Family: Question: Why does my dad hate me?

Question: Why does my dad hate me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 01:38 PM PST

My dad hates me. All he ever does is tell me how I am a disappointment. I really just want to go off to college and never come back. I can't stand him.

Question: Is Syria a good place to go for my brithday?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 01:36 PM PST

Ok okay!! i'm like sooo excited because my Mother and Dad had booked us a place at Syria and i'm just soo happy and i'm going their for my birthday so i'm leaving tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What do you guys think!!!!!!!!! i can't wait!!!!! Yes!!! MY BROTHER 4 OF THEM AND MY LITTLE SISTER IS COMING TO ALONG WITH MY 2 COUSINS! SO HAPPY! CAN'T WAIT!!

Question: Why did my mom say that?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 01:26 PM PST

Me and my mom had a stupid argument. It wasn t really an argument at all, at least in my eyes. I came home for the weekend from college and we were talking about our dog. I asked my mom if she thought that our dog recognized his name and she said yes except that he doesn t know that it s his identity because dogs can t think like that. I told her that I thought that he could recognize his name as his identity. She told me that it was impossible but I said that I just want to believe it, that he s smarter than what he seems. She said it was impossible. I then said that humans too also don t recognize their name as their identity since people can change their name and your name doesn t define you. I didn t say this to argue it just came to my mind and I thought it suited the conversation but then my mom said "I don t know why you do this, I can t wait for you to grow up and leave my house" why did she say this? What did I do to make her say this? My sister knows that my mom acts meaner to me and I believe that my mom likes my sister better but I still think she loves me but why would a mom say this to her child for not even a big reason. My dad was sitting right next to her and he acted like it wasn t a big thing. Am I the only one that thinks what she said was wrong?

Question: Why my mom hates me after she divorced, fell in love again and remarried?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:57 PM PST

she use to hate my father but love me so much!, after divorce she began to change on me, after she fell in love she started too shut me off emotionally and treat me like her living crap, after marriage she doesn't want anything to do with me at all, shuts me off completely, i dnt even know her husband's face or name! or what her house is like! if someone asks me:" ur mom is Mme what?" i will literally have nothing to say

Question: Scared of my parents dying?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:44 PM PST

I'm 14 years old and my mom is 50 years old and my dad is 62, lately I've been really scared of them dying, I know in the end everyone dies but I'm just really scared that there will come a day where they will pass away...I'm really sad..any advice?

Question: I'm 18 and my mom still doesn't let me leave the house?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:42 PM PST

I have to ask permission to leave the house and most of the time she says no. She thinks if I go to a friend's house I will smoke weed. She has an app that tracks my phone too. She says she will kick me out of the house if I disobey and I want to stay at home but this is just messed up!

Question: My dad bullies me idk what to do?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:37 PM PST

I'm 14 years old Today wasn't the first time he had put his hands on me but I wasn't sitting in a chair wrong sitting on my knees kinda in the chair and he ripped me by my shirt chocking me and ripping my shirt yanked me back and threw me on the ground. He had also thrown my mom down on the ground and chocked her out in front of me and my brother. He calls me a looser and a pussy and an asshole because I don't wanna play sports any more. My brother had just commuted divide and is in hospital he will live but my dad said it was my fault because I tease him some times when it is actually my dads fault. He never lets me go to friends unless he talks with there parents first. He embarreses me cause of it. He doesn't have a job and my granma gives him money to keep the house. Idk he makes me cry sometimes not trying to sound like a fag but he makes me feel awful when I want to go to my moms saying that he knows I don't luv him and he says I might as well kill my self since my own kids don't even want to c me that brought me to tears and I wanted to stay with him cause of it an it walls have been my faiult if he did follow through. What should I do?

Question: How do I deal with a family members OCD when encroaches on my personal space?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:31 PM PST

My step father doesn't live with me. I am a grown woman w/a family of my own. However, he is really close w/my 14-year-old son. He has pretty much been a substitute father figure for my kid. I really appreciate him for that. However, he can't seem 2 not encroach on my life w/his obsessive compulsive behaviors. My son is not big on talking on the phone. So if my step dad calls him 2 make plans, my kid doesn't answer or respond, then my step dad calls me. If I answer the phone even once then he will continually call me multiple times a day for the next several weeks. It gets to be overwhelming and he wants to talk about stuff that, to me, is irrelevant. However, if I do not answer the phone when he calls me too, then he comes over to my house. He has taken to knocking and if we do not answer then he just opens the door and walks in. The other day he must have come into my house while I was in the bath! I didn't notice right away but he apparently used some of my note paper to write two notes, left one on my coffee table & one on my son's desk in his room. My own mother doesn't even come to my home unannounced & she doesn't enter my home unless someone knows. My step dad also suffers from un-diagnosed narcissism & that makes it impossible 2 get him to follow basic guidelines & boundaries. It took me over a year to finally get him 2 stop calling me before 6 am, multiple times a day, only after I finally got MAD. Also because of he narcissism he has never been treated for his OCD Please do not make assumptions that I think he is a BAD person because of his narcissism. Calling someone a narcissist because they are egotistical is and insult. Someone who actually has the symptoms of the mental issues known as narcissism doesn't make them a bad person. I do not dislike my step father because of his mental handicaps. I just have a hard time figuring out how to cope with his overwhelming issues. JUST LIKE ANY PERSON WOULD.

Question: Is it normal if I'm 17 and my dad is 35?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:24 PM PST

people often think he's my brother and i think it's just obvious he's my dad and even my roommate though we were dating and i was like lol no

Question: Should I be grounded for this?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:19 PM PST

Last night, my dad and my step mom forced me to babysit my little sister and brother. It wasn't a huge deal, since I didn't have any plans, but my sister is 4 and my brother is 2, and they can be a handful. My dad told me not to give my sister any ice cream or sweets and to put her to bed at 8:00. Well, that didn't happen, she was being annoying and bugging me, so I gave her some ice cream to shut her up when I was putting my brother to bed. Then, she didn't want to stop watching her movie, so I let her stay up until after nine, to finish the movie, and then she took forever to actually get to bed. I wasn't planning on telling my dad any of this, just because he didn't really need to know, but my sister told him, and so now he's mad at me for breaking his rules. He put my sister in time out for it, but now he's grounding me! I don't think this fair, because my sister was the one acting up. Should I be grounded for this? I'm 17 by the way.

Question: Younger sibling going to the same school as me ?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:15 PM PST

My parents always want my younger brother to be with me and for me to look after him . This is why they made him go to the same highschool as me ( he is 14 and I am 17) . I hate it because my parents expect ME to be the best older sister ever etc. I don t want to have someone look over my shoulder every second. Don t get me wrong , I love my brother but I just can t stand going to the same school as him. I just want something of my own for a change..to be independent and free . Now my parents are talking about him going to the same college as me ...any ideas ? suggestions? have any of you felt this way ?

Question: What can I do about my brother?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:14 PM PST

I am across the street talking with my neighbor and somehow a conversation starts about my brother. Casual conversation about work and she was saying that he's cool but not cool enough for her to tolerate for a long period of time. He had offered to get he a job with the people he was working for and she declined. Then she was like "your brother has issues. Did I tell you what he said about my girls?" I was like "No." She said that he had said something about snatching her kids up off the street and ******* them in the ***. So I called him on it. I asked him if he ever said anything to anyone about her girls and he did not answer the question. he got defensive and started questioning me for asking him such a question. Then he started yelling at me and telling me that I had sexual issues of my own. That I still haven't gotten over being molested by my step father. I told him that his actions make him sound guilty and that I did not want him over to my house anymore. I told him the fact that he would bring up my demons to defend himself makes him look guilty.

Question: Who do you think is right?: Me or my mom?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:10 PM PST

My mom woke me up in the middle of the night because she did not like something I had done earlier- I put cans nicely because before it looked like a bad mess. Also, she gave me a huge headache today and even after I told her I have a huge headache she continued screaming loudly! She has no respect!!! she also has HBP and calls me names all the time why is she right??

Question: My parents half to talk with my friends parents before letting me go to there house.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:09 PM PST

I m 14 years old and my dad won t let me go to a friends unless he calls there parents. It s just rly embarising and none of my friends parents do it so idk what I should tell my dad and what to do he won t even let me ride my bike. But I just don t like when he calls me a looser and a pussie and an asshole when I don t wanna go to practice. But back to the topic he has payed his hands on my mom threw her on the ground and chocked her an he has grabbed me by my shirt when I was sitting in a chair an threw me out of it. I just want to be able to go to a friends house with out my talking to there parents. Also what should I do i don t wanna play any sports anymore and my dad keeps making me feel bad and forcing me to go. What should I do?

Question: Please help please? I have to spend 3 hours in the car with a 4 year old that calls people ugly? HOW AND WHAT DO I DO? Please help me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:06 PM PST

I already have anxiety for her? I have to spend the whole day with her? Please I have 5 warts small and flat on my hand im scared she s gonna see them and say IM gross? I m wearing a cardigan? Please help?

Question: My big brother beat me up badly and i bled, i told my Dad and he didn't care, then he was angry at me for "complaining"?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 11:50 AM PST

Yesterday, i just came home. I bought an Xbox last year for my money, but i haven't played on it for ages because of my brothers always stealing it. So, i came home, i was home alone and i sat down to play. My big brother who's 16 came home, said he wanted to play now, and that i'd been playing for hours when i had just come home. My little brother had a friend over, and when my brother kicked me with his knee in my face they both laughed and cheered him on. My dad thinks i'm "a troublemaker", and warned me about fighting my siblings. So i tried to back off, when my brother grabbed me, pinned me down and kicked me in the side multiple times. When i turned around, i grabbed him to push him away, he then hit me and i started to bleed from my nose. I also bled on the knee and my arm. I just backed off to not hurt him, i know i'm stronger than him even though im just 14. My parents came home, i told them but they just said "we'll talk to him" and nothing happened. I brought it up to my Dad, he was pissed off, said i should stop complaining as parenting was his job, not mine. I said some stuff to my dad about what happened, and if he didn't do anything i'd do something myself. My dad was mad, yelling at me, and stuff like that, and now my family's angry at me, and won't talk to my brother. He says i attacked him, they all believe it. My leg still hurts alot, and nobody cares. What to do?

Question: I went to a therapist for pregnancy counseling?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 11:42 AM PST

The service said it was non judgmental and non directive.The therapist in my opinion was terrible.She asked me what I wanted to do.I said I didn't know and she told me that I had a childlike attitude.I'm 18 btw.Then she was like I hope you miscarry and then your problem will be gone.My dad was there with me.He told her that he knew I had a history of sleeping around with different guys and she gave me a lecture about not sleeping around.Now my dad wants me to go back to her but I am refusing to leave the room! The therapist was actually trying to make me get an abortion instead of trying to not.

Question: Why do I feel guilty?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 11:31 AM PST

Our dog came inside the house covered in birs, and I asked him for help. He was playing a video game when I started to yell at him saying "your game is more important than you dog?" He said I'm guilting him. To which i said "you need to help, these are causing her pain and she was crying!" ( when she started crying my emotions went bananas). Then he said "im just trying to relax before work, I dont feel like doing that " then i yelled "do you think I want to do this? I have to work too! Im doing this because it is my responsibly to her" He is 18 im 20. Was I to mean? Why do I feel guilty?

Question: How do I get away from my abusive mother?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 11:09 AM PST

I am 21 years old and lived with an abusive father for 18 of those years. We finally left him when I was old enough to not go for visitation, but less than a year later, my mom starting doing the same thing. She controls me, she hits me, she keeps me dependent upon her for money. I'm not allowed to get a job, I don't have a car and there are no places within walking distance. She has forced me to open up credit cards which now all have high limits. Everything I own was bought by her and therefor she controls it all. If she tells me to shut up, I'd best shut up or else I'll get hit again. She calls me every name you can imagine and I have started to realize that her names don't hurt anymore, which is the same way things got with my father. I cry all the time. I don't know what to do.

Question: I think my roommate just caught me masturbating?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 10:39 AM PST

Ok so im 14 yrs old and we live with roommates cause we're close family friends. So its a friend of my moms and her toddler son. Its only me and my mom too. So i was in my room watching law and order laying in bed, and im a really good multitasker so i got kind of bored and started just lightly rubbing my clit cause u know just low-key masturbation. so as i keep doing it of course it gets more intense and i only planned to be watching law and order so my door was wide open. I was kinda making some noise with the sheets moving and my breathing but i heard footsteps outside my room and immediately stopped, i heard her go downstairs, but it sounded like she might have stopped. What if she caught me masturbating? She might have even come in my room to ask me something, but then saw and walked downstairs. She also could have just walked downstairs and i dont know and its killing me... what do i do???

Question: My mom HATES my crush and his dad?!?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 10:38 AM PST

Let me say one thing first: my mom and I have never had the best relationship. I've always bonded better with my dad and she's always angry at me about it. It's because when I was little, she didn't really take care of me and left me with my dad's parents most of the time. But that's not the point. My parents have been divorced for a little over a year now and my dad and I are still really close, but seeing as my school is 5 minute away from my mom's house, I'm with her most of the time. Ever since 9th grade orientation (high was August 7th, 2015) I've liked this guy A LOT. We're friends I guess, and sometimes he hints that he likes me too. But the only thing is that my mom HATES him. She knows his dad and hates him too. She refuses to even meet my crush because "he' exactly like his dad", but she's never met him so how would she know? She talks awful about them and she won't let me around him, even at school. I'm really sick of it. Help?!

Question: Do you see any logic with my parents and sibling permanently excluding me from such programs for simply missing out?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 10:03 AM PST

My parents took my teen siblings and 27-year-old macho brother to a program late last year without me since I was busy or occupied with something else , and such programs aims to make males femenine/metrosexual with hairstyle ideas and dance moves. My parents now want to blacklist me from it and force me to being the macho man since their immature, violent 27-year-old macho child attended such program ( he also doesn't want me attending and being part of it).

Question: How can I visit cousins in foster care?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:43 AM PST

My husbands cousins are in foster care for being abused at their parents house and I really want see them and give them Christmas presents but I called the person in charge of their affairs and she won't call me back. Should I just keep calling or just try to see if there's someone else I could talk to? Anyone ever go through this?

Question: What should I do if my mom just hit me with a vacuum tube?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:39 AM PST

I was rolling the vacuum around as I was about to vacuum the floor and my mom was empting it. Then she came back and I moved it away when she tried to replace it. Then we both started laughing cause ir was a little game. Then she turned to me and chucked the vacuum tube straight into my gut. She s hurt me before but I m getting tired of it. So know I want to do something but I don t know what to do.

Question: Does anyone else have a sister who acts like your there mother... We are only 5 years apart, I am 30 shes is 25?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:38 AM PST

Question: What should I choose? Myself, my family or my friends?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:29 AM PST

In this situation, I think I should choose my friends. I'm 19 years old and my brother and mother wants to control my life. I chose to study accounting because my brother (who is 2 decades older than me) gave me all the wrong information about engineering. And I thought that he would know more about things than I do. My brother and mother are treating me like a child. They always tell me not to do this and that. They talk like I am surrounded my bad people who will manipulate me into smoking and drinking alcohol and stuff. I am not afraid to say no to my mother, but whenever I say no to my mother, my brother comes out and Im afraid to say no to him. Because he's very short-tempered. And I am scared to oppose him. I've been raised like a baby because Im the youngest in my family. I used to think I was lucky, because my siblings give me everything. But after I finished high school, I didnt get the freedom I wanted. And i ended up being afraid of doing things other people my age do (responsible things). I'm in college. I think they're always going to see me like im a little kid. But I dont want to be a little kid. My mother threatened to leave me if I dont behave. Honestly, that wouldnt be a problem if I could get enough money to live on my own. None of my friend's parents call them and shout at them for not being home. My friends ask me "arent you 18 now?". What do you think I should do? Forget about reasoning with them, because that's impossible. My mother has this mindset that she MUST control me. That she should direct me to the right paths (because thats what Islam says). Honestly, it doesnt seem like she even cares about how I feel. I used to think "patience" was a really good trait that I have. I didn't think it would turn into such a curse. Patience prevents me from shouting at people that I need to shout at (like my brother and mother). My friends always advice me not to let my family control my life like this. To do what I want to do. That I'm old enough to make my own decisions. But im just scared of what my brother and mother would do.

Question: My mom is a drunk?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:25 AM PST

my mom drinks nonstop. she yells at me and my sister and takes it out on us and i cant take it. today she hit my sister and i dont know what to do

Question: Just A Simple Thank You!!!?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:12 AM PST

I am a single mother of one struggling to make ends meet. I don't sit at home all day watching TV and/or lie on my back making babies while trying to get every penny I can from the government to support me. I work everyday, I am a college graduate and I take the very best care of my child. However , lately and for the past few years, finances have been tight and for the past few months, I've had to figure out where money would come from just to get my rent paid. I said all of that to let people know that not everyone asking for assistance is being greedy and trying to get everything for free. Some people like my daughter and I actually need it. This year and last year I signed my daughter up for salvation Army's Angel Tree. It was such a huge blessing to me last year and I'm sure it will be again this year as I am unable to afford Christmas gifts for my daughter. Last year she received so many things it brought me to tears. If you are one of the many people who donates to Salvation Army's Angel Tree, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your kindness and generosity has not gone unnoticed..or at least it hasn't by me. I appreciate you taking the time to make the holiday season special for less fortunate people like me. I don't anticipate my situation being like this forever and when things get better I'm sure I will be able to give back to those who have given so much. But until then, I truly thank you. ☺

Question: My mom's brother is going insane?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 09:00 AM PST

He changed the dead bolt on the front door twice because he paranoid. He doesn't trust anyone but family members, but he's still suspicious. He thinks there's cameras everywhere, watching him. He wants to change the lock on the balcony door because people might climb up. He thinks people are getting in the house. He doesn't trust my mom's friends. He thinks the house is bugged. My mom thinks he's on meth. She said she's going to "play along??" I don't live with her or in the same state. WHY ISN'T SHE GETTING HIM HELP.

Question: Is my dad not a good dad because his ftaher wasnt around?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 08:40 AM PST

Question: My baby has no vaginal opening?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 08:19 AM PST

I was changing his diaper and I was tickling him. I looked at his vagina and there's no opening!! Should I be worried???

Question: I'm Extremely Depressed, and don't know what to do.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 08:15 AM PST

I Used to be a very singnificant influence in the "black market" at my school, and I ruined so much for me. I lost all my friends, I lost my girlfriend who is with someone else now. I got arrested so I have to go to classes, and I cant smoke anymore, or drink or do ******* anything. On top of all that I got my finger cut off and cant really work out anymore which I used to do literally everyday. I'm in all these AP classes which are stressing me the **** out. I mainly just cant stop thinking of her, no matter how hard I try I just see her every time I close my eyes and think about how everything that has happened is my fault. I also don't have my parents because me and my dad hate each other and my mom lives far away. I don't have anyone to ******* talk to, and this is just ******* me up I just sit in a dark room and think about how my choices put me in this position.

Question: America what needs to happen so you bring back kid's a** whooping back?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 07:53 AM PST

Because seriously I wanted to puke today in shopping mall of how kid was treating his poor mother.She didn't want to buy him spiderman costume so kid went all crazy and started insulting his own mother over it(he couldn't be more then 7-8),the woman of course tried to reason with lil' sh*t but as real lil' sh*t that he is he threatened his own mother how he will go to police and say she was abusing him...?Wow! I never would even in my dreams say this to my own mother,know why?Because she would use her pimphand to b*tchslap me if I ever dared!But no,laws state you can't hit your child because now it is considered abuse?Abuse is when you beat living sh*t out of your child,when you deny them food/water and etc. not when you hit them once or twice to calm their **** if you don't want to buy them stupid costume!Because thank you very much America I didn't work my a** hard to finish school,get my degree and job,move to my own home,get my own car....just so some lil' blackmailing brat I might give birth to gets me behind bars just because I refused to get him something!I know that people say "Nice word opens metal doors" but problem is in this case this is pure sh*t we are talking about and you don't talk or reason with sh*t you just flush toilet and that is it,problem with sh*t solved.Because it is way worst abuse spoiling them and giving them everything they want and having them live with you for rest of their lives,rather then just giving them nice slap across face.

Question: Do I have bad parents?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 07:51 AM PST

I am a 15 year old boy with one sister and two parents.My parents have never faught, they are really good Christian people.But I always thought they were gullible. I could get away with a lot.Last summer I took some beers from time to time (we bearly keep any so they got suspicious).They asked me if I knew anything about it, I said no and that was it.They didn't punish me or anything so I assumed that they didn't know.Until this morning.long story short, he suspiciously left in the night due to sickness.My mom asked me if it was because we drank something last night and I said no of course not and she believed me but she asked me, if I was ever curious about alcohol I would ask her about it.But then she said "..and I know you took a beer from time to time.."also keep in mind that my parents would not be lenient about this at all.This really shocked me. this made me rethink what they do know that I did and at first I got scared but then I realized that they didn't do anything about it.I thought they didn't even know!Whenever they got suspicious of something, I would just tell a lie and they seemed to believe me but now I realized that they knew about stuff and I didn't get in trouble.And I was just thinking why wouldn't they confront me about that?Again they would never let me do this and they have flipped out at much less worse things. It just kinda worried me because when I am a parent someday I wouldn't want my kids doing that. just don't know what to do or think about this

Question: Will my soon-to-be stepdaughter accept me ?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 07:32 AM PST

I'll be marrying this wonderful woman a week before Christmas. She was a widow, when her daughter turned one & after long period of mourning, counselling & attending prayer services, she managed to move on. I moved into the neighborhood & eventually met her at the prayer group & her adorable daughter who is now 5. My fiancée, at times tells me how she feels about missing her late husband & I always give her support. Her daughter seems to like me & lovingly calls me uncle pinkey (pinkey is not my name :P) the child though not knowing much of her father, yet she is aware that he is in heaven. I'm worried if the child will accept me as her step-father, as she for now just sees me as hers & her mommie's best friend. I wonder how she will she feel, when she & her mother will move into my place & with a new male parent in the house. She can be very sensitive in changing surroundings. I don't have children yet, but I'm sure I'm good with kids as I have very younger siblings (they are currently in highschool & I just turned 30) & I may want to have a child or two with my soon to be wife, which will also lead me to wonder how my stepdaughter will see this (would she feel abandoned by us if we had children?), I'm truly excited of our wedding and getting involved my soon to be stepdaughters life. I know her father would be an amazing parent, but it was his time to be with God & I would be honoured to take on the role of caring for his daughter & filling on the missing father love.

Question: What is wrong with my dad?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 07:16 AM PST

Me and my dad can never both be happy. He s only happy when I m miserable and when I seem happy he seems annoyed at me. He doesn t give a crap about how I feel, only about how he feels. I think he thrives on my unhappiness.

Question: I'm scared and I might run away from home? Should I?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 06:17 AM PST

Im 14 Yesterday I came home from school and I live with my godmom I got in trouble because I didn't clean my room I got yelled at and my electronics got taking away (phone tablet ps3) I didn't care but she through my and my cousin phone who also she went through the messages and It was a old message saying she was on some dumb S hit and now she likes the exaggerate she's telling people I called her a fatas dumbas and she was like that's how you feel lil fuc ker she was yelling and drinking all night I tell that I love her everyday and making a big deal because i was mad one day I don't get mad when she tell people I'm slow or retarded because ik she loves me and she's said if my room gets dirty again she's going slap me now I feel like I'm breathing less or harder and I feel nervous and I get tense looking at her or past her and I know I never would call her that to anybody by the way I'm on the internet with an extra phone my parents don't know about but it has WiFi on

Question: Should I keep sharing a room with my sister or get my own?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 05:13 AM PST

My sister and I are both teens. My grams is traveling and she will be back in May. My mom said I can have the room while she is gone,but once she comes back she takes the room. When she comes back she is going to stay until December. Should I take the room anyway and go back to sharing with my sister when she comes?HELPPPP

Question: How can I deal with anxiety? Or whatever I'm feeling?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 04:25 AM PST

Im 14 Yesterday I came home from school and I live with my godmom I got in trouble because I didn't clean my room I got yelled at and my electronics got taking away (phone tablet ps3) I didn't care but she through my and my cousin phone who also she went through the messages and It was a old message saying she was on some dumb S hit and now she likes the exaggerate she's telling people I called her a fatas dumbas and she was like that's how you feel lil fuc ker she was yelling and drinking all night I tell that I love her everyday and making a big deal because i was mad one day I don't get mad when she tell people I'm slow or retarded because ik she loves me and she's said if my room gets dirty again she's going slap me now I feel like I'm breathing less or harder and I feel nervous and I get tense looking at her or past her and I know I never would call her that to anybody

Question: So tired of fighting all day with people who should know better:/?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 03:53 AM PST

Recently it feels like all I do is fight with friends and family and about stuff they should really know better than to do... I am really ready to check out of this situation for a while like just completely ignore them all for like a month. Also I'm tired of constantly supporting people who don't support me back. Anyone else feel this way? What do you do in this situation? I want to be a loyal family member because family is so important to me but people are really getting out of hand and it's draining me I don't feel like I can enjoy life anymore and I used to be a really happy go lucky person... There is too much stress here... It's like people are in a bad mood anyways (financial stuff) and even though I'm the one who's always there when they need a shoulder to cry on or a little $ to make ends meet they come to me... But it's also like I'm their go-to person to pick on too when they're frustrated with the world... I'm really tired of this I think I'm too nice or something I wish I could just peace out to a tropical island and forget all of them. Sorry Cyber Aristotle I see where you're coming from and maybe that's true for some but it's not for me. The way people in my family/friend group are behaving is not appropriate and I'm not going to put up with it or pretend that I'm the problem for their benefit. Unfortunately sometimes in life *everyone* is coincidentally being a pain in the *** at the same time and this is one of those times.

Question: Im 15 and live in Thailand my parents kick punch and drag me around by my hair almost everyday I don't want to get hurt anymore plz help me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 03:41 AM PST

My parents always yell at me for no reason my mom yells and that makes my dad come in and smack me my mum once even got a knife and cut my arm I still have its scar my dad pulls my hair and drags me around smacks my face he takes my phone my laptop and everything today I just went to the bathroom and he took my phone. I want this to stop I just don't want to get hurt anymore I tried talking to them but they never listen and just bash me up more please help me I just don't know what to do anymore

Question: I want my father dead?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 03:37 AM PST

He is gay and he said this just a few months ago. I'm the only one still remains with him and I hate him the most. He destroyed our family life, my mom left everything and went. Both my sisters are married and don't have to live with him. I can't leave because I still haven't reached the legal age. I hate my whole life, hate him because of his existance . Every day I tell him that I wish him dead I wish I had another dad. But however I don't feel calm

Question: My mom caught me masturbating but I m not sure if she did!!!!!?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 03:20 AM PST

Before you start telling me about locking the door, I ll just let you know that no one locks their room in our house. Weird, but that s what it is. So what happened is that I was lying down and there was a blanket on top of me. My left hand was inside my pants(you can t really see it as it s under the blanket but it looked like a lump). In my right hand was my phone but I don t know for what reason(well I do), my hand shifted to my boobs. I was about to moan(i opened my mouth) and that s when my mom came. I don t know how it seemed to her and if she could understand that I was actually masturbating. She just looked at me and our eyes met, and without saying anything, she turned and left. I tried hard to comprehend how the whole scene seemed to her. Well my right hand was outside my T-shirt, almost touching my nipple. And you couldn t see my left hand. On top of the lights were turned off, the light outside was illuminating the room just a bit. I m brown—but not from India and it s not really common in our country to masturbate. Do you think my mom will say anything to me? If she does, what am I supposed to do? :(

Question: Can a brown eyes father and a hazel eyed mother jave a hazel eyed child when all other childs siblings have brown?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 03:10 AM PST

Question: I HATE MY LIFE?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 03:05 AM PST

I am 13 yrsold boy . I will tell my problems.. 1.almost everybody hates me 2.some of my schoolmates and my cousin brother and sister insult me like j m noone to them. 3.I have paraphimosis 4.when I stay normal, my sisters say that I m old fashioned or 'champu', whenever I try to be cool or funny..the think I m trying to be stud.. 5. I am fat 6.my family thinks I don't study 7.my sisters have hundreds of crushes but I don't say anything..but when I had my first crush 2 yrs ago..they insult me a lot 8.when ever I get in a fight with my sisters..my mother thinks that I started the fight and scold me but not my sisters. 9.my cousin brother sexually harassed my sisters.once I told them about that..they also told him many things..but he still does it now also.. 10.the ppl I called my "BEST FRIENDS" tricked me once that I cried a lot but only 2 of them were with me.. 11.my mother doesn't let me go out. 12.I m not good in athletics. 13.every teacher in my school wants me to be like my sister when noone knows how she really is.. These are not all the problems which I have.. Whenever I think about my life..I think that I should grab all the money I saved, grab my cycle and go as far as I can..I want to spend my life alone without any problems..andcome back years after to see that who actually cared about me.😖😖😖😖😖

Question: Does father deserves to see his daughter once?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 01:24 AM PST

I thought me and my husband should do this together, but he became very controlling, possessive and abusive towards me. His two sides contradicts eachother. So I managed to leave, we now live In seperate countries, we are from different countries. She is 6 months and our only, i have full custody, he has never seen her only In pictures, he often say he wants to see her(and get back together, but that is another story that is not going to happen), I dont know if that is a good idea and only would make things complicated or if he as the father at least deserves to see her once, not to get custody, just to be able to see her once?

Question: What do you think, honestly?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 01:04 AM PST

So sistet in law died and prior to killing himself, my brother was going have a break b/c of problems So the next the day she offed himself with no note or nothing except a post about 22 minutes or day a veteran dies...something amongst those lies: ( Pretty much no ones why she did it and top of that the family sister in law doesn t know....except my fam...

Question: 21 and still have a curfew? Is this normal?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:57 AM PST

I'm 21 and I always stress about getting home on time. Usually if I stay anywhere passed 10:45 (11pm if I'm pushing it..) all hell breaks loose with my mom. I understand I have to follow her rules because I still live under her roof. But I work REALLY hard, and at times I like to get away and have some social time for myself. I work 30+ hours a week, go to school full-time, pay for my car, my gas, my food, my phone, my internet / wifi, my books, my school fees, and my credit card bills. I don't even wash my clothes at home, I wash them at a laundromat. The only thing I don't pay for is my rent, which I'm thankful for, but I hate that I can't enjoy myself sometimes. Today, I had to work until 6, then I went to the mall to do a little early Christmas shopping around 7, then when I was done, my boyfriend and I went to BWW to get some food. I actually got home at 12:15am, and I already knew I was going to get in trouble. She started cursing at me, how I've been gone all day, and that, "i just can't get enough of life, blah blah blah." By the way, I don't go out doing dumb things like drugs or anything like that. My bf of 4 years works for LAPD, and I want to work in law enforcement when I graduate so I stay away from trouble. Is it weird that i still have a curfew? I feel like a 16 year old, but I try not to argue with my mom about it. She's the one who likes go ***** at me and go off about how it's so late, and that all I do is go out, which I do only on Fridays and Saturdays.

Question: My Dad died when I was young and I am feeling sad and why did My Mom and Dad create Me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:13 AM PST

Question: What do I do? I feel so stuck.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:12 AM PST

I'm 18. I've been living with my step mom and dad for five months now. They lost custody of me when I was 13, so as soon as I turned 18 I moved back "home." I'm stuck in this place. I hate it more than anything, but I have nobody to run to if I leave. I don't even have a key to this place. I'm not allowed to take walks outside. If we go anywhere, it's as a "family." My dad won't let me get a job, so I have no money. I was promised a car for my 18th birthday & since then, they've bought multiple cars/ motorcycles, none of which for my use even though I do have my license. I have a 2 year old brother who I get to play babysitter for whenever my parents work or whenever they please. Sometimes they take him. They own their own company, they always have that option but rarely use it since I move in. So I'm either trapped here by myself or here with him for over 10 hours a day. I'm so unhappy. All these days are being wasted. Oh, I've also gained 40 pounds since I've been here. I hate it here. Please help me. What should I do?

Question: Afraid that my stepdaughter will not accept me as her stepfather?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:12 AM PST

So, I'll be marrying this wonderful woman a week before Christmas. She was a widow, when her daughter turned one and after long period of mourning, counselling and attending prayer services, she managed to move on. I moved into the neighborhood and eventually met her at the prayer group and her adorable daughter who is now 5. My fiancée, at times tells me how she feels about missing her late husband and I always give her support. Her daughter seems to like me and lovingly calls me uncle pinkey (pinkey is not my name :P) the child though not knowing much of her father, yet she is aware that he is in heaven. I'm worried if the child will accept me as her step-father, as she for now just sees me as hers and her mommie's best friend and she is very sensitive, like most children. I wonder how she will she react, when she and her mother will move into my place and with a new male parent in the house. I don't have children yet, but I'm sure I'm good with kids as I have very younger siblings (they are currently in highschool and I just turned 30) and I may want to have a child or two with my soon to be wife, which will also lead me to wonder how my step daughter will accept this (would she feel abandoned by us if we had children?), as she will be in middle school by then, which is also the sensitive years of a growing child. I'm truly excited of our wedding and getting involved my soon to be stepdaughters life, but would she accept me too? I will not push it on her though.

Question: I'm getting compared to my cousin?

Posted: 21 Nov 2015 12:07 AM PST

My cousin and I are both girls, I'm 13 and she is 17. Both our fathers are brothers. She lives in another country, but cones back every holiday with her family to visit. I like hanging out with her and her younger brother. But I keep on getting compared to her. One of our relatives were talking to the both of us, and our grandmother. That relative said that I looked like her older brother when I was younger, and then she said that now, i look like her. I guess it was quite good. My grandmother also mixed up both our names together. My name is Jae Hee, and hers is Jae Min, so it's almost the same. Some people are starting to call me my cousin's name by mistake, and it always happens when my cousin is back in the country. I'm fine with all that. BUT. Since I'm going through puberty, I've been getting a few pimples on my forehead. But I do have a proper skin care routine, and I've been doing everything I can to get clear skin. Today my mum said 'Why can't you be more like Jae Min, she has such a good skin complexion, while you have so many pimples, she eats so much vegetables and no meat all, while you eat meat and yet no vegetables. ' And I do eat vegetables. This isn't the first time she has said things like these, but this one is the worst one of all that made me feel really hurt. Because of this, I've been losing hope in my skin. I really don't know what to do... Please help me...

Question: My Dad Just My Stole My Inheritance, and told me to kill myself constantly while I grew up. Is it Ok, to my girlfriend he is dead?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:49 PM PST

My grandparents are dead and my Dad apparently has "custody" over the distribution of my inheritance of 5,000 dollars and he bought a boat with it. He had convinced my grandma I would spend it poorly and that she should give it to him. When i was growing up, my Dad used to beat me until I was too big and caught his punch. He used to try to get me to kill myself whenever I had a tough time and he is no longer a part of my life. Is it OK to tell my girlfriend he is dead? I never want him near my kids when I have them and I'd much prefer they think he was dead then be abused by him.

Question: Should I convince my mom to divorce my dad?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:17 PM PST

My mom was controlled by men her whole life. She grew up in an abusive household and when she was 19, she was given away to marry my dad. My dad is very emotionally abusive and controlling. He forced my mom to be a housewife. My mom didn't work until she turned 43. The only reason why she works now is because my dad is really broke and really needs her to work. Before my mom worked my dad only brought my mom two t-shirts and two pants a year. When my dad has a bad day he comes home and curses at my mom and tell her she is ugly and worthless etc etc. My mom said that the only reason why my dad never beater her is because she told him if he ever touched her she will get her payback when he is asleep. I grew up watching my dad treating my mom like crap. He also treats me and my siblings like crap too. Me emotionally abuses me too. He told me that I wasn't the favorite child and that i am ugly because I am fat. He will curse at me for no reason. He bullies all the boys. He would pull their ears hard or slap them in the head till they cry. I'm afraid he might end up abusing them badly. My mom now has depression and my dad makes it worse. I once heard her saying this marriage is for the sake of the kids. My dad is a horrible person. I don't think he is good for our family. My mom is a lovely person. She has such a kind heart. I just want her to be happy. Do you think I will be off line if I told her I want her to divorce my dad for the sake of her and our family?

Question: My step children have no respect, rules or boundaries at their mother's house.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:42 PM PST

I've been with my husband for three years, living together for nine months and married six months. He has two children from his first marriage. A daughter, thirteen and son, ten. I have a seven year old son from my previous relationship. My husband gets to see his children, every second week Wednesday to Sunday. I've been living with him for nine months and I all ready dread his parenting time. When they are here they have no respect for either one of us. They don't clean up after them self and have a terrible attitude problem. My stepdaughter has no responsibilities, and is allowed to wear make up, and trashy clothing when with her mother. My stepson is so mouthy, disrespectful, and has tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. Whenever either my husband or I try to discipline him it turns into a big fight. My son is starting to pick up on some of the poor behavior and I'm at my wits end. My husband has tried to take his ex wife back to court for more custody but lost. What can I do because I can't deal with this anymore. It's making me resentful. I have considered talking to a councilor about step parent dynamics. I never wanted to get outside help in my marriage but if my marriage is going to make it something needs to be done. It's difficult because any respect we manage to muster is undone when they return to their mothers house.

Question: I m lonely, what can I do about it?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:24 PM PST

I left my home country in Africa to come to the US to pursue my dream of being a physician. Yet I lived here without any family members. My parents are in my home country and so are my brothers. I have friends here, but new friends can t replace family or old friends. You probably think my story is corny, but I came here when I was 17 years old and today I m barely 19, and I only got to see me family once in those two years. No boy deserves that. It s hard and I try not to think about my people to avoid crying. It s the only defense I found. I m in college, I m successful so far, but I realized that getting A s and a 3.95 GPA are not as enjoyable as living with your folks. The only hope I have is that I become a successful physician, that s what motivates me to ace my classes. I usually don t realize how strong I m being until somebody I meet tells me "I don t know how you do to live with your parents away". I think I ll never see my folks again, like it used to be. It s going to be seeing them for one to three weeks every four years or so, and dammit it s just the beginning. Everything changed so fast and that thought terrifies me. I don t consider suicide, I m too cocky to let go, but I just don t know what to do. I think having a girlfriend would help me because I never talk about my thoughts with anyone. I think having someone would listen to me and takes me away from my thoughts is what I need.

Question: Can I just leave when Im 17? or 18?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:04 PM PST

I hate living in this house with my stepmom and my dad. It stress me a lot and theres too much pressure for me to deal with. I will probably go away to college but im don't know if i can afford living by myself because of financial issue.. The thing is English is not my first language so it will be hard for me to get a job. I am turning 16 in January. Do you think I should try to get a job around then?

Question: Why did my dad suddenly stop doing special things for my birthday?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 09:54 PM PST

my birthday was yesterday, and all I got was just an acknowledgments from my dad. I'm by no means spoiled, I never really get anything except clothes from my parents, I usually just buy everything else with my own money. I also really have just stopped asking for anything except clothes now, since I've kind of gotten used to the mindset that nobody is gonna work to get something for you and you have to earn it yourself. It just bothers me that about four years ago my dad stopped doing anything special for my birthday. Yesterday I asked him if we could go somewhere since I'm been wanting a phone for quite a while now, but he just straight up ignored me. I also feel like he's a bit forcing himself to even say happy birthday on the mornings of my birthday.

Question: Why do I automatically feel this with certain people I meet?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 09:42 PM PST

Why does this always happen to me? It's nothing bad it's just weird. I'm a girl/17. Like ever since I was very little I'd always feel an attachment to some people, it wasn't just any person, it'd just be someone I meet; and right off the bat when I met them I'd feel something special towards them. Like in 2nd grade, I was so in love with my teacher (Mrs.Marback) like I always wanted to be around her and tell her I loved her and always wanted to just show her she was special to me. Or another example, I had a new principle (mr.simon) at a new school, I just had a special feeling toward him. I wanted to get recognized by him and be around him and just make him proud, show him that he had a big impact on my life. I met my moms friends dayla and I just loved her so much, always wanted to be around her & have her attention & show her I really cared for her. My last example, I met my hairstylist a year ago (Johnson) he just met so much to me the moment I met him. Why is this?? Why do I feel this special feeling toward certain people I meet? Like they feel special to me right away and I don't know why. Help?