I have never posted my personal life or told any of my closest friends because I m a little embarrassed but I need advice desperately😟 I ve been in a relationship for 3 yrs we ve had our ups and downs but what couple doesn t rite? Neway financialy my Bf takes care of majority of the bills and I m left with the minor things and I do work as a aesthetician and always had my own things. 2 yrs ago my car broke down so he insisted since he has 2 cars I can drive one and save my money and then after we decided to move in together. But since then I noticed my Bf being a little controlling and abusive verbally, he has a bad temper and when really mad at me he takes away material things including the car so I can t get to work or do my daily activities and since it s his I can t really do much... I ve been really going through it with this man to the point I m giving up,we are not married which is another story and really getting fed up, we have seeked professional help but after 2 sessions he gave up, he is a scorpio and my first time dealing with one but I feel like I m at the end of the ride and don t want to get back on. Has anyone else been down this road? The only good thing I can say he doesn t hit me but I swear what I m going through feels just as bad, Help!

I know it's "normal" but I just don't like how it looks. It actually disgusts me. I have been fingered before and he didn't say anything but he never actually saw it either. I have a bf now and I know he's gonna wanna see me down there. I just don't want him to see my ugly vagina, It's like brown along the edges and really wrinkly & long and flappy. I just want it off. It bothers me way too much! I wanna save up to get Labiaplasty but I'm only 16 & u probably have to be 18 to go alone bc I don't want to tell my parents. I just really hate it a lot i think it's the ugliest thing ever. :(

I'm twenty years old and I have been with the same guy for two years and hee the only guy I've been with and vice versa. A couple of days ago, we had sex and everything was fine. We did it a second time and I had to tell him to stop because it was hurting me. Ever since then, my vagina has been tender in and around it and it itches and has a slight burning pain. I'm wondering if anybody else has expierenced this? And if so, what it was and what was done about it. I've never had a yeast infection and I keep myself clean. Any advice would help!

Can the husbadn claim abandonment? She is planning on going back and getting them once she gets a house.

So there is this lady who I believe is a lot older than she looks. I think she is flirting with me when she started her small talks. She would ask little questions about me here and there. I'm always busy so I am.able to get away. However, on our last conversation, she made a joke about kissing me and complimenting my muscles and how it seems my hard work is paying off. She is attractive but I don't really see her as a sexual partner. I have a strong feeling our age gap is more than 10 years because she refers to herself as a cougar. She has a ring... So I know she's off limits. How do I tell her that her advances are not welcome? Oh...she's a client.

We got married recently and my wife carrying a baby now..but we are not staying together due to various reason and am planning to divorce my wife since she is not willing to stay with me.... and i dont want to give any child support instead i need to get my child after 12,months from the mom, later point i can handle my child without any support from my wife ..... but i dont want to give any money to her to take care of child , is it possible ? also i don't want to leave my kid with her i need to get my child, what is the best way to approach this ???

My husband and I separated for 4 months. In that time I had a "work" boyfriend and he moved in with a girl and got her pregnant. Now, after getting back together and his "ex-girl" sending naked pictures etc. I am dealing with her visiting my mother in law. Seems they are friends as both of them live in Mexico in the same state. So my mother in law got to see her and confronted my husband for not paying child support even though the girl refused any help if he didn't attend his son's birth. He didn't attend so he hasn't heard from her. Now it seems that his sister and mother are trying to sabotage my marriage by being shady. They give her pictures of my husband as a boy and are friends on facebook. My husband has never stood up for me as his wife. I feel like if I'm overreacting at times and at times I really feel like if I should DO something. I'm at a loss ....

Is it the divided attention? My relationship with my wife was very brief before we had kids, but I remember those first 10 months of being together as being pretty great. And there were even a few times where my wife and I had time alone (not worrying about the kids) that were great too. But it just seems like after having kids, the whole "marriage" thing is just dead and in its place is a "family"... Our kids are now 13 and 9. I've been doing this "family" thing for a while. The "marriage" is long gone; I've made several attempts to rekindle it, but I can't keep her attention long enough.

I moved to the United States 3 years ago ...came here cos of my fiance..we got married and have 2 kids together..3 years down the line alot has happened. ive not learnt how to drive or had a job since I moved here I've been a stay at home mom.He decides to go to nursing sch in Maine 4 days after I have my daughter we live in Massachusetts.Hes not been helpful with the kids at all.I was forced to take care of my newborn and my 2 year old by myself after he left for school..now he's back home for thanksgiving but has still not lifted a finger to take care of the kids..I want to file for divorce and move out of state with my kids but I don't know where to start neither do I have any family in the United States..Am sad confused and lost.. Will be glad if someone can help me out..

My husband use to constantly text/email me while he was at work while on breaks. He would flirt and share his feelings and such. A couple of months ago, things went south fast, due to him sleeping with a coworker. I was shocked, didn't know what to do, but he has since cut off contact with her and she has moved on to another married coworker of theirs. My husband has apologized a few times, even broke down crying about it. I forgave him, and we have been trying to repair our marriage. Ever since, my husband has been super distant. I normally only get one word replies, or basic, empty responses. Every once in a while there is a small glimmer of him.....but not often. I know he's no longer talking to her....or any other woman at work. I know this due to having a female friend who works there with him and she lets me know what's going on. (Horrible to need a spy :/). Anyways, the other thing affected is intimacy. My husband just seems uninterested in me. We will start to have sex, but he will finish me during foreplay then he usually goes to sleep. He has no interest in satisfying himself. Sorry if that's TMI, but I think it's important. What do you guys think could be going on with him? Do NOT suggest he's still cheating, I know he's not. Could he be depressed about the OW and her new guy? Or, of not talking to her anymore? They had sex twice, but talked A LOT at work. Could he maybe still be feeling guilty and not know how to express that? Or, is it possible he just doesn't love me anymore, and doesn't want to tell me maybe to avoid hurting me? Idk what to think, I'm just ready to move past all of this...one way or another. @Jay, NONE. I've actually lost 20 pounds since the affair, though.

I don't need any liberal talk about marriage equality because a person can only create that dynamic if both people want it (and she doesn't). Instead, just tell me what you think would be a fair trade off so I'm not ending up doing EVERYTHING. My wife and I both have a perfectionism problem. At first I thought it was just her, but now I think it is both of us who have a problem with perfectionism. And because of this perfectionism, we are afraid of making choices that could end horribly wrong. So, up to now, we've just done what everyone else has done. The problem is with this mentality, my kids are finally at the age where the other kids are starting to experiment with drugs, alcohol, sex, mischief, and other things scientifically proven to be BAD. So doing what everyone else is doing is NOT the right path anymore. I am willing to fight against my perfectionism and make changes and decisions in my household. My wife, not so much; she still wants to not be held responsible for decisions and would rather continue to go with the flow so she can blame society for its bad directions in parenting instead of herself. So she basically is copping out and choosing to not "parent"... This is actually fine with me, I'll just be the leader, but I can't do it all without support. We both work full time and changes are hard (and takes courage) so what should my wife do to help me with the stress/anxiety of being the figurehead, enforcer, and the person who takes all responsibility?

My husband is getting harder to shop for as the years go by, because he buys everything he wants for himself. Can anyone suggest gifts for people who "have it all" already? - As far as sports tickets, he has a friend with all sorts of connections who can easily take him to any game whenever. - He doesn't enjoy concerts. - He already goes to a gym. - He has all the clothes he could want... I'm just stuck This is for Christmas, if people weren't clear.

I'm a straight female and my husband is bisexual. We've been married for three years and recently he told me that he had dildos, like butt plugs and things for penetration. He says that he gets pleasure from both ends and that since I don't want to use strap-ons, he had them in handy. Should I allow this at all, because I don't have any and I personally find it pretty disgusting.

I have already thrown all logic out the door. Every 26 days my wife of 9 years turns into Genghis Khan.I don't know how much longer I can take this. I know I'm no angel but she shows me no leniency. I've kicked out of my own house 7 times for the year. Shes so dramatic and loud about the most insignificant things and I never know what will send her off next. I'm tired of walking on eggshells around her. ... so, please tell me how can I show that I "care for her feelings"?? Help

My wife is 37 weeks pregnant and no one ever talks to me about it or asks me if I'm excited. It's all her. Of course we're both over the moon about becoming parents, but it took both of us to make the baby. Why am I not getting any credit? My wife is really irritating me too because she doesn't think I'm excited and I am. She keeps saying I'm not acting it. She's been irritating me since we found out. That's all she talks about.

I have been experiencing white discharge coming from my anus for the past 3 days now. I'm not involved in any sexual activity. is there something wrong with me? should I see a doctor? will it go away on its own?

I'm getting divorced after 18 years. I've been a stay at home mom for the past sixteen years. We have 6 kids ranging from 16 to 3. My husband wants me to sign over any rights to the house because he claims "I didn't contribute". My lawyer (which I hired) before he drained our joint account, thinks I should go for half value of the house, spousal support for a period of time until I can get a job.

Ive been in a violent marriage for a few months. I was very naive at first and really didnt know people like him existed. He would kick me, slap me, push me, trip me over, throw things at me, stand on my feet, yell abuse, call me names like 'social cripple', the list goes on and on, but he never punched me. In fact he would say to people that he couldnt stand 'wife bashers'. A few weeks ago he contacted me telling me he loved me, he's willing to change and we were talking about our future together, children and all that. I just feel so convinced and overpowered with feelings for him that I know he's changed altogether.

We are 16 & were practically best friends in 9th grade. Over summer we drifted apart (we were very busy with work & family trips). We were still friends at the start of 10th grade but not as close. But now, for the last 3 weeks, he hasn't seemed bothered with me. If I talk to him he will reply politely but with short answers. I start any convo we have. It hurts as he is one of the nicest guys I've ever known, he would go out of his way to do favors for me etc. I really miss him & don't know what happened. My friends & parents thought he liked me in 9th grade but I don't think he did & he certainly doesn't now, so I don't think feelings were involved here. Help?

My wife and separated a month ago I haven't seen her since and have barely spoken to her because she has just blown me off and have been so cold hearted towards me. Truthfully I can not figure out why, I really don't think she has been seeing anyone. Even recently I have been humiliated on Facebook by a few of her family members being so foul in how they express how they feel about me publicly which has been another battle I chose not to fight. We have been getting along recently but she doesn't want to come back anytime soon, and I'm afraid she'll hurt me or idk so I did something so horrible and I'm crying man as I write this, I allowed a woman over thinking I could control myself and just conversate until she jumped on top of me and I saw how vulnerable and weak and stupid and disgusting I truly am! I can't forgive myself and knowing her, she will completely hate me. I guess I'm just asking for advice if anyone would care to help. Trust me I know how evil I am I woke up all night in teats because I've never wanted to be that guy and now I am. I love my wife with everything in me and now I've given her a true reason to leave and hate me. I wish I never did this but I can't change it so any advice from someone who's overcome this? I dobtveven know how to confront her about this.

Recently, my wife and I had a deep discussion about our life together and have come to the conclusion that all this liberal dogma about marriage and how it's "supposed to be in the 21st century" just doesn't coincide with our mutual beliefs. We still respect what the leftists are trying to create for themselves, but this lifestyle just wasn't meant for us. Apparently my marriage has always been very Conservative; I was just convinced that it was the "wrong way to do marriage" by the liberal media. But now I have a different problem. I lack the confidence in myself, as a husband/leader, to guide my family into a great future... I am so unsure of myself that I question EVERYTHING before I make a final decision. And when I make that final decision, everything goes well and I realize that I just didn't need to overthink it... I'm not proud of this, I just value my family's happiness too much. I've read that self doubt is the result of a creative, fluid brain with a vivid imagination. I don't want to lose my creativity though; I just need to make faster decisions and have faith in myself (but how?). For an example: when I need to buy a phone, I don't want to "just buy an iPhone"; I want to make a quality decision for my family since I feel they deserve more than JUST "what everyone else has". But this also leads to my overthinking and perfectionism too... How do I find that balance between making quality decisions and ruminating over the PERFECT decision? Just because I'm asking a question that isn't filled with drama doesn't mean it doesn't belong in Marriage & Divorce. This is very much a marriage problem. I don't care if your leftist values believes that ALL marriages should be equal with shared responsibilities; that is a personal belief and that has nothing to do with me. You imposing your beliefs on me is why I had all these problems in the first place... So, help me with this IN Marriage & Divorce. The liberal life isn't for everyone.

Let me kind of introduce the situation. We are both 50 years old and have been married for 30 years. We are now empty nesters. Even though my wife is 50 she looks to be between 35 - 40 and is pretty much a knock out. The problem is that she seems to have either went VERY conservative in the bedroom or I just don't get her excited despite my best efforts. When we first married she was pretty conservative but through the years became more adventurous when it came to sex but never anything way out there. When I say adventure I'm talking about a night out where she would wear something a little sexy or she would welcome a toy in to the foreplay. We would both give full body massages and both enjoyed oral sex. Fast forward to now and sex is VERY basic and traditional. She never touches me in the man area and rarely kisses anywhere other than the lips. I have tried to bring a toy back in to the picture but she always says she doesn't want one or doesn't need one that I'm all she needs. She now doesn't seem to want oral sex and she never gives it. Nights out together are becoming rare but when we do go I like to always tell her how sexy she is and describe the times she was checked out from head to toe but she has very little to say about it. Not long ago this would get her going. There are many other things but everyone gets the picture. I really want to please her sexually and want her to be excited about sex rather than viewing it as an obligation. Open to suggestions

I have been trying for the past couple of years and making effort to get my wife to understand that there is more to life than just money. But she treats our relationship like an object. Always puts me second. A little background...we have been together for seven years. Since I brought her back to Australia, we have struggled. My pay isn't that great in my current full timr job, I am actively seeking better work, putting in part time study and trying to be careful in making the right career choices. The good thing about my wife: she works damn hard in jer job. She has become very successful. She socialises with her colleagues and joins in their fun. They all know me but because they are all Chinese, I rarely if ever get to join any social events. They all talk about money and real estate and have made more than half a million + each year. My wife earned $30k last month. We have a lot of upcoming debt from three properties she bought. My job is menial. It doesn't afford many social opportunities. She refuses to go out with me. She will include me rarely if her colleagues are going away. But in every day living, we have little communication going on. My supposed low salary and pir debts are her excuses for not going out with me. We had another argument late tonight because I said I'd been feeling depressed and disconnected. Because a typical night involves her chatting on the phone with colleagues laughing etc meanwhile I am left alone in the other room.... The argument turned ugly and she said thay she has been treating me nicely and talking to me nicely. That I do not appreciate her, don't understand our debt etc. Told me to go and tell someone who cares, I can find someone better suited to me, she still has time to decide before she makes her mind up about us having children, tried to put me in my place and tell me it's her way or the highway. She won't go to couples counselling. Told me to talk to my parents if I have a problem etc. I feel like she has tickets on herself and refuses to acknowledge me. Like she feels she is above me or something. I don't get it. She won't go anywhere with me one on one. Says she wants a quality life so she refuses to nourish our relationship to the point where she openly said we have nothing in common. When the marriage is under pressure, she behaves like she couldnt give a damn. I feel like she has her colleagues, friends and money so she is purely independent and doesnt have a need for me anymore. I feel like I am worth little to her. We don't laugh or make a deeper connection. She just refuses to do that. I tried for seven years with no luck in getting through to her. The warning signs were there a couple of years ago when I noted her saying she would rather go out with a group of friends than spend the time one on one with me. I don't understand where her couldn't give a damn attitude comes from? She even tried to sleep one on one. I have tried to explain the importance of my needs involving us destressing and watching a movie or doing something to relax. Anything to share a laugh and good vibes. But it falls on deaf ears and jabs are made at me about my low pay and lower capacity to provide. She gets really worked up like a lunatic if I try to push for her attention. But I just want to be in a happy position of a mature marriage. My parents were telling me to treat her well. But they also expressed concern about her obvious refusal to spend time with me... I just don't see enough commitment to us. Not just luxury etc but to us. I don't want the pain of a break up. But I don't want the pain of unhappiness because she can't make a time for us to go out and have a laugh. Our connection is so low and she doesn't care. She came home tonight and said she feels like she is getting back her fashionable side again like in China. Am d I couldn't help but feel a twinge of sadness because it wasn't something done for me. I feel starved of her doing spmething for me. I do matter and would like that shared intimacy. I'm not a mongrel dog to shove in the corner! The way you establish a real emotional connection with someone is by sharing your inner worlds, confiding your hopes, dreams and disappointments, and supporting each other's goals. That's just not happening near enough. She is sharing witb friends etc outside the marriage. How to turn all this around? I just read that again. If she gets angry, she will try to sleep head to toe. I feel like she is trying to take all the power and refuse to listen to me. How do I get her to realise that my needs and the marriage are important now that we are committed? She made a commitment to me but she is going back on the commitment. She reckons she would fight with me to earn more money if she stayed at home. She just sees my request for her time as a threat to her success?

I'm going to do my best to not exaggerate in this question. So this weekend was a very unstructured and stressful weekend. This is actually how we normally roll, but we had overnight guests the whole weekend for our children to play with and they NEED structure since they don't know how to behave when left to their own devices. I knew this about the guests prior to them coming over, but I allowed them over anyways since my kids missed their company/companionship. As "the man of the house", I probably should have taken a lot of authority over these hyperactive guests, but I didn't. I let them tear around the house and treat the house like an indoor jungle gym. Nothing got broken, but the added stimulation from imagine play, teasing/screaming, and even loud music really made me tense. And when I am tense, I have a tendency to overeat; this weekend was not an exception (yesterday alone: I had 4 doughnuts, 12 cinnamon sticks w/icing, 4 cups of stress free tea, and an entire tin of girl scout chocolate covered raisins along with other my 3 meals). The company finally left at 5pm on Sunday and my wife and I both were EXTREMELY stressed. We caught up on our chores and finally relaxed together, but I can't help but feel like I should have done MORE to prevent the household from being so out of control. My wife was hiding almost the entire weekend since she couldn't handle it, so it was just me in charge of the all the ruckus, and I failed so badly at it. What would you have done? Mind you: These guests are my children's best friends. The problem is, these children are also very low class and have no respect for anyone. Their parents are authoritarian/totalitarian parents who don't give their children ANY autonomy or authority over themselves; so when they come over, it's like they are "free from their cage". So me allowing them to be wild/crazy is partly on my empathy since they have such sh*tty parents, but they release so much energy in our house and it makes me binge. The children aren't low class, their parents are raising them in a low class environment. They are separated but living together and they involve their children in their domestic disputes/violence. It honestly is a bad situation for those kids. Very trailer trash people, but I tolerate them because my kids have made best friends with their kids. But they have very hill billy values and their kids are more classy than that (i.e. father talks about boobs to daughter - daughter offended).

For atleast a year or more every so often (usually after I've aroused myself) right next to my clitoris on the left side, a knot grows about pea size. It eventually goes down, and it's not really painful unless I touch or squeeze it. Even then it's not actually pain, but it is worrisome. I don't know that no one can diagnose me over the Internet but just wondering if someone else has had this problem or has an idea of why it's happening. Pea sized lump is always in the same place when it pops up. Always on the left side of my clitoris. Right next to it.

This past Halloween we threw and attended Halloween parties. I dressed as a witch although in the one we went to at my Wife's coworkers house I went all out, short dress, fishnets and my black patent thigh high boots I love to dress enfemme especially in public. My Wife dressed as a Naughty Nurse ( short white vinyl dress white thigh highs and short white patent booties). Several of her girlfriends dressed in sexy nurses outfits too. A new office manager Doug dressed as the doctor lab coat covering his skin tight faux leather pants that showed what appeared to be his overly large endowment when his coat fell open. I heard my Wife say to her girlfriends that she wouldn't mind a personal examination from "Dr. Doug"especially with his probe. Everyone laughed and I thought nothing more until the next week when my Wife showed me pics sent to her by her girlfriends from the party. As I scanned through them I came upon several of Doug wearing only a thong or nothing. I asked my Wife what these were and she said in his younger days Doug was a male dancer. I asked were you serious about the personal exam? She said honey I love you but he is very hot and although I've accepted that you love to crossdress sometimes I miss the masculinity of a real man. Besides we used to fantasize about a 3-some with a black man years ago via you. She said It was all just fun and talk, but even you have to admit "Dr. Doug" is pretty hot. Could this lead to something more serious or has it already?

To make it brief we lived separately to focus on working on ourselves', and when we became comfortable with spending one or two nights together I decided to look on his phone and found the number of a girl he had been talking to. So I text this number asking who she was and she immediately was hostile and claimed him to be her boyfriend, even referring to him with a name that is not his. I called, have you been spending nights together? Yes. Sleeping together? Yes. Serious about each other? Yes. So serious in fact, after I told her I was his wife (no idea I existed), she asked if she could talk to him because she 'didn't want to lose him'. I questioned him about her, and for hours he just told me she was a liar and finally confessed. I practically forced him to call her and tell her the truth about everything, and cut ties. After some time we got back together. I was under the impression that he really was sorry and wanted to make things better. Recently (about 6 months later) I noticed this app on his phone (the same app he used to meet the girl) and posts about wanting to hang out with strangers, but the post that really got me was 'any older ladies interested in younger men?' all by him. Will he ever stop? Do I need to leave him? He claims that he does this because I don't give him enough attention but I have sex with him often, always tell him how handsome he is, I try to remind him of how proud I am of him and his work ethics, I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.

He said he is not in love with his wife anymore and they are separated going through a divorce, but they still live together and supposedly sleeping in separate rooms and beds, He wants to start a relationship with me but I don't know. He said once the house is pay off he was getting his own place, do this sounds truthful or do it sounds like he is just trying to cheat. What are your thoughts ?

We had sex every other day! Sex wasnt bad well at least I didn't think it was!!! Well last 8 months he's been having an affair with another woman.. I've confronted him he doesn't deny her but he doesn't give me details about her!! I wanna know what is it about her that keeps my husband going back to her!! Well I did some investigations I viewed her fb page she is a very beautiful & charisma type of woman but she has 4 kids... Why would he want a woman with baggage?? He left home last night I kind of figured to see her but wasnt sure! When he return home & went to sleep I checked his phone & it confirmed he had been with her!! He told her he was horny & needed her but why I was right at home why didn't he sleep with me his wife??? He has fallen in love with her... I wanna know is it possible too get my husband back!! I love him with all my heart & can't see him with anyone else!!! Why does he choose her & not me???

what kind of woman /man would you like to marry?

Friends, My wife is pregnant for 6 months now but we both are not staying together for more than 5 months and now she is not willing to stay with due to various reason, i am planning to divorce her now, is this right time to send a notice to her ???

I've been seeing a woman who is married. Her marriage began falling apart about 3 years ago (when her husband cheated on her with a family member) but it wasn't until the start of this year, that her and I admitted that we wanted to be together. This was a very difficult situation as I was also with someone else and all individuals involved went through an emotional whirl wind. Around the end of summer, I ended things with the person I was with only to find out that she had A LOT of issues with leaving her husband because they have kids together. Issues which she underplayed before I ended things with who I was with. The impression she gave me was that she was done and only waiting for me which I quickly found out was not the case. That's when I tried to end it with her. I was tired of all the back and forth. Understandably, she didn't want to let me go and begged me for more time. It has been 4 months since that. She is currently on a tropical vacation with her husband, kids and her parents because, as she put it "the kids have never been anywhere tropical and she wanted the father to be there for that." The person I used to be with wants me back and, after everything that has happened, I'm beginning to want my old relationship back too. I understand that getting separated is hard and even more difficult when kids are involved. But at this point, I feel like I'm just getting played by her.

My husband is ALWAYS on his freaking phone/watching tv. We might be laying rite next to each other but he won't say a word unless I do.I ALWAYS have to be the one giving him a kiss/hug/hang grab/ ect.He's not affectionate at all. This is a little tmi but he rarely wants to be intimite I mean we'll have sex but only if I ask & I don't feel like j should have to ask. Idk if it's just me or something but it makes me feel like ****. The other day we went to grab some donuts and like usual we joke around a bit and I called him a fat *** (even tho he's not fat) as I was biting my donut he looked at me & was like "looks who's talking, stop eating" omg I felt like complete **** inside and out. I tried so hard not to cry but my eyes got watery & he was like I'm just kidding Bby. I still took it personal. Today as we were watching a movie I just got really upset at the fact that I asked him for a hug and he sort of didn't want to give it to me so I just got up and went to the living room. He stayed in the room didn't ask where I was going or anything. 2 Hrs LATER he come and wakes me 2go2 bed but at this point I'm mad. He's there just sitting beside me laughing because he thinks it funny for no apparent reason and says I'm acting like a little girl & I can't help to say "no I'm not I just hate the fact that you never pay attention to me and your never affectionate towards me! then men l ask why their wife cheat on them!" I felt horrible. Was I wrong for this? How do you think he felt?

My husband is a disabled veteran and does not work. He was cheating on me so we will get a divorce. My question is, is he entitled to alimony from me as I work making 6 figures a year and he does not work? Also, can I make him pay child support from his disability money even though he doesn t make a lot and I make a substantial amount more?

She's 40 yrs old and we just got married 2 years ago. but she don't want to try anything new, just missionary or D.S. position. what can i do ? she doesn't want to use the gadgets and toys i bought for her ( they cost me $92 ).

My wife and I have been married for 16years, but we have been together for 21 years. We recently took a family vacation and I thought everything was ok. When we returned she began her education assignment and met this principal. My wife began to bring up this guys name while we were in bed. We then began to have great sex, and I began wondering what the hell is going on. The next thing was she wanted to go on a business dinner with this guy. I immediately confronted her and asked her was she ******* this guy, which she denied. Then a couple of nights later I go watch a football game over one of my best friends home, and she accused me of having an affair. I was taken aback by her accusations that I apologized for having accused her of having an affair. One month later I'm doing the family thing and I believed we were in a good space. I ask her would it be alright if I went to a buddy's home to watch the mma fight with Rhonda Rosie, and she had no issues with it at all. I go and just did not seem right so I came back home. Something told me to confront her again, and that's when she disclosed that she had feelings for this guy, and that they only embraced and kissed. As you can imagine I was furious. She lied to me for over four months, and then said they only hugged and kissed..what am I to believe and does anyone have any advice I was so pissed, but then I'm thinking about who out there do I find to trust and give my all to. I frustrated, embarrassed. We went to counseling the other day, and it just made me angrier. She says she was detached and broken. I was smh when she said it. Then I asked/pleaded for her to tell me if anything else went on, and she said it was a simple kiss and embrace....but my spidey senses tell me that it just doesn't happen that way, and you lied to me about it for months, about a kiss. Trust???? I want to but how do you trust someone that confronted you and you continued to lie, until the guilt became too much. If she is capable of this then I feel like I'm opening a can of worms sort to speak. I even asked her about the intimacy and whether I need to go to physician to get tested. I am so stuck. I wanna forgive, but this crap just hurt so bad.

My husband and I have now been separated for the past six months. He's not in any hurry to file the paperwork, but I can't stand being in limbo. I have no idea what is going to happen and I keep holding on to the idea that we are going to reconcile. Any helpful advice?

My husband wants a separation because he says he doesn't love me anymore...the reason being because of our past fights. We fought because he kept making poor selfish decisons that didn't benefit the family and made everything difficult for everyone, which put the whole family in a bad spot. However, I was always the right one when it came to those things. He kept doing the same stuff over and over again to the point where I started losing a little respect for him which turned into me insulting him out of hurt, betrayal, and resentment for all that he did. we started treating each other a little mean whenever the same issues came up, but always got over it in the end, although things tended to add up. My question is: How can arguing/fighting make you lose love for your wife, if the wife was always right when it came to arguments anyways? I would think that's supposed to make your relationship stronger. cause if it were me, I would thank my spouse for trying to lead me the right way, ask for forgiveness, and allow it to strengthen our relationship/marriage. Well he is immature though....can anyone explain this?

I've finally decided to give my husband the silent treatment back to let him understand that I too am capable of doing that. He often responds with it whenever he wants to end arguments/discussion between us but it doesn't last long as we finally start talking within a day or less. This time it has turned longer because I'm doing it back to him. I'm done with his attitude of thinking he can control everything and belittling me time and again needs to stop. I'm impressed in myself for lasting doing this but I'm starting to feel bad for him and am worried what the consequences will be for our relationship if I continue like this but at the same time I don't want to send him a message that he won or continue with his behavior. For those of you who will recommend that we talk I don't think it will work for him especially this time and I have my reasons to believe that. I want to hear from those who have been in a situation where they had to resort to silent treatment especially if it's because of their own spouses' withdrawal. What do you recommend I do next

I know it's a bit of a TMI but I really need help. A few hours ago I began to get quite itchy down there. I checked and there's nothing strange looking about it. I am a virgin so I don't have an std. It's from the clitoris area up. It got to the point where I had to relieve the itch which did not help. It got red and puffy but after a few minutes it went down. I don't have any strange discharge or odor. I now have been keeping anti itch cream on the area which does help for a couple hours but it comes back and I have to keep applying it. If you can help me I would really appreciate it.