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I am in my 30s, been with my fiance for 6 years and we have a 6 month old. He has his friends i consider friends but we dont talk much. I have no friends at all. I talk to my fiance about my issues but he is not much help. I can not talk to my family about it cause it will make matters even worse. I am a stay at home mom and work from home. My fiance worka these stupid seasonal jobs or whatever he can find. He goes through a lot of jobs. We are having money issues and yes i know everyone has issues with money. I get out of the house at most 4 hours a week, and that is for dr appointments and getting groceries and thats about it. My fiance is a home body and would rather stay home and work on his hobbies and relax then going out. I need more fun and laughter in my life. I cant find a hobby i enjoy we hardly ever go out and i need help finding entertainment from home. The most laughter in get is from my child lately. Any ideas where i can gobto chat with people, and for advise and hobbies incan try.?

A family member recently broke up with her boyfriend. Theyve argued alot, she moved in with us. So she let her boyfriend takes the kids to his house for thanksgiving. This was all a play, he called later on and told her that hes keeping the children and that hell be going to court . They are not married. They both live in california. Any info on what she can do in this situation? Can she go to the police to get her children back? If so, how?

Has to get braces while living with the parent of full custody with my insurance.is there a way that child support can deduct the co pay difference i have to pay that my insurance doesnt cover?my childsupport is out of california ,but im in another state.

We haven't really crossed the line but there is something there. My heart skips a beat when I see him and I know he feels the same way. We don't flirt with each other. In fact, we remain casual. I'm attracted to him but I brushed it off many times. I just didn't want to develop any feelings. I see him about 3 times a week because we work out at the same gym. Is it okay to have a little crush on a friend? He is super nice to me. Advise?

Ok so I decided to go through my wife's computer while she was at work. I found a conversation on google hangouts with a co-worker of hers. in the chat, she states that her ex-boyfriends had huge penises. Also, that the average penis to her is about 7 inches and that she has only been with maybe three guys who were smaller. So she is a size queen. Problem is that she told me she is not. Mine is about 6 inches. I have made her aware about my insecurites with my size. She told me she was NOT a size queen. Her messages tell a different story and now i am at a loss for words. I absolutely regret going through her messages. I am tormented. Should I tell her I snooped? BTW, I have been bothering her about her past relationships and she is completely fed up with me bringing up my size insecurites. She tells me she is very happy and very sexually satisfied. However, I am convinced she has settled and is not satisfied. In my situation, would you admit you snooped? Or would you bury it deep inside and never let it out because you know it would cause an awful argument. Should I just believe what she says?

We are in our mid 30s. My husband makes almost $14/hr he gets 12hrs of OT but I don't want him to work too much or I'll never see him. I work at the grocery store making $10/hr. We have 3 kids and rent is only $800/month including water & electricity in a very bad part of town, yes ghetto but don't judge. It seems like my family looks down on me. I owe them money from 10 years ago, so they pester me even though I'm going through a hard time and trying to pay them back. It seems like my friends who are younger are college eduated. They have money and have nice jobs. They roll around in fancy cars and have nice houses. Me and my husband drive junky cars and don't have much. I have tried school I just don't have time to study since I have 3 kids and can't afford a nanny or babysitter. I don't even have family member that can help.

Usually people date around the same attractiveness level and get married around the same attractiveness level, but I've rarely seen 2 really good looking people getting married. It's usually a really good looking woman with an uglier man. Which begs the question, who are all the really good looking men getting married to? I usually see really good looking guys always single until they are like 40 and then they get married.

So, Been together 5 years, Married for 3. Have two kids. Trying for number 3 but, Keep catching him in white lies. Like him giving money to his friends who are in a in bind. Him going places with them but claiming he is doing errands for his boss or that he is at work but really he is at a casino or a friends house. He also will let some of his female friends talk bad about me. One stole from our house then went and told all her friends (on Facebook, of course.) that I am the bad mom lazy who doesn't love her kids and doesn't take of her kids. When called out on these lies, he either still denies them or claims I am a stalker and don't trust him. One of his female friends is telling him that its messed up that I don't trust him and don't let him go anywhere by himself. When in reality, I am a stay at home mom. Any time I wanna do anything I get told we don't have the money or that I don't care about our bills. I don't feel like he is cheating on me but I feel like he just isn't happy. I fear that will lead to cheating and when I tell him how I feel I get told I am ridiculous and that he wouldn't have married me if he didn't want to be with me. But lets face it how true is that? I don't wanna leave cause I love him, but I hate feeling lied to constantly. some days it feels like I am a kid trapped home.

I just wanted to see if she would do anything with another guy. It was a mistake and I should have just trusted her. Any suggestions on how I can get her to change her mind about the divorce.

Even though he didn't do anything wrong ? Let's say hypothetically I marry a girl fresh out of highschool she's 18 I'm 28 We stay married for like 7 years she's now 25 and I'm 33 she gets bored and tired of me and wants a divorce but I didn't do anything wrong I didn't abuse her or cheat on her we have no kids but she spent the last 7 years as a stay at home house wife homemaker she gives up going to college and developing a career to marry me and be a housewife I've prepared for this just in case ahead of time my friend who's a lawyer and I set up a full proof plan for me to come out of the divorce without a scratch not have to make any divorce settlement or alimony payments which does not require a pre nup Question is do I really owe her anything or need to compensate her If she decides to leave me on her own when I didn't do anything wrong Or can I take it all and leave her to live in poverty on her own two feet without education or work experience without feeling guilty If your curious on how I can get out without a scratch simple claim bankruptcy lost it all at casino have fake papers to prove it Stash it all in foreign Swiss bank account Transfer property ownership in my name to my brothers and then transfer back after divorce Claim some disability to work with doctors proof so that you don't have to pay alimony

While the answers pour in, think about your answer (which no doubt is your own personal reward that you want to achieve in your own marriage). If your spouse denied you this, or used this reward as a means to control you, how would you let go of this personal desire so you can regain control over your life? What if this "most rewarding thing" was never obtainable just so you can do "as you're told"? What if it was nothing more than a carrot, tied to a stick, so you can "behave yourself"?

I never call her names. I told her that it hurts, but she keeps doing it. She thinks this candor, bold, and up front approach is acceptable since it is describing my behavior and making me "think about my behavior". In other words, she's shaming me and forcing me to check my consciousness... Name calling is her ace in the hole. When she doesn't get her way, she can just resort to name calling and she knows I'll lose my cool and break down. Science has proven that words are actually harsher than some bone fractures. Bone fractures can be ignored once healed; but the sharp tongue people have can leave scars on the heart.

since we got married in a Catholic Church. I looked and felt very silly swishing about in the dress and am now a bit worried I might have done something really wrong.

drop the matter completely

Examples of behavior: *Speaking my feelings about how I feel she treats me. *Speaking my thoughts about the correct way to solve marital or parental problems. *Acting in a way that directly violates one of HER values/morals. *Acting in a way that puts me before her. *Anything else she doesn't like and wants to get her way on.

I am in my second trimester now. I am so happy that we are having a baby and my husband says that he is excited. I think he truly is because he seems very happy when he sees the baby during ultrasound. However, I think he has no nesting instinct... it would be ok if he didn't stop me from doing it. Every time when I try to discuss the nursery colors or what furniture we should get for a baby he changes the topic. If I choose something he always says it is expensive. I am not even trying to shop anywhere like buy buy baby but check walmart and target. I mean we are not poor people, his salary is over 160k/year so there is no reason to econom on your own baby. I am upset and confused. Maybe I am wrong, I do not know. I survived hyperemesis gravidarum recently, which was the most terrible thing that ever happened to me. And the nesting idea makes me so happy and brings me back to life. We have not bought even one item for a baby/nursery. The room is empty and plain white. My husband refuses even to paint it. We tried for this baby for a long time and even discussed IVF options but thanks God it happened naturally. Yesterday he told me that he'd never ever pay for IVF or any treatments to have a baby. He says that he loves me and it is enough for him. Isn't he ready to be a father? He always supported me before with this idea but now he seems scared? I do not know how to explain it. It just makes me cry... I have a good relationship with my mom-in-law. Last weekend we were all shopping in the mall. I mentioned that it would be a good idea to check on strollers during black friday since they will be on sale. His moms answer nailed me. "Do not buy anything, what if something bad happens that you wont need a stroller". My husband heard that...Maybe it affected his somehow. I mean who says that to a pregnant woman??

I care what my wife thinks of me. She thinks I'm acting like a jerk? I stop doing whatever it was that made me seem like one (that is not how I want to identify). If she thinks I'm being an a**hole then whatever I was saying or doing I stop (that is not how I want to identify). If she thinks I'm doing something rude I stop (that is not how I want to identify). If she thinks I'm being a "bad husband" I stop (that is not how I want to identify). My identity has been under attack ever since I was a child, so having it under attack in my marriage isn't anything new. I would do something I was proud of doing and my student peers would call me a name, start to tease me and ridicule me, reject me, then I would eventually stop so I would be left alone and they would accept me again (only to find something else wrong with me). My mother did this to me too. If I was playing my favorite video game (Sim City or Final Fantasy 3/6) then she would tell me that I'm being a lazy fata** and I should go outside and rollerblade or ride my bike (I was not a fat kid). So how do I stop having her opinions stop controlling me without disregarding her feelings/emotions all together? She's not going to stop name calling, because to her, name calling is her just stating the truth about my behavior, and we live in a country that encourages people to be bold and speak their opinions, so she's just doing what is socially acceptable (like - just sayin') But I'm tired of her hurting me... What do I do? Mind you - I don't name call. I have a difficult time even calling swbarnes2 names because I just don't believe in it. But my wife has very precise names to call me for every occasion. I'm not doing as I'm told - jerk. I'm not helping her with HER problems - a**hole. I'm not walking on eggshells to be politically correct - rude. I'm not doing something to make her happy - bad husband. These are just examples - there are PLENTY more names she calls me to control my behavior. And they all hurt.

we were married for 16 years, have 5 children all under 12 yrs old, 1 month ago i came home and she told me she wanted a divorce, i was shocked, so she left and told me i want you to have the kids house and everything, she went to stay with her mother, i still loved my wife and wanted her back, i let her know this, but was rejected, than i found out she was having an affair. i was mortified to find this out, so we decided to sign and file the divorce papers, its what she wanted, she told me she doesnt love me anymore, she signed a lease for an apartment and moved in there. her visitation is every other weekend and 1 middle of the week option, thats like only 6 days a month. my youngest is 3, there are all taking it very hard. i have no idea how am going to get thru this. i have to work full time and take care of 5 kids, what woman would drop her kids like that?

First of all, I am 34 weeks pregnant with his baby. He says he's always at work late (mind you he only does this on Fridays and Thursday's) and he definitely isn't physically interested in me anymore. He and I are usually very touchy feely, but ever since I've been big and pregnant it's stopped. It's not him. I've also noticed some of my pre-pregnancy clothes are missing. I'm now on Maternity leave. I just want to get a second opinion. Thank you in advance.

Your husband's haircut choice? Would it upset you if he tried something different and outside the norm without consulting you (but not before a big event)? If he did something you didn't like, how did you react?

We have been together before the marridge for about 5 years and now after 6 months of marriage she wants a divorce. our relationship is been for the most part we always had fun. neither of us have any drug or alcohol habits and both in shape. i own my own business and for the past 2 months I have been having financial problems due to the slow season. So to that matter my attitude was not the greatest and i admit i was an asshole because all my stress for work and the bills that need to get payed. It was 2 days ago that we had a arguments and now she told me she wants out. I have been really sad and I love my wife and I don't want to give up on her but she now says I love you but i am not in love and that is my feelings and she wants some time to think about it. I told her how i feel about her that she is my love and i am in love with her and i am sorry that i have been an asshole because of the past few months os my work stress but i am getting no were. So here i am confused and don't know what t do. she still lives in the house and i don't know if she is going to move. i have been writing her letter leaving on the bed saying how much i love her and been getting her flowers but i don't know what else to do. Should i leave her alone. what is the best thing to do at this time?

My boyfriends child is 4 years old. He has his child twice a week for 4 hours, and every 1st and 3rd of the month on a Saturday. He wants to get overnight visit how does he go about or 50/50

I am 23 years old and I have a guy best friend. We are like buddies since 2.5 years now. He doesn't have a girl friend and I was single too so the one time we were talking about intimacy, he told me that he has not yet have an experience of kissing yet. We were like very informal so I offered him a help in exploring it since I knew that we both are best friends and there is nothing else that can come between us. So I became his first kiss and ever since that he loves to explore kissing with me. We have become more like kissing partners. I let him practice kissing with me because I found him to be a good kisser and though it will polish my skills too. Recently I was at his place and he asked for giving a try at kissing under shower. That will be sexy, so I agreed, and we went to his bathroom, undressed and took a shower with lots of kissing under hot water. Since then we have stepped onto kissing and showering partner from being best friends, we still are friends only though. But the problem is last month I got married, and ever since after my marriage I dont really find my husband to be a kisser like him. I have not been in shower with him as yet, but I do miss kissing and showering with my guy best friend. I am visiting him tomorrow, should I ask him for a shower session now again , even when I am married, is it ok to have a shower with your guy best friend who you are not involved with ?

Waiting until marriage is so hard... I love my girlfriend so much, and I know I m going to marry her. We ve done oral. Many times, I ve come close to sticking my penis inside of her vagina. We both have a lot of self control, but I wonder. Is it really worth waiting until marriage now?

He works- I wake him. He showers- when I tell him he stinks. He's on antibiotics and nicotine patch - I tell him when to take it and he insists I put his patch on him. Why is he like this? His two best friends are both married to Japanese women and they dote on their husbands like children. I wonder if this is where this is coming from . Lately it's been worse since he's spending more time with his friends.

She texted me while I was work this long message about how she had skipped two periods and she was scared. She used to have irregular periods so she didn't think skipping one was a big deal but two was to her. She said she bought two tests and wanted me to be there with her when she took them. At first, she didn't want to tell me and worry me but now she needed me. All day, at work, I was stressed out. I was thinking about what we were going to do if she was pregnant and trying to prepare myself so I could be calm for her. Both tests were negative. She was crying because she was in shock and so relieved and said what she's said a million times before that she never wants kids. Even though I'd always agreed with her, I found myself a little bit disappointed because I thought about what could have been. I don't know if I should tell her about that. I want to but I don't want to freak her out because she doesn't and I'd still be okay if we don't have them. Should I say something to her? Like I think we should be open and honest with her but I watched how she was reacting when she thought she was pregnant. She was so upset. She went to the doctor yesterday and they said it was from the marathon she was training for but since it's over, it should go back to normal in the next few months.

I'm doing great now. I graduated from an excellent school, I have a good job, am married, and pregnant with twin boys :) found out two weeks ago. I met my husband when I was 25. When I was 23, I had a mental break down for about a year. Things kept adding up. I was sexually abused as a child by a relative, then raped as a teenager by a boyfriend. Mental illness already ran in my family. I tried reaching out to my parents but they didn't think it was serious. I started using drugs, but I had good grades so my parents didn't care. After I graduated, I didn't get a job. I didn't talk to my family for about a year, or anyone else that I knew. Heroin was expensive, I started prostituting myself, and was so drugged that night and day looked the same. I had a melt down on the side of the road, and was institutionalized instead. I had to get a lot of therapy, but I ended up being okay. My mom and I were talking, and she asked me if my husband knew about everything that happened when I was 23. I said no. She seemed surprised, and said, "He is your husband. He has the right to know." Does he really, though? It's not like it ever came up. I'm not keeping anything from him. I'm just not telling him. It's embarrassing, and I'm not sure what he could say. @Charles: I don't have any STD's. How did I lie to him? It's not like he ever asked. If he said, "Have you ever prostituted yourself?" I would've said yes. Again, I have been checked for every STD and STI there is, and I don't have any. @Luke: I'm not blaming my family for anything. I intentionally ignored them.

We had lots of fight after our marriage and in mid she become pregnant... after that i was asking her to shift to my place to stay with me since i don't want to leave her alone ( she was working in another place) but she was not ready to move with me abd she said her job is main than family , then i stopped going there to meet her during weekends....... i told if you really want to have good life come to my place an take care of you nicely but now her project got closed and she shifted to another place without intimating to me..... now i don't know where she lives ??? what should i do on this case ? please help ? also i want divorce her because we both are having lots misunderstanding and she is just running behind career and money where i am ready support her.,.... i hope i will get some good suggestion to handle this issue on my life, i am stressed out mentally now...

I have always been nice to my ex husband even though we are divorced I do it because we have children together. I have pretty much raised out children by myself because he cannot be around them unsupervised for legal reasons and he pays a minimal amount in child support every month and nothing else. He visits his kids a couple of times a week at my place for less than an hour and that's the only time he sees them. I told him I wanted to start doing separate holidays like the court decree stated and he threw a fit. His parents are also upset with me because they usually do holidays at my families house because they are nowhere else to go because they don't speak to their family anymore. He also said he was angry because I am going on vacation with my current boyfriend and the kids (my mother is also going and my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and talking about marriage). My ex husband yelled at me and told me he was done being friends with me and called me a hypocrite. Why and is he in the right for saying this?

Hi, I got married 6 months ago to a very nice and kind man ive ever known. I love him so much and I do trust him but something doesnt go off my mind. if he still likes the Bisexual girl friend of his he used to like before he met me. this is the story. before I came to the picture, they met through their common friend in a smoking pot session. they introduced my husband to her as nice guy and i do know the rest. since then they became friends. he knows she's bisexual. She's got a son and separated to her husband. I dunno how often they used to see each other and how much he's developed his feelings to her or if the girl has had feelings to him as well. but I guess that's ok as i wasn't still in the picture. now, when I CAME IN THE PICTURE. we were still engaged, he tells me things about this lady and I didn't mind it cos i thought men and women can really stay friends without getting attracted to each other or worse is to sleep together. esp. cos she's bisexual. years later, there were occassions that he shared things like, she rang and told him things about shaving and brazilian wax or you know personal girl stuff and he was so willing to listen. I didn't think about it and didn't try to put meaning to it.he goes to her flat cos the girl asked him to just to show the pussy cats and he goes with pleasure. She cooks him food when he comes over to fix her computer & so on as a payment. he didnt mind it..cos theyre friends..and i tried not to think or get jealous about it. e got engaged after 4 years of long distance relationship, got married after a year being engaged and spent my summer after the honeymoon. I met his friends and the girl.i like her and set aside the negative thoughts about them. We were open with accessing phone as we dont keep our passwords a secret, and even if there's no reason to open each others phone to spy. one day, as i was using his phone to change the sim card, i found out dirty jokes, just all about sex jokes between the two of them. or ringing each other, coming over to pick her up or offering her for a lift and he jokes around like a complete different person to what he is to me. right there i felt jealous and suspicious. I didn't tell him what i found as i needed more proof if how often they communicate. that entire stay, i never heard anything about the girl, never rang or whatever, where calling or texting asking how's wifey is expected from a friend who lives just minutes away from where he lives. i remember she mentioned she likes her lady boss (as she is bi) but i can't stop thinking that she can be attracted to my husband as my husband is still attracted to her. So, i found out some calls between a week gap and messages with couple of days gap. so i confronted my husband and told him if who really is she to his life. he said she's a good friend for years and said I cant stop being friends with her just bec. you're jealous. which is fine but. since that confrontation, he never said a word about her anymore.. it's been 6 months now since and bec. were still far away from each other, i dunno how often they communicate or do they still see each other or does he still go to hers and etc. I dunno what to feel or to think. he never changed his treatment to me but the only thing im worried is that if he does cover things well not to leave any traces to whatever's bet. them hough recently on a bonfire night, he said she sent a message about 3 pigs threesome. that's still sex. now, why?sex has always to be her joke to say hello and my husband reciprocates. that's my worry and that's what keeps on holding me back to move in with him in 3 weeks to start our married life. I dont want that when im there he'll go secretly meeting the girl and lie on my face just to avoid argument. and he said.you're my wife..she's my friend..but still it made me confuse. help. I know, trust him. and I do. but it's easy to say to others trust him period, but there's always part of your mind that might says, there could be something more why you thought about things.

I never had any intentions of falling in slow Cosby with my friend Erica, but the more time I spend with her the closer I feel to her and we still have a large project to finish together. I am not the typical person that thinks getting a divorce at the first sign of marital trouble is ok. How do I fall out of slow Cosby with Erica?