Seriously. Is there really NOTHING better you can do with your time right now? Just masturbate and go to bed. Seriously. It's not worth whining over.

We've been married for a year. We used to have sex regularly, but now, she just has no intention of having sex anymore. She just doesn't seem to have any interest at all. We have had sex like 3 times in the last two months. What do you guys think about that? Please be serious.

Setting: 1996 San Pedro California Man: Educated, 1st Gen South Korean from a middle/upper class family. Woman: Uneducated, Lower Class, 3 jobs. 19 years old with a daughter. hypothetical situation: man marries woman and against many obstacles and tribulations, they raise a family over the course of the next 18 years. Man begins to feel like his wife owes him her entire life because "where would she be if he never married her?". is that fair?

My wife and I don't have this mentality. We think to the end of our 36 billion neurons to solve a problem (and yes, we do eventually solve it - we don't think and just let it linger). Yes, it just takes us longer to solve a problem than it takes others because we don't follow traditions; but in the end, we are satisfied with the outcomes and it creates the life and consequences EXACTLY the way we imagined it. But I am finding that most people yield to "what has always been done" and just "goes with the flow". They even argue that "there's no point in re-inventing the wheel" and when they are met with resistance about their changes they say "well, it is what it is" or "it has to be this way". So, why do SOME people do this?

Well I work for grocery store for six years we live in public housing we pay rent based on income and utilities paid in full. We have three kids that are in school between 9-330. We could do better financially but it could be worse. My wife don't work but wants too but we only have one car and where she is looking for work its the opposite direction. My wife want to move up near her mom 2 hours away so her mom and my wife's sister could watch the kids once we both find a job. My wife said we wont have a car problem cause one of us can take our car to work and the other can use her moms. And her mom is ok with it. But if we do move we. E u employed for little bit and depending on welfare. We might be better of near her mom but its gonna be a struggle.

Ok i been with my boyfriend since 2013.... and in the mist of our relationship we have had 2 boys one is one and the other one was born october of this year. He was married in 2011 but they marriage didnt last no longer than 6 months. He said he loved her but she didnt love him...that at the time she needed financial stability and came running to him one day while at work she packed up and left and never looked back....Long story short they wasnt married long enough to get anything together nor have children..so my question is whats takin him so long to divorce her especially since he been with me longer than he been with her and im his children mother he should want to out of respect for me....

On my way home from work last night, my wife had a very typical (for us) conversation about traffic. Her: "I wish people would just stay in their lane and not cut us off." Me: "Yeah, but you know they have the right drive any way they want as long as they don't hurt anyone" Her: "But if they just stayed in their lane like they learned in drivers training, then we wouldn't have congestion!" Me: "Yeah, but who's going to make them follow the rules? Especially now that 25 percent of people are just like us - unaffiliated to religion?" Her: "There needs to be a ultimate being that just forces people to follow rules..." Me: "But then we'd have to follow rules we didn't want to follow too." Her: "No, we would be fine, we wouldn't have to change because we follow the rules." Me: "But what if this God -" Her: "I never said God, ultimate being" Me: "Right, okay, what if this ultimate being had their own rules? We would just be controlled and micro managed too" Her: "But they wouldn't, okay, this is my imagination, not yours, so, I'm done talking to you, you're being difficult now." Me: "..............." Mind you, this isn't an uncommon conversation with us. There's no ultimate being (maybe our future robot overlords?) but we just competed over our imaginations. It was a very D&D situation, yet we've never played D&D (ever)... Is it possible for us both to be creative like this without the bicker/banter that leads to her getting SERIOUS and angry over abstractions and ideas? The playful imagination talk was actually fun. The problem is, she wanted to dominate the imagination space and have me take on her ideas and none of my ideas were good enough. The reason she ended the abstraction was she couldn't use her imagination to get around my obstacles. This is how I played imagination with my brother as a kid. He'd have an indestructible robot (always wins) but I had to imagine a vulnerability to get out of it. She just likes to win I guess...

Hi, I'm a Bangladeshi and my GF from Indonesia. We both are Muslim. After our long relationship, we've decided to get married. We both work away from home in a country where getting married to foreigners is not allowed. Not going into details. She has agreed to stay with me in my country after our marriage. The problem is, I don't have any idea how do I get married to a foreign girl and how do I make her a citizen of my country. Any advice from experts?

I'm 22 and I have a 5 year old son. He doesn't have my last name and his maternal grandmother has full custody of him and has lived with her since he was born because his mom was and is still on drugs. I am now clean for two years, completed rehab, took a drug test for court, and got married. I have visitation twice a week but I rarely go get him. I've seen him about 10 times this year. I pay child support though. What are my chances of getting custody and have him live with my wife and I?

so many times i've seen him looking at escorts on back pages and i confronted him ...his response was me and the guys just look at it for fun...we don't want them.....most times he's working out of town or out of state and it bothers me that he's just looking for fun. i don't believe it. well i just had a baby so we haven't been intimate almost a month. i do however give him oral just to please him. this week i found the same thing on his phone...looking at morning specials and such from these ugly sluts? what do i do? he deny ever cheating. he says its like porn...he just look.

After deconstructing this thing called "marriage" for 6 years, I've finally found a major flaw in the system we call "American Culture". This got me to wondering, is any part of "marriage" real, or just conditioned? Take this for an example: We (as a culture) teach our boys to be goal/objective oriented, have linear & concrete thoughts, embrace stoicism by shaming feelings, and we put them in contact sports to "toughen them up". We also have this notion "let boys be boys" which basically allows kids to abuse other boys (which some later abuse their wives too). But in the end, we create this pseudoscience called "left brained" men. We (as a culture) teach girls different things. To embrace beauty/art/storytelling/gossip/fashion, we allow them to express emotions, create stories, to create drama by "reading between the lines", to have empathy by nurturing baby dolls, we don't organize their thoughts/feelings for them, they get put in "sports" that keep them thin and market-able for boyfriends, and they are put through performance activities (dance recitals, cheer competitions, etc.) which leads to confidence in the bedroom for sex play. We then created the "right brained" women. Now, if neither "gender" did these things, we COULD have creative AND tough men/women. The fact we have split the brain's capacity into two groups, we have IMPOSED a "you must marry to be complete" scenario. Wouldn't this make a "whole" person not have a reason to marry? I guess I've become the person who asks the hard questions that no one wants to answer.... This is a question about the construct, not about me. Also, I fully accept that complete people get married; but this is me attacking "marriage" not marriage. "Marriage" is traditionalism and marriage is modernism. "Marriage" doesn't exist WITHOUT the cultured kids; marriage exists because it is organic and natural... My marriage was "marriage" at first and we learned to migrate to marriage; this is the reason for my obsession.

My ex husband and I had 2 kids. He was emotionally abusive and cheated on me, so we divorced.. Prior to the divorce, we were together 22 years. He got along with my parents. Now, he is still difficult to me and doesn't parent the way he should and he is now playing head games with the kids (ages 10 and 12 when it comes to why he cancelled on them or can't make xyz because he's working late, etc. Still, they adore him, of course- he's their dad. This past weekend, when they were visiting him, they invited my dad to lunch. And he went! I'm so upset. Where's the loyalty?! This man is hurtful to me and my kids. My sister says I'm being unreasonable. She says that's being cordial. To me, cordial is saying hello if they happen to see him, not having lunch together or calling for advice on buying a car (which my dad also did) while he took me to court to reduce child support, after himself buying a new car. Thanks for the feedback

I know someone who's filling for divorce and she has someone living with her so that the kids will live with her 24/7. Could she file to sole custody since she'll have the kids in her house all the time or will it have to be joint? And when it comes to filling taxes will she be able to claim both children every year since she'll be the primary care taker of them and he wont be giving child support or any other finical support or does it always have to be split on claiming kids? I just want to know the circumstances on which custody would go joint or single custody, and how claiming the taxes would go in terms of who's spending what to take care of the kids.

It's amazing, all she wanted to do was to take me to court for supervised visits only for only 2.5 hours every Wednesday. All she likes to do is make my life hell and try's keeping my son from me to hurt me

Hi I'm talking to this girl who is very separated from her husband that they both don't want to file a divorce because according to her, it will hurt their financial. I'm a good guy & she seems he wants to take off my shirt off but don't you think is a bad idea since he's married? Even he's not with her husband anymore? I don't know but I'm type of person who does the right things. Thanks. EDIT Sorry I mean she's married. Not he. Both him & her are married but are very seperated. EDIT @ charles, I personally do not know her husband. Never met him. EDIT @ A Girl In Love, I live in Los Angeles for almost 2 years now & I love my new home. I think I shouldn't because I do not want to sleep a women who is married & even she's not with him anymore. Once she's divorce, she can find me later. Thank you A Girl In Love. :)

Like you and the other person broke up and never got married. The license was never officially signed cause you never married. I would like to know for a friend. She wanted to know Does it state on your record that you filed for one but never use it cause it expired and never got married or what.

So I caught my wife cheating ,due to finding nude pictures of her on her phone, confronted her she admitted to sleeping with someone asked her how many times they slept together she said once for about 15 minutes. And that she just layed there ,just basically taking it , come to find out the guy she slept with got ahold of me and told me everything, he said they slept together 5 times the month before the month she told me it happened, so I asked him 5 times he was yes ,she would come over and we would fk ,I told him what she said ,he was like nope the shortest I fkd her was 45 min , she also gave me bjs everytime she came over and would swallow and she was just laying there every time, but she would be screaming moaning and cumming all over the place so she enjoyed it ,he even showed me pictures he took of her getting fkd and videos he took with a hidden camera and also all the texts she sent him, he said I only fkd her in the month he said but not the month later she said ,but she kept sending him nudes ,I asked why they didn't keep sleeping with each other he said she was one of the worst fks he's had cause she would just lay on her back everytime! Was she bored with my sex and that's why she cheated ? I asked her why she said saw it as a way out ,but now she's trying to fix us? But she's been hanging out with 2 coworkers one I've heard rumors they are fkn around she's been staying low key on social media ,plus I'm living in a different state now

My husband of 2 years is an alcoholic. We have 1 child together and another from a previous relationship of mine. 1 yr and 6 yr old. Dealing with his addiction to alcohol has not only ruined our marriage but ruined the relationship with his kids. He doesn t want to get sober. He s not ready and I know I can t make him. I have to do what s right for me and my kids. To protect and care for them. Even of it ends in divorce which I cannot accept today. He sat me down and told me he wanted a divorce so he could "breathe" and have space. Even if that meant seeing his kids 1 day of the week. I told him ok and blah blah but I guess he got the idea that since he told me he wants to leave, that he can do whatever he wants. He started going out drinking and driving and not showing up at home after work more than he usually does because of being in bar s and drinking buddies. He got out of control to the point of doing it in front of the kids and threatening to hurt me if I had any say in his behavior. I had no choice but to tell him to leave, for the kids sake. Is this abandonment? Even though I told him to leave I didn t force him. He was going to anyway. He shows no guilt or shame in leaving the kids or me and me picking up the pieces. I know it s his addiction making him be crazy, I ve done my homework on addiction. I have a family line of addicts.

I ve been having unprotected sex recently with one person who does not have an STD and neither do I. I went to the doctors today for a checkup and I was told I have some discharge and an odor which is probably a yeast infection but is often mistaken for chlamydia. I have no other symptoms such as burning or itching. Only discharge and odor, my period did end about 3 days ago. Most likely yeast infection or should I be worried.