Family: Question: How can my family make my 23 year old sister grow up?

Question: How can my family make my 23 year old sister grow up?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 01:17 PM PST

I wanted an outside opinion. I'm going to be 16 in two months and I often feel like the older sister. She still lives at home, and while I cook homemade almost all of my meals, she refuses to cook (unless it's macaroni and cheese in a box) and refuses to clean. I usually clean the whole kitchen and the most she'll do is hand me another plate to clean. She makes fun of about every person she meets and blows her problems way out of proportion until she stresses the whole family out. She dates loser after loser when she's really pretty and could have anyone. With each boyfriend, she develops a new personality in which we have to get to know. And with each boyfriend, she gives up all her friends until she has no one. Every time.She'll only go to the doctors unless my parents are with her, which I have repeatedly told my parents,"She's in her twenties... Let her goon her own. She could be living on her own." She makes fun of everyone. The neighbor next door (same age as her, really pretty) is hated by my sister and says she's a "Barbie" and a "s**t". My sister doesn't even KNOW her. She can't afford to live on her own and my parents don't know how to make her grow up. She's getting on my nerves.

Question: How can I convince my parents to let me start making YouTube videos?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 01:11 PM PST

I've wanted to start for a while, and I already made one, and when I asked my mom if I could publish it and start regularly putting up videos, she said no, and my dad agreed. They don't seem to want to talk about it much. I don't really have any friends or a way to express myself, so it would be beneficial for me there, as well as giving me something to look forward to, which would help with my dysthymia. I could also get my music discovered, which would launch me into the music career that they're perfectly okay with and encourage me to pursue. I understand that it's not likely that I'll get super popular, and that even if I do, it'll take a while. I'm a lot more mature than they seem to think I am and they treat me like a baby in other areas of life too.

Question: My father is having an affair?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:45 PM PST

4 months ago my father went to Cuba 4 medical stuff.After that nothing was the same.He cane home later from work everyday.He received a text from a girl,where she called him babe.caused a huge fight.My father told my mother that it was a mistake&she believed&forgave him.Then another text from her,mom forgave,but she was suspicious.Coming home even later now.once he was looking for his passport.We asked why and my parents started fighting.He admit that he had a business trip to Mexico in 2 weeks.My mom& I had no idea.My mom&I would worry every night.My mom confides in me a lot.Then my mom finally got the bravery to really talk to him.He admitted that he was cheating on her.the woman is ******* 23 yrs old.hes 50!i find it disgusting.I love my father but I don t look at him the same.I talked to him about it.I asked why.He said he doesn t know a clear reasons&that he needs time to get rid of his confusion.My mom cries everyday.2day he told her that the woman loves him.i don t believe it. Tbh,my dad isn t attractive.He has a bad temper.He works a lot though.she works with him.I think she just loves him for $.my dad lied to her too.He told her that my parents are divorced.I can t believe it.My life feels like it s falling apart.i pray a lot.My mom says if by the end of the year, he hasn t changed, she wants to move, like to a different state.I can t do that!i have everything here!But I can t stand my mom suffering.idk what to do.

Question: How to sound proof bedroom windows cheap..?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:42 PM PST

My fiancé and I currently live with my father and his girlfriend, and while we're grateful for the room while we prepare to get a house, I can't take her dogs. I love dogs, I love all animals, it's not that I don't like them, but they're not trained in any way at all and they bark CONSTANTLY when outside. I mean constantly. Our window is right above the backyard. I can hear them with the windows shut, fan on, tv on, and ear plugs in. I can't get away from it. I don't stray from this room too much because when I do, her larger dog rams into me and has almost knocked me over several times. I can't relax anywhere in this house. I'm 8 months pregnant, and I'm nervous about this when the baby's here. I feel like neither of us will ever sleep lol :/ I can't afford expensive things to plug up the windows or new windows or anything, we really don't have much right now.. Is there any possible way I can soundproof these windows? Talking to my dad or his girlfriend won't do anything, she thinks her dogs are perfect and my dad is having a midlife crisis and won't do or say anything to cross what she thinks. I've already tried talking to them.

Question: My dad saw my balls and i saw his?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:36 PM PST

so my dad and I were at a resort in haiti. We decided to go on a "tour" with one of the local residents. During our tour we walked through a very forested area. We saw some amazing vegetation, insects and animal life. it was phenomal, but during the trip my father and I attracted parasites. the parasites were all over our bodies and were beginning to form painful sores very fast. The haiti man knew exactly what to do and had a remedy for it, but he had to apply it immediately or the parasites would begin to form colonies and lay fertilized eggs in our flesh. The nearest hospital was nearly an hour away, out of desperation my father and I both removed our clothing and stripped down naked for the haiti man. He then began rubbing the concoction all over our bodies , everywhere. When i say everywhere, I mean EVERYWHERE! He rubbed it all over our bodies and did not forget to get inbetween our *** cheeks, he even rubbed it on our balls. My dad got a slight erection from the haiti man, and i got to see his ivory tower in all its glory while he saw mine. I was a little offended to see that my dad's was bigger than mine. do you think mine will grow to be as big as his one day? also, it bothers me that we saw eachother naked , how can i get over it? my dad makes fun of the situation alot and teases me for my small penis

Question: My mom just beat the crap out of me, scratched me, yanked my hair, my face is bleeding, my arms are red. please help?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:28 PM PST

it started yesterday. i accidentally fell asleep while folding the laundry, so she woke me up and then hit me. she opened up my closet and started throwing my clothes everywhere, and is forcing me to clean it up. she also threw everything off of my desk. so today when i woke up she was basically just yelling at me the whole morning until i got to school. (continued in comments, it's not long, please read)

Question: I want to order(from sites) things,alone so how can I ask my family can I do so?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:28 PM PST

So I have to ask my mom,dad,and sister(she is seriously strict,because she loves me).My sister knows I like Korean/Japanese stuff,so if ask her to order something on the internet,she gets mad. I know how to order everything (by watching my sister ordering)but here's the thing,I can't order things at all! I want to be able to order things from cosplay websites,without my sister doing it.I am always tired of her shouting at me if I ask if I could order something.So the last time I asked her to order something for me was 4 years ago.But if I talk to her or parents if I could order things alone,they change the subject! How can I tell them I want to order things alone,and I could just ask if I could so.

Question: How to deal with a SJW sibling?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:23 PM PST

So get this, my 20 year old sister who still lives with us, cough cough loser cough cough, is a SJW and I just found out. That nearly broke my heart because I m sick of those wastes of flesh, and discovering my sister is one of them just really makes me mad. Just to clarify, I am not against equal treatment for women, and I m not against other races getting treated right, but those SJW scum take everything way to far, such as getting mad at people for using terms like "dude" and "Chick" Seriously wtf? I try to show my sister what type of people shes supporting with videos that bring out how idiotic and retarded they are, but she refuses to listen and ignores it. She also calls me a horrible person because I dislike SJWs lol. Apparently because I have a d**k and am white I m the most evil thing ever right?

Question: My brother is verbally abusing me?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:11 PM PST

I know this seems ridiculous. I'm a 17 year old girl and my brother is 24, yep he still lives with us. I don't know why. He's been calling me ugly for almost a year now, and he goes way beyond that. He's very judgmental when it comes to girls. He judges all of them. I'm not that pretty, let's just say that. I wear glasses and my face is just not attractive. I'm very insecure about myself, I've been called ugly at school a lot. Well, he has been calling me ugly, hideous, not a girl, saying I look like a man or an alien, and now he makes fun of my clothes. If I wear something even a little nice, like a skirt or even just a nice sweater, he starts going crazy, saying, "You're wearing girl's clothes?! Ew! Look at YOU, you pig!" and starts saying I belong in a baggy T-shirt and jeans. He calls me fat all the time, even though I weigh only 120 pounds and I'm 5'6. I am NOT fat and I like my weight so I don't let that bother me, but his nickname for me is "Pig". He says he can't believe I'm a girl and says if I ever wore a dress, which I have, he would go crazy and be disgusted. I'm so sick of it. HELP ME He does have issues though.He has horrible anger issues and has never had a girlfriend and has no friends, he's socially awkward. The usual consists of: "I wonder how weirded out people are when they see your ugly fat*** buying nice clothes. You don't belong in a dress." blah blah blah I've told my parents many times, they've witnessed it too. They yell at him and threaten to kick him out, have talks with him, but he won't stop.

Question: How can I jerk off with my brother in the room?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:55 AM PST

Recently we moved into a new house now me and my brother share a room I normally jerk off before I sleep but now he's in the room with me and it's weird right?

Question: Help! I've never gone through having a divorce before!?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:53 AM PST

My parents are divorcing ! What do I do!

Question: I ejaculated on my moms butt. Is there anything wrong with that?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:45 AM PST

I just wanted to put the cigarette out.

Question: Christmas is coming around which is also my birthday what should I do to get my family to get me what I want?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:30 AM PST

Question: Is my face boring?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:24 AM PST

I'm 13, and I realize that my face and body are still developing, but... Lately I've been feeling like I'm the ugliest of all my siblings. Everyone is always hitting on my older sister, and all my friends have had crushes on my brother. My two oldest brothers were popular with girls, too. I'm going into my freshman year next year, and I'm just so nervous. I'm at a point where I'm happy with who I am, but all this is holding me back...

Question: I saw my dad watching porn...?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:23 AM PST

Hello! I m 14 years old and this is really nerve wrecking for me. I have really bad anxiety and well, my dad was always an insomniac. He would stay up till the sun comes up. I m worried for his health. He is 60 and I just think it s unhealthy. Anyways, the first night I caught my dad watching porn. I was so scared. I ran back to my room and had to rethink what happened. It made my anxiety sky rocket. And this was 5:00 in the morning! The second night, once again, I caught my dad watching porn. I was still terrified. I know what porn is. Trust me. Kids always talk about it at school. The third time I asked my dad a question for school so I can look up something on my phone for my science project. Our only computer is broken and my phone was being repaired. He has a really advanced phone while I only have the simple iPhone 6. Something random happened while I was looking up on his phone and a pornagraphic picture popped up on his phone! What the actual heck! I was so freaking terrified! The forth time my dad accidentally sent my mom porn to her email! She was disgusted. She was mad. I m scared if this affects their relationship. I don t want anything to happen. I don t see my dad the same anymore. Should I tell him about what I saw or how I felt? Should I tell my mom? What do I do? Please help!!

Question: Would it be wrong if my mother and I share a bed?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 11:13 AM PST

My mother, my brother, my brothers girlfriend and I are going on a month long RV trip. There are only two beds in the camper. Would it be wrong if my mother and I share a bed? I am a 21 year old guy. Thanks

Question: How do I deal?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 10:49 AM PST

I have to go to my in-laws/relative's for Thanksgiving and I dread it so much. They have never made me feel welcome or wanted. I've tried. I feel myself working into a panic attack just thinking about it. They are wealthy non-American born people from another country who now live in Beverly Hills. They speak a foreign language all night and exclude me. Then act like they're doing me a favor when they decide to speak English-- for my benefit. They look down their noses at me when my husband isn't looking, then act friendly toward when he's around. Like, they'll stare at my (non-designer) shoes and smirk. Or if they hang up my coat in the closet, it's like they're judging the quality of it (modest). If I bring a bottle of wine to dinner (as I would with anyone), they look at it like it's beneath them and will make a point to put it away, like they want me to see they're hiding it. They'll tell me I'm insulting them as family by bringing anything to a dinner get-together, then I watch as everyone else (family and friends) brings lavish gifts and giant platters of food. Or they'll tell me "oh ok, you can bring a box of crackers" or something stupid. Once I know they were saying very harsh things about me, without knowing I had walked into the room, because I could see the relief on everyone's faces when they saw me and remembered I don't speak the language. How do I cope? I already feel sick and it's only Tuesday.

Question: Im 17 and i dont think its ok that my dad makes me paint the whole house by my self, is it ok or should i fight for justice?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 10:36 AM PST

Question: I think i just lost my scholarship, help :(?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 10:35 AM PST

I was doing well in all my classes until finals, i had an essay that took me days of work to finish, but i was running late and didnt make it to class so the teacher told me that she would not receive my work, i know it was my fault entirely but the thing is that even if i get an ok grade it will not be enough for my scholarship and i will have to drop out. -How will i tell my parents, they were so excited because they never went to college and i was so happy of how proud of me they were. -Im also really mad because im doing great in my other classes -And that teacher is not going to change her mind shes really strict :( So i kind of wanted to rant about it because im so sad/angry/disappointed in myself and i also wanted to know how to tell my parents

Question: Should I ask family members to limit their extravagant gifts for my kids?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 10:21 AM PST

My sister in law is a 29 yr old single woman, no children and makes a great deal of money She is very generous with her family members. She recently called me to chat about gift ideas for the kids for Christmas. She's only going to purchase one gift for each child, but she'll be spending hundreds of dollars. This is in addition to the clothing she buys them throughout the year, the places she takes them when she comes to visit, the toys, etc. (To be fair, she does not favor our kids over the other family members. Last year she got my mother and father in law a weekly maid service for mother's day and also paid thousands for new cabinetry and granite counters as a "housewarming gift" for her younger sister) We're not hurting for money, but I don't want the focus of the holidays to be so much on gifts and extravagance. I'd like to set a spending limit, but my husband (her brother) is against that. He says it's just her way of showing love and he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. Am I overreacting? Should I just be grateful or is there a way I can kindly ask her not to buy them so much expensive stuff?

Question: Why can i do anything right?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:59 AM PST

Im 20 live at my parents. I got my GED yesterday and still feel like ****. I've applied for a job everywhere and still dont have one. I hate resteraunt business the ppl make me wanna kill myself and i cant find any other job they wont even hire me after working in 5 star resteraunt. I'll get kicked out if i dont have a job. I have 66 dollars in my account and my dad makes me pay rent after abandoning me for half my life. Hes a recovering crack and coke head. I am clean and starting college in january living with him and applied literally everywhere i can. I am depressed, can't slow down my thinking, and want to kill myself. I want to start college, but all the pressure from my dad is haunting me. It seems like every interview i have no one really wants or calls me back im good at faking interviews i seem like the happiest most positive person but to be real right now im in a chaotic sad position and i feel ashamed.

Question: How to get through the holidays when adult children dont speak to each other?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:51 AM PST

Question: Is it stupid to ask someone if they are mad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:40 AM PST

Like for example, if you think your sibling is mad (due to their tone of voice), isn't it reasonable to say, 'are you mad?' If doing so, is it suppose to offend them/make them mad (if they weren't)?

Question: Should i turn off my 13yr olds phone for ignoring calls and texts?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:25 AM PST

I purchased an iphone for her over the summer.. actually her 2nd one. I felt like over the last couple months our communication had fallen off a bit. And then when I visited them (kids live in a different city), she initially refused the visit. This infuriated me. I'm not one to jump to conclusions so decided to fall back and let things play out. Their mother and I don't have a great relationship to begin with. She's been a hate monger since our divorce and has finally succeeded at dividing myself and the kids. So I ended up in a rare phone call with her (mom) which escalated to an argument quickly where she confirmed that my daughter was ignoring my calls and messages. And all but admitted that she was playing a part in encouraging it. She also went a stop further after that call to call my mother and tell her that my side of the family was being cut off from the kids trying to get some reaction I assume. Now I feel some kind of way about that. and the fact that i furnish a phone to disrespectful 13yr old who is, as i thought, avoiding me. But has no problem sucking down my data every month. Any thoughts?

Question: What can I do/Say to help?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:16 AM PST

My daughter's birthday was yesterday. She had a horrible day. Her dog had to have emergency surgery when it was discovered it had cancer. It cost her well over $2,000!!! After that, last night while she was picking up Christmas gifts, a young man backed straight up into her car and totaled it. She was VERY upset. She told me not to worry thought and that today she would come by and celebrate with my husband & I and we'd go out to dinner. I had planned to giver he some money & a cake and take her to dinner. She had to get a rental car & went into work a little late today & she found out she lost her job. She called me up hysterical crying. She's not sure how she's going to pay for a new car, her vet bill, her apartment bills, Christmas gifts etc. She's devastated. She told me she wants to just be alone and doesn't want any gift from us and wants to just be alone tonight. We really wanted to take her out and cheer her up. Should we just wait until thanksgiving and see her and give her space?? Thoughts?

Question: Is it weird I don't like thanksgiving?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:13 AM PST

id rather work thanksgiving because my family makes me feel like I'm not up to their level because I'm not married and don't have kids like the rest of my siblings. my mother is also impossible to have a conversation with. she cuts me off, doesn't listen to anything i say and just tells stories about herself and gossips about people. i told my family I'm working and they made a big deal however i don't really enjoy being around them. is this bad of me.

Question: This is the first year my family won't be together at thanksgiving since my parents got divorced and it makes me sad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 09:11 AM PST

Well my parents got divorced in January of this year so this is the first thanksgiving where we won't all be together and it makes me sad and sort of bothers me because I like having my family together to spend the holidays. My sister and I are compromising. She is spending the holiday with my mom and I will spend it with my dad. But I know for sure it just won't be or feel the same without all of us together. Anyone who has dealt with a similar situation how have you handled it? How did you deal with not having your family together during the holidays?

Question: My mum says I suck at singing but my Grammy said I'm really good who is right?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 08:54 AM PST

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Question: PLEASE TELL ME what would you do if you saw your dad watching porn right infront of you?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 08:51 AM PST

so i have asked a question simmalar to this but i thought i needed to word it differently so my dad was watching porn. i was in the room with him but on the floor i was only 6 years old and i woke up in the middle of the night to moaning noises and i saw that he was watching porn and i dont live with my dad and i dont talk to him but should i tell my grandparents who i do live with i need help i have anxiety becouse of this idk what to do

Question: My dad is abusive but works hard to keep us alive. Am I weak if i forgive him?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 08:44 AM PST

My dad has been abusive ever since the first year my mom and I moved in with him. He is both mentally and physically abusive. The only difference between then and now is that nowadays he is just verbally abusive and threatening but tries to spend time with me alot and talk to me. The thing is I limit how much I can talk to him in a day. No more than one or two sentences unless he speaks to me first. If i talk to him past my limits then I automatically start regretting it and blame myself because now he might feel that im okay with talking to him. Each time that i think of forming a good relationship with my dad I label myself weak and have a burning feeling inside me that tells me how much i will regret forming any type of bond with him. Its like i bully my own self to keep me from being happy with my dad. He tries to be around me too much and tries to hug me almost every day amd talks to me nowadays. He wants to know why i dont like being around him and the reason is because being around him meant getting a slap or a punch. One thing he did that i have forgiven him for but will not forget is when i was nine and i did something he didnt like so he kicked me in the middle of my chest and i honestly had the worst time trying to breath. I feel like forming a good relationship with him makes me a weak person

Question: I m 5 1 a girl, and 13, my parents are: Mom: 5 2 Dad: 5 8 Brother: 5 9 Help?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 08:28 AM PST

Question: Drop everything and leave for paradise or continue to build the life I've started...?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 08:20 AM PST

I am a 26 year old college graduate, BS electrical engineering, living in a city which has horrible weather and the sun comes out a month a year, with pitiful sports teams and a night on the town includes a dive bar and Denny's. I am originally from the Bay Area in California and currently still have family residing there. While on a visit to the Bay Area it struck me that this is paradise and still has the feeling of home. I still try to visit a few times a year and see my family and old friends. I have stated my career and am building a solid foundation in my current city but because of my career choice I have the option to transfer easily. I have a fiancé and a Mortgage back home but a free place to stay with family in the Bay Area. Would like any input on my choices. 1. Stay where I live and continue to build a life and family. Keep working hard at what I do and keep my California trips to strictly visits. 2. Drop everything in my current city and move in with family in the Bay Area and start over. My fiancé is not willing to move and I would sell the house and what belongings I had.

Question: Does it look stupid that I'm going shopping with my dad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 08:18 AM PST

My family does thing where every month one of my siblings (or me) goes out and eats with my dad and does whatever we want. I really want to go to Claire's (which is at the mall where I live) so I'm going to eat at the mall with my dad then go to Claire's. I'm really worried that it'll look stupid shopping there with my dad. Btw, I'm 14. So, will it look stupid? :/ Thanks! Also, I'm going out with him today.

Question: Does anyone else find this odd?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 07:55 AM PST

The other day I went with my family to a house showing. We removed our shoes when we entered. Everyone else wore socks, but I was barefoot as I had worn sandals. When asking us questions in different rooms, the realtor kept saying "Emily, how does that floor feel?" And "Emily, how does that carpet feel?" I later asked her why she kept asking me that, and she said that it was because I was the only one with bare feet instead of wearing socks, thus able to feel the floors and carpets easier to feel the floors/carpets so my opinion was especially important to her. Does anyone else find this odd?

Question: I hate my brother?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 07:38 AM PST

He honestly tries everything to get me in trouble. Everything I do he says "I'm calling mom." Like wtf? Like I was on the computer a few minutes ago and a pop up ad came up saying "Jasmin Adult Video Chatting" Or something and had a girl in a bra in the ad. He seriously called my mom and said i was watching porn without even telling her the full story. Last week I turned on the vacuum cleaner and it scared him and he called my mom and told her I scared him on purpose. The day before that I heard him having trouble unlocking the door so I opened it for him and it supposedly "scared" him and he called my mom and told him I did it on purpose and guess what? She believed him. He makes me so mad and actually costed me my new phone. He dropped his and told my mom that I did it, so she made me use all the money ive been using in my savings account to buy him a new phone. What should I do to prevent things like this from happening in the future?

Question: My parents are horrible?!?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 07:35 AM PST

Okay this has happened. Like every time when I study and they want to know what I learned and they take my boox and ask a question and when I have it wrong they are like losing faith already in me and when I have more wrong ii they are being mad and I hate that. And my dad wants me to go do a sport like fighting sports. But when I say no he says I'm lazy and stuff and said that it's good for me. Wich it totally won't change anything because I was on a fighting sport for several years and it did basically nothing good for me in my life. And they are comparing Mr to other people and when I compare myself with someone doing not so good they say like I'm not their parent

Question: Is it right for me to babysit and do work for free many hours of the week for my mom?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 07:32 AM PST

So I m a very selfless girl and I really enjoy bonding with my half brother, but this year my mom has put an incredible amount of added stress on me. I m 15 almost 16 and a sophomore at a low income school. My mom just had a baby 8 months ago and it s been really, really rough. We live in a one bedroom all together so neither of us sleep, my mom works 9-6 and I have school and tons of homework. In the past, I would do a huge amount of chores every day, like I m talking about a list with 10-15 time consuming tasks and I would get paid a little for each one, adding up to about $100/month. Well now, I babysit about 30 hours a week FOR FREE and NO MONEY for all of those chores. I tried to talk to my mom about it but she says I m being selfish and that I should do that stuff anyway. Now I get really good grades but lately it s gone down because of everything I have to do. I don t think I should be doing all of this work for free or without some kind of worth. Please someone help or give your opinion. Am I right to be upset?

Question: Is this wrong?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 07:16 AM PST

Sometimes when I get bad grades or I did something they didn't like, they tell at me but sometimes they take actions physical.

Question: I want to leave my parents, TOTALLY?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 06:43 AM PST

Okay, so this is a bit of a cookie. Thing is, my mom had a stroke. I mentioned in a previous posting about my family issues: https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20151123191712AApfAMw But since my mom has the money of my late grandpa's apartment, I figured she can somehow move on with life with the remaining finances, at least pay her bills and medications. True, she won't get the continuous emotional support but I don't have anyone either in real life and I am 19 years old! But I DO NOT wish to keep in touch with my dad. He's not tech savvy like my mom so I could keep in touch with mom via email but all that negativity and talk about what a horrible life it is with my dad. Just thinking about it during my work life might bring back bad memories and I want to do away with them. Plus, I don't feel wanted at home either way. Just a bad vibe/air in it. If I do away with all contact with both of my parents, I could send some money occasionally for my mom unbeknownst to her to help her out, anonymously. https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20151123191712AApfAMw But at the same time I feel like I am abandoning her for my own good, all those years she spent on me and all that anxiety she endured for my sake. But I feel, in a way it might be too painful as a sacrifice but also good in a way. Edit 1: Maybe I need some space. I didn't go to college yet (no money for it) and I can't rely on my dad (gets laid off all the time and beats people up at work over petty issues) and whatever money my mom's got, it goes on medications. I landed an internship and I feel I should somehow work my way through the world for what I want in life, without relying on my mom at least.

Question: I'm 23 but I look 16, when will this change?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 06:24 AM PST

I was with my mother shopping and she qualified for a free makeup palette which she let me pick it out. The lady at the counter said "well let's have your mother check it out for her approval." I explained that wasn't necessary since I'm a college graduate and living independently. She was shocked, again making another statement, you must have skipped a lot of grades??!?!?! I said no I'm just 23 She was then really embarrassed and I still continued with the stink eye. I never get the respect I feel I deserve....every time my mother and I have a girls day, I always get treated like I'm 16 Lol. And it's not by my mother.

Question: 21 year old daughter wants to bring her older boyfriend home for Thanksgiving?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 06:22 AM PST

My daughter is 21 and in college. She recently told me that she found a boyfriend, but didn't mention the fact that he's 54 until last night. She was asking if it would be okay for him to come home for Thanksgiving with her as well. I told her that I didn't know if I felt comfortable with that because he's the exact same age as her father. She got mad and told me that I should at least give him a chance because he's a "great guy", but this whole situation makes me uncomfortable. My husband and I were talking about this last night and all he kept saying was "I don't know" and shrugging. So he's not much help at all. What do you think I should do? She's coming home tomorrow. Should I tell her she can bring him? I don't want to seem rude, but I really don't think their age gap is appropriate. I never thought I'd have to deal with this. What would you do?

Question: Child Support Struggle?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 05:56 AM PST

Im 14 turning 15 in January and my Dad is struggling from child support I live with Mom and her boyfriend, I feel so bad for my Dad and I want to help him because I feel like he would go homeless. Can someone tell me what to do to help me solve this? To cancel child support?

Question: Am i an outcast?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 05:10 AM PST

I'm 17, bipolar disorder, live in a poor family and the family has no friends, i almost no friends, except my girlfriend who also are poor and live only with her mother, my family is me, my mom and my brother, i dont go to any school, because no school will take me, i have homemade tattoos and i only wear old, and worn out clothes, and almost all my clothes are bought at thrift shops. Someone called me a f*cking outcast, the other day, is that true?

Question: I hate my so called Dad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 04:56 AM PST

He is gay and he said this just a few months ago. I'm the only one still remains with him although hate him the most. He destroyed our family life, my mom left everything and went. Both my sisters are married and don't have to live with him. I can't leave because I still haven't reached the legal age. I hate my whole life, hate him because of his existance . Every day I tell him that wish him dead and wish I had another dad. But still I don't feel calm

Question: What do i do?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 04:39 AM PST

soooo. my dad lives in new hampshire my mom new jersey. I want to live with my dad but i can't because if either parent want to visit each other it would require that one child be left alone. Although my grandma lives with us we'ed rather not. It would be easy to move if my sister were to come with us but she likes it here better. Any suggestions??????? Ps i can't satay with friend, or myself given i am ply 13 years of age (legal reasons and stuff), i doubt there is any one i can stay with (heavily drug influenced town), and i can't stay with friends, and i doubt ill be able to change my sisters mind HALP

Question: What it is the best way to deal with this?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 04:33 AM PST

I got attached to my bf and his son he has had his son by himself for a while and all of a sudden the mother of his son wants custody of him since its close to tax time.... now my bf is moving and planning to get custody and move out of state how can i stop being so emotional and how can i get over that they're leaving any advice??

Question: I was grounded, for something I didn't do? How can I convince my dad to not be so harsh?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 04:04 AM PST

So, I've bought things online through PayPal, with my parents permission before. I recently got a RAT, and they used the PayPal account, for about 90$ on my parents card. My dad told me I'm grounded for a month, because I got the rat( a remote administration tool).i have never been grounded before, and I haven't done anything bad, ever. My mom agrees this is harsh, how can I convince him to shorten this?

Question: Am I being too immature for thinking that the US is special and is the center of the world?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 03:57 AM PST

I have not been outside the US for a long time. I am literally growing up in a patriotic place and almost every building and house around me has an American flag. Our teachers have reminded us every year of almost every reason to be proud to be living in this great country, and I certainly am. I know the US really isnt the center of the world and there are problems here but at the same time I feel special to be an American. To me its US US US US. I know pride isnt good and i wasnt always like this. Just as each year goes by, I love my country even more than the last. I tried to stop being like this earlier this year but i have to admit that I dont even realize how prideful im becoming as each day goes by. Is this atleast a little bit normal?

Question: My daughter has sex before marriage?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 03:17 AM PST

I am freaking out very much. My husband and I have three daughters (18-25) and a son (15). One of our daughters is 22, and she has a long-term relationship with a man that she met in college. She still lives with us, as it's one of the family rules to not move out until married, and she respects it. He seemed like a decent guy to me. I raised my daughters right and educated them about sex since a young age and taught them that sex before marriage isn't right. They seemed to understand it. This daughter is getting married in April next year. I decided to talk with her about marriage, as I can tell her everything she needs to know, and I asked her if she is nervous about sex. She seemed a little irritated and then said "Mom, I need to tell you something. I lost my virginity when I was 17, and even since then, I have an active sexual life and I had sex with two guys"... This shocked me. I even started crying. What have I done wrong? I told her she's disrespectful and asked her about her morals, and she started fighting with me, telling me how marriage has nothing to do with sex, as it's a "natural need, while marriage is man-invented". I find this insulting to my family and I even question her boyfriend's morals and decency. Should she marry him? I feel like I need to teach her about right priorities again. I can't even tell my husband about it as he'll probably kick her out of the house and stop talking to her. What should I do? I feel like a horrible parent.

Question: If I hurt myself enough to go to the hospital will my dad maybe stop hitting me and feel bad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 02:46 AM PST

When i make a b on progress reports he pulls my hair and hits me with the belt and slaps me. I hate the most how he tells me to put my face next to his hand so he can slap me and if i dont he punches the side of my head. My question isnt for nowadays, it was a question that I had alot in 8th grade when id try to find anything that can make my dad not hit me each time i had a b. He really just gets on my nerve bc I am not afraid of him anymore, just deeply annoyed each time he looks and talks to me. But i still care about him, ill admit. Im just wondering if i didnt keep myself from hurting my own self to make him feel bad, would he have maybe have stopped hitting me since i would be already in alot of pain?

Question: My teen brother got his gf pregnant?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 02:25 AM PST

My mother flipped and blamed his gf for trapping him. She saids that my brother's girlfriend's parents are to blame because they weren't supervised when my brother would go over to there house. What is your opinion?

Question: My boyfriends hair is ginger and my hair is brown! What colour will my baby s hair be?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 02:13 AM PST

Question: Older Sisters: Have you ever given you younger siblings a wedgie?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 01:47 AM PST

Question: How do I tell my mom that I need my own room?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:29 AM PST

Okay so I am 15 and my older brother just moved out. Now it's just my 17 yo sister and my 10yo and 8yo sisters. Ever since he moved out, I told my mom to let me have his room. My mom said that it could be her "office". So my older sis has her own room and my younger sisters share one with me help!

Question: I just caught my brother making out with my dad's colleague's daughter!?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:22 AM PST

So my dad got a promotion and we had a little celebration. My parents and his colleagues were drinking cognac in the dining room. So, I go to the bathroom. After I was done, I wash my hands, get out, and go to the pantry to get more dog food for our dog. Btw, our pantry is like the size of a bedroom. So then, I enter the pantry and hear some noises. I walk towards the back of the stock of cans of corn and other things. There was my brother and my dad's colleague, Lukas' daughter Lilijana. Now, Lilijana is this super hot girl. So then they see me and persuade me not to tell my dad because Lukas would flip. Ever since that, I feel guilty for not telling anyone.

Question: When does a person have the right to judge?

Posted: 24 Nov 2015 12:05 AM PST

I don t like my boyfriends dad or his step mom, not only because they are mean people themselves but also for other reasons. The step mom was addicted to heroin and just got out of prison(in there for 2 years), which she was on when she had a child. Then his dad is still to this day, addicted to opiates. My boyfriend yelled at me saying I have no reason to dislike them. I have met them both before(many times). Do I have the right to dislike them or is my boyfriend right?

Question: The only reason I'm being nice to people is....?

Posted: 23 Nov 2015 11:57 PM PST

I know when i get home i have a hersheys bar in the fridge.

Question: I am feeling so so depressed. My brother married a rich girl. Then her family established my brother and now he is in Saudi Arabia.?

Posted: 23 Nov 2015 11:41 PM PST

He runs their family business in Saudi Arabia. Few months ago I talked to my brother's in-laws and they agreed to take me there too. But when I talked to my brother about this he didn't listened to any thing I was saying. Instead he said that there been an incident in Saudi Arabia during Haj Mubarik that many people died there during Haj. And he repeated this many times. Guessing he was abandoning me I used some abusive words and started the fight while he was on skype chat. He still wasn't saying any word except about that incident to me. Then I stoped the chat and shut down my laptop. And he left me with thoughts. Then my Parents said its ok. Do what you want. So then I started learning Arabic and English and joined a workshop to learn about auto parts (their family business) but there is still doubt in my heart. Few days ago my mom said that I should not go to my brother or his in-laws as It seems not right for me to go there. I never expected this. My parents said its ok then and now they are changing sides. My mom and dad can not establish me as they dont have much money to do so and thats why I was trying to go to my brother. His in-laws (his wfe's brothers) are still saying its ok to go to them but my parents are now against it. What should I do. I have two daughters to take care of. And I am 37 year old now. With two year Bachelors Degree of Pakistani University. And one poor background wife. Also my brother is buying a Toyota car and it leaves me with no hope. Also... I am only angry with my father as it was his duty to establish me but instead he refused to do so and he pointed his finger at my brother who was living his life elsewhere.

Question: Has anyone had their son tell you he was getting married then 2 days later announce they'd be getting married overseas, alone?

Posted: 23 Nov 2015 11:37 PM PST