Family: Question: My mother told me that she wished she never had me and that she hates me. What can I do?

Question: My mother told me that she wished she never had me and that she hates me. What can I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 02:24 PM PDT

I am 14 and I just want to leave home :( I try really hard to be good at school and try hard to have friends but because I am not pretty I don't have many. Mom has never really talked to me or spent much time with me. I was always closer to my dad but he died 2 years ago and things have gotten really bad with mom. I tried to make things easier like i do house chores when I get home from school and cook dinner 3 nights a week and make the school lunches for me and my sister every day but its never enough. my mom just yells at me that everything i cook tastes like sh!t and that i am not cleaning properly. i ask her what i can do differently for advice and she tells me i cant do anything because i am too dumb. after i burned dinner last night mom told me that i am old enough to know that she tried to abort my pregnancy herself and it didn't work and she has always hated me and never wanted me. she said she hates that now dad is dead she has to deal with me. i was so stunned i said nothing. i then cried all night. i don't know what to do. i want to go away but don't know where. i have no friends or family i can really talk to about this

Question: What should you do about overbearing/annoying/creepy grandparents?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 02:18 PM PDT

My grandparents drive my family absolute nuts. For some reason a couple of years ago, my family thought it would be smart to live three houses away from them. They aren t just annoying grandparents like typical grandparents they are fully on creepy and controlling. 1. They will ask my sister why she was awake at 4am because they can see her light on from their house. 2. My grandpa comes over and knocks on the door LITERALLY once or twice (sometimes more) everyday. Doesn t matter what time either. He just comes right on over usually to talk about one tiny little unimportant thing, then leave. 3. HE COMES INTO THE HOUSE IF WE DON T ANSWER THE DOOR. Like one time, I was with my mom and we heard him knocking on the door. Neither of us wanted to deal with him so we just ignored it. HE KEPT KNOCKING AND KNOCKING AND THEN WE HEAR THE SOMEONE PUTTING THE KEY IN AND OPENING THE FREAKING DOOR. 4. They tell us kids what to do even if we re not their childeren. If we go for a walk on our own and they catch us, they ll be like "NO YOU CAN T BE OUTSIDE ON YOUR OWN!" Like, if we were little children, I d understand. But we re in high school. And our PARENTS allow us to do that. They aren t supposed to dictate our life. Or like when we have a little cough or something, they ll harass our mom about taking us to the doctor. 5. They are overbearing and constantly criticizing me and my family. I m not going to go on cause there s so much I could rant about but I m running out of space 😑

Question: Today I was late for my uniform fitting for my apprenticeship I was ill Lasy nightI keep blaming myself for it and think they don’t like me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 02:05 PM PDT

Question: Should I get in trouble for this?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 01:49 PM PDT

I'm a senior in high school, and I have a work release from school 6th period. (One hour left of the school day). On Monday, I got laid off, and all week long I've left early, but went to town to find an immediate replacement. On tuesday, my principal asked me how work was going, and I feel bad, because I lied, I said it was going good, and I'm worried she will call my boss to check in, and find out I don't work there anymore. I don't want my school thinking I'm just skipping, because I have huge plans, and I need as much money as possible, and I'm trying to get a couple different sources of income. I'm moving out of state once I graduate, and right now I only have $100 saved up.

Question: Do you think my night time schedule is good?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 01:42 PM PDT

Okay, here is typically what happens each night as I come from basketball practice. I'm a junior in high school. 7:20 PM- come home from basketball practice and shower 7:30 PM-eat dinner 8:05 PM- relax and watch some TV/play some video games 9:00 PM- do my ap psych homework 10:30 PM- do my english reading and vocab/grammar homework 12:20 AM-do my algebra 2 homework 1:05 AM-do my honors biology homework and study for weekly quiz 2:50 AM-do my ap human geography reading and homework 4:00 AM-GO TO BED wake up at 7:00 AM here are my current grades as a high school junior: ap psych: 87 english (regular): 91 algebra 2: 93 honors bio: 73 ap human: 97

Question: How do I tell my parents I'm dropping out?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 01:40 PM PDT

I moved out of state , this college isn't for me BELIEVE me they're bible courses type of stuff, I didn't realize this was how it was gonna be until I got here as I didn't visit the university first, There is no alternative options for courses but studying the Bible and I do NOT wanna waste my time and money here , but the problem is I have yet to tell my parents that I wanna move back home , I did pay for this semester so I mean , it can't be too bad but they literally have no idea how I feel , I never tell them anything about it when I'm on the phone with them so It'll probably come as a shock to them . How should I go about doing it ?

Question: What would you do in a situation like this with your mother?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 12:47 PM PDT

I'm 24. I haven't lived with my mom since I was 14. I'm going to be honest and say that I was a juvenile delinquent during that time and she was a single mother working all the time so she sent me to live with family. I had been abused my whole life (not by my mother), but I've changed my life around. I graduated college from a prestigious university, finishing my MBA in May, and preparing for medical school to become a doctor in August. With all of this, along with a three year old daughter I just need help sometimes financially. But my mom refuses to help me with anything. It's so hard because ever since she moved me with the family member almost 10 years ago I could never get any type of support from her. We went shopping when she came to town to see me but that was the extent of it. Now I haven't talked to her in whole month because of an argument about her helping me with a donation for me applying to medical school because I have to come up with $1,000. She hasn't even called to check on my daughter. This is so frustrating. How do I resolve this?

Question: Why does family members hurt us and take advantage of us the most?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 12:39 PM PDT

It's like they have siblings around them or parents that always bail them out of life, so they don't have to appreciate other family or seem to treat you like your expendable, has any one else experienced this type of treatment? I am about to completely ghost it from all family since I seem happier and more peaceful with out interacting with them. Any comments or opinions welcome.

Question: Why does Psi Medium call everyone a troll?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 12:13 PM PDT

Question: What the heck is wrong with my dad?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 12:00 PM PDT

We were at church last Sunday, and my dad wore a pair of denim short shorts and a white tanktop. He brought a giant cooler of beer with him, and he slurping beer and farting when the pastor was talking, and he was throwing around empty beer bottles. He slurped beer and farted so loud no one could hear the pastor talk. An old lady called the cops to deal with him, but he just killed the cops with a beer bottle, farted in the pastor's face, and preached a sermon on denim short shorts and beer. All the kids and teens just laughed uncontrollably like a pack of wild hyenas, while the adults were so horrified their faces turned ghastly pale and they stuttered in fear.

Question: What do I do in this situation with my parents?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 10:35 AM PDT

So here's the story I am a messy girl okay? My room is a mess it's not disgusting there's just clothes on the floor and that's literally it. Over the past week my parents house has become infested with those little flies and it's literally just been downstairs in the kitchen. Today the flies are EVERYWHERE. They're upstairs in the bathroom, in my parents room and now even in my room. I have two pets in my room and my parents are blaming this whole infestation on me. They're telling me if I don't figure out a way to get rid of all of them and clean up my room that they'll get rid of my two pets. Now I'm 18 years old okay? I have a part time job but really I get full time hours meaning I work 30+ hours every single week. I work almost everyday. I wake up at 5 am to be ready by 6 am and I am then taken to my boyfriends house where his mom takes me to work around 9. I work until 5 I come back to his house and his mom bring me home around 9pm. By the time I get home I eat dinner, shower and sleep because I literally cannot stay awake any more. And this is basically everyday. I work Sun-Sat sometimes with a day off in the middle of the week which I use to catch up on some slee, make myself food, take care of my pets which means I clean them, feed them, etc. AND I also take care of my parents pets. Not only that but my parents always leave me a list of stuff I have to do which would cleaning and organizing the entire downstairs and sometimes basement. What do I do?

Question: How do I report my mom for endangering people at home?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 10:25 AM PDT

My mom has gotten violent towards everyone at home before and she STARTS fights all the time. She would, out of no where, start berating everyone and she has even grabbed a knife a few times towards my dad. and then she lies, she threatens to kick us out and she would manipulate everyone. She would then threaten to lie and call the police on us and would threaten us and say stuff like ' I have high blood pressure, if my blood pressure is high, i'll report you to the police', THAT'S RETARDED. Even though SHE started arguing with everyone. Several times she got violent and people didn't even hit or fight back. She would berate and insult me every day. How do I deal with this? She doesn't reason with anyone. I have told her that i would call the police on her and she said 'go ahead no one will believe you' she thinks because she's the mom and its her house, its ok to ABUSE people. She's EXTREMELY manipulative. I don't know what to do or say. She'll say stuff like 'i hope you die, i hope you get into a car accident' she has even made death threats. She told me she doesn't care if i call the cops because she'll lie and manipulate or threaten my family not to tell. she does this daily with my dad and me. My dad just hides in his room and doesn't say anything, she has grabbed glass objects and threaten to break it onto his head and grabbed a large kitchen knife, several times. And she has hit me several times, and i didn't do anything to her or right back. She has been lying and manipulating all the time, she DOES ENDANGER people at home, she's FOR NO REASON starting arguments with me and damaging her relationship and attacking me, and i do not know what i even did wrong. i have a sister, My sister abuses and got violent towards my mom and my mom treats my sister better than me. any helpful advice that isn't obvious would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Question: How to get revenge on my parents?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 10:16 AM PDT

Last night I was outside my parents bedroom, listening to them because I wanted to hear them having sex, but nope. Instead I heard them talking about other stuff, like how they see me as a disappointment. They do not know that I heard them. How can I get revenge on them?

Question: My moms friend son lied and said I stuffed his face in my breast? Am I overreacting or do I have every right to be concerned and stressed?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 10:09 AM PDT

My moms close friends son who was about 10 or 11 at the time lied and said I stuffed his face in my breast because he made me mad. At the time I was 17. I'm not 19 and it's been on my mind heavily seeing all these accusations that's been in the news come up years later. I feel like later they'll come back and say I did something to him because the lady and her son are very Crazy and weird. He also called me a pervert when I tried to kiss his forehead and give him a hug when I saw him, I was just saying hello. It was no harm. I used to call him my little brother/ cousin. It makes me look bad he said this because it really never happened. I've been overthinking about it and been scared because I would hate for it to ruin my reputation. He is a bad kid, and they allow him to do whatever. I do suffer from anxiety and depression so I do think I'm overthinking about it but still. I kiss/hug everyone when saying goodbye or hello. I am female and he is a male. But I never stuffed his face in my breast. He also said I'm always talking about him and like to argue with him. I stopped talking to him after he said I did that. He will run up to me and talk about me or call me out of my name and say how much he doesn't like me. When I don't even bother him. I've been concerned about it because I'm worried they'll come up with another lie or try and say I hurt him. I'm also a babysitter for other ppl, I hate having my name lied on

Question: Is a fourth cousin considered a close relative ?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 09:51 AM PDT

Is a fourth considered close ? Do they share the same blood ?

Question: My sister is addicted to her phone what should I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 09:45 AM PDT

My 19 year old sister has a phone addiction, I'm 14 and I'm not even addicted to my phone, she is on her phone all day non stop. She's on Instagram all day, she's like a zombie. I can't even talk to her without her staring down at her phone, and she never really pays attention to anything anyone has to say. She's just isolated in her room all day just under her blankets on her phone and it's sad. She just comes down for dinner and brings it up to her room and uses her phone, that's how obsessed and addicted she is. What should I do about this?

Question: Is it weird that i would rather live in Canada with my dad than in the USA with my mom?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 07:38 AM PDT

They are divorced. I would rather stay here in canada with my dad. The USA is a joke. i am 17.

Question: My mother always makes fun of me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 06:15 AM PDT

I don't know what to do. My sister is really pretty and so is my mom and they get on well. But she and my mom always pick on me because boys don't like me and i am not pretty like them. my mom says things like i am ugly and no man will want me if i don't fix my ugly face. she is telling me to get botox but says that even that couldn't fix what is 'fundamentally gross'. I don't know what to do. when i spoke to dad (who doesn't live with us) he said teenage girls are a pain in the a@@ and i should stop being so difficult. but i am not difficult. i don't go out or fight or do anything except read. i am so depressed and feel lost. please i need some advice

Question: My father keeps insulting me and hurting me. What do I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:51 AM PDT

I am 14 and I don't know what to do. My father usually won't talk to me but when he is angry he calls me a f@ggot and pu$$y and tells me I am an embarrassment to him and the whole family. I am not even gay. But I am not into sports like him thats all i can think of. When he is really angry he doesn't hit me, but because he is so much bigger than me he will throw me around or pin me down and tell me to fight back. I know hitting would be wrong but I feel like I cant tell anyone its abuse or anything because he isn't punching. I am starting to feel really pathetic and depressed. i am skinny and small for my age and i want to get bigger but it isn't happening. maybe is that happens he will stop hurting me. what can i do please. i am feeling sad but i know if he catches me crying he will get so much worse

Question: Should I help my nephew who’s a Mummy’s Boy?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:49 AM PDT

I got married, moved out of my parents house, have a wonderful husband and two lovely children. My older sister got married with the only intention to have a baby; as soon as she got pregnant she got divorced. So - she lived with our parents in our house and her whole life was devoted to her baby. Mum and dad were dragged into it as well. That baby became a sense of their lives. He was forever in a centre of their attention, not allowed to do what normal kids do, overprotected to extreme. The baby is now 25... Sadly grandparents passed away and now his mother feels that he HAS to stay with her! Because she doesn't have anyone else! She doesn't let him date, checks his payslips, does his washing, cleaning and cooking for him - omg! It's crazy! I tried to talk to my sis numerous times, but she says she knows best how to bring up her baby. I also tried to talk to my nephew who unfortunately was taught to do what mum says. Seriously.... I see a young guy having his life ruined. What would you suggest I to do?

Question: My sisters birthday is next week -should I feel bad about not wishing her happy birthday?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:48 AM PDT

My and this sister used to be very close. However lately we have drifted further apart - which Im ok with I dont care if I have a relationship with her or not to be honest. She has always been there for me in the past but this time she really let me down. We havent spoken in about 2 months due to our last phone conversation - we never ever fight but this time I just couldnt stand it anymore. Without going in to the details, I told her about something bad that had happened to me and she flat out refused to believe it happened as she is friends with this person too. I wasnt asking her to take sides but I asked her to at least acknowledge that what that the person did to me was bad. She refused as she is friends with them too. It pissed me off that she couldnt even ackowledge how i was feeling. Her birthday is coming up next week and I dont feel like sending her a card w(which we do ever year - a really special handmade card with special messages). She let me down so bad and I dont want her to think everything is ok between us cos its not. She essentially said that what happened to me didnt matter, even though I was always there to support her when she called me with a problem. Should I feel bad for not sending her a card? She has not tried to reach out to me since we stopped talking.

Question: Should I travel 5 hours to attend family event when family never visit me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:24 AM PDT

So Im currently living away from my entire immediate family, about a 5 hour journey up the country. I had to move for work about 2.5 years ago and have lived this far away ever since. I am the only one in my family that is living this far away. Long story short - my older sister - who has not once in the 2 years since I moved up here, even so much as phoned me to ask how I was getting on, let alone visit me up here, has asked me to go to her one year olds birthday party - 5 hours away back down the country where they all live.. I was never close to this sister in question but I have become very distant from my family over the last couple of years anyway. I dont care that they dont call or try to visit but this should mean I shouldnt have to either. One time, That aforementioned sister was visiting the Zoo in my city with her kids and hadnt even contacted me to meet up for a coffee - I dont care that they didnt but again, why should I bother with them when they dont with me? Im happy with my life away from them - also every family event we have is just dull and uncomfortable. They dont drink alcohol so when I have a glass of wine I get judgmental looks from people - yes really. Why should I make a 5 hour journey down to see them. I feel bad cos its like something I *should* do and I have obliged in the past but Im sick of it to be honest. Am I wrong for not going to the 1 year olds party who wont even know Im there and who I have no relationship with? (Sorry for the essay)

Question: Is it okay to be idle person ?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:05 AM PDT

I am 21 and have completed my college but I do not have any job. I survive on my parent's money and house. My work is just watching TV, eating delicious foods, playing with my little cousins, doing one-day trips with relatives etc. Should I be ashamed or not ? Do people hate me because I am idle ? Am I the only idle person in this world ? Is it really bid deal ?

Question: Can my sister be arrested for assault and battery on our father even though it has been 11 years since the incident?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:24 AM PDT

She is cruel and demanding and narcissistic. I wanted to see about having her arrested for the 2007 incident. Our parents just enable her. She was 15 at the time of the attack. She has not changed and still abuses our parents though not physically anymore.

Question: My mom keeps telling me I am a sl*t, ugly & stupid. What should I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:14 AM PDT

I am 16 and live alone with my mom. I never knew my dad. My mom has never been the nicest to me, except when I pretend to be interested in the shows she likes, which I try and do a lot because she is at least civil when I sit with her. She doesn't hit me much anymore but she always tells me how stupid I am. I try really hard at school but can't get better than Bs and Cs. I am not the prettiest girl either, a bit chubby, freckles, glasses etc and she keeps telling me I am going out of my way to look ugly and she is embarrassed to be seen with me. I try and ask her for advice to try and look better but she tells me I am hopeless and just have to hope I get surgery when I am older. That really hurts. Lately she is telling me I look like a wh0re. I don't get it, I know the girls at school who dress like that and I am really plain. I never show cleavage etc and don't wear make up because i am too nervous people will make fun of me. I don't know what to do, I am feeling so depressed all the time. I don't have any real life friends and when I asked my uncle about it he told me that teenage girls are just pains in the neck and mom is single and I should understand how difficult things are for her. But I don't make things difficult. I don't drink or smoke or fight with her or anything. I don't understand and I just feel like people will think I am gross my whole life :(

Question: Is it possible for a 47 year old father to have a 8 year old son?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:01 AM PDT

Question: Caught my dad cheating, what do I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 12:43 AM PDT

So about 3 years ago when I was 15 my mom caught my dad cheating on her and they split up. I ended up living with my mom for about 2 years until last year she moved away to live with her new boyfriend across the country and I decided to stay home. I hadn't talked to my dad as much anymore but had no option but to move in with him when she left. I've lived with him just over a year now (and my step family now as he married the other woman) and things have been going well until we took a trip this week just us 2, I noticed he had been talking to someone a lot and I saw him sending hearts to not my step mom. I knew it was probably happening again so I went on his phone after he fell asleep and sure enough he has had another girlfriend for the past couple months already. (Over 2 months of texts and pictures of them together) So what do I do? Do I tell my step mom? Do I confront him about it? Do nothing? I know if they break up I will lose my last place to live and have to move away with my mom probably which really sucks as I'm still 18 now. Although I know I should do something as my step mom deserves way better than him! Any advice would be nice, hard times I must say :(

Question: My mother told me she hates me. What do i do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 12:13 AM PDT

My mom and I have never gotten on well. she loves my half brother and treats him very different to me. like once he failed a test and she scolded him but when i got a C she hit me and told me that if i want to get anywhere in life i have to stop being stupid. i was 10 when that happened. when i got older she kept saying stuff like 'why are you trying to look like a sl*t' and when i would say i am not she would say something like 'guess u don't even have to try and u look like a wh0re'. i am 15 and we just had a big fight over something stupid and she told me she hates me and always has. when i asked her why she just told me i am a stupid c*nt and she never wanted me. i think it might be because i remind her of my dad who left both of us. my brothers dad has left too so its just the three of us. i feel so sad and lonely. i don't have many friends and always feel alone. i don't know who to talk to because there is no-one else in my life and i feel stuck inside this life and house and i am so sad. i don't feel like i will ever have a happy life and everyone will think i am ugly and stupid. i don't know what to do

Question: Why did my mom hit me and say don't get fat?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 11:02 PM PDT

My mom is old fashioned and she said get cousin wanted to marry her when she was 14 because she was pretty. When I was 13 and i gained weight my mom use to hit me and she said no man want fat woman and if i smell bad then future husband will cheat on me. Like I want to look good but 13 too young and why mom was so aggressive? We argue about this and mom is hard on herself to look good. Mom is in her 40s.

Question: My father feels like the world owes him?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 10:04 PM PDT

My father is a great man who accepts all gay people( I am gay). However, now that am I older and visit home sometimes I realize he feels owed by the world. For example, if I don't talk to him about business related topics he gets offended. Typically when I visit home he asks me what did I buy him? I say nothing and he says why not have I been a bad father? When we have dinner at the table he normally gets upset if I talk to someone else and gets stressed out if I don't fully devote to him and serve him. He also makes plans when he gets old for his children to give him money. I cannot visit his house and read a book in front of him he feels disrespected. How do I deal with a father who wants full attention when I have other things going on in my life?

Question: Mom and stepdad divorced, stepdad Harrassing me and want him to stop?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 09:50 PM PDT

My mom and stepdad divorced and my stepdad doesnt like me. My mom forced him to pay for my quinceanera dress and my ceremony because he said he would a while ago. They divorced over the summer while I was at my birth dad's house and my dad stole my quinceanera dress and is sending videos of him nutting on the dress, one was his brother and a couple times his friends, they were all starting at pictures of my quince of me in my dress while doing this. Idk if my stepdad secretly likes me or hates me so much he wants to make me feel bad...idk I told him to stop and called police but police said to get no contact order

Question: Why are there glass eggs appearing in my house?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 09:17 PM PDT

My mom, my brother and I moved into my dad's house around 2-1 months ago. My mom jokingly stated to not touch my dad's black bean necklace being the "madlad" I am I, touched it. Fast forward to this or last month, eggs started to show up in the house. My dad, my brother, me and my mom doesn't know who put these hard glass eggs here. Could any one give us an explanation of why these glass eggs are here?

Question: Why parents doesn't let me be independent?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 09:11 PM PDT

So my parents are like old school strict and I'm almost 21 and I'm in college working part time and I want to go to a concert with my friends and their mom is driving but they won't let me go alone. They said I have to take my sister and honestly I don't want to cuz one the tickets are expensive and two I just want to be independent for once so does my parents hate me or what ?

Question: What does it mean when a girl say she wanna date you but she slept with many guys?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:56 PM PDT

Hey guys. So i talk to this girl and she told me that she wants to go on a date with me. But i know that she have been sleeping with a lot of dudes. She said she just want to start fresh, not starting a sexual relationship with me. I dont know what is wrong with her. I like her though but her past bother me

Question: Am I being selfish?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:43 PM PDT

I have dated/lived with a girl at her parent's house (I was paying rent) for 1.5 years, and she just started going back to college. about a week ago she decided she needed to "find herself" and be independent, so we broke up (she more or less stopped communicating with me). So I moved back home (which was across the country) but I came right back to Colorado because I found out I was accepted into the Ph.D. program I had applied for previously. We've decided to try things again, but she doesn't want to live together. About 6 months into our relationship, I got a dog to keep her dog company. I've grown to really care about this dog. We had this little family going (as corny as that is), and everyone was happy. Well, when we broke up I couldn't keep my dog at her parent's anymore. Now that I am back, her parents are offering to let me stay with them again (if I pay rent) because there's no real way for me to keep my dog as a single Ph.D. student living in an apartment. My girlfriend basically is maintaining that she doesn't want to live together right now. I understand that this is her perogative, but I'm starting to feel very betrayed. I think I am going to have to rehome my dog, something I never planned on doing. Honestly, I am starting to become afraid that I won't be able to trust her again. How could I ever think about starting a family with someone like this? Am I being selfish?

Question: Placing hand on mans but cheek while hugging. Men: would have noticed or would it have made you uncomfortable?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:32 PM PDT

Is grabbing a mans butt while hugging sexual? I hugged a family friend who is a man who is in his 30s or so, it was like the one hand hug(I am a female) and I grabbed his right but cheek by accident. I thought it was his back due to his skinny size. He had on jeans as well. I didn't grip it my hand was just flattly on it. It was like a good 3 second hug, Next time I seen him over a year later he acted completely normal. I didn't apologize when it happened because it was an accident and him being a man I didn't think it mattered. I hope I didn't make him feel uncomfortable or sexualized. I didn't grip it, again my hand was just flatly on his cheek. I was a 17 year old female at the time. I'm hoping he didn't realize

Question: Should you ask a girl how many guys have she been with?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:25 PM PDT

Like if she is your girlfriend. Is it fair to ask that? Im fine if she ask me the same thing

Question: I hate college. None of my hometown friends are here and I feel so alone :( what should I do?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:02 PM PDT

All my close friends from home either went to different schools or started working. Now I have nobody:(

Question: If you're the dying branch of a family tree, should you just cut yourself off?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:01 PM PDT

Question: Is it fair that my Aunt kicks me out of my room when her husband goes away to work?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 08:00 PM PDT

I'm 16 and i stay with my grandmother. I have my own room here but when my Aunt's husband goes away to work for a week, she and her daughter sleep in my room and I'm on the couch. Keep in mind, she has her own house, big beautiful house but she chooses to stay here when he leaves. And also, the couch has bedbugs and it sucks being bitten.

Question: I'm looking to get my sister into rehab for alcoholism. How do I do that when she says she is fine and we are making things up about her?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 07:49 PM PDT

She is an alcoholic but maintains she is fine and we are making up stuff. She is 54.

Question: My aunt likes to insult family members to me. How do I change the topic when I have to see her?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 07:48 PM PDT

She is very bitter towards her family but sees me threw my cousins. My parents don't speak to her or her children. I keep up so I can still know her adult children. This is the sister of my Mom.

Question: My dad is using my phone and I’m worried he might find something on me?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 07:04 PM PDT

So some people use to call me but I don't have their number anymore I didn't save their number and they r dealers and such as I'm afraid that one of them will text me something while my dad has my phone I'm really terrified of the thought of it what do I do please help me if my dad finds out that I've been in touch with drug delars I will lose his trust and respect for ever and surely I'll get busted so please help what should I do

Question: What is happening?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 07:01 PM PDT

I have a depressed step brother who was abused physically and sexually by his father. Even if his doctors say he's better. He acts very strange, most of the time he's just extremely quiet, you may be in a room.with him but is like he's not there. He barely says a word and I asked my step mom If that was normal and she said it was. He locks his doors, and he doesn't like people to get very near to him. He doesn't date, or talk to anyone at school. He's too silent, too apart. Why? I mean, I know his dad hurt him pretty bad, but his dad was killed in jail. Wasn't that enough for him to feel better. He doesn't.like my dad, my dad is trying to win him, but he looks terrified every single time my dad asks him anything. Sometimes, I catch him crying and some other days he looks cold. Why? He's 17.

Question: My grandparents do not have my little sisters on a schedule, spank them, and yell at them. What can I do?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 06:39 PM PDT

My grandparents (54 and 60) are the "foster parents" of my two little sisters (2 and 3). Our mom is not around anymore. I am 20 and live with them as well, and am attending the community college here, and have a part-time job. My grandma works long hours, she is a tax manager so during tax season she does not get home till around 11 PM. I take the children to daycare in the morning (around 7 AM), and my grandfather does not pick them up till about 6 PM. Him and my grandma are good with them up until night time. Once it is time for them to go to bed, they are very hard to get to bed (because they are not on a schedule). I tell them repeatedly they just need to get them on a schedule, but they just don't try. If they don't go to bed when it's time they just give up, until it's too late. Then they start to yell at them, and spank them until they listen. Their bed time is technically 8 PM, but when I come home from my night class around 9:30 PM. I hear screaming, yelling, and spanking. It upsets me a lot because I know that corporal punishment is in no way beneficial to children. It also upsets me because toddlers need 10-14 hours of sleep. They probably don't fall asleep till around 11/12, so they only get 6-7 hours of sleep. I understand that my grandparents are older, so they get overwhelmed. But if they just got them on a schedule, it would be so much easier to put them to sleep at around 8 PM. I would just put them to bed, but I don't get home until late. Advice? :(

Question: How can I help my bf realise being abused wasn't his fault and try to get him to realise everything's ok. It's harder said than done.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 06:25 PM PDT

I have known Levi and his brothers (Justice and Luke) sense age 4. One night I remember seeing Levi getting abused after hearing screaming and deciding to climb out my window... (I was 7) Levi ended up seeing me and he started crying yelling at me, worried telling me to go. I didn't and I ended up getting a knife out to my neck by Levi's father, which caused Levi to scream at his dad crying telling him to stop. Levi's twin brother Luke died at 13 after being stabbed to death by his father. Right after, Levi ripped the gun out off one of the police officers, (who just showed up) and Levi shot and killed his dad. Levi is my boyfriend now and he is 16. He is a very nice person now and has a lot of friends, but once in a while we get into a conversation where he gets upset and starts talking about everything and sometimes crying saying it was his fault. I feel horrible and I want to know how I can help him when he gets like this. His brother is like this too. Only good thing is now he kicks *** if someone tries to mess with him. (Lucky this isn't often but it has happened once or twice...)

Question: What punishment should I give him?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 06:21 PM PDT

I'm not sure what to do with my son. He got suspended from school today. He confessed to the teacher that he was sexually attracted to her. I don't know what to do. Move him to a different class?

Question: How do I apologize correctly without getting into an argument with my older brother?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 06:17 PM PDT

My brother haves a job, so like four months ago he buys this car. Pretty old, mom made a joke about his car. The thing is that he pimped the car pretty good, and fixed everyting. So, as I turned 17 I got my drivers license like, a month ago and I insisted that he should let me use his car to just go to the movies with some friends. I was so persuasive that he ended up giving me the car keys so I could go to the movies. Worst thing I ever did, I swear. I wrecked his car and he doesn't even speak to me. If it was my car I would be pretty pissed off too. Mom and Dad ground me, my brother as soon as he knew about the accident he was scared, came along with mom and dad to check If I was ok. Then suddenly after a few days out of nowhere he stopped talking to me and now we can't have a normal conversation without him arguing about what I did to his car, and screaming about him having to get dad or mom to give him a ride. I feel so bad about what happened. I even sold my xbox one along with my 17 games and some expensive jewelry to pay him back, but is not enough. So I plan to give him whatever I can to help him since he is saving up for a new car. How should I apologize correctly? already cried I was sorry. I'm a girl, what else can I sell to help.him.out other than finding a job, I'm on it.

Question: Please help, my Dad is drunk and my mother left for the weekend and I am here with him. How do I handle it, I hate this?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 05:38 PM PDT

My Mom and sisters left on a college trip so it is just my Dad and I until Sunday night. My Mom won't talk about when he drinks when I try to bring it up but he is a bad alcoholic. He is grouchy and insults everyone to me. He is never violent so my Mom says it is okay then. But I feel nervous and throw up every time Mom leaves. I am nervous now and have no school Friday. If my Dad is drunk I'll have to miss tomorrow and he is already throwing up. Mom left after she brought me home from school today. I am 13 and the only son in the family. I can't call my Dad's family cause they don't talk to us anymore cause he drinks. My Mom's family doesn't live nearby. If I call a friend my Dad always gets mad so I can't. I am stuck here. I am on my Mom's account here so will mark private so you can't see my name. I hope she might see when she gets home from UNC. I haven't thrown up yet but what do I do?

Question: Is my Dad a selfish person to be arriving late at his friend's funeral this week cause he has to work?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 04:57 PM PDT

He has no compassion it seems. Even my mother is going on time.

Question: When my parents insult my mother's side of the family I feel ashamed to be hearing it but they keep doing it. Why might I feel this way?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 04:51 PM PDT

My folks are full of hatred and their estranged from my mother's half of the family and use me and my siblings to make statements against them. We are banned from seeing them.

Question: I'm mad at my sister cause she always bullies and belittles me even as an adult. How do I feel better without escalating it?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 04:45 PM PDT

She is so cruel she won't even get near her autistic nephew (my step-sister's son) due to him being awkward socially.

Question: My brother is studded in growth. How would I make fun of him for this so I don't feel so bad about my issues?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 04:44 PM PDT

Question: Is it fair that I have paid half of every household cost for my underage brother, mother and myself?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 04:37 PM PDT

For the past ten years since my brother was 5 I have split every household cost that has included his cell phone for at least 4 years. My mother has always received child support and was always adamant that my obligation included my brothers household expenses. Rent for me is 800 a month and for her and my brother it was the same and I've never had any issue with any of it until now. I'm going through bankruptcy and mom was quick to add 10 or 20 dollars that I've "owed" her for random grocerie costs. I feel like I'm being nickled and dimed for small costs while I've contributed more than my personal costs for years. Is it fair for the expectation to have always been that I split costs with them and me 50/50?

Question: Should I get child services involved?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 02:54 PM PDT

My dad does drugs and is sleeping with other women besides my mom.

Question: Why won't my parents help me get a new car?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 02:39 PM PDT

I'm 17 and I've been driving this piece of sh*t truck for a year. Can't go anywhere else besides work because it will run out of coolant and start overheating. I have $1000 saved up for a new car and my parents tell me not to spend it on a car and keep saving. Why you ask? I have no idea. It's my money and I'll do what I want with it. They aren't doing much to help me out. Every time they tell me about a car that is for sale we never end up getting it. If my dad hears a cheap price he automatically assumes it's a piece of sh*t and we don't get it. It's beyond frustrating and I don't know what to do. It's almost like they want me to be stuck with a sh*t car. They don't trust me at all. If I tell them I'm going down the street to get food and I happen to take a while, they question me when I get home. They're always going through my room when I'm gone. I ask my mom every few weeks when she'll have some money to help get me a new car, and the answer is always "maybe next month". Anyway, why won't they help me? Even if the car is something I can afford ($1000), my dad won't even take me to look at it. Because in his mind every car in the world that is cheap just has to be garbage. That's what pi$$es me off the most. Being able to afford a car and not being allowed to even go look at it.

Question: Should I go into the military if I have a daughter?

Posted: 03 Oct 2018 01:48 PM PDT

I'm currently 21 and I have a 1 year old daughter, my girlfriend (my child's mother) hates the idea of the military completely, and does not want me to go into the military due to the risk of not coming back. That being said my original plan when I graduated high school was to go into the military but I threw it off due to having a child and decided to try school and working. I currently work a great job making good money and I also am going to college for cybersecurity. But I can't help but think of the idea of going into the military. For me I feel the military would help point me on the right path I can't currently find. If I was to go into the military I would go into a MOS that could provide me a career after serving. Should I go? I feel like I have a greater purpose in life then to just go to work and come home and pay bills, I want to be something bigger. I've thought of business ideas and all but I just don't have that type money to start one. Am I selfish for wanting or considering the military?