Family: Question: My cousin never pays anyone back.. Money Hungry?

Question: My cousin never pays anyone back.. Money Hungry?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 02:50 PM PDT

In 2014 My aunt had filed for me to get SSI for me and so we could get a place to stay because before I was living with my cousins , So when we first found us a house we rented in 2017 I received my first lumpsum of $28,000 we put that in the bank for bills and shopping if we needed we'd go to the bank Incase we ran out of rent money , So when I first received it I helped my aunt out and she ended up giving my cousin $700 and promised to pay us back and when she got her tax money she never did but her kids all had iPhones and new shoes and clothes etc and she was working a good job herself I wasn't working and I had received another lumsum of $17,000 and my cousin literally heard about it and offered to take me to the bank and out of nowhere I was her "favorite cousin" and she ended up asking me for $2,000 outta the kindness of my heart I let her borrow the money and she told me not to tell anyone including my aunt (her mom). Idk she was weird she'd always go to my grandma for money and her sister and kids and never paid them back. Must I remind you when i first received the money my cousins were jealous and telling me how to spend it and would get mad because I actually had the money to buy whatever I wanted the $17,000 was my and I have my aunt the whole $28,000 for the house and rent. Did my cousin take my kindness for weakness?

Question: 14 years ago this november I lost my kid in Iraq to a war I opposed to and the pain is still much. Advice?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 02:03 PM PDT

in november 2004 my 19 years old son was KIA in Iraq. He had joined the Marine Corps in 2003 right after graduation from high school. 911 had a huge impact on him. 2003 was the last year we really enjoyed together as a family. I have also a 36 years old daughter.After my son's death I was so angry at my wife, who believed it was necessary to go there,that we divorced because we really couldn't agree on anything. The pain was just too much.She suffered. I suffered. I nearly lost my job. It was really bad years. Around 2006 we both put our lives back on track and actually became friends. When I saw 2 uniformed men in their dress uniforms on that morning in 2004 I didn't wanna believe it. I hoped he was just wounded but deep down I knew he was gone. 14 years later I go on with my life. I enjoy my practice,my friends,my daughter but I still find that sense of void. Please don't suggest me to go see a counsellor. I have over the years. I needed it in those first years. Now I really don't. My point is: I try to enjoy every day. I really do. But when there is november or Memorial Day I just cry. Sometimes when I see a rainbow or a sunset I think of him. Who he'd be today, I wonder where is he now, if I'll see him again one day. Do you have some advice? I have good days and bad days and this is one of the bad ones. No one at work/home suspects anything. I just don't want them to see me like this so I ask you instead.

Question: Rude people?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 01:44 PM PDT

Why are adults so rude to young people and when the young peoplebare nice they think they can take advantage of them. When really they are smart and intelligent

Question: Is it normal for your mother to make you feel like **** all the time?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 01:44 PM PDT

And play the victim constantly? And blame shift and get super defensive? Is this a common mother thing or am I just too sensitive...

Question: Dad is alcoholic and last night when drinking he started telling me about how he regrets marrying a liar like my Mom. Does he mean this?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 11:05 AM PDT

How do I know if he means this or is just a rambling drunk? I am 16 so stuck living at home. My siblings go out with my mother more since they are younger. My Mom was mad he was more drunk then normal over the weekend so last night they went somewhere. I had homework and stayed home. My Dad started his rambling at dinner. He is a grouchy drunk so I don't argue back. We tried two interventions to no avail including one with the TV doctor known as Dr. Phil.

Question: My grandfather was an alcoholic and growing up I was not allowed to see him. My cousins got to though. How do I overcome the guilt I feel?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 11:03 AM PDT

I feel I let the family down and was disloyal by not seeing him until I was 15. My Mom lifted the ban when I was 15 and I got to know him. He died when I was 27. He was a severe alcoholic and remained so though softened some in his later years. He died at 67. I feel guilt 4 years after his death. I am 31. How do I get over the guilt I feel for the estrangement? I feel my Mom and I were disloyal and I am just as guilty as her. She says she was protecting me and I think that is true and so I feel I was weak and my cousins strong. I am an only child. How do I get over the guilt of failing my Mom's family and my grandfather?

Question: My Mom just revealed she is biologically my aunt and her sister is my birth mother. I was adopted. How do I process this, I am 19?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 11:02 AM PDT

She wanted me to know because I am doing the 23 and Me and she thought it might show. This means my real father is some unknown person. The aunt, now deceased, was a prostitute and big drug addict. She died in 2003 when I was four. I have no memory of her but am told she met me a few times. She had no idea who the father was apparently. My Dad who raised me died 4 years ago after a heart transplant. I am 19 and female. I am not mad or anything, I am sure glad I had a more stable mother then her sister. But I feel really sad not to have known the real mother or father also. My other two siblings, both a lot older (28 and 34) are biological children. She said that is why there was the age gap.

Question: How to make somebody leave your home ?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 09:30 AM PDT

First off, don't judge me. Either help me with ideas or keep your thoughts to yourself. I am going to start off by saying, I want my grandma to leave my house. Why? Because I don't vibe with her.. I feel uncomfortable with her. She's also very lazy and doesn't clean much. I don't hate her, but I also don't love her. I don't have the heart to tell her to leave because my mom really appreciates and wants her here, in my home. My grandma has plenty of family and kids to stay with other than me. That being said, I don't want to kick her out, I want her to leave in her own. Dose anybody know any ways to make her feel uninvited ? Any mind games ? Psychological techniques to make her want to leave. She's been here around half a year , so don't tell me to give it time, please. I need all your thoughts.. pls help :(

Question: Help how to deal with negative people???

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 08:38 AM PDT

Can you tell me what to do when you have to deal with negative and wicked people. Right now Im so scared I'm married and has two girls I share home with my mother. Because my mother lives in single house with 5 bedroom. My husband and I my kids took lower level. The reason why I stay with her is she been Habib heart problem and I'm a nurse care giver. But I have huge problem with my sibling who's acway order then me. She comes our home to check my mother every time she's there she hurts me with hateful words. She bully me a lot. Sometimes when my husband came home late she accuse my husband to cheated on me when his clearly not cheating. I feel like it's jealousy what makes your siblings act this way. I'm nice to her but still treat me like crap. What should I do should tell the police 👮🏽‍♀️ Please help me

Question: Is he being a jerk or a protective parent?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 07:44 AM PDT

My cousin has a kid, she's a few months old. He doesn't let anyone except for him and the child's mom to take pictures of the kid. So unless I saw the kid face to face I would never know what she looks like cause he forbids anyone from posting her on social media. If my son were to play with his kid only he could have the pictures. In a weird way I understand he wants to protect her and it's not like he hates the kid he loves her with all his heart from everything I've heard. It's just that most people have never seen the kid. He's very private. But is he being a jackass or protective?

Question: How would you feel if your son committed suicide?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 05:57 AM PDT

Moms only

Question: Is it senseless for a person to be embarassed by a “bad egg” relative who’s NOT immediate family?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 05:35 AM PDT

I was advised by an immediate family member to not to talk about our jailbird cousins to her stepdad, because his family is very successful and stays out of trouble. So I think she feels that she's competing with him, as she doesn't want him to look at our family in an unflattering light. Is she overreacting? All families have a black sheep, and if that sheep is not your mother, father, brother, or sister, there's nothing to be embarassed about. But you'd have thought I read her diary to her stepdad. It ain't that serious! Cousins are just relatives you [sometimes] barely know. And besides, you shouldn't give a damn about what people think about you or your family. When a mother's son is in jail, she has a right to be embarrassed. But a cousin in jail — it is what it is.

Question: Living with people?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 04:53 AM PDT

Ok so i live with 4 people my husband sister and her gf my husband cant work due to his conditions i got laid off so now im getting money only 1000 a month mind you i gotta pay rent for my house yea so im just making it by i been looking for the right job.but no call back anyways the two other people know im not working so everyday they leave the lights on and i always say turn them off before bed or you leave bc things are getting really really tight They leave it on they also keep the tv on while they sleep not only that its almost winter and its getting cold so i keep the heater on for 40 min a day then sometimes i turn it off or put in auto they get mad at me and turn it back on sky high and i say turn it off some days bc money is getting tight. They have jobs i dont so its getting erratated bc i know they want me to spend money in bills while they save and do what they want in the house is that right they dont respect me at all And i feel like they are taking a piss out of me bc they know i cant work right now nor my bf so they do little things on purpose to. Keep making me waste money is thst right what would you do

Question: Atheists, how is your relationship with Your Father?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 03:46 AM PDT

Question: What are the reasons to someone's parents or grandparents dying very early?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 01:47 AM PDT

Question: Suppose you die without a will and the judge grants your estate to your "nearest living relative"?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 01:21 AM PDT

The choices are a grandparent, an aunt/uncle, or a half-sibling. Which is closer, and why?

Question: How do you clean a home of negativity?

Posted: 30 Oct 2018 12:27 AM PDT

Question: My brother is absolutely disgusting, and it s not only him, its my entire family. My current situation keeps getting worse and worse. Help?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 11:35 PM PDT

My brother hasn t showered in a week. He hasn t brushed his teeth for.. what- a year? I am sick and tired of it. He picks his nose, he farts everywhere, he burps, and he smells horrible. He eats all day, and doesn t pay attention to diets. My family never clean up after themselves, and so we have millions of giant roaches everywhere in our home. My entire family is homophobic, racist, and sexist. Gays are meant to go to hell, all whites are the devil, women belong in the kitchen with less pay... etc etc etc. They just don t know how to get into THIS DECADE. Christ Almighty.

Question: Living with adult siblings, Am I overreacting?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 11:29 PM PDT

4 years ago myself and my three siblings were all living with my mom and step dad when my mom unexpectedly died. All of us were between the ages of 20-24 and after her death my step dad gave us the option to continue living with him. I am the oldest out of my siblings and immediately had to step into my mother s shoes in taking care of the household (cooking for everyone including my step dad, cleaning, grocery shopping...etc). My siblings did nothing. Eventually, one of my brothers met a girl and got his own place with her. My stepdad had met someone new and decided that me and my two other siblings had to leave and gave us a two month deadline to be out. My brother that lives with me now is on SSI and my sister and I both work full time jobs. Before we were told we had to move,. my sister and I was planning on get our own places and we were looking into housing resources for my brother but the short deadline that we received forced us to have to get a place all together. I still am the most responsible one and I do everything around the house that should be divided among the 3 of us. My brother or sister do not cook or clean and they look for me to buy all of the household things like soap and toilet tissue and their boyfriend and girlfriend are constantly spending the night over. I am getting fed up and can t help but to want to get my own place when our lease is up in 6 months. Am I wrong?

Question: What is mentally wrong with my abusive mother?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 11:04 PM PDT

I've always known My mother to be violent. She beat on us badly as kids with baseball bats, vases, even cut us . She was a drunk . She used us to get money from men. I have tons of horrible stories but I won't go into that just know one of my sisters ended up in a psych ward for it after she got older cause she never healed. Now we're all grown and shes never apologize( that's what hurts the most ). She changes the subject or makes up something to find it out fault. Or go around telling lies that we're on drugs. I know something is psychologically wrong with her because Me and my sisters use to catch her talking to herself in the mirror a lot . She's good at playing normal and using manipulation and talking about God to hide her craziness . A lot of people believe her lies . Is there a psychology term for this ? Could she be bipolar or maniac ?

Question: I'm sad bc no one wishes me happy birthday anymore?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 10:52 PM PDT

Question: I’m a teen living in a household where drug activity is always taking place and I’m sick and tired of it.. what should I do?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 10:26 PM PDT

Question: Does anyone ever cut contact with their half siblings and bio father?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 10:11 PM PDT

Question: I dislike my stepson....HELP!!!?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 10:04 PM PDT

My DH and I have been together for 5 years and have a 2 YO together.He has a child from his prev marriage whom I am beginning to dislike immensely.He's so defiant and disrespectful towards me and I'm at my wits end. It's gotten to the point where I leave my own home and stay with family during the weekends when we have him.He disregards my rules, he is very mean, like for instance, ill stand in the kitchen and WATCH him and his brother play and he will snatch a toy from the baby and when the baby cries to get it back he starts shouting that the baby is hitting him or stealing his toys. He sucks his teeth and rolls his eyes. When you ask him a question he completely ignores you until you Raise your voice. if he gets in trouble and you try talking to him he LITERALLY just stares at you not responding. I asked him to help me clean up some juice he spilled recently and he laughed, rolled his eyes and stepped OVER me while I was on my hands and knees cleaning the floor, and went upstairs. He ignores me,doesn't knock when entering my room,destroys his brothers toys, spits in people's face.I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to my DH about it and all he ever says is, "I'll talk to him" but that's it.I do EVERYTHING for this child that a mother's supposed to do, Buy him What he needs, nurture him, keep a roof over his head and food in his mouth,I'm on the verge of leaving my DH and I don't want that.Help! Also let me add, I love my SS, but I do not like him and his attitude.

Question: My Mom allowed me around a convicted sex offender as a kid. How do I remember if he did anything to me?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 09:20 PM PDT

I can't believe she did this. She was so negligent. How do I remember, 20 + years later, if this man did anything to me? He was an in-law of a relative.

Question: How do I find out why my Dad is not my blood father when he has long died and my Mom has died and no one is left to ask?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 09:17 PM PDT

I am 81. I did the 23 and Me DNA kit which I got for Christmas last year and learned I am not who I thought I was. My mother and he family are related but my father and his family are of no relation. Obviously someone else is my father. It listed the other matches, cousins, but the two who wrote back have no knowledge as to who in the family would be my Dad. I have 5 choices (a family of five sons and two girls). Even more choices if an error calls the 5 uncles but maybe it is cousins of this family. I have no idea the why's, whose, did he know I existed, etc.... How do I have closure here? Not that I care and I wouldn't change my Dad who raised me for anything. I am just very curious and wonder who knew if anyone.

Question: My grandfather was an alcoholic and growing up I was not allowed to see him. My cousins got to though. How do I overcome the guilt I feel?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 09:15 PM PDT

I feel I let the family down and was disloyal by not seeing him until I was 15. My Mom lifted the ban when I was 15 and I got to know him. He died when I was 27. He was a severe alcoholic and remained so though softened some in his later years. He died at 67. I feel guilt 4 years after his death. I am 31. How do I get over the guilt I feel for the estrangement? I feel my Mom and I were disloyal and I am just as guilty as her. She says she was protecting me and I think that is true and so I feel I was weak and my cousins strong. I am an only child. How do I get over the guilt of failing my Mom's family and my grandfather?

Question: My mom wants to kick me out.....?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 08:58 PM PDT

Today, I threw away plastic bags and my mom got mad at me. She told i have no respect for people things so i took i back up. Then she came in the room to clarify and asked me "do you understand". At first I didnt answer until she asked me again and then I said "yes mom". Then she said "YES WHAT?"Then i said said "yes..mom" then she grabbed my laptop which i was using to do my homework and broke it. Then I got mad and said "I hate you" Then she said " Then get out my house,get your stuff, I dont care about you anyway or where you end up" then she left to go to work.

Question: Do girls go through the same puberty as guys or is it diffirent?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 08:27 PM PDT

I have a twin sister and i asked a question earlier because im having a bit of a problem that i didnt know nothing about, basically i have this weird thing where i feel weird or uncomfortable around my sister for no reason at all one of the ppl who answer my question said it might be puberty and i just had the idea that maybe she is also uncomfortable around me and doesnt want to tell me to make me sad. Do girls have the same puberty as guys or is there any diffirence? (apart from periods, i know what those are im not that dumb lol :D)

Question: Real life question and this is for people who have half siblings ONLY? (people with full siblings DON'T ANSWER)?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 05:49 PM PDT

do you have half siblings from both your mother and father side? if so were you raised on your mom's side or dad's side?

Question: Picky Person: Please describe actions of the most picky person you've known & what relation they are to you?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 05:24 PM PDT

Question: My great-grandparents were 2nd cousins. Does that mean my 1st cousins are also my 4th cousins on that side of my family?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 04:40 PM PDT

Question: My mom says my opinions don t matter because I m 12, what should I do?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 04:38 PM PDT

I was arguing with my mom to let me walk down the street and I was telling her that she was too overprotective. She will not let me walk down the street even thoguh across my street we have 2 YOUNGER neighbors that do it all the time and they survive. She then said flat to my face that my opinions don t matter because I m 12. Any way to prove to her that they do matter? Also while at it, anyone have any way to deal with super overprotective parents? I have anxiety becuase of her and my dad verbally abusing me before he died back in June isn t helping either. My mom even keeps making excuses so my friends don t come over so she can keep me isolated. I need a way to get back at her and prove my point that I m not her little baby anymore. I m almost 13 cause my B-Day is in January. HELP!

Question: My aunt resorts to screaming at her kids when she needs to disciple them. Never does she not scream when mad. Is this bad parenting?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 04:13 PM PDT

Her brother, an uncle of mine, is the same way. My parents did not scream other then when they absolutely had to. Which is a better form of parenting. This is my Mom's brother and sister and their father, who died before I was born, was apparently a big screamer and used a belt to disciple as does my aunt and uncle (the uncle said he doesn't like it but sometimes has to).

Question: Am I Being Selfish?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 04:06 PM PDT

I want to move states when I'm 19, (which is in 3 1/2 months), my family thinks I'm being selfish and doesn't want me leaving. They're talking bad about me for it (saying I'm not old enough, talking bad about my earnings, saying I'm not thinking about THEM). I'm very unhappy where I am, my boyfriend lives where I wanted to move for a while, which is just a plus, my job franchise is where I wanna go, they said they'd be happy to welcome me and help me transfer stores. I can financially support myself, I'd have a job already, and I already have plans where I'll be living. Am I being selfish for trying to be happy? Of course I put my family's feelings in mind, but I don't want to live the rest of my life not doing what I want to do with MY life. Am I selfish for feeling this way?

Question: Dad won't pay child support and Mom says I can't see him until he does. He is unemployed. I am mad at both. How do I get over this?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 03:41 PM PDT

They are using me cause they carry lots of grudges through their bitterness.

Question: How do I get my sister not to date another felon like the last loser?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 03:30 PM PDT

Question: My Dad is cold, arrogant, and ignorant. How do I find a father figure?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 03:30 PM PDT

Question: Do you guys have crazy relatives?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 03:05 PM PDT

I have a younger cousin who super talented and creative but on the other hand he's wild and kind of crazy. Like he's funny, really smart but sometimes he takes it too far or not too far but he's just weird in a good way and like I love him for that. I don't mean crazy like mentally ill

Question: How do I cope with abandonment issues?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 02:58 PM PDT

I'm 17 and I have a boyfriend and I always worry about him one day leaving or deciding I'm not good enough. I know it's silly to be worried because I'm so young but I just wish I had a way or strategy to cope with it. I'm afraid of getting abandoned by my partner. My grandma died when i was 7, and then my two uncles (her sons) decided to abandoned our family so it's like three people abandoned us. I don't know if that's where it could stem from. It sucks because I feel like I can't let my guard down. My past 3 relationships have been abusive so i feel like if i let my guard down I'll just be hurt once I do it. How do you cope?

Question: Under what circumstances would you disown a fellow family member?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 02:30 PM PDT

Question: How come my father tries to secure his hopes and dreams through his children when sometimes we don't share the same wisdoms?

Posted: 29 Oct 2018 02:24 AM PDT

We also never shared the same realities so why does he act as though I'm a version of him when my gathering of my wisdom and understanding of the world around me wasn't due to what I've been taught through him...

Question: Any suggestions to find ways to get more space or me time away from my fiance.?

Posted: 28 Oct 2018 11:09 PM PDT

I thought of finding a new job, or timing when she is not home so I can have the house to myself. If she interuots my me time though I get very angry though I noticed. It has very very stressful lately since we moved in together because of finances and fighting over mess, remodeling, and clutter.