My soon to be sister in law gets married at 9 AM tomorrow morning (it s 11:33 PM) and she just burnt a huge hole into her wedding dress using an iron. She is panicking and we need a quick solution. She doesn t have time to get it fixed.

There will be some like my Dad who tell me not to dare attend for she (the aunt) is an enemy of the family. Others like my grandmother will demand I go for it is family and I will be begrudged if I don't. I have another wedding next September I am going to on the other side of my family for a much closer relative. So I hope to attend the one for the narcissistic aunt's son but if it is at the same time I'd rather go to the other one. Plus I live in Indiana and the wedding will likely be in New York area where they live. So next year as the wedding gets closer what do I do when all these ugly family politics are thrown at me when I am not even the one getting married? The cousin getting married is not the black sheep of my narcissistic aunt's family but also not the golden daughter who is loved by the aunt. Her wedding was two years ago and beyond extravagant. The son getting married is the "other child" who is not bad or good, just ignored. I am sure it will be a nice wedding though and he seems like he is still nice as he was when I was a kid and knew him more. As kids we were close though I was younger. After my aunt went narcissistic his branch of the family pulled away.

He was adopted as a newborn. His bio-mother is my Mom's cousin. I am not close to him as he moved away at 22 and has only visit twice in the 8 years since moving. Not a bad person, just not anyone close. As a teen he was bad but seems to have gotten his act together.

A good friend of mine is getting married on the 10th of November and me as well as the other 7 bridesmaids have less than a month to plan the Bridal shower. Our budget was $800 dollars but once we learned that she (the bride) has invited 125 people we now have no venue for the bridal shower considering that none of us have big enough houses to hold 134 (including us). I did however talk to her today trying to be as nice as possible and I expressed that the guest list was too big. Her exact words "Well it would be rude to uninvite some people after I've already told everyone" so she offered to give us an extra $200 dollars. So now with a budget of $1000 we were able to find a venue that accommodates all of us but it cost $780 dollars. Which doesn't include food, decorations, music, games ect so we're not sure what to serve or what to do being as we may not have enough for everything. The wedding is a week after the bridal shower so that's why we have to do it on the 3rd and we're all just lost so any advice or how to budget the money better is needed. I wish we had more time and money to plan everything but she literally didn't tell us she wanted a bridal shower until last week since she previously stated she had no desire for one. Everyone also has stated they can't afford to put more than $100 dollars in since we just paid for our dresses that was close to $500 and also just got done reserving and paying all the cost for the bachelorette party which takes place on the 8th