I just can't! it's not my type! I mean I just don't get aroused in the mornings, feels like my body is not restarted! but my husband wants to have it and I can't reject it and i fake it all the time. :( Is there anything I could do to be able to have it in the morning?

I want to clearfie this this is my X wife.

"H" is for husband, what I said is in quotes. (phonecall I literally just had with him)- H: Hello! "Hey...where are you at?" H: Driving up the street. "Okay, but where have you been? Its been 2hrs since u txd me.." H:(Goes on about how car texted me automatically while he was in it listening to music) "You still haven't answered my q...where have you been? Its been a long time honey." H: UM Yeah, I was just out at my car when it texted you.. "Yeah whatever you can't answer my question? S see you when you get home." He cam home and looked faded. He does have a drinking problem, but he never drives drunk. I know he stopped by his buddy's house to return his hat after work, but he could have just told me that. Why did he not answer my q at all?

I am a stay at home mom and my husband works. My family lives 5.5 hours away and his family lives in the same town as us. If, for whatever reason we were to get divorced I would have to stay 100 miles or less from him correct? In a perfect situation I would like to more back where my family is, but he's already voiced to me that he wants to be a big part of our child's life. Also, would the fact I don't have any income look negatively on me to care for child?

I decided to forgive my husband after see a clip of him doing things with a woman. Said I forgave him but really it's hard for me to clear what I saw in the clip (He took her to our apt to do things). Now every time we argue, I'll think he'll stray again. Idk, Im tired and so sick of those thoughts. What bugs me is he really didn't have a final talk with her in front of me to make sure that they are really done. If you have experience about this, I need your advice. Thank u.

So me and my husband have been together over 4 years. I am very insecure of my body. I am over weight. Not obese just over weight. In the 4 years weve been together ive never gotten naked and just let him see and touch my body. Ive been naked a few times in the dark but still cover with a sheet or something. However i let him the last 2 times touch and feel all over my body do whatever he wanted sexually. The first time he was hard but couldnt get off. Last night he couldnt even get an erection. What do i do. Im not sure he knows how much this is tearing at me on the inside since im insecure to begin with. Help any suggestions. And no he doesnt have a recurring problem getting an erection only once or twice in the past 4 years aside from these 2 occurences.

******* think about the kids. Wait til we can take care of ourselves. Then divorce. Not now. If my parents divorce I'm done, I'm not going to college, I'm moving out and cutting all contacts with my family. Not dealing with this.

I need sex with my wife.. She is never up to it anymore. When I get home from work and love up on her she just shuts me out and cares for the baby. I don't get why. She does nothing all day and I bust my butt for her. She gives the baby all her attention all the time. Never me anymore.

I sent them a message over Facebook just saying happy birthday /anniversary and my brother Imani s sister in law blocked me . I don t know if I should be around them now ?

I found out my husband has been cheating on and off for over a year with his ex wife. I'm not looking to stay with him I'm just looking for the reasons it could of happened. I hear cheaters cheat for the fun or attention, more sex and a bunch of reasons but it doesn't always mean the have feelings toward the mistress. In the cases that involve exes would it mean there must be strong feelings that never went away? We have been together 7 years and married 2. It's not like I started withholding sex so that can't be his reason, also we have no kids together so no time has been taking from him. I'm wondering if it was just he never got over his ex wife or would he have cheated with anyone just for a change? Has anyone been through this?

I'm a mom of 2 and a wife. My husband has recently become very dependent on me. Because of a lay off he's not working and I have been fronting all the bills myself. He was once the bread winner and we split everything evenly. It's been about a year now and all he does is ask me for money, says he'll never asks me again then asks me again 8 do everything. I cook I clean I maintain the house and I take care of children, he plays video games all day. He's recently turned me off with such kiddish behavior and ob told him he needs to get his S together. I no longer feel physically attracted to him, because as much as I do do him I feel like I treat him like my children. He always says when he gets back on his feet he'll help out more but when hE gets money I never know until it's spent. I'm at the point now where I just want o get up and leave but for better or worse was my oath I just didn't see myself taking care of a grown man!! What woul u do

My inlaws are still friends with their sons ex gf and so is he , he broke up with her she didn t want to and is mad but she still likes their stuff and they still like hers but they don t talk told see each other ? I m so confused , I wouldn t want anything to do with my ex would you unless I wanted them back ?

Why do women accuse their soon to be ex husbands of abuse or purposefully escalate arguments to try to get the guy to react and then call the police? It seems like a standard play for them to try to ge a domestic charge or allegation against the husbands in order to try to secue full custody of the kids?

I'm a woman with three kids Jasper, Benjamin, and Skylar, whom are all under six years old, my fiancé and I have put off getting married for many years and we've finally planned a date ( this christmas ) but i have many second thoughts, doubts, and I'm quite frankly worried about the whole idea of marriage, at least with him. I guess I could start off from the first time i noticed something odd, when we just started dating, being the snoopy girl i was, looked at his computer and phone and what i found made me laugh, i don't remember most of the stuff there but the majority was porn, and I had known that he watched it after some months of dating, but when i was shocked when i actually saw what he was watching. I was young and curious, and saw he had saved pictures, an websites of gore, gay, slave, shemale and child porn. I didn't know what that was being it was the 90's and i put it aside. by the find i figured out what it was we had already started having sex, and he got me into it, we watched it together sometimes, but he seemed to like it more than me. I asked him where he got all of this porn as i couldn't find it online and he said you have to go on the deep web. after a couple months later his grand parents died in a car crash, he started doing drugs/alcohol and was sent to a psyche ward. I wasn't allowed to visit him and recently developed my own problems, which was anorexia. i guess we both felt bad and turned to sex, i sexted random guys, started smoking, etc ... we both turned to sex and i mean lots of it, he did it with as many girls he could at the hospital, and i went to strip clubs, became a prostotute, even appeared in some porn. Eventually I recovered but when he got out of the hospital he started sending me videos of him feeling his pets, and started penetrating them. we also described his dirt feelings for his new born younger sister. he would send me inappropriate photos of her, and that was when i called the police, he went to jail for 2 years until his family made enough money to bail him out which put them in so much debt they had to move away a couple blocks away from me to one of the lower class streets. I would visit him and we would have sex and pick fights with the other people of the neighbor hood. i got therapy and so did he. fast forward to 4 years of dating, we moved into a two family rented place and we where considered the perfect couple. he developed some new fetishes like a baby one, where he wore diapers.. I wanted kids so we tried and had our oldest child Benjamin. He stopped dressing up, and started watching regular porn which gradually became less frequent. i was always worried because of our previous doings, after I had Skylar he proposed to me, and we had Jasper. I was working the night shift at 24hour pharmacy, while he worked part time as a chef. It was great, he started trying on diapers once in a while and begged me to treat him like a baby when we had time alone, but that only happened 1 time or so, fast forward again to now, everything is normal we are 25 and raising three beautiful children, i still have to take weight gaining pills and my husband has some problems, but we're actually a really happy family with three dogs and six cats ( Skylar and Jasper love the animals as do I) My fiancé hasn't touched the animals or the kids he watches porn every other month but he is honest about it.So, why am i still worried?

My ex husband has been investigated by the FBI twice in the past 3 years fro looking up child porn. They showed up at his house and confiscated his computers and electronics both times on two separate occasions. He has not been charged. I tried talking to one of the investigators about the details of the kids and he could not discuss it with me because of the circumstances involved. My ex husband swears that it is all a big mistake however during our marriage he was severely addicted to adult porn(that I know of) and that is one of the things that caused our marriage to fall apart was his lack of willingness to get help for it. We have young children together and I worry about him being alone with them. What are my chances of getting it to where he can only be around he kids supervised if he has not been charged? It makes me very uncomfortable when he is around the kids alone now.

My wife texted me today saying that she supposed to be going to lunch on friday with a guy she went to middle school with. But she wants to make sure its ok with me first. So I say sure thats fine with me. I mean its not like he a close friend. They went to middle school together and my wife is almost 40, so its a friend from childhood. No big deal to me. But her response to my acceptance of the lunch has me feeling weird. So I tell her sure its fine and she responds with, Wow no other questions. Lol. Well if you want to know who he is you can see him on FB and he is a Police officer now and his name is ... So now I thinking ok why would I have more questions? Should I have more questions? Just seemed weird how she responded. Am I over thinking all of this now?

Divorce in Texas, suicidal tendencies TRO was filed on wife. Wife moved from Texas to California. Temp court order restricts children from leaving county. Wife left w/o the kids & not willing to move back. Father had the two kids(ages 18mnths born in Texas & 4yrs born in California) for approx 9 of last 12mnths. The fathers grandma(aged 66) is kids daily caretaker during fathers work. Social home study was in wifes favor to move kids to Cali & limit the fathers access to 45 days during the summer. Study claims it was due to the kids young age & needing their mother although they have spent most of the time with the father & almost their entire lives in Texas it claimed wifes sister is a teacher & is better caretaker due to her age(27yrs) although 1yr old will need daycare in Cali

I am a very creative person with a vivid imagination. I can see situations from more than just my perspective and I can even create more perspectives using a chain of "what if" thoughts. Some people might call this "over thinking" but it is just me exploring every option there is so I can exhaust all possibilities before I jump to conclusions. This skill has made me a great problem solver when it comes to objective problems (not so much with subjective ones). But I was thinking about how creativity actually HURTS traditional Conservative marriages. Tradition is all about doing it the way that it has always been done; Conservatism is all about making sure people put conserving the status quo and not rocking the boat. If you are being creative, you'll see the possibilities of how traditions are restricting/constricting and you'll be able to mentally play out all the different possibilities of other options. This threatens the very foundation of traditionalism because, to be frank, it's all a bunch of B.S. This includes 2/3 of all the core values you believe are true about your own marriage. I've put the pieces together and I've figured out that you can't have empathy without imagination and creativity too; after all, how can you know what someone else is thinking or feeling without using your imagination? But creativity seems to have a dark side too. You can't have anxiety (fears) without a vivid imagination too. But I want your thoughts, what do you think? Do they go well?

Hey guys, This is the first time I am using this, but I am desperate for some help here. I have been married for almost a year, and dating for even longer. Most of the time we were dating (When it was getting serious), and all of the time throughout or marriage, my wife has always asked me (Usually once a day, but sometimes she can ask multiple times per day, or may not ask for several days) if I am upset at her or mad at her. Its gotten to the point that whenever she asks me, I start to get upset (I've told her for the past year that I'm not upset or angry) and then she says "See?? You're mad at me right now!" It's a catch-22 and I don't know what to do. I can almost cry. When shes asks me these questions, 99% of the time I am NOT mad at her at all - and they seem to come out of nowhere! I have asked her why she feels I am upset or mad - it doesn't work. She just says "I don't know, you just seem like you are!" Also, she has really bad anxiety - she is on medication for that. I know it has something to do with that, but if I tell her that - I'm sure she'd be upset that I brought up her anxiety.

When I asked he gave me no explanation , so I became suspicious I read his messages and turns out he was talking to three other girls and he claimed he never cheated and that he has a problem and that he always wants attention and that I never gave him that in which case I d give all the attention I could.. He s in the navy as well, So as soon as I found this out he s on deployment rn by the way I told him to not message me anymore because it s only hurting me and he replied saying that" I m still his wife and I will remain contact with you,until the divorce is finalized then you can be finished , but you can t just cut off communication because you want to I don t do it to you" I love him very much but I m so confused everything was perfect before he left and it s barely been 5 days and I figure this out please give me your insight.

I waited until marriage and lost my virginity. I have been married 3 months. Me and my husband been trying lots of new things in bed. At first sex was painful but now I LOVE IT! Last night I tried this new position my husband where I was on top. My husband is not very vocal as I am in bed . He will just moan low and deep. Last night he was really loud and I don't know if he really enjoyed the position or if he was faking it! His mom stays with us and this morning she said "I overheard you two having a little fun last night" I was so embarrassed but she validated how lour it wss. I just feel like he was faking it because he never moans that loud. I asked him and he acted like I was crazy. And said no he really enjoyed it but he was super red in the face as if he was lying? Guys have you faked an orgasm? Does is sound like my husband faked it?

my wife has never had a orgasm in her life we have tried everything oral massages ******* slow I mean everything Its not me I ve gotten my last gf and my bm off when we were togather I just wanna give my wife a mind blowing orgasm please someone I need advise on what to do

His wife is continually disrespecting her husband

i am from Pakistan belong to a strcick islamic family, i was in love with her for four years, and then engaged, i am 23 and she is 20 she cheated on me for a rich man aged 35. due to which i left mobile contact with her and now parents are arranging marriage. i dont know what to do cant refuse due to strickness and also dont want her, she apologized and said she will never do that again but still she is a cheater. i am totally confused what should i do? if i wasnt addviced i will drink all the night and never go to my room, please tell me what to do and excuse my english as its my 5th language.

I separated from my ex because I found out she had another man's baby and tricked into raising her by making me believe it was mine ..I needed some time apart to process this information because I was not able to living with her I just kept getting angrier and angrier over the deception it took having some space for me to realize that it doesn't matter to me that I can raise her as my own and it doesn't matter but now the mother says she doesn't want to work it out that she just wants child support and that's it I want her to understand that this information was just a lot to take and I didn't want to end it I just needed to stop away to process it but she's not willing to work on things. Any advice?

Obviously this is a problem with ME but this (without a doubt) is affecting my marriage with her since this makes me just as unstable as she is. How do I stop "syncing" with her thoughts and feelings so I can live my life WITHOUT her approval, acceptance, or admiration?

I love how the answers so far are using the wife as an example instead of me; this is sexism at its best folks. I'm going to have a confession - I probably over-react and over-think more than her - so how do I catch myself doing this before it gets out of hand? And how do I catch her doing it before it gets out of hand? .......but seriously, that sexism was a bit funny; just goes to show how much you believe the B.S. on TV like I do/did....

She was very trim, and active in college. We've been married for many years, and have three kids, so I can understand that she has some excess weight from pregnancies, but our youngest is six years, and she seems to have little interest in losing the extra weight. I am very concerned about her future health, as is our doctor.

We went to a homeless shelter as a family and he caught feelings for another girl who is homeless too. He's about to be 44, she's 25 and I'm 28. Well he stalked her for a while , went to abandons houses. I don't know what to do but my love has died. He is also getting the same tattoo she has in the same area she has it , and we'll some people find it creepy others say it's true love? What do you think?

He wants to get the same tattoo in the same area as the girl he has feelings for . I find it creepy he also post online that he misses her ( she's in a homeless shelter right now). And we'll I have this pain that won't go away no matter what I do . I feel like slowly I'm dying. But is it weird the while tatto thing , everyone tells me it is.

I feel like a lot of men are no longer wanting to get married, as well as a lot of women, but mostly its a trend amongst men. Most recent college graduates aren't able to get good careers going because of the bad economy and both young men and women are living with their parents until later. And it seems like most guys seem to only want sex these days and not any commitment. I feel like marriage is no longer appealing to men because of divorce laws as well and men are afraid to lose their kids and money in divorce. How can women make marriage more appealing to men?

What should I do.. my husband is verbally abusive..and sometimes physically abusive.. I have no where else to go ..im disabled..just need help to figure out what I need to do