. What can I expect?

I'm 19, I go to college and I got a job that pays good. I have always been a good child. I never got in trouble and barely go out. All I did was go to school then work and come home. I helped my mom around the house and took care of my siblings their ages are (10 and 2) when my parents were at work. I really couldn't go out since I was always babysitting. I always respected my parents and their rules. They had no complaints from me. I recently found out I am pregnant with my boyfriend of 5 years. We were always careful, we didnt use condoms since he is allergic to the lub. I was on the birth control pill but I decided to get on the implant (Nexplanon) since the pill was making me depressed, during that transition is when I got pregnant. When I told my parents my mom wanted me to get an abortion but I refused to. She then told me that my stepdad wanted me out so I needed to leave the house. So I moved in with my boyfriend. I was so hurt because I was doing everything I could to make them happy. I told them that I didn't plan on getting pregnant, I was protecting myself. I'm so mad and hurt that I don't want to talk to neither my stepdad or mom. Should I not talk to them, or forgive them?

Hey guys. So i met this girl at the gym and I got her number. Everytime I see her at the gym, it was just like how I met her for the first time. everytime I see her, it feels very refreshing. Am I crushing on her lol?

After chatting with this girl at work for a half hour. I felt like their was a mutual attraction. I could not find her again in the office the next day to ask her out. since our company building is huge multifloored and hundreds of people per floor. So I asked her out on social media and friended her also gave her my cell. She instantly responded in an hour saying she would love to go out for lunch. She said she would put something on our calendars. Next day I ran into her very frequently. Walking into work I bumped into her. She walked me the rest of the way to work and said she would text me. Saw her on my floor often for no good reason. I think she jeapordized her laptop to have me look at it. Although she has not yet put anything on my calendar. Not texted me once since then or anything. What should I do?

I'm super confused. My parents won't let me take a road test, but every time they have to drive me somewhere, they complain about the fact that I'm not driving yet (sometimes they get really pissed and start yelling at me about it). These are obviously extremely mixed messages and I don't know how to process this. Advice? My parents won't let me bike more than a mile from my house because apparently I'm "guaranteed" to get hit by a car.

So I had sex for the first time a few months back. I am 16 years old and my mom somehow found out. Now she won't stop calling me a whore and sometimes I cry because it's such a demeaning word. How do I make her stop?

I live with my grandparents and my grandpa just comes in my room and throws the stuff I want away. Then he grounds me for anywhere to 3 weeks to a month and tells my grandma about how "messy" it is. The thing is I just hide my sketch pads in my room somewhere in my room sometimes just put them on the counter in plain site and he just comes into my room and throws them away and calls me something like retarded. (and I m not exaggerating.) So please someone tell how to get him out of my room and don t give me an answer like talk to him about how you feel because he doesn t like when I m angry and he also said he wish I d kill myself.

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You're about to see the workings of my inner mind and know personal things about me. I'm a junior in college in my early 20s and I am states away from home. I'm adopted. I was adopted along with 4 other boys and 1 girl. I know a big family. I was the youngest one but not by far. The last time I visited my family, they told me I wasn't expected to amount to anything. The 4 boys joined the army and are ranked and 3 have families. The girl is a nurse. Me? I'm just in college majoring in astronomy. My foster dad owns a used car dealership and my foster mother is also a nurse. When my foster mother told everyone at dinner that I wasn't expected to amount to much, it hurt. Not going to lie. I didn't say anything because I have respect for them but it pissed me off and then I got an idea. Something inside of me just ticked that I should do something great now to prove them wrong. I love astronomy and it gets my blood going but I want to prove them wrong that I'm not a nobody. I feel like I have something to prove so I got the idea of changing majors to pre medicine and getting into medical school to become a surgeon to shock my foster parents.

Three siblings, father is alive and in mid 90s and he has some cash money. Father possibly wont live more than few years due to his ongoing chronic medical diseases. . Now 65 year old sister is terminally sick possibly she will die in 6 months. She does not work and they barely make a living with her husband's income. I am the wife one one of the boys. I asked my husband to talk to is dad to give some money to his dying daughter because she could use the money and she will not live long enough to get inheritance from his father. My husband is reluctant to ask his father this questions. How to ethically to do this. Sister does not know anything about my intentions. Also am I too nosy on their business? I absolutely feel for her because she really can use some extra cash.

I told my mother that I hate junk food, but she wouldn't listen.

Hey all- will try to keep this short. My husband and I (we are a gay couple) have always wanted to raise a child together. A week after what was her second birthday, we were finally ready to go through with it, and adopted our daughter- Emma. In a month, she will be turning four. She's become the most important part of our lives and we are so blessed to have her be a part of our family. She's always been a particularly shy kid, even around those closest to us like his and my siblings. He stays at home with her while I work, and that's the way it's been ever since the adoption. I work as an EMT and am not home as frequently as I would like to be, often times I work overtime to keep the three of us taken care of. Being away from home so much means I get to see our daughter a lot less than him. I try to pitch in after work, usually squeezing in a good hour with her before bed but I fear that's not enough. She seems to take after my husband more, she follows him around the house constantly, always requests that he be the one to help her get dressed or eat, etc. I try not to make a big deal out of it, as I've been told that she simply needs more time to adjust, and I don't want her to feel rushed or pressured; anything like that. I often take her out on the weekends and search for any opportunity to bond with her but still, she seems to take exception to me and always asks for my husband instead. Is there anything I can do about this or is this normal? Edit : Thanks for the feedback, really appreciate the reassurance.

My brother and I are co owners. A few months ago we noticed black mold om the cieling in one of our bathrooms. I was worried that our dogs would get sick, but he wasnt worried at all. After a few days we got in an argument, and I convinced him to let me replace the cieling with mold on it. When we first moved in I noticed there were dark splotches on the linoleum around one of our toilets. I just recently suspected it s more black mold. My dock had been scratching her self a little more lately, and he eyes have been real watery. I took her to the vet, and they told me it was an environmental allergy. They gave me some antibiotics wich worked, but a couple days after I stopped using them, and her symptoms mostly came back. I told my brother I think she is reacting to mold. I haven t even told him about the mold around the toilet, because I know hed freak out on me, and tell me I m worrying too much. I was thinking of not even bothering and just move back to my moms, or should I just get in a fight with him, and hire a proffessional to take care of it regardless of what he thinks?

I didn't want to be having to give her more money. Her parents are cruel people and turned on her so I feel bad for her but not in a position to be her caregiver.