Family: Question: Help! I hate where I live to the point where I feel depressed and lonely and I dont know what to do?!?

Question: Help! I hate where I live to the point where I feel depressed and lonely and I dont know what to do?!?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:38 PM PST

I m a very mature 16 year old girl who has lived in a tiny village since I was around 11 years old. I hate it here as I have no friends and no access to public transport. My parents work miles away during the week (an hour and a half/2 hour drive) and so they don t get home till late. My stepdad has the only car on weekends & so I am never allowed out unless I can get a lift with one of my older friends (never happens). My parents have said they will buy me driving lessons for Christmas and my birthday (in May). This is okay but I have to pay for a car and insurance myself; obviously I do not have a job as there is no where around here that I have access too. I only have babysitting twice a week which earns me £20 a week. Where I live has left me feeling extremely depressed as I also have family issues with my real father; I can neve escape this village and I never get to see my friends as some of them do not attend the same sixth form as me. I have begged and begged my parent to do something or move but they point blank refuse as they believe they will not get a house like this in the town nearest here. I honesty do not know what to as I hate it here; I rarely see people outside of school and my highlight of the month is if I can go food shopping with my parents! I m stuck with what to do as they will not move and I can t stand living here any longer. Im a social person so I hate being stuck for months at a time seeing none of my friends!

Question: Parents found out? What should i do?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:35 PM PST

My family went on vacation this week so i decided to invite my on/off again bf to stay with me, and my parents really dislike him and dont even know we are talking again. I guess someone saw his car in the driveway this morning and told my parents when they were on vacation, and now they were asking whos it was, even though they know it was his. I told them he took me for breakfast before work but they are saying they think he stayed over and think ive been lying to them for a long time. I feel terrible and i know they will keep questioning me when they come home, but i really dont want to tell them he stayed over. What do i do?

Question: I'm in my 30s, so why do I still love making up stuff & stirring up #$ between my brother & sister? I know it's stupid, but so fun. Why?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:34 PM PST

Question: I live in negativity, help?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:33 PM PST

Sorry if this is long. I live with my grandparents. My grandmother is always so so negative to the point where I want to pull my hair out!! She stresses me out telling me I have to do this and do that but I already clean her whole house every inch!! The first thing she walks in saying is that I have to clean and how I don't clean some days while she seats in her chair all ******* day long She also talks about other people in bad ways so I know she talks about me too. She talks about their looks, how they talk, how they act and how she doesn't like it!! She also hates gay, bi, lesbian people and it upsets me!! She also doesn't understand vegans!! Is it just me? Does she need help? She doesn't want to get help because she thinks the way she acts is just "her" and "sorry, but I'm me". She's yelling as I'm writing this so I can't really type anymore. I can't move out or go anywhere! I usually try to sleep just so I can't hear her voice hurts my ears. Please don't post answers like "kill your grandmother" or any type of troll answers because I don't need them rn. Thanks to everyone who answers, hopefully.

Question: How to deal with my mother's disorder?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:25 PM PST

My mother is bipolar and when she's angry she lashes out at my father by yelling at him about how he made her life miserable and she would act coldly to me as well. Just two days ago she was her normal self she was I wouldn't say happy but more calm and acted way more nicely to me. I hate it when she yells because it makes me feel sad and I can't enjoy whatever I'm doing I have to wait until she stops yelling which lasts like 30-50 minutes or until she falls asleep. She yells at my father the minute he returns home and it carries on throughout the night so it irritates me a lot. I can't do anything to help her because she won't let me! She would just tell me to get good grades and find a good husband and not live the miserable life she's having. If I persist in telling her to stop yelling she'll send me to my room and before she does that she says she's sick and will die one day which scares the hell out of me. I don't know what to do because I don't know when she'll stop acting this way but I don't want this to go out of hand. Now I don't want my father to come home from work because I know my mother is going to yell at him. What do I do? When my brother was here she wouldn't normally act this way but my brother is now in college and won't be coming home for a few weeks. I just want her to stop acting this way but I know she won't let me.

Question: What do I do I m to scared?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:24 PM PST

For about maybe 6 or less years my brother who was 16 and I was like 9 or 10 years old at that time he started touching me he would ask me to go watch a movie with him in his room while my other brother was at the computer when we were in the room he would ask me for a hug and then once I gave him one he would make me get on top of him and this happened continuously until one day my mom caught us and after that i new it was wrong. So about 3 or 4 years ago when he was 17 or 18 he started coming into my room when I was asleep and touching me I m a really heavy sleeper i don t wake up easily he new that so he would kind of drag me on to the floor and start doing anal on me, for a while I thought it was just me going on the floor when I was asleep but it wasn t. Sometimes he would lay on my bed and grab my hand to jack him off and then he would touch my boobs and my private areas I only new this because one time I woke up and he was touching me I pretended that I was waking up so that he would leave and after that I started locking my door so he couldnt come in anymore, I started cutting my self because of this I haven t told my parents or my closest friend, sometimes I cry myself to sleep and ask God why dose this have to happen to me I haven told my parents because I m really scared of what they ll do, now he s 22 and I m 15 idk if he still comes into my room because sometimes I accidentally fall asleep without locking my door please help

Question: Fellow introverts, do your family members complain that you stay in your room too much?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:16 PM PST

My dad does as he's a strong extrovert and I'm a strong introvert.

Question: My dad is a jerk?!?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:14 PM PST

Hi. Long story short- it's 10.00pm and I'm going to bed and my dad asks me "can you go out with the dog" I said no, I'm not going out with him today. And my dad be like "Oh so you don't want the dog to feel good?" and then he goes to mom saying loud so I would hear it "Honey, Your daughter dosen't want the dog to feel good and healthy, but I'm gonna ask her brother to go out with him.". Then my dad comes to me, looks at me and says "you're scary, you know that?". I asked him to **** of and said that I don't want to talk to him mote today. Some min later my mom came to me and whisperd (so my dad wouldn't hear) "Don't care about him, just ignore him" And this isn't the first time things like that has happened

Question: Why are my three older brothers so protective?!?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 12:31 PM PST

I am a fourteen year old girl and my three older brothers are really overprotective and it's getting annoying. HELP!

Question: Help! My dad found my alcohol in my drawer and took it but he hadn't confronted me yet!? Should I be worried?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 12:23 PM PST

Question: Does anyone know any songs about a mother abandoning a family?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 12:18 PM PST

Question: I think my cousins hate me?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 12:10 PM PST

Ok. I feel like I'm getting on everyone's nerves because on thanksgiving my cousins came over and one cousin that I always hangout with is weird ... When its just us she's cool and we talk like deep talk about stuff but when she gets around her friends or her brothers & sisters its a different ball game they all try to be funny and say stuff about me behind my back and whisper about me .. Why Idk & the cousin I lives with does the same thing and I help keep the house clean and I let her use my food stamps and all ... I don't understand family I try to be nice and get along with everyone and I get treated like that IDC what I do my name is always in a conversation that's kinda why I isolate myself . Help? I need advice

Question: How do I tell my parents I got bad exam results?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:44 AM PST

This year has been tough for me and I got bad grades. The same thing happened last year so now I m in trouble. Dont tell me I need to study more because I ve done my research but what d the best way to tell my oarents (with it getting in trouble as much as possible)

Question: I hate my son s father and I want to leave him how do I do it without him taking my son?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:41 AM PST

I feel no affection for him what so ever. I hate everything about him the way he breathes, smells, eats. He has a crappy personality and he some how thinks it s okay to call me names. I get pissed off when he doesn t do simple things like help around the house, take me somewhere that s important, etc. He often whines everytime I ask him to do something or try to give him.advice. All he ever does is play on his xbox, I haven t had sex with him for about a month. Ever since I got pregnant I started to get real sick of him now im completly done I literally have no feelings for him and could care less with what he does. Anyways we just got this new house, car, and our son is almost 2 months old. And I honestly don t want my kid to grow up seeing us fight all the time and him hurting me physically when we fight like he does. I do say some pretty hurtful things but that doesn t give him a right to hurt me. He sais " I can t control it" so how do I go about this? Should I just pack my kid up one day when he s at work and leave? What do I do im scared he s going to get the court involved and not let me see my son even though I m the one who really takes care of him plus he s a breastfed baby so he needs his mother.

Question: My mom says she's only going to live 5 more years and im worried...?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:37 AM PST

My dad was talking about "5 years from now" and my mom was like "I won't be alive in 5 years anyway" and I really worry cause she's pretty overweight. Idk what to do.

Question: My mum left about 8years ago and I feel different?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:33 AM PST

This is going to be a long post.. So 8 years ago on the 24th we found out that my mother has been cheating on my father for 3months. I was 12 years old and my life changed completely. Before this happened I was quite confident, down to earth and pretty much happy. I think it was a trauma for me bbut suddenly I turned into this shy, distant girl who is afraid of new things and change. I spent the first 4yrs closed up in myself..I bet it was like grieving I dunno..I used to cry a lot, used to stay alone a lot and nothing seemed to make me happy. My mother never seemed to care about how this affected both me and my brother so she continued seeing this guy irrelevant of how we felt..We stayed with our father and my mother went to live by herself. At 12 yrs I knew how to live alone and how to cook,how to blowdry my hair, how to wash my clothes,,everything. My father was still in shock so I never bothered him..I knew that he needed his own time. Now 8yrs I feel so different..I have little memory of my childhood..I don't really have any girlfriends..I feel that they are going to hurt just like my mother did. I lost all my confidence and I feel so angry towards my mother !..I try to talk to my boyfriend but its difficult to understand. I really want to get out of this bubble..to be the girl I used to be..not broken as I am today. I would really appreciate it if you have any genuine tips

Question: My broth in laws freeloading on us in his home?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:27 AM PST

we live with my brother in a home that was willed to him and his mother.I am frustrated and worried and pissed off about the living situation that we have. My brother in law does not want to work he has a job as a partner in my bf business and I am frustrated because I feel he has taken advantage of the fact tht my bf will do any thing for his family. there is another part to this but is would not all fit so I will post it on the answers of this post please do not respond until you read the rest of it thank you ps I love my brother in law i just want him to be better for him and his children

Question: How do I convince my parents to let me visit my boyfriend's country?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:23 AM PST

My boyfriend lives here but is foreign and goes home for the holidays. He's always wanted me to visit and I haven't had the right time window to until recently. I'm old enough to just up and go if I want to, but I'm still close to my parents and need to rely on them for funding. I only need to pay for the ticket, but since I've been in college and haven't been working, I have no money of my own . My family can afford it, but I alone cannot. In order for me to pay for the ticket myself, it would take a few months up to a year after my graduation. I don't want to just buy it and leave because my family will disown me, but I'd also very much like to visit my boyfriend before I launch into the very uncertain and very broke period of my life where I try to find a start in my career. They don't trust me going off into a foreign country by myself and they don't take my relationship seriously. Part of it is that he is foreign and they want to prevent the possibility of me marrying and moving out of the country as much as possible. The second part is that this is my first relationship, but I'm an adult and it really shouldn't be treated like a high school romance. How can I convince them before I lose my opportunity?

Question: I m 15 and was kicked out of my house by my mother.?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:23 AM PST

I was kicked out a week ago when I talked back to her for calling me a ******* idiot. She won t respond to any text messages, and threatend to call the police on me if I go to my father s house. What do I do?

Question: Would you suggest the following?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:22 AM PST

Next time my brother in law (who is blind) complains about my driving should I pull over and suggest he drive? Same old issue each year during the holidays and I think he should prove to me that he's a better driver. He really hurts my feelings.

Question: Is this a good idea for my son's 10th birthday?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:10 AM PST

So I'm a father of 4 and he's my youngest, he loves sports especially Hockey. I was thinking of taking him to a game for his birthday. But should I take him one on one or with my wife and 3 other kids (2 sons that are 21 and 18 and a 15 year old daughter ). We are having a small party with just family the night of his birthday but I don't know if I should bring the whole family or not. My wife doesn't care either way. What do you think is it a good idea and should I bring my other kids along too.thanks for the help

Question: How do i convince my mom to let me get a job?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:07 AM PST

This topic has been brought to the table only once and never again after her response , i just want to get a head start in life since she already made me grow the **** up real fast with watching kids so why not get a job? i mean why the hell not . she says no because 1; doesnt want me to grow up into this world thinking education doesn t matter when a job is infront of you , okay the problem with that is i slay my ******* brain away in all of my classes and im currently on honor roll so why would a job stop me? , 2; creepers okay i get that but creepers are everywhere in in the so called safe place "school" you freaks are everywhere and i really cant do anything about it , 3; influences believe me its hard to influence me im lazy but when it comes to getting bread (money) and grades best believe im on my **** bro . 😕 i dont know honestly im just trying to get a job so i can take a few boulders off her shoulders but i guess she wants all the ******* rocks on top of her .

Question: I think I am poor, I need help :/....?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 11:02 AM PST

I work at a company, my salary is too low, I am 26 years old, I cant save any money at all, my salary is 550 $ , I only got 80 $ from that ! its so horrible, I cant go out, I cant buy what I want, I cant do anything, I quit the gym today, because i cant pay 22 $ for it, I cant live a good life at all, I know I have to help my family but what bothers me the most is that no one even asks me if I want something, they don't respect my personality either, I hate them, I hate my parents, my whole family, I cant go to another company because it would be too far, more than 1,15 hour in the bus, I don't have a car, no driving license too, I suck so much, I swear someday I am gonna hurt myself so bad, i cant take it anymore, I'm so depressed :/

Question: Grandpa dosnt let lock the door . .?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 10:57 AM PST

im 18 . . Grandpa dosnt let lock the door in my bed room

Question: Is it my fault to not have the total respect for my stepdad?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 10:55 AM PST

So I'm 18 , and I have known my stepdad since I was six but began living with him when I was seven, ever since then me and my stepdad never had that good relationship, there have been times where I would hit him or say mean things to him that he would say it back to me, L My dad is still around only that he doesn't live close by , so needing a father figure around was something that I wanted but never got to have, me and my dad do talk and see each other once a year, So my stepdad never was that person who I had a conversation with or was that person who I looked up to or I could laugh with and its still like that.i mean I have my mom and brothers I can do that with. There's days where I want my dad close by instead of having to have my stepdad around. To be honest I don't like being alone in a car with him , it's silent and awkward, with my mom is different. And also my dad. So is it my fault to not have a good relationship with him. My mom expects me to change all the time it's like she doesn't understand what I had to go through. I'm an adult now so I know I have to be an example. So what do I do? Plus I am still in high school so i guess I still have to be in the same house. Please some advice

Question: Older sister problems?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 10:48 AM PST

How to let your older sister know that you don't need her help or advice when it comes to taking care of my son ! He will be 2 in January, and she is just to much for me. She's always trying to tell me what I need to do with him and all this stuff. I don't want her help nor do I need it . If I wanted anyone help I would ask but I sure wouldn't ask her I would go to my mom first ! My sister has been moving out of her apartment and moving back home with us with her 2 older boys (7 and 11) and my sister is (43) and since she is moving everything out of her apartment she is bringing all the boys old toys over here to our place... MY SON DOESNT NEED ANYMORE TOYS. He already has to many toys and I've already bought him so much toys for Christmas this year. But every time I try and tell her that he doesn't need toys she gets mad and says something like ( you don't want him to have it just cause I gave it to him ) which is partly true. But also he doesn't need anymore toys and I have a thing with hand me downs that I just hate, if I have money for my son I will buy him what I went him to have . I don't need her giving me anything yet I get in trouble for not taking the clothes but that's my son If I don't want him wearing something I won't let him ! What's so wrong with that ??? Do you think I'm being rude ? Or selfish? I just want to be the mom ! She's not the mom !

Question: Can my mom force me to pay for the rent?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 10:39 AM PST

I live in Europe, and I'm wondering if my mother in this case could "force" me to pay for the rent? My parents are divorced and when I become 18 my dad will pay me the money he before payed my mom for me, I think it's called "alimony" ?? Btw: I live with my mom. And now I'm scared that when my dad will pay me that money my mom will want to have it or I'll have to pay for the rent or something because she said something like that. So i'm wondering if she can make me pay for the rent and if there's something I can do to defend myself..

Question: I saw my mom send a sext. It's driving me crazy. I am really bothered by it. I need advise.?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 10:15 AM PST

I'm a 12 year old girl. My mom is a university professor. She was on a research trip about a week before the thanksgiving Holiday and she was arriving at the airport the Tuseday of thanksgiving. The day before I was playing a game on my dad's phone. Mom sent him a text. I know I shouldn't have looked, but I did. I thought it was just going to be mom telling him when she wanted to be picked up. Instead it said, "we haven't had sex in two weeks. I'm so horny. I NEED you to lick me between my legs and stick your c*ck in afterwards." I was discusted my mom would text something like that. My mom has always been someone who only says clean things. I know it's my dad, but why didn't she ask him for it in a different way? Even then it's so weird for me to think of my parents like that? I can't talk to my parents about this because that would be weird beyond all measure. Why would my mom be so dirty and tell me not to be? Are there other things my parents are hypocrites about? How can I forget I ever saw this text?

Question: What do you call my sister in law s sister?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 09:24 AM PST

Question: How long should I keep my daughter's phone?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 09:15 AM PST

My 16 year old doesn't respect the 1 rule I have. To make a very long story short, I became a father at 16 and her mom decided to walk out. Anyway, the 1 rule I have is, no cell phone usage at the dinner table. It's become such a battle and last night I decided I'd had it. Me: Hayley, I thought I said no phones at dinner Her: UGH!!! Me: C'mon, put it away. You can last 20 minutes. Her: You serious? Me: Very, now power off. Her: And if I don't? Me: Alright, I'm done, gimme that ****ing phone now, you're grounded, get upstairs She ran upstairs in tears and slammed the door shut, hasn't spoken to me since. I still have the phone, powered off

Question: Why do people fawn over the baby, but ignore the sweet toddler?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 09:00 AM PST

Question: Help me I'm scared to lose my dad?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 08:53 AM PST

I'm so scared. My dad is sick . He has daibities, blood pressure and heart disease. He's in pain sometime's I'm scared something bad could happen I'm always worried.

Question: Controlling parents that don't give up?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 08:47 AM PST

What do you do if you have controlling parents that want to ruin your life? I'm an adult well over 25 and have parents that still read my text messages, listen to my voice mails, read my emails I send online, and god knows what more. The problem is they have money and have the resources to do all this. I changed phone numbers just so they stop reading my texts, but they still find ways to ruin my life. I recently went to a meetup to meet new people and they actually read the messages I sent to the host and found out which event I went to. They got some guy to the same event to spy on me. Who does this? They always seem to find new ways to ruin anything I do. Any advice for crazy parents that still spy and have a lot of money? They also knew where I worked in the past and found ways to ruin them when I wanted to move out of their house.

Question: My aunt and and grandma acts funny towards me and my sister?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 08:45 AM PST

I was in the bathroom heading to take a shower because i was sweating and it was hot. I been there for a hour and i know i should be out soon. I was about done til i heard my uncle knock on the door and told me i been in the shower for about a hour. I know i didnt i been in there for about 20 minutes and i told him i was almost done and im washing my soap off my body. He said that he dont want the water to turn off. I didnt mind that and i went to wash it off. Til my aunt told him "Its ok Ronnie she will be out of here soon". Everytime she talks to me and my sister she always have a attitude to us and yells. My gma told me thats the way she talk but no matter how much i do something here so goes bothering me. My gma always act funny to us. Yesterday i was laying down and my gma open the family room door and told my sister "i been calling you and u didnt came dont ask me for anything" she didnt even call her i was in the room right with her. And she told me i hope ur aunt kicks her out when she turns 18. She told me "i wish i didnt have custody of you and put u in a foster home". I know i may have my issues here and there and seeking help for it but that dont mean she say stuff like that to us. Sorry typo i meant my uncle told me i been there for a hour not i been there for a hour

Question: Am I acting childish?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 08:18 AM PST

My family always complain that I'm being childish all the time. I don't mean to be childish. I don't want to be childish I'm trying to be. I'm just depressed and I never loved toward my family.but it hurts when they sat I act childish I'm not trying to be. Why am I being childish. I don't want be childish how can I change if I am It hurts me when they tell me. And thanks for the answers I appreciate it

Question: I'm a lot nicer to my mom when I'm high?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 08:07 AM PST

I smoke weed like once a week. I'm a 17 year old female and I still live with my mother. We usually argue almost everyday and I have an attitude with her. But when I'm high I'm a lot nicer to her and we laugh and never argue. How can I explain this to my mom?.. She doesn't know that I smoke bud and if she did, I can't even imagine what she'd do. But it's not like I'm irresponsible when I smoke. I'm with people I trust and know well and I never drive.

Question: Does anyone else find this odd?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 07:18 AM PST

The other day I went with my family to a house showing. We removed our shoes when we entered. Everyone else wore socks, but I was barefoot as I had worn sandals. When asking us questions in different rooms, the realtor kept saying "Emily, how does that floor feel?" And "Emily, how does that carpet feel?" I later asked her why she kept asking me that, and she said that it was because I was the only one with bare feet instead of wearing socks, thus able to feel the floors and carpets easier to feel the floors/carpets so my opinion was especially important to her. Does anyone else find this odd?

Question: What should I do if I get in trouble?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 07:03 AM PST

I have told an assistant principal about my issues which includes suicidal thoughts. He told me that he has to tell the head principal and my parents because that is the law. I'm worried about getting in trouble with the head principal. My parents may punish me for not telling them about this. My father yells at me when he finds out something that I didn't tell him. My mother could punish me to because I didn't tell her anything. I have butterflies in my stomach because now my parents will know and I will get in so much trouble. I'm worried because I don't know what they will do to me. How can I go home and even tell them how I feel? It is stressful and scary to have to know that my parents could possibly do something really bad to me or get angry or yell at me for not being open about my issues with them.

Question: Are my parents being a bit too strict? They have money but I don't get anything?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 07:00 AM PST

My parents make a good living. My dad is some hot shot engineer and I think he makes close to $200 000/year and my mom is a social worker who also owns a foundation that pays for kids college education. The thing is though that they don't like rich people and they don't want me or my brother to hang out with those circles. So no private schools or anything like that. I get an allowance, I take the bus to where I have to go and if I need something my parents have to approve it. Last summer my dad got me a summer job cutting grass and maintanance work at his company. On top of that my dad owns a BJJ/MMA gym where he coaches teens for free. He thinks it's a good way for them to stay out of trouble. And of course me and my brother have to train there as well. I just sometimes feel like we have money, why not use it. My dad always says that too much money makes people unhappy. But so does too little. If I had money I would at least by my kids a car so that they didn't have to take the bus to go somewhere. And now have to have a embarrassing summer job driving around a lawn mower. And why train and get your @ss kicked when you can do a fun activity? Do you think my parents are too strict? I just think we can relax more. And my mom she could be a stay at home mom, not stressing herself out at her job. I just don't understand....?

Question: I'm 15 and my mom kicked me out?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 06:23 AM PST

Last night me and my mom and my friend were talking and everything was going good, it was an innocent conversation and there was no argument at all. Then I told her me and my friend were leaving and going to her house and she said no so I said okay and that we could just stay at there at my house but all of a sudden my mom freaked out and told me to get out and go live somewhere else. I tried to talk to her but she just kept screaming get out. So I did and my brother drove me and my friend to her house. Can my mom legally do this? And did I do something wrong to set her off, was this my fault?? I swear everything was good and then she just turned evil. My mom has abused me my whole life but she's done anything like this. I'm very scared please help. thank you.

Question: Should my grandparents charge me for rent???

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 06:20 AM PST

Im an 18 year old who just came back from the Philippines where my mom is with my 2 sisters. So now Im back in America living with my grandparents, When I first cameback here I had to find a job to I can support my mother and sisters cos my mom is a single mother eho raised 3 kids on her own dime. Im the eldest one. So I got a job at a casino restaurant which my wage is 7.25/hr but I get tips an average of about 20$ a night and im only part time barely working 60 hours in two weeks. I try to send my mom as much as she needs to pay bills and etc. My grandparents have been together for 34 years now and they are gambling addicts and won't admit it lol. While Im at work I always see them there pretty much everyday. Then they wanted to start charging me about 250 to sleep on the couch cos one of my aunt has to live with us cos she was having financial problems and she has a baby in which my grandmother babysits almost every day until my aunt gets home then they go to the casino and blow money away. Aside from the 250 a month they ask to borrow money from me but when Im expecting them to pay me back they'll say that they will just take it off my rent. I wish I could get my own place so I could at least have my own privacy. I don't party or go outside and spend my money and tbh I save my money cos I value my money. I need some advice :(

Question: I feel like my dad is jealous in how me and my brother were raised which lead to bad parenting do you think this accurate?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 05:49 AM PST

My Mom has given both me and my brother attention as kids. I dont think my dad had that so he grew jealous and didnt want to do anything for me. My older brother got the best out of it because he was the oldest son and got more attention from both parents. However my mom was a good mother when i was a kid. But more towards me teenage years she didnt really do anything for me. She always just nagged me while my dad did nothing. Now to todays present time. At 22 turning 23 years old. More of the same happens still being nagged by Mom and being ignored by dad. My dad just adds on extra nagging now because my mom nags. 1. I think my dad was jealous of how my mom raised both my brother and i as kids which is something he never had which is resulting to his lack of poor parenting. 2. When my teenage years came when i was being flat out ignored by both mom and dad from like age 10-16. When i could talk my parents never really helped me. The one thing i never understood is my parents knew i was bad at school so i dont understand why if they knew i wasnt good socially they would have at least got me tutors in school enough for me to hold my own. But no they ignore me and no blame me for everything in being to late of a bloomer but yet neither of them really raised me properly.

Question: If i m buying cigarettes for someone else do they have to I.D that person too?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 05:43 AM PST

The other day I was cashing my paycheck at Publix & during the process, my sister asked the lady if they had regular black n milds & she said yes. After I got my money my sister asked me to buy her a black .. So I asked the lady for it, gave her my I.D & the money & she goes is this for you or for her (points at my sister) & I m like for her. & she s like well she needs to show me her I.D. I thought they were suppose to I.D the person buying it, I ve never had this happen before.. Btw my sister is older than me. She asked me to buy it cus she didn t bring her I.D & she didn t have cash on her

Question: How to tell my strict parents that I don't want to go to collage and that I want to ne a model and a fashion blogger?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 04:25 AM PST

I want to try to have. Singing and a acting career, *** well. My whole life they were telling me what to do and I missed some great opportunities, because of them. I'm a grown-up now and I'm not gonna let them ruin my life and my dream. So don't try to convince me to go to collage, just say how do you think I should tell them, because they think I will go to collage, since I am a great student in high school?? Please help me, it's urgent

Question: So my daughters dad and me are separate best thing but we keep a cordial relationship for our daughter?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 04:22 AM PST

So my daughters dad and me are separated best thing for me but for our daughter, over the weekend the dad normal turns up to see her he didn t show Sunday heard nothing from him today I smsed him so he could see her I would have meet him on his lunch break he didn t even sms me back so I didn t go, I found out that he was busy do his uber job in his lunch break, tonight I went to his home to find out where his was over the weekend why he didn t turn up he says because of " work " excuse " his lips looked as though he thy have been sucked he then said he will come around tonight to catch up with me and our daughter and he didn t show I m over it, but for our daughter sake what do u do

Question: Why are my older brothers overprotective?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 04:00 AM PST

Question: Was my friend having a point, about my brother calling me? I seem to disagree?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 03:49 AM PST

I was with my friends at the mall we were just hanging out at the food court, & my brother calls to check on me (he does that sometimes). One of my 'friends' laughed at me & we started this conversation He: "Ugh your bro still calls you?". Me: "yeah he's just checking on me to see how I'm doing". He: "you're almost 20! that is creepy and weird, which brother does that". Me: "No it's not creepy! he's my brother okay? don't talk about him like that!" He: "okay calm down geez, you're not a kid anymore he should not be calling you. Not even my mom calls me when I'm out with friends. You must really love your mom, I mean bro huh? *laughs*". Me: "Just shut up already, let's go." This conversation really pissed me off & put me in a depressed mood all day yesterday. The thing is I love my brother! I used to not like it when he used to call me when I was in high school because I'm a guy, & normally this is something a daughter/sister would expect more, but now that I'm away I really miss him. I look up to him so much he's literally my best friend aside from my friends at school & my soccer team. I can talk to my brother about anything we're really close. We watch movies, joke around, he goes to my soccer games he has never missed a game, I love his support. My parents died 5 years ago (accident), my brother, was 26 then, old enough to be my guardian & he's like a 2nd dad. Is this normal for a big brother/little brother relationship? Was this 'friend' having some sort of point?

Question: I just missed the bus again?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 03:49 AM PST

This is the second time I've missed it this year, and I've been absent from school about 6 other days not including the times I missed the bus. The first time, my mom didn't care, but now she's gonna be mad. The only ride I had was the school bus, both of my parents are already a work. I didn't do it on purpose, I swear. What should I do? My school is in another town, so I can't walk because it would probably take me the whole day lol

Question: Is my dad mean?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 03:44 AM PST

You may get this question a lot, but please answer it. I'm only 12 and I have a 6 year-old sister and a 15 year-old brother. Ever since we were kids, my dad would make me and my brother lean over and pull down our pants and he would hit us in the butt with a stick. This was when I was 5-6. This would happen if we made little silly mistakes or if we didn't get full marks on a test. My dad has always been grumpy for no reason at all and he has always been taking out his anger and unhappiness on us. Every day, at dinner, he prays about how he wants our family to be safe and how he wants our family to stay close to one another and bond together, but he always shouts at us while we're eating dinner and he always ruins our appetites. Yesterday, my dad was yelling at us because my brother and I weren't speaking our native language at the dinner table and we were speaking English. He told us to start speaking more Korean yesterday. Today at the dinner table, he screamed at me and threatened to beat me "like a normal dad" if I didn't stop speaking English to my brother. Even if I get good grades, he never congratulates me and shouts about how I can improve and what I did wrong. He's such a negative person overall. If he wants us to improve on anything, he just threatens us and says that if we don't get better grades, he'll beat us. When i got good grades, but a 5/7 for math, he said, "What's this? Do you want to feel so much pain you can't walk anymore? Should I do that?"

Question: Please help 10 points best answer?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 03:27 AM PST

Hey okay so I know him for a year and we are close friends and I love him so much. I'm depressed and he always been there for me. We both talks about our own problems. Oh yeah he moved far away 3 months ago so we chat. The thing is ever since I told him how I felt toward him he been ignoring me. And than he apologize to me. I was hurt for almost a year because of him he knows. I'm always forgiving him. So at the end I ignored him and it was very hard for me. I'm scared to talk to him I don't know why. He been begging me to talk him and he said he loves me.       By the way I always helped him with his gf and she hurts him. He used to complain to me about her and how hurt is he. I helped him although it hurts me. It was painful   To be honest I never thought I would fall in love with him him.       I never cried over someone like that before       I'm hurt sad and I miss him and I'm scared to be hurt.       I love him and I miss him ugh I hate myself for that      I still cry over him. By the way we agreed to be friends again it's just I don't want to be hurt I'm really hurt everytime I remember him I cry      Seriously love hurts so much      I'm trying to get over him I don't know why I can't get over him      we both are ignoring each other I think I'm ready to talk to him. We agreed to be just friends but what do I say like hey I don't love you anymore I don't know please help and thank you

Question: Why is my sister treating me this way?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 03:25 AM PST

I have two sisters. My sister Amy is driving me insane. I'm depressed and she makes me feel worse she always tells me I'm black hearted, pathetic, stupid, asshole and failure. She yells at me for being depressed and she tells me she hates me wishes I was dead or gone. It really hurts me. I always cry because of her. She goes to my older sister and tells her that she loves her. And hangout with her and it's like I'm not even there. She always likes to see me hurt sad. I can't take it anymore I'm feeling very low. And i hate myself because of her. I had a rough life I was abused physically and emotionally by my aunt. For years and I felt worthless.My aunt stopped 5 years ago. My sister said I deserved it. When I talk about it to everyone she says I'm pathetic I have black heart and attention seeker I'm not trying to be and I'm annoying I should leave.I'm seriously hurt I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm alone in the world no one support me. I tried talking to her she made fun of me.She's commenting on my behavior and actions I can't fight with her because dad is sick he can't handle any stress or argument.In my grandma's house when I talk to anyone she tells me to be quite I'm annoying.I'm not even trying to be annoying and she calls me childish all the time. She always commenting on my move . She's making me feel very low my parents won't listen.She always making me look bad by the way she's 19 I'm done I'm depressed I want to end my life but I don't have the courge to

Question: How should I say this without mother as she reacts too ugly?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 03:18 AM PST

Hi, I have a pretty serious problem, on Thursday after high school I sat in the break and I smoked a cigarette, I have not smoked a whole and half I wanted to throw, but I have been seen by the guard from the BGS and I were taken to the Lady, who made me the written reprimand, and the mother has to go Wednesday to take in high school. How should I say this without mother as she reacts too ugly? * My mom knew that I smoke, but for some time he no longer did, that evening I felt a need for * me and my mom doesn't really communicate so much as it needs * when he learned that I smoke i told my father and came out a big scandal, how can I avoid this?

Question: Who am I more genetically similar to? My half sister or my cousin who s mom is my moms full sister and her dad is my dads full brother?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 02:19 AM PST

Question: How to look or become sick enough to not go to school?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 02:13 AM PST

On Tuesday I really need to talk my mom into staying home. I have a major test that I have to get a 95 or above on to pass the class and I don't understand anything on it and I'm just really stressed out in general. My mom never lets me stay home though so I need to really convince her that I can't go. Should I just eat a lot and then barf that night before or try something else. Would forcing my self to throw up one time hurt my body in the long run? Any other ideas that are completely convincing?

Question: How do I deal with my arrogant mother?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 01:05 AM PST

I might be a teenager, but I try to put up with my mother who seems impossible to satisfy. I ve dealt with so much of her verbal abuse, and just because she works as a teacher who deals with special needs children, she labels me a lot and thinks she can call me austistic. She s even threatened to send me to an autism school. She thinks everyone is inferior to her, and even my aunt agrees since she s grown up with her. I ve tried to deal with her once when I cooked for her and me, and then she started acting up and I had to be some sort of parent to her by not letting her eat what I made. She shouted and demanded that she wanted to eat what I had made and reluctantly, I gave in. I don t know how many times I ve cried over her verbal insults (dumb, bimbo, etc.) rather than her beating me up. Now that it s the holidays and I m going to be left at home with her more, I don t know how I m going to deal with her. How do I deal with her?

Question: I'm very sad and angry (I'm 15)?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 12:44 AM PST

My dad molested me from when I was 1 or 2 in his bathroom and while I was sleeping. It's complicated as to how I know so don't ask.pls my mom and my dad always told me to "keep myself pure" for my future husband. So if it weren't for him I would still be a virgin. I would still have my first kiss. So now I feel cheated. My mom had no idea because he kept it hidden so well and I blocked everything. And another thing. We reported him after leaving him and moving to a hidden area in another state because I told my mom. My other sisters started saying stuff after I got the guts to tell because they thought they were crazy. And the investigation has been going on for about 3 months and still nothing. My parents are getting a divorce and he asked for visitation and my mom said yes so they wouldn't ask why no visitation because the police are still investigating it and they don't want him to know. The divorce is coming up soon so I'm worried about visitation for my five younger sisters. (I have 7 sisters and 3 brothers.) I'm mad that I'm going through this and I can't tell my mom because she's blaming herself so much and not telling me that she is but I can tell and she hides her feelings so I don't feel bad so I try to help her but it's hard because I have my own problems and it's hard babysitting all the time so my mom can go to work because he might lose his job at counseling and I so mad my virginity is gone. I don't know what to do anymore. How long will the investigation take?

Question: Is my little brother being sweet or incestuous?

Posted: 30 Nov 2015 12:34 AM PST

I'm 17 and my brother, 14, heard me crying in my room because my period was causing unbearable cramps and it was the worst I've had. He came in my room and sat beside my bed and comforted me. He held my hand and said I love you, then proceeded to kiss my tummy (I sleep in my bra and underwear) where it hurt. At first I thought it was very sweet but now I wonder if he had an ulterior motive.

Question: Can I move out legally as soon as I turn 18, while also in high school?

Posted: 29 Nov 2015 11:57 PM PST

Hey, I d like to remain anonymous, I am currently about to turn 17 and I have been thinking a lot about moving in with a friend, he was once my moms boyfriend but I took him on as a father figure and I ve known him for almost 9 years. My choice of wanting to move away from my mom has nothing to do with any kind of problem. I love my mom, and we usually get along well. Moving in with my "dad" is just something I really want to do, but I m afraid my mom wouldn t allow it due to reasons of them breaking up, u know, the whole "I hate u cause we broke up deal". So my real question is, can I legally move in with him when I turn 18 while still in school? I know the whole speech thing "you will be financially at risk, blah blah blah. I m aware of this, I ve thought about it considerably. I currently do have a job, and plan on saving for the move whether I can while I m in high school or not. I just want to know if it s legal to do so as soon as I turn 18. Thanks for your time.

Question: I never wanted to have this child?

Posted: 29 Nov 2015 11:45 PM PST

My ex came to me and revealed that she has a baby of me. I didn't know that at all, I never wanted it. we took a DNA test and it turned out the baby is mine.She didn't tell me for 18 month and this baby is 6 month now! She trapped me, she knew that I used to hate kids and did it to take revenge If she had already informed me, maybe I could convince her to do an abortion, but now?! wtf I can do with this ugly creature I hate kids

Question: Maryland custody case help!?

Posted: 29 Nov 2015 11:42 PM PST

Need help to see what my odds (not sure if thats really the word i want) are for me 1.The only income coming in is from my fiancee, at the moment I am a stay at home mom. I am assuming that because we are not married that they are not even to consider him in the picture because we are not married, and live with my parents (father moved to apartment above his parents). 2. We set a mutual schedule that her father has her 3 days out of the week and every other holiday, but his mother takes care of her about 2/3rd of the time. When they ask me to keep her longer or pick her up a day early I will take all the time I can with her, but I also allow them to take extra time if they want (birthday party, family events, holidays, etc). When I ask them to take her because I need to go somewhere where I can not have her with me they refuse or he has "plans". Example: She was going to her father s Wednesday before thanksgiving, thanksgiving was my holiday to have her but to take her back that night. HI m nor his mother could tell me when or if they would even be home (black friday shopping), I said I would keep her for the weekend because of the back and for didn t want to confuse my daughter of who s house she would be at. I asked her dad why doesn t he take her the day after and have his 3 days, he refused to take her because of so called "plans". These are my 2 main issues and I m trying to find my odds in my part of the case if it s even worth it or to wait a bit longer, thanks